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Speaker 1: it goes like this, Hello Stephen Shirley. I married the

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Speaker 1: man of my dreams, or so I thought. I insisted

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Speaker 1: on waiting until marriage before having sex. My husband would

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Speaker 1: give me the world if he could, and I do

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Speaker 1: love him, but every time we have sex, the only

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Speaker 1: one getting fulfillment is him. At first, he said it

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Speaker 1: was because he didn't last long enough, so he went

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Speaker 1: to his doctor and the doctor gave him a shot. Well,

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Speaker 1: that shot didn't do anything, and my husband said he

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Speaker 1: wasn't going through that pain again. Next he got a pump,

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Speaker 1: and I was so excited until I saw his man

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Speaker 1: parts in the pump and it was so tiny and

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Speaker 1: feeble looking in the pump. No matter what position, it

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Speaker 1: doesn't do anything for me. I hate going through the

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Speaker 1: act of having sex with him, and it's making me

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Speaker 1: lose sleep over it. Because he's a heavy smoker and

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Speaker 1: he reeks of smoke. We sleep in separate bedrooms, in

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Speaker 1: different bedrooms, so he has to come into my bedroom

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Speaker 1: to initiate sex. Whenever I hear him coming towards my room,

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Speaker 1: or if I think he might want to have sex,

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Speaker 1: I jump out of bed and start organizing my closet,

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Speaker 1: searching through my dresser drawers. Or I throw a bunch

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Speaker 1: of clean laundry on my bed so he will know

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Speaker 1: not to even try me. I wait for him to

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Speaker 1: fall asleep every night, and I jump out of bed

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Speaker 1: before he wakes up every morning, just to avoid having sex.

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Speaker 1: The lack of sleep is taking its toll on me.

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Speaker 1: By the way, I asked him why his first marriage

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Speaker 1: didn't work, and he said it's because his wife was

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Speaker 1: cheating on him. I know exactly why she was cheating,

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Speaker 1: and I might have to do the same. What should

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Speaker 1: I do about little man? Well, honestly, it sounds like

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Speaker 1: your mind is already made up. It sounds like you're

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Speaker 1: out of here, you know here. We are stuck in

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Speaker 1: this marriage with this unsatisfactory or non existent sex. So

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Speaker 1: what to do you ask? Of course, this is certainly

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Speaker 1: up to you. But it's not like he hasn't tried

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Speaker 1: to fix it in some way. He's gone to doctors,

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Speaker 1: he's gotten shots, he's gotten pumps, everything, but nothing seems

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Speaker 1: to work. Have you talked to him about his heavy smoking?

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Speaker 1: Are you trying to say some kind of way that

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Speaker 1: that has something to do with his impotence. And honestly,

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Speaker 1: I would say that there was hope, a little bitty

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Speaker 1: tiny slither of hope, sliver of hope in this marriage

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Speaker 1: because you say you love him, But it just really

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Speaker 1: sounds like you're out of there, like you've checked out.

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Speaker 1: You sound like it's over for you. You're running, hiding,

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Speaker 1: making excuses and everything to stop him from having sex

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Speaker 1: with you. But you know you can't live like this.

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Speaker 1: What kind of marriage is this. He's not gonna stop trying.

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Speaker 1: Obviously he's not. I don't care how any clothes and

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Speaker 1: laundry and stuff you look you put on the bed,

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Speaker 1: he's not gonna stop. But like I said, you've already

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Speaker 1: checked out of this marriage, So listen, this is no

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Speaker 1: way to live. I think you're just existing. And what's worse,

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Speaker 1: you're contemplating cheating. Don't do that, please, that would really

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Speaker 1: be wrong. Just go on and get out of this marriage.

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Speaker 1: If you think you want to cheat, I don't. I

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Speaker 1: don't think you guys are compatible in a sexual way.

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Speaker 1: And you're miserable and getting more miserable by the day,

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Speaker 1: I'm sure, so just you know, go on and end it. Clean.

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Speaker 1: That's what I say, Steve. Well, y'all, well, and that's

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Speaker 1: nice answer, Shelly, you need to talk to some men

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Speaker 1: about this hill. You know. Let's just gonna get to

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Speaker 1: it all. I married demand of my dreams, So I

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Speaker 1: thought I waited to have sex till we was married,

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Speaker 1: and now she ain't happy or satisfied. Now listen, I

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Speaker 1: don't promote sex before marriage. I don't do that. I

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Speaker 1: think that people who wait to be married are absolutely

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Speaker 1: correct and going about it that way. And I applaud

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Speaker 1: you if you have the the discipline and the character

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Speaker 1: and then and the godliness to pull that off. But

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Speaker 1: this also, have I done it? Did you? Oh? I don't.

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Speaker 1: I tried for other people. No, I tried. I really did.

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Speaker 1: I tried. I tried. I gave a shot. None of

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Speaker 1: my shots worked, none of them. I tried, though, I

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Speaker 1: MOTHFO we got married, and that too, that didn't work.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I ain't never bought a car without test

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Speaker 1: don't recommend you do that. So let why'd you bring

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Speaker 1: that up toimy? Because that ain't what this letter is about,

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Speaker 1: thank you very much. I'll be back with what I

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Speaker 1: really think right after this. Yeah, part truth. Steve's response

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Speaker 1: coming up with twenty three minutes after not big Enough.

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Speaker 1: It's a subject you're listening, all right? Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letters. Subject not big enough. Well,

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Speaker 1: that is what this letter is really about. This woman

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Speaker 1: waited till she was married to have sex with her

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Speaker 1: husband because he was just everything she does love him

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Speaker 1: and he'd give her the world except when they have sex.

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Speaker 1: The only person that has fulfilled is him and the

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Speaker 1: only one getting field and so because at first, and

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Speaker 1: he told her is because he couldn't last long enough,

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Speaker 1: you know, which means. I know what that cold word

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Speaker 1: means is I'm I'm prematurely handling my business and it's

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Speaker 1: not giving me chance to get to where I need

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Speaker 1: to be, you know, size and left wise. Because I'm so,

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Speaker 1: he went to the doctor and got a shot. Now

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Speaker 1: the question beckons for every man listening to this, what

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Speaker 1: shot is that does that? Because that has been researched

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Speaker 1: by men. A shot. He let me say something time

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Speaker 1: out and it wasn't going through that pain again. We

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Speaker 1: wouldn't give a damn if you slammed it in a cardo.

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Speaker 1: If when you open it it was bigger and stronger

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Speaker 1: and fulfilling, you can shut it in a cardo for us.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I'm telling you right now, if it

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Speaker 1: will work, make it work better, longer, and bigger. We

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Speaker 1: don't give a damn what you do to it. So

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Speaker 1: we're trying to figure out what ask everybody on this

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Speaker 1: show put him jumper cables on it and hook it up.

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Speaker 1: Shock me. So what we're all trying to figure out

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Speaker 1: that every man listening to his letter, it's what shot

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Speaker 1: he didn't went to the doctor to get to make

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Speaker 1: him bigger, strong than he ain't going through that pain again?

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Speaker 1: What pain ain't worth pleasures? This doctor asked how much

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Speaker 1: was that shot? And what was it supposed to do

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Speaker 1: for you? Because I'm gonna come about it, and they

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna believe me. I'm I'm already strong, but let

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Speaker 1: me find out coming here, let me tell you what

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Speaker 1: I'll be walking around? How threatening people? Why you don't

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Speaker 1: want this? I don't even open doors no more? Hell no.

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Speaker 1: So now he got a pump and I was excited

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Speaker 1: until I his little man part in the pump. See

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Speaker 1: what we ain't got a problem with nothing except size. Nah,

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Speaker 1: he don't feed in the regular pump. Maybe he got

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Speaker 1: to get the little pump. If you can't work in

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Speaker 1: the pump, you got another kind of what you say. Oh,

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Speaker 1: I was just saying. I guess it was my insight voice.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know they had sizes, pump sizes. I don't

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Speaker 1: know that either, but I'm saying that the doctor gave it.

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Speaker 1: Maybe they got a little boy pump. But what do

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Speaker 1: the little boy need the pump for? I don't know

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Speaker 1: what to happen. I'm just asking questions because this letter

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Speaker 1: is confusing to me and it don't do anything for me.

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Speaker 1: I hate going through the acca having sexual him and

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Speaker 1: making me lose sleep because he's a heavy smoke and

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Speaker 1: he needs to smo and he reeks some smoke. So

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Speaker 1: we sleep in different barroom. Ain't why you're sleeping in

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Speaker 1: different heads smoking the bad I mean, you can get it.

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Speaker 1: He got to stop smoking if he that heavy of

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Speaker 1: a smoker, even if he could perform he wheezing, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's just too much. Yeah, well, I'm just going to

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Speaker 1: you know, he got a heavy smoker. I'm thinking he

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Speaker 1: But you know, sometimes maybe she I'll tell you what

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Speaker 1: Get you a side mirror off your car. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: I'm mean, look at him, look at filling them draws up.

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Speaker 1: because his wife was cheating on him. I know exactly

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Speaker 1: the same. What should I do with a little man? Well,

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Speaker 1: a little man ain't fit to be a big man.

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Speaker 1: We can all come to that. The pump ain't work,

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Speaker 1: the shot ain't work. Now he can go in and

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Speaker 1: he can get out. They had this operation. He can

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Speaker 1: get an implant. He might have to go that route.

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Speaker 1: He might have to get an implant to just get

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Speaker 1: They have the large mint surgeries. Just like you know,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if they're a collection on the wall

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Speaker 1: know if you get to pick, you know, a racer,

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Speaker 1: know if you're in that python. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: Sparts talking after thirty days and bringing back and coming

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