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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: it could be yours. Yes, it could. Buckle up and

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for you. Here it

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Speaker 1: is letter, Thank your nephew. Subject please close the windows

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Speaker 1: and doors. Dear Uncle Steve and un Shirley. I'm a

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Speaker 1: twenty four year old student and I still live at

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Speaker 1: home with my parents. My parents had me when they

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Speaker 1: were eighteen years old, so they're still young, fly and

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Speaker 1: very much in love with each other. I love hanging

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Speaker 1: out with them because we listen to the same music

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Speaker 1: and we get along great. But there's a huge issue

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Speaker 1: that I'm having with them, and I made jokes about it,

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Speaker 1: but they don't seem to care. Sometimes it's fun to

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Speaker 1: it gets to be too much. I'm allowed to smoke

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Speaker 1: weed in the house because it's legal in our state,

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Speaker 1: and it helps me with my cramps. I'm allowed to

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Speaker 1: have my boyfriend stay overnight, but he's got to sleep

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Speaker 1: in the guest room. I'm allowed to use profanity, and

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Speaker 1: I can express myself any way I choose to around them.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate the openness, I really do. But what I

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Speaker 1: don't appreciate is how open they are with me. My parents'

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Speaker 1: bedroom is below my bedroom, and they have sex darn

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Speaker 1: near every day. It doesn't have to be at night.

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Speaker 1: I can be getting ready to go to work at

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Speaker 1: at it with the door open. They've jokingly told me

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Speaker 1: they have the windows up too. I've been sitting in

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Speaker 1: parents having sex allowed on a Sunday afternoon. I would

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Speaker 1: love to move, but I can't afford rent and my car.

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Speaker 1: Note it's their house, but I don't don't I deserve

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Speaker 1: a little respect as long as I live here. The

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Speaker 1: jokes about it aren't working, so would I'd be out

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Speaker 1: of line to ask them to close the door and

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Speaker 1: the windows during sex. Sorry to say this, but nope,

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Speaker 1: you have no rights. You have no rights. It's their house, period.

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Speaker 1: Your job is to be grateful you have a nice

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Speaker 1: place to lay your head, and to get a job,

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Speaker 1: get a place of your own one day soon. I

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Speaker 1: know you got your rent and your car note and

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Speaker 1: all of that, but you know that's up to you

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Speaker 1: to get out, get a job, and get your own places.

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Speaker 1: If you don't like what you're hearing. But I do understand.

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Speaker 1: I do understand what you're saying. I hear you. You

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Speaker 1: feel how you feel, and your feelings are valid. But

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Speaker 1: until you can move out, your hands are tied. No

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Speaker 1: child has ever been comfortable with catchy or hearing their

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Speaker 1: with that. Most kids think it's disgusting, even though that's

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Speaker 1: how they got here. I get that part, but that's

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Speaker 1: what grown people do, and parents do it too. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you know that at twenty four, of course they should

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Speaker 1: close the door, but they they might be doing it

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Speaker 1: to help you. They know you don't want to hear

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Speaker 1: them they're not. You know, they're not that caught up.

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Speaker 1: I think that's their way of helping you into trying

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Speaker 1: that even though you guys are really close, you and

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Speaker 1: your parents are really close, they are not your best friends.

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Speaker 1: They are still your parents. And parents everywhere have this

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Speaker 1: thing about this is my house, and I do what

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Speaker 1: like it, you can lead. That's just how parents are.

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Speaker 1: But I say this, look at the bright side. I

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Speaker 1: know it's embarrassing, but at least your parents are in love.

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Speaker 1: They're making love. They're not arguing, they're not yelling, they're

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Speaker 1: Well your last statement they now trying to kill each other.

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Speaker 1: You don't know that. I'm just going start with that

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Speaker 1: well interesting letter. So as I was listening to the letter,

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Speaker 1: I figured, you know, I do numbers all the time.

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Speaker 1: You're twenty four year old student. You live with your parents.

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Speaker 1: Your parents had you when they were eighteen, which means

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Speaker 1: your parents right now forty two, forty two. That's young

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Speaker 1: very much in love with yall, and I love hanging

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Speaker 1: out with him because y'all listen to the same music.

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Speaker 1: Because forty two years old, that's hip hop. You're hip hop.

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Speaker 1: Y'all listening to the same music. Way different from me

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Speaker 1: and my kids, way different. You know. We get along great,

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Speaker 1: but there's a huge issue that I'm having with them,

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Speaker 1: to care. Sometimes it's fun to be cut with my parents,

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Speaker 1: and other time it gets to be too much. And

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Speaker 1: why is that? Because I'm telling you, as parents that

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Speaker 1: are listening to this letter that we're about to read,

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Speaker 1: your child really wants a parent. Your child really wants

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Speaker 1: to be parented. I tell all my kids, I like you.

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Speaker 1: We can do some friendly stuff, but all your friends

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Speaker 1: is up at the school. I'm your damn daddy. Now

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Speaker 1: let's just be clear about that. Ha ha he he heiled.

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Speaker 1: We get Hi. Hi, he's sometimes, but I'm not your friend.

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Speaker 1: I'm your parents and I'm gonna play my role. But

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Speaker 1: you I'm allowed to smoke weed in the house because

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Speaker 1: it's legally in our state, and it helps me with

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Speaker 1: my cramps. No, that's not why you allowed to smoke

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Speaker 1: weed in the house. You to smoke weed in the

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Speaker 1: they let you smoke it. They're letting you do whatever

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Speaker 1: they do because they ain't trying to be your parents.

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Speaker 1: They focusing on being your damn friend. It's gonna get old,

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Speaker 1: and I can see that it already has. All right,

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Speaker 1: hang on, Steve, we'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter subject please close the windows and doors. Will

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is

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Speaker 1: please close the windows and doors. This woman is having

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Speaker 1: a problem. She's twenty four. Her problem is with her parents,

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Speaker 1: who are not parenting because they're so busy being her

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Speaker 1: damn friend. They had this little girl at eighteen. They

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Speaker 1: are now forty two years old. She's twenty four. That's sher.

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Speaker 1: She likes hanging with her parents because they have a

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Speaker 1: good time because they listen to the same music. That's

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Speaker 1: a hip hop generation. Got it. I missed that. My

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Speaker 1: kids missed that. They know good hair. Well. When I

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Speaker 1: get in the car, you know what we're listening to, Daddy,

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Speaker 1: Can we listen to something else? Naw, daddy, you heard

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Speaker 1: little babies new and nah, I don't know who little

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Speaker 1: baby is dead baby, that dad baby, black baby, white baby,

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Speaker 1: new baby. But now she has a problem because she

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Speaker 1: says hanging out with him is cool with my parents,

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Speaker 1: and other times it gets to be too much. I'm

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Speaker 1: you allowed to smoke weed in the house because that's

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Speaker 1: what they do. If it was illegal, they let you

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Speaker 1: smoke weed. I'm allowed to have my boyfriends stay overnight

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Speaker 1: because that's what they did. They had you at eighteen.

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Speaker 1: At eighteen, that means that the sex was going on

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Speaker 1: before they was eighteen, so that's what they did. But

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Speaker 1: he's got to go to sleep in the guess room,

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Speaker 1: like he ain't snuck over there in the middle of

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Speaker 1: I'm allowed to use profanity, and I can express myself

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Speaker 1: anywhere I choose around them, because that's what they do.

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Speaker 1: They're cussing around you. My kids can cuss around me.

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Speaker 1: Now that was an age when they lived in my house.

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Speaker 1: That ain't happen. But when you move out to the

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Speaker 1: you need to understand something. Now, there's no way you

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Speaker 1: can out cuss me. I'm over here cussing if you

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Speaker 1: I put it together. But what I don't appreciate this

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Speaker 1: what they don't know is I can still here, and

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Speaker 1: so can the neighbor's probably because they have the windows

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Speaker 1: up too. I've been sitting in the hot tub on

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Speaker 1: the pattil I've heard my parents having sex loudly on

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Speaker 1: a Sunday afternoon. I would love to move, but I

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Speaker 1: can't afford to rent and my cardos. It's their house,

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Speaker 1: but I don't. Don't I deserve a little respect as

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Speaker 1: long as I live here. The jokes about it aren't working.

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Speaker 1: So would I be out of line that asks them

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Speaker 1: to close the door and windows doing sex. Shelley said,

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Speaker 1: you can't cause it's your mama's the house, and technically

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Speaker 1: she's right. But see, y'all friends, friends get to talk

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Speaker 1: to friends like they WoT. I think you should sit

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Speaker 1: going on? I would use another word, but yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: but they allow you because this sugar honey iced tea

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Speaker 1: y'all doing it. It's some. It's some bull sugar honey

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Speaker 1: iced teeth because all these fudge and neighbors is listening

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Speaker 1: to y'all upstairs fudge and they can hear it. Now Fudge,

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Speaker 1: y'all need to stop. This is embarrassing. This sugar honey

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Speaker 1: iced teeth col had to stop because you two ends.

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Speaker 1: It's just too damn But since they let you talk

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Speaker 1: any kind of way. But now here's what you're gonna

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Speaker 1: have to do. You got to move. You got to move.

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Speaker 1: And I want to say this to you, young lady.

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Speaker 1: You're obviously in school and stuff. You're twenty four. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: parents teach us what not to do, just like they

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Speaker 1: boys that come to my menor and camp who are

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Speaker 1: from father in his home who avowed when they have

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Speaker 1: So when you do have a child and you're obviously waiting,

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Speaker 1: remember these moments and remember the feelings you have. It's

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Speaker 1: cool to be cool with your parents, but even you

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Speaker 1: want some parents, and this letter is for parents. Just

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Speaker 1: listen to this. Stop trying to be your kids. Damn

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Speaker 1: they need guidance and love and discipline. They would appreciate

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Speaker 1: that more than you sitting up smoking. We custle with

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Speaker 1: them having set with the damn dope. True. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: thank you post your comments on today's Struggley. What you

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Speaker 1: demand as well. Now coming up at forty six minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour, It's junior was Sports Talk. Right after this,

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Speaker 1: you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.