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Speaker 1: We've had our share of problems, like any couple, but

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Speaker 1: it hasn't been easy. I see you in the chat

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Speaker 2: But I love it with all my heart.

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Speaker 1: He's sweet and despite the challenges, I could never imagine

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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from accurate fe nine five nine

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Speaker 1: sub breddit. So lately my husband has been acting different.

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Speaker 1: He's more distant, like he's checked out emotionally. I chalked

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Speaker 3: That's what you can't unhear for now on for the

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Speaker 2: Oh God, trouf ye could have been worse.

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Speaker 3: I coulda like.

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Speaker 1: He was talking to a couple of his friends and

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Speaker 2: Like what. I couldn't believe it. At first.

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Speaker 1: I thought maybe he was frustrated in saying things out

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Speaker 1: just venting. He said he missed the freedom we had

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Speaker 2: Can he come back from this?

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Speaker 4: Don't think so, because it's like, what the you even

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Speaker 2: It's father?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but be a father to my child, our child

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Speaker 3: Everyone can vote right now, everyone vote At this moment.

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Speaker 1: I was absolutely crushed. How could he talk about our

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Speaker 1: When I confronted him, he brushed it off, saying I

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Speaker 4: Also idea I just had, which probably is what everyone's

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Speaker 4: thinking as well, Uh divorce, get child support, because that's

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Speaker 1: Kimberly Holly says, this one hits home. My oldest boy's autistic.

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Speaker 1: No one wanted me to give him up, and I

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Speaker 1: I feel like I can't stay with someone who sees

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Speaker 1: Should I be trying harder to work this out? Or

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Speaker 2: Not at all? You know.

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Speaker 4: It's like, again, there's there's anything in a relationship if

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Speaker 6: But this, this, this.

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Speaker 2: It's pretty close to a deal breaker. Dude.

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Speaker 4: It's just so crazy and and oh my god, the

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Speaker 2: I feel like the best path is like.

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Speaker 4: Divorce long term, find someone who loves and cares for

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Speaker 1: Also, Princess Tka has a five dollars donation and says,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for everyone watching, I would love to know what

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Speaker 1: What are you talking about to get into Opie's response,

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Speaker 1: But you guys need professional help. I'm not defending anything

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Speaker 1: Is he talking about divorcing you because he doesn't want

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Speaker 2: Am I ready for this responsibility? Not everyone?

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Speaker 1: You know, some people are made for it, But like

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Speaker 3: If that changes, I think it would it would be

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Speaker 4: Fuck, yeah, this is hard and that need to just

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Speaker 2: But I kind of want to ask my mom if

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Speaker 3: Probably not, but she was like he can sleep with

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he's already so much like a golden troop.

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Speaker 1: Hey, mom, you are on the show.

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Speaker 2: You're on You're on? Okay story time?

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Speaker 5: Oh goodness, I hope I'm on it. Something I would

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Speaker 1: Question? Did you ever think about putting me up for adoption?

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Speaker 5: I noticed you from the moment you're born. You were

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Speaker 1: Do you know you don't have to like out them

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Speaker 5: Well, generally mothers don't think that there is one mother

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Speaker 2: But oh, yeah, you cannot say that online.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the only time I've ever heard someone say that.

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Speaker 1: But you're also live on this troop, I know it. Okay, good, Yeah, yeah, noted?

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Speaker 2: Noted? All right, Mom, I love you. Okay, I love you.

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Speaker 2: Yes, Autumn.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, let's get him.

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Speaker 4: So I hired my daughter's ex as an intern. She

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Speaker 2: It's just stud god long hair, beard, glasses.

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Speaker 4: The classic look of all the beefy jocks, the I

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Speaker 4: He was polite, always used yes sir, no sir, and

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Speaker 4: But or oh god, I even helped him out of

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Speaker 4: I really liked the kid, and so did the rest

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Speaker 2: Now my ex wife or my ex wife. I really

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Speaker 4: He was a good boy friend to my daughter, and

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Speaker 4: Eventually, they broke up when they were sixteen or fifteen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, John, they were sixteen or fifteen. That's illegal, John,

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Speaker 1: How would dare you make sexual jokes?

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Speaker 3: Cancel them?

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Speaker 2: Canceling?

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Speaker 4: Everyone, no one, no one never did anything in high

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah yeah, not for me?

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Speaker 2: Thought, yeah, actually me too. The people around.

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Speaker 4: It wasn't a messy breakup from what I'm From what

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Speaker 2: Well, it's just so much hotter than my last girlfriend.

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Speaker 3: It happened five years ago, So they're coming into this

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Speaker 3: Are you friends with any one above sixty above sixty? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: We had friends with yeah yeah, yeah, I am yeah,

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Speaker 4: So long story short, he ends up sending me some

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Speaker 4: excellent recommendations from his professor, so I offered him a

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Speaker 2: He's been an amazing condition to the team. He comes

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Speaker 2: Probably a w W guy. Yeah like this, that's good.

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Speaker 1: Joseph Badola burkequest, you're friends with John who is ninety seven.

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Speaker 4: That counts, that counts, It does go Actually, you totally

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Speaker 4: So I just hanted that one to you guys, on

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm into that well.

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Speaker 4: But my daughter recently found out about it through TikTok,

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Speaker 4: and she was that's funny through TikTok, right.

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Speaker 3: Plastic this this kind of shows her maturity in a way.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, of howbar sure she is? Yeah, how mature she is?

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Speaker 4: Start a TikTok beefy, that's the most mature thing dark commenting.

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Speaker 4: Come on, Yeah, she called me a terrible father and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, wait till you see this, Just wait,

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Speaker 4: I really care about my daughter, and I don't want

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Speaker 4: from two days later.

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Speaker 3: Woh professional, strictly professional.

444
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:42,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's fine, dude.

445
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:44,320
Speaker 3: He's not there for a long time. They're not pass

446
00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,280
Speaker 3: crossing paths, and it has not made your relationship with

447
00:21:47,320 --> 00:21:48,520
Speaker 3: your dad any worse.

448
00:21:48,720 --> 00:21:51,840
Speaker 4: One could argue he's not there for he's there for

449
00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,239
Speaker 4: a good time, not a long time, which is just

450
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Speaker 4: trauma trauma.

451
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's fine. I think it's fine.

452
00:21:59,200 --> 00:21:59,560
Speaker 3: It's fine.

453
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Speaker 1: I think Dad's not doing anything wrong and he's given

454
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Speaker 1: this guy a chance.

455
00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:06,840
Speaker 2: He's nice, dude. He's nice, dude. It's not a big deal.

456
00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: Also, you have to be such a w boyfriend to

457
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Speaker 1: break up with your daughter, Uh, to break up with

458
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Speaker 1: your girl, Yeah, with the girl that is your daughter

459
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:24,719
Speaker 1: and still get hired, Like imagine, he must be like

460
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Speaker 1: a stud. Yeah, just in every every way.

461
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Speaker 2: Dude.

462
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Speaker 3: I could see if your recent ex his dad was

463
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Speaker 3: hiring you could definitely get oh for sure.

464
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Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely. I'm surprised he hasn't tried to hire you

465
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Speaker 2: away already.

466
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Speaker 1: I mean we we we we have, like we talked

467
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Speaker 1: business all the time.

468
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Speaker 2: It's like he's great. I know, dude, it's kind of

469
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:47,600
Speaker 2: a beautiful thing. He's awesome.

470
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Speaker 3: He was he was sniffing out. It was all interviews,

471
00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:52,360
Speaker 3: by the way, all those business talks were crow.

472
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Speaker 2: See, if I can handle the family empire.

473
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Speaker 3: You should get back into that, dude circle media.

474
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Speaker 2: I mean he does, we should.

475
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Speaker 3: We should make this turn this one into real life. Boys,

476
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 3: I got I got an opportunity of a life time, taking.

477
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Speaker 2: A bit and turning it into real life with God.

478
00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:15,200
Speaker 2: So well, right, but we have more of the story

479
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Speaker 2: that's correct.

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Speaker 4: Two days later, October sixth, this just happened as of

481
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Speaker 4: this recording. I just want to thank everyone who commented

482
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Speaker 4: on my original post I really appreciated the advice and

483
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,880
Speaker 4: different perspectives that helped me think through the situation.

484
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 2: A lot of you.

485
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Speaker 4: Suggested that I have an honest conversation with my daughter

486
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Speaker 4: to see if there is something deeper going on. I

487
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,240
Speaker 4: took that advice. Actually that I think is really good.

488
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:39,359
Speaker 4: I mean, listen, there it was at high school. Maybe

489
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 4: there was something big that the dad does ever know about.

490
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Speaker 4: Totally fair and great idea. I ended up calling her

491
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Speaker 4: to talk things through. I asked her if there was

492
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Speaker 4: something about the breakup that he didn't know about, or

493
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Speaker 4: if something had happened that would make that it would

494
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Speaker 4: make her uncomfortable with him working for me. I told

495
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Speaker 4: her that she can be completely honest with me, because

496
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Speaker 4: I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt,

497
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Speaker 4: and if there was a valid reason, I was totally

498
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Speaker 4: open to addressing it. Turns out the situated was a

499
00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 4: lot less complicated than I thought. Oh, my daughter admitted

500
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Speaker 4: there wasn't any lingering issues between her and her ex.

501
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Speaker 4: In fact, she reiterated what I already knew that the

502
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 4: breakup was mutual and jama free. What came out during

503
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 4: the conversation was something completely different. Apparently, she's been dating

504
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Speaker 4: a new guy from the United States.

505
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Speaker 2: For about two weeks.

506
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Speaker 4: USA, let's freaking go uh oh yeah.

507
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Speaker 2: The one time, the one time where free feet is allowed.

508
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Speaker 4: She said that when she saw her ex in the

509
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Speaker 4: company's TikTok video, it made her nervous because she didn't

510
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Speaker 4: want things to get weird with the new guy if

511
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Speaker 4: he found out that her dad was still in contact

512
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Speaker 4: with her ex boyfriend. She said, Americans are all different

513
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Speaker 4: in that sense. I ain't different, I'm the same whatever

514
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Speaker 4: that means. Yeah, yeah, yeah. If the boyfriend does have

515
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 4: a problem with it, you should bring up with it. Yeah, wack, great, dude,

516
00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:03,080
Speaker 4: the my boyfriend hired my ex into his company's PR department,

517
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 4: and then he made a TikTok and then my boyfriend

518
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Speaker 4: might have seen him.

519
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Speaker 7: Test.

520
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Speaker 4: Dude, that is a great test. Great one, easily rep

521
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Speaker 4: great one. Great feel two point oh two point oh

522
00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:16,040
Speaker 4: for sure. Those were her words.

523
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Speaker 2: You guys, tell him if he's true. Ah hah.

524
00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:21,919
Speaker 4: Basically, she was worried that her new relationship could be

525
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 4: if affected if the guy's seeing that there was still

526
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 4: some kind of connection between her and her ex through me.

527
00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:30,439
Speaker 4: But when I pressed her about whether the X had

528
00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:32,879
Speaker 4: done anything wrong, or if there was an actual issue

529
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Speaker 4: that would justify me not hiring him.

530
00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:36,040
Speaker 2: She admitted there wasn't.

531
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Speaker 4: Her main concern was her was her new relationship and

532
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:42,040
Speaker 4: how it might look. I get that she's navigating a

533
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:44,639
Speaker 4: new relationship. But to expect me to turn down a

534
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:47,280
Speaker 4: great intern who's been nothing but hard working because she's

535
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 4: worried about optics with a guy she's been seeing for

536
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Speaker 4: two weeks seemed pretty unreasonable.

537
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Speaker 2: I'm cut think it's pretty unreasonable. How cute is he? Oh?

538
00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 2: Is he? But here?

539
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:02,199
Speaker 1: Like can your I'd maybe get another intern out of this,

540
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 1: you know.

541
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Speaker 2: Can they here?

542
00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:08,160
Speaker 4: We go hire both of them and then they have

543
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 4: it's like compete. You know, whoever sells the most, it's

544
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 4: to keep my daughter gets to keep have my daughter's

545
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 4: hand in a duel, if you will, a duel of

546
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:17,880
Speaker 4: smarts and sales.

547
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Speaker 2: That's so John's stending off his his daughter. Oh yeah,

548
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 2: you gotta work for boy.

549
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:26,720
Speaker 3: Oh boy, I could see that happening.

550
00:26:27,240 --> 00:26:28,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, will love that.

551
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,160
Speaker 4: I don't think it's fair to penalize him or limit

552
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 4: his opportunities just because of that.

553
00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:35,680
Speaker 2: I explained all this to her.

554
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,159
Speaker 4: As gently as I could, and she admitted that she

555
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,359
Speaker 4: might have overreacted. I reassured her that this internship was

556
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 4: a temporary situation and that she will likely never ever

557
00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 4: have to interact with him, especially with her living abroad.

558
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:49,399
Speaker 2: But if you want to interact.

559
00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:51,760
Speaker 4: With us, just tap our profile every weekday at three

560
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Speaker 4: pm PSD to join the lives.

561
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Speaker 2: The lives are great. Join them. It's all you need

562
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 2: to do. The one rule, one rule.

563
00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 4: But before we get to the end of the story, yep,

564
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,119
Speaker 4: how are we feeling about how this all shook up?

565
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,399
Speaker 2: I mean, I think she's like overreacting a little bit.

566
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:08,880
Speaker 2: I think the dad's doing everything nice.

567
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,959
Speaker 1: This sounds like I was almost waiting for the There

568
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 1: are some beat like skeletons at the cause that where

569
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:15,879
Speaker 1: the boy friend did something terrible, But he's like a

570
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: nice guy through and through.

571
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 2: So nice guy Dad.

572
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 4: I think did the right thing by calling the r

573
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 4: saying like, hey, you know, maybe there was something he

574
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:25,639
Speaker 4: didn't know, maybe something serious he didn't know. It was

575
00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 4: good that he asked and you know, gave an open floor.

576
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 4: Nothing was wrong. She admitted she might have over reacted.

577
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 6: Everyone to W everywhere for the dutter W small W

578
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 6: very lowercase Yeah.

579
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,479
Speaker 4: I also apologize for not asking her first about her

580
00:27:39,480 --> 00:27:41,879
Speaker 4: thoughts on me hiring him. I thought it didn't matter

581
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 4: since from my point of view, I was just hiring

582
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 4: a great professional based on qualifications and work ethics. But

583
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 4: comments made me see how I could have been the

584
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 4: a hole for not telling her. And she told me that, oh.

585
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 2: So resolution, resolution too bad, all too bad.

586
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 1: Wow, this is the most mild story of like I

587
00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 1: kind of needed a rake from the craziness, right, Yeah,

588
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: this is this is good, this is good.

589
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 4: We're on it's like it's like, uh, what's a crazy

590
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:06,720
Speaker 4: roller coaster?

591
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 2: You know, like the Tower of Terror?

592
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:08,919
Speaker 5: You know?

593
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, Uh, tattoos a great if you have a Yeah,

594
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 1: everyone has been to Magic Mountain, takes flags, Tatsu Dame.

595
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 2: You go like this, You're like here right, You're like, oh,

596
00:28:20,359 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go on a ride. I'm gonna go this way.

597
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:26,879
Speaker 2: Then he goes and then you're freaking you're facing down

598
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,720
Speaker 2: and then you and then you going to loops and stuff.

599
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 2: It's great. You know what Gator Gtter done. But that's it.

600
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, but we got one more story that we do

601
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,680
Speaker 1: that we do staying with us or leaving. Now I

602
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 1: gotta jump I gotta jump. Just know that I love

603
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:49,280
Speaker 1: you all and I'll see you tomorrow. I actually will

604
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:51,400
Speaker 1: see you tomorrow. Literally, this isn't done yet.

605
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 4: A Sophia, Hello, thank you.

606
00:28:58,440 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 7: Yes, I was.

607
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 2: Dang it chance my boyfriends.

608
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 4: Uh nice, that's even more adorable. All right, we ready

609
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:08,120
Speaker 4: for it?

610
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 7: Yeah?

611
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 4: I called my niece my baby. Now my sister thinks

612
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:13,520
Speaker 4: I'm a horrible aunt for it.

613
00:29:14,240 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 2: Pause.

614
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 4: I twenty three female, recently visited for my niece's niece's

615
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 4: seventh birthday. I live about an hour away from my

616
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 4: hometown for college, and I'm currently pursuing my master's before

617
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 4: I go into law school. This is all to say

618
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Speaker 4: that I see my family maybe once or twice a

619
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Speaker 4: year due to classes and be working two jobs.

620
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Speaker 2: Man working woman.

621
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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from age five ray on

622
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 4: the best of venter updates. So my niece's birthday was

623
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Speaker 4: two weekends ago. She and I are quite close. I

624
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 4: spent a lot of time babysitting her when I was

625
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 4: younger and still at home. Because my brother and my

626
00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 4: sister in law both work jobs. My classes are all

627
00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,040
Speaker 4: aligne due to the gold Old pandemic, so it was

628
00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 4: natural for me to become the instinctive babysutter.

629
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Speaker 2: I was happy to do so because.

630
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,200
Speaker 4: I loved my niece and wanted to lighten the load

631
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Speaker 4: of my brother and sister in law's emotional and physical loads.

632
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Speaker 7: That's nice of you.

633
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 2: That's a lot of load talk, so many loads, so

634
00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 2: many loads.

635
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 4: My family, sister in law and brother included, knew that

636
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 4: I would be attending my niece's birthday party as a surprise.

637
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 2: That is adorable. When she saw me, she ran up

638
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 2: and shrieked happily. Yay, that was my impression. Yay, yeah gie,

639
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 2: nice job she went through. Yeah.

640
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 4: I wrapped her up in a big hug and said, hi,

641
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:35,160
Speaker 4: my baby, before giving her a smoochie.

642
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 7: I don't think there's anything wrong with that?

643
00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 2: Are you kidding me? Are you like I'm joking? Are

644
00:30:41,880 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 2: you like? Is this some sick, twisted game? You're right,

645
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 2: You're right?

646
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 7: I uh hot take. I don't think there's anything wrong

647
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 7: with that.

648
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:52,360
Speaker 2: Well.

649
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 4: I sent her off afterwards to mingle with her guests,

650
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 4: and to mingle with guests like a proper host.

651
00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:58,120
Speaker 2: Well.

652
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 4: I then sat down with my own family, caught up

653
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 4: with him later. My sister last him distant and annoyed with.

654
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 2: Me before presence.

655
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 4: She pulled me aside and asked me not to call

656
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 4: my niece my baby again because she found it offensive.

657
00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 4: What she's like, that's my baby. She's a big girl.

658
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 2: She's a big freaking girl. She's not a baby. This girl.

659
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 7: Whenever Chip comes over to stay, I go, I go, oh, Chip,

660
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 7: baby boy, you said you will baby, And Christian goes,

661
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 7: he's not a baby.

662
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 8: He's a man. And that's what she's doing. Yes, that

663
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 8: he's a baby. He doesn't like that. Have you ever

664
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 8: asked him what he would like.

665
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 3: To be called?

666
00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 7: He said, I want to be called baby.

667
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:40,920
Speaker 2: Talk. Can't even talk.

668
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 7: I don't even know that what he wants to you.

669
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 3: This isn't a dog of the blog.

670
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,920
Speaker 7: So this dog with a blog and I'm living in it.

671
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 2: Linton is not here anymore. Clinton come back an episode

672
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:54,720
Speaker 2: with us.

673
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 4: I profusely apologized as soon as she said so, and

674
00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:00,240
Speaker 4: promised that I would not do it again. But the

675
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,720
Speaker 4: rest of her party calling her sweetie or just buy

676
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 4: her name. Imagine she's like, okay, really sweetie, Like she's

677
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 4: just like op.

678
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:07,480
Speaker 2: He just goes down the list of.

679
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 8: Yeah, it's like honey, It's like when you have like

680
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:19,800
Speaker 8: I don't know a dog and you're giving them words

681
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 8: to see like and they're growling at some and she's

682
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:24,760
Speaker 8: like sweet so so oh he's like sweetheart, and the

683
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:28,440
Speaker 8: sister's like, ah, she's like honey, and the sister's like,

684
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 8: she's like pumpkin.

685
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 2: The sister loves Like is that a thing dogs do?

686
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 7: I don't know.

687
00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 4: I was like, this is some sort of like like

688
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:39,880
Speaker 4: otherworldly dog like like top tier dog training technique that

689
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:41,240
Speaker 4: I'm being put onto over here.

690
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 7: Oh, it's like, I don't know what I'm referring to, actually,

691
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 7: but you could be.

692
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 4: I love how Sophia invents the thing to refer to,

693
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 4: then refers to said invented Sophia things.

694
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 7: You're welcome now we can refer to that.

695
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 2: You know what.

696
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,160
Speaker 4: Thank you, Thank you, Sophia. What a gift to all

697
00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 4: of us. Let's go so becto B. I'm an extremely

698
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 4: affectionate person. I call my niece and nephew an array

699
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 4: of endearment, an array of terms of endearment, both including

700
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,000
Speaker 4: my baby. I've called both of them this occasionally before

701
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 4: around family, and no one has said anything. To be honest,

702
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 4: sweety and sweetheart is more common to me. But this

703
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 4: isn't the first time. I'll never say stuff like you're

704
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 4: my baby, this is my baby, et cetera, et cetera.

705
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 4: I usually use. I usually word it like, of course,

706
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:30,720
Speaker 4: my baby, Hi, my baby, Yes, my baby, et cetera. Oh,

707
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 4: my sister is still mad at me. Yeah, because you're

708
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 4: an ahole kind of obvious, and later called me a

709
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 4: horrible aunt and person for calling my niece my baby.

710
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:41,320
Speaker 2: Honestly not going.

711
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:45,200
Speaker 7: Far prison, good prison, prison, get.

712
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 4: Her out of the family, get her out of living

713
00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 4: a free woman, handcuff hi.

714
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 2: To the country, get out of here.

715
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:53,520
Speaker 4: I tried to explain that it was just a term

716
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 4: of endearment and saying it meant no harm, but she

717
00:33:56,320 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 4: does seemingly not care and keeps calling me horrible man.

718
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,440
Speaker 2: This lady is a break over here.

719
00:34:04,920 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 4: It's breaking my heart because I've tried apologizing and making

720
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:10,399
Speaker 4: it up but my u but my sister in lawt

721
00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 4: whears I'm out to get her. I don't know why

722
00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 4: she thinks this. I've done nothing but look after her

723
00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 4: and my niece. I just wish she would listening to

724
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 4: me instead of icing me out. So am I the

725
00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,960
Speaker 4: a hole for calling my niece my baby is a

726
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:27,120
Speaker 4: term of endearment. And we have an edit and an

727
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:30,320
Speaker 4: update and all kinds of comments with Opie's response.

728
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 2: But Sophia is Opie a hole?

729
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,000
Speaker 7: Let me take a starry and think about that.

730
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, walk me through it, walk me through it. No,

731
00:34:40,239 --> 00:34:42,000
Speaker 2: walk away I met.

732
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 7: No, OPI is not the ael.

733
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 8: Oh I can't walk you through it. You just interrupted

734
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,920
Speaker 8: me while I was I was thinking it through.

735
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:53,399
Speaker 7: Opia is not the a hole.

736
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:55,880
Speaker 8: It's kind of ridiculous for the sister in law to

737
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 8: take Opie musing a term of endearment towards her niece

738
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 8: is like this huge insult to her and her parenting

739
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 8: or whatever.

740
00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 7: It seems like she's like, oh, that's my child. You're

741
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 7: trying to take my child and stuff.

742
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:11,839
Speaker 8: Because we see, you know, we do see some read

743
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:15,200
Speaker 8: the stories where mother in law's or sister in laws

744
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 8: are like getting a little bit too attached and overbearing,

745
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:21,399
Speaker 8: but that is not the case here.

746
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 4: She's just being a good aunt literally, like I see

747
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 4: Opie on Like Opie has been babysitting for you and

748
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 4: you know, helping you out, and don't you want your

749
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:35,799
Speaker 4: like your daughter has this amazing, beautiful relationship with her aunt.

750
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:37,600
Speaker 2: Don't you. Yeah, wouldn't you want.

751
00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 7: To foster that?

752
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 2: I'm confused.

753
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 4: I just don't get it. I feel like there's something missing, missing,

754
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 4: something below the surface here. Any any guesses, any conspiracy?

755
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 2: U who I got?

756
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 8: Opie's sister in law thinks that she's like the sister

757
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 8: in law. She's like, I'm a bad parent, and she's

758
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:02,840
Speaker 8: feeling really insecure, and she sees how close Ope is

759
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:05,800
Speaker 8: to her daughter and she's like, Wow, I wish I

760
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 8: had that relationship.

761
00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:10,879
Speaker 2: With my daughter. I'm guessing her brother is always like, wow,

762
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:12,600
Speaker 2: such a great aunt.

763
00:36:12,640 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 4: She's like, she's gonna be a great mom. Yeah, she's

764
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 4: gonna be a great mom. And then he's like, I'm

765
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 4: I'm yes, the brother is the rogue a hole.

766
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 7: Gotch a rogue?

767
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 2: Ah rogue, the a pokemon when you watch oh to sheriff, Yeah,

768
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 2: something like that, something like that. Well, we'll see what

769
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 2: finds out.

770
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 4: To find out comments with Opie's responses, commenter says, okay,

771
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,359
Speaker 4: so use the term of endearment for your niece. Her

772
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 4: mother didn't like it, asked you to stop, You apologize

773
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:48,439
Speaker 4: to stop. Now she's icing you out, which you can't

774
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,760
Speaker 4: do anything further about because again you've apologized and corrected

775
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 4: your action.

776
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:55,719
Speaker 8: Yeah, Opie, I mean, obviously it was weird that she

777
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 8: asked in the first place for op to stop calling

778
00:36:57,719 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 8: her my baby, but oh.

779
00:36:59,040 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 7: He did, and she's still upset.

780
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 2: I don't understand. I'm truly lost, not the a hole

781
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 2: for this isolated incident.

782
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:08,840
Speaker 4: But do you have a pattern of being overly fond

783
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 4: slash they're passing or ignoring boundaries and recycling dislike behavior.

784
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 4: If not, then I don't see the problem here. Obie says,

785
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:17,960
Speaker 4: thank you so much for your thoughts. I do not

786
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 4: have a pattern of ignoring boundaries whatsoever. I'm kind of

787
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:25,320
Speaker 4: the most communicative one of the family. I'm kind of

788
00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:26,600
Speaker 4: the most humble person.

789
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:26,960
Speaker 5: I know.

790
00:37:28,400 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 7: I mean some people might struggle with that.

791
00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 2: Not me, Obie seems like a great person. But I couldn't.

792
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:37,759
Speaker 2: I couldn't help that. That's up on the opportunity.

793
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 4: I one understood my sister in law was setting a

794
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 4: boundary when she pulled me aside, and new to respect

795
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 4: it because at the end of the day, she's the parent,

796
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 4: not me. Uh, this has never happened to me before,

797
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 4: to be honest, which is what which is making it

798
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 4: so much more disorienting.

799
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 5: You know.

800
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:57,360
Speaker 4: Also, me and my younger sibling are much closer in

801
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:59,840
Speaker 4: age than me and my older brother, so this definitely

802
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 4: has not stemmed out of our sibling dynamic. At least,

803
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:06,240
Speaker 4: She's not as close with her siblings and has distant parents,

804
00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:09,440
Speaker 4: so maybe the general involvement of my family overall has

805
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:12,800
Speaker 4: affected has affected her. This is just speculation on my

806
00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:17,320
Speaker 4: behalf though, because she hasn't said this to me. Another

807
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 4: commenter says, you say your niece is seven and you

808
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 4: are twenty three, So how long has it been since

809
00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 4: you have gone off to college and how much time

810
00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 4: did you spend together. I'm not saying that you've done

811
00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:31,520
Speaker 4: anything wrong, because you haven't. When called out, you apologized

812
00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:34,400
Speaker 4: and corrected. When I am suggesting that is, if you

813
00:38:34,480 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 4: babysat regularly for long periods of time, there's a chance

814
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 4: her niece has been missing you more now now that

815
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,919
Speaker 4: you've gone, and she has missed your sister in law,

816
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 4: her mother, and there could be more of a chance

817
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:49,480
Speaker 4: of you saying my baby triggered some jealousy and resentment

818
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 4: from your sister in law, which is kind of what

819
00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:55,840
Speaker 4: we were theorizing before. Like sometimes how kids are closer

820
00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 4: to their nannies than their work parents, who don't even

821
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 4: know their favorite food. I shows an extreme example to

822
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 4: make that explanation easier, if that helps. Opie response to this, saying, so,

823
00:39:05,640 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 4: I've been away for coming up on three years now.

824
00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 4: When my niece was an infant. My sister in law

825
00:39:09,920 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 4: and brother actually lived with us for a little over

826
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:14,919
Speaker 4: a year, and I babysat for her almost daily while

827
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 4: they worked. When they moved out, I saw her about

828
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:20,479
Speaker 4: once or twice every weekend because my brother and sister

829
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,800
Speaker 4: in law would visit them. I still talk to my

830
00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 4: family slash niece about once a week and I do,

831
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,279
Speaker 4: and I do have time where I talk to my

832
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:30,359
Speaker 4: niece on FaceTime because she takes my brother and sister

833
00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 4: on his phone to chat with me. Loul also adorable.

834
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 4: There's so many adorable things here, so cute, this could

835
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 4: be so cute. But where did we go?

836
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:38,840
Speaker 7: Where did we go?

837
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 4: I'm definitely thinking I struck a nerve that I didn't

838
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 4: know is there. And I'm really just hoping that with time,

839
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 4: she'd be willing to not yon in my face and

840
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 4: just talk to me about whatever.

841
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:49,719
Speaker 2: Is going on.

842
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:52,080
Speaker 7: I certainly hope she doesn't yon in o p F.

843
00:39:52,280 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 2: Truly, that would be the rudest thing I've ever seen.

844
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 7: It'll be the rudest thing I've ever seen.

845
00:39:57,239 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 4: Come on, now, do Summer's GENI respect, But another commenter says,

846
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 4: and this will be our last comment here. You say

847
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 4: you're saying this because she's a child that you love.

848
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 4: I had friends and family say this about my kids,

849
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 4: and I love it. But I can get it if

850
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,760
Speaker 4: your sister in law didn't dig it. Not everyone feels

851
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 4: the same as me. She voiced her concern. You've respected it,

852
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 4: you apologize. It seems to me that maybe she's jealous

853
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 4: of a special relationship that you do have. My kids

854
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 4: adore their aunties, sometimes treat them nicer than they do me.

855
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 4: I get it because I was the same way as

856
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 4: a kid, and I see how lucky we are to

857
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:33,360
Speaker 4: have a village.

858
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 2: Some mamas aren't like that.

859
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 4: I would just shrug it off and not bring it

860
00:40:36,840 --> 00:40:38,800
Speaker 4: up if you can, and keep on loving your sweet

861
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:41,359
Speaker 4: niece and using other terms of affection for her.

862
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 2: Opie says, thank you.

863
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:45,080
Speaker 4: It's been kind of freaking me out about my relationship

864
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 4: with my niece because it's already been hard for her

865
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 4: over the past three years, with me being inaccessible due

866
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 4: to distance while I'm at school. I'm hoping that my

867
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,359
Speaker 4: sister in law will either ignore it or be open

868
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:57,480
Speaker 4: and have an open discussion with me closer to the

869
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:00,719
Speaker 4: holidays when I'm planning on visiting again. There's no bad

870
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 4: blood whatsoever. She's not super close with her family, and

871
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,400
Speaker 4: she and I are the only girls of both of

872
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 4: our families, which bonded us in the first place, So

873
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:11,320
Speaker 4: I'm hoping that we can get back to that despite

874
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:15,400
Speaker 4: a bump the road. And guys, we have an update

875
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 4: two days late.

876
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 7: Oh wait, so it seems like we have not reached resolution.

877
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,719
Speaker 2: We still don't know what's happening. We're still in the dark.

878
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 2: We're still in the dark.

879
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 5: Butt.

880
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:28,320
Speaker 2: This is what updates are for.

881
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 8: Yes, that's what I've always said, John, You know you

882
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 8: have always said that, and you know what, Gosh darn it,

883
00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 8: I agree with you.

884
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Speaker 2: I thank you, I will. I will take all the

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Speaker 2: heat you can disagree with you want, I agree with it.

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Speaker 7: Take That's what I've always said.

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Speaker 4: There we go, So let's get into it. My sister

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Speaker 4: in law and I have made up hy just kidding

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Speaker 4: everything's horrible, no, just kidding about just kidding. I decided

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Speaker 4: to send her a heartfelt text explaining that I felt

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Speaker 4: sorry and sort of sort of upset over us being

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Speaker 4: in odds over something I said. We ended up texting

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Speaker 4: back and forth and then facetiming.

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Speaker 2: So sisant law told.

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Speaker 4: Me that she's realized over the past two years how

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Speaker 4: much of my niece's infancy that she missed out on.

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Speaker 8: Now we're getting here, it is she's she's not a

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Speaker 8: baby anymore, and I missed it.

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Speaker 7: Not a baby, I'm not a baby anymore.

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Speaker 4: She's been able to be a lot more present with

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Speaker 4: my little nephew that she could be with my niece,

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Speaker 4: and she and she admitted that she felt jealous that

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Speaker 4: I basically got to be a third parent to my niece.

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Speaker 4: I watched my niece from basically seven am to five pm,

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Speaker 4: five days a week for a long time when she

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Speaker 4: was just a baby. My sister in law had been

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Speaker 4: feeling guilty that she had to work so much and

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Speaker 4: that I had been the one looking after my niece

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Speaker 4: so much. I told her vehemently that I did not

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Speaker 4: want to overstep or be seen as anything other than

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Speaker 4: an aunt because She's a great mom and I respect

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Speaker 4: her much more than them. She told me she knew that,

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Speaker 4: but the day of the party had been so long

914
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Speaker 4: and with her her guilt, and with her guilt.

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Speaker 2: She just snapped at me.

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Speaker 4: I also did apologize for calling niece my baby, and

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Speaker 4: sister in law said that she didn't want to hear

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Speaker 4: it because it was out of the blue and I

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Speaker 4: had no idea how she was feeling.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 7: I thought she was saying like, I don't want to

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Speaker 7: hear it ever again. But she's saying like, I don't

923
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Speaker 7: want to hear your apologies. My response was out of

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Speaker 7: the blue, and yeah, I didn't.

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Speaker 4: Know I was great clarification Sophia best in the game

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Speaker 4: reading comprehension over than us, I must say, But I

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Speaker 4: waved her off and told her I still felt sorry.

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Speaker 4: Instaid I would be refraining from using that nickname in

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Speaker 4: the future because I have plenty other ways.

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Speaker 2: The Dodo m niece. We were both teary and sappy well,

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Speaker 2: and we made plans to have a girl's day just

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Speaker 2: me and her when I was on the holidays.

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Speaker 4: Like communication down off queens. Thank you everyone who gave

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Speaker 4: me advice and perspective. And thank you everyone who's tapped

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Speaker 4: our freaking profile to join us every weekday at three

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Speaker 4: pm PST.

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Speaker 7: I wouldn't you. It's the easiest thing you can do.

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Speaker 4: Simplest thing ever, I feel. What are you satisfied with

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Speaker 4: this resolution, Sophia?

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Speaker 2: How do you feel?

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Speaker 7: I feel that there could be no better conclusion.

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Speaker 2: Agreed, You're going to continue the wrap.

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Speaker 7: But it's fine.

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Speaker 2: It was dead. It had to die sometimes