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Speaker 1: subject line says confused need advice, Hey Grangel My name

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Speaker 1: is James. I'm eighteen. I dated a girl for nine

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Speaker 1: months and we broke up. It wasn't anything bad that

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Speaker 1: It comes from James eighteen. Brother. This is the thing

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Speaker 1: words you go. Hey, I know that we've started texting recently,

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Speaker 1: and then say this, say I still have feelings for you,

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Speaker 1: The subject client says, major career decision and hearing God's voice.

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Speaker 1: Next email right into it. Subjectline says trust in God.

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Speaker 1: Hey Granger, I was dating this girl back in August

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Speaker 1: making chord skills. That's kind of what I'm feeling on

427
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:28,399
Speaker 1: this whole relationship thing. Marquise. You're like laying out this

428
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:33,880
Speaker 1: whole story. You got this girl pregnant, and she's like crazy,

429
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: she's blocking you on stuff and then adding you, and

430
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 1: then she's having a baby girl. And maybe it's yours,

431
00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: maybe it's some other guys. And I'm saying, dude, do

432
00:26:46,240 --> 00:26:51,080
Speaker 1: you even own a Bible? Man? I'm saying that I

433
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,719
Speaker 1: love too. I hope you hear that in my voice

434
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 1: that I want to help you learn to play guitar.

435
00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: I want to help your dream of being a professional

436
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 1: guitar player. But we gotta start with a guitar, right,

437
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 1: you gotta you gotta show me something, Marquise, What are

438
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 1: you doing? What are you doing out there getting this

439
00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 1: girl pregnant like this? It's not it's not too late.

440
00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 1: We just got to start now. We gotta start now.

441
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 1: Are you ready to start with me? Okay? Email me again,

442
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:26,120
Speaker 1: Email me again, and ask your question in a different way.

443
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 1: You hear me, all right, next question, Let's let's go

444
00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:39,159
Speaker 1: here to uh subjecy line subdec line here. Sorry in

445
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:40,480
Speaker 1: my mind, I don't know if y'all could tell my

446
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 1: voice is tired. I've been doing a lot of a

447
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 1: lot of radio talking lately. Subgline says the photographer at

448
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 1: my brother's wedding. Hey, Grangel, this is Carter. I'm seventeen.

449
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 1: I'm from Michigan. I love your music, love your podcast,

450
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:58,159
Speaker 1: I love Jesus, I love making music, and I love hunting.

451
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,679
Speaker 1: So here's my question. I was a groonsman in my

452
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 1: brother's wedding and the photographer was really cute. I found

453
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,399
Speaker 1: out she's not too much older than me, and I

454
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,359
Speaker 1: would love to ask her out, But I feel like

455
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:12,880
Speaker 1: it's weird to just slide into her DMS and tell

456
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 1: her that she's cute and ask her why if we

457
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:21,919
Speaker 1: can get coffee sometime. So I'm wondering about asking this

458
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:24,679
Speaker 1: girl out without being weird about it. I had to

459
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 1: see her in person, really, ever, and so it would

460
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:33,719
Speaker 1: be emailing. I've never been in I've never been in

461
00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 1: a legit relationship because I don't want to add that

462
00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: extra drama. I'm content with my singleness, and honestly I

463
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 1: love it. I now feel that I'm ready to start dating.

464
00:28:45,920 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: I could truly say that I'm not wanting to date

465
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,080
Speaker 1: just to date. Sorry, this is kind of long. I

466
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:52,760
Speaker 1: just want to pick your brain and see what you think.

467
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:58,520
Speaker 1: Yee Carter. All right, Carter, So you are seventeen, Michigan,

468
00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 1: shout out to Michigan, Love Michigan. You met a cute

469
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 1: girl at a wedding. It was your brothers. You were

470
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 1: the groonsman at your brother's wedding, and the photographer was

471
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:12,920
Speaker 1: really cute. She's about your age. You've never really been

472
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:15,640
Speaker 1: in a relationship because you don't want to add the drama.

473
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: I get it. You also just haven't found the one

474
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: that makes you forget that drama would be involved, and

475
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 1: that's that's another reason. And you are content with your

476
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 1: singleness and you honestly love it. Cool, but now you

477
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: meet a cute girl and all of a sudden you're

478
00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: ready to start dating, right, Carter. You meet a cute

479
00:29:35,880 --> 00:29:38,200
Speaker 1: girl at a wedding that she's a photographer, and you're like, Hey,

480
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: this whole singleness thing, like, I've liked it, but I

481
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: think I might be ready to start dating. Like I'm

482
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 1: seventeen looking at the clock. Seventeen. Yeah, cute girl wedding, Yeah,

483
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:54,080
Speaker 1: ready to start dating. That's funny. That's a big coincidence, Carter.

484
00:29:55,240 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 1: I'm just messing with you. Bro. Here's a deal as

485
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:05,719
Speaker 1: entertaining as your email is. This is what happens. Okay,

486
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 1: get a pen, get a paper. You go to your brother,

487
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 1: and you go to your new sister in law most likely,

488
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: and you say, Hey, new sister in law, can you

489
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 1: give me a huge solid Can you get me the

490
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 1: phone number of the photographer at your wedding? I know

491
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 1: it sounds weird, but just I think she's cute and

492
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,040
Speaker 1: if you don't mind, I'd like to have it. And

493
00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 1: she gives you the number. This is brave of you

494
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 1: to cold call her, and so you might text. I

495
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 1: wouldn't hate it if you texted and you just said, hey,

496
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:51,160
Speaker 1: this is a text, right. Hey, you don't know me.

497
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 1: My name is Carter. But I was at the wedding

498
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Speaker 1: that you shot a few weeks ago. I have question,

499
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 1: would you mind giving me a call? Ooh, that makes

500
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: me nervous just thinking about it. That makes me nervous.

501
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: But I think I think that's the right text, because

502
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 1: you don't want to give it all all. You don't

503
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: want to just reveal it on the text and say, hey,

504
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,360
Speaker 1: I really thought you're cute and I was hoping that

505
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:20,959
Speaker 1: we can grab coffee. You don't want to do that

506
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 1: because because then, like what if she's not around her phone,

507
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 1: she's you know, she's doing something else, and then you're

508
00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 1: just sitting there staring at your screen, just wondering if

509
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: it's gonna light up. You're gonna do that anyway, but

510
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 1: that's a lot of pressure on one text. Instead say

511
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 1: you don't know me, my name is Carter. I have

512
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 1: a question for you. I got your number from the

513
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 1: bride of a wedding you shot a few weeks ago.

514
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 1: Can you please give me a call, Okay, no pressure

515
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 1: that way. That way, she has no idea what's coming.

516
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 1: She possibly might think it's another job. She calls now, Carter,

517
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys talked or if you

518
00:31:57,560 --> 00:32:00,959
Speaker 1: maybe you did. I don't know if she's gonna remember

519
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 1: or not. But as far as I know, she's gonna

520
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 1: get this and go, yeah, give this dude a call.

521
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 1: You're gonna be so nervous. You're gonna be Maybe she'll

522
00:32:10,480 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 1: text back and say, yeah, I can give you a

523
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,880
Speaker 1: call in an hour, if that's okay, or whatever. She

524
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 1: might set up another call. I don't think she's gonna

525
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: just boom the hit the ringer right there. But she's

526
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 1: gonna call you or set up a call, and that

527
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 1: phone's gonna light up. You're gonna be so nervous, so nervous.

528
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 1: But you have to get these words out as soon

529
00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 1: as possible. Okay, listen to Carter. You have to get

530
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 1: it out as soon as possible, as soon as she

531
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 1: answers and you are so nervous. Avoid too much small talk, okay,

532
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: So get right to the point. Hey, so and so

533
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,000
Speaker 1: I met you at the wedding. I was the groomsman

534
00:32:49,080 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 1: at that wedding. Let her acknowledge yes, I remember. Then

535
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 1: get the next line. Don't don't waste your time with

536
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 1: the weather or the sports, or how's your day going

537
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 1: or anything. No small talk. The next line so that

538
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: you can get these nerves out, because that your nerves

539
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 1: will go down immediately when it comes out. You'll say this.

540
00:33:11,480 --> 00:33:18,480
Speaker 1: You'll say, I know this might be awkward, Okay, because

541
00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: it is, but I really I thought you were really cute.

542
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: And even though it's really hard for me to say

543
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:35,600
Speaker 1: this because I'm nervous, do you think we could have

544
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:44,320
Speaker 1: her have coffee sometime and let it sit. Now, here's

545
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:51,240
Speaker 1: the thing, the beautiful thing about being vulnerable admitting that

546
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: you're nervous, and she'll know the reason that you're nervous

547
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:02,040
Speaker 1: is because you think that she's cute. That's a that's

548
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: a massive compliment to her. This boy is nervous because

549
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:09,920
Speaker 1: of me. Right, Okay, that's what she's gonna think. So

550
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 1: then you put it on her plate. And the beauty

551
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: of this being on her plate now is that whatever

552
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:21,759
Speaker 1: her answer is will calm your nerves. Regardless even if

553
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 1: she says, ha, don't think so, click You're you won't

554
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 1: be nervous anymore, you're gonna go Well, there's the answer

555
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 1: to that. Moving on back to my content in my singleness,

556
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 1: and that's gonna go away quickly. You're you're gonna be

557
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 1: it's gonna be over and it's no big deal. Or

558
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 1: she says, yes, would love to. Okay, the nervous is

559
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:48,759
Speaker 1: gonna it's gonna go away. And now now it goes

560
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: into cool. Well, how about Friday? How about I text

561
00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 1: you a place Friday six pm? Sound good good? Or

562
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: she says, ah, I'm in a relationship, I'm seeing somebody.

563
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:07,040
Speaker 1: Either way, you have information that you could now work with.

564
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:13,239
Speaker 1: Start with being vulnerable, even though it's awkward. Admit that

565
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 1: you're nervous, Admit that this is difficult. Avoid small talk,

566
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:21,960
Speaker 1: and you will get instantly the information you need to

567
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: take the next step. Should I hit this one? This

568
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 1: one's got a lot of exclamations on it, Subclines says, attention,

569
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:34,160
Speaker 1: I need God back a grand your. My name is Sidney.

570
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:39,880
Speaker 1: Been following you since twoenty and thirteen. I'm now married,

571
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: twenty years old with an eight month old little girl

572
00:35:43,120 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 1: named Remington. My husband and I currently live with my

573
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:48,400
Speaker 1: mother in law and we don't get along very well.

574
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: She's going through a rough divorce with her manipulative husband.

575
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 1: This divorce has caused several problems between my husband and I,

576
00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 1: to the point that I've thought about divorce myself. I

577
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 1: struggle with postpartum to pray. I'm having a hard time

578
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 1: finding God again and keeping my marriage afloat. I'm a

579
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 1: Christian woman as well as my husband, and I love

580
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 1: God dearly and I need and I want him back

581
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 1: in my life. I know it's demons causing the thoughts

582
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 1: of divorce. I've dealt with them before, and I've even

583
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:23,359
Speaker 1: experienced sleep paralysis. How do I reach out to God

584
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,560
Speaker 1: to help me to get through this rough patch? What

585
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: do I do? I read my Bible daily and nightly,

586
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 1: and I listen to your podcast, highlighting things, reading over

587
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 1: the verses over and over. I pray morning and night

588
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 1: and before dinner. Thank you for taking the time to

589
00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 1: help all of us. Love you, brother, have a blessed

590
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 1: a ye yee love Sydney. All right, Sydney, thank you

591
00:36:43,719 --> 00:36:47,880
Speaker 1: for being so honest and opening up. And I appreciate

592
00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: you trusting me with something so sensitive. Let's walk through

593
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 1: it and see what you got here. You're married, you're

594
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:58,759
Speaker 1: twenty years old, eight month little girl named Remington. So

595
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 1: that first of all that lanes that some women have

596
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 1: the severe postpartum depression. Okay, you're you're only eight month,

597
00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 1: eight eight months in with this little girl, So that's

598
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 1: I get it. The problem arises immediately when I see

599
00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 1: that you are living with your mother in law that

600
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 1: you don't get along with. She's going through a rough divorce,

601
00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 1: manipulative husband. Divorce has caused severe problems between you and

602
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:33,359
Speaker 1: your husband. This is a problem. First thing I'll say

603
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:36,479
Speaker 1: about this problem. First thing I'll say, and this really

604
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 1: goes with so many other problems. As you could you

605
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 1: could honestly say about the postpartum depression and about this

606
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 1: current living situation. You could say, this too will pass. Okay,

607
00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 1: this is a season. The depression due to the postpartum

608
00:37:55,480 --> 00:38:01,399
Speaker 1: is only a season. This living situation with your mother

609
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 1: in law is only a season. It's not gonna be

610
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 1: like this forever. It will get better on both fronts. Okay.

611
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: So that being said, I would if we were talking

612
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,839
Speaker 1: in a dialogue, I would push you on why your

613
00:38:19,920 --> 00:38:22,719
Speaker 1: husband is insisting on staying in a situation where his

614
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:27,359
Speaker 1: wife is knocking heads with his mother, and he could

615
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 1: see that that's causing such a severe rift in his

616
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:33,960
Speaker 1: own marriage that it's even to the point of considering

617
00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 1: divorce with his own wife because of the divorce that

618
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 1: his mother's going through. That's rough. And if I was

619
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 1: talking to him, I'd say, brother, what are you doing? Man?

620
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: What are you doing? I know you're trying to be

621
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: there for your mom and you're giving her a place

622
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:49,720
Speaker 1: to stage she's going through this, but look what it's causing.

623
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: This is causing damage, and you got an eight month

624
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:56,479
Speaker 1: old baby girl. Be careful with this. I would go there,

625
00:38:56,520 --> 00:39:02,440
Speaker 1: but let's go back to you. What to do, what

626
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 1: to do to get closer and nearer to God? Right,

627
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:08,480
Speaker 1: So it sounds like you're you're in this Bible routine,

628
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: you're praying. I love that. The one thing he didn't

629
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:18,600
Speaker 1: mention is finding a body, a church, a group of followers.

630
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 1: That's what we're called to do in the Bible. The

631
00:39:20,400 --> 00:39:24,600
Speaker 1: Bible says this, and so we find through I'm sure

632
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 1: you've seen it in your daily readings. But we need

633
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 1: to gather, we need to be with the group, and

634
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: we need to we need to become members of the group.

635
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 1: Not just casually going on Sunday and just you know,

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Speaker 1: backpew say hi, I leave. We need to be involved.

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Speaker 1: We need to plant ourselves within the church, in the body,

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Speaker 1: in the membership process, so that we could become members

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Speaker 1: and we could we could learn with everyone, and we

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Speaker 1: could allow them to pour into us, and we could

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Speaker 1: use whatever resources we have to pour into them and

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Speaker 1: whoever needs anything. It's a family and it becomes something

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Speaker 1: that everyone benefits from. So once you're in, you're implanted

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Speaker 1: in this body. And then they say Sydney is going

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Speaker 1: through tough time, and they're they're taking you to dinner

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Speaker 1: and they're praying over you, and they're taking you and

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Speaker 1: your husband together and you guys are talking and they're

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Speaker 1: they're trying to help all that they can with the marriage.

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Speaker 1: And it's this big group. There's you know, there's a

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Speaker 1: big body of people that's an army for you, fighting

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Speaker 1: for you and your marriage and your sanity. And you're

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Speaker 1: in through and over your depression and for your baby

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Speaker 1: girl and for your husband. This is this body. And

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Speaker 1: if you're not in a church that, if you are

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Speaker 1: going to church and you don't have a church that's

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Speaker 1: doing that, then it's it's I would consider looking for

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Speaker 1: a body of church that that does do that, that

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Speaker 1: takes their congregation and their members and pours into them daily.

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Speaker 1: Where these elders are coming together and going, how Sydney doing,

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Speaker 1: how city doing. We're gonna go buy her house. She's

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Speaker 1: suffering from postpartum, So we're gonna go to her house

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna bring her a meal tonight, her and

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Speaker 1: her husband. We're gonna talk about this, see how she's doing.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like you need that. We all need that.

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Speaker 1: I need that Sydney, my wife Amber needs that. We

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Speaker 1: need this group of believers. We can't live and be

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Speaker 1: Christians in a vacuum and just look at what paper

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Speaker 1: says that we should do. We need to see others

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Speaker 1: living it out. And you see others that are doing

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Speaker 1: this and praying and reading the Bible like you say

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Speaker 1: you're doing, and you could see the fruits of what's

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Speaker 1: happening to them, and it encourages you and you go, wow,

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Speaker 1: look at this, And then you meanwhile are encouraging someone

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Speaker 1: else you don't even know. They're like, I'm going through

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Speaker 1: rough time and I don't know what to do, but

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Speaker 1: I see Sydney over here, and I know what she's

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Speaker 1: going through, and she's just diligent and reading her Bible

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Speaker 1: and praying, and I love that about her, and that's

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Speaker 1: really encouraging to me. And that's your chance then to

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Speaker 1: pour in. And as you start serving and pouring into

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Speaker 1: this other family, you realize your own family's mending at

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Speaker 1: the same time. It's crazy when we serve how that happens.

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Speaker 1: That's my suggestion to you. And I love you guys,

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Speaker 1: all of y'all. Thanks for listening, and I will see

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Speaker 1: you next Monday. Yege, thanks for joining me on the

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