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Speaker 1: The Jibil Show on demand First Day Up. Jackson is

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Speaker 1: on the phone today for a first Aid follow up.

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Speaker 1: He's getting ghosted by a girl named Erica Jackson. How

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Speaker 1: are you? I'm pretty good? How are you good? Man?

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Speaker 1: You sound pretty good to getting ghosted. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if it's truly ghosted, but maybe holding off as or

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Speaker 1: I hang Honestly, you don't know if you're getting ghosted

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Speaker 1: or you don't think you're getting ghosted. No, I don't

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Speaker 1: think so. I just think. I mean, in short, he'll

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Speaker 1: get into it. But I think we just have a

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Speaker 1: pretty strong connection and that scared her a little bit,

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Speaker 1: which I totally get. I mean, I kind of get

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Speaker 1: that pretty often. So do you think that you scared her?

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Speaker 1: Maybe scared her is not the right word. But she

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Speaker 1: just said she wasn't currently looking for a relationship right now,

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Speaker 1: and I could That's fine, Like I'm kind of figuring

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Speaker 1: my own stuff out too. But we had a really

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Speaker 1: strong connection, and I think because of that, she's like,

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Speaker 1: probably can't hang out with that guy or all you

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Speaker 1: know that's around and fall in love. So, so, what

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Speaker 1: happened on the date and leading up to the date

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Speaker 1: that makes you feel like she was basically having a

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Speaker 1: love at first sight moment and was in was fighting it.

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Speaker 1: When we first met. We met up at we met

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Speaker 1: at this bar. Um there was like a little it's

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Speaker 1: like more like at the topics place. They have cocktails,

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Speaker 1: you know, all that good stuff. First she came up

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Speaker 1: to me really you know, which I thought was pretty cool,

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Speaker 1: and we found out that we both loved old fashions.

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Speaker 1: And then she was like, well, what book are you reading?

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Speaker 1: You know, and so we hit it off a little

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Speaker 1: bit about that. Um and uh, you know, she asked

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Speaker 1: me about the book. She thought it was intriguing. So

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Speaker 1: we hit it off and I was like, well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: let me get your number. Um. We ended up so

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Speaker 1: basically we was back to the same place. You know.

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Speaker 1: We texted for a little bit and I was like, hey,

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Speaker 1: after like you know, a couple of weeks some here

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Speaker 1: and there texting, but whatever. We were like. I was like, hey,

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Speaker 1: you know, I got some three times you want to

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Speaker 1: go back out there and uh, you know, get get

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Speaker 1: a couple of fashions and like a couple of small plates.

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Speaker 1: We got a pretty nice fancy shark hooterie board that

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Speaker 1: they were doing. Um, I thought we had some great conversation. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: the girl lit up the room. She was a great

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Speaker 1: way to say since humor. She asked me about my

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Speaker 1: life a little bit, I asked about hers, um, and

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Speaker 1: then you know, I didn't I definitely, you know, it

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Speaker 1: or whatever. But like I said, I thought it went great.

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Speaker 1: And then I just haven't heard from her since, so,

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Speaker 1: you know, to be honest, I think I do know

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Speaker 1: why she's ghosting, Like, and if I could just get

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Speaker 1: a couple of words, I think, you know, I think

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Speaker 1: and be okay with like potentially falling before me down

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Speaker 1: why she's ghost Yeah, And like I said, I mentioned

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Speaker 1: this at the beginning of time versation. UM, I really

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Speaker 1: just think she's scared of the connection that we have

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Speaker 1: because I don't think she's had that with anybody else recently,

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Speaker 1: you know, at least from what she said, her dating

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Speaker 1: just hesitant to continue to hang out with me for

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Speaker 1: fear of like getting in a relationships sooner than she

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Speaker 1: mean this could be a really good thing, you know,

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Speaker 1: get these lovers on the right path. You know. The

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Speaker 1: thing is is like I kind of I get this often. Um,

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Speaker 1: Like most girls don't want to just like mess around

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Speaker 1: with me, and they're like immediately they want to be

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Speaker 1: with me. And you know, I mean, you know, I

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Speaker 1: have a lot of qualities that people really like. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, confidence too, that's good? Well that going for you? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: all right, Well we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 1: out for you Jackson. We'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 1: and then call her and try to find out why

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Speaker 1: she's ghosted. Okay, what's your first day follow up? Next?

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Speaker 1: If you're just joining us for today's first date follow up?

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Speaker 1: Jackson is on the phone, and Jackson's a bit of

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Speaker 1: a catch, and he's not going to call back from

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Speaker 1: a date he went on with a woman named Erica Jackson.

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Speaker 1: Real quick. For anybody who's just joining us, why don't

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Speaker 1: you give us a recap of your situation? Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: we both go too we hit it off on a

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Speaker 1: book I'm reading um that we like old fashions with

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Speaker 1: I thought I was gonna, you know, lead to another one.

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Speaker 1: And I just haven't heard from her, and like I said,

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Speaker 1: And I I really just need to probably get her

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Speaker 1: All right, Jackson, We're gonna call her right now. Are

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Speaker 1: you ready. We'll see if we can figure out why

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Speaker 1: she's ghost Let's do it, all right? Hello, Hi, man,

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Speaker 1: I speak to Erica. Please. This is she Erica. How

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Speaker 1: are you? My name is jew Bowl from a radio

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Speaker 1: show called The Jewel Show. He's not by himself. Erica.

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Speaker 1: I'm Nina, I'm here. It's you. Hi, Annavatoria. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: what is this about. We do a segment on our

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Speaker 1: show and it's called the first Date follow Up where

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Speaker 1: if you go out on a date with somebody and

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Speaker 1: you end up getting ghosted, that person can email us

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Speaker 1: to get you on the phone and ask why you're

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Speaker 1: ghosting them. And we got an email about you from

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Speaker 1: one of our listeners. They say that you went out

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Speaker 1: on a date and now you're not calling them back.

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Speaker 1: Oh you did? Yes? Do you know who that is?

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Speaker 1: I think so? Yeah, his name's Jackson. Is that the

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Speaker 1: only person you're ghosting? I wouldn't really consider it ghosting.

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Speaker 1: I think it's just something fizzling out. I mean, it

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Speaker 1: uh huh okay, yeah. I mean I would say that

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Speaker 1: my gosh, just the more I talked to him, the

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Speaker 1: more just crazy things. He started saying that we're just

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Speaker 1: I mean, it was absurd. Do you know that he

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Speaker 1: your date. M Yeah, well, I guess that's his initial charm.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, he told me that his great grandfather's name

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Speaker 1: you know, I thought it was kind of crazy, but

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Speaker 1: you know, I did my research when I got back home. No,

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Speaker 1: there's no king Omari in Egypt. There's just not It's

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Speaker 1: just way too strange. What did you say to that?

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Speaker 1: You know, like what happened? I believe him that's a

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Speaker 1: was very shall we say confident. Confidence can be sexy

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Speaker 1: too much. Honestly, I really think he was just overcompensating.

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Speaker 1: Didn't feel, for some reason, comfortable enough to be himself,

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Speaker 1: so he said all these other things like, oh, my

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Speaker 1: he is the owner of the jelly Belly company. To

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Speaker 1: be honest, just after that, I really had no desire

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Speaker 1: He's been listening this whole time, and he wants to

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Speaker 1: talk to you whole time. So anyways, first, those emails

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Speaker 1: are real, and also it was not a Marii, it

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Speaker 1: was Omere, So I don't even know if you typed

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Speaker 1: and they're not even king, they're pharaohs. And I said

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Speaker 1: me act And you did say that you believe that

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Speaker 1: She's even she's just dialing more into that, saying that

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Speaker 1: but like, do you even hear yourself? Just the way

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Speaker 1: Like how dare I not believe your inheritance? And like

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Speaker 1: Like this just doesn't even make sense, Like you know,

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Speaker 1: we had a real connection. Oh my gosh, Okay, clearly

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Speaker 1: I do have like a pretty good amount of the

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Speaker 1: Like I don't buy it. They don't buy it. Like really,

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Speaker 1: it scares you that I come from royalty and like

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Speaker 1: you could be an heiress for that, but like you

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Speaker 1: really just you know, you need to just dig deep

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Speaker 1: because I know you want to. You and I both

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Speaker 1: know that you want to. Yeah, Erica, would you like

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Speaker 1: another date with Jackson? We'll pay for it. Yeah. No,

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Speaker 1: And actually I have to go right now. I have

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Speaker 1: somewhere to be And she hung up. Oh jack she took.

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Speaker 1: She's gonna call me back. I'm pretty certain of it.

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Speaker 1: But are you sure your want her to call you back?

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, just a little uh Russell and

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Speaker 1: Tussles has never heard anything true. Chivalry isn't dead, as

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Speaker 1: they Yeah, I told you, I come from royalty court.

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