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Speaker 2: Kiki yo, go all right, deer blog friends.

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Speaker 3: I'm at this point in my marriage planning wedding planning

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Speaker 3: journey where you know, we're considering pre marital counseling. So

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Speaker 3: a friend of mine hit me up last night. Her

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Speaker 3: mom is a very well established relationship coach and counselor,

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Speaker 3: so she reached out. She's like, Hey, my mom would

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Speaker 3: love to give you guys some free sessions.

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Speaker 2: Just let me know, yeah, if you would like to

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Speaker 2: do it.

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Speaker 3: And I was like, I don't know, I don't know

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Speaker 3: if I want to do it because I feel like

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Speaker 3: you can get into counseling and then some things can

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Speaker 3: come up, and you know, at this point, I paid

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Speaker 3: the deposit, the decorator is.

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Speaker 2: Booked, So what are we doing?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, now you know the wedding is happening, So I

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Speaker 3: don't know if we want to open up these can

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Speaker 3: can of worms or do I do it? And then

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Speaker 3: you know, we fight for our lives for the next

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Speaker 3: two years until it's.

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Speaker 2: Time to get married.

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Speaker 3: I just don't know, And so I put it on

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Speaker 3: the she like did did Paulina do it? Did Shelley

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Speaker 3: do it? Would you guys do it if you were

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Speaker 3: getting married? Like do you think it's a good idea

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Speaker 3: at this point?

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Speaker 2: Because I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Paulina went to GPT, That's how she had.

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Speaker 2: All I have to do, girl, use my account.

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Speaker 4: Honestly, if I could go back and do a couple

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Speaker 4: of things differently, I would have done that. Yes, because

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Speaker 4: I'm trying to go to a couple's therapy now, like

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Speaker 4: we're one foot in, one foot out, like you know

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Speaker 4: what I mean. Me, I'm in, like, let's go, but

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Speaker 4: it's hard to get to go to that and it's

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Speaker 4: it's frustrating, but like I'm working on it, but I

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Speaker 4: wish we did that because everything becomes an issue when

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Speaker 4: you're married, and you'll you'll see and I hate that

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Speaker 4: whole you'll see thing, but no, you really will, Like.

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Speaker 1: It's just not being done.

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Speaker 2: Like things hit.

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Speaker 4: Different now, and we're pretty we're a pretty solid couple

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Speaker 4: and like we hold each other down, so like we

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Speaker 4: don't really have fights like that, but our fights, you

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Speaker 4: guys know me, like they're petty, they're goofy. And I'm

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Speaker 4: always wondering. I've always wondered, like if we want to

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Speaker 4: therapy before or at least talked about these issues, would

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Speaker 4: we be encountering them?

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Speaker 1: What's his hesitation? Is it's cultural? Is it that he

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Speaker 1: just doesn't think you need it? Is it that he

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Speaker 1: doesn't he doesn't want to unearth anything? Like what do

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Speaker 1: you think his his reservation is.

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Speaker 2: I think it's all the above.

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Speaker 4: I mean, like, yeah, exactly, cultural, like he's Mexican, and

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Speaker 4: then culturally speaking, that's not really a thing that bothers me,

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Speaker 4: so I'm not a fan of that.

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Speaker 2: And then also too, i think he's a big.

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Speaker 4: Believer of like you know, mentality and like you'll just

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Speaker 4: like fighting through things and stuff, and it's like, I

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Speaker 4: hear you, brother, I'm fighting through my life here every day.

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Speaker 2: I'm finding every day here.

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Speaker 4: But I do feel like having an outside perspective somebody

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Speaker 4: coming in to help us resolve issues that keep occurring

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Speaker 4: in our marriage would be really nice and beneficial.

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Speaker 2: What is my sister is a OLM star Go ahead, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: you go.

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Speaker 1: My sister's a therapist, which is so that I preface

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Speaker 1: this by saying that she would subscribe to something like

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Speaker 1: this because it's what she does. But she and Colin

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Speaker 1: did go to a pre marital counseling in addition to

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Speaker 1: I think they were in counseling when they were dating,

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Speaker 1: and at first it was like WHOA, but I think

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Speaker 1: it was I think it was more sort of like

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Speaker 1: almost training and preventative, like to figure out how to

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Speaker 1: work through stuff to your point, Paulina, kind of before

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Speaker 1: it elevates into something that's really insurmountable and then you're married,

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Speaker 1: you know, learning communication styles and things like that. So

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Speaker 1: I mean, my sister would subscribe to that because it's

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Speaker 1: what she does. But the people I know who have

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Speaker 1: done it, I think you know have benefited from it. So, Kiki,

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Speaker 1: I think I think it's a good idea.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you know, I just I don't worry. I don't

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Speaker 3: want the man to come to his census. You know that.

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Speaker 2: I wondered, like, you know, like lock him down first.

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Speaker 3: I might do Paulina's method of like lock it down

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Speaker 3: first and then we can go to counsel.

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Speaker 2: I'm not you can't go anywhere.

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Speaker 3: No, But it's like, I don't know, because before you know,

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Speaker 3: I would always be like, yes, you should do pre

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Speaker 3: marital counseling.

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Speaker 2: I think absolutely, But now that it's me, I'm like.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, and I might find out I'm the problem.

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Speaker 2: What is your experience with therapy? Have you ever done it?

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Speaker 3: Yeahually child just dealing with grief of losing parents.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was very successful, was it?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 2: Okay, very success.

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Speaker 5: Because I've never heard it's an interesting fear of unearthing

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Speaker 5: new problem, Like I've never heard of couples deal with.

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Speaker 2: That by going through therapy.

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Speaker 5: I actually have a couple that I'm thinking of that's

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Speaker 5: married now.

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Speaker 2: It is interesting.

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Speaker 5: They had a hard time picking a man or a woman,

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Speaker 5: and they ended up going with a man, just because

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Speaker 5: she felt her husband would be more comfortable with that.

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Speaker 2: And I thought that was interesting.

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Speaker 5: Interesting, But I've never heard of new issues coming out

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Speaker 5: in therapy.

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Speaker 1: You but right, I got Kiki, I got news for you.

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Speaker 1: If you think he didn't know the crazy by now, right,

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Speaker 1: you ain't fooling anybody, Okay, he knows exactly what he's

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Speaker 1: getting into. So I I think you're safe. I don't

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Speaker 1: think there'll be any surprises. You're right, you're right, unless

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Speaker 1: you got a secret kid like waiting by the phone

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Speaker 1: or whatever, and then we got DNA testing anthenia, that's all.

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Speaker 1: That's a whole different thing.