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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com. Mac is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first day follow up and he's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a girl named Becca. So in a few

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Speaker 1: minutes we'll call her and see if she sell us

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Speaker 1: why she's ghosting him, and maybe get him another date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Mac, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 1: heard from Becca?

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Speaker 2: Been about a week since I've heard Summer.

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Speaker 1: Have you tried to reach out to her, Yeah, several.

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Speaker 2: Times, you know, texting and uh left the voicemail. Nothing.

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Speaker 1: So what was the last interaction you had with her?

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Speaker 2: Like, it was good. We we went on a date.

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Speaker 2: We met on him and then we we went to

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Speaker 2: this like little probably like a little quiet, romantic dinner

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Speaker 2: white qualth type place I like to go out. She's

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Speaker 2: more of a homebody. So after dinner we went back

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Speaker 2: to her place and you know, we had some wine.

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Speaker 2: You know, we didn't hook up or anything, but like

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Speaker 2: I spent the night and then everything went great.

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Speaker 1: Did you guys make in the same bed, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But nothing happened, Like we didn't. We didn't hook up,

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Speaker 2: like because we were really into each other. We both

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Speaker 2: were like yeah, I was, you know, agree, like take

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Speaker 2: a little slower because this is this is something good,

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Speaker 2: you know, So yeah, I just I'm really compete.

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Speaker 1: Did you guys like make out though? Like did you cuddle?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Okay, like we it's important. Okay, so that part happened.

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Speaker 3: So it's a very mutual attraction as well. Right, did

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Speaker 3: anything happen on the date that was like I don't know, weird, awkward, not.

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Speaker 2: That I could think of, like it just everything went

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Speaker 2: really well. And like I know when when you know,

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Speaker 2: I could be awkward or something happens like I've had

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Speaker 2: bad dates or whatever, but this doesn't didn't fall in

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Speaker 2: that category. So I you know, I thought everything was

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Speaker 2: going really well, like we really hit it off.

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Speaker 1: How were things when you said goodbye to her?

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Speaker 2: Uh? Being fine? You know it seemed like we would

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Speaker 2: like we were going to see each other again.

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Speaker 3: So did you stay there the whole night? Like did

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Speaker 3: you see each other in the morning or did you

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Speaker 3: slip out?

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Speaker 2: No? I, uh well, actually I left a note on

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Speaker 2: her pillow, like I slipped out. You know, she's still

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Speaker 2: asleep and I had to get up really good to

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Speaker 2: work and I didn't want to wake her. Up, so

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Speaker 2: like I left her a note.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well that's your.

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Speaker 2: I'm just that I had a really great time and

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Speaker 2: looking forward to seeing you again.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Then did you talk to her after that?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, we did have a conversation Okay I did.

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Speaker 2: We were hanging up, but I said, I love you jokingly,

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Speaker 2: but like go like scare her off.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Mack, you could have started there on the first. Mean,

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Speaker 3: some people would really enjoy that kind of a joke

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Speaker 3: because you're like you're on the right track.

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Speaker 4: Bro.

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Speaker 1: What did she do when you said that? She just

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Speaker 1: laughed and you told her it.

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Speaker 2: Was a joke. Yeah, Like I said, I was like,

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Speaker 2: I love you, like it was like a joke, Like maybe.

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Speaker 1: That could have been the like Paul, she knows it

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Speaker 1: was a joke. How was her laugh? Was it like

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Speaker 1: ha or Okay?

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Speaker 2: I mean we laughed together before, and like it seemed

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Speaker 1: Well, we'll trying to figure out where you to play

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Speaker 1: a song come back and then call her and see

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Speaker 1: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you and maybe

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Speaker 1: get you another date.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, cool, thanks.

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Speaker 1: Okay, we'll play a song, come back and get your

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Speaker 1: first day follow up next, Brins little your first day

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Speaker 1: follow up if you're just joining us. Mac is on

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Speaker 1: the phone and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Becca.

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Speaker 1: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 1: tell us why she's ghosting him. But before we do that, Mac,

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Speaker 1: why don't you catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we met on Hinge. We went on a date.

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Speaker 2: Everything was going really well, and we went back to

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Speaker 2: her place, had some wine. I say, the night. We

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Speaker 2: didn't pick up or anything, but we did make out.

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Speaker 2: Like you know, it was definitely comes from there. And

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Speaker 2: just let hern over on the pillow talk to The

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Speaker 2: following day, everything some fine, and then just I haven't

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Speaker 1: Did tell her that you loved Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a joke. My life. She was a joke.

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Speaker 2: I was joking.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, all right, well we'll see if that's it

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Speaker 1: over something else. Are you ready to call her?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go, Hello him asking Diecca Please?

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Speaker 4: This is she?

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Speaker 1: Hi Becca?

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 1: My name is Jewbel. I'm coming from a radio show

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Speaker 1: called the Jewel Show. Hi, Beck that I'm Nina also

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Speaker 1: on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 1: Hi, what's some girl?

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Speaker 4: Thank you? What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Not much? Have you listened to the show before?

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Speaker 5: I have?

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Speaker 4: I'm very familiar.

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Speaker 1: Great, thank you. We got an email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 1: That's why we're calling.

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Speaker 5: Oh god, okay, well this is a first date follow

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Speaker 5: up the segment where if you go out with someone

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Speaker 5: on a date and end up ghosting them, they can

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Speaker 5: email us to get you on the phone and ask

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Speaker 5: why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 1: And we got an email from a guy named Mac.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Mac, Okay? What did? What did Mac have to say?

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Speaker 3: That got real serious? He said that you're ghosting him.

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Speaker 3: And he said that he liked you a lot. He

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Speaker 3: thought you guys really bonded. Said that you guys snuggled

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Speaker 3: on your first date. You didn't do you know, all

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Speaker 3: the way stuff. He said, he.

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Speaker 1: Did tell us that part, but it was important.

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Speaker 4: Way.

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Speaker 1: Just we're doing a chemistry check. That's why we asked.

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Speaker 6: Okay, okay, so I guess we'll just cut to it.

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Speaker 6: I really liked him. Mac seems like a really good guy.

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Speaker 6: It was a great date.

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Speaker 4: I thought we were going somewhere.

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Speaker 6: I thought it had potential. And then there was a

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Speaker 6: phone call and we hung up, and then like twenty

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Speaker 6: minutes later he called me back, and so I answered

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Speaker 6: the phone and I overhear him talking to somebody, and

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Speaker 6: I realized.

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Speaker 4: It's a butt dial.

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Speaker 6: Oh right, And so he's talking to somebody and he's

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Speaker 6: from a rock is better termed very encouraging.

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Speaker 4: He was saying things like that's the baby, just like that? Baby?

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, baby like that? Yes, yes, oh, I'm hoping

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Speaker 4: it was a butt but and.

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Speaker 6: Not him like intentionally wanting me to hear him say

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Speaker 4: So I hung up because one, I don't know what

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Speaker 6: I was very upset because clearly he's not a good

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Speaker 6: guy and he's a player, and fine, like, move on

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Speaker 6: to the next one, leave me alone.

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Speaker 1: You never told him that you heard that?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Him?

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Speaker 4: Who? I mean something he does all the time. Okay,

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Speaker 4: I guess, I guess this is what he does.

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Speaker 6: He like spent the night and we had agreed. I

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Speaker 1: And this was like right after he left. Pretty much

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Speaker 4: So the next morning he called me, so we talked

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Speaker 4: and it was fine. And then twenty minutes later you

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Speaker 6: A woman and then you call me like are you

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Speaker 6: out of your mind?

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Speaker 1: I can understand why you're ghosting him then, because normally

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Speaker 1: that's not like. That doesn't make me anymore. I get that. Well,

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Speaker 1: thank you for telling us that.

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Speaker 2: Becca.

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Speaker 1: Also Mac is on the phone and wants to talk

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Speaker 1: to you.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I'm Mac. This is gross. You can't believe this

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Speaker 4: is gross. You spent the night in the house. We

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Speaker 4: had great days.

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Speaker 6: I thought that potential and then you but guile me

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Speaker 4: Who knows while you're doing who knows what? Who knows you?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 4: Is this a nom for gross?

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Speaker 2: I talked to you. I will.

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Speaker 4: Go ahead.

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Speaker 2: I have a puppy. She's been sick, she hasn't been

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Speaker 2: able to eat, and she's a little Maltese puppy named Baby.

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Speaker 2: She was finally storry to eat and I was encouraging

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Speaker 2: her like, come on, baby, there's no very good job.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna text you a picture of a baby right

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Speaker 2: now here you go.

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Speaker 1: Are you serious?

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Speaker 2: Yes? I have a puppy I have as Her name

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Speaker 2: is Baby. Her name is Baby.

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Speaker 1: Believable based on what you heard.

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Speaker 4: I want to I need to see this part I

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Speaker 4: just sent you, which.

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Speaker 2: I just texted you a picture.

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Speaker 1: Out.

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Speaker 3: Can you see yourself doing that to mister Peeves your dog? Yes, baby,

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Speaker 3: go baby, just like that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I guess I would cheer him on if

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Speaker 1: he was sick and he was finally eating, I would

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Speaker 1: interesting because the dog is named baby, right.

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Speaker 6: I do remember him saying, get in their baby, but

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Speaker 6: I don't.

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Speaker 1: Know, like getting the food.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was just really having it was eating. I

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Speaker 2: was just kind of cheer on. She had eating for

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Speaker 2: like today, so so I was really happy that she

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Speaker 2: was finally eating.

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Speaker 1: I mean this, this is true. That's actually really hilarious.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, well, okay, I can confirm there's a very cute

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Speaker 6: dog that has in the intact which as baby.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, well that's awkward. But if that's I mean,

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Speaker 1: that sounds like that's really what was going on.

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Speaker 4: I am so embarrassed.

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Speaker 3: I mean, in your defense, Becca, I mean, how would

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Speaker 3: any how do you take that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it didn't sound good.

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Speaker 2: But now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Okay, Well I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: Becca. Would you like to go on another date with Mac?

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Speaker 1: We'll pay for it and you can meet Baby.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, I'm is that yes? I would? Is he

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Speaker 4: open to that?

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Speaker 2: Sorry? Yeah? Of course. So I was wondering what happened

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Speaker 2: Like this is a huge misunderstanding. So I'm glad we

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Speaker 2: got it cleared up. Like, I obviously would love to

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Speaker 2: see you again. I don't want to a girlfriend player.

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Speaker 2: You do have to share me with baby though.

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Speaker 4: Gook care Jubile's first Date follow up