1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 1: A half million dollars that was all mine and not 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:08,799 Speaker 1: one centiment belonged to my ex because she agreed on 3 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: the lump sum. Hopefully we see what the lump sums. 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 1: I imagine it's significantly less. I didn't care that the 5 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,279 Speaker 1: money came from the church. I was hurting. I left 6 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:22,479 Speaker 1: New York shortly after I went to Idaho as. 7 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 2: Further money came from the church. So is there like 8 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 2: like cheating insurance or something. 9 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: Well, I mean, like I think he's saying it came 10 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:30,639 Speaker 1: from a church because like, oh, he's paid from the 11 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: church and he has to pay way. 12 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:34,480 Speaker 2: But so he took five hundred thousand dollars from the church. 13 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't. 14 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 2: My guess, there's no way the pastor is five hundred 15 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 2: thousand dollars saved or maybe he does, he has five 16 00:00:41,040 --> 00:00:42,239 Speaker 2: hundred thousand dollars saved up. 17 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 1: No, I think it's saying like he gets paid from 18 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: the church and then maybe maybe maybe you could be right. 19 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 1: But my guess is that it's like he's taking from 20 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: the church because it's like, but it's five hundred thousand 21 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 1: dollars lump some all at once. So I what it 22 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: sounds like the the the wife agreed to a lump 23 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 1: some payment from him. I don't know, so that the 24 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 1: half million that was all mine and not one cent 25 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:11,360 Speaker 1: belonged to my ex because she agreed on the lumps 26 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: I think he was talking about because she agreed on 27 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:16,560 Speaker 1: the lump sum of his payment to her. Read the 28 00:01:16,600 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 1: next sense, I didn't care that the money came from 29 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 1: the church. I was hurting. I left New York shortly after. 30 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:23,480 Speaker 2: I didn't care that the money came from the church. 31 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 3: So I guess he's starting about his salary like it 32 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 3: came from the salary, the dude salaries. 33 00:01:28,080 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 2: I think it like literally came from the church. 34 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: Maybe alone for that, I mean, it's totally if he's 35 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: if he's literally running the operation. Maybe he's just touch 36 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: Maybe he just snaked it. I mean, like he probably 37 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: he has access to all the bank accounts. 38 00:01:39,760 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 2: I'm sure I have a question. What what do you 39 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 2: think that means? In the chat? 40 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 1: Let us know. I imagine we'll probably get further context, 41 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:48,400 Speaker 1: but yeah, let us know in the chat. So I 42 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: left New York shortly thereafter, went to Idaho as furthest 43 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: away from New York as possible. There's further places, but 44 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,000 Speaker 1: I just picked a random state in the city and 45 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 1: I just left. I opened up a new shot, got 46 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: a house. But for two years I had trust issues. 47 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:04,760 Speaker 1: For two years, I saw a therapist, anger management. I 48 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 1: went to rade rooms. It was difficult until I found 49 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: myself going to a church, and ironically, that is where 50 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: I met my fiance. 51 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 2: Dude, man, girls, should you not learn your first church girl? 52 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 3: Oh, buddy, turn the other cheek things? 53 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 2: Yeah? 54 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: Oh he did, he turns. Joscely was wonderful. She just 55 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:32,000 Speaker 1: turned thirty at the time, and we just hit it off. 56 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: I told her everything that happened to me. I explained 57 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:36,600 Speaker 1: to her that I'm going to have trust issues, and 58 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:39,359 Speaker 1: she understood. A year later, she told me I was 59 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: going to be a dad and insisted that for me 60 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: to have a DNA a DNA test just so I 61 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:47,799 Speaker 1: can have peace of mind. 62 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 2: That's nice of her. W's nice of her. 63 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: And you know what, I love the communication where he's like, hey, 64 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:56,919 Speaker 1: I'm laying everything, I'm gonna have trust issues. She's like, 65 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: I'm I'm on board. You told me. And now she's like, hey, 66 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:03,440 Speaker 1: I'll do things like the DNA test to give you this. 67 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: This is an example of communicating your traumas and stuff 68 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 1: and then working through it as a couple. I love it. 69 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 1: Ba ba bap. I forgot what it felt like to 70 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 1: be happy again. And when my son was born, I 71 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: was overjoyed. 72 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 2: Oh dude, I I'm just again waiting for the other 73 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:20,079 Speaker 2: shoot to drop. 74 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 1: I called my grandmother for the first time in years. 75 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 1: She cried, and when I told her about my son, 76 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:27,800 Speaker 1: she insisted that I come to New York so she 77 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 1: could beat her great grandchild, guilt tripping me by saying 78 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 1: that she's ninety and would like to see me one 79 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: more time. And I agree, No, Grandma, you got to 80 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:41,560 Speaker 1: come to me. We fluted. Yeah. Opie's so used to 81 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: like after just winning all the chips, He's like, no, no, no, 82 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: I got I got the hand grain, Yeah, I got 83 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 1: the aces. We flew to New York, rented a car, 84 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: and drove to Bushwick. The one thing I dislike about 85 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: the hood, you'd only need to see one person from 86 00:03:56,000 --> 00:03:59,839 Speaker 1: your past, and the whole effing neighborhood knows that you're back. 87 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: My grandma liked that. 88 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 2: It's like cool community, community, community. 89 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 1: That history. You don't want anyone, Yeah you don't. Yeah, Yeah, 90 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: that's the ex. It's it's you should be like, oh hey, dude, 91 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: how you been? Oh yeah, blah blah. 92 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like hey yeah, the pastor the guy that 93 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 3: oh man, it's like, how's life been? 94 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 2: Joseph udel Burger, I said, is it a trap? I 95 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 2: see you? 96 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:35,840 Speaker 1: Oh oh great girl, Joseph. That's yeah. I think so. 97 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:37,799 Speaker 2: I had the whole family is there. It's an invention. 98 00:04:38,040 --> 00:04:43,039 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, give us the five grand Here we go, 99 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: here we go. So my grandmother saw my son met 100 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: my fiance and made an offshoot comment in Spanish about 101 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: her being white, and I just yes her to death. 102 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 1: I was like that. 103 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:00,920 Speaker 3: Uh. 104 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 1: I was planning to spend the week do the tourist 105 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 1: thing for once. It was Joscelyn's first time in her 106 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: life in the Big Apple, and I wanted to make 107 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:13,480 Speaker 1: it special. Dang it, nothing works out as planned. First 108 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:18,680 Speaker 1: my ex. First, my ex shouted my name from downstairs, Marissol, Marisol, 109 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: she's back. I looked out the window and was surprised, 110 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 1: and how fat she. 111 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 2: She's back and she's fat, big of than ever with 112 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:30,480 Speaker 2: a big bag. 113 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I want my bagk account of Well, 114 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:38,839 Speaker 1: that's all I can say. 115 00:05:39,240 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 2: She's at the bottom of the stairs. 116 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 1: Oh boy, So my grandmother told me in Spanish to 117 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:51,840 Speaker 1: talk to her, and Joscelyn agreed. Oh, Jocelyn agreed. So 118 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: I went downstairs. 119 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:54,480 Speaker 2: She's coming up. 120 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 1: Oh god. I went downstairs, was awkwardly silent for a 121 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:03,679 Speaker 1: and that anger just came back like a flood. Marisa 122 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: told me I looked good, and I said she looked 123 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:11,560 Speaker 1: like crap. She told me that she missed me, that 124 00:06:11,600 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: she had never been with another man's sense of divorce, 125 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: and I ignored her. She even had the audacity to 126 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: tell me that I'm a grandfather. Oh oh, Luna had 127 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:27,479 Speaker 1: a kid, no way, and I gave her a look. 128 00:06:27,880 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: Apparently Luna got with a decent guy and got knocked 129 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:34,280 Speaker 1: up at eighteen. Her baby daddy joined the Marines to 130 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: support him, and her father wanted nothing to do with her. 131 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:40,160 Speaker 1: He just pays the child support and refuses to acknowledge her. 132 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:44,360 Speaker 1: Oh the pastor, he's no longer a pastor. Oh, and 133 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 1: he is working at the Banco Popular two blocks over. 134 00:06:49,240 --> 00:06:52,560 Speaker 1: Then she told me that Luna named the baby after me, 135 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: and I couldn't stand looking at her. I love how 136 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: everything is like, she told me this thing. I absolutely 137 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,840 Speaker 1: hated it. She told me she loved me. I told her, 138 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: I absolutely hate her. Marisol wanted me to wait because 139 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 1: Luna was on her way over, and I just walked away. 140 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 2: Damn. 141 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: I went to my grandmother's house and I didn't have 142 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:13,320 Speaker 1: to tell Joscelyn anything. 143 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:15,560 Speaker 2: I really want the cousin to be back. I want 144 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 2: to I want to see the pastor, and I just 145 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 2: did not. 146 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:22,920 Speaker 1: I saw him. I I'm surprising actually didn't get an 147 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 1: assault charges or issues in the Yeah, but this is like. 148 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 2: Neighborhood. 149 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, turn your cheek when you get hit like low key, 150 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: like if anyone deserves to get smacked around, is cousin pastor? Uh, 151 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 1: cousin cousin pastor. Oh god, she knew and we just 152 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:44,320 Speaker 1: left in the elevator. I told her what happened, and 153 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: she smiled and told me that everything was gonna be 154 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: all right. The look on Marisol's face when I left 155 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: the building, she was looking at my fiance like she 156 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: was the other woman. And Jocelyn, without missing a beat, 157 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: introduced my son to her. Well. She said, I would 158 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 1: like you to meet his biological child. Cold dang, because 159 00:08:08,480 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: he hasn't had biological drug exactly, dude. That was a 160 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 1: knife twist, but she knew my pain. Marisol kept trying 161 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:19,600 Speaker 1: to stop me from leaving, telling me that Luna felt 162 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: bad about what she did, and you did good, good, 163 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: Jesus Christ. 164 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:28,160 Speaker 2: She just felt bad. She didn't like send a postcard. 165 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 2: There's freaking some flowers. Sorry. I hated you that. 166 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 1: She kept telling me that Luna felt bad at what 167 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 1: she did, and Joscelyn wanted me to make amends, but 168 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 1: I was so angry. I hopped into the car, ignoring 169 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: Marisol's please, and Joscelyn told me to extend an olive branch. 170 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 1: So I gave her my number so Luna could call me, 171 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 1: and I left. At the red light, I saw my 172 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 1: cousin and I don't know what came over me. I 173 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,559 Speaker 1: got out of the car, ran up to him, beat 174 00:09:00,559 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: the crap out of him. Joscelyn was screaming telling me 175 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: to stop, and when we locked eyes, I could see 176 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: the fear. I spit on him and left. 177 00:09:10,920 --> 00:09:13,559 Speaker 2: He didn knock him out, dude, but close, close, close. 178 00:09:14,200 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: I'm back home, working, being a dad and a good 179 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:20,199 Speaker 1: fiance to a beautiful woman. Yet since going back, when 180 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: I'm alone with my thoughts, my anger comes back. Luna 181 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:26,120 Speaker 1: did text me with a picture of her son smiling 182 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,360 Speaker 1: and telling me that she was sorry for what she did. 183 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: Yet I don't know if she's sorry that she missed me, 184 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:35,160 Speaker 1: or if she's sorry because she wanted me to be 185 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: her father, if she was sorry that the man she 186 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 1: wanted to be her father wasn't the man she thought 187 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: she was. 188 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 2: She sorry she's missing out of that five hundred k 189 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:45,600 Speaker 2: and more. 190 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:49,840 Speaker 1: Dude, bro Opie's Opie's got it, got it made I 191 00:09:49,920 --> 00:09:53,240 Speaker 1: like that. I'm so confused, and I'm scared to reach 192 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:55,440 Speaker 1: out to her. I wanted to get past this. I 193 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:58,680 Speaker 1: wanted to move on. My family was everything, my daughter 194 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:02,120 Speaker 1: was my world, and he after all these years, it 195 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:05,320 Speaker 1: still hurts, still makes me angry. But I need to 196 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:08,160 Speaker 1: move on, but it's hard. I want to reach out 197 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: to Luna, but I'm so scared. I have people telling 198 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 1: me to let her back in, But all I could 199 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 1: think about are those text messages and lies, the constant lies. 200 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: I need help and my usual methods are not working. 201 00:10:20,640 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 1: Thank you for reading this. I needed to vent. Like 202 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: I mentioned, I don't care if you think this is fake. 203 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:28,839 Speaker 1: I really don't give our rats, but Tody, but your 204 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:33,719 Speaker 1: help is appreciated, and there is a fat update. We're 205 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 1: only we're only halfway through. 206 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 2: There's an update. 207 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:39,959 Speaker 1: Oh, there's an update, my friend. We're only halfway down here. 208 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: Oh okay, we still have a hole. However much we 209 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: just did left to go, waiting for the months to 210 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:48,240 Speaker 1: approve this. It's been a while, and yesterday was Father's Day. 211 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 1: Luna tried calling me several times and I looked at 212 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:53,760 Speaker 1: the phone. I wanted to answer, but I didn't. I 213 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:57,040 Speaker 1: kept all I kept lingering in my mind. All that 214 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 1: kept lingering in my mind was those messages, what she 215 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: said to her mother, to a real father, her friends. 216 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:05,080 Speaker 1: So I ignored it. Eventually I listened to her voicemail, 217 00:11:05,080 --> 00:11:08,559 Speaker 1: and she sounds so cheerful. She briefly apologized to her actions, 218 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 1: but to me, it didn't sound sincere just passive. Maybe 219 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 1: I'm overthinking it. She mentioned about her son, her fiance 220 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: and asked me to call her simple requests, and I 221 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: became infuriated. My grandmother and my fiance are telling me 222 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: to give her a chance. But when I asked my 223 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 1: grandmother if Luna or Marisol ever asked about me in 224 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 1: those four years I left, she said Marisol did constantly, 225 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 1: but not Luna. So in my twisted mind, I think 226 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:37,960 Speaker 1: Luna wants me in her life to have her child 227 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:41,839 Speaker 1: taken care of. It's possible, it's you know. 228 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 2: But you know, like like, let's see what Luna says. 229 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:49,199 Speaker 1: We'll see, we'll see. Yeah, I think it's way unfair 230 00:11:49,200 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 1: to judge it right now. Or maybe she wants to 231 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:54,880 Speaker 1: milk me. And that made me so angry. Even Marisol 232 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:58,720 Speaker 1: tried calling me constantly, and I'm already thinking about changing 233 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:01,600 Speaker 1: my number. So I spent the majority of Father's Day 234 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 1: in the gym hitting the heavy bag, and I have 235 00:12:03,920 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: an appointment today with an anchor management group. Maybe they 236 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:10,079 Speaker 1: can give me an outside opinion. If this ever gets 237 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:11,960 Speaker 1: published by the mods, I would like to get your 238 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: opinion as well. We're here. In the meantime, I'm just 239 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: figuring this out on my own. There is another update. 240 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:20,760 Speaker 1: I think we're gonna get a series of updates and 241 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:23,079 Speaker 1: we're gonna keep going. So I would like to thank 242 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: uh Lujian Fiji for two for his advice on sending 243 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:30,520 Speaker 1: an email as a start. I sent an email to 244 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 1: Luna that simply said, what do you want didn't expect 245 00:12:34,240 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 1: the multi paragraph response. She sent the email profusely apologizing 246 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 1: for how she acted. She said, she found out I 247 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: wasn't her father, She said she when she found out 248 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:46,000 Speaker 1: I wasn't her father, she was angry. She confronted her 249 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 1: mother and she cried, making her promise not to tell me. 250 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:53,440 Speaker 1: Since she felt lost, she began to talk to my cousin, 251 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:56,680 Speaker 1: her real father, more and more. He told her of 252 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 1: my violent past, the things I used to do, things 253 00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: that I kept secret from her. So now we're finally 254 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 1: getting to how the well was poisoned. This made her angry, 255 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:08,880 Speaker 1: and the more they spent time together, the more she 256 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:12,000 Speaker 1: pulled away from me. She said. She felt bad from 257 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:15,520 Speaker 1: time to time, but my cousin would reinforce her negative 258 00:13:15,559 --> 00:13:19,600 Speaker 1: feelings towards me. The day of the king Signeta, she said, 259 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:23,199 Speaker 1: while we were dancing, she realized how stupid she was acting. 260 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 1: Remember when he was like she came to me smiling 261 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: ya literally, How tragically prophetic is it that in the 262 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 1: like mere minutes before it would all go down? 263 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:41,080 Speaker 2: Oh, the texts, The texts were constant throughout though. 264 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 1: And afterwards, but not until that moment. But but uh, 265 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 1: if my memory started me correctly, chat correct me if 266 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:51,560 Speaker 1: I'm wrong. He still had the iPad and he kept 267 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: collecting texts as evidence. After the King Signira. 268 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, which would mean and there felt like there 269 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:04,599 Speaker 2: was no there was no change in the context of 270 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 2: the text. The whole time. It wasn't like as it 271 00:14:07,679 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 2: was getting close to the Kincierra, she was like feeling 272 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:13,800 Speaker 2: better about her feelings. It was pretty constant throughout that 273 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 2: whole time. 274 00:14:14,440 --> 00:14:19,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, she said. She realized how stupid she was acting. 275 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: She realized how much I loved her, and then her 276 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 1: messages appeared on screen. In the days that followed, she 277 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: was told by my wife's side of the family to 278 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: give me space, to not call me, and she listened. 279 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 1: She said she was watching her family fall apart because 280 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: of her, and she couldn't do anything to fix it. 281 00:14:36,520 --> 00:14:38,920 Speaker 1: She told me she understood why I did what I did, 282 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,320 Speaker 1: yet she wanted to reach out. Her grandfather kept telling 283 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: her that I loved her, that I raised her, and 284 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: despite what I saw through her messages, I will do 285 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:50,280 Speaker 1: the right thing, and she believed him. During the divorce, 286 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,320 Speaker 1: her mother fell into a dark place, not talking to her, 287 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 1: barely eating. She was just existing when she found out 288 00:14:56,800 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: that my name was removed from her birth certificate. She 289 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,480 Speaker 1: said she had a panic attack. Her mother told her 290 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:03,600 Speaker 1: that they will have to move back to Brooklyn, and 291 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 1: when she asked about her life in school, her mother 292 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 1: told her that was the life your father gave you, 293 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: and he's not your father anymore. So she called me begging, 294 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: and I cursed her out and then hung up. That's 295 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,440 Speaker 1: the call. Where's like? What about? Are you gonna keep 296 00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:22,600 Speaker 1: paying for private school? I don't want to move back here. 297 00:15:22,640 --> 00:15:25,720 Speaker 1: I'm scared, She cried for days. She tried to reach 298 00:15:25,760 --> 00:15:28,840 Speaker 1: out to my cousin the pastor, who pretty much ignored her. 299 00:15:28,960 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 1: She even went to the church and he told her 300 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 1: to leave and called her a mistake. 301 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 2: Wait, but wasn't that like the cousin was trying to 302 00:15:38,400 --> 00:15:39,800 Speaker 2: get close to Luna and stuff. 303 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:44,360 Speaker 1: And then my theory there just to f just to 304 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 1: f with Op, just to f with Op. Maybe it 305 00:15:48,440 --> 00:15:51,080 Speaker 1: was like, I think this guy's in maniac and I 306 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:53,720 Speaker 1: think he again, he didn't want to introduce them. I 307 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: think he always liked Marisol. He got with Marisol afterwards 308 00:15:57,120 --> 00:15:59,840 Speaker 1: as some kind of you know, weird psychotic whatever's going 309 00:15:59,920 --> 00:16:03,960 Speaker 1: on in his crazy brain? And then I think he 310 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:10,200 Speaker 1: liked the validation of the girl of Luna, being like, oh, 311 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 1: you're my real father, you know, I want to spend 312 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 1: time with you, like I'm excited to be with you. 313 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: And he was just doing it for the ego boost 314 00:16:16,520 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 1: of like, yes, you know, I'm gonna be this great 315 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:22,000 Speaker 1: father whatever. And then as soon as it wasn't advantageous 316 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 1: or wasn't feeding his ego, yeah, dude, done it sounds 317 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 1: like a psycho. She went to He called her a mistake. 318 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:33,560 Speaker 1: Her mother refused to talk to her, basically locked herself 319 00:16:33,600 --> 00:16:35,680 Speaker 1: in her room, only leaving to use the bathroom or 320 00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 1: take a shower. She begged her grandfather to take her 321 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 1: to see me, and when they came to Long Island, 322 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:45,160 Speaker 1: she learned I had moved away. Her grandfather told her 323 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: that he will talk to my grandmother and find out 324 00:16:47,920 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 1: where I went. For the next two years, according to her, 325 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 1: it was hell. The entire neighborhood knew what happened to 326 00:16:53,640 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: her and her mother. Her father avoided her at all 327 00:16:56,520 --> 00:16:59,400 Speaker 1: costs and tried not to pay child support. It took 328 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:03,560 Speaker 1: her grandfather threatening him to start paying. In the meantime, 329 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:05,879 Speaker 1: her mother didn't talk to her she was just locked 330 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:07,959 Speaker 1: in her room. The few times they did speak, she 331 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,960 Speaker 1: called her an ungrateful girl, and she was the reason 332 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:16,440 Speaker 1: she lost the love of her life. Hmm hmmm. Her 333 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:18,600 Speaker 1: grandmother had to put her mother in her place by 334 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 1: telling her that her infidelity was the reason she lost 335 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:23,280 Speaker 1: the love of her life, and she locked herself back 336 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 1: in the room. So Luna barely stayed home, and that 337 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:28,040 Speaker 1: was how she met the father of her childs. He 338 00:17:28,080 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 1: worked in the corner bodega and they were the same age, 339 00:17:30,600 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 1: and after a few months of talking, one thing led 340 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: to another and she ended up pregnant her grand group huh, 341 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 1: a fer group. Indeed, her grandfather was furious, but when 342 00:17:42,359 --> 00:17:45,320 Speaker 1: her boyfriend insisted that he would marry her, that cooled 343 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:48,879 Speaker 1: things down. Luna said her pregnancy was a blessing in disguise. 344 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 1: Her mother began talking to her again and even began 345 00:17:52,080 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 1: leaving the room to be by her side for every checkup. 346 00:17:55,280 --> 00:17:58,440 Speaker 1: Being a senior in high school while pregnant was cliche, 347 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:01,200 Speaker 1: but she made it work. A month before the baby 348 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:04,360 Speaker 1: was born, she graduated and her boyfriend joined the Marines. 349 00:18:04,760 --> 00:18:07,359 Speaker 1: He wanted to a lowe before leaving, but she wants 350 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:10,480 Speaker 1: a real wedding, a full wedding. Her boyfriend had no 351 00:18:10,520 --> 00:18:13,920 Speaker 1: issues naming his son after me. Apparently his own father 352 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:16,600 Speaker 1: was absent, and the fact that he was a junior 353 00:18:17,240 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 1: was a reminder that he shared the name of a 354 00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:21,720 Speaker 1: man who didn't want him. 355 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:27,280 Speaker 2: What was that like he was junior? Like like John Junior, yeah, JJ. 356 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 2: But so like it's like, all right, John, I'm your 357 00:18:31,320 --> 00:18:34,360 Speaker 2: father and I named you Sam Junior. So I'm like, fuck, 358 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:37,000 Speaker 2: I don't watch you. Then I leave, and then now 359 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:39,000 Speaker 2: you are named after someone who didn't watch you. 360 00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:42,359 Speaker 1: And then and then now you are married to a 361 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:45,239 Speaker 1: girl that their father also didn't want her, and they 362 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:48,360 Speaker 1: were like, can we name him after my dad? He's 363 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: like sure, true, yeah, yeah. He's like, don't know the 364 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 1: real dad that was? That was in the scenario the 365 00:18:53,520 --> 00:18:53,880 Speaker 1: whole time. 366 00:18:53,920 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 2: The only real dads the person that named me doesn't 367 00:18:59,880 --> 00:19:03,120 Speaker 2: want me, Yeah, the person whose name I have. 368 00:19:03,760 --> 00:19:06,119 Speaker 1: So when she heard I was in town, she got 369 00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:08,480 Speaker 1: a speeding ticket trying to get to my grandmother's apartment. 370 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:11,159 Speaker 1: She wanted to see me. However, when she was late, 371 00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:13,879 Speaker 1: she cried. When her mother gave her my number. She 372 00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:16,879 Speaker 1: wanted to call me immediately, but the entire neighborhood was 373 00:19:16,920 --> 00:19:20,520 Speaker 1: talking on how I beat her father up, so she waited. 374 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:23,960 Speaker 1: Her mother was sad to see that her Her mother 375 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:25,800 Speaker 1: was sad to see that I moved on and have 376 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:28,199 Speaker 1: a son. Luna was happy to know that she had 377 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 1: a little brother, but her mother became a little bit 378 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 1: more depressed. I felt sorry for Marisol. Oh. First, this 379 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:38,239 Speaker 1: is the first time after I read the email, I 380 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:40,800 Speaker 1: called Marisol and asked her if this was all true, 381 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:43,359 Speaker 1: that she refused to talk to Luna for years and 382 00:19:43,400 --> 00:19:47,320 Speaker 1: blaming her for our divorce. She confirmed it, and at 383 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:50,000 Speaker 1: first I yelled at her, but I regained my composure 384 00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 1: when I heard her crying. I told her to move 385 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 1: on find someone else, but she said no. She told 386 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:57,959 Speaker 1: me that I was her husband and I will alwait 387 00:19:58,080 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 1: and I will always be her husband. 388 00:20:00,119 --> 00:20:00,840 Speaker 2: Not legally. 389 00:20:01,560 --> 00:20:04,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of not true anymore. It broke my 390 00:20:05,040 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 1: heart a little. Uh. I then had my grandmother go 391 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 1: to see my cousin so I could talk to him, 392 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:17,719 Speaker 1: you know, talk number one, talk number two. The second 393 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:21,359 Speaker 1: he the second he heard my voice, he began to 394 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,119 Speaker 1: cry and he begged me to forgive him. So I 395 00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 1: knocked him out. No, I just asked him. Asked him 396 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:31,119 Speaker 1: a question. I asked him, I do you want to knuckle? 397 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:36,800 Speaker 1: That's a great question. I asked him why he didn't 398 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:40,040 Speaker 1: want to be a father to Luna. Why he poisoned 399 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 1: her against me? And he said it was envy. He 400 00:20:45,520 --> 00:20:50,080 Speaker 1: was in love with Marissol. We freaking called called called 401 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:51,480 Speaker 1: in this story. 402 00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:58,080 Speaker 2: The note stradamis of Reddit right here, Ladies, gentlemen, huh why. 403 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,359 Speaker 1: He was in love with Marisol and I took her 404 00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:04,320 Speaker 1: from him when I was arrested. He consoled her, manipulated 405 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:07,520 Speaker 1: her and barely lasted a second with her, And she 406 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:10,360 Speaker 1: realized what she had done and shoved him off her, 407 00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:14,720 Speaker 1: but he already came. Literally, that's not a euphemism, ladies 408 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:18,880 Speaker 1: and gentlemen. Damn when she found out she was pregnant. Dude, 409 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:22,639 Speaker 1: he barely lasted a second. But one shot, Carl, he 410 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:23,600 Speaker 1: sent it in Ye. 411 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 2: Sold, you. 412 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:28,400 Speaker 1: Lasted through. 413 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:34,200 Speaker 2: It's freaking having a one mirose of the UK special sauce. 414 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 1: Everyone's so fertile here, what the hell? Yeah? 415 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:40,439 Speaker 2: Also, the UK special Sauce is a reference to the 416 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:44,399 Speaker 2: fact that UK Secret servicemen used seamen to write secret 417 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:45,200 Speaker 2: notes to each other. 418 00:21:45,119 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: We're not talking about the navy. So so when she 419 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:53,720 Speaker 1: found out she was pregnant, she knew the baby was his. 420 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 1: They both knew it was supposed to be a secret. 421 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:01,480 Speaker 1: Marisol took her double hysterectomy is God's punishment for her 422 00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:06,480 Speaker 1: infidelity and deceit. When Luna turned thirteen. Uh, he was 423 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:09,960 Speaker 1: drunk seeing my life an envy was the one sin 424 00:22:10,080 --> 00:22:14,880 Speaker 1: he couldn't shake, the one sin you couldn't shake. Oh 425 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 1: my god. So he wanted to ruin it, and he did. 426 00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:23,240 Speaker 1: I told him, when we see each other again in Hell, 427 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: I will be his eternal torturer and hung up on dude. Dude, 428 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,199 Speaker 1: the way I'm sorry, but the way he hates on 429 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: this guy is just I don't know why I love 430 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 1: it so much, so much fear. He's like, every time 431 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:38,200 Speaker 1: you seem gonna knock you out. When we both get 432 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:42,440 Speaker 1: to Hell together, I'm still He's like, oh my god, 433 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 1: I will knock you out for eternity. Joscelyn was there 434 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:50,199 Speaker 1: for me. She told me that everything will be okay. 435 00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:53,240 Speaker 1: What a woman. Oh my god, dude, Yeah, Jocelyn. I 436 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,119 Speaker 1: feel like Jocelyn's like she's like, hey, go to forgive 437 00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:58,440 Speaker 1: her and she's she holds him down like Jocelyn. Yeah, 438 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 1: Joscelyn's this is Josh Church girl should be right, Yes, 439 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:06,000 Speaker 1: exactly exactly. Luna and I chatted back and forth through email. 440 00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:08,840 Speaker 1: I spoke to her on the fourth. She spent over 441 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,560 Speaker 1: an hour crying while talking to me. I even spoke 442 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 1: to her boyfriend, who asked me permission to marry her. 443 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,679 Speaker 1: I guess it's kind of a wh I thought it 444 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,159 Speaker 1: was funny but honorable. What if What if he said, like, 445 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:26,359 Speaker 1: ask for real, dad, dude, another chance to just do 446 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:30,480 Speaker 1: the dunk? But he didn't take it. He's good. Uh. 447 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 1: My wedding is next month and Jocelyn wants me to 448 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:36,760 Speaker 1: invite Luna. At the same time, Luna wants me to 449 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:41,280 Speaker 1: give her away for the wedding and nover just kidding, 450 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:41,720 Speaker 1: just kidding. 451 00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:42,399 Speaker 2: Uh. 452 00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,919 Speaker 1: My future father in law sat me down and told 453 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:48,639 Speaker 1: me that he couldn't grasp my situation but respect the 454 00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:49,320 Speaker 1: road I took. 455 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:51,560 Speaker 2: Barely grasp the situation. 456 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:57,240 Speaker 1: This is no can because the road to save his 457 00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:01,320 Speaker 1: little girl gave him a handsome grandson, a future son 458 00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:05,080 Speaker 1: in law that he would kill for. That made me laugh, 459 00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:07,080 Speaker 1: But he told me that I need to let go 460 00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:11,479 Speaker 1: of the anger and start forgiving, but never forget. And 461 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:16,000 Speaker 1: he's right, dude, Opie's gotten some character developed character development 462 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:17,000 Speaker 1: out the wazus. 463 00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:18,680 Speaker 2: I like to see. 464 00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 1: So we gave Luna an invite to my wedding, even 465 00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,399 Speaker 1: offered to pay for their plane ticket with that sweet 466 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:31,440 Speaker 1: five hundred grand sitting bakaga. Yeah for real. Her boyfriend 467 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,000 Speaker 1: or should I say fiance, said that he will work 468 00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 1: it off at my garage when they arrive. I kind 469 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,240 Speaker 1: of like him. So as for me giving her away, 470 00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 1: I don't know yet. Let's see how the wedding happens. First, 471 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,720 Speaker 1: his wedding. Thank you again for the advice and the 472 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,840 Speaker 1: few dms. No one was rude or disrespectful. A miracle. 473 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:53,760 Speaker 1: Another miracle. You guys helped me so much. I'll update 474 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,600 Speaker 1: if something happens, but for now, I guess I'll get 475 00:24:56,640 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 1: things ready for my wedding next month. You think it's done, 476 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,879 Speaker 1: Oh it's not done. You think it's over, No way, 477 00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:11,640 Speaker 1: keep your butts say that, no way, because not only 478 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:14,479 Speaker 1: is it what might fight might be the final update? 479 00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 1: Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. I think we get 480 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 1: to see the weddings. A lot has happened in such 481 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:22,879 Speaker 1: a short window. Again, I would like to thank the 482 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,320 Speaker 1: large number of supports within the DMS. Of course they 483 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,200 Speaker 1: were hate messages, but I would call to say those 484 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,560 Speaker 1: But all I could say to those people, what you've 485 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,080 Speaker 1: done and what I did are two different mindsets, and 486 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,840 Speaker 1: until you go through the same situation or something similar, 487 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:39,919 Speaker 1: don't tell me how I should have felt. Leading up 488 00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: to the wedding, I was already on eggshells. Jocelyn was 489 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:45,760 Speaker 1: the happiest. I was the happiest I've ever seen. My 490 00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:48,080 Speaker 1: in laws were freaking out due to the number of 491 00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:50,840 Speaker 1: people that were coming. I swear I think the whole 492 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: town came. While all of this was happening, I was 493 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,439 Speaker 1: an hour and a half away in Boise, waiting for 494 00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,000 Speaker 1: Luna and her family to arrive at the airport. In 495 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 1: the days leading up to a what is It? We 496 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:05,320 Speaker 1: spoke a lot, her mostly crying, apologizing, and me just listening. 497 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,520 Speaker 1: And when she couldn't speak anymore, I was talking to 498 00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:11,879 Speaker 1: her fiance, who was more down to earth. When the 499 00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:15,240 Speaker 1: plane landed, I was so scared not foreseeing her again. 500 00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:17,679 Speaker 1: But I was afraid due to my anger. I was 501 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,720 Speaker 1: afraid that I would lose my temper. The second she 502 00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:23,480 Speaker 1: saw me in the terminal, she ran to me crying, 503 00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:27,199 Speaker 1: and for split second I saw my daughter when she 504 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 1: was seven years old. It was weird picturing a child 505 00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:37,000 Speaker 1: in my mind. She ran screaming, daddy, and the second 506 00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:40,359 Speaker 1: she hugged me, she began to cry loudly. It was 507 00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,959 Speaker 1: a wail that caused so many people to look at us. 508 00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:47,440 Speaker 1: She just kept saying sorry over and over again, asking 509 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,439 Speaker 1: me to forgive her, and I just held her for 510 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:53,199 Speaker 1: over fifteen minutes. She refused to let me go. It 511 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:55,600 Speaker 1: took her fiance and I to convince her to do so. 512 00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,760 Speaker 1: It was as if it was as if she felt 513 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,439 Speaker 1: the second she let go, I was going to vanish. 514 00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:07,000 Speaker 1: After she composed herself, her fiance properly introduced himself, and 515 00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:09,880 Speaker 1: then they introduced me to their child. I won't lie. 516 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:11,119 Speaker 2: I cried. 517 00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 1: I wasn't angry, but I cried holding the infant. Luna 518 00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 1: was also the spitting image of her mother when she 519 00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:24,800 Speaker 1: was nineteen, which made me wonder about Marisol. During the 520 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,040 Speaker 1: drive home, we talked about her fiance's boot camp, how 521 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 1: he's going to be a career man, how Luna was 522 00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,680 Speaker 1: going to college, online to learn accounting, and mostly just 523 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,920 Speaker 1: catching up on conversations. When we arrived at my house, 524 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,600 Speaker 1: Joscelyn and her family had a spread ready for them. 525 00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:43,920 Speaker 1: Since we've been together, Joscelyn learned how to cook Spanish food, 526 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,560 Speaker 1: but the week leading up to Luna's visit, she went 527 00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:49,439 Speaker 1: a little overboard. Yet I get it. She wanted to 528 00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:52,840 Speaker 1: make a good impression. Her and Luna just hit it off. 529 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,159 Speaker 1: Every few minutes, Luna would walk towards me and just 530 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:57,240 Speaker 1: give me a quick hug and go back to Joscelyn. 531 00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:04,120 Speaker 1: I was just holding my son and my grandson, oh Bro, 532 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,840 Speaker 1: while Jocelyn was introducing Luna to her family. I put 533 00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:10,000 Speaker 1: the babies to bed and I went to the porch 534 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:14,160 Speaker 1: for some fresh air. Luna's fiance was standing was standing 535 00:28:14,200 --> 00:28:16,359 Speaker 1: by the foot of the yard staring at all the 536 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:21,200 Speaker 1: bisons roaming around. Dude, he's got a sick bad dude. 537 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,400 Speaker 1: It is backyard. There's bison, bison. 538 00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:24,800 Speaker 3: Bro. 539 00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:29,439 Speaker 1: That's insanity. For a moment, I wanted to give him 540 00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 1: the dad talk, but I felt like it wasn't my place. Instead, 541 00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:35,480 Speaker 1: I asked him how he liked the view, and he 542 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,600 Speaker 1: was awestruck. He's like, hey, man, how do you like 543 00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:41,640 Speaker 1: my crib? Cost five hundred grand? I know the feeling. 544 00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:44,240 Speaker 1: Living in the city the majority of your life. Wide 545 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,120 Speaker 1: open spaces are a marvel to take in. After a 546 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,239 Speaker 1: minute or two, he looked at me and told me 547 00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:52,560 Speaker 1: how regretful Luna was. I've been with your daughter for 548 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,680 Speaker 1: three years, and not one day goes by when she 549 00:28:55,840 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 1: mentioned how much she misses you and how she regrets 550 00:28:58,800 --> 00:29:02,240 Speaker 1: what she did out of everything, he told me that 551 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:07,640 Speaker 1: single sentence constantly replays in my mind her fiances. Her 552 00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,680 Speaker 1: fiance's name is Roberto. For a man who is nineteen 553 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,560 Speaker 1: years old, he acts and talks like a man in 554 00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 1: his thirties. That tells me he had a rough life. 555 00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 1: To mature quickly. I know the feeling. The following day, 556 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,240 Speaker 1: I had to go to a shop and Luna practically 557 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,440 Speaker 1: jumped in the car with the baby. Even Roberto told 558 00:29:25,480 --> 00:29:28,200 Speaker 1: her that it was okay and to enjoy yourself. Luna 559 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,680 Speaker 1: looked like she was going to hyperventilate, and I told 560 00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 1: her that we'll work a half day and I'll spend 561 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,760 Speaker 1: the rest of the day with her. That seemed to 562 00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 1: do it, and I slowly began to realize how traumatized 563 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:42,760 Speaker 1: Luna was. During the drive, I asked Roberto how bad 564 00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:46,600 Speaker 1: was she? She has severe abandonment issues, constantly afraid that 565 00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:48,920 Speaker 1: he's going to leave her, despite him telling her that 566 00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 1: he will never do that. She calls him a lot, 567 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: a bit clinging at times, and in the beginning, afraid 568 00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,320 Speaker 1: to be herself in fear that they will just break up. 569 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,560 Speaker 1: He had to reaffirm his love for her just so 570 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 1: she could let her guard down a little. This was 571 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,560 Speaker 1: my doing, I know that, but he doesn't blame me. 572 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 1: He told me he completely understood why I did what 573 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:14,640 Speaker 1: I did. Allow me to say that Roberto is a 574 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 1: terrible mechanic. He knows nothing about cars, so I had 575 00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 1: him clean up the shop so he could work off 576 00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,320 Speaker 1: the plane tickets. We closed early, and when we arrived, 577 00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:29,600 Speaker 1: Luna practically ran towards me. She looked unhinged. I told 578 00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:31,920 Speaker 1: her that I'll be back, and she went to her fiance. 579 00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:35,200 Speaker 1: When I walked into my house, Joscelyn told me that 580 00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:37,440 Speaker 1: Luna needs to be reminded that everything is going to 581 00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,560 Speaker 1: be fine, that I won't leave her again. Joscelyn again, 582 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:45,760 Speaker 1: just coming in. Jos's the rock, just absolute g I 583 00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,400 Speaker 1: didn't know what to say, but Jocelyn grabbed my hand 584 00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 1: and told me that Luna is hurting and she needs 585 00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 1: her father. For the next couple of days, I spent 586 00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,760 Speaker 1: all of my time with Luna, getting reacquainted with her. 587 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,760 Speaker 1: I told her I took her to my in law's ranch, 588 00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:03,120 Speaker 1: and I showed her the bisons, the elks, and took 589 00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 1: her on a hike. Two days before the wedding, I 590 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:09,320 Speaker 1: apologize to her for leaving. I apologize for the way 591 00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:13,680 Speaker 1: I acted. I apologized for the actions I took. She 592 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:16,000 Speaker 1: didn't want to hear any of it. She told me 593 00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:18,719 Speaker 1: there's nothing that I should apologize for. She said she 594 00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:21,320 Speaker 1: knows she was the reason why it fell apart, and 595 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:23,760 Speaker 1: that she knows it was her fault, and I had 596 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:26,320 Speaker 1: to stop her. I began to cry and I told 597 00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,800 Speaker 1: her it wasn't her fault at all. I was angry, 598 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:33,000 Speaker 1: I was hurting, and despite what had happened, I should 599 00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:36,840 Speaker 1: be the one who apologizes. We both cried and just 600 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:42,040 Speaker 1: held each other. By the way, if you want to 601 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 1: shed a tear with us, come join us every week 602 00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:50,120 Speaker 1: at three pm PST. For moments like these. 603 00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 2: Just tap our profile. 604 00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:59,480 Speaker 1: Just tap her profile now Luna appears to be slightly better. 605 00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,280 Speaker 1: On the day of my wedding, she was happy. In 606 00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:05,239 Speaker 1: the last minute, Jocelyn made her into a bridesmaid and 607 00:32:05,320 --> 00:32:11,080 Speaker 1: Roberto into a groomsman. That's adorable, dude. The wedding was beautiful. 608 00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,760 Speaker 1: During the reception, I asked the DJ to play the 609 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,080 Speaker 1: song from lunas Kingstonieta, and I asked her to dance 610 00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:19,120 Speaker 1: with me. She was crying the entire time from trauma 611 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,520 Speaker 1: or love? Whodos holding on to me for dear life? 612 00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,680 Speaker 1: As we danced. I haven't felt this happy in a 613 00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,840 Speaker 1: long time. I let Luna and her fiance stay in 614 00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:32,120 Speaker 1: my house taking care of her little brother while I 615 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,920 Speaker 1: went to Hawaii for my honeymoon. When we got home, 616 00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,400 Speaker 1: she was happy. She hugged, she hugged us, and it 617 00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:41,520 Speaker 1: felt great. Roberto told me that he's going to Camp 618 00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,400 Speaker 1: Dwire in Afghanistan and would like to know if Luna 619 00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:47,000 Speaker 1: could stay near us. He would pay for an apartment 620 00:32:47,000 --> 00:32:49,520 Speaker 1: near us until he could buy a house. Of course, 621 00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,400 Speaker 1: I said yes. They went back to the city the 622 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:56,640 Speaker 1: day before yesterday. Like I said, it's been eventful. Luna's 623 00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,400 Speaker 1: wedding is in November, and Roberto is leaving in December. 624 00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:03,480 Speaker 1: Roberto sent me will constitute as a year's rent for 625 00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:06,640 Speaker 1: a townhouse community three miles away from my house. However, 626 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:10,200 Speaker 1: Joscelyn suggests that we should put a double wide on 627 00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:13,440 Speaker 1: our property for Luna and to let her save money 628 00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 1: to buy a house, when Roberto yes, sack. So Marisol 629 00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,120 Speaker 1: has been blowing up my phone and based on the 630 00:33:22,160 --> 00:33:27,440 Speaker 1: messages she left, she is not happy that Luna's moving. Dude, 631 00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:30,880 Speaker 1: you ignored her for like three years. What come on, dude, 632 00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:36,000 Speaker 1: she was. I'm confused by that right now. My focus 633 00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:40,080 Speaker 1: on my family and to mend my relationship with my 634 00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:47,720 Speaker 1: daughter is that it and ya, dude, I feel like 635 00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,440 Speaker 1: we just watched a movie. 636 00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:52,240 Speaker 2: I was riveted. 637 00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:57,040 Speaker 1: Dude, what a great day, What a great story? One 638 00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:58,560 Speaker 1: of our story? 639 00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:03,400 Speaker 2: Oh my dad, I think that story is my favorite 640 00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:10,719 Speaker 2: story that we've read stop potentially in at least in 641 00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,959 Speaker 2: recent memory. And I'll be I'll admit my memory does not. 642 00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,040 Speaker 1: Go that far back. We've read so many stories, but 643 00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:20,439 Speaker 1: of recent memory that is, Oh, I think so too, 644 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:24,200 Speaker 1: because I mean, dude, just the like you have this 645 00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:27,200 Speaker 1: guy who was like he had his flaws, but he 646 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:28,840 Speaker 1: was trying his hardest, right, he was. He was, he 647 00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,000 Speaker 1: was still living with his flaws. He had the worst 648 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:34,920 Speaker 1: thing possible imagine to him. And to come full circle 649 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:38,160 Speaker 1: and be able to finally forgive himself, forgive all the 650 00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,440 Speaker 1: people that hurt him, and and now all of this 651 00:34:41,600 --> 00:34:44,920 Speaker 1: good coming out of it, and and and the like beautiful, 652 00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:47,719 Speaker 1: Just dude, I'm imagining, dude. The end credits of the 653 00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,400 Speaker 1: scene is the sun setting on the bison roaming in 654 00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: the pastures. I know his babies, him, you know his 655 00:34:54,680 --> 00:35:01,520 Speaker 1: whole family there, so good. Marisol crying at McDonald's just beautiful. 656 00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:05,400 Speaker 2: I gotta eat those feelings. But if you want to 657 00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:12,440 Speaker 2: eat us out, you should make sure you subscribe. Maybe 658 00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:14,400 Speaker 2: in another another life we'll save that. 659 00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:15,080 Speaker 1: We'll save that. 660 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:17,880 Speaker 2: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe. 661 00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:20,280 Speaker 1: We love you, and say it tomorrow.