Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, it's Bobby. It's Sunday.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna play some clips here from some of
Speaker 2: the podcasts that came out Hang Out because Amy talked
Speaker 2: with Stephen Young, founder of Home Street Home. It's a
Speaker 2: homeless ministry that is really a great story. On the
Speaker 2: Bobby Cast, I talked with Darius Rutger about his new book.
Speaker 2: It's really the untold story of hooting the Blowfish and
Speaker 2: a lot of the pain that his biological father left behind.
Speaker 2: Things got pretty emotional for me and him. Check out
Speaker 2: that episode if you haven't, but I want to play
Speaker 2: a clip from that. Here's my conversation with Darius.
Speaker 3: Hi, your dad, relationship with your dad?
Speaker 4: None?
Speaker 5: None?
Speaker 4: That was It's funny because I'm a I was reading
Speaker 4: I was doing the the uh.
Speaker 1: What do you call it?
Speaker 3: Audiobook for the book, and I'd read it.
Speaker 4: I've read it a couple of times, and I started
Speaker 4: reading the parts about my dad, and that's the only
Speaker 4: part that I was like choking up. I was like, really,
Speaker 4: because I didn't know how much it bothered me until
Speaker 4: I wrote the book. I didn't know how much it
Speaker 4: really just shaped my life and bothered me my whole
Speaker 4: life until I wrote the book and then I was like, wow,
Speaker 4: that was that really really bothered me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's real.
Speaker 2: I had those issues with writing my first book because
Speaker 2: with a lot of stuff about my mom before she
Speaker 2: died and her and same, I was like I didn't
Speaker 2: understand like how fundamentally, like even misunderstood I was to myself, Yeah,
Speaker 2: until I like put it out and then I'm like, well,
Speaker 2: I got to evaluate and then even debating on putting
Speaker 2: it out, So putting it on paper or writing it
Speaker 2: was the first set then going do I really want
Speaker 2: to send this? Yes, and like having that conversation of
Speaker 2: how on committing to it and then you're right, reading
Speaker 2: it back was really hard.
Speaker 4: There was some that was tough with the dad stuff
Speaker 4: was stuff, but there' stuff in the book where you know,
Speaker 4: as you're writing it, you're writing it and you know
Speaker 4: you're you're laughing or whatever, you're you're whatever, or you know,
Speaker 4: but then when you read it.
Speaker 3: Back a couple of times, you go, wow, wow, you
Speaker 3: know crazy.
Speaker 2: Did you have a new appreciation for the younger version
Speaker 2: of you at times who's gotten through some real serious
Speaker 2: crab Yeah?
Speaker 4: I really that was something that also happened. That's perfectly
Speaker 4: saying I got a really more respect for me and
Speaker 4: an appreciation for me because all the stuff, all the
Speaker 4: negative stuff and the positive stuff, but all the stuff
Speaker 4: that happens that happened when I was younger. Man, I
Speaker 4: wouldn't go to let anything stop me from doing what
Speaker 4: I wanted to do.
Speaker 2: And if it were another kid who you saw from you,
Speaker 2: you'd be like, so proud of that freaking kid. You'd
Speaker 2: be like, I cannot believe that kid's doing it. But
Speaker 2: if it's us, we're like, no, we're just surviving. There,
Speaker 2: We're you know, we're in the middle of it. We
Speaker 2: don't really understand except survive absolutely, and.
Speaker 3: So same for me.
Speaker 1: I had.
Speaker 2: It's weird to say an appreciation for that kid who
Speaker 2: got through.
Speaker 3: Like all that crap.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, and that book was a real therapeutic.
Speaker 4: That's that's exactly what it was. And that's one of
Speaker 4: the reasons I wrote it. And I didn't even realize
Speaker 4: that was one of the reasons to go once again,
Speaker 4: you started writing, you start writing it, and you're reading
Speaker 4: it back and stuff's coming in and you read.
Speaker 6: It and you're you're going wow, wow.
Speaker 4: You know, you're proud of yourself, but you're also like, wow,
Speaker 4: life really through some curveballs in there.
Speaker 2: Did you ever get the the stage of as you're
Speaker 2: writing it, like, man, I'm so over me, Like, I'm like,
Speaker 2: nobody cares that much.
Speaker 3: I mean, I went through all yeah, that's just like
Speaker 3: I was, It's all about me.
Speaker 5: I was writing about me and me and me.
Speaker 3: I'm like, God, nobody cares.
Speaker 4: I called Clarence, my manager, and said, dude, why are
Speaker 4: we doing this. I was like, no one's going to
Speaker 4: buy this book. Nobody cares about my life. I was like, dude.
Speaker 4: And then you know, you're you're worried about some of
Speaker 4: the stuff you're putt in. You're like and you're like,
Speaker 4: am I really going to put.
Speaker 5: That in there?
Speaker 4: And then you put it in there and you're like,
Speaker 4: nobody's going to care about that. You know, like even
Speaker 4: even you know, now you know, I've written a book,
Speaker 4: and I still like, no one's gonna care about.
Speaker 2: This same I had the same feeling, and I remember
Speaker 2: being ashamed not of what I put in it, but
Speaker 2: ashamed of the potential feelings I could have when people
Speaker 2: were judging me.
Speaker 3: And so you're, yeah, that's oh my goodness.
Speaker 2: So you're you're at the stage now where people and
Speaker 2: it's so different than music though, because you're going to
Speaker 2: put out this book and you're gonna be like, all right,
Speaker 2: I read it for people to tell me and take
Speaker 2: us like forever to read a book, so you just
Speaker 2: kind of they it's a slow roll of like people.
Speaker 2: But there was a part in my first book where
Speaker 2: my mom was struggling and she was a bad attic
Speaker 2: and she had called and I started to make a
Speaker 2: little bit of money and she was like, if you
Speaker 2: don't give me money. I love my mom, so I'm
Speaker 2: gonna say that. But there was a where she was like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to do porn. And that was really heavy
Speaker 2: and hard on me, but it was also it made
Speaker 2: me realize how awful it was for her, and like
Speaker 2: I knew, but I didn't really like yeah, but when
Speaker 2: she called and threatened me, like I'm going to do
Speaker 2: porn if you don't send me money. I had that
Speaker 2: where I was like, I don't know if I should
Speaker 2: put this in the book, but because of what I
Speaker 2: had to develop, because so I put it in with
Speaker 2: the context around it, and I thought people are going
Speaker 2: to judge me, or people are going but That's the
Speaker 2: thing when I would go do shows that people would
Speaker 2: be like, not the exact same story, but fairly, that
Speaker 2: people will be like. That's what I related to the most. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And that was the part I felt that I was
Speaker 2: going to be the judge the most on. Was that
Speaker 2: type of stuff, Yeah, the really personal stuff absolutely. So,
Speaker 2: the fact that you have those feelings like I'm proud
Speaker 2: of you, because that means you put it out there.
Speaker 4: Oh, I put it out there for sure. This is
Speaker 4: one thing I talked about in the book where I
Speaker 4: don't see my dad from the time I'm like thirteen
Speaker 4: or fourteen till twenty eight, fifteen years Nope, not a word,
Speaker 4: never saw its face.
Speaker 3: You know where it was, Yeah, fifteen minutes from my house.
Speaker 3: You know, he lived right up the road.
Speaker 4: And never saw him fifteen years and then let him
Speaker 4: it hits and things that start getting crazy.
Speaker 6: And we're playing.
Speaker 4: We're playing out a string of clubs and rooms that
Speaker 4: we had booked and uh so we're playing in Charleston
Speaker 4: at the King Street Palace, which used to be Charleston
Speaker 4: County Hall, and I'm having dinner after soundcheck and he
Speaker 4: walks in the room.
Speaker 3: Do you know it's him, Yeah, Dean.
Speaker 4: Dean knew it was him before I say anything, like Dean, Yeah,
Speaker 4: Deana Basis. We're sitting there eating and Dean looks up
Speaker 4: and goes, I mean he just looked at me. Oh
Speaker 4: that's gotta be your daddy, looks just like it's like
Speaker 4: it is. And he walks over and he talks to
Speaker 4: me and actually really acts like you know. We saw
Speaker 4: each other yesterday and I decided I'm going to be
Speaker 4: the bigger man. And I was like, you know, cause
Speaker 4: really you have so many conflicting things. I'm like, am
Speaker 4: i gonna just blow this goulf? I'm gonna tell him?
Speaker 4: What are you doing here? I've being seen you in
Speaker 4: fifteen years?
Speaker 5: You know? Get away?
Speaker 4: No, I said, all right, I decided I was going
Speaker 4: to be the bigger man. Try to develop some kind
Speaker 4: of relationship with him. So we talked for a little
Speaker 4: while and I give him my phone number. This before
Speaker 4: cell phones. I give my phone number and go on
Speaker 4: the road for a couple of days. And I get
Speaker 4: back to my house and I checked my answer machine
Speaker 4: and he's on my answer machine. And the first message
Speaker 4: he left me in my whole life, I haven't talked
Speaker 4: to him for fifteen years. He asked me for fifty
Speaker 4: thousand dollars. It was shocking. I was like, are you
Speaker 4: kidding me? And painful and expected me to give it
Speaker 4: to him.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and here you are hopefully investing yourself back into something.
Speaker 2: And the first that's I like, that hurts my heart
Speaker 2: because that's just that's so painful and I can unders
Speaker 2: being mad and like I can't believe it, but also
Speaker 2: big time.
Speaker 7: Because that's your freaking dad, and maybe and you know,
Speaker 7: and when he came with I'll never forget like reading
Speaker 7: reading back of course, like we were talking about it,
Speaker 7: you know, therapeutic, and I'll never forget after him coming
Speaker 7: and us going on the road, how I just felt like, Okay, cool,
Speaker 7: now dad and I were going to have a relationship.
Speaker 4: We'll try to have some kind of salvage something for
Speaker 4: father and son relationship out of this. And that was
Speaker 4: the first thing he asked. He asked me, and I
Speaker 4: don't think we've ever really had a conversation after that.
Speaker 8: Good cass up road, little food for yourself.
Speaker 5: Behaved.
Speaker 8: It's pretty beautiful, man, beautiful that.
Speaker 5: A little more family because.
Speaker 2: Said he k you're kicking out with Full Thing with
Speaker 2: Amy Brown.
Speaker 9: Hey, it's Amy Brown from Four Things with Amy Brown.
Speaker 9: And here's what we talked about this week on my podcast.
Speaker 9: Do you have a load that you'd be willing to share?
Speaker 10: I have to go back to Christmas Eve of twenty thirteen,
Speaker 10: at the beginning of the year, I'd made a promise
Speaker 10: to myself that I would never spend another holiday season
Speaker 10: alone on the streets. Up to that point, had done
Speaker 10: practically everything I could think of to try.
Speaker 6: To get off the streets.
Speaker 10: As we've talked before, it's not easy and nobody can
Speaker 10: do it alone.
Speaker 6: They've got to have help.
Speaker 10: And I was tired, and each day that went by
Speaker 10: it seemed I was getting closer to that being the
Speaker 10: life that I was going to live forever, and I
Speaker 10: I couldn't handle that.
Speaker 6: I didn't want to handle that, I didn't want to
Speaker 6: deal with it.
Speaker 10: So a little bit before the holiday season, I realized
Speaker 10: that the promise I had made to myself at the
Speaker 10: beginning of year not to spend another holiday season on
Speaker 10: the streets, the only out I could see to keep
Speaker 10: that from happening was to end it on my terms,
Speaker 10: and so I checked in to Hallmark in on Trinity
Speaker 10: Lane in Nashville, Tennessee. And that is done with a
Speaker 10: sense of sarcasm. Because the room was nineteen dollars, I think,
Speaker 10: so that tells you how luxurious it wasn't but it
Speaker 10: was Hotel California for me. I was going to check
Speaker 10: in and I had no desire to check out. I
Speaker 10: had made the decision that I was going to end it,
Speaker 10: and I was okay with that. I was calm to
Speaker 10: a degree. But I realized that that's how far I
Speaker 10: had sunk. But for the grace of God, I would
Speaker 10: have succeed. People have asked me, and we've talked about it,
Speaker 10: and well what happened? Well, I wish I could tell you,
Speaker 10: because I went from sitting at that little table with
Speaker 10: the pills in front of me, a few letters that
Speaker 10: I had written to a few people, not knowing if
Speaker 10: they would ever get them or read them. I was ready.
Speaker 10: I was done hurting. I was done going to bed
Speaker 10: at night, falling asleep, hoping I didn't wake up the
Speaker 10: next morning. The next thing I know, I hear a
Speaker 10: knock on the door and I'm startled. I'm shocked, and
Speaker 10: I'm going, who's knocking at my door? Because nobody knew
Speaker 10: I was there, and I had looked at the clock
Speaker 10: earlier that was beside the bed, and it was nine
Speaker 10: o'clock Christmas Eve, and I thought, good a time as
Speaker 10: any well, when that knock on the door came and
Speaker 10: it startled me. I was sitting there for a minute,
Speaker 10: and then another knock followed it, only this time there
Speaker 10: was a voice with the knock, and it said, sir,
Speaker 10: are you staying or are you checking out? And as
Speaker 10: I looked at the door, I caught the clock again
Speaker 10: and it set eleven o'clock. But it wasn't eleven o'clock
Speaker 10: Christmas Eve, it was eleven o'clock Christmas Morning, and I
Speaker 10: was like, what the heck? I cleaned my language up.
Speaker 10: I think I used something a little more colorful back then,
Speaker 10: and I was kind of in a state of shock,
Speaker 10: and I reached into my pocket and I pulled out
Speaker 10: what money I had left, and I counted it out
Speaker 10: and I said, I'm going to stay another night. I'll
Speaker 10: come down and pay in just a minute. So I did,
Speaker 10: and that was the beginning of my journey back. I
Speaker 10: would like to tell you at that moment, that was
Speaker 10: my come to Jesus minute.
Speaker 6: But it wasn't.
Speaker 10: I wasn't there yet because, as you know, knowing my past,
Speaker 10: God and I did not get along for many, many years.
Speaker 10: But it was the beginning and March of twenty fourteen,
Speaker 10: I walked off the streets. So my lowest turned into
Speaker 10: my highest, and I've not looked back. What I thought
Speaker 10: was me giving up was really me letting go. And
Speaker 10: it wasn't until I was ready to let go of
Speaker 10: trying to fix things that God saw the opening and
Speaker 10: he took it to fast.
Speaker 9: Forward you fourteen hours that you can't explain right right
Speaker 9: where you're like, how did I get here?
Speaker 11: Right?
Speaker 10: And he took that opportunity. And I tell people now,
Speaker 10: whether they're homeless or people that I counsel with and
Speaker 10: people that I know that are down, I go. You
Speaker 10: wanted to change, let go, let go of the past,
Speaker 10: let go of the pain, let go of the hurt,
Speaker 10: because until you do, there's no room for anything else.
Speaker 6: And there's got to be room.
Speaker 9: And thankfully, y'all, you were not successful no in twenty
Speaker 9: and thirteen, because the lives you've been able to impact
Speaker 9: since then are countless at this point. And you celebrated
Speaker 9: your sixty eighth birthday this year. Thanks for reminding me, yes, yes, hey,
Speaker 9: we got to celebrate that because you know, come a
Speaker 9: long way, yes from that hotel room, which I think
Speaker 9: is a perfect setup into another point that you posted
Speaker 9: that really moved me, called sixty eight years of yesterday.
Speaker 9: So I'd love for you to read that one.
Speaker 10: Next, sixty eight years of yesterday. There was a time
Speaker 10: when the odds of me reaching this point weren't very good.
Speaker 10: Yet here I am, and in the quiet early morning
Speaker 10: hours before the sun puts a spotlight on this day,
Speaker 10: I can't help but look back and try to put
Speaker 10: my pass in perspective and ponder what may lay ahead.
Speaker 10: I was so self absorbed that I never considered what
Speaker 10: it would feel like to reach this stage of my life.
Speaker 10: I never thought I would, and I wasn't sure I
Speaker 10: wanted to. Most people spend decades preparing for their later years.
Speaker 10: I spent that time living only for the moment, with
Speaker 10: total disregard for the future. Now I find myself hoping
Speaker 10: I'm around for a while longer. Did life go the
Speaker 10: way I'd hoped or planned? I can't say, because I
Speaker 10: wasn't much for doing either. I think that luxury disappeared
Speaker 10: from my life when I was twelve. But as I
Speaker 10: sit here and try to describe it, I'm transported through
Speaker 10: the years on a whirlwind recollection that seems surreal at
Speaker 10: best and unreal at worst. Regrets. Oh yeah, Still, I'm
Speaker 10: blessed because I have lived long enough to change my story.
Speaker 10: It wasn't until recently that I questioned or cared if
Speaker 10: my existence would have counted for something. Would I pass
Speaker 10: on without it having had a positive impact in this
Speaker 10: world or leave having made a difference, even if just
Speaker 10: in a very small way. I wasted so many years,
Speaker 10: But I thank God for never giving up on me
Speaker 10: and for allowing me time to hopefully make a difference.
Speaker 1: We're gonna do it live. Oh the one, two, three,
Speaker 1: sore losers?
Speaker 8: What up, everybody? I am lunchbox. I know the most
Speaker 8: about sports. I'll give you the sports facts, my sports opinions,
Speaker 8: because I'm pretty much a sports genius, y'all.
Speaker 1: It's Sison. I'm from the North. I'm an alpha male.
Speaker 1: I live on the North side of Nashville with Bayser,
Speaker 1: my wife. We do have a farm. It's beautiful, a
Speaker 1: lot of acreage, no animals, a lot of crops hopefully
Speaker 1: soon corn pumpkins, rye. I believe a little fescue to
Speaker 1: be determined. Over to you, coach.
Speaker 8: And here's a clip from this week's episode of The
Speaker 8: Sore Losers. And here's a clip from one of and
Speaker 8: here's a clip from one of the episodes this week
Speaker 8: on the Sore Losers. Take this clip and play it
Speaker 8: and betting. I guess if it's a push, you get
Speaker 8: your money back. But in Vegas it's that roller coaster.
Speaker 1: So if you went up to the ticket window and
Speaker 1: they just gave you the same money you gave them,
Speaker 1: it's not the bubbles. Rather lost it. It's sort of
Speaker 1: like a sid It rips at you and then you go.
Speaker 8: Let's double back and get some more baby honey to
Speaker 8: the ATM.
Speaker 1: You either want to win or you want to lose,
Speaker 1: and you want to be on the ground drunk reaching
Speaker 1: for an airport bottle.
Speaker 8: It's like a hand of black jack. It's like the
Speaker 8: emotional roller coaster that you're saying. You put, like, you
Speaker 8: up your bet and let's say you go to fifty
Speaker 8: dollars on that hand and you're like, okay, this is
Speaker 8: you're betting twenty five a hand or whatever.
Speaker 1: What's a minimum at the Aureo.
Speaker 8: Oh, now it's the minimum in a lot of places.
Speaker 8: Vegas is getting so expensive. And Brandon Hill he was
Speaker 8: not happy with our Vegas advice. Uh, and he put
Speaker 8: he goes, since the coachers are retired from Vegas, let
Speaker 8: me give that guy suggestions. And he wrote out a
Speaker 8: whole article and I said, hold on, we're not retired.
Speaker 1: We're hanging on. Yeah, that was depressing. We'll be back.
Speaker 8: Yeah, we're gonna make a special trip just to get
Speaker 8: our name and our credentials back. Anyway, it's like a
Speaker 8: hand of blackjack. You put fifty dollars out there, you
Speaker 8: up your bet and you flip it over and you
Speaker 8: get a twelve. You're like, oh my god, you gotta hit.
Speaker 8: And the dealers showing nine.
Speaker 1: Lunch is Tonia to not hit? Okay, buddy, thanks, I'll
Speaker 1: decide And.
Speaker 8: I'm like, all right, gotta hit. And you get a three.
Speaker 8: You're at fifteen. He still has nine. Got to hit again.
Speaker 1: I'm hitting again. Then you get up. I don't eas
Speaker 1: you to tell me I'll hit again. Then you get
Speaker 1: an a. So now you're at sixteen. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm staying I'm staying. No, you can't stay at sixty. No, sir,
Speaker 1: you're not telling me how to play. I'm staying at sixteen.
Speaker 1: And then you hit again. No I said I was
Speaker 1: staying at sixteen.
Speaker 8: And you get a three and you're like oh yeah,
Speaker 8: or you get a four twenty and you're like twenty.
Speaker 1: Hell yeah.
Speaker 8: Like now the emotions because you started with a twelve,
Speaker 8: you're like, oh, this is a losing hand because he
Speaker 8: has nineteen. The dealer has nineteen, and you're like and
Speaker 8: then you battle and battle and get those little cards
Speaker 8: in little cards and you're like, oh, yeah, I got twenty.
Speaker 8: Then they flip it over and they have a nine
Speaker 8: and a six, so they have fifteen. You're like, oh
Speaker 8: my god, okay, bus pus plus, I'm gonna bus bus
Speaker 8: And then they flip over a five and you're like twenty.
Speaker 1: Oh it's a push. It's a push.
Speaker 8: But the emotional roller coaster you just went on of
Speaker 8: Oh I'm gonna lose too. Oh, up on the top,
Speaker 8: I'm gonna win. Oh push h It's sort of like
Speaker 8: that in the soccer game.
Speaker 1: Ye're just giving me my money back. Awesome, I'll just
Speaker 1: re bet. Thank you.
Speaker 8: Eye in the sky. It was just like our soccer game.
Speaker 8: We were down three to two, then we think we're
Speaker 8: up for three, but then it's back to three three
Speaker 8: and we ended the sigh and it was just like, oh,
Speaker 8: after thinking we scored the winning goal.
Speaker 1: I know it sounds a little counterintuitive, but you want
Speaker 1: to lose it or win it and then say every
Speaker 1: another drink, honey, go to the ATM or high five,
Speaker 1: high five, we won, we won. You look to your buddy.
Speaker 1: Should we double down?
Speaker 8: Yeah, we pushed, man, That means we're gonna win the
Speaker 8: next one. Let's should we.
Speaker 1: Double this bet? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Okay, cool.
Speaker 1: Hey, does your chick have any bananas left in her purse?
Speaker 1: Give me a loaner and then I'll hit you guys
Speaker 1: in the morning at brunch. Yeah yeah, Hey, man, does
Speaker 1: your chick have another chip?
Speaker 11: Yep?
Speaker 1: Let me let me win that back. Yeah, and then
Speaker 1: I'll get you guys. I'll get you back with that one.
Speaker 1: And then yep, yep. Just give me a loaner. My
Speaker 1: chick went to the ATM. Hey, give me a couple
Speaker 1: of those green chips. Man, give me a couple of those. Man,
Speaker 1: I'll get you back.
Speaker 8: I'll get you back Hey, can I those chips to
Speaker 8: double down cot bar those chips?
Speaker 1: Oh we lost.
Speaker 4: Man.
Speaker 1: A normal life, you'd never do that. You would never
Speaker 1: just lunch lunch, give me twenty and then I'm gonna play.
Speaker 1: But in Vegas it's totally normal to just share. It's
Speaker 1: just hey, let me hand out dollars all there. Here
Speaker 1: you go, Here you go, Vegas. Your buddy's chick will
Speaker 1: reach in her purse and throw you to twenty five
Speaker 1: dollars chips, when in real life, she would never give
Speaker 1: you fifty dollars. She'd be like, what what, Yeah to
Speaker 1: pay for beer, give me fifty, and then when we
Speaker 1: get to your house, I'll pay you fifty. Right, that
Speaker 1: doesn't make any sense. Oh man, weird? All right, but
Speaker 1: Vegas it's so yeah, yep, I got twenty five from
Speaker 1: your chick. And then this stranger I've never met gave
Speaker 1: me ten. I'm good, honey's going the atm what there's
Speaker 1: a five dollars feet Oh so I lost five dollars.
Speaker 8: Hey, your one ever sent though, I'll give it to strangers,
Speaker 8: strangers at the table.
Speaker 1: It's a loaner. One. Yeah, he loaned me, I'm loaning
Speaker 1: him back. And then you go to the ATM and
Speaker 1: then we'll all get pay each other.
Speaker 5: Bash.
Speaker 8: Stranger at the day was like, man, I don't have
Speaker 8: any more money to double down? Oh here you want
Speaker 8: to bar twenty five?
Speaker 1: Man? Oh really?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Cool?
Speaker 1: I mean why would I do that?
Speaker 8: But it's Vegas, so it's like it's all in the
Speaker 8: camaraderie of the the camaraderie, camaraderie of the table.
Speaker 1: You gotta Oh yeah, man, here's twenty five. Man, don't
Speaker 1: worry about it. Yeah, just double down that.
Speaker 5: We gotta go back.
Speaker 8: Oh he lost that, and he goes yeah. Man, all right,
Speaker 8: well guys see you guys later. Wait wait wait, wait
Speaker 8: wait you're leaving you only twenty five though? Okay cool man.
Speaker 1: Buddy, Yeah, hit him. Yep, we gotta get him back.
Speaker 1: We owe him twenty yep, and yep we're good, We're clean.
Speaker 5: All right.
Speaker 8: Uh thanks guys, Yeah, all right, well guys, have a
Speaker 8: good weekend.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Hey, Mavericks, Mavericks the Western Commerce Finals. If you bet
Speaker 8: that you need to cash your tickets? Yeah, go ahead,
Speaker 8: go ahead, not bad, not bad. Oh yeah, I still
Speaker 8: got that one part lay ticket.
Speaker 1: Oh yep, let me see if I can cash this sweetie,
Speaker 1: give me twenty minutes sports book cash this and we'll
Speaker 1: have the money back.
Speaker 8: All right, yep, dad, Yeah, we're good all right. Yeah,
Speaker 8: you know we still got some bets out there. We
Speaker 8: still have a chance to break even on this trip, babe. Yeah,
Speaker 8: all right, cool cool?
Speaker 1: Yeah. Hey, if if we lose, remember I got that
Speaker 1: hundred dollars your mom gave me, so we can do that,
Speaker 1: you know, do the hunter your mom mammy. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: that has to be good.
Speaker 8: Look, I mean, you get she said, she said, we
Speaker 8: just bet this for me, but we'll just tell her
Speaker 8: at loss and we'll use this money for us, you
Speaker 8: know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Right now she said, use it Yep, that huntery mom
Speaker 1: gave me. Yep, I'll take that.
Speaker 5: Good.
Speaker 11: Yeah.
Speaker 8: Yeah, well let's should we just do it on once
Speaker 8: spin a roulette?
Speaker 1: You then that's a good idea here, other money, all right? Cool,
Speaker 1: we're cleaned out, all right? Yeah? You want to see
Speaker 1: the fountains, Yeah, I mean, dang, I see the Futon lunch. Hey,
Speaker 1: I see the foutains a while. You know.
Speaker 8: You know what I haven't seen. I haven't seen the
Speaker 8: remodel that they're doing over there and playing in Hollywood
Speaker 8: let's go over there.
Speaker 1: Man, wait here broke. All of a sudden, you're coming.
Speaker 5: Up with other ideas.
Speaker 8: Hey, you want to go see what characters we can
Speaker 8: see on the strip. You know, see who's dressed up.
Speaker 8: It's Mini Mouse out there today. It's like, hey, honey,
Speaker 8: I mean, should we go and take a nap? I
Speaker 8: mean we just walked up an hour ago, But I
Speaker 8: mean I guess I could take.
Speaker 1: This damn vander Pump restaurant. Every time we're broke, you
Speaker 1: want to go get those goat cheese balls. You see,
Speaker 1: they got some good drinks over there. Man, it's good
Speaker 1: cocktail menu. We've been there, like definitely five times. It's
Speaker 1: over there at the Paris. Yeah, every every time we're
Speaker 1: broke to vander Pump, I leave. I stole the napkins. Dude,
Speaker 1: they're all like fine printed. I wake up the next morning,
Speaker 1: I like, how drunk was I got five vander Pump
Speaker 1: rules napkins? Hey, I mean, you know money's a little tight.
Speaker 1: Should we take the silverware? I mean we paid it.
Speaker 8: I mean we put one hundred on the roulette table,
Speaker 8: so it's like we bought the silverware, right, like.
Speaker 1: Hey, and think about it. I mean We had a
Speaker 1: good time, right, yeah, a great time.
Speaker 8: It was fun, so fun. The emotional roller coaster. We
Speaker 8: just had absolutely fantastic. You go to Saint John paying
Speaker 8: the exact amount base. I mean it's all you get,
Speaker 8: you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah? Good times?
Speaker 5: Man?
Speaker 1: Do you have fun? Yeah? Had fun? You have fun? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Cool man? All right, lunch? You got the Uber? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll get I'll get you back in Nashville. Oh you
Speaker 1: have venmo me man?
Speaker 8: Or are we We'll just call it even because I
Speaker 8: borrowed that twenty five from your wife?
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh you got another twenty in there. You want
Speaker 1: to do one more spind Hey this twenty five where
Speaker 1: we turn it around? Okay, girls, yep, we lost that
Speaker 1: twenty Yeah, y'all got y'all got the uber? Yo? All right?
Speaker 8: You know what now that we lost that twenty five,
Speaker 8: maybe we should just walk man South Beach.
Speaker 1: Dude, South Beach. When he goes broke, he'll walk his
Speaker 1: ass to the airport punishment because he lost all his money.
Speaker 1: Oh that's terrible, that's terrible. You will walk from Caesar's
Speaker 1: to the airport. He's done it multiple times. That's that's
Speaker 1: pretty bad.
Speaker 3: Hey, it's Mike d And this week on Movie Mike's
Speaker 3: Movie Podcast, my wife Kelsey and I broke down the
Speaker 3: top ten best selling DVDs of all time. This episode
Speaker 3: is jam packed with two thousands of nostalgia, and I
Speaker 3: don't know about you, but I'm in desperate need for
Speaker 3: two thousand nostalgia right now, So if you want to
Speaker 3: be transported into that time, be sure to check out
Speaker 3: this full episode. We also gave a spoiler free review
Speaker 3: of the new comedy movie Babes, and I broke down
Speaker 3: why legendary director Francis Ford Coppola is spending one hundred
Speaker 3: and twenty million dollars of his own money to put
Speaker 3: out his own movie this year, So be sure to subscribe.
Speaker 3: But right now, here's just a little bit of Movie
Speaker 3: Mike's Movie Podcast. At number six is Shrek to selling
Speaker 3: eight point two million copies. Came out back in two
Speaker 3: thousand and four, just celebrated it's twentieth anniversary and they
Speaker 3: re released that thing in theaters a great DVD.
Speaker 12: And just talked about it having Shrek guy, you know,
Speaker 12: I owned it.
Speaker 3: I would say of all the DVD actually, Shrek doesn't
Speaker 3: make the list.
Speaker 13: That came out a few years earlier, so I feel
Speaker 13: like that was probably still on VHS because I think
Speaker 13: even like the first Harry Potter movie I ever had
Speaker 13: was on VHS and that was like two thousand and one. Yeah,
Speaker 13: so I don't think the switch really came into like
Speaker 13: late two thousand two. Yeah, that lines up, so, yeah,
Speaker 13: Shrek two would have been the one that was bigger.
Speaker 3: And I feel like people like Shrek two more than
Speaker 3: Part one. I'm more of a Part one.
Speaker 12: Shrek was the revolutionary.
Speaker 3: It was so huge at the time it came out.
Speaker 13: Please stay off of the grass, shine your shoes, wipe
Speaker 13: your face, all.
Speaker 3: Of the adult jokes like that one. The other one
Speaker 3: I didn't realize people didn't pick up on was the
Speaker 3: fact that Lord Farquhaad killed one of the parents of
Speaker 3: the bears. Like at one point you see the family
Speaker 3: of bears and you see them missing the mom bear,
Speaker 3: and then later you see him and he has like
Speaker 3: this rug that is a bear. So it was all
Speaker 3: these things happening. Also in the background is like these
Speaker 3: second subplot jokes that was kind of level for that time.
Speaker 13: I think that's the only reason, like my parents enjoyed
Speaker 13: taking me to kids movies because there were jokes someone
Speaker 13: over my head that they would laugh at.
Speaker 3: That's what started that, and now is the thing of
Speaker 3: putting in jokes for the parents so that they can
Speaker 3: enjoy them too. That's got started with Shrek getting into
Speaker 3: the top five. Now from two thousand and nine, Avatar
Speaker 3: selling nineteen million copies. I feel like at two thousand
Speaker 3: and nine, DVD sales were starting to dip a little
Speaker 3: bit because you had HDDVD, you had Blu rays starting
Speaker 3: to become a little bit more prevalent. So I'm surprised
Speaker 3: it's this high on the list, but also makes sense
Speaker 3: just because how big Avatar was, how it crushed crazy
Speaker 3: box office numbers, so I feel like that probably translated
Speaker 3: into a lot of DVD sales. But I didn't really
Speaker 3: see this movie making the top five.
Speaker 12: If I never saw Avatar again in my life.
Speaker 3: The original or any of them, because they original they
Speaker 3: have three, four five coming out more.
Speaker 12: The original, I didn't really I would be fine.
Speaker 3: I didn't really understand it at the time. I thought
Speaker 3: it was way over hyped, and it wasn't until The
Speaker 3: Way of Water came out that I went back rewatched
Speaker 3: that one and I kind of got it again, and
Speaker 3: I enjoyed the Way of Water in theaters.
Speaker 12: I enjoyed it.
Speaker 3: It is very long, there's a lot going on, but
Speaker 3: I can also respect the big action adventure like I
Speaker 3: was talking about in Pirates of the Caribbean, Avatar goes
Speaker 3: next level.
Speaker 13: Now in my head, I'm confusing Avatar two and Black
Speaker 13: Panther sequel because they both had people in the water.
Speaker 3: Yeah, movies have been doing that a lot recently.
Speaker 12: Which one had like the sound paralysis.
Speaker 3: That was Black Panther two. Okay, yeah, well, I mean
Speaker 3: we also had three monkey movies this year, a lot
Speaker 3: of monkeys. Whenever a trends starts, it just keeps going.
Speaker 3: We had Monkey Man, Kong and Godzilla, and then we
Speaker 3: had Plant of the Apes, a lot of monkey movies.
Speaker 3: At number four from two thousand and eight is The
Speaker 3: Dark Knight, selling nineteen point two million copies. I remember
Speaker 3: getting a copy of this on Black Friday. My mom
Speaker 3: and I used to always go to Walmart and Target
Speaker 3: and the only thing I would seek out was cheap DVDs.
Speaker 13: I bought a couple sets of Gilmore Girls on DVD
Speaker 13: on Black Friday. But my mom and I had this
Speaker 13: thing where we'd go to Target, and we'd find ourselves
Speaker 13: just like grocery shopping.
Speaker 3: On accident during Black Friday.
Speaker 12: Yeah, we'd end up.
Speaker 13: With like popcorn and toilet paper in the basket, and
Speaker 13: the people like, you know these aren't on Salem.
Speaker 12: We're like, no, we know, we just were already here.
Speaker 1: We're just looking around.
Speaker 12: Yeah, it's not really a thing anymore.
Speaker 3: It used to be fun to go. And aside from
Speaker 3: finding movies. I remember getting The Dark Knight and it
Speaker 3: was the Batman head where it was just in the
Speaker 3: shape of the Batman mask and you'd open it up
Speaker 3: and have a DVD on either.
Speaker 12: Side, kind of surprice. You don't still on that.
Speaker 3: I think somewhere in all the moves in Austin it
Speaker 3: got lost, or maybe we sold it at some point
Speaker 3: when we sold a bunch of our DVDs. There was
Speaker 3: a time when my brother and I kind of separated
Speaker 3: all of our collections, so maybe he kept it. He
Speaker 3: probably still has it. That was always my mission going
Speaker 3: to Black Friday is finding the cheap DVDs because you
Speaker 3: could find them for like sixty seventy percent off and
Speaker 3: they would.
Speaker 13: Put out the like circular and they would tell you
Speaker 13: which DVDs were going to be cheap.
Speaker 3: And they would just have them in like the big Gold.
Speaker 12: Now Black Friday sales start on like October first.
Speaker 3: And it's not the same as all online. You don't
Speaker 3: have that interaction with people. You don't have people well,
Speaker 3: I guess you don't have people hurting each other anymore
Speaker 3: as much, which is probably good.
Speaker 12: That was the thing too, Yeah, the craze.
Speaker 3: But aside from movies, I would always get the Simpsons
Speaker 3: box sets, which are normally were like thirty forty bucks.
Speaker 3: You could get them for like ten bucks. And I
Speaker 3: had from season one all the way through probably fourteen
Speaker 3: or fifteen, all on box set because I could get
Speaker 3: it for so cheap.
Speaker 12: I'm glad you don't still on this.
Speaker 3: I think Rudy still has my brother keep those Rudy
Speaker 3: Classic collection. At number three from two thousand and two
Speaker 3: is Spider Man, selling nineteen point five million copies. This
Speaker 3: was another one I didn't actually own, but I had
Speaker 3: a bootleg copy of it. It was part one and
Speaker 3: part two. Part one I got a bootleg copy in America,
Speaker 3: but part two I got a bootleg copy in Mexico.
Speaker 12: Was it in Spanish?
Speaker 3: It was in Spanish.
Speaker 13: I'm sad you don't know that. I mean, it probably
Speaker 13: has computer viruses and we don't have anything.
Speaker 1: To watch it with.
Speaker 13: But I would watch a bootleg version of Spider Man
Speaker 13: in Espanol.
Speaker 3: There were a lot of movies I got as bootleg
Speaker 3: copies in Mexico, and for the most part it was
Speaker 3: people sneaking in a video camera into the theater and
Speaker 3: recording it. That was one of those. So every now
Speaker 3: and then it would shake or you hear somebody came.
Speaker 12: When they'd have the anti pirrating lot at the beginning.
Speaker 3: It was so hardcore. You wouldn't steal a car, but
Speaker 3: why would you steal a DVD?
Speaker 12: This is unlocking so many memories.
Speaker 3: But I remember getting The Spider Man two in Spanish,
Speaker 3: Passion to the Christ in Spanish. Probably shouldn't have got
Speaker 3: a bootleg copy of that. Looking back on that, there's
Speaker 3: probably some weird association with getting a bootleg copy of Past.
Speaker 12: To the Christ sing that on one.
Speaker 3: I also got Gothica, which was a horror movie with
Speaker 3: Holly Berry. And then I got a documentary, probably Michael
Speaker 3: Moore documentary. Oh no, no, Michael Moore. It was The
Speaker 3: Supersized Me. It was just funny to say supersize it
Speaker 3: was great. So all those movies I experienced for the
Speaker 3: first time watching them on my portable DVD player in
Speaker 3: Mexico with all my Mexican cousins hanging around.
Speaker 12: The Passion of the Christ is still really staid to me.
Speaker 3: My mom could not watch that movie that it was
Speaker 3: hard for her to watch.
Speaker 12: It's just just the fact that it was bootleg.
Speaker 3: Maybe that's why she did enjoyed it. She's like me, Oh,
Speaker 3: this isn't right.
Speaker 5: Caver, She's a queen talking.
Speaker 11: It was.
Speaker 5: She get not afraid to face episode, So just let
Speaker 5: it flow.
Speaker 3: No one can do we quiet Calne is sounding Caroline.
Speaker 14: Hey, y'all, it's Caroline Hobby from Get Real with Caroline Hobby.
Speaker 14: And here is a clip from this week's episode. And
Speaker 14: when I look at someone like you, and I was
Speaker 14: actually talking to Bobby Bones about this in the parking
Speaker 14: lot with you before you got here, it's like you
Speaker 14: are that artist who has gone so hard. Like when
Speaker 14: I think of you, I just think of like you
Speaker 14: just in it. You're just in this grind, this hustle,
Speaker 14: this passion, this going NonStop, like you have never stepped
Speaker 14: off the break. You're always coming back figuring it out,
Speaker 14: Like you haven't quit, you haven't let up because you're
Speaker 14: so great and it's just a matter of time of
Speaker 14: the right pieces connecting. And I say this about a
Speaker 14: thousand horses too. I'm like, they haven't. They have a
Speaker 14: switchboard and their switchboard. It's it's like it's a great
Speaker 14: operating system. Just the wires been all crossed a little bit,
Speaker 14: and finally I feel like they're getting in the right places.
Speaker 14: And like with you, it's like you are this incredible
Speaker 14: operating machine that is so impactful and is so authentically
Speaker 14: just like epic, Like it's just like you are one
Speaker 14: of the legendary singers. Like you are a legendary singer.
Speaker 14: It's just like your moment I feel like is coming
Speaker 14: right now because all of your backstory to get you
Speaker 14: to right here, which is this album. No one gets
Speaker 14: out alive. I'm like, and it's going to keep building. Obviously,
Speaker 14: it's not like one one moment can't change everything. But
Speaker 14: like I'm like, you are here, like it is here,
Speaker 14: your operating system is aligned, you got your team in place.
Speaker 14: You signed with Big Loud Records and they're so known
Speaker 14: for like supporting the artist as the artist and not
Speaker 14: changing the artists.
Speaker 11: Progressive. I mean, I have this album done before I
Speaker 11: signed with them, and they fully embraced what I was doing,
Speaker 11: and I was like, well that is those are rogues,
Speaker 11: Like that's a Maverick kind of team that's going to
Speaker 11: get behind you. But the wires crossing, like I had,
Speaker 11: I had a little bit to do with those wires
Speaker 11: being crossed in the beginning, just like even you know,
Speaker 11: we're trying to talk about how I even got here
Speaker 11: and like how Tommy were told. Like I can't even
Speaker 11: tell you in a straight line how that first part happens.
Speaker 3: It was just spaghetti.
Speaker 11: Part of it might be just like my brain even
Speaker 11: protecting me from the beginning of that. But I don't
Speaker 11: take my foot off the gas because like this is
Speaker 11: the time now, That's what this whole album is about.
Speaker 11: It's like no one gets out alive. We have a
Speaker 11: finite amount of time to get it absolutely.
Speaker 1: Why do you have that urgency?
Speaker 11: I just I feel like I've been here long enough.
Speaker 11: I know now who I am. I believe in what
Speaker 11: I'm doing. I'm not doubling down. I'm not tripling down.
Speaker 11: This is the fourth album that I'm like I still
Speaker 11: am here, and I still feel like I should be here,
Speaker 11: and I have so much more like to do, and
Speaker 11: I certainly think I have plenty of time to do
Speaker 11: all sorts of things, but like I'm not. I don't
Speaker 11: want to take a break right now. I don't. I
Speaker 11: didn't want to take a break when the pandemic happened.
Speaker 11: What did you do presented that you did?
Speaker 3: Yes, what happened to you during the pandemic? How did
Speaker 3: that affect you mentally in your career?
Speaker 11: I think, you know, I had a little bit of
Speaker 11: an identity crisis of like if I'm not performing, who
Speaker 11: am I in?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 11: What I'm used to having like one hundred some dates
Speaker 11: a year and they were just canceled overnight. And I
Speaker 11: had relationships that were friendships, but also there was a
Speaker 11: work component. When that was removed, there was like.
Speaker 1: What is the friendship now?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 3: And is that where some of the loss with friendships
Speaker 3: came from?
Speaker 14: Yeah, and realized who was really a friend and who
Speaker 14: was just kind of in it for the It's.
Speaker 11: More I feel like it's it's more complicated than that,
Speaker 11: you know. I think that a lot of people needed
Speaker 11: to be they needed to feel valuable and I probably
Speaker 11: couldn't provide that in the way that you know, I
Speaker 11: used to be able to. So I don't I don't
Speaker 11: think that it's like, oh, you see who your friends are.
Speaker 11: It's not that simple to me. I think that there
Speaker 11: was a lot of pressure that all these relationships had
Speaker 11: to sustain. That's so hard to untangle now. And that's
Speaker 11: one of the reasons that with this current project, like
Speaker 11: these songs are so personal because I wasn't collaborating the
Speaker 11: same way that I was on previous projects. I was
Speaker 11: writing not from the collective we. I was writing from
Speaker 11: the I'm going through this.
Speaker 12: And so this is your you, Taylor Swift.
Speaker 11: This I had to And you know, I also, like
Speaker 11: my best friend's dad died, and my uncle had an aneurism,
Speaker 11: and my husband's uncles passed away. Like we went through
Speaker 11: a lot of loss as a family. And there was
Speaker 11: just that beauty too of like cut this is getting
Speaker 11: older sucks and like you were confirmed with these inevitable
Speaker 11: losses that happen. You know, people went through addiction issues.
Speaker 11: I had friends getting divorced, like just the I feel you,
Speaker 11: the sheene, the like patina of all the like things that.
Speaker 12: I thought were so perfect really wore off.
Speaker 11: And I also started this podcast, which was so fun,
Speaker 11: but it was it was like I was throwing my
Speaker 11: life and focus into all these different guests and hearing
Speaker 11: about their experiences and like, oh, this person's got the
Speaker 11: best career ever, there are no problems in the world,
Speaker 11: and hearing about their loss and it was just it
Speaker 11: became like a really eye opening, sobering time for me.
Speaker 14: Was that healing to hear about other artist losses that
Speaker 14: you had kind of idolized and thought it was such
Speaker 14: a That's what this podcast has done to me is
Speaker 14: this made me realize, oh, my god, everybody's got every
Speaker 14: chaos and trauma and so many hard knocks, and it's
Speaker 14: all about how you knowavigated yes, and you think.
Speaker 11: About that career, what a storied career, that's exactly the
Speaker 11: one I want. And then you get into it a
Speaker 11: reveal to you just how incredibly heavy some of the
Speaker 11: things are in their life. And I think it seems
Speaker 11: so simple to just try and have empathy for everyone.
Speaker 10: You don't know what anyone's going.
Speaker 11: Through, but just to hear it bold faced in like detail,
Speaker 11: I think was it was there was a moment where
Speaker 11: like I was like, Okay, I'm sort of morphing into
Speaker 11: maybe not like this always happy, go lucky person, which
Speaker 11: I always would have characterized myself as before the pandemic,
Speaker 11: and I sort of embraced that. And even on the
Speaker 11: last song of this record, we have a reprise. It's
Speaker 11: called another Sad Song, and it's like, sorry if this
Speaker 11: is another sad song that no one's going to hear,
Speaker 11: and they say that's the best way to kill a career,
Speaker 11: but like, I'm going to write what I feel.
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