WEBVTT - Second Cup: Ask for stories, not advice

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to ask experts for stories, not advice. People

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<v Speaker 1>often can't articulate exactly how they do what they do,

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<v Speaker 1>but they can tell you what they did, and often

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<v Speaker 1>that is more helpful. Today's tip, like a few others

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<v Speaker 1>this week, comes from Scott H. Young's new book, Get

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<v Speaker 1>Better at Anything. This book shares strategies for how people

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<v Speaker 1>actually learn and improve. Young notes that one of the

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<v Speaker 1>best ways to figure out what experts know is to

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<v Speaker 1>talk with them. But not every expert is a natural

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<v Speaker 1>or even a particularly skilled teacher, have a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>difficulty reporting on their own cognitive processes. They skip steps

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<v Speaker 1>in the retelling because it seems obvious to them. But

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<v Speaker 1>the nature of being an expert is that what seems

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<v Speaker 1>obvious to you may not be obvious to everyone else.

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<v Speaker 1>One way around this is not to ask for advice.

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<v Speaker 1>Ask for advice and you might get a sermon. Young

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<v Speaker 1>rites when what you want to hear is the knowledge

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<v Speaker 1>they think is too obvious to be worth mentioning. So

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<v Speaker 1>instead ask for stories. Ask an expert to recount a

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<v Speaker 1>particularly challenging incident. Telling stories focuses on the concrete details

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<v Speaker 1>of when decisions occurred, how they were made, and what

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<v Speaker 1>the consequences were in ways that asking for generic advice

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<v Speaker 1>or routines often omits. Young says. Young SIGs that a

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<v Speaker 1>good protocol is to act like a journalist preparing for

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<v Speaker 1>a story, focus on gathering facts, establishing a timeline, and

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<v Speaker 1>walking through the decisions step by step. This provides the

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<v Speaker 1>raw material for asking follow up questions to investigate why

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<v Speaker 1>the expert made certain choices. A focus on the facts

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<v Speaker 1>tends to highlight details of a story that may be

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<v Speaker 1>obscured when simply asking for the broader lessons from the experience.

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<v Speaker 1>The good news is that people in general like to

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<v Speaker 1>tell stories, especially when prompted. If you get a chance

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<v Speaker 1>to talk with an expert and you happen to know

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<v Speaker 1>that person was involved in something particularly significant, ask for

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<v Speaker 1>that story. They probably like to tell it. Tell me

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<v Speaker 1>how you planned that recovery mission, or landed that plane,

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<v Speaker 1>or did that tricky surgery, or made that scientific discuss

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<v Speaker 1>what was happening that day, who was with you, what

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<v Speaker 1>did you guys do first? And so on. The person

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<v Speaker 1>may not be able to explain in the abstract what

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<v Speaker 1>to do in a tough situation, but they know what

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<v Speaker 1>they did in a tough situation, and often that can

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<v Speaker 1>be helpful in its own right. In the meantime, this

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<v Speaker 1>is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making the

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