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Speaker 1: First Date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Hannah is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Luke.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if they tellus why he's ghosting here. But first, Hannah,

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Speaker 2: how long has it beencis you heard from Luke?

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week. I texted him a couple times,

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Speaker 3: but not saying just radio silence.

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Speaker 4: Really, so, did you feel like you were going to

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Speaker 4: hear from him? Was the date good?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 3: No, it's so weird because he was texting me right

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Speaker 3: after the date like that was fine.

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Speaker 6: We should do it again and now poof absolutely nothing.

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Speaker 4: Why don't you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So here's the deal. But we went on for Sushie,

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Speaker 3: which I love. I thought it was a super solid start.

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Speaker 3: You even let me pick out the restaurant, which was cool.

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Speaker 3: I didn't think that a guy who doesn't like rawfish

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Speaker 3: would suggest Sushie, but cool.

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Speaker 6: We ended up ordering way too much food, it was.

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Speaker 3: It was kind of a mess that we were both

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Speaker 3: just like cracking jokes about it, especially when he nearly

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Speaker 3: flung a piece of sashimi across the table driving to

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it was cute. So afterwards we went for a walk,

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Speaker 6: which was really sweet.

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Speaker 3: It was kill low key, and it just felt like we

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Speaker 3: were on the same wavelengths, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, yeah, slinging sushi and you know, sweet conversation.

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Speaker 2: So why do you think, oh man?

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Speaker 6: Honestly, I I don't know, because I thought it went

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Speaker 6: really really great. There was just like something about him.

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Speaker 6: He was so funny.

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Speaker 3: But maybe I messed up when I paid for dinner

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Speaker 3: behind us back.

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Speaker 6: But Bill was just like way.

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Speaker 3: More than we expected, and I had ordered a really

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Speaker 3: fancy sake and wag you advertiser. We thought he was

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Speaker 3: thinking about it and I felt bad. So when he

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Speaker 3: got up to use.

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Speaker 6: The bathroom, I just went ahead and for the whole thing.

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Speaker 6: So when he came back, I told him it wasn't

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Speaker 2: I'd marry you. It doesn't sound like a reason to

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Speaker 6: Right, I mean, I can a florid it, And but

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Speaker 6: he seemed like kind of irritated.

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Speaker 3: He kept saying, you know, I could have paid for that,

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Speaker 3: and I tried to explain that it didn't mean anything.

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Speaker 3: I just felt guilty for ordering the expensive stuff like unconsciously.

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Speaker 3: But maybe he thought that I was implying that he

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Speaker 6: But I didn't really mean it like that. I was

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Speaker 6: just trying to do something nice.

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Speaker 3: But now I'm wondering if it like came off totally wrong.

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Speaker 4: Well did he say thank you? Did like aside from

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Speaker 4: the fact that he's like I could pay for it too,

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Speaker 4: Was he appreciative of it?

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Speaker 3: No, he did it just like it just like shifted

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Speaker 6: But like not enough to like we still were planning

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Speaker 2: Maybe it's one of those weird old school type of things,

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Speaker 4: Got to pay or something, or maybe he didn't even

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Speaker 4: too for whatever reason. Again, like ju Will said, I

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Speaker 6: Right, I mean a girl who can take care of herself.

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Speaker 2: What's the right right you need to date a new

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Speaker 2: school dude to use you for everything? You're word phrase differently?

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, we'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 2: out for you. We'll play a song come back, and

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Speaker 2: then call him and see if he'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: thank you, all right, we'll play a song, come back

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Speaker 2: and get your first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first Date follow up.

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Speaker 2: Hannah is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by Luke.

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call him and see if he'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her another date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Hannah, why don't you refresh our memory on your.

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Speaker 3: Eight Okay, we went out for this super fun sushi day,

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Speaker 3: but I ended up paying at the end because I

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Speaker 3: if that's why he disappeared.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know. I could see some guy being like,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to go out with you again because

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Speaker 4: I could actually see that well, because he's probably like

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Speaker 4: if he's thinking like, okay, well, what do I have

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Speaker 2: I don't know. We'll see you. Ready for us to

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Speaker 2: call him?

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Speaker 6: Oh, here we go, okay.

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Speaker 2: Here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Luke please,

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Speaker 2: uh hey, Luke? How are you? This is the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 2: It's a radio show. Hi.

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Speaker 4: I'm Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jubil. How are you.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, it's like it's like a prank or something.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not. Actually, we're calling you for a different reason.

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Speaker 2: Have you ever listened to the show before?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I just I didn't expect you to call me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we're calling you today because you're ghosting somebody.

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Speaker 2: And we do a segment on the show called the

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Speaker 2: First a follow up, you know where if you go

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Speaker 2: on a date with someone and then you end up

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Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can email us to ask you

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Speaker 2: why you're ghosting them. So do you know who would

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Speaker 2: have emailed us about you?

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Speaker 5: I am guessing this is about Hannah? Right? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Oh, you got to correct. Congratulations, You've won nothing so far?

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Speaker 4: Are you ghosting her?

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Speaker 7: I'm not like ghosting her intentionally. I don't know the

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Speaker 7: date was super fun. She's super cool. But it was

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Speaker 7: it was honestly, it was just something that happened.

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Speaker 2: After Okay, so you are ghosting her intentionally, she said,

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Speaker 2: She texted you need a collar back. So yeah, so yeah, here, okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: but why why yeah?

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Speaker 8: Uh so the deal is, so, you know, after our

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Speaker 8: day it was it was really good and uh, my

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Speaker 7: And uh, you know, staying so she paid for the

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Speaker 7: don't know, I just thought it was kind of weird.

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Speaker 7: So I'm telling him about it, and uh he actually

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Speaker 7: turns out that he went out with Hannah to.

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Speaker 8: Okay that no, no, no, no, no, no, no, it's not

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Speaker 8: It's not only that.

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Speaker 5: It was that she did like the same exact thing

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Speaker 7: Big went to like a steakhouse and all like this

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Speaker 7: like happened a bunch of times, and he did, and

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Speaker 7: he said his words that by the end he felt

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, and you don't want to be a boy toy?

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Speaker 4: Is that what she's doing though? Or is that just

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Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know why. It's like nice that

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Speaker 7: I mean, I'm not going to like jump to that conclusion,

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Speaker 6: Ah.

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Speaker 3: Wow, So because I'm too generous, I'm getting.

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Speaker 2: Ghosted on the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 7: Ah oh, Hannah, Hey, how how are you doing?

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Speaker 6: Oh? Hi, Luke? I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: I didn't realize I was making you feel like my

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Speaker 6: Seriously, look, I.

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Speaker 3: Obviously had no idea that Andrew was your friend. Also,

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Speaker 6: I have a nice job. He seems grateful. This is

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean that's Andrew. Of course you're body something,

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Speaker 7: but it just like sounded light cup pattern, and I

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Speaker 6: I mean, that's not it at all.

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Speaker 3: I'm just you know, trying to not seem like a

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Speaker 3: Want to get without feeling real SA. So what isn't

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but I mean, like, you know, I can take

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Speaker 5: Feels really weird, and I know, I don't know. It

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Speaker 3: Cool, Gay, Well that's fine. I'll find somebody who's hot

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Speaker 4: Well wait, Hannah, what is it about paying for your

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Speaker 3: I just don't want to feel like I'm beholden to

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Speaker 6: Really know me yet, you know, but you know what

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Speaker 6: I mean, beholden, I know. Yeah, honestly, you're just missing out.

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Speaker 3: You didn't even get to the part where I buy

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Speaker 5: You know, I.

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Speaker 5: I mean I could buy my own clothes.

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Speaker 6: I buy my own clothes.

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Speaker 9: You sound like I can't do this, Well, I mean

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Speaker 3: But I'm done trying to impress someone who gets scared

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Speaker 2: Well, Luke, would you like another day with Hannah? Will

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Speaker 7: The whole wardrobe overhaul, you know, for the pretty woman mate,

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Speaker 7: So I don't think so all.

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Speaker 3: Right, Well, no hard feelings, So good luck finding someone

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Speaker 3: who won't spoil you too much? Okay, baby boy, Jubile's

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Speaker 3: first day follow up