WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Am I A Bad Friend?

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<v Speaker 4>That boy, what happened to that boy?

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry? You know I was. I just saw girl man

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, oh my god, that makes more sense to

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<v Speaker 4>be honest, Like Juvie had this aura that made me

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<v Speaker 4>just like, I ain't gonna hold you.

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<v Speaker 3>I was, and I was a little high, but I

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<v Speaker 3>rodeo and at that ass up. Yeah, I don't even

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<v Speaker 3>one is a cool one. Figured you could sit in

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<v Speaker 3>and help me answer this one. The subject matter is

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<v Speaker 3>am I a bad friend?

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<v Speaker 2>Now?

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<v Speaker 5>Probably don't do that. If you got to write in,

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<v Speaker 5>then yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't do that.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm judging out the gate.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, okay, Let's see if you still hold that when

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<v Speaker 3>we get to reading it. Okay, Hey, Weezi and Mandy

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<v Speaker 3>and Eda. My question is am I asking too much?

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<v Speaker 3>Am I a bad friend? Or should they do more?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm divorced for a few years now, and team fuck

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<v Speaker 3>them kids Like Mandy, I have two friends that I

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<v Speaker 3>consider my best friends. They both live in different states

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<v Speaker 3>and are married slash partnered with children. In the last

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<v Speaker 3>few years, they have not made any effort to see

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<v Speaker 3>me or show up for me. The times I have

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<v Speaker 3>seen them, I've either gone to their city or they

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<v Speaker 3>happen to be in my city for other reasons their

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<v Speaker 3>wedding anniversary or to visit family, and I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>seeing me was a matter of convenience.

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<v Speaker 5>Slash afterthought, not the coffee.

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<v Speaker 3>Am I being a bad friend for pulling away? For

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<v Speaker 3>feeling like they don't make an effort to show up

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<v Speaker 3>for me. I understand partners and kids are a priority,

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<v Speaker 3>but not once have they even said like, Hey, why

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<v Speaker 3>don't you come visit and I'll make time to spend

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<v Speaker 3>this weekend with you. I'm also graduating with my master's

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<v Speaker 3>degree in a few months, and neither of them have

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<v Speaker 3>mentioned doing anything to celebrate this. Yeah, of course I

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<v Speaker 3>have met in my dms who are asking me, who

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<v Speaker 3>are asking me what we can plan to celebrate? Girl, Girl,

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<v Speaker 3>don't be very about these niggas. I always hear how

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<v Speaker 3>you guys talk about the love you give friends and

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<v Speaker 3>how it is reciprocated, But I feel that it's lacking

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<v Speaker 3>in my situation. Am I expecting too much? Am I

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<v Speaker 3>a bad friend? Or should they do more from a

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<v Speaker 3>friendless hope?

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<v Speaker 5>Stop?

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<v Speaker 4>See now that's interesting. I mean, all right, maybe those

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<v Speaker 4>are three great questions though.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so let's start with is she asking for too much?

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<v Speaker 3>And the asking of too much is for her friends

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<v Speaker 3>to seemingly at least show up and make her some story.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, exactly, help her feel more of a priority and

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<v Speaker 4>help her celebrate you know, good wishes.

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<v Speaker 5>Right, I don't think so. I don't think she's asking

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<v Speaker 5>for too much.

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<v Speaker 2>Me neither.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't think she's asking for too much.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you have to show up for a friend,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, through the best and the worst times. Uh,

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<v Speaker 4>it's all. It's just there's a gauge in the spectrum

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<v Speaker 4>for something like this.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, here's the to She mentioned that both of them

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<v Speaker 2>live in different states.

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<v Speaker 5>That's one.

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<v Speaker 3>So not only do they live in different states, they

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<v Speaker 3>have partners and they have children. So if we're talking

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<v Speaker 3>about the economy, economy again.

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<v Speaker 5>The terrorists, which.

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<v Speaker 3>Has got a bring terrorists, you know, it could be

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<v Speaker 3>a lot for someone to fit that into their budget.

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<v Speaker 3>For one, with you not having children or a partner,

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<v Speaker 3>you do have more leeway to kind of get up

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<v Speaker 3>and go. And so I would start off first because

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<v Speaker 3>me and my friends talk to each other a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>I would start off first with having the conversation.

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<v Speaker 3>With them exactly like you wrote into so you got decisions,

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<v Speaker 3>But have you spoken to each of them and been like, yo,

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<v Speaker 3>like since my divorce, you know, it's been two years.

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<v Speaker 3>I really feel like you haven't made an effort to.

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<v Speaker 2>Link with me, to show up. We haven't made plans

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<v Speaker 2>on a you know, to take a trip.

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<v Speaker 4>Also, you wouldn't do that. I'd be like, hey, I

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<v Speaker 4>would love to see y'all more like in general, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>ease it into like that, do you do you feel

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<v Speaker 4>like you have to go and be like you guys

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<v Speaker 4>aren't doing you?

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<v Speaker 2>Hear me out, hear me out.

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<v Speaker 3>This is this is where this is, This is where

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<v Speaker 3>listening skills.

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<v Speaker 2>Help and hopefully your friends have comprehension skills.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, it's not that you're you're demeaning them or telling

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<v Speaker 3>them they're wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>You're first starting with your feelings.

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<v Speaker 3>And boy, have I been working in therapy with trying

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<v Speaker 3>to find ways, because unfortunately, I too feel like when

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<v Speaker 3>I share how my feelings are or how someone's actions

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<v Speaker 3>make me feel, they immediately get into defense. That's that's

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<v Speaker 3>so fucking immature.

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<v Speaker 5>I be feeling the same.

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<v Speaker 3>Way, and and so it actually becomes difficult, so to

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<v Speaker 3>me her expressing, she's writing us feeling like she's friendless.

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<v Speaker 3>You have two friends, You're not friendless, right, So I

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<v Speaker 3>think to come and say, hey, A part of me

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<v Speaker 3>feels abandoned in this relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>It hurts me. I feel lonely.

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<v Speaker 3>Like coming and expressing her feelings is not saying you

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<v Speaker 3>are fucked up as bitch as hope. No, Hey, I

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<v Speaker 3>really look at you as my close friend. Since my divorce,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel as though we haven't got to see each other,

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<v Speaker 3>and it really hurts me because I miss you like

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<v Speaker 3>I miss you as a woman. Like we I think

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<v Speaker 3>that that's received, It's it's received easier to come out

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<v Speaker 3>of front. In that way than it is sometimes met

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<v Speaker 3>agree so to say, I really miss you, I want

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<v Speaker 3>to see you, but also dang, bitch, you ain't come

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<v Speaker 3>and seeing me, Like, how can we make that happen?

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<v Speaker 2>Let's plan a trip.

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<v Speaker 3>So you could always lead with your emotions about how

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<v Speaker 3>lonely abandoned, and even if you're angry or mad about it,

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<v Speaker 3>you can express those things tell your friend and then

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<v Speaker 3>see what their response is, because the response may be like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>I haven't really told you, but I got you know,

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<v Speaker 3>we're not doing well financially, so that's something that I

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<v Speaker 3>can't do. Or girl, my kid is being bad as

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<v Speaker 3>fuck and I gotta do this, or you know, they might.

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<v Speaker 4>Have their own problems that they're trying to settle first

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<v Speaker 4>before everyone has thinking about anybody else, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>And that's just the reality, right.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean the reality of kids. Well, bruh, the reality

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<v Speaker 2>of it.

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<v Speaker 3>Is too and I'm experiencing it right now where I'm

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<v Speaker 3>thirty four. Majority now of my friends are partnered and

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<v Speaker 3>or with kid, majority of them single months. I am

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<v Speaker 3>actually also feeling like, damn, I don't relate the same

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<v Speaker 3>to all my friends as they're now getting where their

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<v Speaker 3>children are older, and they're having to the more things

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<v Speaker 3>I'm realizing in myself. I don't care to see their

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<v Speaker 3>stories as much anymore because their lives are so different,

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<v Speaker 3>and so the fact that you're also team fuck them

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<v Speaker 3>kids and they have kids. I would suggest that you

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<v Speaker 3>still maintain those friendships, but maybe you start seeking out

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<v Speaker 3>friends that align more with you.

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<v Speaker 5>You don't have a partner, you don't have kids.

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<v Speaker 3>As adults, we're allowed to find new friends and we're not.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't have to shun our old friends because our

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<v Speaker 3>lives start to look different. So I don't think you

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<v Speaker 3>need to look at yourself as a bad friend, but

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<v Speaker 3>I think you need to do the inner work to realize. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't have a partner, I don't have kids, these

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<v Speaker 3>girls live in a different state. Let me let me

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<v Speaker 3>think of what type of what type of circle or people.

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<v Speaker 2>I want around?

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<v Speaker 5>Find your community?

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<v Speaker 2>Find your community?

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<v Speaker 4>Are the three questions she asked, because I did like

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<v Speaker 4>how she broke it down like that. It was is

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<v Speaker 4>she a bad friend?

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<v Speaker 2>Is she asking for too much? Is she a bad friend?

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<v Speaker 2>Or should they do more?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so should they do more? As an interesting piece

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<v Speaker 4>as well? Right, because of again, I'm gonna keep going

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<v Speaker 4>back to the whole child thing. I think they should

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<v Speaker 4>do more at the same time, because if if you're

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<v Speaker 4>feeling kind of abandoned like that, you know, at the

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<v Speaker 4>same time, it's also them like being transparent, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 4>like I don't have the time for this stuff, right,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, I can't make that happen again. You mentioned

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<v Speaker 4>the whole fact that they're in two different states. You

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<v Speaker 4>gotta accept the reality that you both now live different

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<v Speaker 4>lifestyles and that you gotta go find new friends.

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<v Speaker 5>That's that's it.

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<v Speaker 3>And I know that when we get older, like it

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<v Speaker 3>seems like it's so difficult to make new friends, and

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<v Speaker 3>it's really not like I know a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>that everybody you girls all about to say.

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<v Speaker 2>I got eleven best friends.

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<v Speaker 3>My boyfriend is like, I do not understand how you

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<v Speaker 3>juggle so much any best friends.

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<v Speaker 2>And all of my best friends live in different states.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, now that I'm back in Atlanta, like, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>surrounded more by like three to four of my core

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<v Speaker 3>core best friends, from which I love.

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<v Speaker 2>I love being oh and me and my.

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<v Speaker 3>Best friend we go to the belt Line all the time,

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<v Speaker 3>but like there have been years where we lived so

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<v Speaker 3>far from each other, Like she she lived with a

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<v Speaker 3>partner in Europe and I saw her only during the

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<v Speaker 3>summer while she was in that relationship, and we just

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<v Speaker 3>we facetimed.

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<v Speaker 2>War we spoke more on the phone.

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<v Speaker 3>Like that's another thing, Like there's ways to maintain and

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<v Speaker 3>be fulfilled in relationships without seeing people.

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<v Speaker 5>True, you know what I mean? You feel me?

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<v Speaker 4>Also like it's interesting that she mentioned the whole her

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<v Speaker 4>getting her master's and was again congratulations. It's like, does

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<v Speaker 4>that stuff come up in conversation? What are we waiting

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<v Speaker 4>for to make that commo happen? You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 4>But also like, are they supposed to know that? Offerends Well,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sure.

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<v Speaker 3>That they know that she's in a master's program. If

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<v Speaker 3>these are her best friends, they know that she's in school.

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<v Speaker 5>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>However, I agree.

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<v Speaker 3>With you, like what are the expectations, what are the

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<v Speaker 3>expectations of what does a celebration look like?

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<v Speaker 5>Is it because three different states?

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<v Speaker 3>Because you want to know what's crazy, My my really

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<v Speaker 3>really really good friend she got. I mean, in terms

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<v Speaker 3>of celebration, I would say she got a master's. I

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<v Speaker 3>could talk about the last few things, baby showers, gender reveals,

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<v Speaker 3>graduating from nursing school.

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<v Speaker 2>Nice, there's been.

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<v Speaker 3>A few things, and you know what a celebration looked

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<v Speaker 3>like for them, me being an attendant.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so that's really I mean, I mean, I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>gonna lie. Then to the Shorty's point, that's really what

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<v Speaker 4>she wants.

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<v Speaker 3>But no, she's like niggas is in my DMS, asking

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<v Speaker 3>how we celebrate.

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<v Speaker 5>That's different. They trying to fuck but.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>I like what you said, are what what do your

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<v Speaker 3>expectations in your mind look like of a celebration? Like

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<v Speaker 3>are they saying they're not even going to attend your graduation?

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<v Speaker 3>Or are they saying they're not taking you on a

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<v Speaker 3>trip or you a gift, or or taking you out

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<v Speaker 3>to the club to pop bottles? What does celebrating you

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<v Speaker 3>in this moment look like? Because for a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>my friends, it was me just showing up and being

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<v Speaker 3>present that they felt celebrated.

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<v Speaker 5>So also, are they in neighboring states? Are they coast

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<v Speaker 5>to coast? Because if I'm a.

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<v Speaker 2>Six hundred dollars, that's.

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<v Speaker 4>Where I'm a and plus it ain't just the two

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<v Speaker 4>hundred dollars plus is let's say, it's every kid plus mom.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, no. Hopefully if they got good partners, they

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<v Speaker 3>could lead to kids at home or get But then

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<v Speaker 3>that's the thing. There's babysitters, there's childcare, There's just so

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<v Speaker 3>many things that I do think if anyone's listening to this,

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<v Speaker 3>including the reader, I do think that now that you

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<v Speaker 3>are divorced with no kids, you, because you have more time,

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<v Speaker 3>you may not be considering. You're literally not considering the

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<v Speaker 3>livelihoods or lifestyles and what your friends are dealing with

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<v Speaker 3>on a day to day in their lives.

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<v Speaker 2>Because now you a little bit.

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<v Speaker 5>More free, girl, go find new friends.

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<v Speaker 3>Go find new friends, but don't mold dearly to your friends.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you then, and also make sure you do the

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<v Speaker 4>approach not well it's confrontational quote unquote, right, Go talk

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<v Speaker 4>to them, tell them how you're feeling, because that matters.

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<v Speaker 4>And I bet you will matter to them too. I

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<v Speaker 4>bet you didn't even know that. That's how I feel

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<v Speaker 4>like that happens often.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I said my first thing was to have

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<v Speaker 2>a conversation.

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<v Speaker 5>To have that combo and then go.

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<v Speaker 3>I think when it comes to to friendships, best friends,

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<v Speaker 3>it's really important to share how they make you feel

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<v Speaker 3>in certain instances, on whether either their actions of doing

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<v Speaker 3>something or their actions of not doing something. And in

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<v Speaker 3>this instance it's clearly how they're not showing up express it,

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<v Speaker 3>continue writing in so we can you know spirit friends?

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<v Speaker 2>Now you know?

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<v Speaker 3>But I would say definitely it's important to have those conversations.

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<v Speaker 3>And the older we get, the I think, the more

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<v Speaker 3>important it is to cherish these long standing friendships.

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<v Speaker 5>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you not have friends that you haven't spoken to

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<v Speaker 4>in a long time, but they're like you hold them

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<v Speaker 4>dear your arts though.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but it's weird too.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know how I navigate keeping up with my

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<v Speaker 3>eleven best friends, and to be fair, some of them

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes we some of them sometimes we only talk like.

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<v Speaker 2>Once a month.

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<v Speaker 5>But that's what I'm saying, right.

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<v Speaker 3>And sometimes I'm able to see one more than the other.

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<v Speaker 3>But no, like a lot of my friendships, ten plus years, easy, easy,

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<v Speaker 3>and we respect each other, We love each other, and

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<v Speaker 3>we know that life be lifing. Yep, we know that

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<v Speaker 3>life literally be lifing. So hopefully we were able to

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<v Speaker 3>help you a little bit on it. Hopefully anyone else

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<v Speaker 3>out there struggling with maintaining friendships, you.

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<v Speaker 5>Know it was a new friend that she can get.

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<v Speaker 3>Here we go, Here we go, no hold, there you.

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<v Speaker 2>Go, reorder our books, no holds fired.

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<v Speaker 3>fucking community our discord channel. You can meet new friends

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<v Speaker 2>Community that we built.

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<v Speaker 3>So shout out to the whore Hive per usual, and

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