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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: all right. Subject his wife is willing to share him

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Speaker 1: with me. Dear Stephen Shirley. I was in a relationship

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Speaker 1: with a man for six months, but we fell in

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Speaker 1: love quickly and we were living together. He is thirty

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Speaker 1: six and I'm thirty one. He's going through a divorce

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Speaker 1: when he met me, so I made him wait until

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Speaker 1: the papers were signed before we had sex. He told

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Speaker 1: me that his wife divorced him because he cheated on

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Speaker 1: her multiple times. He told me that he cheated simply

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Speaker 1: because his wife had stopped having sex with him. He

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Speaker 1: often went to his old house to get more of

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Speaker 1: his things so he could fully move in with me.

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Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, he went over and when he came back,

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Speaker 1: After I kept asking him what was wrong and accusing

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Speaker 1: him of messing with his ex wife. He admitted that

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Speaker 1: he did. We cried and tried to work through it,

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Speaker 1: A couple of days later, he left me and moved

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Speaker 1: back into his home with her. I was an emotional wreck.

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Speaker 1: He came over to see me a few times to

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Speaker 1: each time. I told him I want him to come back.

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Speaker 1: He said that it was a possibility if I were to,

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Speaker 1: despite him being with his wife. He said he told

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Speaker 1: his ex about me and how he had fallen in love.

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Speaker 1: He said his ex wife was willing to let him

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Speaker 1: continue to see me if I was okay with the arrangement.

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Speaker 1: I'm so love sick. I entertained this crazy notion for

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Speaker 1: a day or two he came over, but he came

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Speaker 1: over to my house last night and he smelled like

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Speaker 1: her perfume, and I lost it. I love him so

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Speaker 1: much and I don't want him to go, but I

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Speaker 1: don't think I can be a third wheel. It's having

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Speaker 1: part of a man better than no man nowadays. Wow,

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Speaker 1: you really drank the kool ai, didn't you. I mean,

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Speaker 1: all the time he was going over to his house

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Speaker 1: he was sleeping with his wife, just like he sleeps

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Speaker 1: question is a having part of a man better than

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Speaker 1: no man nowadays. That's unacceptable any day, you know, and

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Speaker 1: it should be unacceptable to you unless you're, like I mean,

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Speaker 1: just unbelievably desperate, which it sounds like you are. You

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Speaker 1: just want to settle for anything. Come on, now, why

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Speaker 1: would you want to do that. Let this man go

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Speaker 1: keep their little you know, threesome or open marriage arrangement

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Speaker 1: they got going on to themselves. And his wife is

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Speaker 1: keep him is to invite you into their marriage. But

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Speaker 1: I think they do this. It almost sounds like it's

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Speaker 1: some sort of game. I think you should stand your

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Speaker 1: in all of this craziness. I think you won't know better,

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Speaker 1: though I think you do in your heart. You just

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Speaker 1: He's a cheater and that's why he was in trouble

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Speaker 1: wouldn't cheat on you? Okay, that's what I'm saying if

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Speaker 1: this to you. Every man who wants to cheat and

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Speaker 1: and stay Steve. This whole damn letter don't make no

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Speaker 1: listening to surely read the letter, I kept saying, through

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Speaker 1: the whole letter, what so what I'm calling this letter

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Speaker 1: is the subject is his wife is willing to share

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Speaker 1: call what because it is so many what moments in

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Speaker 1: this damn letter that I can't read without saying. What?

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Speaker 1: Here we go? I'm in a relationship with a man

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Speaker 1: for six months. We fell in love quickly, living together.

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Speaker 1: He thirty six and I'm thirty one. He was going

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Speaker 1: wait until the papers were signed before we had sex. What?

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Speaker 1: What didn't you just say? I was in a relationship

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Speaker 1: love quickly and we were living together. Y'all live together

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Speaker 1: and they have sex? He thirty six. He was going

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Speaker 1: Here we go again? He told me that his wife

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Speaker 1: divorced him because he cheated on her multiple time. Wait

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Speaker 1: a minute, he told you that? What? See? That was

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Speaker 1: a setup? He told you to reason him and his

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Speaker 1: Because he couldn't look you in the eye? What? All right? Steve?

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Speaker 1: Hang on? Where what will we come back? We'll have

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Speaker 1: part tim Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters, subject his ex wife

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Speaker 1: is willing to share him with me. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening show, All right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. His ex

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Speaker 1: wife is willing to share him with me. You renamed

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Speaker 1: it the letter of what, the Letter of what, and

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Speaker 1: there's so many whatts in this letter. Let's quickly go

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Speaker 1: over what we found out. Um been with this relationship

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Speaker 1: he moved in with you, y'all living together? Y'all ain't

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Speaker 1: having sex till the papers get signed? Okay, letty right?

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Speaker 1: He told me his wife divorced him because he cheated

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Speaker 1: few more people. That's what you did, okay? Bro? He

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Speaker 1: So you he was living with you, but he kept

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Speaker 1: you kept unlocking the door. What what two weeks ago

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Speaker 1: he went over there. When he came back, he was quiet,

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Speaker 1: What Why did he tell you that? What? This dude

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Speaker 1: What right? So what was it crying for? Because he

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Speaker 1: So he cried, he gonna leave? What I would? He

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Speaker 1: because he kept screwing around. He'd been going over that

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Speaker 1: What Steve, Wait a minute, that's what you're doing now?

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Speaker 1: He back with his wife, He keeps coming on. That's

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Speaker 1: So you really think that this man didn't told his

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Speaker 1: that he in love with you, and he asked her

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Speaker 1: because he still see you, And she said, as long

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Speaker 1: I'll promise you this conversation name being ahead. She said,

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Speaker 1: I'm so love sick. I entertained this crazy notion for

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Speaker 1: a day or two. What entertained it? But he came

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Speaker 1: He's sleeping back with her. He didn't move back in

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Speaker 1: It was perfume? Youre smelling? Hello? Why didn't he shower?

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Speaker 1: third whill No, No, you are the third wheel. You've

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