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Speaker 1: Novel. This show contains adult material and swearing. You have

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Speaker 1: been warned. I love your accent.

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Speaker 2: There's both people listening who are like, what the fuck?

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Speaker 2: I don't even understand it. She's gone too before. Sometimes

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Speaker 2: I listened back to stuff before and I'm like, I

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Speaker 2: needed to have like subtitles walking around with me, around me,

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Speaker 2: I'm a savage.

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Speaker 1: Are you bored of modern dating? Meeting the same people

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Speaker 1: from the same apps in the same bar You've only

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Speaker 1: chosen because it's close to your house and you can

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Speaker 1: make your usual quick getaway. It's time to change the

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Speaker 1: narrative on how we find love. It's time to start

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Speaker 1: looking for love in all the wrong places. I'm going

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Speaker 1: on a wild dating adventure, only picking people who were

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Speaker 1: the toe opposite of my type. And after twenty eight

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Speaker 1: of these dates in two months, will I find that

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Speaker 1: special someone?

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Speaker 3: Or well?

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Speaker 1: This experiment proved that I should just give up on

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Speaker 1: dating altogether. It's time to find out. I'm Grace Campbell

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Speaker 1: and this is twenty eight dates later.

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Speaker 2: Grace, what's the story? How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm good? How are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm very good? It's a yeah, kind of busy week,

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Speaker 2: but I'm living for another date. Story to spice up

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Speaker 2: my very monogamous life.

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Speaker 1: I have decided I feel like you and load of

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Speaker 1: people in my life live vicariously through me, and I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure whether or not that makes me feel good

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Speaker 1: or bad. I can't explain it. It's like I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm doing all of these things so that none

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Speaker 1: of you have to, so that we have things to

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Speaker 1: talk about.

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Speaker 2: You know what. It's not so none of us have to.

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Speaker 2: It's like I wouldn't be brave enough to go on

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Speaker 2: twenty eight dates with loads of random people and put

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Speaker 2: myself out there. And I haven't been so long. Like,

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Speaker 2: as I said, I've been a serial relationship girls since

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Speaker 2: I was like sixteen.

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Speaker 1: That is crazy.

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Speaker 2: So if there's anything I ever regret is that I

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Speaker 2: didn't date more.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So you're making me not regretted.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I'm going through it so that you don't have to,

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Speaker 1: you know, have to be like, oh, do you know what?

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Speaker 1: Maybe I do want to go on in.

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Speaker 2: So the date of the week, the date of the week.

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Speaker 1: Her name is Becky and I've been like set up

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Speaker 1: with her by a friend.

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Speaker 2: So sorry, this is your first date with the girl

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Speaker 2: that we've spoken about.

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Speaker 1: So I went on another date with a different girl

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Speaker 1: like already for the podcast, which was really good. And

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Speaker 1: this was someone who I've been set up with by

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Speaker 1: a friend. I was I was quite nervous on this

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Speaker 1: dage Grace.

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Speaker 2: This is how guys feel like going on dates with you.

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Speaker 1: I think this is the other thing is I'm never

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Speaker 2: Can I just say, I am so excited to hear

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Speaker 2: your date with a woman because I don't know what

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Speaker 2: that dynamic is going to be. Like like obviously me

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Speaker 2: and you and we're mean, and we're like friends, we

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Speaker 2: have Socia Gray crack, but like, I don't know, I

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Speaker 2: just can't. I just cannot wait to hear this dynamic.

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Speaker 1: I definitely feel like it's one of the other things

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Speaker 1: that's been beneficial about this podcast is exploring the fact

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Speaker 1: that I probably will at points in my life date

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Speaker 1: women and get with women. I feel like I have

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Speaker 1: a very bisexual energy, Like women always think that I'm bisexual,

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Speaker 1: and like people always think I'm bisexual. I think that

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Speaker 1: the thing that I've maybe like found hard at the

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Speaker 1: beginning of thinking about dating women is I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 1: such a girl's girl that, like, on date, I just

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Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Like, I don't really

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Speaker 1: know how to have that bibras with men, Like I'm like,

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Speaker 1: have you ever swallow drone?

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Speaker 4: Come?

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Speaker 1: She told me on the day, like right early on,

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Speaker 1: I just also come back from New York.

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Speaker 2: So, like, do you think it's ever a good idea to

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Speaker 1: I don't think so, do you.

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Speaker 2: I would I would go for it if I was

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Speaker 2: just like, oh, this person's moving away. I feel like

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Speaker 2: it would actually take the pressure off and like you

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Speaker 2: could have a bit of fun.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but then what if you developed feelings for them?

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Speaker 2: Well, there's some things that Facetimeshi.

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Speaker 1: That's true. Yeah, Whenever I've been about to move away

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Speaker 1: for periods of time, I just categorically don't date because

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Speaker 2: Well yeah, it's different. I think if you're the one

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Speaker 1: Because that's the thing, that's what's always happened to me.

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Speaker 1: And then it's like, oh my god, imagine if I

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Speaker 1: stayed for that fucking loose Thank god I didn't. She'd

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Speaker 1: literally like come back from a festival that morning and

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Speaker 1: it like comes straight to meet me and she went

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Speaker 1: like at this like crazy heavy metal festival all weekend.

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Speaker 1: So initially I was like, oh my god, like, that's

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Speaker 4: You were at a festival this weekend?

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Speaker 1: How was it?

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Speaker 3: It was wonderful. Resistance Festival. I've got the band picture.

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Speaker 3: called Resistance Festival, and it's like a quite small, like

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Speaker 3: industrial metal festival in the UK.

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Speaker 1: But what does the industrial metal I've had a nine

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Speaker 1: inch nails No really?

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, yeah, I'm too young for that's how old nails?

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Speaker 2: How old?

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Speaker 4: How do you think? I don't know. I thought you

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Speaker 4: were like, yeah, I'm a bit of a name, mur

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Speaker 4: I could be anything.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I get everything in between. So yeah, I want

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Speaker 1: Okay, I just want to say I found out nine

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Speaker 1: inch Nails is like a heavy metal band.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Grace even I knew that. Really, Yeah, how I

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Speaker 2: suppose I do work in radio, but like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never heard of them because I only listened

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Speaker 2: You're so mellow in it? I can't get over how

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Speaker 2: like calm, and it's like you're It's how I imagined

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Speaker 2: all your dates would be. Like you're very just like

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Speaker 1: At the beginning, when she was talking about the heavy

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Speaker 1: that's just like really like, I'm so on the other

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Speaker 1: just wanting to talk to the woman in that situation

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Speaker 1: because I prefer women to men just in terms of chat,

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Speaker 1: a fucking sheltered little baby. What's your like dating landscape

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Speaker 1: at the moment?

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Speaker 3: Dating landscape so bisexual, polyamorous.

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Speaker 4: Don't know whether you're familiar with that very much though,

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Speaker 3: But I've got partners everywhere, say everywhere, I've got lots

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Speaker 3: I've got someone Indonesia and BALI, okay, go and see

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's kind of like a step up into

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Speaker 4: it's okay serious with them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, when did you meet them?

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Speaker 4: I met them through friends quite so recently.

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Speaker 1: Can I just say When I was listening to her

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Speaker 2: Can I imagine having three.

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Speaker 1: To four people that you like so much you would

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Speaker 2: She must have really good time management, like I got

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Speaker 2: because honestly, like, can I just say, like I was

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Speaker 2: music slash entertainment industry. Like we hardly get to see

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Speaker 2: to make an effort and like having to keep that relationship,

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Speaker 2: make sure you're always talking back to them, even with

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Speaker 2: your friends. I'm like, having multiple partners is just like

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Speaker 2: just the.

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Speaker 1: Time Ross I get in trouble with so many people

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Speaker 1: all the time for not replying to messages. I'm so

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Speaker 1: bad at applying to messages. It's a really bad personality trait,

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Speaker 1: and it's developed the more busy I am. I can't

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Speaker 1: imagine being in an emotional relationship with three different people

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Speaker 1: on different fucking time zones. One of them's in Bali,

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Speaker 1: one of them is in the Marria, Like those are

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Speaker 1: completely different times. And on her home screen on her

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Speaker 1: phone she had the three clocks. Well, I think there

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Speaker 1: was the fourth one. There was another person somewhere I

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Speaker 1: can't remember. There's quite a lot of admin.

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Speaker 2: How many people do you think you could date it once?

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Speaker 1: So I've before dated like three people at the same

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Speaker 1: time and it's ended up only really being that many

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Speaker 1: people for like a month, because then it just becomes

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Speaker 1: complicated and I end up liking one of them more.

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Speaker 1: But I could not be in like that many like

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Speaker 1: actual long term relationships over periods of time for that.

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Speaker 2: Long, and never mind like them all being at different

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Speaker 1: No exactly.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, worldwide, I mean look at you. Wow.

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Speaker 2: If you could only date people within your profession, who

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, because like she's obviously Ana, but who she

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Speaker 2: And I was like, oh no, I need to find

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Speaker 1: It's like I was so horny watching that, but he'd

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Speaker 4: Like?

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Speaker 2: What was the story? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I asked, I asked her what it was like with

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Speaker 4: Well actually more often it's like nine to seven, but

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Speaker 3: But he starts work in New York about like and

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Speaker 3: But he'll get home just as I'm kind of going

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Speaker 3: Then there will be something like two am. On my side,

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Speaker 1: That'll be interesting when you go. It will be interesting

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Grace, have you ever done long distance?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: I did once. So I've seen this guy who lived

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well we were on zoom and stuff.

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Speaker 2: And I remember then like he had an absolute meltdown

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Speaker 1: But that's good in a way. It's like, imagine if

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Speaker 2: I could be living in Positana right now.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, is that where he lived.

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Speaker 2: No, but he lives somewhere in Italy.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, right was the Italian?

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Speaker 2: No, he's Brazilian?

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Speaker 1: Right? Oh wow, miss world?

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Speaker 2: Why miss I do have to say? Like she has

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Speaker 1: Hmm, couldn't she got a husky voice. Where did you

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Speaker 2: Of course, let's you know.

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Speaker 3: I found career wise, it was probably big good idea

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Speaker 3: So everybody who isn't from there does I don't know.

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Speaker 1: People are really rude about it, like people are really

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Speaker 2: I'm not. I don't even think what a Birmham accent.

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Speaker 1: It's the peaky blinders, Like it's the accent.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's sexy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's fair. I think accent is fair,

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Speaker 2: Great, So I was going to ask you, have you

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Speaker 1: My accent is weird though, my accents like sometimes I'm

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's it is mad because I feel like

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And like I guess it was because I obviously

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Speaker 1: But was that a thing you had to like teach yourself?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Like and even like up to five six

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Speaker 2: I think it was more like slowing down. I'm just

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Speaker 1: I love it. I love your accent.

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Speaker 2: There's probably of people listening who were like, what the fuck.

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Speaker 1: What was she like before?

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I feel like it was a good day.

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Speaker 1: I had a good date with Becky. I don't think

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Speaker 2: And in the series, you've just dated two women. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think it really depends on the person. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: definitely wouldn't say never.

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Speaker 2: So like, I've obviously known you for so long, We've

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I had no idea that you you

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Speaker 2: also were interested in women as well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I'm definitely like much more interested in men.

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Speaker 1: That's why I wouldn't. I wouldn't. I would probably not

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Speaker 1: But like, I think there's this phrase on like field

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Speaker 1: the aic saying that, but I'm just like open to it.

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? You're over here, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm kind of like figuring out. I

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Speaker 1: think it's the only thing I can say. Next time.

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Speaker 1: On twenty eight dates later.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I've never heard a situation that's so clearly is

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Speaker 4: a good point.

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Speaker 1: A gun to my head?

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Speaker 2: Him?

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Speaker 1: Please? He was having the time of his life, where

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Speaker 1: for me, I'm a savoy? Can it? Twenty eight Dates

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