WEBVTT - Take The Boda Abroad Or Keep It Local? 0:00:05.000 --> 0:00:07.400 I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:09.799 and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and 0:00:09.840 --> 0:00:14.680 I'm a body positive addicate. I'm Carolina bermudez Na, but 0:00:14.720 --> 0:00:17.680 i was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:21.840 a mama, and a worker. Be this is life in Spanglish. 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:27.120 And we have been recording now for what I feel 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:29.680 like a couple of weeks. And I said, I always 0:00:29.680 --> 0:00:31.760 look forward when I see this on my calendar, because 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:33.720 like there are other things that pop up on the calendar, 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:38.800 if you know what I mean, and you're like, ignore, dismiss, 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:42.279 I'm busy, but this one now, I'm ready for it. 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:45.080 I'm ready, and you know what, we have wedding bells 0:00:45.280 --> 0:00:47.320 on the brain right now. And so there are so 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:49.360 many people who are talking about like at least I 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:51.880 know one of my friends just got engaged and I 0:00:52.159 --> 0:00:55.240 couldn't be happier for her. She's older, so it's not 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:58.400 like you know when we were younger that you get 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:01.840 engaged and you know she's an she's in her late thirties, 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:04.600 and I'm really just so excited for her that she 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:07.240 found her man. But just in't speaking with her. It 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:09.440 got me thinking about my own wedding, and I don't 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:11.880 even think we ever got into your wedding, honey. We 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:14.080 can definitely talk about my wedding. There was a lot 0:01:14.160 --> 0:01:17.440 of different sasonas that went into that wedding. Really, Oh 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:19.400 my god, I want to hear and tell me everything. 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:21.639 So we're gonna talk about like wedding planning and everything. 0:01:21.640 --> 0:01:23.440 Because my friend was asking me, She's like, can I 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:25.080 pick your brain? Like what did you do? And I 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:27.600 was like, girl, I had a wedding planner. I was working. 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:30.160 I had three jobs at the time. I mean, I 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:31.680 just there was no way that I was going to 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:35.200 add wedding planning the way that I knew I wanted 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:36.960 it to be, you know what I mean, Like I was, 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:39.279 there's no way. So I definitely got a wedding planner, 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:41.600 but I want to hear about yours. Well, you know, 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:44.720 my older sister she does wedding planning. We also you know, 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:47.280 she's like she loves different things. So as soon as 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:49.279 I got engaged, she was like, this is my wedding. 0:01:49.280 --> 0:01:53.120 I'm planning everything. So yes, so luckily, but I wasn't 0:01:53.160 --> 0:01:55.960 paying her, so I had to be involved because you 0:01:55.960 --> 0:01:58.600 know this was pro bono, So I did help a 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:00.480 lot with wedding planning, and I did have a lot 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:03.720 to do, like picking choosing. I had a destination wedding. 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:06.200 What kind of wedding did you have, Carolina, Well, it 0:02:06.280 --> 0:02:08.480 was destination for other people because it was in New 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:11.400 York City. So I was like, we are getting married 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:13.720 in the city, like we were living in Brooklyn at 0:02:13.720 --> 0:02:16.680 the time. So we decided that we tried to do 0:02:16.720 --> 0:02:19.880 a destination We went to different places in Miami thinking 0:02:19.880 --> 0:02:22.200 maybe we'll have a wedding and we're like, no, it's 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:27.040 a city wedding. So we did it in Manhattan. In Manhattan, well, yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:28.799 I know. It was crazy. I'll tell you guys where 0:02:28.800 --> 0:02:30.440 I got married and stuff, and if you guys look 0:02:30.480 --> 0:02:35.639 it up, the place is just it's breathtaking. Um church wedding. No, well, 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.960 you know, my husband's Jewish, um Catholic, so we couldn't 0:02:38.960 --> 0:02:41.160 get married in the church, which was just like a 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:43.920 really big deal to me because my grandfather was very 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:47.239 involved in the church and um unfortunately he passed before 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:50.640 we got engaged. But um, I wanted the element of 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:54.520 having a priest, and then Mark wanted a rabbi. So 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:57.400 we got married at this place. It's called the Angel 0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:01.080 or in Sons Foundation. If you've never seen it before, 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:05.960 it is so incredible. I won't be listening for like 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:11.120 one minute. Begose no Google Google image because it is um. 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.800 So it was basically one of the first synagogues in 0:03:13.880 --> 0:03:16.600 New York City and um it went through many different 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:19.600 like uh phases where people tried to tear it down. 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:23.160 It was always preserved. And then I believe back like 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:25.959 in the eighties or the nineties or something, they made 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:29.600 it into an event space. And looking at this picture 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:31.600 right now, what do you think you are Mega Marco 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:36.360 or some sh it, because this is gorgeous. Wow, it's 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:41.200 like an overhead photograph. It has like a gothic feel. Um. 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:43.280 They did a lot of like VH one shows there. 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:45.600 I think they did like a Divas show there once. Um. 0:03:45.640 --> 0:03:48.160 But like the story about it is really so beautiful. 0:03:48.200 --> 0:03:50.800 Because Mark and I were at the time we were engaged, 0:03:51.040 --> 0:03:52.640 we said we wanted to go and look at different 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:55.600 venues in the city, and um we looked at this 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:59.120 place from the outside and outside it was so funky. 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.840 We were like, why, like what is this place? How 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:04.320 did you end up there. The wedding planner, no, no, no, 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:07.240 wedding planner didn't come until later, Like a wedding planner 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:09.520 came for like the details, you know, but like this 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:12.400 finding the location was me and Mark, like we basically 0:04:12.440 --> 0:04:14.760 just said one Saturday morning, let's just go drive around 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:17.680 the city and look at these different places. So we 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:20.920 walked in and we both were just like blown away. 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:23.560 It took our breath away. We asked for somebody because 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:26.080 there was literally nobody there. We walked in and we 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:28.560 asked for somebody, were like, how do we reach out 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:32.080 to someone to get our date or for the venue? 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:35.159 And they said, oh, we're sorry. You know this is 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:38.160 booked for another year, Like there's no way that you 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.840 could get married here. And so Mark, ever the thinker, 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:45.080 I have to tell you, like this guy, he blows 0:04:45.120 --> 0:04:47.360 me away. So we're walking out and I'm like, oh 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.240 my gosh, I said, Mark, that place, I said, it 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:51.760 was just unbelievable. Goes, wait, let's go back. So we 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:53.520 go back in and he goes to the guy and 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:56.239 he goes, do you have any contracts that aren't signed? 0:04:56.839 --> 0:04:58.480 And he goes, what do you mean? He goes, is 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:00.839 there anybody who hasn't signed and giving you a payment 0:05:00.880 --> 0:05:02.480 for a contract. Head He's like, we'll give you a 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:04.800 payment right now if you give us a date. So 0:05:04.839 --> 0:05:07.800 he went to the office. He looked up. There were 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:11.680 two people that did not have contracts signed. He reached 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:13.839 out to both of those people were literally waiting there 0:05:14.320 --> 0:05:16.840 right there. Marc is like, I will write you a 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:19.000 check right now. This is where we want to get married. 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:23.520 And so romantic of him, I feel like you're telling 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:25.920 you about a movie. It really it really is. And 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:28.760 so the guy went downstairs. He went to his office, 0:05:28.800 --> 0:05:30.560 and we're looking around and we're thinking to ourselves, Okay, 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:33.400 could we do the could we do the ceremony here? 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:35.120 And could we do this? And like we're just already 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:37.280 thinking and planning and everything. And so the guy comes 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:40.120 up and he goes, um, congratulations, you're getting married on 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:45.240 nine months. So the venue gave you a wedding date. 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:47.760 There was a person who didn't sign a contract, and 0:05:47.800 --> 0:05:49.360 he reached out to them and he said, we have 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:51.520 people who are interested. They're here right now. You know, 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:53.520 if you don't want the venue, we need to know 0:05:53.640 --> 0:05:55.240 because these people would like to have it. And the 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:57.840 person said yeah, we're not going to get married there, 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.240 and he gave us the date that day and he 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:05.080 said you will be getting married June and that was it. 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:09.360 So that's how we picked up. Yes, I love it. 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:11.840 It's super random, but I love it. I know, I know. 0:06:11.960 --> 0:06:13.680 So where did you get married? Where did you what 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:16.440 was your destination? Was it American Republic? Yeah, we actually 0:06:16.520 --> 0:06:19.280 got married in Punta Kana And the only reason, the 0:06:19.360 --> 0:06:23.280 only reason we got married was because my Agualita was 0:06:23.440 --> 0:06:27.119 ninety four years old, blessed, and I was not getting 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:30.160 married without her there. When you know, when my mother 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:33.000 got pregnant from me, she had just arrived in America 0:06:33.040 --> 0:06:35.280 as an immigrant, and she was like, I can't keep 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:36.960 this baby here with me, so I was shipped off 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:39.680 to my Ajuanita, and my Ajuanita kept me until I 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:43.280 was like pop, practically ready for kindergarten. So I couldn't 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:44.920 get married without her being there. So I was like, 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:46.600 everybody who wants to be at my wedding, guess what, 0:06:46.640 --> 0:06:48.680 You're gonna have to go to the Medican Republic for sure, 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:51.120 without a doubt. That's the only thing that other than 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:54.000 Nony obviously, she was the only person at the wedding 0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:56.560 that really really mattered to me because you know, I 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:59.040 had not got married, I had not had kids. So 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:06.960 I felt like Jose because she was very Catholic, my grandmother, 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:10.600 and she was like the veil the bride the church. 0:07:10.760 --> 0:07:13.280 So I know that that gave her, you know, it 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.160 made her a little heart smile and oh for sure. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:19.480 But then again also there's a lot of turn up 0:07:19.480 --> 0:07:22.120 in Dominican Republic, so it kind of like there's a 0:07:22.160 --> 0:07:24.240 lot of turn up. It kind of like all worked out. 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:26.440 So like all of our friends, we actually had like 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:28.800 sixty guests, but they all have to fly there, so 0:07:28.920 --> 0:07:31.040 that's a lot of people to move a lot. Yeah, 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:33.720 but our friends, like Nina only I really love you. 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:36.080 We have like really amazing friends. You know, people love us, 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.320 people always want to be in our house. So we 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:40.280 were there for a whole week, and you know, so 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:43.840 it's like sometimes you spend thirty, forty, fifty, sixty dollars 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:45.760 even a hundred thousand dollars on a wedding and then 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:48.360 you know it's over, and like one day, like we said, 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:49.560 like you know what, why don't we make it a 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:52.720 weekend thing, have a welcome barbecue, take the girls to 0:07:52.800 --> 0:07:55.240 the spa have a goodbye brunch. So that's the main 0:07:55.320 --> 0:07:58.040 reason we decided out a destination wedding, and the place 0:07:58.040 --> 0:08:01.200 where we got married was Proa, My beautiful We went 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:05.040 back after Oh my gosh, I'm special and you were 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:07.400 probably like, that's where I walked. That's where they threw 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:11.360 the rose pedals. I do right there. That's where our 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:14.280 little rose tent was at. That's where Nooni's friend got 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:19.160 trashed and passed out, kidding, not trashed and slept on 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:22.280 the beach. That woke up my wedding. My souter like, 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:24.240 where's your nephew. I'm like, I don't know he went 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:26.200 out with Noon When he's like, oh, he was walking 0:08:26.240 --> 0:08:28.480 to the room. Girl, they found him face down in 0:08:28.560 --> 0:08:32.720 the sand on the beach with his passport is here, teenager, 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:35.439 I will I will not marry you, and then I 0:08:35.480 --> 0:08:37.520 will kill you if something would have happened to my nephew. 0:08:38.200 --> 0:08:43.440 I because those passports, man, you know what I mean, crazy, 0:08:43.480 --> 0:08:46.199 they lifted take that picture off. Don't tell me, I 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:48.360 mean seriously, because I know all about that stuff. But 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:52.920 so like, destination wedding so different from a wedding that's 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:56.800 at your location. Because like, for example, everybody flew in, 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.840 like my Maya Belita was flown in from San Francisco. 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:02.520 She had to fly to Florida, and then she had 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:04.280 to wait in Florida for a week or two because 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:06.840 she was in her nineties as well. And the beautiful 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:09.559 complaining because you know what you guys give you like me, 0:09:12.040 --> 0:09:15.560 he was high, No, she was ready. She had her 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:18.800 miss d D like she was red D. Like so, 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:21.760 my mom had six kids. Out of all of the 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:24.560 six kids, she went to every single wedding. My grandfather, 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:27.280 like I said, he passed unfortunately before mine, but they 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:30.440 went to every single one of my mom's kids weddings. 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:34.280 And it was so special, so special. I have her 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:35.760 be a part of it. But like, you know, the 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:37.480 thing is, I look back on it and it's like 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:40.439 Mark and I looked at each other. Somebody once said, 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:43.560 you could either have a perfect wedding or a perfect marriage. 0:09:43.679 --> 0:09:50.600 You decide. We had the most spectacular wedding. Nothing went 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:52.959 wrong like for us. It was just like it was 0:09:53.160 --> 0:09:56.360 so beautiful, so special. Oh my gosh. I kept on 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:58.000 thinking to myself too, and this is just the way 0:09:58.040 --> 0:09:59.800 that I think. I kept on thinking, like, Okay, what's 0:10:00.000 --> 0:10:01.880 to happen. And I shouldn't have done that because like 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:03.960 the whole time I was waiting for something and everything 0:10:04.120 --> 0:10:06.280 was just great, you know what I mean. So it's 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:08.880 like anybody who's wedding planning, like, don't let people get 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:11.160 in your brain that like something's going to happen or 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.200 you know what I mean. And like for those people 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:15.199 who don't have a wedding planner, you don't need a 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:18.439 wedding planner. I needed a wedding planner because, like, truthfully 0:10:18.559 --> 0:10:20.719 I did. I had three jobs at the time, you know, 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:23.559 so I was working for us still, I was working 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:26.200 for Elvis Durran Show, and then I also was still 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:28.839 freelancing and doing like you know, my spide gigs and 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:31.560 stuff like that. So you didn't have time you managing 0:10:31.679 --> 0:10:33.679 that and the wedding. The wedding was too important for 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:36.440 me to like let it go, you know what I mean. 0:10:36.559 --> 0:10:39.640 So it's like, looking back on it now, zero regrets 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:42.480 on having a wedding planner. The same thing with me. 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:44.960 You know, even though my my sister was my wedding planner, 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:48.480 she killed it. She did amazing, you know, she knew 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:51.000 all the details that I didn't know, especially me, girl, 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:53.599 I carried everything to another country. Like you think I 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:55.360 would have been able to do this on my own. No, 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:59.199 you need somebody that's precise, that is super specific, that 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.000 has like an I mean, that's the thing. That's the 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:04.319 reason why I really appreciated Claudia, the woman who took 0:11:04.360 --> 0:11:06.800 care of our wedding, because it was like like every 0:11:07.000 --> 0:11:10.800 single detail down to like the handkerchiefs that they handed 0:11:10.800 --> 0:11:14.520 out when people walked in. They had our our initials 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:16.719 embroidered in the date and I said, I was like, 0:11:16.800 --> 0:11:18.200 you know, we had so many of those left over. 0:11:18.280 --> 0:11:20.200 And I said, Mark, these are so special the boys 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:22.079 will carry when when they get married. You know. I 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:23.839 just found a box the other day. It was like 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.559 a Tiffany box. I'm like, what's in here? Like my 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:29.400 veil was in there and like my ash. I'm like, 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:31.360 oh look at this. I kept it because I'm I 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:32.959 throw everything out. But I was like, I guess not, 0:11:33.200 --> 0:11:36.360 do you? Oh my gosh, no, I know it out 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:38.760 throw it out. I just don't like clutter, Like it's 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.160 like I hate clutter. I don't and es, since I 0:11:41.240 --> 0:11:43.520 live in in an apartment, I don't have, you know, 0:11:43.600 --> 0:11:45.640 a basement I don't have an addict, so it's like 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:50.480 whatever closet space I have, that's it. No, I'm so 0:11:50.640 --> 0:11:53.200 sentimental though. I even kept like the little hair tied, 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:56.000 like my mom gave me a little tiny it was tiny, 0:11:56.120 --> 0:12:03.079 tiny um a little Swarovski um blue crystal pin just 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:05.440 for me to put underneath my hair. It was literally 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:07.599 underneath my hair. That was my something blue and I 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:09.760 still have it and it's just so special to me. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:10.800 And that's why I said it was like, you know, 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:12.760 I didn't have a daughter, but hopefully one day when 0:12:12.800 --> 0:12:15.400 my kids get married, you know, whoever they choose, maybe 0:12:15.440 --> 0:12:19.000 they'll be receptive to, like, you know, having something that 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:21.360 I wore on my wedding. But like the one thing 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:24.440 that I will say that was the toughest the guest list. 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:32.320 The guest list was tough. Who are you telling did 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:34.439 you split it down the middle, like you get fifty 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:37.000 guests get guests? Did you do something like that? There 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:39.960 were so many rules with this place that we were 0:12:40.040 --> 0:12:42.079 only allowed to have. I think it was like to 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:45.120 we we didn't want a huge wedding. I think it 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:48.480 was like two people capacity. We went down to two 0:12:48.920 --> 0:12:51.319 because we were like, we don't want those fifty extra people, 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:55.040 like there's already gonna be people working and everything. Like 0:12:55.120 --> 0:12:57.960 we really wanted it to be as intimate as possible, 0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:01.319 and so we just went through. The problem was it 0:13:01.400 --> 0:13:03.800 wasn't us with the guestless, it was the people on 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:05.400 the guest less. Who's going to have an issue with 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:07.400 this person? Who? How do how do we put this 0:13:07.480 --> 0:13:11.320 person away from the other person? Yeah, Familia, it's like, oh, 0:13:12.760 --> 0:13:22.040 I don't know. Yeah, it gets messy, It gets messy. 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:25.840 We won't even talk about the seating arrangement. That's a problem. 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:28.120 But even the invites is already like nah, this one 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:30.600 doesn't like this one and I like, but we were 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:33.400 good with the invites, you know, like we didn't have 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:35.439 any issues with that. You know, my mom is it's 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:37.040 kind of like weird with stuff like that, like don't 0:13:37.040 --> 0:13:38.760 invite this one and don't invite you, don't talk to 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.240 that one. But I didn't let her dictate, So your wedding, 0:13:41.559 --> 0:13:44.520 it's not your wedding, mom. Yeah, she wasn't planning, she 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:46.480 wasn't paying, So I kind of like it was like, 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:48.680 you're gonna deal with whoever is there. I just won't 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:51.400 sit you with them for sure. Well, you know, the 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:54.840 funny thing for me was like, okay, so we're inviting 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:58.440 people and Mark and I I'm such an office supply person. 0:13:58.760 --> 0:14:00.880 I went and got these huge post it and in 0:14:00.960 --> 0:14:02.559 the apartment that we lived in back in the day, 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.440 it was all windows. So one day we sat down 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:08.000 where like we are going to do these seating charts, 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:10.880 and I got these big old post it notes. They 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:12.760 were like they were they were huge, like not your 0:14:12.800 --> 0:14:17.240 little post it notes, right exactly exactly. And so I 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:19.000 was like, Okay, here we go, We're gonna have it. 0:14:19.000 --> 0:14:20.640 I don't even remember how many tables. Let's say it 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:22.520 was ten. I said, we're gonna we have ten tables. 0:14:22.560 --> 0:14:25.160 We are getting this done now. So like we went 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:27.040 through it so that I could give it to my planner, 0:14:27.320 --> 0:14:29.280 and when she thought, she was like, I've never had 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:32.640 anybody be as detailed as this, Like it was crazy. 0:14:32.960 --> 0:14:35.000 The funny thing for me was and actually, I feel 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.320 like one of the most beautiful parts as far as 0:14:37.520 --> 0:14:42.720 our wedding went, was the mixture of the Jewish ceremony 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:46.200 with a Catholic ceremony, Like I had a huppa, which 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:48.600 you know, for me, it was like I never I've 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:51.480 never seen you know, I'd gone to a Jewish wedding before, 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:55.400 but like I'd never seen myself under a koppa getting married. 0:14:55.440 --> 0:14:58.280 You know when you picture yourself getting married. Don't judge 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:00.840 me doing that track a little bit. So I don't 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:02.680 know why I'm thinking sex in the city. You know 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:06.960 Charlotte when she converted, I did not convert, no, because 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:08.720 I'm thinking, I'm like, oh, she did same thing, Charlotte. 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:10.880 That don't mind me and my ignorance, but I don't 0:15:10.920 --> 0:15:14.200 have it. No, no, no, And it's great to ask questions. No. Um. 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:18.040 So we basically had a rabbi and we had a priest, 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:22.200 and we did a combined ceremony, so I did have 0:15:22.480 --> 0:15:26.720 to learn some um Hebrew to say at the wedding, 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:30.000 and Um, Mark was just like, you know, he went 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:32.360 with whatever it was that Um was involved with, like 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:35.200 the Catholic wedding. But yeah, it was just really touching 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:37.400 to see, like there are pictures of Mark's dad who's 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:39.680 no longer with us, and you could see him tearing 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:42.440 up when the rabbi was was giving us our blessing, 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:44.720 and like Mark stepped on the glass and I mean 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:48.240 that was just it was really just the perfect combination 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:51.280 of both of our religions and cultures. And like you know, 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:53.600 I always say to Mark, the only thing that I 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:56.320 regret about our wedding was that we couldn't extend it 0:15:56.400 --> 0:15:58.600 too longer, you know what I mean, Like I wanted 0:15:58.640 --> 0:16:00.560 it to end at like two o'clock in the morning, 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:03.440 you know what I mean. So I just even talking 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:05.560 about it now just gives me the best memories. You 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:07.680 look so happy, you know, you guys are listening to us, 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:09.840 But I can actually see her. She's been cheesing the 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:12.800 whole time. You could tell she's still in love with 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.920 her man. I you know what I mean, He's I 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:19.920 I'll keep him, you know. No, that's the thing. It's 0:16:19.920 --> 0:16:23.680 like we're now. We just celebrated ten years together, and 0:16:24.040 --> 0:16:26.680 we looked at each other and we're like ten years married, 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:30.560 thirteen years together. We started dating. He didn't ask me 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:33.400 to marry him until we were three years in. And 0:16:33.560 --> 0:16:36.880 then that whole story. You guys have to prepare yourself 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:39.480 for that story, because that story was so freaking romantic. 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:42.760 I'm not even kidding you. It's like, not make me cry, Okay, No, 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:48.280 it was honestly everything I would expect from Mark Grossman, Carolina, 0:16:48.360 --> 0:16:51.320 Can I tell you I fantasize about a very romantic 0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:54.960 proposal but it didn't happen. But continue, I want to 0:16:55.040 --> 0:16:57.880 hear what was your proposal? Like, no, tell me now? 0:16:58.680 --> 0:17:00.720 So okay, So me and me have known each other 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:03.400 practical since we were like twenty two years old, and 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:08.159 then later while we were living together, we were going 0:17:08.240 --> 0:17:11.440 to Paris right and moving together like five six years 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:14.119 already we have We've had a very long relation, and 0:17:14.200 --> 0:17:16.320 I was like Paris, I said, oh God, maybe you'll 0:17:16.359 --> 0:17:20.480 propose if this is it? This is it going down? Yeah, 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:24.200 the whole time I'm in Paris. Oh I feel towered today. Okay, 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:27.280 maybe today going to the top. He's taken me to 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:31.200 the top and he's gonna me on the river the 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:38.159 CN okay proposal today girl trip ends, no proposal. I'm like, 0:17:38.640 --> 0:17:42.520 wait a minute, wait a minute, no love lockets at 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:44.600 that like bridge or whatever. I don't know. I've never 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:47.520 been to Paris, what anything. He was not into anything. 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:49.359 I set up a photo shoot, you know what he did? 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:51.119 He was like, I ain't going it at When I 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:53.800 came back, I was like this man, and I don't 0:17:53.840 --> 0:17:55.840 know why I hacked myself up? Women, Why do we 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:59.520 do things like that? No need the missed opportunity though? 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:04.440 I yea's actually here? Did you, Nudy get on the 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:07.440 mic right now? Why on earth did you not know? 0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:10.480 I want to know why did you not take that opportunity? 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.680 And nuony, you're so cute? Come over here, Nudy. This 0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:16.800 is the perfect opportunity for you in Paris. It is 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:20.040 the city of love and light. It wasn't the right time. 0:18:20.640 --> 0:18:24.959 What do you think five years? Your listeners are going 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:26.639 to crucify me for this. But it has to be 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:29.440 the right time, not when the person that wants the 0:18:29.520 --> 0:18:32.160 proposal wants. It has to be when it's right when 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:34.640 when not not when I wanted, but when we feel 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:36.840 it's the right time. Paris wasn't the right time for me. 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:40.000 Paris wasn't the I mean, Paris is the right time 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:43.560 for everybody. That's just it in your mind. It's the 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:46.560 right time, I think for you. You're thinking Paris is 0:18:46.640 --> 0:18:50.600 the right place, but is it the right time? Well? Okay, 0:18:50.680 --> 0:18:52.080 so you know what, let me let me hear you 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:54.040 out on this. So what you're saying is that you 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:57.240 guys were five years in right, five six years into 0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:00.840 your relationship, let's say around that time in your mind, 0:19:01.000 --> 0:19:04.600 what were you thinking would have been the perfect time 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:07.240 and place? Was it indeed the proposal that you did. 0:19:07.600 --> 0:19:09.800 I don't think if if it would have went down 0:19:09.840 --> 0:19:11.280 in Paris, I don't think it would have been that 0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:13.919 genuine would I think it would have been more like, oh, 0:19:14.000 --> 0:19:16.240 we're in Paris, I have to do this. I don't 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:17.639 think it would have been it would have been as 0:19:17.720 --> 0:19:21.280