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Speaker 1: When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes a family affair.

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Speaker 1: TLC's new series Unexpected explores the ups and downs of

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Speaker 1: three pregnant teens who are all children of teen mothers themselves.

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Speaker 1: Parents and grandparents must step in to help them through

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Speaker 1: this huge life change. Don't miss the revealing new series

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Speaker 1: Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at ten nine Central on t

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Speaker 1: l C. Can't wait watch the early premiere now on

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Speaker 1: TLC Go download the free app now a subject. Fight

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Speaker 1: from my man, or give it up and let it go?

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Speaker 1: Or give up and let it go. Just Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: My husband and I have known each other since we

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Speaker 1: were seven and eleven years old. Throughout the years we've

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Speaker 1: had on an off relationship, it didn't matter if we

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Speaker 1: were exclusive or not. We always found a way to

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Speaker 1: be together. We finally got married in two thousand. We

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Speaker 1: had separated for four years until we found our way

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Speaker 1: back to one another. Now we've been together for the

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Speaker 1: past two years. I'm sorry, I've been messing with Tom.

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Speaker 1: I can't pay attention. Respond subject it goes, Fight my man,

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Speaker 1: It's okay, darling, fight my man, or give up and

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Speaker 1: let it go. I think she means fight for my

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Speaker 1: man or give up and let it go. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: my husband and I have known each other since we

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Speaker 1: were seven and eleven years old. Throughout the years, we've

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Speaker 1: had off and on relationships, it didn't matter if we

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Speaker 1: were exclusive or not. We always found a way to

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Speaker 1: be together. We finally got married. We have been separated

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Speaker 1: for four years until we've found our way back to

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Speaker 1: one another. Now we've been together for the past two years.

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Speaker 1: My problem is when we got back together, we clearly

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Speaker 1: stated to one another if there was a low tolerance

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Speaker 1: for cheating. My dumb bud decided to get involved with

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Speaker 1: phone sex with a man that I have never met

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Speaker 1: in person, that I only dealt with through work that

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Speaker 1: Liz literally states and states await. Not only was I

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Speaker 1: having conversations with this total stranger, but I have also

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Speaker 1: had conversations with my ex boyfriend that I left my husband,

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Speaker 1: that I left my for my husband, that I left

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Speaker 1: my four husbands, that I left for my husband. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I was just trying to make out what she was saying. Well,

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Speaker 1: my light shine right now, it's been about six months

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Speaker 1: since has happened to my husband and my husband decided

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Speaker 1: to leave me and the kids about a month and

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Speaker 1: a half ago. He refuses to give me another chance,

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Speaker 1: and I just want my marriage to work like it

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Speaker 1: should have from the beginning. Every time I asked him

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Speaker 1: to come home, he just questions me, what am I

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Speaker 1: coming home to, what will be different, etcetera. I thought

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Speaker 1: things were going well. Since that happened. We went on

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Speaker 1: and a cruise this past summer for our six year anniversary. Um,

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Speaker 1: he's leaving just smacked me. His leaving just smacked me

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Speaker 1: in the face. Sometimes I feel like he will come

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Speaker 1: back home, especially when he comes safer nights at a

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Speaker 1: time and spurts. I really and truly loved my husband.

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Speaker 1: I keep telling him just because I did what I

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Speaker 1: did doesn't mean that I don't love him any less.

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Speaker 1: I really need this man in my life, not only

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Speaker 1: for me, before my daughter as well. I have mentally

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Speaker 1: let go and let God, but I am truly scared

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Speaker 1: that I have lost this man for good. What should

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Speaker 1: I do? Should I give up hope or should I

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Speaker 1: keep fighting? Sign should have known better to not let

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Speaker 1: others in. Okay, no time, we'll have to come back.

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Speaker 1: But the Strawberry letter is posted if you want to

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Speaker 1: give your comment and read the letter and all of that,

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Speaker 1: go to Steve Harvey dot com. You're listening to the

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Show. When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes

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Speaker 1: children of teen mothers themselves. Parents and grandparents must step

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Speaker 1: in to help them through this huge life change. Don't

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Speaker 1: miss the revealing new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at

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Speaker 1: ten nine Central on t l C. Can't wait watch

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Speaker 1: the early premiere net out untilthy go download the free

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Speaker 1: app now, but come on see right now Part two

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Speaker 1: of Today's Strawberry Letter. Your response you want to hear go,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to do this letter line by line

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Speaker 1: and break it down. What's really wrong here? The letter

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Speaker 1: answer is always at the end, like I say. Usually,

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Speaker 1: like Charlotte just said, I have mentally let go to

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Speaker 1: let God. Okay, you have made this decision, after all

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Speaker 1: it is you'd all listening went down. Now you want

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Speaker 1: to let go let God. Now you want God to

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Speaker 1: come in and fix all these mistakes that are repercussions

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Speaker 1: even when you have a relationship with God, you still

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Speaker 1: have to make amends. You still have to let the

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Speaker 1: mistakes you make runday. Course, God is there to help

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Speaker 1: you get through it now. You need him now, just

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Speaker 1: to help you get through it. You may not be

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Speaker 1: able to fix some of the decisions you made. Let's

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Speaker 1: go to the letter, ladies, fight for your man or

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Speaker 1: give up and let go? What have you done to

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Speaker 1: keep your man? This letter is crazy from the kid go.

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Speaker 1: We have known each other since we were seven and

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Speaker 1: eleven years old. Throughout the years we've had on in

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Speaker 1: all relationships. It didn't matter if we were exclusive or not.

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Speaker 1: We always found a way to be together. Now, right

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Speaker 1: after that crazy mess, the line is, we finally got

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Speaker 1: married for what? What did y'all even getting married for?

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Speaker 1: You've been knowing each other for since you're seven eleven,

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Speaker 1: been in off and on relationships the whole time. You

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Speaker 1: even said it didn't matter if we weren't exclusive or not,

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Speaker 1: we always found a way to be together. Next sentence,

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Speaker 1: we finally got married for what he did? Y'all to

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Speaker 1: getting married, you have not had a marriage type track

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Speaker 1: record or a marriage type arrangement before you got married.

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Speaker 1: Y'all's activities never was handed in the direction of marriage.

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Speaker 1: And you decided to get married, and you ain't changed

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Speaker 1: now one of your behavioral patterns even after the marriage,

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Speaker 1: because you didn't practice it before you married somebody. When

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Speaker 1: you say, man, this is who I wanna be with,

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Speaker 1: this is the girl, this is the man for me,

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Speaker 1: this is it, that's when you make the move, not

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Speaker 1: after you ain't ever been exclusive. It didn't matter that

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Speaker 1: she was exclusive or not. So we got married for what.

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Speaker 1: That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. I'm not but

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna take yoga. Show me the tie in here.

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Speaker 1: But it was this is what you know. Then then

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Speaker 1: let's go down to the next line. Now we've been

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Speaker 1: together for the past to my problem is when we

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Speaker 1: got back together, we really stated that to one another,

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Speaker 1: that there is a low tolerance for cheating. Low tolerance

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Speaker 1: for cheating low means it's a little bit of tolerance

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Speaker 1: for cheating. See, that's why you did what you did,

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Speaker 1: because it's a no tolerance for cheating in a marriage.

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Speaker 1: You went in stating it was a low tolerance. That's stupid. Again,

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Speaker 1: matter of fact, lady, this whole letter happening because you're

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Speaker 1: stupid and your man stupid. Now two stupid people and

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Speaker 1: gotten married. Now, stupid stuff keep happening. All right, let's

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Speaker 1: go on down and and and and and my dumb button.

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Speaker 1: Now here's where she gets. I told you she was

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Speaker 1: stupid listening to my dumb but decided to get involved

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Speaker 1: with phone set with a man I've never met in person.

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Speaker 1: That is really stupid that I only dealt with through

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Speaker 1: work that lives literally states and states away. Not only

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Speaker 1: was I having conversations with this total stranger, but I've

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Speaker 1: also had a conversation with my ex boyfriend that I

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Speaker 1: left my husband. Fault that I left for my husband.

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Speaker 1: That was one of them non exclusive relationships she had

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Speaker 1: before U before they got married. That See, that's why

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Speaker 1: they can't ever beat there. She was in a relationship. Then, okay,

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Speaker 1: of course everything that you're doing the dog comes light. Well,

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Speaker 1: my life got you. Now it's been about six months

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Speaker 1: since this half and my husband decided to leave me

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Speaker 1: and the kids about a month and a half ago.

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Speaker 1: You know why, because he can't get past see me

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Speaker 1: in different See if we cheat, we want you to

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Speaker 1: get past it. But when you chief, please understand, we

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Speaker 1: ain't fitting to get past because our egos want to

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Speaker 1: allow us to get past it. So you can save

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Speaker 1: all that double standards, whatever you wanna call it, but

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Speaker 1: usually women don't do that. So when you do that,

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Speaker 1: our ego, our mail ego's damaged beyond repair. All right, Steve,

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Speaker 1: your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter. At my Girls, Shirley,

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