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Speaker 1: I want to see what Jonathan Major's wearing in high school.

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Speaker 1: He was.

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Speaker 2: I really don't want to know what he was wearing

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Speaker 2: in high school. I want to know if this became

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Speaker 2: this thing.

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Speaker 1: Or was like this.

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Speaker 3: That man was wearing top hats and Dutch clogs. That

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Speaker 3: is like weirdo.

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Speaker 2: That's bugs is crazy, tugs crazy what.

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Speaker 1: They carved him himself.

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Speaker 3: Mom, they roasted my wittles again. It's like, all right, bro,

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Speaker 3: you gotta stop calling them wish ship.

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Speaker 1: Chips in your.

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Speaker 4: Kuala bears are racist. The bows, the money, our turney stuff.

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Speaker 1: I can't tell me.

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Speaker 4: When I die.

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Speaker 3: Bury me inside the Booty Club. There it is ladies

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Speaker 3: and gentlemen, gentiles and little Mama's aike. Welcome to another

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Speaker 3: phenomenal episode of My Mama Told Me.

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Speaker 4: The podcast where we die deep into the pockets of

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Speaker 4: black conspiracy theories.

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Speaker 3: And we finally work to prove that Lebron James is

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Speaker 3: never going to retire from the NBA until he gets

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Speaker 3: his oldest son into the league, Trinidad James. He wants

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Speaker 3: his boy to play with him, and he'll fight to

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Speaker 3: the end until sweet Trinidad makes.

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Speaker 4: It to the league.

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Speaker 3: That's that's my theory. I'm Linkeston Kerman and I'm excited

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Speaker 3: for the James family.

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Speaker 4: I'm David Boy and that's my favorite James brother. James.

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Speaker 4: I've seen him in a parking lot one time when

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Speaker 4: he was like on like in the middle of it. Ye,

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Speaker 4: he looked good. He look is that parking garage behind

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Speaker 4: West Side Comedy Theater. Yeah, and he was in like

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Speaker 4: a hell cat and he was you look happy. I

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Speaker 4: got bad news, brother. He worked there now at Nigga

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Speaker 4: is parking cars.

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Speaker 3: Now, I think.

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Speaker 4: That's the okay life. Like one hit like the one

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Speaker 4: hit right, and then you just go on to do

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Speaker 4: whatever else you were going to do. I don't think

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Speaker 4: that's a bad life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I think we should give more credit

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Speaker 3: to the people who just experienced the top of the

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Speaker 3: top for a second like that is such an impossible

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Speaker 3: thing to accomplish that the fact that he made it

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Speaker 3: up there is gorgeous and good for you, you Trinidad James.

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Speaker 3: We're proud of you for everything that you've accomplished. We

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Speaker 3: miss you, We miss you.

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Speaker 4: Man. Well, it's fine, we did what we could with you.

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Speaker 4: It's a good summer.

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Speaker 3: Our guess today, I don't know how he feels about

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Speaker 3: Trinidad James his eyes, his eyes were darting in a

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Speaker 3: way that I'm not sure he's convinced that Trinidad's legacy

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Speaker 3: is as rich and fulfilled as we think it is.

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Speaker 3: But I'm excited to hear how he feels about it.

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Speaker 3: He's He's a hilarious comedian, a returning guest on the podcast.

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Speaker 3: Just a funny motherfucker, one of my favorite people to

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Speaker 3: hang out with. You know him best from Flatbush Misdemeanors.

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Speaker 3: He's one of the creators and stars of that show

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Speaker 3: that damn Michael Jay. He was a writer, and he

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Speaker 3: has his own hour coming up September twenty ninth at

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Speaker 3: Union Hall seven point thirty. By your goddamn tickets. They're

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Speaker 3: gonna want to see him perform. Give it up for

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Speaker 3: our guest, mister Kevin. I.

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Speaker 5: So she pulls out her breast and she's juggling them,

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Speaker 5: look like she's about the fall over. Then she bends

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Speaker 5: over and pulls down her pennies, spreads her cheeks. I'm

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Speaker 5: not lying, I'm telling what's on the video. Spreads her cheeks.

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Speaker 5: This is madness.

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Speaker 2: Where is that from? I was expecting, like a clap

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Speaker 3: That's how we do things.

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Speaker 1: Spreds.

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Speaker 4: This is madness.

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Speaker 1: They sound like Bernie mad.

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Speaker 3: There's a I guess, a viral video of a teacher

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Speaker 3: that got exposed on her only fans, and this is

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Speaker 3: the the prosecuting lawyer for the school, for the school

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Speaker 4: Which, by the way, that's what I always wish court

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Speaker 4: was come ons in the courtroom.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it made me so mad when I found out

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Speaker 3: that like most most trials don't go I mean most

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Speaker 3: like fucking lawsuits don't go to trial. That there's not

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Speaker 3: the theatrics are not a part of the traditional lawyer

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Speaker 4: Court, even when you get in trouble, court is boring

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Speaker 3: I haven't experienced it, but but it seems like.

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Speaker 4: It would be. You've never been to court even for

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Speaker 4: like a ticket? No what no?

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm, so life skin privilege.

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Speaker 3: Now, I just don't fight it.

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Speaker 4: I just pay it. I just young, I used to

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Speaker 4: them when I have no money. Yeah, you've never been

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Speaker 4: in court for anybody else either. No, I'm not gonna

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Speaker 4: help you if you go down.

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Speaker 3: What do you want me to be a character witness?

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Speaker 4: No, no, no, it's just like emotional supporter. Like you

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Speaker 4: never have you ever been in court at all, like

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Speaker 3: I have been at court a few times my dad.

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Speaker 3: I've talked about this a little bit on the podcast.

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Speaker 3: My dad. You know, his profession is, uh, he's an

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Speaker 3: it guy, but his passion is communism, and so he

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Speaker 3: is often he has he has friends, he has people

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Speaker 3: you know, the things that are transpiring. But I've never

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Speaker 3: personally had any like stakes and the ship.

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Speaker 4: You don't talk about it, but you're the wildest guy.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Now, I got some weird shit going on at home.

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Speaker 1: Man.

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Speaker 4: You know you went to communism trials.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't communism. They are intense cases that I've been

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Speaker 3: very extreme things that are going to like keep them

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Speaker 4: That's core.

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Speaker 3: You've been to quarter yeah, yeah, but but you know

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Speaker 3: I got a happy meal afterwards.

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Speaker 3: Kevin, have you been to court? Are you a court guy?

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Speaker 2: I mean yeah, when I didn't have when I didn't,

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Speaker 3: Because marinating on this col.

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Speaker 2: Because Bro like was very descriptive like he was. It

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Speaker 2: seemed like he watched more than he needed to, you

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Speaker 2: know what, you know, pulling down her pants, spreads her bunchies,

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Speaker 2: sticks her finger in her ass, lacks the finger. Thirty

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Speaker 2: four minutes of this. You know, I don't know if

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Speaker 2: you need to see. Oh, like, you could have just

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Speaker 3: Like, a she willden you know what she was bros.

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Speaker 1: Bro was like, nah, I got research for court.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean you know what she was up to it. Moreover,

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Speaker 3: you didn't have to watch it that many times. You

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Speaker 3: it a few times.

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Speaker 1: You had the bookmarket judge like, all right, that's enough.

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Speaker 1: He's like, no, no, no, that's another one.

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Speaker 3: When she get a banana, right, she pulls down her pennies.

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Speaker 2: He's sweating while he's talking about the Cloyd.

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Speaker 4: Thirty two creat.

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Speaker 6: Juggling breast, Victoria's Secret, Danny's ball line.

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Speaker 3: We didn't come here to talk about goddamn perverts on

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Speaker 3: the internet. We got a topic from you, Kevin, A

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Speaker 3: very exciting topic. I wouldn't necessarily qualify this as a

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Speaker 3: excited to cover it. But you said, my mama told

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Speaker 3: me bullying it's healthy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so not still healthy because it's but and

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Speaker 2: as it's like she didn't tell me this, Yes, she

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't a conversation, but it was that bullying is

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Speaker 2: healthy through her actions.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I watched my mom.

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Speaker 2: I mean, my mom bullied us, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 2: Like like like I remember, like even my teeth, Like

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Speaker 1: She doesn't do it as much now.

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Speaker 2: When I used to like go back home like maybe

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Speaker 2: like five seven years ago, she'd just be like, we

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Speaker 1: Fix your teeth? Like Anna, you're braces, And I'm just like, yo,

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Speaker 1: this was your responsibility.

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Speaker 3: She gave it to me, lady, I'm an adult. Now

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Speaker 3: you could have done something about this, yeah, But.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, but it's not.

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Speaker 2: It's like it creates I mean, the thing is that

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Speaker 2: Because at this point because at this point, like I

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Speaker 2: it can create character. Should Yeah, But if you're bullied

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Speaker 2: shit is the way that it is, you know. And

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Speaker 2: that's when I see like the health side of it.

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Speaker 2: That's what I kind of mean, where it's just like,

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Speaker 2: ashamed about this shit everywhere I go. It's like you

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Speaker 3: Go Okay, Bory, where do you fall in this? Or

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Speaker 3: are you are you? Are you? Would you identify as

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Speaker 3: somebody who was a victim of bullying at any point

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Speaker 4: Life younger, younger for sure. I'm soft hearted and tender headed,

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Speaker 4: My mom also big proponent of bullying, making fun of

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Speaker 4: the less fortunate physically or otherwise. Huge fan, hilarious woman.

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Speaker 4: But I don't agree with this just because it's like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: there are two ways, but I feel like only the

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Speaker 4: it become deep seated in and develop terrible habits to

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Speaker 4: overcome it. Right, Like, So if we're looking at it

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Speaker 4: like dealing with people on the whole, yes, there is

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Speaker 4: that twenty percent who for sure become better people because

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Speaker 4: of bullying. But then there's like the eighty percent who

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Speaker 4: developed drinking problems and eating disorders, and that's where you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's I think it's more than twenty percent,

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Speaker 2: though you think it's more than Yeah, absolutely, I feel

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Speaker 2: like it's more than twenty percent because bullying, like bullying

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Speaker 2: even today, like women bully broke dudes all the time.

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Speaker 4: Okay, broke, My fucking what you want to do.

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Speaker 1: It's bullied, it's brilliant. You're broke shaming me, and.

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Speaker 2: It works for a lot of people where they's just

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Speaker 2: like I, that's what I need to not be called broke,

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Speaker 2: A finer, And who knows if y'all didn't throw him

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he just felt low because yeah, just everything everything

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Speaker 4: And yeah, moved. I also think there's a level of

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Speaker 1: I don't think they want to want it to help.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, right, right, right right.

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Speaker 2: I think I believe that it can, is all I'm saying. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: That's truly, that's true. He did, bro he did.

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Speaker 3: He reached the heights of heights.

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Speaker 4: That he's rich forever, and that's cool.

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Speaker 1: I guess that's the problem with Trinidad James. He ain't

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Speaker 3: I got enough going on at home.

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Speaker 4: Your grandma's gonna die anyways, she's on her way out.

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Speaker 4: My my mom ain't.

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Speaker 3: Making good choices, But dad, don't talk. What do you

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Speaker 3: want for me? That that this punch is gonna like

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Speaker 1: So so okay.

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Speaker 2: So that's a form of bullying that is can be

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Speaker 2: very destructive. Now, now let's talk about the constructive bullying.

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Speaker 2: I mean not constructive, but can lead to constructive like

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, but I think likes to know specifically, I'll

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Speaker 3: We talked about this on one of our more recent

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Speaker 3: it was working great until it wasn't. And then I

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Speaker 3: got caught. I got caught up, but I was in

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Speaker 4: There's too much platinum food, man, yo, that I mean,

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Speaker 4: that's how I got I got called once because my

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Speaker 2: That's where it always starts. They trying to save money.

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Speaker 2: And I had some footballs in middle school, but like

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Speaker 2: they was on sale, but they was two sizeses bigger

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Speaker 4: Damn damn. Big shoes is the one you can't Big

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Speaker 1: You know. You know he right, You're gonna grow into him.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna score.

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Speaker 7: You know.

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Speaker 2: They called him ships out but I didn't even walk

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Speaker 4: Yeah, big shoes is that's because there's nothing you could

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Speaker 2: Never war again in my life. I thought, you know,

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Speaker 2: it's crazy that I remember. I got away with it.

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Speaker 3: at the time, it was all. It was devastating. But

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Speaker 3: that I'll tell you at the end. I'll save it

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Speaker 3: I'll let you know.

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Speaker 4: But the point is.

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Speaker 3: Niggas clocked it. They're just waiting until the right moment

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Speaker 3: to make me feel small.

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Speaker 4: I think that's partially true. I think partially this is

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Speaker 3: Yeah maybe, yeah, I only know how to speak from

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Speaker 4: Guy. Wait, but we haven't gotten the witches, the constructive bully.

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Speaker 1: I just said the clothes, so the fashion yeah, like that.

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Speaker 2: I like this shirt.

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Speaker 4: But that's not what happened. You said you you said,

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Speaker 4: you did, you just threw them.

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Speaker 1: No, those shoes are too big.

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Speaker 2: But if it's something that you know, you like, where

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Speaker 2: and people are like, yo, this goof yeah shirt you like?

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Speaker 7: You don't like.

443
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Speaker 1: I don't like binge, Like hold on binge is fly,

444
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It creates, It takes time.

445
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Speaker 2: Don't get it twisted, because I don't think that you know,

446
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Speaker 2: you're in ninth grade thinking like that, but as you

447
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Speaker 2: kind of people kind of pick on your clothing like

448
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Speaker 2: cool to me.

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Speaker 3: I do think that that's sort of the hardest part

450
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Speaker 3: of when we talk about bullying, it is almost off

451
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Speaker 3: most often in people's formative years, you know what I mean.

452
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Speaker 3: So like at the time when I'm most sensitive and

453
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Speaker 3: least capable of sort of like asserting what I like

454
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Speaker 3: and don't like is when motherfuckers are coming up and

455
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Speaker 3: telling me about myself in a way that I can't manage.

456
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 3: Whereas like now, thirty seven years old, somebody goes, I

457
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Speaker 3: don't like that shirt. I go, bitch, I bought it.

458
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Speaker 1: This is it.

459
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Speaker 4: This is the shirt now.

460
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, what do you want for me? This

461
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Speaker 3: is this is my shirt. I plan to wear it again.

462
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Speaker 3: I plan, in fact, I plan to wear it Thursday,

463
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Speaker 3: and I won't feel embarrassed if you notice, you know

464
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Speaker 3: what I mean? Like, I truly am just locked into

465
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Speaker 3: the character at this point. But at fourteen, I couldn't

466
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Speaker 3: manage that, you know what I mean? Twelve I wasn't.

467
00:27:03,760 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 3: I wasn't bouncing back like, bitch, this is my good girl.

468
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Speaker 1: What are you like?

469
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Speaker 3: I was just like, oh, no, you're wrong. I hate

470
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Speaker 3: me too, and there's nothing I can do about.

471
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Speaker 1: It, for sure.

472
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Speaker 2: But that's what I'm saying, that you get your shirts.

473
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Speaker 2: Think enough over time, Like actually, you know what, so

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Speaker 2: button down, open chest ship.

475
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Speaker 1: Still I still can't pull that off.

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Speaker 2: Nigga, tell me if I wear an open chest shirt,

477
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Speaker 2: nigga say anything to me.

478
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Speaker 1: You know what, You're right, But.

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Speaker 4: That's but that is a crazy move. It shouldn't be

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Speaker 4: it should chess dudes do it.

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Speaker 3: I'll say, this, I'll be saying, like dudes and like

482
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Speaker 3: like those like photo magazines and fucking like on on

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Speaker 3: the red carpets and ship and they'll have their chest

484
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Speaker 3: out like damn, that looks cool. I bet I could.

485
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Speaker 3: And then as soon as I put it on, I go, bro,

486
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Speaker 3: you can't leave the house.

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Speaker 4: You can't do what you're gonna do. Okay, we need

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Speaker 4: to take a break.

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Speaker 3: We're we're gonna be back to discuss a little bit

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Speaker 3: more about bullying. But when we come back more Kevin

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Speaker 1: Do you know what pop my butt meant to Harriet Tubman?

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Speaker 1: Do you know what that meant?

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Speaker 3: It meant a whip.

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Speaker 4: We're back discussing bully.

517
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Speaker 3: Yeah, she always teaching us something.

518
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:46,840
Speaker 4: I always have something on it.

519
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,960
Speaker 3: So I did do a little bit of research as

520
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 3: it relates to the conversation of bullying specifically, I wanted

521
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 3: to look up if there were any sort of like articles,

522
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 3: legitimate articles sort of making the argument that bullying in

523
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 3: fact was better for us, that it was a good thing.

524
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 3: And admittedly a lot of the articles were from like

525
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: places called like fratbros dot net.

526
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 4: It's like Bullying's awesome.

527
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 3: I was like, all right, fellas, I don't know if

528
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:28,520
Speaker 3: you're the peer reviewed literature that I was looking for.

529
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 3: But that said, I did come across an article that's

530
00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 3: sort of talked about specifically the term bullying being too broad.

531
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Speaker 3: They said that it sort of has been treated nowadays

532
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 3: as something that encompasses all mistreatment by other individuals, and

533
00:30:46,880 --> 00:30:51,800
Speaker 3: that creates a dangerous sort of like precedent because it

534
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:57,480
Speaker 3: almost negates the real bullying that's happening for some individuals.

535
00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 4: If that makes sense. Oh yeah, I mean that's like

536
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 4: it's like a culture right now.

537
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, that like everything he.

538
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:08,760
Speaker 4: Knows some type of thing when there are people who

539
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 4: are actually suffering from it.

540
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 1: Saying you have mental health when you're just.

541
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 4: Tired, yeah, or annoying an irritating person, Yeah, like just

542
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 4: drinks of water.

543
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 3: I think is maybe what you're talking about.

544
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 4: Maybe you're just a bitch.

545
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,560
Speaker 2: Did he give did he give examples of what types

546
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 2: of like bullying?

547
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 3: They said in the article that a person of the

548
00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:44,640
Speaker 3: same size, the same strength, and same status, not liking

549
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 3: something you're wearing or not liking you personally should not

550
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 3: necessarily be qualified as bullying, right, Like sometimes.

551
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 4: No, that's crazy because then that that doesn't account for

552
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 4: little bullies.

553
00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 3: Well, hear me out. I think what they're arguing is

554
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:02,719
Speaker 3: that like and and individual. I think what they were

555
00:32:03,160 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 3: sort of suggesting is that an individual interaction where I go,

556
00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:10,880
Speaker 3: fuck your shirt is not bully, presuming that I'm not

557
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 3: like an older kid sort of like coming down to

558
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 3: your like elementary school and being like, fuck your shirt.

559
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 3: There's no power dynamic here. It's just one dude not

560
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 3: liking another dude's shirt. Whereas if every single day I

561
00:32:25,240 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 3: go look at this bummy ass nigga in his shirt

562
00:32:27,920 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 3: and it's a different shirt every time, that would qualify

563
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 3: as bully. I don't like this, Okay, tell me more.

564
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Speaker 4: I think that because a lot of the best bullies

565
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:41,200
Speaker 4: are people who got something fucked up. A lot of

566
00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 4: the best bullies have a weird hand. Mm hm, you

567
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. Like, so it's like the whole

568
00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 4: point is the power dynamic. So to say like you're

569
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 4: gonna get bully, you can still get bullied by somebody

570
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 4: who's like equals you.

571
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Speaker 3: That's not like you know what I'm saying, but it's not.

572
00:32:57,080 --> 00:33:00,080
Speaker 3: I I yes to that part of it. But I

573
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 3: think the persistence is maybe the part that you're not

574
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:08,719
Speaker 3: addressing the the individual versus like the persisting I think

575
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 3: it's like repeated.

576
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Speaker 4: As a repeated action, then it becomes But what if

577
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 4: they're all bummy shirts.

578
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,959
Speaker 2: I mean, look, you can have somebody that it's equal

579
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 2: to you say one thing about you one time, and

580
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 2: it stick with you for the rest of your life.

581
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 2: And it's happened to everyone and it let it be

582
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Speaker 2: the opposite gender.

583
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 4: I see their faces, I can see it. I remember

584
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,280
Speaker 4: the whole setup. I remember where I was walking. They

585
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 4: were they had their arms locked, like you know how

586
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 4: girls would walk with their arms locked sometimes, and the

587
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 4: one girl was like, what's your favorite color? And I

588
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:48,760
Speaker 4: was new at the school and I was like, these

589
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:50,600
Speaker 4: girls want to talk to me because it was like

590
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Speaker 4: eighth grade. They're like, what's your favorite color? And I

591
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 4: was like, I think I even licked my lips. It

592
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 4: is bad, I was. I was like, I was like, hell.

593
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Speaker 1: Yeah what I said.

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Speaker 4: And then the one, the littler girl, bro, now I'm

595
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 4: thinking about it. It's just giving me chills. The little

596
00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 4: girl looked me right in my face and she was like,

597
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Speaker 4: I thought you was gonna say purple because.

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Speaker 1: That's a com.

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Speaker 4: And it went raisezy. Anyway, look Kevin, look at Kevin

600
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Speaker 4: right now.

601
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Speaker 1: Ray I'm with her on her side.

602
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Speaker 4: Oh, I'll never forget it. And that's what that was.

603
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:43,960
Speaker 3: Girls purple is is God Damn.

604
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 4: I was wearing a new academic shirt. I was wearing

605
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Speaker 4: a brand new academics button down I got.

606
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Speaker 3: But here's what they would say, I think, based on

607
00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 3: the article I was reading, is that it's also numbers

608
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Speaker 3: as it relates to that situation, right that, like that

609
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 3: one little girl saying that to you in private is

610
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 3: a very different thing. I'm saying that if it were,

611
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 3: if that, if that individual said something to you in private,

612
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 3: and don't get so angry. You're obviously on edge about

613
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:17,720
Speaker 3: what happened to you, and I'm sorry, I'm genuinely sorry

614
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:21,359
Speaker 3: that that happened. If if that's what you need to

615
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 3: hear to calm down enough so that you can take

616
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Speaker 3: this in, then I am sorry that little girl did

617
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Speaker 3: the wrong thing to you. You are not purple, Your

618
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:36,600
Speaker 3: skin is beautiful, and you're a strong, proud man.

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Speaker 4: And so I say that that.

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Speaker 3: It is also the group think that sort of makes

621
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Speaker 3: that bullying, right that she showed up with three other

622
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:53,239
Speaker 3: friends and the people, okay, one.

623
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Speaker 4: Other friend overblowing the story.

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Speaker 3: Look, man, all I heard was you scream for mercy, niggas.

625
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,239
Speaker 1: She could have texted that to me and would have

626
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:09,800
Speaker 1: been hurt. Yeah, nobody else.

627
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Speaker 4: It is rough day. It's rough day.

628
00:36:13,360 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 3: But yeah, I think the numbers plays a major part

629
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Speaker 3: in it. I think the persistence plays a major part

630
00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,720
Speaker 3: in it. And I think status, as they argue, plays

631
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Speaker 3: a major part in how we define what bullying actually

632
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 3: is versus what I think they're arguing, Kevin, is something

633
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 3: similar to what you're suggesting, which is a part of

634
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,200
Speaker 3: just character building that sometimes people are going to call

635
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 3: you ugly, they're gonna call your clothes trash, They're going

636
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 3: to say things that don't make you feel good. But

637
00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 3: that is just part of growing up. The way that

638
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 3: it sounds like all three of our mothers bullied us,

639
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 3: and I don't know that I get to I don't

640
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 3: know I get to call anybody about this, you know

641
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:57,319
Speaker 3: what I mean?

642
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:04,319
Speaker 4: Yeah? Also who, I don't care who, That's what I mean.

643
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:08,759
Speaker 2: It's just like, wait, so okay, So I have a question, like,

644
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 2: all right, you know you have you have you have

645
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 2: two beautiful little children, Yeah, and you know they come

646
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 2: home from school. Hey, I'm being bullied. How are you?

647
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:25,200
Speaker 2: How are you handling this? On let's say a physical level,

648
00:37:25,480 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 2: your son is being bullied A twelve years old or whatever.

649
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:33,840
Speaker 8: We have the clothing level that we've discussed the clothes stuff,

650
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:38,720
Speaker 8: and then maybe just like a pure nasty you know whatever,

651
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 8: your chubby, your your skin is too, what this side

652
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 8: of the way your hair?

653
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I just don't lay. I don't. Your last name

654
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:50,280
Speaker 1: is Kervan, and it's weird.

655
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 4: It ain't not a lot left, It ain't normal anywhere.

656
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Speaker 2: How you handle it just on different, you know what

657
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Speaker 2: I mean. I guess on the other on the other

658
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Speaker 2: side of the game.

659
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Speaker 3: Now I I And that's I think a question that

660
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Speaker 3: I don't have a great answer to. And to that point,

661
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Speaker 3: an article I found talked about how basically it said

662
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Speaker 3: that forty percent of parents in America struggle with anxiety

663
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,680
Speaker 3: and depression as it relates to the idea of their

664
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 3: children getting bullied. Not even like literally getting bullied, but

665
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 3: just the idea of their children getting bullied or the

666
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 3: possibility of them getting bullied gives them anxiety and depression,

667
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Speaker 3: you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: And that sixty nigga slipt good think about ahead of that.

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Speaker 2: Look, I remember I got in a fight with the

670
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 2: kid and a kid that I thought was my friend,

671
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Speaker 2: and so I got my ass beat because I wasn't

672
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 2: even I didn't even realize we were fighting until it's

673
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 2: foot was on my face.

674
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 4: Fuck.

675
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 2: Then like my dad was like, yo, what's going on

676
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 2: that it's almost face.

677
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 1: He's like, you have to go back on fight?

678
00:39:01,840 --> 00:39:05,200
Speaker 2: And then I went back and again, and then like

679
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:08,080
Speaker 2: he had long mails, so like I didn't lose the fight,

680
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 2: but he scratched my face.

681
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 1: And now I'm like my.

682
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:16,200
Speaker 2: Dad's like, god, damn, I'm just like, you've never taken

683
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:17,520
Speaker 2: me to a boxing class.

684
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: You ain't give me no tools.

685
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 7: It's just like.

686
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:34,880
Speaker 3: He's like, wait, wait, wait, you're not strong. Wait hold on,

687
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 3: you're not buff Okay, all right, what am I?

688
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 4: I don't know what I'm raising.

689
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 1: Exactly.

690
00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:50,000
Speaker 3: I told you.

691
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 4: I told you to be buffing strong. I don't know

692
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 4: what this is that you're not.

693
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Speaker 3: In that same article, I came across some of the

694
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Speaker 3: things that they qualify as sort of like bullying as

695
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 3: it relates to specifically today. They said that offensive name calling,

696
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:15,680
Speaker 3: spreading of false rumors about them, receiving explicit images they

697
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:19,400
Speaker 3: didn't ask for, constantly being asked where they are, what

698
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 3: they're doing, or who they're with by someone other than

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00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 3: a parent, physical threats. I think, yeah, I mean, I

700
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 3: think some of it might be some internet game shit

701
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 3: that we don't quite understand. That like if somebody is

702
00:40:35,320 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 3: persistently being like where are you and then like fucking

703
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 3: with you about where you are? Maybe that that somehow

704
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 3: is like some new age bullying. I don't fully get it,

705
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 3: but I ain't never had no like internet bully, you

706
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:49,439
Speaker 3: know what I mean?

707
00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:53,760
Speaker 2: The false rumors is a that's a classic. Yeah, that's

708
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:54,320
Speaker 2: a class.

709
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,959
Speaker 3: Oh that's yeah, that's a tale as old as time

710
00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:57,479
Speaker 3: for sure.

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Speaker 4: Wait, I'm thinking now to the question of what would

712
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:04,319
Speaker 4: you do if your son's What would you do on

713
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,359
Speaker 4: the other end of it? What if your son is

714
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:06,960
Speaker 4: the bully?

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00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 3: That would devastate me a lot more than if he.

716
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 4: If he's hilarious, Like what if they said, like they

717
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:16,479
Speaker 4: tell you you have to go on for a parent

718
00:41:16,520 --> 00:41:20,239
Speaker 4: teacher conference, they explain whatever it was, and the shit

719
00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 4: you said your son said was like like so funny?

720
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:32,720
Speaker 4: All right, well what is the work on your character?

721
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:33,319
Speaker 4: For sure?

722
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:40,160
Speaker 3: But all right, hey, you know what I mean, because

723
00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 3: I also do remember I feel like I don't feel

724
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 3: like I ever had a bully growing up. I don't

725
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 3: know if y'all had that where like it was just

726
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:51,319
Speaker 3: like one person who was always at my neck and

727
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 3: I was scared of them or felt intimidated intimidated by

728
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:58,960
Speaker 3: their presence. But I do remember like there was a

729
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 3: culture of people just roasting the shit out of whoever

730
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 3: was having a bad day, and you could get it.

731
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 3: Anybody could get it. And I remember being a part

732
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,919
Speaker 3: of both giving it and getting it in that sense, right,

733
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:15,080
Speaker 3: And sometimes I was a part of giving it to

734
00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:18,399
Speaker 3: somebody who couldn't handle it and we took it too far,

735
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 3: But some of it was funny as fuck, and so

736
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:25,240
Speaker 3: like if I got reported inside of that, I feel

737
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 3: like I had the context to be able to give

738
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 3: to my parents, like no, I'm not a bully. I

739
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 3: just was having a good day and they were not,

740
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like I was thriving and

741
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,280
Speaker 3: they weren't thriving. And the fact that they can't handle

742
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 3: that is that's that's a character flaw and don't I

743
00:42:40,440 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 3: don't know what to do about it. But I was

744
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 3: killing it that day.

745
00:42:46,360 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 4: You should have heard what I said, because.

746
00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:53,920
Speaker 3: The circle form that I had my hand out, like

747
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:55,960
Speaker 3: this motherfucker right here.

748
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I also have a theory that it doesn't ever.

749
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:07,840
Speaker 1: Really go away.

750
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:11,359
Speaker 4: No. I agree with that, Like with like.

751
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 2: Now, you know, we've all had well, I don't know,

752
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 2: but we've had jobs right where we like corporate, I guess,

753
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:24,879
Speaker 2: workplace kind of situations, and I feel like micro aggressions

754
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 2: is like that's the that's the adult version of you

755
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 2: know what I mean, We're okay, this is this is

756
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 2: a different way. I'm but you know, as an adult,

757
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:37,560
Speaker 2: at least for me, I was like, I'm not. I

758
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 2: wasn't used to the microaggression. Believe I was used to.

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00:43:41,200 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 1: Your shoes is too big for your feet.

760
00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's.

761
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:48,360
Speaker 1: Just like a new weird thing. It's just like this

762
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,880
Speaker 1: is different. And I will say that it is it's

763
00:43:53,000 --> 00:43:53,919
Speaker 1: kind of the same at.

764
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Speaker 2: Least for my you know whatever degenerate brain where I'm

765
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:00,719
Speaker 2: just like, okay, I can learn how to turn this

766
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 2: negative into a positive. You know, it's for me, it's

767
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:05,359
Speaker 2: kind of like the same thing where it's like, oh,

768
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 2: I needed to learn how to make this thing constructed.

769
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:11,240
Speaker 2: For me, that was kind of like you know, tearing

770
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 2: apart what you think.

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00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, I always think about how much of the things

772
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:21,839
Speaker 3: that I said to people were not meant to be

773
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 3: permanent for them and somehow might have been like I.

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00:44:26,880 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 3: And they talk about it a little bit in the

775
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 3: first article that I read that like intent intentionality is

776
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:35,600
Speaker 3: a major part of what bullying is as well that

777
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 3: like some of it is just roasting and being silly.

778
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 3: I remember there was this one girl who who had

779
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 3: like a lazy eye, and like it just it. I

780
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 3: didn't know, truly, I didn't even know. Okay, okay, no,

781
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 3: I swear to god, I didn't even know that she

782
00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:55,839
Speaker 3: had the lazy eye before I said something. I just

783
00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 3: was like, well, what the fuck happened to her eye?

784
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 4: On some like just.

785
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 3: Being a kid saying the thing. And then she was like, no,

786
00:45:04,160 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 3: I have a condition. And it was one of those

787
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,719
Speaker 3: where it's like that wasn't my plan. I like you,

788
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 3: I plan to treat you with a level of decency.

789
00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:18,440
Speaker 3: I just was talking shit because I probably felt weak

790
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 3: or low or felt like that would have made me

791
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:25,120
Speaker 3: feel strong, just.

792
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,160
Speaker 1: Not thinking you just show up somewhere with some energy.

793
00:45:27,239 --> 00:45:28,279
Speaker 1: You're just like yo.

794
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:34,839
Speaker 3: I was fifteen and noticed a weird eye and none

795
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:36,839
Speaker 3: of us had weird eyes. I was like, what's up?

796
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 3: And then and then it got explained to me. And

797
00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 3: I felt a massive amount of guilt and I still do.

798
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 3: And I wonder how much of that, like it's something

799
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 3: she carries forward of being like, well that, you know

800
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:52,960
Speaker 3: what I mean, he said that shit unnecessarily when I

801
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:55,400
Speaker 3: was having a probably a fine day before that.

802
00:45:56,080 --> 00:45:59,359
Speaker 1: She only fans model now because of that shit.

803
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 3: I pray that what I did created a source of

804
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,520
Speaker 3: income for her. If that's true, then I'm a hero.

805
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 3: If if if she hasn't figured out a way to

806
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 3: capitalize on it, I'm a villain. And that stinks. You

807
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:16,399
Speaker 3: don't want to be that, you know what I mean.

808
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 4: I'm just I'm trying to think about I don't think

809
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:24,880
Speaker 4: I ever got any I guess I've maybe I've been

810
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 4: a part of bullying that probably affected people in the

811
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 4: long run. I mean, I did see on Instagram this

812
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:34,839
Speaker 4: kid we used to bully. That's funny, we talk about it.

813
00:46:35,080 --> 00:46:37,080
Speaker 4: My mom used to make fun of this kid all day.

814
00:46:39,920 --> 00:46:42,319
Speaker 4: He was the littlest He was the littlest kid on

815
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,200
Speaker 4: our football team. And it's crazy because my mom is little.

816
00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:49,480
Speaker 4: She's like she's like four eleven five feet and she

817
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 4: would always like and she doesn't know the game of football.

818
00:46:52,320 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 4: She would just laugh at how he looks in his past,

819
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,600
Speaker 4: what he looks like when he would run, like all

820
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:00,759
Speaker 4: the thing, you know what I mean, all that type

821
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:04,240
Speaker 4: of stuff. He's a teacher now, which is you know smid.

822
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:10,800
Speaker 1: Your mom picking on kids. It's hilarious.

823
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 4: There's truly no safety on it. It's truly anyone old people,

824
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:21,440
Speaker 4: slow people, fast people. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's because

825
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:23,239
Speaker 4: she worked with a lot of slow people, so she

826
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 4: just feels like comfortable.

827
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 3: I just wonder how, even even in thinking about your mom,

828
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 3: how much of it if she thought that, like that

829
00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:35,040
Speaker 3: little fella would be permanently affected by something she said,

830
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:38,800
Speaker 3: if that would would be something she wanted.

831
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Speaker 4: Do you know what I mean? I mean, it's just

832
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:43,960
Speaker 4: like the nature. I don't know, like incerely on that's

833
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:48,320
Speaker 4: just how people are, like you like you see people

834
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 4: walk fucked up down the street, like if like I've

835
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:54,799
Speaker 4: just seen it with my cousins where somebody with a

836
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:57,240
Speaker 4: bad eye or some shit is walking down the street

837
00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 4: and you just can hear it from there and he

838
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:01,800
Speaker 4: passes and every everybody with us says something and he

839
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:04,560
Speaker 4: keeps you. It's just like that's just like how it

840
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:07,319
Speaker 4: is over there. So I don't think there's even a

841
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:10,320
Speaker 4: thought of that, Like they don't think of it as bullying.

842
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:13,480
Speaker 4: They think of it as like it feels almost like

843
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,280
Speaker 4: it's less of a reflection of the person and just

844
00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:18,920
Speaker 4: just the situation, you know what I mean. It's funny

845
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:22,280
Speaker 4: that that hand looks weird or that that eye is goofy.

846
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 4: It's not like, oh, this is not a competent person

847
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:27,720
Speaker 4: who can do whatever. They just got a funny eye.

848
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 3: And here's what I'll say is when they talk about

849
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 3: that conflation right between what we call bullying versus the

850
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:38,480
Speaker 3: things that actually are bullying, I do think that that

851
00:48:38,719 --> 00:48:42,600
Speaker 3: needs to be acknowledged that Like, again, it's intentionality that

852
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,560
Speaker 3: like some people are going to make a point of

853
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:48,200
Speaker 3: saying something about the way that you look, the way

854
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:51,480
Speaker 3: that you talk, dress, all of the things. But are

855
00:48:51,520 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 3: they attempting to take you out of your yourself or

856
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 3: are they just like saying what the world is thinking

857
00:48:58,560 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 3: about you? And you got to learn to have a

858
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 3: little bit of a thicker skin about it, because that

859
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 3: is the human experience, whether we like.

860
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 4: It or not.

861
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:10,320
Speaker 3: There's there's a fair amount of evidence that no matter

862
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:14,440
Speaker 3: how sort of like sophisticated we become, we're still gonna

863
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:16,759
Speaker 3: be pieces and the ship to each other. So like

864
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:18,400
Speaker 3: you do have to learn to manage it.

865
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 4: I think that's that is that's that is really important

866
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 4: because it's like the idea of no bullying goes too

867
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 4: far the other way, right, Like you can't create this

868
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 4: perfect scenario where none of these issues are gonna be.

869
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:34,600
Speaker 4: It just doesn't. It isn't realistic. So I think there

870
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 4: is an amount. I think mostly I'm gonna get sports

871
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:41,440
Speaker 4: azing the more about it.

872
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:43,600
Speaker 3: Like that just because you had such a deep familiarity

873
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 3: to sports azing.

874
00:49:45,920 --> 00:49:54,600
Speaker 4: Ah, I think that sports hazing I think that it

875
00:49:54,719 --> 00:49:57,240
Speaker 4: others people more than traditional bullying.

876
00:49:57,760 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 5: Hmmm.

877
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 4: I think it's like you you're already other othering people

878
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 4: by putting them in this position, and then you make

879
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 4: that circle smaller, you know what I mean. And it's

880
00:50:09,440 --> 00:50:11,320
Speaker 4: kind of like a system that runs on a whipping

881
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:15,560
Speaker 4: boy or whatever, Whereas I think traditional bullying is just

882
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:19,359
Speaker 4: like community, you know what I'm saying, Like everybody can

883
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 4: everybody kind of feels some of it. Where it's like

884
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 4: like I think about like at least in the high

885
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 4: school I went to, we were allowed to do we

886
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 4: operated with impunity, like there was no stop it or

887
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:33,279
Speaker 4: don't do that. And it was like a lot of

888
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:36,920
Speaker 4: times the strong on the weak, or the old on

889
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 4: the young or whatever, you know what I mean, right, yeah, I.

890
00:50:43,040 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 1: Mean it makes you I think.

891
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:47,920
Speaker 2: I think the other positive about it is it at

892
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:49,799
Speaker 2: least as a kid, it like it makes you very

893
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:53,480
Speaker 2: observant too, where you're just like, oh, I'm getting picked

894
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:55,800
Speaker 2: on because I'm different, Well what is different?

895
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:56,360
Speaker 1: You know?

896
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:58,239
Speaker 2: And then you're kind of looking around and you're like

897
00:50:58,320 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 2: noticing and like you like, I mean I would even

898
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,960
Speaker 2: the like you say, the culture of you know, ranking

899
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:06,719
Speaker 2: and everything like that. It's like you you now you're

900
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:08,879
Speaker 2: starting to look at other people and you're like, all right,

901
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 2: they gonna come for me for something, all right now

902
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:13,840
Speaker 2: Now now I'm locked and loaded. I see, all right,

903
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 2: Lanston got his hair cut, right, So you so you've

904
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:22,640
Speaker 2: got all of that. You know, you got you know

905
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, You got it, You got.

906
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 1: It, locked and loaded. But it also is like it

907
00:51:26,960 --> 00:51:27,800
Speaker 1: made me also.

908
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:29,640
Speaker 2: Look, I remember the time in high school where I

909
00:51:29,680 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 2: was just like kind of noticing the kids that weren't

910
00:51:32,120 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 2: getting bullied at all, and you know why they weren't

911
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:36,480
Speaker 2: getting bullied, and it was just like they were just

912
00:51:36,520 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 2: so much inside of their own world. Even if you

913
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:41,800
Speaker 2: bullied them, it looked kind of like weird, you know

914
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:43,160
Speaker 2: what I mean. Like it was like I went to

915
00:51:43,239 --> 00:51:46,760
Speaker 2: a diverse high school, so it was Indian kids, there's

916
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:49,840
Speaker 2: Asian kids, and you know, there's always the Asian, Indian

917
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:52,759
Speaker 2: and whatever that kind of assimilates the black culture. But

918
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 2: then there were ones that didn't. They was just like

919
00:51:54,640 --> 00:51:56,719
Speaker 2: in the band, It's like I played my trumpet, that's

920
00:51:56,760 --> 00:51:59,000
Speaker 2: my thing, and I'm be like, yo, that's cool, and

921
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:00,839
Speaker 2: I would hang out with them some time to be like, Yo,

922
00:52:01,080 --> 00:52:02,200
Speaker 2: this is like a safe haven.

923
00:52:02,239 --> 00:52:04,840
Speaker 1: You can't really nobody really coming over here.

924
00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:07,000
Speaker 2: That's it with nobody, because you just kind of look

925
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:09,719
Speaker 2: like an asshole with the kid with the tube. But

926
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,640
Speaker 2: he already played the tube, bro leave him alone.

927
00:52:13,239 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 3: I like, I like that we need to take a break.

928
00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 3: But I really like that sentiment of sort of the

929
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:22,880
Speaker 3: the safe spaces, the safe haven because that sort of

930
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 3: connects to a little bit of what the the articles

931
00:52:26,080 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 3: that I read kind of say it's a solution to

932
00:52:28,560 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 3: some of this.

933
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:30,240
Speaker 4: So we're gonna take one more break.

934
00:52:30,440 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 3: We're gonna come back with more kevin Io and more.

935
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936
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945
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946
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947
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948
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949
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950
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951
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953
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 3: to a feces thrown all over the walls, the floor,

954
00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:40,760
Speaker 3: the ceiling in a stunk.

955
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 4: But what doesn't stink is bullying? Is that not the

956
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:52,359
Speaker 4: is that?

957
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:54,520
Speaker 3: But that's not how you're feeling about it.

958
00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:55,680
Speaker 4: I think you've been.

959
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:03,720
Speaker 1: At you tried to do Barbara Walters it.

960
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 3: But yeah, you really dropped the ball on that one.

961
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:11,279
Speaker 4: You know, players fuck up.

962
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 3: I I will say that one of the these sort

963
00:54:16,120 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 3: of bigger ass that the article makes at the end

964
00:54:21,680 --> 00:54:23,880
Speaker 3: as it relates to bullying, is it says that at

965
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:25,920
Speaker 3: the end of the day, what we should be focused

966
00:54:25,920 --> 00:54:30,160
Speaker 3: on is less of these individual experiences if somebody said

967
00:54:30,200 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 3: this about me or made me feel small in this way,

968
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:38,200
Speaker 3: and it's more should instead be more focused on solutions

969
00:54:38,239 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 3: to prevent those kinds of interactions in the first place.

970
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:45,480
Speaker 3: Right that, like, it's less about the what the kids

971
00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:49,399
Speaker 3: are feeling and more about how can we reduce those

972
00:54:49,480 --> 00:54:55,239
Speaker 3: negative interactions in totality. And I don't know that that

973
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:59,239
Speaker 3: is a solution as much as like a little bit

974
00:54:59,280 --> 00:55:03,080
Speaker 3: of like a a theory. It's it's idealistic in a

975
00:55:03,120 --> 00:55:05,320
Speaker 3: way that I don't fully know how to make sense of.

976
00:55:05,600 --> 00:55:09,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not solving the problem in handed because you're

977
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 4: always gonna run in the end the bullies.

978
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 1: Man.

979
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 4: I was.

980
00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:14,080
Speaker 2: I was hanging out of Winnisburg a couple of days

981
00:55:14,120 --> 00:55:17,440
Speaker 2: ago and just chilling, you know, sitting down people watching,

982
00:55:17,520 --> 00:55:21,120
Speaker 2: and this girl walks across and she's crying in tears

983
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 2: and she's like, oh.

984
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:26,040
Speaker 1: Rachel's gonna put me on the bad list, and then

985
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:27,040
Speaker 1: she just like kept walking.

986
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:32,160
Speaker 2: I was like, Yo, whatever her job is, it's insane

987
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 2: and it's has such an emotional toll on her. And

988
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:37,840
Speaker 2: she walking through the street at five o'clock on a

989
00:55:37,880 --> 00:55:40,560
Speaker 2: Tuesday crying, you know what I mean, It's like, Yo,

990
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 2: that's going to She can't run away from that. I

991
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:44,799
Speaker 2: don't know what she do or nothing, but she can't

992
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:47,160
Speaker 2: run away from it. So, you know, to me, it's

993
00:55:47,239 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 2: like the healthiest way to deal with stuff this type

994
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:53,280
Speaker 2: of thing is to make sure that you got.

995
00:55:53,080 --> 00:55:54,320
Speaker 1: A solid routine.

996
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 2: You're waking up, that you're doing stuff outside of you know,

997
00:55:57,719 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 2: whatever the bully thing is.

998
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:01,120
Speaker 1: You find your happiness outside of that.

999
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,640
Speaker 2: So then when you are confronted with it, you can

1000
00:56:03,719 --> 00:56:06,200
Speaker 2: kind of you can kind of minimize it. Almost your

1001
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:08,839
Speaker 2: brain will almost do it itself because you're just like, yo,

1002
00:56:08,960 --> 00:56:12,080
Speaker 2: I woke up, I ran today, I did my push ups,

1003
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:13,759
Speaker 2: I read the thing I was supposed to read, I

1004
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 2: finished my homework da da, And it's just like it

1005
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:17,880
Speaker 2: was one of it. It's like, yeah, but I had

1006
00:56:17,920 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 2: a full you know what I'm saying and kind of

1007
00:56:20,239 --> 00:56:25,320
Speaker 2: putting this sort of you know, small moment into perspective

1008
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:27,359
Speaker 2: at least for me personally, you know, or.

1009
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 4: You're just like hit them, Yeah, I always hit them.

1010
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 3: I agree. I think it really is the challenge though,

1011
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:38,880
Speaker 3: right that, Like I think about our job that, like,

1012
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:43,040
Speaker 3: we have so much interaction as stand ups with other comedians,

1013
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 3: some of whom give me shit tons of anxiety to

1014
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:49,719
Speaker 3: be around. And it's not because like of fear or

1015
00:56:49,880 --> 00:56:52,840
Speaker 3: like that they're necessarily bullying me. It's just like every

1016
00:56:52,920 --> 00:56:56,560
Speaker 3: conversation with some people is work, and sometimes it's work

1017
00:56:56,640 --> 00:57:00,799
Speaker 3: that is like combative and like takes something out of

1018
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:03,359
Speaker 3: my energy, and if I don't figure out a way

1019
00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:06,640
Speaker 3: to manage whatever that is, it could turn into bullying.

1020
00:57:06,840 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 3: It could easily turn into something where like I do

1021
00:57:09,760 --> 00:57:13,560
Speaker 3: feel sort of like oppressed by another human being. But

1022
00:57:13,840 --> 00:57:16,040
Speaker 3: like you said, if I can find the center for

1023
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:20,760
Speaker 3: me that supersedes that, then I'll be okay. But that's

1024
00:57:21,280 --> 00:57:26,760
Speaker 3: that's much easier said than done, especially as an adult

1025
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 3: man versus like a young child who doesn't have that

1026
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:32,200
Speaker 3: much control over their life to begin with.

1027
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:34,000
Speaker 1: Right, right right.

1028
00:57:34,520 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, that would have to fall back on

1029
00:57:37,480 --> 00:57:40,640
Speaker 2: parenting because like even like you know, Instagram being something

1030
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:43,320
Speaker 2: that these kids get constantly, online bullying or whatever.

1031
00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:46,040
Speaker 1: You might look at your thay you be like, damn.

1032
00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 2: I only got you know, seventy five followers my pictures

1033
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:50,240
Speaker 2: getting four likes.

1034
00:57:50,280 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 1: You know, that's a big thing for kids. But it's

1035
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:54,440
Speaker 1: like if you.

1036
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:59,240
Speaker 2: Are here all day, then you're gonna feel it more.

1037
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 2: But I'm telling you, if you go whop you go,

1038
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:05,960
Speaker 2: and then you look on it and you're like, man, whatever, bro,

1039
00:58:07,240 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 2: I touch grass, like, it's like I just I just

1040
00:58:14,040 --> 00:58:20,120
Speaker 2: feel like, yeah, putting have a perspective really reduces you know,

1041
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:22,400
Speaker 2: all of that all of that stress that you might

1042
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:25,080
Speaker 2: get from that, at least for me, because you can't

1043
00:58:25,160 --> 00:58:25,760
Speaker 2: escape it.

1044
00:58:25,760 --> 00:58:27,680
Speaker 1: It's gonna be there. Yeah.

1045
00:58:27,680 --> 00:58:33,440
Speaker 3: And I personally, I've never loved this old generation ship

1046
00:58:33,520 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 3: where we go like you got a bulliant online bullying

1047
00:58:37,680 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 3: ain't bullian. I mean you gotta shad to my face

1048
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:44,480
Speaker 3: if you're gonna hurt my feeling, It's like, no, that's bullying.

1049
00:58:45,160 --> 00:58:49,880
Speaker 3: I think what we were actually was pretty lightweight compared

1050
00:58:49,880 --> 00:58:54,160
Speaker 3: to what kids today are experiencing. The idea that adults

1051
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 3: could find out my greatest weaknesses, Like strangers I've never

1052
00:58:58,840 --> 00:59:01,360
Speaker 3: met before in my life could like tap on a

1053
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:04,240
Speaker 3: picture and be like this kid is ugly and I'm

1054
00:59:04,280 --> 00:59:07,520
Speaker 3: gonna like it. That's a nightmare.

1055
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:18,400
Speaker 2: I agree his wives from the other but he got

1056
00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:19,960
Speaker 2: so much space between you eyes.

1057
00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:24,440
Speaker 1: You do kind of look like a hammerhead shark, Like, damn.

1058
00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:29,000
Speaker 3: Fuck, come on man, you work at Costco. Why are

1059
00:59:29,040 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 3: you talking to me like this?

1060
00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:33,640
Speaker 7: And now you can put the gifts in there so

1061
00:59:33,640 --> 00:59:40,560
Speaker 7: so funny, God, damn Disney characters, you're like, it's.

1062
00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:42,120
Speaker 4: Pretty many mouths have to do with.

1063
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:48,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't think that kids today are somehow getting

1064
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:51,360
Speaker 3: it easier or have like a more manageable situation. I

1065
00:59:51,400 --> 00:59:54,960
Speaker 3: think it's the exact opposite. And I do think unfortunately

1066
00:59:55,040 --> 00:59:57,920
Speaker 3: the only solution is to go outside and touch grass.

1067
00:59:58,280 --> 01:00:01,800
Speaker 3: But that you know that it's it's culture, and culture

1068
01:00:01,920 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 3: doesn't encourage us to touch grass as as kids, adults,

1069
01:00:06,720 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 3: any anybody anymore, and so it's hard to demand that

1070
01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,720
Speaker 3: of an entire generation who wasn't being raised that way.

1071
01:00:14,320 --> 01:00:14,520
Speaker 7: Bro.

1072
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:19,040
Speaker 2: I seen I've seen something during the eclipse. Somebody was like,

1073
01:00:19,520 --> 01:00:21,960
Speaker 2: I seen a video, do it is like not. Niggas

1074
01:00:22,000 --> 01:00:28,760
Speaker 2: went outside and Dick wrote the sun today. Sam said,

1075
01:00:28,840 --> 01:00:31,040
Speaker 2: niggas can't even join the clips.

1076
01:00:30,680 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 3: Without It's not gonna happen again for another four hundred years.

1077
01:00:37,640 --> 01:00:41,400
Speaker 1: He said, the sun be there eight days they you're

1078
01:00:41,440 --> 01:00:45,840
Speaker 1: gonna Dick ride the sun. I'm like, yo, we can't even.

1079
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:49,400
Speaker 4: Where.

1080
01:00:51,320 --> 01:00:54,360
Speaker 3: We live in a toxic, toxic world, man. So yeah,

1081
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:57,520
Speaker 3: it's hard to know what what uh what is good

1082
01:00:57,600 --> 01:01:00,200
Speaker 3: for your character or bad for your character. But I

1083
01:01:00,240 --> 01:01:02,600
Speaker 3: do think if we could put a little bow on this,

1084
01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:07,840
Speaker 3: I do think objectively bullying is is probably a bad

1085
01:01:07,960 --> 01:01:12,640
Speaker 3: thing that some of us manage to to make beautiful

1086
01:01:12,720 --> 01:01:15,760
Speaker 3: on the back end that the bravest of us, somehow

1087
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 3: can can build bouquets from that shit flower you you

1088
01:01:20,040 --> 01:01:20,520
Speaker 3: offered me.

1089
01:01:21,120 --> 01:01:27,560
Speaker 2: That's Langsty's bowl. My bowl is from an article the

1090
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 2: Verge dot com says children who bully others have lower

1091
01:01:36,960 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 2: levels of inflammation later on in life.

1092
01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:47,880
Speaker 4: Do what you want.

1093
01:01:50,880 --> 01:01:54,280
Speaker 3: I was like, look, hey, if you flame somebody else,

1094
01:01:54,360 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 3: you ain't got no inflammation later.

1095
01:01:58,400 --> 01:02:01,600
Speaker 9: At the end of the day, you know, I mean

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Speaker 2: Imagine, imagine the nigga like going to the doctor, like

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Speaker 1: He just starts like A, I don't know what to

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Speaker 1: do about this. Go outside, start roasting people.

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Speaker 4: Boy a little boy.

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Speaker 1: Kid like, no, I gotta do this for my.

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Speaker 4: Doctor said six months I prescriptions.

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Speaker 10: I'm trying to live long enough to raise my That's great.

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Speaker 3: All right, I think we did it. So you want

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Speaker 3: to tell the people where they can find you on?

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Speaker 3: What cool ship you have going on?

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Speaker 2: Kevin Ice so propo andol like the Alcohol group on

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Speaker 2: Instagram and I have a show. September twenty ninth, Junion Hall, Brooklyn,

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Speaker 3: Is it looks dope. I'm excited. I'm excited to see it. House,

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Speaker 3: I'll spin the dough just to be able to experience.

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Speaker 1: You got it.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna kill you. Give me two hundred dollars.

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Speaker 3: My Mama Told Me is a production of Will Ferrell's

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Speaker 3: Big Money Players Network and iHeart Podcast, created and hosted

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Speaker 3: by Langston Krektin co hosted by David Borie.

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Speaker 4: Executive produced by Will Ferrell, Han Soni and Olivia Aguilon.

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Speaker 3: Co produced by Bee Wayne, edited and engineered by Justin Kohfon,

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Speaker 3: music by Nick Chambers.

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Speaker 4: Artwork by Dogon Kreega.

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