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Speaker 1: Thank you Nephew, subject why do good guys Always finished? Last?

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty nine year old black

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Speaker 1: man and I met a thirty nine year old black

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Speaker 1: just gotten out of any emotional, emotionally abusive relationships, so

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Speaker 1: I wanted to treat her extra special. She told me

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Speaker 1: has major trust issues, but I stayed with her. I

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Speaker 1: was happy to help with her bills. I even paid

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Speaker 1: me to her old boyfriend. She expects me to dress

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Speaker 1: a certain way, and she always criticizes how I get

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Speaker 1: and that's not my style. The more I did to

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Speaker 1: When school started back, I told her I could pick

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Speaker 1: indecency and wanting to spend time with her son. I

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Speaker 1: didn't like it one bit, but after a day or

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Speaker 1: I've been with her for ten months, so I thought

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Speaker 1: women don't know a good man when they see one,

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Speaker 1: and she's one of them. I wanted to show her

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Speaker 1: different way of life because she's a beautiful woman. My

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Speaker 1: What do you think should I let her go? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I think you should. I appreciate what you're trying to

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Speaker 1: do with her, but why continue to put yourself through this? Really,

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Speaker 1: I think your pastor's right. She doesn't understand that she

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Speaker 1: does have a good man. Your intentions are good, but

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Speaker 1: unappreciated here. And do you know how many women would

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Speaker 1: You're not over there lying and cheating. If you can't

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Speaker 1: I just think, you know, she needs to realize that

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Speaker 1: this is what she should want, although she doesn't want it.

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Speaker 1: You say she wants a bad boy, then yes, I

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Speaker 1: think you should let her go and stop wasting your time. Steve,

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Speaker 1: hey Man, look I got she might be beautiful, but

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Speaker 1: some wrong. You know, some people can't let go of

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Speaker 1: Now you know this is what non abuse looks like.

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Speaker 1: And this is what it dresses like. Now. It's clear

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Speaker 1: doing to this country. Heat delied so many times to

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Speaker 1: it's a fraudic election. Guess what, Now everybody believe it.

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Speaker 1: Let her go and feel how she want to feel.

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Speaker 1: She liked bad boys, Go get another bad boy. I'm

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Speaker 1: after the hour, subject why the good Guys Always finished Last?

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters,

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Speaker 1: subject why the guys always finished Last? Why? I don't know, man,

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Speaker 1: she wanted them women where she ain't. She ain't happy

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Speaker 1: being indecent with her twelve year old son? What? What?

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Speaker 1: What did I do that? Oh? I see where you're

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Speaker 1: You know, she got a problem with that. She don't

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Speaker 1: You're sitting up here. She wants some drama in her life.

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Speaker 1: You know, y'all just walking a hound. Start cussing. One

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Speaker 1: pastor is right until she gets help walk away, because bro,

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Speaker 1: But remember what somebody's grandmama told me a long time

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Speaker 1: Plenty of I wish I would often take care of you,

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Speaker 1: help you out. Yeah yeah, man, skip that. I'm not

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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna continue to see nobody that accused me

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Speaker 1: of being decent with a little kid. Man. Let me

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Speaker 1: you better get out of that though. Yeah all right.

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