WEBVTT - What's On Your Year End To-Do List? 0:00:02.880 --> 0:00:06.200 Welcome everyone to the Amy and TJ Podcast. I don't 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:08.560 know if any of you all have felt this or not, 0:00:08.720 --> 0:00:11.959 but Thanksgiving was so late this year that all of 0:00:12.000 --> 0:00:15.520 a sudden, I feel like December just happened and I 0:00:15.640 --> 0:00:17.880 wasn't even anticipating it so much. And so, yeah, we 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:20.560 have a few weeks left until the end of the year, 0:00:21.079 --> 0:00:23.720 and you know what, I don't know if everyone has 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:26.040 accomplished what they wanted to. We all make those New 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:29.440 Year's resolutions or at least get intentional around the first 0:00:29.520 --> 0:00:30.960 of the year, and then you wake up and it's 0:00:30.960 --> 0:00:34.040 December and you realize maybe I didn't do all the 0:00:34.040 --> 0:00:35.640 things I want to do. Well, we are here to 0:00:35.680 --> 0:00:39.440 tell you that there is still time to get things done. 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:42.560 So we actually have a list of things you're going 0:00:42.600 --> 0:00:44.560 to wish you did before the year's over. So instead 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:46.400 of kind of saying you should have you could have, 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:48.680 why don't we get this out now where there's still 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:51.839 time to maybe accomplish some of these things. And we 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:55.520 have our producer Andy and Emma with us as well 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:57.440 here in the studio to kind of walk us through 0:00:58.240 --> 0:01:01.920 what we should be doing or could be doing before 0:01:01.920 --> 0:01:04.120 it's too late. Is there anything that you wish you 0:01:04.120 --> 0:01:06.920 had done, that you haven't done, that you thought you 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:08.680 were going to that you didn't TJ. 0:01:08.959 --> 0:01:11.560 No, I'm still laughing that everybody got an introduction that 0:01:11.680 --> 0:01:14.120 wasn't even now. I wasn't even here. You just talk 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:17.520 and talk and talked. You introduced both of the producers. 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.360 I'm sorry that was Did you even realize, oh you're there, 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:22.479 that I am here? 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:24.880 Yes, yes, okay. 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:26.759 I was no. I was getting I was giggling because 0:01:26.800 --> 0:01:28.520 I didn't know how long it was going to go. 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.560 I thought you were actually going to call on him 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:32.840 and hit This is gonna be the first podcast we've 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:34.920 done in a year in which you hear another man's 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:36.480 voice on it before you hear mine. 0:01:39.160 --> 0:01:43.840 That's why we were headed and that's why I don't 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:45.720 start podcasts often, so. 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:47.680 People don't know that this is a debate, that it 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:50.640 was not a debat anymore like you doing. But yes, 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:54.080 it's uh I sit back and just watch watch it, magic, 0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:55.520 watch magic. 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:57.640 I know you're taking notes. I saw you taking notes. 0:01:57.760 --> 0:02:00.840 I'm going to do what Robes did this time next time. Yeah, 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.800 you just have a bunch of scratches. You're scratching out 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:07.160 what you were going to say, because I so eloquently 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:08.480 put it all into play. 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.959 You know, what things I want to do before the 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:14.360 year's over. I haven't thought about that, but there's always 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:17.480 stuff and I'm unfortunately think about it too often when 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:21.640 someone I know passes away and I think, wow, I 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:25.400 was just meaning to reach out blank and just think 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:27.360 about the things. And I say this, said this before. 0:02:27.560 --> 0:02:29.880 There's so many people who are listening now. Friends of 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:31.720 my who over in the past two years got in 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:35.360 the message that started out just thinking about you. And 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:38.680 if anything, I've learned lately, if somebody's on my mind, 0:02:39.040 --> 0:02:42.040 I reach out just saying hi. That message has gone 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:44.760 out to so many people, so I think that's usually 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:46.760 one of the things. Though I'll probably get to, like 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:49.000 I wish I need to make sure I reach out. 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:50.600 That's probably something I'll do. Well. 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:52.480 Yeah, I was gonna say, will you make an active 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:55.320 note of it and the next few weeks actually make 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:57.400 a point to do it before we get to the 0:02:57.440 --> 0:02:57.839 new year. 0:02:57.919 --> 0:03:01.280 Absolutely, And it's the holidays as well. You know, sometimes 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.720 people are a little down around the holidays. Some people 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:05.920 are lonely around the holidays, right, even if you have 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:08.480 family around you, sometimes you can still feel lonely, so 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:10.880 I think sometimes there's a little note of encouragement. It's 0:03:10.880 --> 0:03:14.320 always good anytime, it's a good time, but the holidays, certainly. 0:03:14.120 --> 0:03:17.080 I agree with you. And the one thing I think 0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:18.679 we can all look back and say, I wish I 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:22.120 haead it's about reaching out and connecting with people, asking 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:24.160 that front to launch who you haven't seen in a while, 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:26.880 or just checking in on them. That's a really good point. 0:03:27.040 --> 0:03:29.880 And I think I'm thinking that's probably on the list 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:31.799 as well. But Andy's got the list in front of 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:33.320 him now, so why don't you walk us through it? 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:34.120 All right? 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:37.200 So number one on this list is texting that old 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:38.520 friend you've been meaning to call. 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:44.280 Oh, I you should play family feud survey says number one. 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:45.840 Now the balls in your court. 0:03:45.720 --> 0:03:49.480 It is. But everybody do that, and I've done this before. 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:52.520 But if you stop right now, everybody, pick up your 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:57.280 phone and go into your messages file and then scroll down, down, down, 0:03:57.320 --> 0:04:01.200 down down to the very bottom. Who is that person 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:04.160 you haven't talked to in so long? And why like, 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:06.040 who is that on the very bottom there? Whoever was 0:04:06.040 --> 0:04:08.000 a message you never responded to? Or why did you 0:04:08.040 --> 0:04:10.600 lose touch? Or they're on your list of people you've 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:12.840 been talking to, but why is that one or the 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:15.600 second to last or the third last. Just take a 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:17.880 look and you'd be very surprised and go wow. 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:20.599 And you know what. We've said this before, but it's 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:23.800 worth mentioning again if you've been through tough times and 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:27.320 we certainly have recently. The people who do, even if 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:30.719 seemingly out of nowhere, if it's been years, even since 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:35.680 you've spoken to them, one note, one sentence, one quick text, 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:39.960 it's amazing what that does for that person. 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:42.279 And even if you don't hear back from them, yeah, 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:43.320 they'll read it. 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:47.039 It's still meaningful the world. I've been amazed at how 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:50.080 much it's touched me just to say, hey, you don't 0:04:50.160 --> 0:04:52.360 even like I love this, especially if someone's going through 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.719 a tough time. You do not have to text me back, 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:56.800 but I just want to let you know you're in 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:59.880 my heart, you're in my thoughts, and I'm sending you love. 0:05:00.200 --> 0:05:01.360 That is all it takes. 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:03.200 And don't give up if you don't hear back from 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:05.800 them either, because I was bad about that for a 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:07.760 little while, and there were certain folks who would not 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:11.440 let me be, didn't ask for any response, but they 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:13.760 didn't care that I didn't respond and they stayed at it. 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:17.280 So it's that's really really meaningful, And that's number one 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:20.479 on the list there, But it's that's a big one. 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:22.520 It's good for you and it's good for the person 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:24.000 receiving it. Everybody wins. 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:27.680 Nice Number two. Finally taking that weekend trip. 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:35.000 Yeah, why not? I mean why not? Everybody? Just I 0:05:35.040 --> 0:05:37.520 know we can't. Sometimes you just jump in a car. Well, 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:40.120 you know what again, everybody think about right now, what's 0:05:40.120 --> 0:05:42.440 the thing or the place you've been saying you want 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:45.000 to go and you still haven't. Ask yourself why you haven't, 0:05:45.200 --> 0:05:47.200 and then why the hell not go for it? 0:05:47.320 --> 0:05:51.200 Yeah, I'm a big believer in this. You don't know 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:53.320 how much time you've got. So if there's something you 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:55.680 really want to do, someplace you really want to go, 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:58.920 just book it, Just book it and go. I love that, 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:02.520 And that's good advice because you're never going to regret 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:05.600 a trip. You're never going to regret a mini vacation. 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:08.039 You're never going to regret spending time in a place 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.520 you were thinking about going to. You're never gonna think 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:12.919 I wish I hadn't taken that trip. It just doesn't happen. 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:16.240 Number three is saying sorry to someone who deserves it. 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:20.720 Oh boy, yeah, I mean, and sorry is the hardest word. 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:22.080 Why is sorry the hardest word? 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:22.320 Right? 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:26.400 But that also is a gift to yourself and a 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:28.840 gift to that other person because when you say you're sorry, 0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:33.000 you surrender, and when you surrender, you let go of 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:36.559 whatever notion you had. I something my mom has always 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:38.039 said to me that I've said to the girls, and 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:41.520 I have to remind myself in moments it is always 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:44.640 better to be kind than right, period. 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:46.600 But you're still right. 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:56.920 Look at you. Stop. If you know it, that's great. 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:58.800 You don't have to prove it to the other person. 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:01.719 I can be kind all day long. If I know 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:05.160 I'm right, I have no problem. You can win this 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:08.400 little confrontation that's going on right here, right now, because 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:10.880 oftentimes I know that it might be in the next 0:07:10.920 --> 0:07:14.120 ten minutes, might be tomorrow, or in two days. That 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:16.680 person's going to realize how much of an ass they 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:18.920 made of themselves in front of me. And that's fine. 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.240 They might realize it, but they still might not say 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:23.640 I'm sorry, because that's a really hard thing to say. 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:24.600 You don't need it. 0:07:24.720 --> 0:07:26.960 Oh no, I don't need it. And I'm sorry is 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:31.120 more so for the person saying it versus the person 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:33.560 who's been wrong. I don't need enough. I'm sorry for somebody. 0:07:34.000 --> 0:07:34.800 I really really don't. 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:37.440 Can you forgive somebody even though they don't say they're. 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:40.240 Sorry, I can forget them. That's why I no, no, no, 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:42.560 you know me well enough to know this, and this 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:44.680 is something I am bad at. I have a very 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:47.960 small circle in that circle. Not a lot of extra 0:07:48.000 --> 0:07:51.760 folks get into that circle, you know that. So when 0:07:51.800 --> 0:07:57.000 someone shows me something about themselves before they get in 0:07:57.080 --> 0:08:00.320 the circle, then I don't need to bother with them anymore. 0:08:00.320 --> 0:08:06.320 Even if they apologize and they mean it. I don't 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:07.320 understand the answer to that. 0:08:07.800 --> 0:08:09.920 Yeah, that's fine, but I don't. The whole point was, 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:11.320 I don't need an apology. I don't need it. I'm 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:12.960 sorry from anybody I see. 0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:15.960 I think I'm sorry are very powerful and I incredibly 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:19.640 I appreciate them from you. That's right, right, But I'm 0:08:19.640 --> 0:08:22.000 actually assuming it's if we're talking about this, it's from 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:25.520 someone who is somewhat meaningful in your life. It's not 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:27.920 like someone bumped you like you know, bumped into you 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:29.560 on the street. But this is like a friend or 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.440 a partner or a family member. 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.199 Oh, all that goes, I see, I would. I'm thinking 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:36.840 of it as all that goes without saying somebody that's 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.520 I know, in love, a family member, you and I'm 0:08:39.559 --> 0:08:44.920 sorry is almost necessary to move forward. Yeah, but outside 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:46.120 of that, I don't need it. I'm sorry. 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:48.640 We're talking about it. It's it's not too later. Things 0:08:48.640 --> 0:08:50.520 you wish you had done before the year's over. Do 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:53.080 you think it's ever too late to say you're sorry? 0:08:54.559 --> 0:09:03.400 Oh? Well, as Justin Bieber would say, I don't know. 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.320 I think maybe it can be too late. I just 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:09.280 it's I needed that a long time ago. It's it's 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:11.960 it's I don't know. I don't think so. I mean, 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:14.320 I don't think I think it can be too late. 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:17.840 Yes, you do, don't. I hear what you're saying, and 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:20.200 I agree. I'm not saying that the relationship would go 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:23.400 back to where it was, But I do think I 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.800 actually think it it's never too late. You can always 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.839 say you're sorry. Doesn't You can't have the expectation then 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:32.760 that that person will forgive you, or that that person 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:36.439 will come around and you will have a renewed relationship. 0:09:36.679 --> 0:09:38.600 But I still think it's a gesture that you can 0:09:38.640 --> 0:09:41.760 give without expectations. And it's never too late to do that. 0:09:42.200 --> 0:09:43.959 Okay, I would just I say too late as a 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:45.280 matter of is it have any meaning? 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:45.600 Right? 0:09:45.640 --> 0:09:47.520 I just don't care. I mean, you can say it 0:09:47.559 --> 0:09:49.680 makes you feel better, fine, but it has no impact 0:09:49.720 --> 0:09:51.600 on our relationship. It's not going to change anything. I'm 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:53.720 not going to rest better. So yeah, it could be 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:56.880 too late, Okay, a small window of time to say 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:57.760 I'm sorry ropes. 0:09:58.120 --> 0:09:59.480 Okay, what is that window? 0:09:59.600 --> 0:10:02.720 Just for few it's closing on something you did about 0:10:02.800 --> 0:10:08.640 a month and a half ago. 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:19.960 Number four is clearing out the chaos in your space. 0:10:20.640 --> 0:10:24.280 Oh well, yeah, I've been starting to do it, but 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:26.599 I that is something I would like to accomplish in 0:10:26.640 --> 0:10:30.880 the next couple of days or weeks that has such 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:34.960 a mental impact on me at least when in fact, 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:39.240 right now, my daughter Analise is taking bags and bags 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:42.920 of things I've already cleared out to Goodwill as we're 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:45.440 recording this, because and I remember just feeling relief, like 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:48.319 my shoulders relaxed knowing that she's getting it out of 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:49.760 the house. It makes a huge difference. 0:10:50.040 --> 0:10:52.480 Uh, yes, you know how all as am when I 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:54.400 you know something's going on and something's wrong with me, 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:57.319 when I start clearing things out and throwing things away 0:10:57.440 --> 0:11:00.400 and getting really organized, that's how I go about finding 0:11:00.440 --> 0:11:04.600 my I don't know my piece again. Yes, to control 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:06.600 the things I can control, but yes, a lot of 0:11:06.600 --> 0:11:08.439 new things people can get, new gifts, new clothes and 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:09.880 all this stuff. So yeah, it's a good time to 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:10.640 get stuff out of there. 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.160 Yeah, making space for the new. 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:16.040 Number five is taking the time to remember the good stuff. 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:18.240 That's vague. 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:21.800 Well, no, but you know what I think. But I 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:24.959 actually I love this. Something we can do over the 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:27.960 next couple of weeks because a lot of times this 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:30.800 is a time of year where we do reflect and 0:11:31.000 --> 0:11:34.280 we might not even realize how much we're thinking about 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:38.040 the negative. He did that, she did this. I wish 0:11:38.120 --> 0:11:40.719 this would be different. Why didn't this happen the way 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:44.120 I wanted it to. If we can recognize that we're 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:48.720 doing that and maybe even kind of looking at things negatively, sure, 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:50.240 there's always a way to do that. But if you 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:54.559 can flip the switch and say, okay, forever I've actually 0:11:54.600 --> 0:11:57.160 said this to myself, I don't always put it into practice, 0:11:57.160 --> 0:11:59.840 but when I feel myself having negative thoughts, When I 0:11:59.880 --> 0:12:02.600 have a negative thought, now right now, I have to 0:12:02.640 --> 0:12:04.880 replace it, or at least have to add a positive 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:08.000 thought on the same subject to it. And that changes 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:11.120 your attitude about either a person or a situation, because 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:14.199 there is usually something good you can remember or think 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:15.800 about when it comes. 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:19.720 To just takes training to do that. It's so difficult 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:21.000 to do it when you're in the moment and something 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:24.439 is that frustrating. I am a flight just got delayed 0:12:24.559 --> 0:12:26.920 or canceled, or your bags got lost or whatever it 0:12:26.960 --> 0:12:29.839 may be. It's hard to find a positive in that moment. 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:31.920 But we've had so many. I'm trying to think of 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:33.520 the exactly I'm not going to be able to come 0:12:33.600 --> 0:12:36.840 up with it here. But we got a wonderful opportunity 0:12:36.880 --> 0:12:39.520 because a flight of ours was delayed. Right things have 0:12:40.120 --> 0:12:42.080 we never We didn't see it coming, but we were 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:43.480 able to. You remember what I'm saying. 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:45.280 I'm trying to remember, well, I remember last year when 0:12:45.280 --> 0:12:47.560 we were in Puerto Rico and our flight got delayed 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.559 and we went back to the hotel and we actually 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:56.720 ended up Okay, I know exactly what we actually went 0:12:56.760 --> 0:12:59.319 back to the hotel. We actually got a room because 0:12:59.480 --> 0:13:04.480 we ran into someone that we would never have run into. 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:06.559 We never would have seen, and we never would have 0:13:06.600 --> 0:13:08.640 had a moment with had our flight not gotten delayed. 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:12.599 Yes, okay, so yes, to my point, there is opportunity 0:13:12.720 --> 0:13:15.480 in everything that goes sideways for you if you would 0:13:15.559 --> 0:13:17.560 just stop and look for it. Right. We always say 0:13:17.600 --> 0:13:20.920 we look for the worst in people or in situations. 0:13:21.240 --> 0:13:23.240 What would happen if you look for the good and 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.840 everybody you came in contact with in every situation you 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:26.880 had give it that a shot. 0:13:28.040 --> 0:13:30.160 Number six. Paying attention to your body. 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:36.480 Yes, yes, I think that is so important. I'm a 0:13:36.480 --> 0:13:40.439 big believer in it, and even with every medical situation 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:43.040 I've been through, I still do it. You put things off. 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:45.720 No one wants to make a doctor's appointment. No one 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:51.719 wants to make that dental appointment. It's tough, but that 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:56.240 is part of us not only loving ourselves, but making 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:59.200 sure we're around and healthy for the people who love us. 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:01.680 I often said, even if you don't want to do 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:03.800 it for you, do it for the people who love you, 0:14:04.000 --> 0:14:06.000 who want you to be here longer and to be 0:14:06.080 --> 0:14:08.960 here healthier. So I think that's a great point this 0:14:09.000 --> 0:14:12.160 time of year, as we're assessing so much, to remember 0:14:12.160 --> 0:14:15.120 to listen to your body and are you getting enough sleep? 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:19.080 Are you eating regularly? Are you eating healthily? Are you 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:22.800 exercising all of those things? That's the gift that sounds 0:14:22.840 --> 0:14:25.360 so corny, Oh my god, but that is the gift 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:29.280 you can give yourself. It's time of year, and that's 0:14:29.320 --> 0:14:31.920 probably the best gift you can give yourself this time 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:32.240 of year. 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:35.400 Well, I have a brace on my foot right now 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.560 because I'm paying to my body. I am the worst 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:39.080 of this. Do as I say and not as I do. 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:43.360 I am awful, awful at sleep. I only have this 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:46.000 brace on because I had to. It was just so 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:48.640 much pain running that I didn't have a choice, essentially, 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:53.440 So this is one I definitely need to be doing. 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:58.760 After the marathon. Was the marath No after Thanksgiving, I 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:02.480 dropped eleven thirteen pounds because I was so sick. I 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:07.560 was absolutely sick. So that's food poisoning something. Who knows 0:15:07.560 --> 0:15:08.040 what was going on. 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:10.600 I don't know what happened, but you definitely were. Oh 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:13.200 you had a really rough three four days? 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:17.400 Yes, say so. No, I'm awful at that, and I 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:21.480 know I am I eat well, probably don't eat enough, 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:24.640 but yes, this is the time to anytime. It's a 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:26.080 good time. You don't have to wait for anything. 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:28.760 Well, what would you like to do differently? 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:31.320 I gotta sleep. I gotta find a way to sleep, 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:33.560 Like I need to go to a doctor about the 0:15:33.600 --> 0:15:36.400 sleep and the habits. And that's it's awful. 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:39.280 If you did that, that was like, honestly, that's all 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:41.840 I would want for Christmas is to say, Robes, I 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:45.440 made a doctor's appointment with someone who specializes in sleep disorder. 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:46.120 That's all you want. 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:47.080 That would be huge. 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:49.640 Oh my god. I hope I kept my receipts because 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:52.880 I got a lot of stuff to return. 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:58.480 But that to me is, yes, that's something that you 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:01.320 actually I think I don't think. I pretty much know 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:03.520 at this point, having known you for so long, that 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:06.880 is something that you actually need medical guidance with, and 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:08.680 I think a lot of people do. I think people 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:11.440 assume we can fix it on our own. But sleep 0:16:11.520 --> 0:16:13.840 is something that you know, that's not something necessarily you're 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.640 doing wrong or to yourself. I've watched you, You've tried 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:18.840 to go to bed early. It's not about falling asleep. 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:22.000 It's about staying asleep and sometimes you need help with 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.960 that and someone who knows better and studies this sort 0:16:25.000 --> 0:16:27.880 of thing, and if you got Look, when you do 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:33.040 get good sleep, you are the absolute best, brightest version 0:16:33.040 --> 0:16:36.080 of yourself and it's so lovely to be around. So yes, 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:41.000 it would be a gift to me. When you are good, 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:45.800 you are like, wow, amazing today, You're good. 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:47.400 I didn't not get good sleep? 0:16:48.160 --> 0:16:49.600 Well, then you're faking it really well? 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:54.440 Only that was that was strong? Well I didn't. I 0:16:54.520 --> 0:16:57.720 wasn't expecting that. No, but you know, like, can I 0:16:57.760 --> 0:16:59.640 ask you one question? Yes, since you've known me, have 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.040 you have you seen me get eight hours of sleep? 0:17:03.360 --> 0:17:06.000 Only when you were sick these last few days? Yeah, 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:06.919 but that might. 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:10.000 Be overnight I slept. Were talking about like napping during 0:17:10.000 --> 0:17:11.320 the day and bouncing around. 0:17:11.600 --> 0:17:11.800 Yeah. 0:17:11.920 --> 0:17:14.520 Have you seen me go to bed at ten o'clock 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:15.280 at night and wake up? 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:17.919 It's no, I think the longest I've ever seen you 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.639 sleep and you are ready to rock and roll if 0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:22.280 you get six hours? 0:17:23.480 --> 0:17:24.080 Is that normal? 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:27.560 I don't know. And that's why a doctor who knows 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:30.080 better could tell you that, you know what, DJ you 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:32.359 only need six hours because You've always made that argument, 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:35.040 and I think we're kind of learning that maybe it's 0:17:35.040 --> 0:17:37.480 not how long you sleep, it's how well you sleep. 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:39.359 And so do you go into deep sleep, do you 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:41.680 get the ram sleep? Those are the kinds of things 0:17:41.720 --> 0:17:46.440 that you know need to be studied, right, But yeah, 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:50.480 I'm six hours and deep sleep. Nobody can touch you. 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:55.320 Folks are going through the things you're gonna wish you 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:57.679 did before the year's over. Way up to number seven, 0:17:57.840 --> 0:17:59.080 Andy is there right, yep. 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:01.480 Is showing gratitude to the people who matter. 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:06.919 Yes, and I year round, year round, for sure. But 0:18:06.960 --> 0:18:10.399 if you've realized that maybe you have not you've been distracted, 0:18:11.080 --> 0:18:13.280 or you've taken some things or some people for granted. 0:18:13.520 --> 0:18:17.280 You've got time, You've got you can always Yeah, you've 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:19.080 got a couple of weeks to really make it, make 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:21.639 a list. I know people say to make a gratitude journal. 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:24.640 I always want to do that. I just never have. 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:27.480 But I know that it's effective and it's great and 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:29.679 there are so many people that we can think for 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:32.440 doing so many things for us. That's a great tip. 0:18:32.560 --> 0:18:35.520 And again it's one that you'll feel better about and 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:38.359 the people who will be receiving it will feel wonderful for. 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:42.119 The last part there to people who matter. Show gratitude 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:45.520 to people who matter. That can mean a lot of stuff. 0:18:45.560 --> 0:18:49.199 You might think about your friends, family, somebody in your circle. 0:18:49.760 --> 0:18:55.760 But man, that the person driving the subway is matters, 0:18:56.440 --> 0:18:58.800 that flight attendant matters. There are a lot of people 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:01.600 who are incredibly significant in your life on a day 0:19:01.640 --> 0:19:03.600 to day basis that you don't know their name at all, 0:19:04.280 --> 0:19:06.359 and you would not be surprised how far it goes 0:19:07.240 --> 0:19:09.879 to show gratitude. And this was happening with Sabine. You know, 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:12.520