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Speaker 1: Welcome everyone to the Amy and TJ Podcast. I don't

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Speaker 1: know if any of you all have felt this or not,

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Speaker 1: but Thanksgiving was so late this year that all of

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Speaker 1: a sudden, I feel like December just happened and I

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Speaker 1: wasn't even anticipating it so much. And so, yeah, we

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Speaker 1: have a few weeks left until the end of the year,

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Speaker 1: and you know what, I don't know if everyone has

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Speaker 1: accomplished what they wanted to. We all make those New

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Speaker 1: Year's resolutions or at least get intentional around the first

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Speaker 1: of the year, and then you wake up and it's

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Speaker 1: December and you realize maybe I didn't do all the

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Speaker 1: things I want to do. Well, we are here to

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Speaker 1: tell you that there is still time to get things done.

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Speaker 1: So we actually have a list of things you're going

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Speaker 1: to wish you did before the year's over. So instead

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Speaker 1: of kind of saying you should have you could have,

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Speaker 1: why don't we get this out now where there's still

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Speaker 1: time to maybe accomplish some of these things. And we

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Speaker 1: have our producer Andy and Emma with us as well

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Speaker 1: here in the studio to kind of walk us through

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Speaker 1: what we should be doing or could be doing before

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Speaker 1: it's too late. Is there anything that you wish you

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Speaker 1: had done, that you haven't done, that you thought you

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Speaker 1: were going to that you didn't TJ.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm still laughing that everybody got an introduction that

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Speaker 2: wasn't even now. I wasn't even here. You just talk

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Speaker 2: and talk and talked. You introduced both of the producers.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry that was Did you even realize, oh you're there,

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Speaker 2: that I am here?

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, okay.

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Speaker 2: I was no. I was getting I was giggling because

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Speaker 2: I didn't know how long it was going to go.

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Speaker 2: I thought you were actually going to call on him

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Speaker 2: and hit This is gonna be the first podcast we've

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Speaker 2: done in a year in which you hear another man's

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Speaker 2: voice on it before you hear mine.

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Speaker 1: That's why we were headed and that's why I don't

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Speaker 1: start podcasts often, so.

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Speaker 2: People don't know that this is a debate, that it

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Speaker 2: was not a debat anymore like you doing. But yes,

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Speaker 2: it's uh I sit back and just watch watch it, magic,

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Speaker 2: watch magic.

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Speaker 1: I know you're taking notes. I saw you taking notes.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to do what Robes did this time next time. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you just have a bunch of scratches. You're scratching out

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Speaker 1: what you were going to say, because I so eloquently

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Speaker 1: put it all into play.

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Speaker 2: You know, what things I want to do before the

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Speaker 2: year's over. I haven't thought about that, but there's always

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Speaker 2: stuff and I'm unfortunately think about it too often when

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Speaker 2: someone I know passes away and I think, wow, I

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Speaker 2: was just meaning to reach out blank and just think

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Speaker 2: about the things. And I say this, said this before.

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Speaker 2: There's so many people who are listening now. Friends of

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Speaker 2: my who over in the past two years got in

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Speaker 2: the message that started out just thinking about you. And

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Speaker 2: if anything, I've learned lately, if somebody's on my mind,

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Speaker 2: I reach out just saying hi. That message has gone

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Speaker 2: That's probably something I'll do. Well.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was gonna say, will you make an active

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Speaker 1: note of it and the next few weeks actually make

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, And it's the holidays as well. You know, sometimes

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Speaker 2: people are a little down around the holidays. Some people

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Speaker 2: are lonely around the holidays, right, even if you have

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Speaker 2: I think sometimes there's a little note of encouragement. It's

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Speaker 2: always good anytime, it's a good time, but the holidays, certainly.

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Speaker 1: I agree with you. And the one thing I think

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Speaker 1: we can all look back and say, I wish I

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Speaker 1: haead it's about reaching out and connecting with people, asking

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Speaker 1: or just checking in on them. That's a really good point.

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Speaker 1: And I think I'm thinking that's probably on the list

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Speaker 1: him now, so why don't you walk us through it?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 3: So number one on this list is texting that old

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Speaker 1: Oh, I you should play family feud survey says number one.

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Speaker 1: Now the balls in your court.

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Speaker 2: It is. But everybody do that, and I've done this before.

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Speaker 2: But if you stop right now, everybody, pick up your

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Speaker 2: phone and go into your messages file and then scroll down, down, down,

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Speaker 1: And you know what. We've said this before, but it's

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Speaker 1: worth mentioning again if you've been through tough times and

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Speaker 1: it's amazing what that does for that person.

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Speaker 2: And even if you don't hear back from them, yeah,

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Speaker 2: they'll read it.

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Speaker 1: It's still meaningful the world. I've been amazed at how

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Speaker 1: much it's touched me just to say, hey, you don't

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Speaker 1: a tough time. You do not have to text me back,

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Speaker 1: but I just want to let you know you're in

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Speaker 1: my heart, you're in my thoughts, and I'm sending you love.

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Speaker 1: That is all it takes.

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Speaker 2: And don't give up if you don't hear back from

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Speaker 2: them either, because I was bad about that for a

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Speaker 2: let me be, didn't ask for any response, but they

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Speaker 2: So it's that's really really meaningful, And that's number one

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Speaker 2: on the list there, But it's that's a big one.

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Speaker 1: It's good for you and it's good for the person

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Speaker 3: Nice Number two. Finally taking that weekend trip.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, why not? I mean why not? Everybody? Just I

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Speaker 2: know we can't. Sometimes you just jump in a car. Well,

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Speaker 2: you know what again, everybody think about right now, what's

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Speaker 2: and then why the hell not go for it?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm a big believer in this. You don't know

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Speaker 1: And that's good advice because you're never going to regret

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Speaker 1: a trip. You're never going to regret a mini vacation.

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Speaker 1: You're never going to regret spending time in a place

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Speaker 3: Number three is saying sorry to someone who deserves it.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, yeah, I mean, and sorry is the hardest word.

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Speaker 1: Why is sorry the hardest word?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: But that also is a gift to yourself and a

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Speaker 1: you surrender, and when you surrender, you let go of

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Speaker 1: whatever notion you had. I something my mom has always

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Speaker 1: I have to remind myself in moments it is always

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Speaker 1: better to be kind than right, period.

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Speaker 2: But you're still right.

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Speaker 1: Look at you. Stop. If you know it, that's great.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to prove it to the other person.

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Speaker 2: I can be kind all day long. If I know

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Speaker 2: I'm right, I have no problem. You can win this

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Speaker 2: little confrontation that's going on right here, right now, because

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Speaker 1: They might realize it, but they still might not say

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, because that's a really hard thing to say.

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Speaker 1: You don't need it.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, I don't need it. And I'm sorry is

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Speaker 2: more so for the person saying it versus the person

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Speaker 2: who's been wrong. I don't need enough. I'm sorry for somebody.

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Speaker 1: Can you forgive somebody even though they don't say they're.

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Speaker 2: Sorry, I can forget them. That's why I no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: you know me well enough to know this, and this

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Speaker 1: Even if they apologize and they mean it. I don't

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Speaker 2: I don't need an apology. I don't need it. I'm

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Speaker 2: sorry from anybody I see.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm sorry are very powerful and I incredibly

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Speaker 1: I appreciate them from you. That's right, right, But I'm

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Speaker 1: actually assuming it's if we're talking about this, it's from

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Speaker 2: Oh, all that goes, I see, I would. I'm thinking

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Speaker 2: of it as all that goes without saying somebody that's

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Speaker 2: I know, in love, a family member, you and I'm

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Speaker 2: sorry is almost necessary to move forward. Yeah, but outside

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Speaker 2: of that, I don't need it. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: We're talking about it. It's it's not too later. Things

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Speaker 1: you wish you had done before the year's over. Do

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Speaker 1: you think it's ever too late to say you're sorry?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Well, as Justin Bieber would say, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I think maybe it can be too late. I just

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Speaker 2: it's I needed that a long time ago. It's it's

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Speaker 2: it's I don't know. I don't think so. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't think I think it can be too late.

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Speaker 1: Yes, you do, don't. I hear what you're saying, and

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Speaker 1: I agree. I'm not saying that the relationship would go

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Speaker 1: back to where it was, But I do think I

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Speaker 1: actually think it it's never too late. You can always

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Speaker 1: say you're sorry. Doesn't You can't have the expectation then

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Speaker 1: But I still think it's a gesture that you can

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Speaker 1: give without expectations. And it's never too late to do that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I would just I say too late as a

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: I just don't care. I mean, you can say it

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Speaker 2: makes you feel better, fine, but it has no impact

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Speaker 2: on our relationship. It's not going to change anything. I'm

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Speaker 2: not going to rest better. So yeah, it could be

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Speaker 2: too late, Okay, a small window of time to say

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Speaker 1: Okay, what is that window?

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Speaker 2: The last part there to people who matter. Show gratitude

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Speaker 1: That goes, Yeah, if you actually think about how many

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying this as a we ever where we go.

437
00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:02,680
Speaker 2: We've worked in a lot of places, and every time

438
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,360
Speaker 2: you leave those places, you know, when a job comes

439
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 2: up at your new place, you think, who would I

440
00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:09,560
Speaker 2: want to bring over? There are a couple of people

441
00:21:09,600 --> 00:21:13,800
Speaker 2: in your previous spot. You two, I mean, iHeart be unnoticed.

442
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:16,280
Speaker 2: We're gonna want to poach though at some point.

443
00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:21,480
Speaker 1: And you know Andy, we text him almost every morning

444
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 1: now around well, oh yeah, it's gotten a little bit later,

445
00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:27,760
Speaker 1: but the six o'clock range, and he's immediately responding like,

446
00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 1: good morning. You know, we're doing the morning run. We're

447
00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:35,159
Speaker 1: almost uploaded, and he's there getting all that up so

448
00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 1: that you all can listen to it, and at all

449
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,959
Speaker 1: hours of the night and morning, they're available to us,

450
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,879
Speaker 1: and we just really appreciate it and we want to

451
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Speaker 1: say thank you.

452
00:21:53,040 --> 00:21:59,439
Speaker 3: Who knew number seven was the best one? And number

453
00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:03,120
Speaker 3: eight is saying, guess is something you'd normally skip That.

454
00:22:03,080 --> 00:22:04,639
Speaker 1: Might be a tough one for you. So for me,

455
00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:05,359
Speaker 1: that's stuff for.

456
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:06,960
Speaker 2: You TJ man, it's hard to give me out of

457
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:10,520
Speaker 2: my comfort zone. I'm grown now, I know what I like.

458
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:14,200
Speaker 2: I'll try just about everything.

459
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 1: I'm going to try to get you on the slopes.

460
00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:18,119
Speaker 2: Tried it.

461
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 1: Before, you didn't try it with me.

462
00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:24,680
Speaker 2: I didn't might not need to just.

463
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,520
Speaker 1: Because my daughter Analyst is going to Boulder, so yep,

464
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 1: there will be mountains and snow and a visitor top.

465
00:22:32,240 --> 00:22:33,680
Speaker 1: I know you can stay by the fire.

466
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:34,600
Speaker 2: But as I can.

467
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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, is there something that you would like if

468
00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:39,560
Speaker 1: you think about, you know what I like to do

469
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 1: that you don't necessarily want to do. Is there something

470
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,359
Speaker 1: that you would say, Okay, you know what I'll say yesterday.

471
00:22:44,400 --> 00:22:46,760
Speaker 2: It'd have to be presented. But no, there's there's nothing

472
00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:49,439
Speaker 2: I'm dying to try that I haven't like. Okay, somebody's

473
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 2: been trying to get me to do that, and I'm

474
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 2: on the fence. I just you've talked about several things something.

475
00:22:56,520 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're like, good luck with that. Let me know

476
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 1: how the trip went. And that's okay. But what about

477
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: what about jumping out of an airplane? We've talked about that.

478
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 2: I'm curious about that, at least at least the curious

479
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:06,919
Speaker 2: about skydiving.

480
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so yes, I am too.

481
00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 2: I but that's not usually a no, like something I

482
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:13,960
Speaker 2: would normally say no to. Right, what was the question?

483
00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:17,119
Speaker 3: It was saying yes to something you normally skip.

484
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 2: Normally skip like actually want a skydive.

485
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:21,920
Speaker 1: Okay, you did go on a hike with me, and

486
00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,080
Speaker 1: you said you do this other hike. So you have

487
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 1: said I've.

488
00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:27,160
Speaker 2: Done some hiking before. Yeah, in certain places, in certain ways.

489
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 2: You took me on just the most it was horrible,

490
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:29,919
Speaker 2: insect ridden.

491
00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:31,879
Speaker 1: You know what. The good news is, we got that

492
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 1: one out of the way. Now I'm going to be

493
00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 1: very specific and know where I'm actually asking you to

494
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Speaker 1: go where there's a payoff for the hiking.

495
00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:45,480
Speaker 2: No, I've done Yeah, but hiking mountains is not a

496
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:46,000
Speaker 2: thing for me.

497
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 1: You don't want to go into altitude? No. But we

498
00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 1: also talked about rock climbing.

499
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 2: I like rock climbing.

500
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, we have some things that we can

501
00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:56,159
Speaker 1: both say yes to.

502
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:57,359
Speaker 2: Oh you normally say no to.

503
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to think because the true is I don't

504
00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: say no too much. Doing the cup It shuffle, I

505
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 1: tried it. Even though I made a fool of myself,

506
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:08,400
Speaker 1: I said yes, So no.

507
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 2: I should be a hard no.

508
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 1: This is come on, you got stop it.

509
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 2: Acknowledge when I insult you, this is no fun.

510
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: You don't how dare you? I can dance?

511
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:21,880
Speaker 3: No?

512
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:27,919
Speaker 1: I I really this is the truth. After I've always

513
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 1: been somebody who says yes to most things, but I

514
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 1: to my own detriment. But after going through breast cancer,

515
00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:43,880
Speaker 1: I really had this even more invigorated push to just

516
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 1: say yes because you never know. And then you say

517
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 1: yes and you don't like it, you can say no

518
00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 1: the next time. But I always enjoy the idea of

519
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,399
Speaker 1: doing something I didn't think I could. I used to

520
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:57,479
Speaker 1: say I would never run a marathon. I said that

521
00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:00,280
Speaker 1: to so many people because my dad ran marathons, and

522
00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 1: I said, he's insane. I would never run a marathon.

523
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:05,399
Speaker 1: You said you would never run more than six miles,

524
00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:07,119
Speaker 1: I think one time to me, and then you definitely

525
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,200
Speaker 1: said you would never run a half marathon. You said

526
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 1: you would never run a marathon, and the power of

527
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 1: yes is kind of awesome.

528
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:15,879
Speaker 2: Keep going. There was what's the next thing? I said, No,

529
00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 2: I would never, so if marathon was the last? What

530
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 2: was then after that? I said, I would never?

531
00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 1: He said you would never go into altitude or hike

532
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 1: a mountain.

533
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 2: Okay, said, then that'll end up being the next thing exactly.

534
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:28,160
Speaker 1: I just it's gonna be great.

535
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 2: I'll be the first black man ever die climbing a mountain,

536
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 2: first one ever. Like, what is he doing up there?

537
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 2: I think we didn't know to look for him. We

538
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 2: didn't think he'd be there.

539
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:44,119
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I think that you can. What the

540
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:46,679
Speaker 1: cool thing about saying yes is you can surprise yourself.

541
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,359
Speaker 1: You can think you know yourself. You can think you

542
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 1: know your limitations physically and mentally, and then you do

543
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 1: it anyway, and that is beautiful.

544
00:25:54,119 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 2: Ya. I'm not thinking about a physical challenge. I'm thinking

545
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 2: about something like that's humiligating, or that's not fun to me,

546
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 2: or I don't want to do that thing. I don't

547
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 2: want to go into that.

548
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 1: Okay, I can, I can.

549
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:05,919
Speaker 2: That'd be awkward ice skating. I don't know.

550
00:26:06,800 --> 00:26:09,359
Speaker 1: See I've done it, and I have humulated myself. And

551
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: you can laugh at yourself.

552
00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 2: I can laugh at I laugh at myself. I'm a

553
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 2: very serious individual.

554
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: I can laugh at my laughing laughing myself.

555
00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:17,760
Speaker 2: Really, who wants to?

556
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 1: I do? I enjoy it.

557
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:20,320
Speaker 2: It's embarrassing.

558
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: So I would say the thing that I have said

559
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 1: no to like this is random. But I remember one

560
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 1: thing I said no to is you know, have you

561
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,959
Speaker 1: ever seen those hypnotists that come up on the stage.

562
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,879
Speaker 1: I'm like, absolutely not, because I don't want to be

563
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:37,360
Speaker 1: out of control that way. I'm feeling like someone else

564
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 1: is controlling me. So you think it's real, I've said no,

565
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 1: I have seen feature really seen people do really stupid

566
00:26:46,040 --> 00:26:48,719
Speaker 1: things that they would not do normally. So I'm afraid

567
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 1: that I'm going to get up there and be someone's puppet.

568
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:53,119
Speaker 1: I've seen it.

569
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:57,919
Speaker 2: Yes, friends, yes you are actual friends. Got hypnotized. I

570
00:26:57,960 --> 00:26:59,880
Speaker 2: started dancing around like a monkey of someone.

571
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,400
Speaker 1: Safe at like this is a but your friends way back,

572
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 1: but your friend like fraternity parties. Yes, I've seen I've

573
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,520
Speaker 1: seen people do really embarrassing things that they would not

574
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 1: have done if they weren't under hypnosis.

575
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:15,719
Speaker 2: So so you all got a war renowned hypnotist at

576
00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 2: a fraternity party in nineteen ninety what? Okay, Yeah, I'm

577
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 2: sure y'all had a quality hypnotism.

578
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 1: So that was one thing. When I saw that happen,

579
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,879
Speaker 1: I said to myself, I will never ever be hypnotized

580
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,520
Speaker 1: on a stage like that ever. Okay, So I can't

581
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 1: think of anything else, I would say never. Oh, I know,

582
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 1: I don't want to go on a submarine.

583
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,119
Speaker 2: Which comes up in most people's day to day lives.

584
00:27:44,440 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 1: I actually did get asked once and I said.

585
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:50,920
Speaker 2: No, once, baby, once, sweetheart, once. We don't know, we're

586
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 2: not going over to New Jersey with a submarine taxi.

587
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:56,479
Speaker 1: I actually have something that could happen. So I said that.

588
00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 2: I didn't think this was going to take us down

589
00:27:58,320 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 2: the street.

590
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:00,880
Speaker 1: I just got excited because I just remember something very specific,

591
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:02,439
Speaker 1: just like you said you didn't want to go up

592
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 1: in altitude or climb a mountain like that.

593
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 2: Right.

594
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: I have said to many many people I have a

595
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 1: fear of sharks, that I would never ever go in

596
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 1: a cage where great whites are great white sharks are.

597
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:16,919
Speaker 1: And you have said that is one of your dreams,

598
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 1: that's on your bucket list, and so I am. I

599
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: have said that, yes, I will go, but I normally

600
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:25,479
Speaker 1: would say no. But because it's a dream of yours

601
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:29,080
Speaker 1: and I like to challenge myself, I think I'd be

602
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 1: willing to. But mostly I have said no in my life,

603
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 1: like that's a non starter for me, and I think

604
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:35,440
Speaker 1: I'd be willing.

605
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 2: To do that but as I've talked about it, you

606
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 2: got a sense that you were invited. Nice, thank you,

607
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 2: you all got it. It's good. It has to be

608
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 2: biting to be effective humor, right, it has it needs a.

609
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:48,520
Speaker 1: Great white shark, and you've got TJ.

610
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 2: Everybody had to pause and think, is he serious? Or

611
00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 2: do I laugh? What's supposed to have?

612
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 1: That's good stuff?

613
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:57,800
Speaker 2: That was good stuff.

614
00:28:57,840 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 1: Do you feel you proud?

615
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 2: Well when it lands like that? I do? I do?

616
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 2: I feel good? All right, I feel good.

617
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 1: We've spent way too much time on this one. We okay, fine.

618
00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 2: All I did was make a shark joke and the

619
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 2: rest was all you baby ahead. And he goes through this.

620
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 3: Man, I sti't understand how you want to not hike,

621
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 3: but you want to go with sharks like that. To me,

622
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 3: you talk about hiking and the bugs in this, but

623
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 3: meanwhile you're like, oh, sharks, yeah, I love those things.

624
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 2: It's not it's not the threat or the danger. It's

625
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 2: the enjoyment of the experience and walking through the woods

626
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:38,240
Speaker 2: looking for what color is on a tree so that

627
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 2: I don't get lost up here while I'm trying to

628
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 2: have a conversation about what with people. I don't know,

629
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 2: but we happened to go avalon hikes before.

630
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 1: That was the I mean okay, to defend, to defend

631
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: right now.

632
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:53,520
Speaker 3: It was.

633
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 1: It had no payoff, there was no view, it was muggy,

634
00:29:57,360 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 1: there were mosquitos circling us. And I've had highs this before,

635
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 1: but very very rarely. But of course the first time

636
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 1: I get him on a hike, that's the hike we have.

637
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 1: So it was terrible.

638
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 3: Okay, Well number nine, it's setting boundaries that you know

639
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 3: you need.

640
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 1: Oh, I know he does.

641
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:17,040
Speaker 2: That, setting bout it. Oh, I am, but the boundary you.

642
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: Are, mister boundary. Yes, do you want to meet him?

643
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 2: Do it? T J hunk folks, do it set your boundary?

644
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:24,960
Speaker 2: It's okay, Well I am. I am not a fan

645
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 2: of I have to make myself uncomfortable based on your behavior.

646
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 2: Like I'm trying to collle you. I'm trying to make

647
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 2: you feel good about No. No, I am. You know I'm

648
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 2: against that.

649
00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: Stuff, and that's how I've spent most of my life.

650
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 2: I will say no. I will say no to your face.

651
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 2: I don't just I'm not being rude about it. I'm

652
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 2: just saying I don't mind that uncomfortable thing is not

653
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 2: something I do.

654
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: I will say that I have. I mean I have

655
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 1: really watched you and been in awe of your ability

656
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Speaker 1: to do that Like it's it's you command respect in

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Speaker 1: that sense for yourself and not in a negative or

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Speaker 1: cruel way. You're just saying this is where I draw

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Speaker 1: the line, and I've tried actually to do that more

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Speaker 1: in my life, because yes, you end up trying to

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Speaker 1: make someone else happy and in the same moment you're miserable.

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Speaker 1: You know, you are seeding your power to someone else,

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Speaker 1: trying to make them happy. And gosh, if I've learned anything,

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Speaker 1: we can't make anyone else happy. You can only so

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Speaker 1: if you are making yourself miserable trying to make someone

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Speaker 1: else happy. Now you're doing something that actually isn't going

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Speaker 1: to be effective because you can't make someone happy and

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Speaker 1: you're making yourself miserable. So you have to own it.

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Speaker 1: I agree, I agree with it, and I need to

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Speaker 1: do better with it. So I'm going to take that

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Speaker 1: one to heart for sure.

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Speaker 3: All right. And number ten celebrating what you did accomplish.

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Speaker 1: I love this one. This is my jam. The boundaries

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Speaker 1: are your jam. Celebrating accomplishments. Absolutely. I think that maybe

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Speaker 1: sometimes people feel embarrassed to do so, or you know,

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Speaker 1: somehow think it's bragging or it's a little complicated. It's

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Speaker 1: not like when it comes like, for instance, when we

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Speaker 1: crossed the finish line in a marathon. Yeah, we threw

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Speaker 1: ourselves a party on my birthday. I'll throw myself a party.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that that's something that is selfish. I

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Speaker 1: think that's something just you're acknowledging A, you made it

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Speaker 1: around the sun another year, or b that you accomplished

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Speaker 1: something that you worked really hard for, and I think

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Speaker 1: making the time to acknowledge that and to really enjoy it.

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Speaker 1: I remember someone told me when I got a job

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Speaker 1: that I had been hoping to get for so many

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Speaker 1: years and I finally got the position I was hoping for,

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Speaker 1: and my boss came up to me and said, now

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Speaker 1: here's what you need to do, and this is the

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Speaker 1: hardest part. Enjoy it. Why do you think it's hard?

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Speaker 1: I mean, have you ever had a hard time enjoying

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Speaker 1: or celebrating success or an accomplishment, or even just the

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Speaker 1: fact that you made it on this earth for another year?

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Speaker 2: No, I forget on a day to day basis sometimes

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Speaker 2: blessings I have, but the celebration part, and no, it's

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Speaker 2: something when mom told me very very very early on,

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Speaker 2: when we're early in the industry, you're trying to get

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Speaker 2: a gig and whatnot. And she told me after I

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Speaker 2: got an interview to something, I was freaking out about

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Speaker 2: getting the gig, she said, celebrate the fact that you

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Speaker 2: even got the interview. They literally go have champagne because

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Speaker 2: you got the interview. You got so much farther than

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Speaker 2: other people who have already gotten. So why don't steal

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Speaker 2: this moment because you're worried about the next moment. So, yes,

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Speaker 2: that's something she told me very early on. I'll practice that.

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Speaker 1: I love that And I think I got the same

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Speaker 1: thing from my mom too, because she always we weren't

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Speaker 1: you know, we were the opposite of spoiled. But on

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Speaker 1: our birthdays, my mom was the one day year I

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Speaker 1: was queen. I got to pick, I got to pick

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Speaker 1: what we had for dinner that night, I got to

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Speaker 1: pick what movie we watched. And it was just this

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Speaker 1: moment where I got to feel special and that was

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Speaker 1: a cool thing. So I always tell you, my car every.

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Speaker 2: Day, what are we eating tonight and what are we watching?

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Speaker 1: You said you wanted pizza? Yeah you did, yeah, and

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Speaker 1: if you're asking me, it's a rom com. But no.

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Speaker 1: The other thing, funny enough, you mentioned champagne, something my

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Speaker 1: mom also always taught me. You should always have a

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Speaker 1: bottle of champagne in your refrigerator because you never know

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Speaker 1: when you're gonna want to celebrate. And I've always had

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Speaker 1: a bottle of champing You know this. I have always

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Speaker 1: had a bottle of champagne or prosecco in my refrigerator.

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Speaker 2: I mean that's there other reasons for that as well.

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Speaker 1: I do love an April sprit cinamosa.

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Speaker 2: Wait was that number ten?

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Speaker 1: Was that number ten?

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Speaker 2: That it was number ten? Ok?

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Speaker 1: That was a perfect way to end, because I think

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Speaker 1: that is maybe a takeaway we can all take to

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Speaker 1: heart to not forget, to celebrate the winds and to

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Speaker 1: celebrate the moments.

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Speaker 2: And Andy, can you give those ten to everybody one

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Speaker 2: more time before we go? All right?

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Speaker 3: Starts with texting that old friend you've been meaning to call.

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Speaker 3: You're finally going to take that weekend trip, saying sorry

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Speaker 3: to someone who who deserves it, clearing out the chaos

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Speaker 3: in your space, taking the time to remember the good stuff,

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Speaker 3: paying attention to your body, showing gratitude to the people

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Speaker 3: who matter, saying yes to something you normally skip, setting

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Speaker 3: boundaries that you know you need. And number ten was

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Speaker 3: celebrating what you did accomplish.

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Speaker 1: That is wonderful and thank you all for listening. Hope

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Speaker 1: you can take those to heart, and hope maybe you

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Speaker 1: can check us out if you haven't already. On the

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Speaker 1: Morning Ron, we put up a podcast Monday through Friday

747
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Speaker 1: all the news headlines you need to know, so we

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Speaker 1: hope you will check that out. But thank you for

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Speaker 1: being the festival