WEBVTT - Set yourself up for success 

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about one way to set yourself up

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<v Speaker 1>for success in meeting your goals. Get clear on what

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<v Speaker 1>you hope for, what will happen when you attain it,

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<v Speaker 1>obstacles that could come up, and how you'll address these

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<v Speaker 1>obstacles if you do encounter them. Today's tip comes from

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<v Speaker 1>psychologists and n y U professor Gabrielle Uttingen. She studies

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<v Speaker 1>approaches that help shape people's thoughts and actions in working

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<v Speaker 1>towards their goals. Uttingen and her colleagues developed a strategy

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<v Speaker 1>to guide people towards this pursuit. The strategy is informally

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<v Speaker 1>known as Whoop wo o P. That stands for Wish

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<v Speaker 1>Outcome Obstacle Plan. Here's how it works. First, identify what

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<v Speaker 1>you wish for. Maybe it's a drama free family dinner,

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<v Speaker 1>or a functional workspace at home, a well maintained and

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<v Speaker 1>inviting front yard, or you seeing a job interview. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure you have all sorts of wishes, so let's narrow

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<v Speaker 1>it down to the ones that feel most compelling. Next,

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<v Speaker 1>envision the outcome. What results would this fulfilled wish bring?

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<v Speaker 1>How would you feel? Maybe the drama free family dinner

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<v Speaker 1>would leave you feeling relaxed and happy at night. Perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>that functional workspace would result in your being able to

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<v Speaker 1>be more productive. You might feel more confident when your

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<v Speaker 1>colleagues see your space on video calls to imagining the

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<v Speaker 1>outcome of fulfilling your wish is motivating because you recognize

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<v Speaker 1>its value to you. You're not going to declutter just

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<v Speaker 1>to declutter. It's because you never want to hunt for

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<v Speaker 1>your files again. It is great to envision this rosy future,

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<v Speaker 1>but don't stop there now. You want to contrast that

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<v Speaker 1>positive future with the realities that may stand in your way.

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<v Speaker 1>This is where the second oh comes in. What obstacles

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<v Speaker 1>could prevent you from fulfilling your wish? Maybe your daughter

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<v Speaker 1>will complain that the dinner you're serving is gross. You

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<v Speaker 1>might get overwhelmed by all the options for how to

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<v Speaker 1>arrange your workspace, or find yourself feeling ambivalent about spending

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<v Speaker 1>money on a bookcase that you won't need once you're

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<v Speaker 1>back to working in the office full time. If your

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<v Speaker 1>progress toward your wish doesn't go as planned, well, what

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<v Speaker 1>could go wrong. The final component of whoop is the plan.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the P. If the potential obstacle arises, how will

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<v Speaker 1>you handle it? I think that the plan is the

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<v Speaker 1>most important aspect of all of this. It is easy

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<v Speaker 1>and fun to fantasize about having our wishes come true

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<v Speaker 1>and then right on cue. We can get discouraged by

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about all that can go wrong, but having a

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<v Speaker 1>plan to address those obstacles means will be better prepared

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<v Speaker 1>to deal with them. Let's take our wish of a

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<v Speaker 1>drama free family dinner, which could be derailed by a

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<v Speaker 1>child complaining that dinner is disgusting. Maybe your family can

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<v Speaker 1>come up with acceptable language for expressing preferences. The norm

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<v Speaker 1>is that children may say a food is not my favorite,

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<v Speaker 1>but they can't criticize it. You are not stifling their opinions,

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<v Speaker 1>but you are teaching them tact and respect. Because you

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<v Speaker 1>could anticipate an obstacle that could come up to a

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<v Speaker 1>pleasant family dinner, you can make a plan for addressing it.

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<v Speaker 1>So try giving this Whoop woo p scenario planning a trial.

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<v Speaker 1>What wish do you have right now? What can you

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<v Speaker 1>see as the outcome of that wish being fulfilled? What

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<v Speaker 1>might stand in your way, and how can you plan

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<v Speaker 1>to address those obstacles. Do this over and over again

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<v Speaker 1>and you'll be able to make a lot more of

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<v Speaker 1>your dreams come true. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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