Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown. Ambitions.
Speaker 2: How you feeling, Mandra feeling fine, feeling just fine, Feeling
Speaker 2: like everybody at work needs to stop mentioning the fact
Speaker 2: that it can be any name.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: Oh you're getting close, aren't you? Thought I would send
Speaker 2: you this email? But let me know if I just
Speaker 2: send it to someone else. I know it's getting close.
Speaker 2: I'm like, leave me alone.
Speaker 1: I know it must be so much.
Speaker 2: If the green light is on slack, I'm here until
Speaker 2: further notice. When I'm not here, I won't be here.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't know. You feel bad for all
Speaker 2: the texts that you send your friends when they were
Speaker 2: expecting at the very end, and you're like, has it
Speaker 2: happened yet? Has it happened yet, because it's happening to
Speaker 2: me now, And I'm like, leave me alone. It hasn't
Speaker 2: happened yet. I'll let you know. But uh yeah, feeling
Speaker 2: feeling okay. I'm excited for I told you guys last
Speaker 2: week that we were getting a jump on like holiday decorating,
Speaker 2: and we had all of our friends come over and
Speaker 2: decorate our house. Looks ridiculous because I realized that it's
Speaker 2: mid November and we have all of our lights up.
Speaker 2: We have a Christmas tree. That's nice though it is nice.
Speaker 2: I mean, realistically, it was the only way we were
Speaker 2: going to be able to, like we were going to
Speaker 2: have time the babies do December, like early December. We're
Speaker 2: going to have time to do it if we waited,
Speaker 2: and it was you know, before Thanksgiving and all that.
Speaker 2: So but it was it was a lot of fun.
Speaker 2: But now I just feel so silly. I'm like, how
Speaker 2: do you keep a Christmas tree alive for a month
Speaker 2: and a half. I'll find out.
Speaker 1: We'll see, Oh, you have one of the real Christmas trees. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're not doing all that.
Speaker 2: Husbig got super sentimental about it. He's like, maybe we
Speaker 2: should go chop down our own. I'm like, oh, let's
Speaker 2: just take it down. He's like, well, next year we
Speaker 2: can go with the baby and chop it down. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: all right. It's being very like Norman Rockwell, oh right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah, You're like I've learned, like in wifing that like
Speaker 1: I say okay to the things that we're not doing,
Speaker 1: but you say it now because you're like, you know,
Speaker 1: when it gets to that time, we'll just make it
Speaker 1: clear it's not happening. But it doesn't make sense to
Speaker 1: fight a year in advance. I've learned that lesson.
Speaker 2: That is true. You have to pick your battles, you know. Yes,
Speaker 2: the whole Tesla conversation I've managed to put off for
Speaker 2: about five years now. Unfortunately it hasn't died though, so
Speaker 2: I'm going to have to approach the battle line eventually,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to square off.
Speaker 1: No, There's been so many things that I've learned that, like,
Speaker 1: because like Superman will go hard for something and I'm like,
Speaker 1: in my mind, I'm like, absolutely not. And then I realized, like,
Speaker 1: you know what, this is kind of like a temporary thing,
Speaker 1: so we can battle it out, only to find out
Speaker 1: later he you know, it's not even that serious. So
Speaker 1: I've learned to be like, well, is the thing that
Speaker 1: he's saying we should do or have or by is
Speaker 1: it something that we're actually going to get right now,
Speaker 1: like within like a week or so or a month
Speaker 1: or so. No, if it's a year from now, six
Speaker 1: months from now, I'm like, one, it could fall off,
Speaker 1: he might not be as interested, and two, you know,
Speaker 1: something could have happened where it's just not something that
Speaker 1: he's focused on. Because I used to battle over everything
Speaker 1: and I would always win, and then he'd be like
Speaker 1: mad about that, the fact that I was always winning,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, girl, you didn't even have to battle.
Speaker 1: He didn't even want it six months later, So I
Speaker 1: really learned to be like I would say something like
Speaker 1: huh okay, like not like a committing okay, but like
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about it, but really now it's not happening.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm learning from all my I know, some
Speaker 1: of the men are like what the three men that listen,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, whatever, because here's the thing. Sometimes it's
Speaker 1: not anything like, you know, like she's wanting to paint
Speaker 1: a wall or something like that. Sometimes it'll be things
Speaker 1: that are doesn't make sense for our family. I'm like,
Speaker 1: we're not gonna get a third car. There's two adults here.
Speaker 1: I have a car. You have a car just because
Speaker 1: it snows in Jersey a few months out of the year.
Speaker 1: I'm not getting a jeep. Like I don't even leave
Speaker 1: the house hardly, dude.
Speaker 2: I'm only on the second car argument right now, and
Speaker 2: I'm like, there's just it's always something else. It's like
Speaker 2: if you say yes to one thing, it's like, oh, okay,
Speaker 2: well now it's this like there's a home right now,
Speaker 2: and now it's about like let's build a deck in
Speaker 2: the backyard, and like there's always something else. It feels
Speaker 2: like what I have tried to do is give him easy,
Speaker 2: like give me like take an l every once in
Speaker 2: a while that maybe it hurts my pride because I
Speaker 2: like to win, but he he keeps score. Maybe it
Speaker 2: was just like the worst thing you can do right
Speaker 2: in marriage. But yeay, we're breaking all the rules. He's
Speaker 2: like you always, you know, you're whatever you say always
Speaker 2: goes and dah da da da dah. And I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 2: boo hoo, fine, why don't you choose where we're going
Speaker 2: to dinner tonight? Even though I think I choose better nobody.
Speaker 1: I'm learning, Like because my friend Rihanna has been married,
Speaker 1: I think I think she's been with her husband. I
Speaker 1: want to say like fifteen, no, no, maybe like twenty
Speaker 1: years altogether, but married. I think like fifteen of the
Speaker 1: twenty years. And I really watched how she navigates. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's good girl. She's our girl. We ain't been married
Speaker 1: this long happily with us. She's like, I learned to
Speaker 1: be like, you know what, let him have that. It's
Speaker 1: not even that serious, like because she's also most women
Speaker 1: like to win, and she's like, but I've learned that, Like, girl,
Speaker 1: it's not that serious. Because she was like, because when
Speaker 1: you have to really battle for something, you're gonna want it.
Speaker 1: So you know, if it's like, you know, like we
Speaker 1: really don't need extra Jordan's, but go ahead, or we
Speaker 1: really you know, I don't want to have you know,
Speaker 1: pizza for dinner tonight, but what is like it's it's
Speaker 1: not worth it. Like for the house, it was really
Speaker 1: difficult because you know, I was like, how are we
Speaker 1: going to do this? Because I cannot battle you every day.
Speaker 1: So we came to a nice compromise where he could
Speaker 1: do whatever he wanted in his man cave, and he
Speaker 1: got even to expand his man cave and that it
Speaker 1: wasn't just like one room. It was true, we have
Speaker 1: an open space room in the basement and then a
Speaker 1: room that's like you know, behind a closed doors, so
Speaker 1: he got the whole basement. It actually looks great. Like
Speaker 1: he was able to like get his like metallic swirly floor,
Speaker 1: which were not cheap. He was able to paint whatever
Speaker 1: color he wanted. So the rule was I had no
Speaker 1: say in the basement, but then I got to do
Speaker 1: the rest of the house. So it was when I
Speaker 1: tell you, that was the best rule we ever made,
Speaker 1: because whenever he came up it was like, we should
Speaker 1: do magenta. I'd be like, so, just referring back to
Speaker 1: our rule, I got the rest of the house, you
Speaker 1: get the basement.
Speaker 2: Well, it's always annoying when they care about things that
Speaker 2: you didn't think they would care about. I'm like, oh, did.
Speaker 1: You want to say in this like it's some of
Speaker 1: men like really like the fancies himself an interior designer.
Speaker 1: I'm like, sir, we lived in your colorful Matchla path
Speaker 1: for five years. We're not doing that. Like literally we
Speaker 1: had a green a green laundry room, and an orange kitchen,
Speaker 1: a magenta living room. I mean it was rainbow city
Speaker 1: up in that house. And I was like, I'm not
Speaker 1: doing that here. I want an adult space. Not that
Speaker 1: space was an adult, but it was very clearly his
Speaker 1: like bachelor pattern. He thought he was doing something with
Speaker 1: all these colors, and I'm like, whatever, we're not doing
Speaker 1: that here, so but now he loves it now. He's like,
Speaker 1: you know, I didn't get it before, but I love
Speaker 1: it now. It's very adult and understated, but but elegant.
Speaker 1: So see at the end, when I win, we all win.
Speaker 2: Is what I think. But it's hard to convince an
Speaker 2: independent man of that. I'm like, oh, I got the
Speaker 2: one that pushes back. It's annoying. My mom's so annoying.
Speaker 2: She's always like I like the way and riy Kue
Speaker 2: talks back. I'm like, shut up, whose side are you on?
Speaker 1: Oh Man?
Speaker 2: So Thanksgiving you are you're getting you said you're getting things,
Speaker 2: geting catered right, yes, but you're hosting at your house.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for the first time. I'm excited. So it'll be
Speaker 1: Superman's family and my family, so we're gonna have a
Speaker 1: good old traditional Thanksgiving. I'm excited because Vondam, who did
Speaker 1: my birthday party and our wedding reception, is catering. Not
Speaker 1: that she'll be there like passing out food, but you know,
Speaker 1: we'll just go pick it up. But yeah, I'm excited
Speaker 1: because but her Drell's family, they're gonna bring food on
Speaker 1: my side of the family as well. But so everybody
Speaker 1: will bring food, but I think like the base food,
Speaker 1: like you know, the macaroni and cheese, collar greens, candy,
Speaker 1: dam it's a turkey, Like we're gonna just have bodo
Speaker 1: making because I'm like, well, I'm not gonna do is
Speaker 1: stress about making my first Thanksgiving when I'm not even
Speaker 1: like like someone like I can cook. I think people
Speaker 1: think like that, ain't ever cooks Like I just made
Speaker 1: dinner chili, white rice, saltate spinach. I mean, I can cook,
Speaker 1: but I'm not your throwdown in the kitchen like you
Speaker 1: know some women like get down, get down. I don't
Speaker 1: get down, get down. I just here's your food. It
Speaker 1: does taste good, but I'm not getting fancy. So I'm
Speaker 1: certainly not making Thanksgiving for the first time, not that
Speaker 1: I never will, but not this time around, not with
Speaker 1: his cook and throw down family coming because they cook
Speaker 1: fair enough.
Speaker 2: Also, it's like there's there's pressure. Everyone's got their expectations
Speaker 2: of Thanksgiving, especially when you're like blending families the way
Speaker 2: that they've always done it, and you know, like it's
Speaker 2: I get a little especially because my family, my husband's family,
Speaker 2: doesn't have traditional Thanksgiving in their family like we did.
Speaker 2: Like I did growing up, and it's just, yeah, it's easier. Like, honestly,
Speaker 2: I think we're going to his cousin's place, and I
Speaker 2: think we're just gonna like they're gonna get it catered
Speaker 2: from some you know, like I don't know some like
Speaker 2: what do you know, stew Lennards. Apparently people are obsessed
Speaker 2: with stew Lennards. It's like up there with Wegmans, which
Speaker 2: people are also weirdly obsessed with. People are so weird
Speaker 2: about grocery stores. But whatever. Yeah, so they do a
Speaker 2: whole Thanksgiving dinner and I just agreed with the hostess.
Speaker 2: I was like, let's just get this thing catered. No
Speaker 2: one has to cook. I'm certainly not trying to cook,
Speaker 2: and then you know, the pressure's off and everyone can
Speaker 2: just enjoy and then if it's not great, you can
Speaker 2: blame it on whoever made it, not you know, not
Speaker 2: your family exactly.
Speaker 1: And honestly, Vonma cooks really well. I mean obviously that's
Speaker 1: why she's catering, so it's gonna be delicious. I just
Speaker 1: kind of hope that there's enough, because both my family
Speaker 1: and his family are very much to go packers, so
Speaker 1: so much so that in their their group chat. He
Speaker 1: had to do like a gentle reminder that the goal
Speaker 1: packing plates will not be put out until the end
Speaker 1: of the evening. People will pack and I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: lie I've done this. People will pack it to goal plate,
Speaker 1: put it up and hide it and then go get
Speaker 1: their regular plate. He wasn't gonna save that night. I said,
Speaker 1: let me type it for you, because what you're gonna
Speaker 1: say is not going to be very nice. And he
Speaker 1: was like, you don't know some of my family members.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I know because I'm one of them,
Speaker 1: so I'm not here to be judging.
Speaker 2: You pack it to go plate and hide it. That's
Speaker 2: so funny, yes, and.
Speaker 1: Then they by regular plate like that. By the end
Speaker 1: of the night, some of the good food's gonna be gone.
Speaker 1: So I said, well, day, I guess I have to
Speaker 1: be a good I have to be a good hostess
Speaker 1: and not do that.
Speaker 2: That's a real scarcity mindset to bring to the dinner
Speaker 2: table at Thanksgiving. I have survived in colonial times.
Speaker 1: You put my food up, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: First of all, it's terrible. You know, many times when
Speaker 1: when I'm at someone's house and I've done those Shenanigans
Speaker 1: and I'm looking for a hiding place for my food,
Speaker 1: only to see other people's food hidden. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: so we all get down like this. You're open like
Speaker 1: a cabinet and there's three places in there already.
Speaker 2: I'm like, food, that's funny. Now, that's how it is
Speaker 2: with my dad cooks. It's like, come on, that's just
Speaker 2: the way it is. It's tradition, definitely, when you go
Speaker 2: to a party, like it's like the Dominican tradition. There
Speaker 2: are overlaps. There are overlaps between my Dominican family and
Speaker 2: my Atlanta Georgia family. That's all I'm going to say.
Speaker 2: And how they conduct themselves at family gatherings and the
Speaker 2: aluminum foil has to come out. And if people don't
Speaker 2: get to take a plate home, then did they really
Speaker 2: have a good time? Yes, you get judged.
Speaker 1: I'm a little nervous about that. I'm like, I don't
Speaker 1: know because I told Vonna to cook for forty, but
Speaker 1: I feel like we're legitimately going to have forty people.
Speaker 1: I'm like, is that going to be enough? Because you know,
Speaker 1: I feel like it's not a good Thanksgiving if you
Speaker 1: didn't get a good size to go, plate to go.
Speaker 2: You know, so let's you're not like dead from being
Speaker 2: so full, like yeah, way of hungry.
Speaker 1: Well hungry, and you have to go with to go play,
Speaker 1: like it's like it's mandatory. But I think that with
Speaker 1: like his side of the family and my side of
Speaker 1: the family also bringing additional food, we should be okay.
Speaker 1: But it's definitely something that I'm nervous about, Like is
Speaker 1: it gonna be a nuh well.
Speaker 2: What else has gone besides the holidays? You're going to
Speaker 2: tape the real next week?
Speaker 1: I sure am so today, Like you're no travel rule,
Speaker 1: I know, but it's my last it's the only travel
Speaker 1: that I have scheduled for the end of the year.
Speaker 1: But I honestly I have not gone anywhere. I think.
Speaker 1: I feel like the last place I went was maybe
Speaker 1: a month or so ago, I went to DC. So
Speaker 1: I honestly have not traveled much this year at all.
Speaker 1: And if I have travel, it's been super local, like Philly, DC,
Speaker 1: you know, New York, Like I was in New York
Speaker 1: today taping some called an s m C And you know,
Speaker 1: one day we should talk on the podcast about like
Speaker 1: ways that folks can make money. I know, influencer is
Speaker 1: like a dirty word, but if done properly, you can
Speaker 1: be an influencer that makes a decent amount of money
Speaker 1: and maintain your integrity because I think there are ways
Speaker 1: that you can make money online that people are not
Speaker 1: hip to. And Lynette cop Fonnie Cock's one of our faiths.
Speaker 1: She's one of my mentors. She hit me to the game.
Speaker 1: So I would love to hip our audience to the
Speaker 1: game of ways that I make money that you probably
Speaker 1: don't even realize that you know that don't require the
Speaker 1: super heavy lift. So I did one of those ways
Speaker 1: today called the SMT a satellite media tour. You make
Speaker 1: a lot of money in a short period of time
Speaker 1: and then you go back to your regularly scheduled shenanigains.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I go back to the real and then honestly,
Speaker 1: these days not gonna lie. I just look the opportunities
Speaker 1: that there are coming. I'm just like not as interested
Speaker 1: as I used to be. I'm just tired. So maybe
Speaker 1: it could be the IVF medicine, because they have a
Speaker 1: new medicine and I think it's like wearing me out.
Speaker 1: I'm tired. I feel like I'm sleeping all the time.
Speaker 2: Well, listen to your body.
Speaker 1: Mm hm, that's what That's what someone told me today.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm sired.
Speaker 2: I sound like my mom. I'm like, fine, yeah.
Speaker 1: My body. You what's what's new with you?
Speaker 2: Oh? That's all just prepping, just propping, getting out, trying
Speaker 2: to stay active, trying to tend like nothing at all
Speaker 2: is happening. Even though I'm walking around. I feel like
Speaker 2: I have like a ticking time bombs strapped to my
Speaker 2: chest and like at any moment it's going to go off.
Speaker 2: I just don't know when. That's pretty much how it feels.
Speaker 1: You know. That's crazy. When you really think about it,
Speaker 1: You're like, yeah, any day, that's crazy. Even though you're like,
Speaker 1: I'm prepared, I've done this, I've done that, but I
Speaker 1: never thought about like what that must feel like. You're like,
Speaker 1: so we're here now, okay.
Speaker 2: It's very I mean, you have to go to the
Speaker 2: doctor a lot and they like, you know, you get
Speaker 2: examined a lot, which is very uncomfortable, and they yeah,
Speaker 2: I guess, yeah, I have prepared a lot, but there's
Speaker 2: still the sense you haven't done enough and that you're
Speaker 2: not ready and I don't know how to I think
Speaker 2: that's just normal. Like I'm just you know, anyone in
Speaker 2: this position, you just feel a little bit anxious and
Speaker 2: and then you I will say, my friends and family
Speaker 2: have done a really good job maintaining their own like
Speaker 2: managing their own anxiousness and their excitement, and not like
Speaker 2: putting that all on me, because that would just you know,
Speaker 2: stress me out. I got my own feelings to think about.
Speaker 2: But uh, yeah, no, I'm just I'm just hanging in there.
Speaker 2: It's nice that the holidays are coming up. I'm looking
Speaker 2: forward to it, you know. But we'll see you doing
Speaker 2: a couple of weeks, man, Dick, Dick.
Speaker 1: I will say this, don't do your baby dirty for Christmas,
Speaker 1: right because my sister, poor, my sister Carol, her birthday
Speaker 1: is the twenty first of December, so when she was younger,
Speaker 1: they ustill rolled it all together like your birthday Christmas present.
Speaker 1: She's like, yeah, no, that's not how that works.
Speaker 2: So I don't think I can get away with that.
Speaker 2: He's too early enough that there's enough distance. If you've
Speaker 2: got more than two weeks, you can't do that.
Speaker 1: No, but her birthday is just a few days before,
Speaker 1: and I remember that happening and looking at her like, ooh,
Speaker 1: they did your dirty girl.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 1: And actually that's why her name is Carol. Are my
Speaker 1: parents corny Christmas Carol?
Speaker 2: That's cute. Actually, don't even get me started on the
Speaker 2: name I the Lord have Mercy. We don't have a
Speaker 2: name picked out yet.
Speaker 1: Oof.
Speaker 2: All right, change is subject. Shall we do some questions?
Speaker 1: Yeah? We should do some question Someone actually hit me
Speaker 1: in the They were like, love the podcast, have a question,
Speaker 1: but of course I can't find it. But if I
Speaker 1: find it, I would love to read her question because
Speaker 1: I know she would be geek if I read it.
Speaker 1: And I love when people hit me on on Facebook
Speaker 1: or Twitter or Instagram and we read their question and
Speaker 1: they're like, you read my question.
Speaker 2: So that's always we do read them. We don't always
Speaker 2: send you messages to let you know, because you know,
Speaker 2: a lot happens, but we do do read them. Let's
Speaker 2: take one from the gram. This one comes from a
Speaker 2: listener who wants to remain anonymous, but has a bit
Speaker 2: of a predicament about helping her mother out. Good afternoon.
Speaker 2: She says, I'm in a bit of a panic. My
Speaker 2: mother and I are immigrants. She came here to allow
Speaker 2: me to go to school, thus she gave up all
Speaker 2: her positions back home. I'm about to graduate next August. However,
Speaker 2: my mother was recently fired from her job because they
Speaker 2: said she wasn't learning at the pace they wanted. She's
Speaker 2: fifty seven years old and terrified she can't get a
Speaker 2: job because of her age. She put most of her
Speaker 2: money into my education, and she barely has any savings
Speaker 2: Right now. With my job, I'm working from four to
Speaker 2: eleven PM because I'm not fully certified. My pay is
Speaker 2: barely minimum wage. I've got one more semester to graduate,
Speaker 2: but I'm wondering if i should just drop out and
Speaker 2: help her out. She's an accountant with at least ten
Speaker 2: years of experience. We're both a little terrified and not
Speaker 2: sure what to do next. Ah, my heart breaks for them.
Speaker 2: That's really difficult. I mean, take out the fact that
Speaker 2: her mother's not from this country originally, although she has
Speaker 2: ten years of experience in the States. Working to be
Speaker 2: fired or let go in your late fifties, it is
Speaker 2: a vulnerable place to be, no matter how much we
Speaker 2: want to think that there are tons of opportunities. Agism
Speaker 2: in the workplace. Is it real? It's so so real.
Speaker 2: Whether it's intentional or unintentional. People do discriminate against people
Speaker 2: at that age. So it's a it's tricky, but it's
Speaker 2: very tricky. But I feel like sacrificing your own career
Speaker 2: prospects may not be the And I'm also wondering if
Speaker 2: she were to drop out of school, what could she
Speaker 2: do to help, like get you know, for herself, like
Speaker 2: drop out and get a job maybe is higher paying,
Speaker 2: but then she puts her own career in hold. And
Speaker 2: I can't imagine her mom would want her to do that.
Speaker 1: She wouldn't because she didn't sacrifice for that quite honestly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm wondering. I mean, if they're if you're in
Speaker 2: the US, I mean, with ten years of experience, she
Speaker 2: should qualify for unemployment benefits, right. I know that it's
Speaker 2: not I know it's not permanent. I know it's not
Speaker 2: obviously doesn't come with you know, health benefits that are
Speaker 2: super affordable. It may not be what she was making before,
Speaker 2: but it's something to make ends meet in the meantime.
Speaker 1: Did she say if her mother's a citizen.
Speaker 2: She doesn't say if she's a citizen or not, just
Speaker 2: that she has ten years of experience here I'm gonna
Speaker 2: guess she has some sort of residency, permanent residency or
Speaker 2: something like that if she's able to work.
Speaker 1: And I know this might seem like, I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't know how super savvy your mother is with like
Speaker 1: online things, but the truth of the matter is one
Speaker 1: of the number one things that people ask me for,
Speaker 1: like my entrepreneur friends, is for an accountant. I'm wondering,
Speaker 1: you know how maybe your time would be best spent,
Speaker 1: you know, like going to school finishing, but seeing if
Speaker 1: you can find folks that are looking for an accountant,
Speaker 1: because that's honestly the number one thing. Like I told you, Carlos,
Speaker 1: my accountant told me that I'm no longer allowed to
Speaker 1: say his name out loud, even though I just said it,
Speaker 1: because I have said so many people to him that
Speaker 1: he is inundated. He can't take on any new clients,
Speaker 1: no matter who it is. I mean, there are people
Speaker 1: celebrities that have reached out to me and they're like, oh,
Speaker 1: please connect me to Carlos, And Carlos was like, I
Speaker 1: don't care if it's Oprah herself, well maybe Oprah, but yeah,
Speaker 1: but you know that he can't take on a new
Speaker 1: folks so what that lets me know is that somebody
Speaker 1: who is an accountant that there is money out there
Speaker 1: and folks are looking for an accountant. And so I
Speaker 1: don't know if that could give you a little hope
Speaker 1: or like how you would connect. There's a group on
Speaker 1: Facebook called It's by Arsha Jones. It's called like build It,
Speaker 1: brand It, launch It something like that. Build brand launched
Speaker 1: by Arsha Jones, Rsha A r Sha and in it
Speaker 1: are so many new and established entrepreneurs and folks are
Speaker 1: looking for an accountant. So that's potential. Like just recently,
Speaker 1: quite honestly, I was looking not for an accountant to
Speaker 1: replace Carlos, but I was looking for someone like because
Speaker 1: Carlos is my big accountant that I meet with quarterly.
Speaker 1: I was looking for someone on a day to day
Speaker 1: basis that would be able to help with that. So
Speaker 1: people are looking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, if she's good and you could maybe
Speaker 2: coach a little bit on establishing herself on the web,
Speaker 2: you're that's a really good tip. Just reaching out to
Speaker 2: maybe start locally, even if you guys go to church,
Speaker 2: or if there's like an online if there's a there's
Speaker 2: so many local Facebook groups now, you know, I'm in
Speaker 2: this group called moms of the city I live in,
Speaker 2: and they're constantly looking for do you guys have an
Speaker 2: accountant you love and everyone shares their account Do you
Speaker 2: guys have a pediatrician? Everyone shares? Do you know where
Speaker 2: to do this? I'm looking to get furniture refinished, like
Speaker 2: a million different things. So if you were to join
Speaker 2: one of those groups and even just like you know,
Speaker 2: on your mom's behalfs and a message, see if people
Speaker 2: are looking for a part time accountant or you know,
Speaker 2: someone to just assist them with their bookkeeping. Yes, I
Speaker 2: imagine there's a lot of small business owners, entrepreneurs, independent
Speaker 2: contractors who could use help. It's the end of year too,
Speaker 2: so I feel like people are getting their shit together
Speaker 2: for tax season. So you know, it may be an opportunity.
Speaker 2: It just may It just may be, you know, a
Speaker 2: little bit more legwork than going to job boards. I
Speaker 2: think being a little bit creative might be the answer exactly.
Speaker 1: And that's really what I think, and especially like quite honestly,
Speaker 1: she's got a career that isn't high demand because there
Speaker 1: are so many new entrepreneurs. So even if it's not
Speaker 1: like straight out accounting work bookkeeping work. I mean, people
Speaker 1: are still are starting to understand the value of really
Speaker 1: having some sort of financial person on their team.
Speaker 2: So yeah, help her figure out maybe what a good
Speaker 2: hourly rate is and to be. And the sad thing
Speaker 2: is that if you're doing it online, you're not seeing
Speaker 2: people in person. There's not a chance that your physical
Speaker 2: like physically like your image as an older woman, which
Speaker 2: it's sadly enough, could diminish your chances of getting like
Speaker 2: a second interview. Like online, there's a bit more, I
Speaker 2: don't know, a greater chance for anonymity at least, and
Speaker 2: let your credentials speak for themselves first and foremost. And
Speaker 2: you know, as far as like trying to fight against
Speaker 2: ageism in the workplace, I'd love to hear from listeners
Speaker 2: if you feel like you've encountered or that, or if
Speaker 2: you have any tips there, because it's something I think
Speaker 2: about a lot even when I hire, like how to
Speaker 2: not let my own internal bias get in the way
Speaker 2: of you know, candidates, you have a ton of experience
Speaker 2: because you can tell yourself like, oh, they're so senior,
Speaker 2: will they be happy in this role? You know they're
Speaker 2: so they have so much experience, can we afford them,
Speaker 2: and you may start questioning before you even get them
Speaker 2: in the door in the first place, and it's just
Speaker 2: you know, it's genuinely not fair to people. Or you're thinking,
Speaker 2: I'm not thinking this, but you may be thinking, like, oh,
Speaker 2: they're close to retirement, how long will they want to
Speaker 2: work for? Well, people are working into their seventies now,
Speaker 2: you know, eighties in some cases. Bernie Anders hello, and
Speaker 2: half the presidential candidates. But it seems like anyway, yeah,
Speaker 2: so interesting, and I mean, I wish you guys all
Speaker 2: the best, But ultimately, I don't think either of us
Speaker 2: thinks you putting your own education and career on hold
Speaker 2: when you're so close graduating.
Speaker 1: It's not I don't think that that's the because she
Speaker 1: didn't sacrifice for that, honestly, you know, yeah so and
Speaker 1: plus two, in the long run, you're going to be
Speaker 1: able to help her even more, you know, bye by
Speaker 1: doing what you're doing, which is finishing school.
Speaker 2: All right, Anonymous, Well, thank you very much for your question.
Speaker 2: Let's see. Oh, here's a quick one. We have a
Speaker 2: listener who wants to know Tiffany mentioned something about her
Speaker 2: free saving challenge. Where can I sign up or get
Speaker 2: that information.
Speaker 1: Well, you can go to l RC. That's the Live
Speaker 1: Riture Challenge Save dot com. So l r C save
Speaker 1: dot com. But if you're someone who's like, honestly, I
Speaker 1: have five live ritual challenges, I've done a series savings, credit, networth,
Speaker 1: home buying fundamentals, I think that's it. But if you
Speaker 1: are just looking for any of the challenges, take one
Speaker 1: at a time, do not sign up for all of them,
Speaker 1: or you're gonna get multiple emails all day and then
Speaker 1: you're gonna be cussing me out. You can go to
Speaker 1: Live Richer Challenge dot com. That's for all of them
Speaker 1: or how so you can kind of pick the one
Speaker 1: that's best for you. But directly to the Savings challenge,
Speaker 1: it's lrcsave dot com.
Speaker 2: Fabulous And when does it kick off? In January?
Speaker 1: Yes, we haven't really started. I mean, like the truth is,
Speaker 1: I mean, lokey. They're automated, so you can start now
Speaker 1: if you wanted to. But if you're wanting to do
Speaker 1: it collectively with like thousands of thousands of women because
Speaker 1: we support each other, then I'm gonna be doing like
Speaker 1: a big push at the end of December to get
Speaker 1: everyone signed up. So we can do. We could start
Speaker 1: the first Monday in January together, because literally every single
Speaker 1: day I'm there with you, holding your hand, making sure
Speaker 1: you're good, because sometimes you need, especially in the beginning
Speaker 1: of the year, some of that extra handholding. So so
Speaker 1: you can start it now, but if you'd like to
Speaker 1: do it with a with a group, then you can
Speaker 1: wait until the end of the year when I post
Speaker 1: and share it and I'll share it on brown Ambition
Speaker 1: when we're doing.
Speaker 2: It perfect though it's not nat season without a Tiffany
Speaker 2: Liverature Challenge.
Speaker 1: I know I almost didn't do it. Honestly, what I've learned,
Speaker 1: Like today I'm like, I feel like everything is falling apart.
Speaker 1: But then I was like, oh, that's right. I forgot
Speaker 1: that when things get hard, then that is a clear
Speaker 1: indication that I am leveling up. It's been like a
Speaker 1: little while i've been like at the level I'm actually
Speaker 1: doing it like the arm the armspring, love never love,
Speaker 1: although I cannot dance very well. But so today I
Speaker 1: was thinking to myself, Wow, everything we're doing is like
Speaker 1: not doing I'm so used to like things going fairly smoothly,
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, why are there so many things
Speaker 1: that are not going so smooth, you know, and all
Speaker 1: the things I'm working on, not personally that's going great,
Speaker 1: but professionally. And then I was like, oh, I forgot
Speaker 1: that whenever I am like, whenever I've kind of maximized
Speaker 1: all that I can do at this level, then it
Speaker 1: gets rough because it means that I've outgrown the tools
Speaker 1: and resources that this level can find useful. It took
Speaker 1: me a minute to remember that, like, Oh, these tools
Speaker 1: and resources, it's not that you're doing anything wrong, they
Speaker 1: just don't work. It's like it's almost like you know, like, Okay,
Speaker 1: you're thirteen and you're not wearing an eight and a
Speaker 1: half shoe anymore. Is nothing wrong. It's just that you
Speaker 1: wear a nine shoe and until you get those size nines,
Speaker 1: it's going to feel uncomfortable. And so that's what's been happening.
Speaker 1: And today I realized that I addressed it with I
Speaker 1: had a marketing team call and it kind of had
Speaker 1: like the aha moment, like, oh, we have to navigate
Speaker 1: differently because the way we're navigating now is not working
Speaker 1: because we are we have outgrown those old ways. So
Speaker 1: that's just kind of a message to anyone who is like,
Speaker 1: why is anything going wrong? It's a mercury in retrograde.
Speaker 1: Perhaps I think it is, But it also might mean
Speaker 1: that you've outgrown your current tools and resources and it's
Speaker 1: time to level up and time to adopt new ways
Speaker 1: to attack new challenges.
Speaker 2: I was trying to remember the theme song for Growing
Speaker 2: Pains because I was going to be clever and sing it,
Speaker 2: but then I just like brain farted.
Speaker 1: What is called page the song?
Speaker 2: What is it?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I don't know that.
Speaker 2: The best is waiting to be But say with the
Speaker 2: nineties theme songs, they all end up sounding like each other.
Speaker 2: Like I'll start singing the step by step one end
Speaker 2: up singing family matters, and then I'm like into full
Speaker 2: house somehow they all like they all have the same
Speaker 2: common thread. All right, cool, all right, let's take one more.
Speaker 2: Since that was a quick question, Let's call this listener
Speaker 2: who wants to remain an indomis do you brain fart? Ashley? Okay,
Speaker 2: Ashley says, And this might be a good question for you, Tiffany,
Speaker 2: since a little Bertie told me that you launched a
Speaker 2: business from scratch, She says, I'm a freelancer currently making
Speaker 2: about forty dollars an hour. My only expenses are living
Speaker 2: at home, paying two fifty in rent, and buying groceries.
Speaker 2: But I'm currently bootstrapping my online boutique business. I quit
Speaker 2: my job in Corporate America, so I know how so
Speaker 2: I could do this business. Now. I have about thirty
Speaker 2: thousand dollars in student loans and about seventeen hundred dollars
Speaker 2: in credit card debt. The business is taking up the
Speaker 2: majority of my leftover money after rent and groceries. Do
Speaker 2: you guys have any advice on what I can do
Speaker 2: to begin saving more? Thanks in advance. So she's wanted
Speaker 2: to bootstrap her business starting from scratch, quit her job
Speaker 2: has low expenses, which is good, yes, only making forty
Speaker 2: dollars an hour as a freelancer though, and feeling like
Speaker 2: she wants to build her business and save at the
Speaker 2: same time.
Speaker 1: Sometimes those things actually are like oil and water. H Yeah,
Speaker 1: So when you're starting a business, sometimes you have to
Speaker 1: be okay with the fact that, yeah, Safians is not
Speaker 1: really gonna happen right now, and I have to be
Speaker 1: okay with that. Uh. I did not save for the
Speaker 1: first four or five years of business. It was just
Speaker 1: enough to be like, okay, head above water, ahead, above water,
Speaker 1: You're not gonna drown. I'm not gonna let you drown.
Speaker 1: And that's what it's like. That's why entrepreneurship is difficult
Speaker 1: because like traditionally, you know, you work at a job,
Speaker 1: you make money, you know that you're gonna save, you're
Speaker 1: smart about it. But with entrepreneurship you kind of have
Speaker 1: to suspend what would normally be responsible behavior. In that
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, so took this money out of
Speaker 1: my retirement account. Not a good idea, but I did it.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I'm not saving right now, and I'm paying
Speaker 1: the minimum to everything and deferring on my student loans.
Speaker 1: Not the best idea when it comes to traditional personal finance,
Speaker 1: but I did it. It doesn't always work out, That's
Speaker 1: why it's not always a good idea. But if you're
Speaker 1: saving just even a little bit now, you are way
Speaker 1: ahead of the game because most folks in the beginning
Speaker 1: are not saving anything because truthfully, there you know, it's
Speaker 1: the beginning of their business. So I would say, be
Speaker 1: okay with not saving as much. Make sure, like right now,
Speaker 1: keep your expenses as low as possible. You're like in
Speaker 1: the beginning stage normally, I don't believe in over sacrifice.
Speaker 1: There's those such thing as over sacrificed in the beginning stages,
Speaker 1: like we're not going on vacation, sis, guess what YouTube
Speaker 1: could teach you how to do your nails. That's what
Speaker 1: it looks like in the beginning, until you can get
Speaker 1: stable income coming in and you get to a space
Speaker 1: where you're like, Okay, I'm making enough to cover more
Speaker 1: than just basic life and I'm able to save a little,
Speaker 1: and then you can rejoin the land of the living.
Speaker 1: But in the beginning, starting an entrepreneur, starting a business
Speaker 1: is really you're living alone amongst the dad. We're walking
Speaker 1: around here like zombies, just trying to make things work.
Speaker 1: And here's here's what's going to help you with this
Speaker 1: feeling of not saving enough. You need to have other
Speaker 1: entrepreneur friends. Because when I tell you, when I spoke
Speaker 1: to my regular nine to five friends and I would
Speaker 1: share like, yeah, so Verizona ain't getting at this. Once,
Speaker 1: they'd be like clutching up parlativity. Well, when I spoke
Speaker 1: to my entrepreneur friends, they're like either, okay. So what
Speaker 1: I learned is that having entrepreneur friends helped to normalize
Speaker 1: the craziness of entrepreneurship, and so I felt less crazy.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, you're late as well. Okay, Oh you're
Speaker 1: not saving okay. Oh you moved to a room, so
Speaker 1: did I. Oh you haven't driven your car because who
Speaker 1: has gas money? So you have to reset your expectation
Speaker 1: of what life is going to look like in the
Speaker 1: beginning stages of your entrepreneurship journey. And it's going to
Speaker 1: help to have other friends who are also going through
Speaker 1: entrepreneurship because it will normalize what normally would not be normal.
Speaker 2: All I would add to that is, so she already
Speaker 2: is doing so many right things. She's living at home,
Speaker 2: her expenses are super low, two fifteen rent, buying groceries,
Speaker 2: And when you think about the advice around how much
Speaker 2: to save for an emergency, you know, if you're living
Speaker 2: at home, you're you're risk is so much lower. You know,
Speaker 2: you don't have a full time job, right you're living
Speaker 2: at home already. It's not like if you were to
Speaker 2: lose your job you would have doesn't sound like you
Speaker 2: have kids or a family relying on you. So the
Speaker 2: need for you to have this stockpile of cash for
Speaker 2: an emergency isn't quite as great right now, and you've
Speaker 2: given yourself the room that you need to start building
Speaker 2: your business. And even though you have thirty thousand dollars
Speaker 2: in student loans and what's seventeen hundred dollars in credit
Speaker 2: card debt? I would focus on paying that off as
Speaker 2: soon as you can, first and foremost, and look at
Speaker 2: that as a as a you know, form of saving
Speaker 2: if you can. And then look at the way that
Speaker 2: you're living as a form of saving too, like what
Speaker 2: could you be spending if you didn't live at home?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: So you are saving, You're just choosing to put your
Speaker 2: savings into your business. It sounds like which when you're
Speaker 2: young and just getting your start, that's acceptable. So I
Speaker 2: agree with TIF. Take the pressure off to have some
Speaker 2: big stockpile of cash and focus on what can you
Speaker 2: do to invest in your business to grow it so
Speaker 2: that you can fulfill you know, your ultimate goal, which
Speaker 2: is to be an independent business owner.
Speaker 1: And I will the one thing I will say is
Speaker 1: that I it took me a while to understand this,
Speaker 1: but I wouldn't put all my emphasis on getting debt free,
Speaker 1: you know, And it took me, who is like super
Speaker 1: debt adverse to understand that that. I instead was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I can put all because that's what I had. Student
Speaker 1: loan debt fifty thousand dollars and then I had credit
Speaker 1: card debt thirty five thousand dollars, and the first stages
Speaker 1: of when I started my business, I was adamant, like,
Speaker 1: I put all my extra funds and time and energy
Speaker 1: that I was making toward getting rid of this debt.
Speaker 1: So I paid off the credit card debt in like
Speaker 1: two and a half years. I was like, yes, and
Speaker 1: guess what, my business was doing nothing because I was
Speaker 1: putting all that money into the credit card debt. And
Speaker 1: not that I shouldn't have paid it, but knowing what
Speaker 1: I know now, I should have been more moderate with
Speaker 1: my paydown plan and instead invested that money back into
Speaker 1: my business. Because then I said, Okay, I'm going to
Speaker 1: put all that same energy into paying off my student
Speaker 1: loan debt. And I started and I'm like, okay, you
Speaker 1: have three in your business and you're not making any money. Like,
Speaker 1: maybe let's rethink this instead. What if I put the
Speaker 1: same energy and funds into the business. And I started
Speaker 1: to do so, and within the next three years, the
Speaker 1: business had made me enough that I had the fifty
Speaker 1: thousand dollars as a lump sum payment to make to
Speaker 1: the student loan debt. That's what I said about like
Speaker 1: business operation when it comes to your money is different
Speaker 1: than what I would normally suggest a regular person working
Speaker 1: at a regular job, Like normally i'd say go attack
Speaker 1: that debt. But as an entrepreneur, I'm saying, have a
Speaker 1: debt paid down plan that's basically moderate, and you kind
Speaker 1: of set it and forget it, and then put your
Speaker 1: energy and money and funds into growing your business, because
Speaker 1: if you do so, you can potentially make the money
Speaker 1: to take care of that debt. Because I was I
Speaker 1: was credit card debt free, but I was still broke.
Speaker 1: And by the time I paid off my student loan
Speaker 1: debt that I was a student loan debt free, but
Speaker 1: now I had money because I focused on the business.
Speaker 1: So but that was a hard lesson for me to learn.
Speaker 1: It took like three or four years of brokeness to realize,
Speaker 1: Like timply, you have to refocus your effort. If you're
Speaker 1: living home and you're making this sacrifice, make the full
Speaker 1: sacrifice like you should be beasting. Like the first year
Speaker 1: I was lazy with it. I was like, ooh, I
Speaker 1: get to nab. I'm an entrepreneur, not being you know,
Speaker 1: like you should be beasting normally. I'm all for harmony
Speaker 1: and balance. Not in the beginning. You should be putting
Speaker 1: the like the best that you have into it to
Speaker 1: see is this something that could really work? Because the
Speaker 1: seed you plant now, this is the fruit that you're
Speaker 1: going to eat later. I have a whole orchard worth
Speaker 1: of fruit, and I look, it's not because I'm a
Speaker 1: super beast right now, but it's because I was a
Speaker 1: super beast in the beginning. So I'm picking all that
Speaker 1: fruit now. So put in as much effort as you
Speaker 1: can see if this thing.
Speaker 2: Can work, well said, and I'll just shut up because
Speaker 2: how can you follow that. I'm just trying to, you know,
Speaker 2: give you, give you the space that you need to shine.
Speaker 2: That's all that's all I do.
Speaker 1: Sometimes, No, I honestly I feel like we have like
Speaker 1: an entpreneurshell because I like it's such a I mean,
Speaker 1: it's such a topic that depending what day you catch me,
Speaker 1: I'm like, don't get I was telling my sister the
Speaker 1: other day, like right for the hills, don't do it
Speaker 1: it's terrible over here, and the other days I'm like,
Speaker 1: what's cute here? I like it.
Speaker 2: So it's the same on the other side. To believe me,
Speaker 2: it's the same.
Speaker 1: On the other side, I have like insurance and security.
Speaker 2: Oh, get out of here, everybody. The grass is always greener.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is true, because I was like, I miss
Speaker 1: having like a regular money come in and I have
Speaker 1: to worry about thirty people and how they gonna get
Speaker 1: paid and what the government said, and oh I forgot
Speaker 1: to send that letter in and now I owe three
Speaker 1: thousand dollars instead of three hundred, and I'm like, oh
Speaker 1: my god. Sometimes it's so much, and the other days
Speaker 1: I'm like, eh, okay, look at me out here doing it.
Speaker 1: Like honestly, it's a roller coaster relationship. I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm just in a I'm in a crazy relationship with entrepreneurship.
Speaker 2: I think it's going pretty well from my perspective for
Speaker 2: you anyway, all right, guys. Well, as a reminder, you
Speaker 2: can hit us up on Instagram at Brandonbisson Podcast with
Speaker 2: your questions or you can email us at Brandonbisson Podcast
Speaker 2: at gmail dot com. Booster break ah.
Speaker 1: We gotta boost ah we gotta break. You've fend the booty,
Speaker 1: fend a break.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do a boost this week because I don't
Speaker 2: know how these companies make money. But if you're I
Speaker 2: love sending holiday cards, but I hate like the work.
Speaker 2: It sounds like a lot of work to get send
Speaker 2: out holiday cards, et cetera. And this is not a
Speaker 2: promotion for any one particular company, how you know, But
Speaker 2: I'm going to name a company. They're not a sponsor
Speaker 2: anything like that. But every year I just go to
Speaker 2: like either Shutterfly or Snapfish. I don't know how they
Speaker 2: make money. They always have like eighty percent off promo
Speaker 2: codes and I managed to get like all you do
Speaker 2: is slap a picture they put like a holiday greeting
Speaker 2: on it. You can like upload your address list and
Speaker 2: get envelope with addresses printed on them. And it's so
Speaker 2: cheap to get like cards made. And it makes me
Speaker 2: feel like a real adult when I can send out
Speaker 2: holiday cards. And so shout out to those services and
Speaker 2: their promo codes, and I hope they don't go out
Speaker 2: of business ever.
Speaker 1: Ever, ever, so I have never said howdy cards. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that'd be so cute. Week, So what's the company's Shutterfly.
Speaker 2: There's there's a bunch out there, so I usually I
Speaker 2: toggle between snapfish or Shutterfly. I just got like a
Speaker 2: bunch of thank you notes made for my baby shower
Speaker 2: on Snapfish. And of course I did it like three
Speaker 2: in the morning when I woke up, and it took
Speaker 2: me no time, and I think I got sixty percent off,
Speaker 2: and then I was able to get I got a
Speaker 2: whole I got a whole book, like a photo book
Speaker 2: made like a professional photography book, like where they take
Speaker 2: your photos and blow them up and it's beautiful. And
Speaker 2: I got that made for like forty bucks and it
Speaker 2: has something like eighty pages. I don't know. There's just
Speaker 2: I don't know how that.
Speaker 1: But all you have to do is Google.
Speaker 2: If you're going to these sites, don't spend full price.
Speaker 2: There's just no excuse. They'll even have the promo code,
Speaker 2: like if you go to their they have like a
Speaker 2: discount page or or have it like at the bottom
Speaker 2: of the page or even at the top banner, you know,
Speaker 2: promoting it. Don't ask me how they make money, but
Speaker 2: I guess the margin's really good on these products, but
Speaker 2: it's really and then you'll get it within a week.
Speaker 2: I feel like it always comes super fast. So don't
Speaker 2: do it old school and go to Papyrus and overspend
Speaker 2: on because I used to do that all the time.
Speaker 2: Go to Papyrus and like spend a ridiculous amount of
Speaker 2: money on you know, the physical cards because they can
Speaker 2: just do it for you. It's it's fabulous.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that does sound fabulous.
Speaker 2: What about you?
Speaker 1: I am going to hmm, you know, I want to boost.
Speaker 1: This is how they see, so let's be positive. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna boost making connections. So one of my sisters is
Speaker 1: like really like into self improvement right now. She took
Speaker 1: one of those have you ever heard of like momentum.
Speaker 1: It's like it's like one of uh, there's another one
Speaker 1: that's a popular landmark. Have you ever heard a landmark?
Speaker 2: It's like landmark, what.
Speaker 1: It's if that's what it's called. It's like one of these,
Speaker 1: Like it's like a self improvement typically it's like a
Speaker 1: weekend and you get to learn more about yourself and
Speaker 1: you know, like things that you're doing that are that
Speaker 1: are in alignment with your desired outcome and things that
Speaker 1: are not. And one of like every time she came back,
Speaker 1: she really enjoyed it. Every time she came back. We
Speaker 1: talked about some of the things that she learned, and
Speaker 1: one of the things that she said that she learned
Speaker 1: is like, really that relationships are everything, literally everything, and
Speaker 1: sometimes like for me, because sometimes I'm I feel so
Speaker 1: pulled and overwhelmed that when I get a moment, I
Speaker 1: won't net with new people. So like, yeah, I hang
Speaker 1: out with my friends and obviously my family, but sometimes
Speaker 1: and someone's like, oh, I'd love to go out to lunch,
Speaker 1: I'm like, nah, girl, Like my default is like I'm
Speaker 1: gad now, let's still found call. And I had the
Speaker 1: opportunity to do that yesterday. I'm working with this brand
Speaker 1: that I really like and they invited me to dinner,
Speaker 1: and my knee jerk was like, nah, girl, I'm good,
Speaker 1: Like I'm just gonna come do my thing tomorrow and
Speaker 1: you know, like y'all that's what y'all paying me for.
Speaker 1: But then this other part of me remembered when I
Speaker 1: was speaking with my sister and she was like, you know,
Speaker 1: making the effort to connect with folks just for connecting sake,
Speaker 1: And so at first I said no, and then I
Speaker 1: was like, you know what, I will go to dinner
Speaker 1: and it was like such a good time. You know.
Speaker 1: It wasn't like I mean, we didn't talk about business.
Speaker 1: It was myself, my agent, the brand, and the brand's partner,
Speaker 1: and I was just like wow. We talked about everything
Speaker 1: from motherhood to being a woman in business to being
Speaker 1: a woman of coloring. But like, it's just it was
Speaker 1: just such a good time. And I thought to myself,
Speaker 1: I would have missed out on this because you know,
Speaker 1: I get it. Sometimes it could be a lot that's
Speaker 1: going on, but how you alleviate the feeling of a
Speaker 1: lot that's going on, it's really through interpersonal connections. And
Speaker 1: it was just a good reminder that you know, everything's
Speaker 1: not like a business transaction. Sometimes people are just wanting
Speaker 1: to connect to connect, and that connecting is really what
Speaker 1: it's what makes life worth living and that I don't
Speaker 1: want to jump from transactions to transaction. So just a
Speaker 1: boost to you know, interpersonal connecting and making that a
Speaker 1: priority and you know, saying yes to more in person
Speaker 1: connections because like I said, people ask all the time
Speaker 1: like oh my gosh, I'm gonna be in Jersey. I
Speaker 1: would love to connect and I'm like nope, They're like
Speaker 1: you don't even know what I'm coming. I'm like nope,
Speaker 1: because I just sometimes, like I said, I feel so around.
Speaker 1: I'm like lunch or this bed, this bed, and I'm like, say,
Speaker 1: if any get the house. So if you're needing that
Speaker 1: kick in the butt, this is your sign. If you
Speaker 1: need a sign, get out of the house. Connect with folks.
Speaker 1: Everything is not a transactions. Sometimes it's just connecting for
Speaker 1: connecting sake. And what ended up happening is that the
Speaker 1: brand Liaison loved me so much that I could totally
Speaker 1: tell they're going to use me again and again. And
Speaker 1: that wasn't the attention it was like but she was like, girl,
Speaker 1: you are amazing. Yesterday was so great hanging out with you.
Speaker 1: I cannot wait for us to work with you over
Speaker 1: and over again. I was like, what, okay, So, yeah,
Speaker 1: you don't know what you're missing out on when you
Speaker 1: when you don't connect with folks.
Speaker 2: And especially because i mean just on a personal note,
Speaker 2: like it's the holidays and people, you know, depression is
Speaker 2: kind of higher during the holidays, and even just checking
Speaker 2: in with like friends and people even have talked to
Speaker 2: you in a while, you don't know what kind of
Speaker 2: impact you can be having just to catch up over
Speaker 2: coffee because some people it's a downtime for some people,
Speaker 2: or a stressful time and check in with loved ones.
Speaker 2: I'll add to that, but that was a yeah, that's excellent,
Speaker 2: good point.
Speaker 1: Thank God.
Speaker 2: Well, thank y'all for another great show. We will see
Speaker 2: y'all next week, one last show, and we'll maybe see
Speaker 2: you the week after. It'll depend on this little sir
Speaker 2: inside of me. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Hello for me this side have a.
Speaker 2: New boss, how I feel.
Speaker 1: It sounds like hello for me this sid oh. I
Speaker 1: can't wait to meet you. So I know he's gonna be.
Speaker 2: So he'd better be. Not a