Speaker 1: Find Out and podcast. So how would you like to
Speaker 1: welcome people today, Mike, I'm nervous now. I don't know
Speaker 1: what to say. I'm hey, every hey everyone, it's not Monday,
Speaker 1: it's not It is for you, but it's not for us.
Speaker 1: I don't even know what to do Tuesday. Does it
Speaker 1: even matter? Michael just got back from his two week
Speaker 1: bi weekly grocery store adventure. How is it? It was
Speaker 1: fortunately quiet good So I went to Whole Foods and
Speaker 1: Public because we get different things at different stores, and
Speaker 1: it was remarkably quieter than it had been in the past.
Speaker 1: Everyone people I saw had masks? Was that so weird?
Speaker 1: To see everyone have masks? Because I have not been
Speaker 1: out of the house. I'm losing my mind. I have
Speaker 1: not been out of the house for a little over
Speaker 1: a month, so I haven't seen like a store or
Speaker 1: driven my car. I don't even know if I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be able to drive my car. I'm gonna be like,
Speaker 1: how do I stop this thing? But like, I can't imagine.
Speaker 1: Like I was zooming with some of my girlfriends last
Speaker 1: night and we were just talking about, like because they
Speaker 1: have gone to the store, and I was like, man,
Speaker 1: what a weird reality that now we see because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be real honest. Usually when I saw people with
Speaker 1: masks on, like at the airport, I'm like, you know,
Speaker 1: it's like all right, easy, I'm like, okay, calm down.
Speaker 1: But now it's like I was like, Michael, do not
Speaker 1: leave without a mask. I feel like we live in
Speaker 1: Asia now, and I mean that's no, it's not that,
Speaker 1: it's just the culture. You see that often in their culture,
Speaker 1: because yeah, I think about it. They they're show overpopulated.
Speaker 1: Is that why? I think so? I think it'smar than
Speaker 1: I think it's a part of their culture. And I
Speaker 1: also think it's because they're so densely compacted in population
Speaker 1: where it's things probably spread easier there, possibly when you're
Speaker 1: on top of each other as much as they are,
Speaker 1: or maybe they're just a lot smarter and they're like
Speaker 1: saw this coming before y'all did, right, But I'm saying
Speaker 1: even before before, no, no, no, I mean like before yeah,
Speaker 1: Like it's like they they're more aware of I don't know.
Speaker 1: But now it's like I was, I was like, you
Speaker 1: have to wear either a scarf or we don't have
Speaker 1: a mask that you were bandana, but that must have
Speaker 1: been like, like, what was it? Was? It just weird
Speaker 1: to see everyone wearing masks, like where the checkout people
Speaker 1: wearing them too? Oh my god, it's so weird. And
Speaker 1: a lot of stores from home Depot the whole foods too.
Speaker 1: I don't think public said you know that a lot
Speaker 1: of them have like temporary glass shields up like between
Speaker 1: the cashier and the customer. Really see, I feel I'm
Speaker 1: kind of glad. I know that we said that I
Speaker 1: was going to go grocery shopping because you have bad asthma.
Speaker 1: But I think I'd have anxiety tack just seeing all that, Like,
Speaker 1: I think it would feed my anxiety more, and then
Speaker 1: I would totally freak out. And then I for sure
Speaker 1: couldn't drive my car because I'd be like good, and
Speaker 1: then you'd forget half the things I needed you to get. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would just think, I just need to get out
Speaker 1: of here. I can't breathe. I think this is the
Speaker 1: lesser two evils that it gives us, uh, less anxiety
Speaker 1: if I go and you stay, because if it's the
Speaker 1: other way around, I'd have anxiety. If you're not getting
Speaker 1: the right things, you'd have anxiety being there. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: I would just leave real fast and forget everything. But
Speaker 1: because I think just seeing that it's just like the
Speaker 1: reality of just like oh man, that this is this
Speaker 1: is not good. Yeah, it's it's just gonna be interesting.
Speaker 1: What a lot of people have been talking about the
Speaker 1: new norm, you know, like what's the new norm going
Speaker 1: to be? How long is this going to be a thing.
Speaker 1: How long are these dividers going to be up at
Speaker 1: the grocery stores or home depot? How long are people
Speaker 1: gonna be wearing masks? I mean, honestly, I feel like
Speaker 1: we should take these precautions. I mean, not to the
Speaker 1: economy shutdown, but you know, for flu season, like let's
Speaker 1: not shake hands, even though that's hard for me to do,
Speaker 1: but like, you know, just to be more cautious during
Speaker 1: those times, like, hey, it's flu season, because a lot
Speaker 1: of like sixteen thousand people a year died from the flu,
Speaker 1: so it's like, hey, and obviously COVID's worse than that
Speaker 1: and it's more death rate. But I feel like we
Speaker 1: should just put more things in place too, not easily
Speaker 1: spread things. But I have a headache from cleaning all
Speaker 1: the groceries. I don't know if it works. I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's I'm wasting my time. But all I
Speaker 1: know is this time around, I washed everything with the
Speaker 1: clorox with the clorox, and now I have a headache
Speaker 1: so bad. But I do I will say, just because
Speaker 1: I'm a mom. When we get any of the groceries
Speaker 1: out the next few days, like we just need to
Speaker 1: make sure we really wash our hands because I might not.
Speaker 1: I might have missed a spot and it lives on
Speaker 1: there for a minute, so like for a few days.
Speaker 1: So it's just like the next few days, it's really
Speaker 1: like be mindful, absolutely sorry. Just to let you guys
Speaker 1: in on a little like, you know, husband wife chat.
Speaker 1: We had a little passiveness while I was doing it.
Speaker 1: I don't know why, but I'm really excited because we
Speaker 1: have a really awesome guest on today, Laura Prepon. Um.
Speaker 1: She's an actress, she's a mother, she's now an author.
Speaker 1: She was on the Netflix series Orange is the New Black. Um,
Speaker 1: and obviously she made her television debut on that seventy show. Um,
Speaker 1: did you watch that seventy show? I never did. I
Speaker 1: didn't either, but I heard it was funny. I've heard
Speaker 1: great things. Yeah, I never personally did, but I'm excited
Speaker 1: to meet her um through Skype, and I'm excited to
Speaker 1: hear about her book and her journey as a mom.
Speaker 1: So um super excited. You know, she's married to Ben Foster.
Speaker 1: A little fun trivia fact. I think he's such a
Speaker 1: great actor. He's fantastic. Oh my god, what was the
Speaker 1: movie with him and Chris Pine that we are obsessed with? Oh? Um,
Speaker 1: Color high Water. That's one of my favorite movies. That
Speaker 1: is a top top movie, like probably top seven, it's
Speaker 1: in the top ten for sure. It's like, if you
Speaker 1: guys haven't seen that movie, it's incredible. Did you watch
Speaker 1: Orange Is the New Black? I started it, I remember
Speaker 1: years ago, like kind of shortly after it came out. Um,
Speaker 1: but I think it's one of those times where you know,
Speaker 1: I was trying to watch like four different shows at
Speaker 1: one time and it just got lost in translation. I
Speaker 1: watched the first few seasons. Yeah, do you like it? Yeah?
Speaker 1: It was really good. I liked it a lot for
Speaker 1: something about women in jail, you know me, I have
Speaker 1: like a weird thing with Gana, like badass women I do.
Speaker 1: I do like them a lot. So right before the
Speaker 1: whole quarantine thing happened, Um, I got to meet Abby
Speaker 1: wan Back and Glenn and Doyle, and it was like
Speaker 1: dreams they do come true. She's like, fantasy, are you
Speaker 1: all in one room. I was like, I couldn't even
Speaker 1: talk to Abby. I was just like stuff founded, Yeah, smitten,
Speaker 1: like a little kitten. She could have just put me
Speaker 1: in her pocket, and I've been fine with it. I'll
Speaker 1: be your little girl, toy. Oh. I know. I'm really
Speaker 1: excited to talk to Laura though, because she seems like
Speaker 1: a badass. Um, let's take a break and then let's
Speaker 1: get her on. Y Hi, Laura, Laura, can you guys
Speaker 1: hear me? Okay, yes, we can hear you. Amazing? You
Speaker 1: look beautiful. I'm very jealous. You've got makeup on. You
Speaker 1: look amazing, fantastic. Um, I love you. I just I
Speaker 1: think you're funny. I think you're a badass. And you
Speaker 1: know now, like how you just had a baby in February,
Speaker 1: didn't you. Yeah, at the end of February. How are
Speaker 1: you doing right now? And you York, I'm doing okay. Um.
Speaker 1: You know, because we have a newborn, we had planned
Speaker 1: to be isolating and um having this time be to
Speaker 1: our family just so we can bond with our baby
Speaker 1: and our toddler. Um. So we had planned to be
Speaker 1: isolating now anyway before my book tour, which is now
Speaker 1: a virtual book tour started, so but we were definitely
Speaker 1: planning on isolating for very different reasons. But we're doing okay,
Speaker 1: you know, We're we try to stay informed, of course,
Speaker 1: and not let it be too scary, you know, because
Speaker 1: we because kids pick up on that stuff, you know.
Speaker 1: So we're really trying to stay informed and find levity
Speaker 1: and laugh when we can, because you just have to
Speaker 1: find levity or it's just all too devastating. So we
Speaker 1: try to just laugh when we can, spend a lot
Speaker 1: of time with our kids, and yeah, we're just doing
Speaker 1: what kim, just like everybody else. Is the newborn a boy, ye,
Speaker 1: and then the older one is uh yeah two and
Speaker 1: a half and she all and she's she's she was
Speaker 1: born in a boy two thousands, seventy. I have milk
Speaker 1: brain right now because I'm breastfeeding seventeen maybe, um, but yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's incredible. It's incredible having to it's a lot,
Speaker 1: especially with the self isolation everything. But you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Two was a really rough transition for us
Speaker 1: because we have a four year old girl and then
Speaker 1: a sixteen month old little boy. So but like it's
Speaker 1: when we hit two, it's like, I'm really glad we
Speaker 1: had a lot of therapy because I don't know if
Speaker 1: we would have liked it made it through because it's
Speaker 1: hard because like you don't have time at all. It's
Speaker 1: just like I got one, you got one, and it's
Speaker 1: like then yeah, it's it's it's definitely a real tough transition.
Speaker 1: Did you did you find it harder? Well, you know,
Speaker 1: we're only like like seven weeks in, so it's not
Speaker 1: it's um, it's it's been really a thank goodness. Here's
Speaker 1: what I will say, Thank goodness. Our toddler is sleep
Speaker 1: train because we really were We were really strict with
Speaker 1: the sleep training at a certain point, at a certain
Speaker 1: point where like we have got to yeah, we started
Speaker 1: three months for every kid saying okay, so we started
Speaker 1: with our daughter. We started too late. We started to
Speaker 1: wait too late. But we got to a point where
Speaker 1: we were just like we have to handle this is this,
Speaker 1: you know, once they're sleep training. For me, For us,
Speaker 1: it was a game change, game changer because then they
Speaker 1: go down and then number one, I feel like it's
Speaker 1: much better for her. And this is my own personal experience. Look,
Speaker 1: I would never tell anybody how to parent ever, know,
Speaker 1: but like what you were saying though, it is better
Speaker 1: for them too, though, Like and I'm like such an
Speaker 1: advocate even, Like I have girlfriends that their kids don't
Speaker 1: go to bed until like nine ten o'clock, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: that's great, it works for you, but for us, Like
Speaker 1: I know my kid, like she's a she's a better
Speaker 1: toddler the next day when she gets sleep, like when
Speaker 1: she does the napp and she has the routine. So
Speaker 1: I'm totally totally like on same page, like the sleep training,
Speaker 1: and for us it's at her too because we know
Speaker 1: she goes down in her bedtime and then you know,
Speaker 1: my husband and I have time to you know, download
Speaker 1: the day and like hang out together and have dinner together,
Speaker 1: and like, you know, when it's not the state of
Speaker 1: the world is happening. Now, if we put our kids
Speaker 1: down and then we get a babysitter, we can maybe
Speaker 1: go to dinner, you know what I mean. Like, it's
Speaker 1: just everything is such a game changer when the kids
Speaker 1: are sleep trained. But again, everyone has a different way
Speaker 1: the parent awesome, but for us it was a game changer.
Speaker 1: So but now with the newborn, of course that's all
Speaker 1: out the window. But I gotta say the fact that
Speaker 1: we know our daughter goes to sleep at a certain time, yeah, um,
Speaker 1: helps so that we're just focused on the newborn, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, you see that light at the
Speaker 1: end the end of the tunnel, knowing that you're newborn
Speaker 1: eventually is gonna get to that point where she is too.
Speaker 1: And then that's kind of where we're at where it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: we know at seven o'clock the kids are down, we're
Speaker 1: high five and exactly popping wine or having a drink
Speaker 1: and it's time you you guys started both at three months. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was so strict, like I was just you know,
Speaker 1: once the yeah, it was it was about yeah, I
Speaker 1: would say it was eight. Yeah. Well there's that book too,
Speaker 1: it's twelve twelve weeks. Yeah. I mean they they're kind
Speaker 1: of similar. But we went by baby Wise and then
Speaker 1: it was just eat feed, was it eat feed, play sleep? Um?
Speaker 1: But I mean it worked like a dream, and it
Speaker 1: worked for Jay's two. I will say though, on our
Speaker 1: second Jace doesn't need as much sleep as Jolie did,
Speaker 1: so we kind of had to. Unfortunately, we dropped a
Speaker 1: nap sooner. Um. But I mean, having a little boy
Speaker 1: is just like, isn't it the best? I'm so, I'm
Speaker 1: so glad that our first was a girl. I really am,
Speaker 1: because I always thought I wasn't one of those people
Speaker 1: who like wed dream about the day I got married
Speaker 1: or the day I had that. This was never me,
Speaker 1: Like I started working at such a young age. I
Speaker 1: was always so focused on my career and I knew
Speaker 1: that I wanted to wait until I met my partner,
Speaker 1: my you know, I wanted to wait until I was
Speaker 1: with my husband, the one I was supposed to be with,
Speaker 1: and my husband and I didn't get together, so I
Speaker 1: was thirty six, so we you know, we both I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to speak for him, but I focused
Speaker 1: on my career and then finally he came into my life.
Speaker 1: Even though we've known each other since we were eighteen,
Speaker 1: you know, we took this, you know, the bumpy road.
Speaker 1: We always say that we're like we earned each other, um,
Speaker 1: but it's you know the fact that I started late
Speaker 1: just was it was a very different experience for me.
Speaker 1: But the fact that we had a girl first. I
Speaker 1: thought was very very cool, Like I never thought about
Speaker 1: I never like planned my wedding or thought about you know,
Speaker 1: jumps about the kids. And then finally when it was right,
Speaker 1: it was just right. Um. But if I ever did
Speaker 1: have the thought, I always thought I was gonna have
Speaker 1: a boy first, which was weird. Well, and I kind
Speaker 1: of wanted a boy first because I grew up with
Speaker 1: an older brother and so so I kind of like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I want like the older brother. But I will tell
Speaker 1: you what, you know, I'm so glad I had a
Speaker 1: daughter first two because she's so good with the baby
Speaker 1: and she's just she's really like I think she helped
Speaker 1: ease my way into motherhood a little bit because obviously
Speaker 1: we don't know what we're doing. Um, but there's something
Speaker 1: about a little girl just having I don't know, it
Speaker 1: just it really Yeah. But now I mean the little boy,
Speaker 1: it's just it's such a different crazy Yeah, I totally got.
Speaker 1: But in your book, so, um, it's you and I
Speaker 1: as mothers, and it was I was. When I was
Speaker 1: reading the Breakdown, you said, you're like you were blindsided
Speaker 1: when you became a mother. What what blindsided you? What
Speaker 1: was the thing that was just like that, you weren't
Speaker 1: expecting any of it. I like any of it. I
Speaker 1: you know, I've always been and I prided myself on this,
Speaker 1: like I've always felt like the rock I've always been.
Speaker 1: My friends called me like the Rock of Gibraltar, like
Speaker 1: they would always come to me to get the is done.
Speaker 1: I think that's why I tend to thrive in different
Speaker 1: kinds of roles, like director, because as a director, I'm
Speaker 1: really good with large amounts of responsibility and pressure and
Speaker 1: stress like yeah, like I'm I'm very good at putting
Speaker 1: like order into a situation like that, which is why
Speaker 1: I feel like direct and so comfortable for me. Um.
Speaker 1: But when I became a mother, it was like I
Speaker 1: was a complete but I could not take care of
Speaker 1: myself or my family everything. And it wasn't postparted to
Speaker 1: anxiety or sorry, depression. It wasn't depression. It was an
Speaker 1: anxiety that I've never experienced before. And the anxiety came
Speaker 1: from protecting this baby that I I didn't understand what
Speaker 1: was going on. Number one, I didn't understand the hormones.
Speaker 1: The hormones just took over and I had no clue
Speaker 1: what the hell to do UM. I could not take
Speaker 1: care of myself, I couldn't take care of my family.
Speaker 1: I wasn't nourishing any of us properly like I was
Speaker 1: totally and then I was so stressed out and it
Speaker 1: would affect my my milk. It was like a whole thing,
Speaker 1: and I had really really bad post part of anxiety.
Speaker 1: And that's probably one of the biggest things that threw me.
Speaker 1: Being someone who's usually the rock that people come to,
Speaker 1: I felt like I couldn't take care of myself and
Speaker 1: my family and it's really really hard for me. And
Speaker 1: then that's when I decided that I needed to write
Speaker 1: this book because I feel like there's all these things
Speaker 1: that as mothers we we don't talk about that are
Speaker 1: still kind of like shrouded in darkness. And I don't
Speaker 1: in secrecy and I'm not sure why, because it's okay
Speaker 1: that we don't have everything figured out right now, you know,
Speaker 1: I also as a working mom. Being a stay at
Speaker 1: home mom is just as hard UM. But for me
Speaker 1: as a working mom, I felt like I would wear
Speaker 1: this like maternal badge of honor, like I had this
Speaker 1: macho approach to much or any like I was going
Speaker 1: to go back to work, and nobody would know that
Speaker 1: I'm suffering. Nobody would know that I'm like I can
Speaker 1: power through on no sleep and you know the fact
Speaker 1: that I'm a complete basket case, and like, nobody's gonna know.
Speaker 1: I had this weird thing that I had to prove something,
Speaker 1: and I wasn't sure why. I'm like, why why do
Speaker 1: I have this thing that I feel like I need
Speaker 1: to prove, like UM. And I realized that I was
Speaker 1: suffering from all these things like the stress, the loss
Speaker 1: of control, mom guilt, like UM, self care. I felt
Speaker 1: like I didn't deserve self care, like all these things.
Speaker 1: I realized that mothers of all ages were all dealing
Speaker 1: with UM. And that's why I interviewed my mom squad
Speaker 1: in the book, which is Mothers of All Ages backgrounds
Speaker 1: UM Children, and they have all children of different ages.
Speaker 1: And I specifically wanted not only myself my own stories,
Speaker 1: but my mom squad so that anybody can really read
Speaker 1: this book and have something to relate to, because I
Speaker 1: feel like we're all suffering from these common subjects, do
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? So that's why I wanted
Speaker 1: to write us. I couldn't find this book out there,
Speaker 1: so I was like, I'm just gonna write it. You know,
Speaker 1: I have a I have an incredible amount of empathy
Speaker 1: for you moms because you don't hear of dad's shaming, right,
Speaker 1: you hear of like mommy shaming, and it feels like
Speaker 1: society and people have put all the pressure on you
Speaker 1: all and when really it's equally the husband. You know,
Speaker 1: the mom and the dad are responsibility to do and
Speaker 1: to go through all of this. And I know this
Speaker 1: second time around for jan and I, really communicating on
Speaker 1: how we honestly feel in a moment really helped us.
Speaker 1: Just being like and allowed her to not feel alone.
Speaker 1: Because Jane is very much like you. She thrives in chaos.
Speaker 1: If things aren't going crazy around her, she's uncomfortable. She
Speaker 1: needs like things to like it's it's insane, she has
Speaker 1: to have it. So for her to finally lean into
Speaker 1: me and us to meet there and for me to
Speaker 1: reassure her that she's not alone and what she's feeling
Speaker 1: at times really helped us the second time around. And
Speaker 1: my question to you is like, how is been your husband?
Speaker 1: You know, how has he stepped up as as a
Speaker 1: father and kind of you know, been there. I want
Speaker 1: to focus on the positive of kind of the husband, wife,
Speaker 1: mom dad connection like for the second one second one around. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he look, I'm so fortunate because he is the best partner, husband,
Speaker 1: everything I could have ever asked for. And before we
Speaker 1: got together, I wrote a list. I'm not kidding, and
Speaker 1: I say this to my single friends. I wrote a
Speaker 1: list of exactly what I wanted. And I'm like, this
Speaker 1: is what I want and I'm not talking about like
Speaker 1: I did that. It's the dear God, let her please
Speaker 1: send me this man exactly exactly. So I wrote my
Speaker 1: version of that, okay, And it's not about it's like
Speaker 1: real true connection stuff that I wrote down from like
Speaker 1: connecting on levels that it's not just about looks and
Speaker 1: this I mean obviously of course being attracted your writner
Speaker 1: is a big deal, but it's like the really deep
Speaker 1: things that I was for in my life partner. And
Speaker 1: once I wrote that list, he he was there and
Speaker 1: that was you know what I mean. So I and
Speaker 1: I did a lot of my own work to be
Speaker 1: ready to happen in my life. And that's a whole other,
Speaker 1: you know, situation. But and that's why we say we
Speaker 1: like earn each other. But I'm really fortunate in that
Speaker 1: he's the most incredible partner I could ever ask for. Um.
Speaker 1: And when I was going through all this, um, when
Speaker 1: I first started kind of putting it down and writing
Speaker 1: about it, he was the one who really inspired me
Speaker 1: to start writing it in the form of a book
Speaker 1: where he's like, you can't be the only one dealing
Speaker 1: with this, and he said, there's you know, there's so
Speaker 1: many other women out there that have got to be
Speaker 1: struggling with this too, And that was one of you know,
Speaker 1: besides the fact that how I helped work through things
Speaker 1: is by writing about it and getting it out. And
Speaker 1: you know, that's what we do with their communication, We
Speaker 1: get it out. UM. But he was a big inspiration
Speaker 1: on that regard to you know, open my eyes to
Speaker 1: you know, you should think about writing about this so
Speaker 1: people can heal from it. It sounds really supportive. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't like amazing, you know what I mean. I'm
Speaker 1: very fortunate. And you know the other thing too, is
Speaker 1: I also write in my book, you know, I have
Speaker 1: an entire chapter on partnership because you know, everybody can
Speaker 1: relate to a chapter on partnership on how to keep
Speaker 1: your partnership strong. After kids are in the mix. The
Speaker 1: other thing too is and again that's myself, my own stories,
Speaker 1: my my mom squad, you know, a bunch of people
Speaker 1: chiming in. But the other thing too is that I
Speaker 1: can't tell you how many people have read the book
Speaker 1: because it came out a week ago, who are not
Speaker 1: mothers or might or may choose and not to be,
Speaker 1: who are still getting so much out of the book,
Speaker 1: as well as partners getting a better understanding of what
Speaker 1: their partner went through, you know, as their mother. But
Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many people have gotten so
Speaker 1: much out of it because I speak to these things
Speaker 1: of you know, stress control, anxiety. That's what I was
Speaker 1: just going to ask in the book, because um, do
Speaker 1: do you talk about ways like how you've been able
Speaker 1: to cope with your anxiety and ways that are helpful
Speaker 1: for for those suffering with anxiety, Because I'm like, I
Speaker 1: have mad anxiety, like awful anxiety to the point where
Speaker 1: you know, we we were going to film something and
Speaker 1: I was just like, but if I'm not with the kids,
Speaker 1: and you know, and then I just like, I feel
Speaker 1: like a bad mom, but I'm trying to support my family,
Speaker 1: and so it's just one of those struggles where it's
Speaker 1: just like, and then I'm terrified to fly because oh
Speaker 1: my god, what if something happens? And then I just
Speaker 1: my full entire like just body is just taken over
Speaker 1: with anxiety and fear. So I'm just curious if you
Speaker 1: write about that too. I that's exactly what I write about,
Speaker 1: like for real, that's exactly There's a whole section on
Speaker 1: that because I was going through that as well. Here's
Speaker 1: the thing that was so important for me with this
Speaker 1: book was not only did I want to share these
Speaker 1: because usually I've been Look, I've been fortunate enough to
Speaker 1: be in my industry for over twenty years, and I
Speaker 1: love what I do, and it's a constant negotiation on
Speaker 1: because I'm a very private person. So and anything I
Speaker 1: do that involves my family, my husband and I have
Speaker 1: a conversation about it and we make sure that we're
Speaker 1: on the same page with it because with what I do,
Speaker 1: obviously there's being in the public eye, and we always
Speaker 1: make sure that we are in agreement with that and so,
Speaker 1: but some a lot of the stuff that I shared
Speaker 1: in my book is really personal stuff. But I felt
Speaker 1: like it was so important for the first time because
Speaker 1: I felt like there was this conversation that wasn't being
Speaker 1: had that I really wanted to drop my defenses and
Speaker 1: share these truths. And I share a lot of stuff
Speaker 1: in this book that I is really vulnerable for me,
Speaker 1: but I felt it was so important so we could
Speaker 1: really have this conversation. And you know, one of the
Speaker 1: things too, is besides sharing stories and the stories from
Speaker 1: my mom squad, giving tools was a huge thing that
Speaker 1: I wanted in this book. I wanted to give the
Speaker 1: reader tools so that after they read the book, after
Speaker 1: they take the time to read the book, because you know,
Speaker 1: sitting down and reading a book, it's like I want
Speaker 1: to make sure that I can give give something back.
Speaker 1: Walking away with something you're learning, it's like going to
Speaker 1: therapy and then being like, but then how do we
Speaker 1: what do we do to stuff? Exactly? Yeah, exactly. So
Speaker 1: that so I wanted to give that to the reader,
Speaker 1: so that I give a lot of tools in the
Speaker 1: book that you can leave with and put into action
Speaker 1: in your life. Because that is so badly what I wanted,
Speaker 1: and that is what I wanted to give the reader
Speaker 1: because I needed tools on how to navigate through this
Speaker 1: and and again when I was dealing with a particular anxiety,
Speaker 1: like something you were just talking about. You know, my
Speaker 1: friend who was an eighteen year old kids, she was
Speaker 1: dealing with anxiety, but because of a completely different subject
Speaker 1: because our kid is older, but we were both dealing
Speaker 1: with anxiety. So it's really relatable to women of all ages.
Speaker 1: And the his tools were really important to me to
Speaker 1: give in the book. In every chapter there's that, and
Speaker 1: then at the end of the chapter, I also asked
Speaker 1: the reader to reflect on their own situations. So it's
Speaker 1: I really tried to make the book like a conversation,
Speaker 1: like a dialogue back and forth love that I want,
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna can I Can I order it on Amazon? Yes? Yes, perfect, yes,
Speaker 1: right now, you and I. It's out everywhere everywhere, books
Speaker 1: are out. It's out, and it's you know, you can
Speaker 1: order a physical copy, you can get an e book.
Speaker 1: It's it's out. Do you dad have anxieties? By the way,
Speaker 1: I mean there are dads I do, but you know me,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm like you never get I am um. But
Speaker 1: that's why we balanced each other out. Because I'm in
Speaker 1: a plane and it's like terrible turbulence and like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I could have been a great mother and like,
Speaker 1: my kids are never gonna know me and he's just
Speaker 1: like sitting there watching his iPad like nothing's happening. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we have to. Well, I'm sure you pretty much answered
Speaker 1: my question about what can people you know leave with
Speaker 1: it out of you know, this book. And but I
Speaker 1: will say I again, I appreciate and respect the fact
Speaker 1: that you're being so open because I understand being in
Speaker 1: the public eye and being a celebrity status. It's it's
Speaker 1: scary to lean into that honest, true emotion and experience
Speaker 1: that you may be going through. Um, But with a
Speaker 1: book like it sounds like yours is, you can't bullshit
Speaker 1: that stuff like people readers will will read right past
Speaker 1: that be like this isn't this isn't me, this is
Speaker 1: all fluff. And so I'm inspired to to read it
Speaker 1: with Janna, and especially that you talk about partnerships and
Speaker 1: that people that aren't aren't aren't aren't even married and
Speaker 1: don't have kids can get something out of it. Um,
Speaker 1: Janna and I are all about that life and that
Speaker 1: therapeutic life and learning more about each other and everything.
Speaker 1: So uh, we'll definitely check it out, and we hope
Speaker 1: all the readers married or not, our kids are not
Speaker 1: check it out to yep you and I as mother Laura,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. I know you're on this crazy
Speaker 1: book tour right now, so I just love you. Thank
Speaker 1: you guys so much for having me, and thank you
Speaker 1: guys for what you're doing. And um, I'm just yeah,
Speaker 1: thanks for having me on you guys. So excited to
Speaker 1: read your book. Thank you bye, guys. She's so sweet,
Speaker 1: so sweet. I loved her. She was awesome. I just
Speaker 1: really appreciate what she said that she tried to find
Speaker 1: the book and she couldn't find it, so she wrote it.
Speaker 1: Like I appreciate people that are willing to share their
Speaker 1: stories because they couldn't find it for themselves, so now
Speaker 1: they're wanting to give it back to somebody else. I
Speaker 1: just like, I really love that a lot. No, I
Speaker 1: think it's great and it's very powerful thing for someone
Speaker 1: to do. I just think it's funny that like the
Speaker 1: difference in a mom and dad when it comes to
Speaker 1: just the reality. I mean so much so that I
Speaker 1: freak out because you know, for some reason, Jason's room
Speaker 1: just does not get heat to it, and he's you know,
Speaker 1: Michael has been quarantine up in the room, up in
Speaker 1: his media room, like playing video games like at night,
Speaker 1: and he like will keep turning the like the cooler on,
Speaker 1: and I just like, in my mind, there's been so
Speaker 1: many times when I've gone up there and I'm like, Michael,
Speaker 1: you have to keep the heat on because it's going
Speaker 1: to freeze in that little boy's room. And I just
Speaker 1: like I stay up and it's just like, maybe that's
Speaker 1: why I'm waking up in such a panic every night,
Speaker 1: because even last night I went, I made sure to
Speaker 1: go upstairs. I put the heat on, and then you know,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, honey, it's really cold in his room.
Speaker 1: Stipe put the heat on, like please don't change it.
Speaker 1: And I swear to God this morning when I woke
Speaker 1: up and got that little boy, he was like an
Speaker 1: icicle in his room. You put the damn cooler on.
Speaker 1: What are you thinking. I was like, Mike, don't forget that.
Speaker 1: I was worried about little man being cold. He's literally
Speaker 1: was like walked into his room. I was like, mother,
Speaker 1: So that started our morning off great. But it's just like,
Speaker 1: you know again, like I wake up in the middle
Speaker 1: of the night thinking of those things and you're just
Speaker 1: like you wake up and you're like, I want some
Speaker 1: chicken nuggets with French fries. But it's every you know,
Speaker 1: cartoon or you know, when there's the funnies in the
Speaker 1: in the papers, the funny papers, like the comic cartoons
Speaker 1: and the papers and stuff, it's like you see all those,
Speaker 1: you know, representations of women thinking in depth thought and
Speaker 1: then it's like, you know, thinking about what, you know,
Speaker 1: what color their poop was that morning or something. So
Speaker 1: it's I mean, guys in general, I think are a
Speaker 1: little bit more laxed, but in our relationship, you know
Speaker 1: I am, And again we bounced each other out. And
Speaker 1: do you ever worry? Like what are your fears about
Speaker 1: parenthood in the in the kids? Like I do you?
Speaker 1: Do you genuine only have any fears or anxiety? Or
Speaker 1: do I just carry them all for you? Do I do?
Speaker 1: I worry enough for you. But my whole thing is
Speaker 1: about being prepared. So we have an arsenal because you
Speaker 1: think zombies are coming, Hey, we didn't. We didn't know
Speaker 1: COVID was coming. You can't shoot it. And Janna gave
Speaker 1: me ship about all these latex gloves that I bought
Speaker 1: for the garage. To clean stuff and we use them
Speaker 1: all the time. Now I did that came in and
Speaker 1: so did the fifty thousand sanitizer bottles that I bought
Speaker 1: like a year ago. It's for me. I think it's
Speaker 1: just preparation. And I always tease that, you know, I
Speaker 1: have like a part of my personalities like a doomsday
Speaker 1: prepper and I want like a fallout shelter one day
Speaker 1: or something. But that's what relieves my anxiety is if
Speaker 1: ship goes down, we have what we need. And you know,
Speaker 1: that goes back to when I was a kid. You
Speaker 1: know the thing I've said about my dad, it's like
Speaker 1: in any situation, regardless of week, of how things are going,
Speaker 1: I never was truly worried because I knew my dad
Speaker 1: could handle something, Like it didn't matter what it was.
Speaker 1: I just knew my dad would handle it. And it
Speaker 1: was such a reassured feeling as a kid, Like at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, I like, my Dad's got us,
Speaker 1: you know so, And that's I want that so badly
Speaker 1: for y'all, like I want our kids. I want you
Speaker 1: to be able to be like, no matter what's going
Speaker 1: on in the world, we're together and Dad's got us.
Speaker 1: He might freeze you out of the house, but he's
Speaker 1: got you. You might have the a C on in
Speaker 1: the wintertime, but he's got you. It is. It's just
Speaker 1: one of those things like that. So that's for me.
Speaker 1: I'm trying, I think, just it's naturally instilled to me
Speaker 1: to be calm, cool and collected in a lot of
Speaker 1: ways because that's how my dad was. And I want
Speaker 1: to be that rock in that sense for y'all, um,
Speaker 1: which I think every man wants to be for their family.
Speaker 1: But it's just knowing that my dad absolutely was that
Speaker 1: I don't really register a lot of fears and situations. Yeah, Like,
Speaker 1: I mean, I can definitely, I can understand that for sure.
Speaker 1: And I'll say, you're becoming my rock because you are
Speaker 1: better with my anxieties and stuff instead of making me
Speaker 1: feel stupid. Yeah, it's like you've done an incredible job
Speaker 1: with that. So I mean, I'm starting to trust in
Speaker 1: the rock that I got you. Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 1: And and the theme of the previous episodes, she still
Speaker 1: has questions, but how big of a rock are you?
Speaker 1: Are you a gray rock? What kind of rock are you? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I know I've stopped asking as many, but here's the deal. Um,
Speaker 1: sometimes we're just a nagging wife. Yes, and it's I
Speaker 1: love that that's what we argue about now, because I'd
Speaker 1: rather argue about a nagging wife than a that's true.
Speaker 1: You know what? Yeah, then lies and I wasn't going
Speaker 1: to say it ain't no secret. All right, let's take
Speaker 1: a break. USA Today articles suggests that you should text
Speaker 1: all your exes just in case you have one more
Speaker 1: thing you wanted to get off your chest. Why that
Speaker 1: was USA Today? USA Today suggested that you should text
Speaker 1: all your exes just in case you have one more
Speaker 1: thing you wanted to get off your chest. If you
Speaker 1: had one X to text, oh, I like it. It
Speaker 1: should be I should start the hashtag one X text.
Speaker 1: You just want to stir the pot right now while
Speaker 1: everyone's quarantine. But hey, it's not me. It's USA Today
Speaker 1: one X two text challenge. Who would you text? And why?
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. What what I make up is you
Speaker 1: have two ways to go with this. You're either going
Speaker 1: to text them like I'm sorry, my bad, or you're
Speaker 1: gonna text them I miss you. Why would you say
Speaker 1: that you missed an X? Not me? But I'm saying
Speaker 1: people like, what else would you have Hey, I had
Speaker 1: broccoli for breakfast? Like, what are you going to text them?
Speaker 1: And say? Um? I would text the next and say,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you right now. I know exactly the X
Speaker 1: that I would text. I would text the X. Is
Speaker 1: there a baby cry? No? I think it is me
Speaker 1: breathing in a gap. You're gonna get like a little
Speaker 1: whistle in your nerves. Yeah, okay, So my hash tag
Speaker 1: one x two text challenge is I would say I'm
Speaker 1: really sorry for the person that I was and the
Speaker 1: way that I wasn't healthy enough to be in that relationship.
Speaker 1: Who did you say that to Brentley? It's out? Shut it? No,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, you know, I was just I
Speaker 1: wasn't you know? No, my god, No, I'm just saying
Speaker 1: I wasn't the best version of myself and that relationship
Speaker 1: I just wasn't, and and I I will. I always
Speaker 1: have a little bit of regret that I didn't handle
Speaker 1: things better, for sure, And that's adult. I'm mature of you.
Speaker 1: I mean I would practically say the same thing to yours. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: we're not going to reach out to them because that
Speaker 1: wouldn't be healthy. Do you know who mine would be yes,
Speaker 1: I know. Yeah. Yeah. Anyways, anyways, so if y'all can email, no,
Speaker 1: we are not. That's done, okay, Um, Janna just want
Speaker 1: to take this opportunity to well actually know you. I
Speaker 1: should d m S on our wind Down podcast um Instagram. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it's wind Down Podcast d m S and let
Speaker 1: us know your one x that you want us and
Speaker 1: why and we will next um next episode. We will
Speaker 1: share some share. You can be anonymous, but just share
Speaker 1: the person's first name. Yeah, so we can be like
Speaker 1: for Stacey out there, I'm sorry for Yeah, we'll just
Speaker 1: we'll be your apology. I love that sweet or you're
Speaker 1: not just your apology or your or your f you
Speaker 1: you mother, b B, I miss you. It's gonna be fine.
Speaker 1: Do we have any emails? We do? Let's uh, we're
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna check my d m S two on
Speaker 1: the Wine Down podcast and see if we've got a name.
Speaker 1: But read me an email first, all right. This email
Speaker 1: is from a tourist in my own world. It's titled
Speaker 1: issues in the Bedroom. My boyfriend and I have been
Speaker 1: together for six months. We are my boyfriend and I are.
Speaker 1: This email is from tourist at my own Oh my god. Okay,
Speaker 1: start over Eastern Please call this. It's on Tori to
Speaker 1: do it. She might not alright. This emails from a
Speaker 1: tourist in my own world and the title is issues
Speaker 1: in the Bedroom. My boyfriend and I have been together
Speaker 1: for six months. We are having problems in the bedroom.
Speaker 1: He has had problems in the past where a girl
Speaker 1: has told him not to climax. So when we were
Speaker 1: in the moment, I said, it's okay if you can't.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that bothered him until three weeks later
Speaker 1: when he told me that's why he's been acting distant.
Speaker 1: He said he knows I said it coming from the
Speaker 1: best place, but he mentally didn't respond well. But now
Speaker 1: he says he doesn't want to have sex right now.
Speaker 1: He's distant. I'm so worried he's unhappy with me. My
Speaker 1: anxiety and depression are through the roof, even with all
Speaker 1: the individual therapy I do. Mike, how can I more
Speaker 1: understand why he doesn't want to have sex with me? Ganna,
Speaker 1: how do you know when to let go and when
Speaker 1: to keep pulling on? That's a bummer because I just
Speaker 1: wish i'all could maybe communicate about it. Um and I think,
Speaker 1: if you know, I would just try to sit him
Speaker 1: down and have a conversation with them and just talk
Speaker 1: about like how it made a feel and because there's
Speaker 1: nothing worse than having conversations about sex and not performing
Speaker 1: in the bedroom. I mean, that's what took Mike and
Speaker 1: I like a few months off of our pattern. I
Speaker 1: guess you can say, because when you have anxiety, it's
Speaker 1: and then you talk about it and there's performance issues
Speaker 1: in the bedroom, is just gonna get worse. Um, So
Speaker 1: I think maybe just have one final last conversation then
Speaker 1: don't bring it up again and see if it gets better, um,
Speaker 1: and just kind of go from there. But I would
Speaker 1: I would not beat the horse un intended twelve year
Speaker 1: old Janna. Um, how Mike, how can I understand more
Speaker 1: of it? So? Yeah, to Jane's point, this is hard
Speaker 1: because for men it becomes like a mental thing. And
Speaker 1: you know, when Janna and I have had issues in
Speaker 1: the past, it does become this just mental handicap where
Speaker 1: you start like I would have anxiety when it got
Speaker 1: closer to bedtime because of just my fears of being
Speaker 1: intimate or performance issues or not being another whatever it was.
Speaker 1: M it's been a long time since I've dealt with that,
Speaker 1: but it just takes time of just comfort and for you.
Speaker 1: It was finally until Janna realized that the more she
Speaker 1: harped on me about it, the more she you know,
Speaker 1: pressured me about it, didn't help. That just pushed me
Speaker 1: farther away. So once Janna was just like, didn't have
Speaker 1: these expectations, and and just I was like, okay, like
Speaker 1: you know, let's just lay in bed, like we we
Speaker 1: don't even have to like bring up sex, you know,
Speaker 1: y'aker takes sex off the table for a period of time,
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks, a couple of days, a month, whatever,
Speaker 1: and then allow him to get more comfortable, you know,
Speaker 1: going through the day with you, so leading up to
Speaker 1: bedtime there's no pressure. Um, So it's tough, you know,
Speaker 1: it's a sensitive thing for guys. Have a d M
Speaker 1: from the wind Down Podcast Instagram question for the podcast.
Speaker 1: Would love some outside advice. My husband's parents are verbally
Speaker 1: mentally abusive, and his dad threatened me last spring because
Speaker 1: they feel I'm taking their son away from them. Since
Speaker 1: him and I have started standing up to them, my
Speaker 1: husband decided he wanted to cut them off out of
Speaker 1: their life after he threatened me, so we haven't talked
Speaker 1: to them in months. The issue now is that I'm
Speaker 1: eight weeks pregnant and my husband is really struggling with
Speaker 1: knowing his parents won't be involved in his kid's life,
Speaker 1: and it's making him very sad and I don't know
Speaker 1: how to support him. I told him previously if he
Speaker 1: ever felt he wanted to change his mind about cutting
Speaker 1: them out, as long as we are safe, I would
Speaker 1: support him and whatever he decided. That being said, I
Speaker 1: now have to think about a kid and their safety,
Speaker 1: and I do not trust his parents to be a
Speaker 1: part of their life. How would you handle this? Wow?
Speaker 1: How and why? I just think he says, because she
Speaker 1: said be has um they had threatened and they felt
Speaker 1: like you know, he was she was taking him away
Speaker 1: from the family because they started staying because the Sun
Speaker 1: was being like, you can't talk to my wife like
Speaker 1: that psycho family. Well look, yes, but I also think
Speaker 1: some families are just very especially in the sun, like,
Speaker 1: Lord knows what I'll be with my son. I mean, granted,
Speaker 1: not to threaten someone like that's so severe, Like that's
Speaker 1: not okay at all, um at all, And honestly, you
Speaker 1: know as I'm reading. As I was reading it, I
Speaker 1: was just starting to think, like I got really protective
Speaker 1: as a mama bear, and I'm like, no way the
Speaker 1: kid is going to be around the grandparents. But at
Speaker 1: the same time, if that's like your parents, it's that's
Speaker 1: such a hard situation. I would probably say, like if
Speaker 1: they start to show any sign of remorse or empathy
Speaker 1: or say they're sorry, then maybe I would let them
Speaker 1: have like a visitation, not alone with the baby, but
Speaker 1: like with your husband and the baby and you there too.
Speaker 1: And if you don't want to be there to make
Speaker 1: sure your husband like is you know, absolutely by the baby,
Speaker 1: because I totally get them, you wanting them to have
Speaker 1: a relationship too, But if they're threatening you, like you
Speaker 1: don't want any part of that, and that's not going
Speaker 1: to be healthy for any situation. And you also don't
Speaker 1: want that's just like not good. No, And I mean
Speaker 1: unless she is you know, bat ship and like really
Speaker 1: just a bad influence on him or something that we
Speaker 1: don't know about. Why would something like someone's parents threaten
Speaker 1: them and like the fact that they're together and having
Speaker 1: a kid. For me, even if it was my parents,
Speaker 1: if they acted that way, I'll be like, f you,
Speaker 1: And the only way you're going to see your grandkids
Speaker 1: is if they do what you're saying. We're over a
Speaker 1: period of time, they show remorse, they show empathy and
Speaker 1: sincerity with them being sorry and the way they were,
Speaker 1: and maybe they can warm up to having some time.
Speaker 1: But I would have no issue cutting out my parents
Speaker 1: if I had to, if they were acting that way. None.
Speaker 1: But that's just me. No, I mean same anything to
Speaker 1: protect because the the day it's I can handle any
Speaker 1: threat whatever, it sucks and it hurts. But when it
Speaker 1: comes to my kids, like I'm in a mama bear
Speaker 1: the crap out of them and they know nobody coming
Speaker 1: near me, near me or my kids that are going
Speaker 1: to be like that. Um, try to read one moreder
Speaker 1: already think we're done. We're gonna go. I like this
Speaker 1: handing me an email unless you found a good DM.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's a bunch of good dms like how
Speaker 1: you're handing, like managing anxiety and right now drink works
Speaker 1: in wine and a lot of deep breaths and quiet time.
Speaker 1: Read the Handyman one buddy, Okay, they one's from Jamie,
Speaker 1: my handyman. I wanted to follow up with you about
Speaker 1: asking questions when my husband does a project. My husband
Speaker 1: is not as handy as Mike I think, so I
Speaker 1: do ask a lot of questions and I'm totally judging
Speaker 1: l well. Also, when he does a project, I criticize
Speaker 1: how he does things because it's not how I would
Speaker 1: do it, or it's not how I envision it. How
Speaker 1: do I go about this? First of all, Jamie, I
Speaker 1: appreciate your honesty. Second, um, so what I tell Janna,
Speaker 1: You know, if you say going into a project, he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: I want to do this, and you start to have
Speaker 1: these feelings around it or expectations, sit down and talk
Speaker 1: ahead of time and be like, hey, do you want
Speaker 1: to talk out like what your plan is with it?
Speaker 1: And I'm not trying to control the situation. I just
Speaker 1: don't want to be unfair to you where you do
Speaker 1: it and I ask questions and then I'm critical of
Speaker 1: how you do it. I'm just I just want to understand.
Speaker 1: So like with the patio thing or the show, you
Speaker 1: know the board and all this or the board I forgot,
Speaker 1: But with the patio thing that I built, if Janna
Speaker 1: like going into it, she's like, oh, so what do
Speaker 1: you think you're gonna do? For this? I would have
Speaker 1: talked her through it. I'm like, Okay, I'm a border
Speaker 1: or two by four s and I'm gonna, you know,
Speaker 1: you soil and flatten the ground. I'm gonna put rocks.
Speaker 1: And then she could have any questions then and it
Speaker 1: wouldn't be as it wouldn't come across as critical after
Speaker 1: because it was before I did the project. If it's
Speaker 1: after I did something, the only way that I can
Speaker 1: receive that is that is is as criticism, because in
Speaker 1: my mind, the only reason you're asking a question is
Speaker 1: because you're critical, or you're questioning it or you don't
Speaker 1: like it. If you ask the questions ahead of time,
Speaker 1: and then y'all both on the same plane for the
Speaker 1: expectations of what it's gonna be, what it's gonna look like,
Speaker 1: and how it's gonna function, then there doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be all these questions and passiveness and criticism. And because
Speaker 1: honestly it's it's frustrating and it's emasculating, and it sucks
Speaker 1: and so and if it's something Jamie that the handiwork
Speaker 1: isn't in your realm like we talked about, you know,
Speaker 1: last episode. You know, it sucks to get criticized on
Speaker 1: something or fuel criticized on something that the other person
Speaker 1: doesn't even do. So honey, yeah, no, I agree with
Speaker 1: that for sure. I definitely agree with up. Um. I
Speaker 1: think we should end on a quarantine p s A.
Speaker 1: I get one and you get one. I love all
Speaker 1: these little weird challenges today. Quarantine p s A. This
Speaker 1: comes to all the husbands out there, UM that are
Speaker 1: listening and just tuning in for the last one minute
Speaker 1: because your wife is going to replay this. UM. I
Speaker 1: was on a zoom call last night with some of
Speaker 1: my girlfriends. Here is your quarantine p s A. Husband's men, boyfriends,
Speaker 1: We are not your maids. Put away your shoes, and
Speaker 1: if you're up in the playroom, please clean as you
Speaker 1: go so that we don't feel like the asshole moms
Speaker 1: that have to come and clean and make them clean up.
Speaker 1: So thank you. Have a great day. Go for it, dude. Yes,
Speaker 1: So this is my quarantine face to all you wives
Speaker 1: out there, girlfriends or significant others, to your men or partners, UM,
Speaker 1: just remember, shut up, shut up, leave me alone. No
Speaker 1: mine would be Remember that no one person's way is
Speaker 1: the right way. Everyone does things differently and that's okay.
Speaker 1: Oh snooze, snooze. No, just because we don't think do
Speaker 1: things on your timeline or in the fashion of what
Speaker 1: you do them doesn't mean it's incorrect. So have a
Speaker 1: little have a little grace, cut us some slack, and
Speaker 1: that is your p s A quarantine from Jana and Mike.
Speaker 1: Have a good one. See you next week.