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Speaker 1: My sister plans I legally changed her name to my name,

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Speaker 1: so I confronted her. That's honestly just too confusing. We're gonna,

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Speaker 1: on here. I really need help. If you can think

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Speaker 1: of a better subreddit, let me know. My sister is

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Speaker 1: It's been a law. It's been long and complicated, but

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Speaker 1: we've always been really close to siblings, and I have

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Speaker 1: supported her through it all. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 1: from Walrus with an Eye, and if you want to

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Speaker 1: send in your own stories, go to our slash okay

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Speaker 1: story tem subrette and sentiment. Now. At the beginning, she

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Speaker 1: wanted to be called S, which is the first letter

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Speaker 1: of my name. So we all embraced her as S

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Speaker 1: and it was great. Last week I logged onto Facebook

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Speaker 1: and I saw that her name had changed to my name. Interesting,

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Speaker 1: my exact name. I thought was a prank. I got

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Speaker 1: you figuring it out, and you know it's gonna be fun,

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna make it part of it. Okay, shout out,

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Speaker 1: we're just throwing mice around. Yeah, shout out to mice window.

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Speaker 1: That was actually mice window that we just passed over there.

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Speaker 1: So last week I logged into Facebook and I saw

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Speaker 1: that her name had changed to my name. Okay, because

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Speaker 1: I mean, maybe that's just an oversight. Maybe not.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she just woke up and was like, am I

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Speaker 2: my my sibling?

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Speaker 1: Dude? Could be I don't know my exact name. I

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Speaker 1: thought it was a prank or something, but I called

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Speaker 1: her immediately and she was basically like, yeah, I really

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Speaker 1: like that name and I think it fits. No asking

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Speaker 1: don't mind, just total casual oblivion.

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Speaker 3: Op.

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Speaker 1: He says, Uh, my name is really uncommon. It's not

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Speaker 1: Anne or something like that. Shout out to all you

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Speaker 1: Anne's out there. Yeah, it's no offense.

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Speaker 2: Shout out to Ann getting dunked on right now. It's

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Speaker 2: not some coincidence.

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Speaker 1: And I asked her if there was something to this,

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Speaker 1: I was even tall talking to her about it. My

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Speaker 1: name is also my brand. I am relatively well known

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Speaker 1: freelanced designer, and my name is my business name. So

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Speaker 1: I'm knee deep in my name. That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Then yesterday I heard from one of her friends and

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Speaker 1: she is planning on formally going through with a legal

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Speaker 1: name change. I wanted to support her like I always have.

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Speaker 1: We're so close and I've always been a huge advocate

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Speaker 1: for her. But I'm having an incredibly hard time accepting this.

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Speaker 1: Am I making too big a deal about it? Can

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Speaker 1: anyone tell me what's going on? Thank you so much?

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Speaker 1: We have an edit. But before we get into that,

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Speaker 1: my good friend, Dakota, I do have to pose something

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Speaker 1: to you. Yes, if I had a sibling also named

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Speaker 1: John Fry, if you had a sibling also named Dakota Payne,

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Speaker 1: does sound kind of fun? I mean, does sound kind

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Speaker 2: It probably would be, you know best if you were

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you guys are kind of a packaged deal, right

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Speaker 1: where you go, they go, where I go?

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Speaker 2: You go do twins with maybe you know, like it's

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Speaker 2: John and then John but spelled with no H, just Joen.

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Speaker 1: So there's technically distinction. Yeah, garbage, garbage John appreciates his h's. Okay, listen,

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Speaker 1: if you are a job without an AH, I don't

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Speaker 2: Really quick side tangent. Did you know that H is

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Speaker 2: the only letter in the alphabet that has no sound like?

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Speaker 2: Try to say H by itself. It's just an exhale.

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Speaker 1: Nope, but it's not like a phonetic sound, so edits

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Speaker 1: Thank you all so much for the advice so far.

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Speaker 1: I can't tell you how much I appreciate it. I

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Speaker 1: all posted definitely. Bonus edit. Since a lot of people

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Speaker 1: Oh well, I just didn't want people I know looking

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Speaker 1: and gentlemen, the moment you've all been waiting for the updates,

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Speaker 1: I initially did. So apparently all these Facebook groups and

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Speaker 1: all their homies are like, what's what's going on? Who's who? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: We literally can't tell the difference. Were they really that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, guys, like, come on, we got to figure this out.

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Speaker 1: The mutual friend informs that no, it isn't a joke.

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Speaker 1: of my car. She she ks, yorks.

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Speaker 2: Ah, what a classic combo, dude, I'm pretty didn't Taylor

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, garfin in the back seat and then sleep that's

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Speaker 1: She was just unreleased, unreleased Willie. So I set her

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Speaker 1: I wanted to go compassionate, reasonable route, and not the

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean, first of all, I don't think you

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Speaker 1: Has this has anything been done legally yet or is

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Speaker 1: this just on Facebook? Well it's not even on Facebook.

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Speaker 1: So uh. Literally she was going to like have this

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Speaker 1: stealing Opie's name, and so ope, he's gonna strale a

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Speaker 1: framing file training gorner gets to you if you do that.

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Speaker 1: And then also she's not supportive of turned us in

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Speaker 1: I say yacking around?

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Speaker 2: There's Yeah, sometimes people just like if the situation doesn't

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Speaker 1: And also it was the friend group that collectively, the

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is weird.

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Speaker 1: I said, basically, I love you, tons and you know that,

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Speaker 1: and I've always supported you through everything always. My name

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Speaker 1: She had been listening the whole time, then interrupted me

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Speaker 2: Oh oh well, now she asked you, she gets your name.

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Speaker 2: It's too late, you butt her, bro, it's too late.

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Speaker 1: She got you, She got you your butt her got

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Speaker 1: And I get a wow, buttered much. So now I'm

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Speaker 1: It was like a Lifetime original movie. I asked her

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Speaker 1: big deal. She says that people have the same name

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Speaker 1: all the time, citing some kids that lived on the

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Speaker 1: one would by Thomas, b one is not like the

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Speaker 1: other here, like it's literally your sister, and like.

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Speaker 2: Well, This is the context of this argument essentially boils

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Speaker 2: down to my feelings matter more from like both sides,

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Speaker 2: and it's like, yeah, I think.

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Speaker 1: The one with precedent wins.

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Speaker 2: If it's been your name your whole life and you

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Speaker 2: ow and and you have a business at read surrounding,

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Speaker 2: and it's like, you know, it's my name first.

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Speaker 1: And also like maybe there's a ulterior motive here. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, because it's like, y'all, there's so many other names.

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Speaker 1: There's so many yeah, other names.

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Speaker 2: Literally you could pick out, Like I had a friend

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Speaker 2: growing up, like their family they had like nine siblings,

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Speaker 2: and they all there, all their siblings, their mom, and

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Speaker 1: All their names started with Jay. That is illegal. Well

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Speaker 1: that's my family Riley, Ryan, Richard Ryder, and then my

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Speaker 1: so you get it. She was saying it wasn't a

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Speaker 2: I mean, let your sister try to steal your name

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Speaker 2: Which is so funny to me because from my perspective,

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Speaker 1: Doesn't change it. And really, I think it's like OPI

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Speaker 1: But we have more to this story about my parents'

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Speaker 1: Yes, I totally agree. I totally agree. I think that

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Speaker 1: I told you he was always right. Now, I told

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Speaker 1: The reason I'm being so patient and nice with her

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Adder one four or

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Speaker 1: five two, And if you want to smit your own stories,

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Speaker 1: and we are the shortest relationship in the family. Three

432
00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,000
Speaker 1: of his siblings are married, and the other is in

433
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:11,560
Speaker 1: a very long term relationship. I think the shortest relationship

434
00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 1: in the bunch is five and a half years.

435
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:18,600
Speaker 2: Well, that's that's that's a lot of that's the shortest one.

436
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 1: That's the shortest one. That's as short as it gets, Dakota,

437
00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:24,240
Speaker 1: that's a lot of that's that's a lot of top

438
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:27,679
Speaker 1: down pressure. That's correct. Hey, make it, make it to

439
00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:32,960
Speaker 1: ten or your chop liver. Okay, bad joke. I will

440
00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:36,480
Speaker 1: admit I am a bit intimidated and insecure there. For

441
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:39,159
Speaker 1: Christmas this year, his sister in law made him a

442
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:42,879
Speaker 1: homemade plushy of this little blue baby dinosaur looking character

443
00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:46,639
Speaker 1: from his favorite game, Guild Wars. The plushy is amazing

444
00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,640
Speaker 1: quality and he absolutely loved it, but she didn't make

445
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 1: one for any of the other boys who also love

446
00:21:52,880 --> 00:22:00,240
Speaker 1: the game just as much, not even her husband also

447
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 1: loves the game. In fact, she went out of her

448
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,240
Speaker 1: way to give it to him without his other brothers

449
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:08,280
Speaker 1: around except for her husband. Her husband was just as

450
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,560
Speaker 1: excited for her to give his brother the gift as

451
00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:12,760
Speaker 1: she was, but it just fell off to me and

452
00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,480
Speaker 1: I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. Sorry, no,

453
00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 1: I just I wanted to just say that it's crazy

454
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 1: that they both enjoy the game, and it's also crazy

455
00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:24,399
Speaker 1: that we all just lost the game. I graduated middle school, Takoda,

456
00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:32,120
Speaker 1: I've graduated the worst. Well you did too, and now

457
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 1: like eight hundred people, So here we go. Why would

458
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,760
Speaker 1: she work so hard on something for my boyfriend and

459
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,840
Speaker 1: no one else? And it just felt like such a

460
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:43,240
Speaker 1: personal gift that I could never match. And I just

461
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:46,440
Speaker 1: felt like she totally took away from what I gave him.

462
00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:48,919
Speaker 1: I did try talking to my boyfriend about it and

463
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:51,440
Speaker 1: how I thought it was weird. He said he didn't

464
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:53,479
Speaker 1: think it was weird at all because she had always

465
00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 1: been closer to him than the other brothers. Well she

466
00:22:56,680 --> 00:23:00,000
Speaker 1: shouldn't be, Well, shouldn't she be closer to her own husband?

467
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, but yeah, that's to go to Are

468
00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 1: you sure? Are you sure you shouldn't be closer to

469
00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 1: your brother in law than to your husband?

470
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:12,160
Speaker 2: That does sound really weird out loud, Yeah, and probably

471
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:14,679
Speaker 2: it feels even weirder seeing it in real life.

472
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:17,399
Speaker 1: Well, he didn't get a plushy. I don't know. I

473
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:19,120
Speaker 1: asked him if he would give it back to her

474
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:21,840
Speaker 1: saying he can't accept it, and he refused and said,

475
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,119
Speaker 1: I'm ridiculous. That's maybe a little too far, but we'll

476
00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 1: keep going. I just feel like a woman doesn't make

477
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:29,440
Speaker 1: such a personal gift for a guy unless they see

478
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 1: them as something more. It's just how I was raised,

479
00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 1: and I hate feeling this way about something like this.

480
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 1: I talked to my mom and sister and they both

481
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:39,400
Speaker 1: agreed that it wasn't right and that this was most

482
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:43,560
Speaker 1: likely the beginning of her trying to push me out.

483
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 2: Are we sure about this? This is a lot to

484
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:48,199
Speaker 2: assume from one gift.

485
00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:51,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is like do these people just.

486
00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 2: Suck at gift gifting and they're like this is yeah,

487
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:56,560
Speaker 2: I think they're comple I mean, listen, we do some

488
00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:57,719
Speaker 2: crazy conspiracy theories.

489
00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 1: This is overly. Let me just say, let's talk about

490
00:23:59,960 --> 00:24:04,119
Speaker 1: it for a little bit. So she basically wants to

491
00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:10,000
Speaker 1: or she is uh putting her own feelings onto the situation, right,

492
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:15,280
Speaker 1: It is possible that she, I mean, maybe she thinks

493
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 1: he's like the biggest fan of it over or whatever.

494
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: Do I think it's like a little bit much? Yeah,

495
00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:23,160
Speaker 1: but like maybe truly in her head she's like, oh, hey,

496
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 1: like let me do this. He he really loves the

497
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: game the most of the brothers. That's what she thinks.

498
00:24:27,600 --> 00:24:29,480
Speaker 1: And uh, I'll make it and he'll love it. It'll

499
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: be great. Also, keep in mind the husband was there

500
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,440
Speaker 1: and was also like just as geeked to see him

501
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: get the gift. So it is it is at least

502
00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 1: totally plausible that she did not have any bad intentions

503
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:43,240
Speaker 1: with this.

504
00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, because like you also would want because is it

505
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,160
Speaker 2: is it the husband's brother or is it a different

506
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:51,880
Speaker 2: it's her husband's brother.

507
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 1: It's yes, it is uh Opie's Are they married? Yeah, yeah,

508
00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 1: it's basically her brother in law. So like why would

509
00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: you not want husband and his sister in law Opie's

510
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:04,160
Speaker 1: man and his sister.

511
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:08,439
Speaker 2: It's like, look, by the title, I was thinking it

512
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,640
Speaker 2: was something that maybe had batteries and that you use

513
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,959
Speaker 2: in the dark, but like you know what, I'm like

514
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:16,239
Speaker 2: that would be way more uncomfortable with something like that

515
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 2: and something like this.

516
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,359
Speaker 1: This just seems like it's kind of mostly I don't know,

517
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,640
Speaker 1: like Christmas for the whole family thoughtful, Like am I

518
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: I don't know, mind, I could just be thoughtful, a thoughtful,

519
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 1: platonic like family gift.

520
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:28,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like you want to have a good

521
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 2: relationship with your brother in law anyway, Like no, oh,

522
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 2: you know, you just want that.

523
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 1: I don't want peace. I want problems always type beat. Yeah,

524
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 1: that is the quote I've been looking for. That is

525
00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:43,360
Speaker 1: the quote I've been looking for. I want problems, not peace.

526
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 1: I the one piece. I want problems always. So yeah,

527
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: I feel like they're jumping to a conclusion, but maybe

528
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: they're not. Yeah, maybe this is maybe they have more

529
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 1: context that we don't. That's right, you know, that's right. Okay,

530
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 1: so we're gonna keep going. So I just can't help

531
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,880
Speaker 1: feel like she was trying to make him like her

532
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: more than me because he said that she has never

533
00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:08,919
Speaker 1: given him anything before, and this is our first Christmas together.

534
00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 1: I just don't know what to think or if I'm

535
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 1: overthinking this completely and we have another update and I'm

536
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 1: not going to overthink it and dive right in bang.

537
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: So my first post wasn't popular by any means, but

538
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: I got a decent amount of comments, so I figured

539
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:26,920
Speaker 1: I would update. I went a few weeks without saying

540
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 1: anything else about the subjects because everyone on here seemed

541
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:33,120
Speaker 1: to disagree with my side of things. Then last Saturday,

542
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: he told me that he was going to be spending

543
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 1: the day at his brother's just to hang out. We

544
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:40,200
Speaker 1: generally make plans on Saturdays, but I hadn't had the

545
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: chance to make official plans with him yet. I just

546
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 1: figured it was implied at this point, so I asked

547
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:48,640
Speaker 1: him if I would be allowed to go over there

548
00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: with him. That's when he told me that it was

549
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: just going to be a day with him and his brother.

550
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 1: So I reminded him that since it's his brother's house,

551
00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:58,399
Speaker 1: then most likely his wife will be present too, so

552
00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: I didn't really see how it was fair. Ultimately, it

553
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 1: blew up and I told him everything brought up the

554
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,400
Speaker 1: gift again and just how I feel intimidated by everyone

555
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 1: and feel like his sister in law is on some

556
00:27:11,000 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: pedestal or something because she gets to be there and

557
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 1: I don't. I also mentioned how I just feel like

558
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 1: I was being pushed out by her and the gift

559
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:23,479
Speaker 1: made me feel uneasy. And maybe I guess the argument

560
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,680
Speaker 1: is not this is necessarily trying to get with him,

561
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 1: but is she trying to put her to shame, to

562
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: kick her out of or like shame her out of

563
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:36,159
Speaker 1: the family, which is at least more plausible. Yeah, but

564
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:40,000
Speaker 1: like and the shame is coming from like what like you're, oh,

565
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: where's your custom made plushy and custom things and everything in.

566
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 2: The exactly So it seems like this is coming from Wow,

567
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 2: she gave such a better gift than me. Now I

568
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 2: feel like that's a problem.

569
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 1: Oh right, right right right?

570
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,919
Speaker 2: Yes, And they're sure there could be, but there's not

571
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:00,920
Speaker 2: enough info so far in this post. Yeah, I guarantee

572
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 2: you that in the comments for this, one of the

573
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 2: top ones is gonna be info. Why do you think this?

574
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,080
Speaker 2: Like what other things have happened to make you think

575
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 2: this is? Like she's she she cares more for the

576
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:15,199
Speaker 2: brother in law than her husband. Yeah, where where are

577
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:15,879
Speaker 2: you coming from with that?

578
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,520
Speaker 1: Totally? Yeah? I think someone said that, oh yeah, miss

579
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: jay Bird, Op is hella insecure? Like yeah, I think

580
00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: that that she's like kind of projecting a lot of

581
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 1: stuff on these issues when it's like you you don't

582
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:30,240
Speaker 1: know that for a fact, we can't. We can't just

583
00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 1: like blanket.

584
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:34,240
Speaker 2: As It's like, Op's like, no one reacted like that

585
00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:37,720
Speaker 2: to my Hallmark candles that I bought?

586
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 1: What well? They people? They stinky? They stinky candles. It

587
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:46,200
Speaker 1: doesn't smell like cinnamon. It smells like those mugs. Is

588
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 1: like Gwyneth Paltrow candles for real, for real? Well they're good.

589
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 1: What the freak am I doing? I'm gonna get back

590
00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:57,320
Speaker 1: to this story, so here we go. He was frustrated

591
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 1: and told me that he was going to his brothers

592
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 1: and that he would to me later. So I spent

593
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:06,200
Speaker 1: all Saturday morning on edge and he just completely jealous.

594
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 1: Then around one pm, his sister in law called me.

595
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 1: I guess he gave her my number and asked me

596
00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 1: if I was free to meet her for some coffee.

597
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: I was confused, but agreed to have coffee with her.

598
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 1: I expected it to be awkward at the coffee shop.

599
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 1: She wasted no time to tell me that my boyfriend

600
00:29:23,640 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: had told her everything. Dude. Also, dude, elle, move on

601
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: boyfriend part Just go like you have a conversation. Yeah,

602
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 1: maybe she's being insecure, but like, don't go freaking run

603
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 1: and tell her me. Ye not a cool boyfriend moved.

604
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: Cool boyfriend moved not at all. She said she wanted

605
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,320
Speaker 1: to me for dinner because she wanted me to see

606
00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,600
Speaker 1: her face and see that she was genuine in everything.

607
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 1: She has to say she wanted to explain that she

608
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: had no feelings for him in the way I was

609
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: implying to him, and no intention of pushing me out.

610
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,120
Speaker 1: She said her original plan was to make the plushy

611
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 1: for all the boys since they played the game, but

612
00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: it took her way too much time to make one,

613
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: so she gave it to her favorite brother in law.

614
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:07,360
Speaker 2: I mean, okay, I think this is I think I

615
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:09,960
Speaker 2: could believe this. It's like if she did this and

616
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 2: then gave it to her ex boyfriend, then I'd be

617
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 2: more like, that's weird.

618
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:19,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's her brother and brother law that everyone

619
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 1: you want to you want to want to make a

620
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 1: good impression in the family, you want to build a

621
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,800
Speaker 1: good bond, Like Yeah, I don't see anything optically wrong

622
00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 1: with that at all. I question why not her husband,

623
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 1: and she said that she lives with them, and he

624
00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:33,479
Speaker 1: knew she was making it in the first place, and

625
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: that she could make him want any time and just

626
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 1: wanted to give that one to be a surprise Christmas present. Again,

627
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 1: facts are checking out. I told her that I still

628
00:30:41,560 --> 00:30:44,600
Speaker 1: kind of thought it was inappropriate since he was in

629
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: a relationship. Now, sorry, I just I just realized where

630
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:49,960
Speaker 1: all this is coming from. It's it's all the it's

631
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: all the there's got to be this like crazy emphasis

632
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: on the long term relationships and the respect and the

633
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: boundaries and this and that, and it's like the hyperfixation

634
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: on that, and I just feel like this person's like, well,

635
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 1: I mean, it's really this is not that serious where

636
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: it's like this needed to go to your husband.

637
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 2: It's like wow, and it's like I could live, Hello,

638
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: I live. I could give this to my husband any

639
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 2: day of the week.

640
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's she's like over analyzing, like oh god,

641
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 1: I'm like I've only been in for like a year

642
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 1: and it's like they're like five and a half and like, frick,

643
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: Like you're just trying to like show me off because

644
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 1: you're like in such a long relationship.

645
00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 2: Is yeah, And it's like, no, come on, it's okay.

646
00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 2: It's just human behavior, normal human behavior.

647
00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 1: So I told her that I was still that I

648
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 1: still kind of thought I was inappropriate since he was

649
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: in a relationship now, and she just paused it, didn't

650
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 1: say anything for a few seconds. Then she asked me

651
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 1: if there was anything else that was bothering me. Dude,

652
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,480
Speaker 1: the more I hear, the more. I'm like, dude, the

653
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: sistern in law is freaking great, like yeah, navigating us.

654
00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:50,560
Speaker 1: I used today as an example and said it bothered

655
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 1: me that he went to her house and told me

656
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: I couldn't come because it was a day with his brother,

657
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: even though she would obviously be.

658
00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 2: There still fishing though, because wait, I'm am I confused.

659
00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: The other day Opie's Opie's husband was like, oh, hey,

660
00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:09,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go hang out with brother, you know, and

661
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: she's like, well, can't I come. He's like, well, this

662
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 1: is kind of like, uh, you know, brother time, you know,

663
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 1: hanging out. But you said it was a brother time.

664
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 1: But guess guess what, you're there, sister in law. How

665
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 1: can it be brother time if you, sister in law,

666
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 1: are living in the house that you co own with

667
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:28,560
Speaker 1: your husband.

668
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: It's like right, It's like, but his wife is there.

669
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 2: It's like, yeah she is, But where I'm hanging out

670
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 2: with him?

671
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like what are we talking about? We just like

672
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 1: freaking watching some soaps or something while they're in the

673
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: in the boys room. Yeah, I mean boy stuff.

674
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 2: It's literally it's being like suss about like yeah, but

675
00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:47,680
Speaker 2: his wife is there.

676
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 1: That doesn't make any sense. Like, how about you get

677
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:52,520
Speaker 1: in you why don't you get in the car, get

678
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 1: get out of the house. That that you that is

679
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: your house, Get out of your house and drive away,

680
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,959
Speaker 1: drive away, because you are clearly ruining the sanctity of

681
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 1: a boys time. Can you imagine saying that to your wife, Hey,

682
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: you gotta get out. It's boys boy's day. Go to

683
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:12,640
Speaker 1: the go, just go get Like what yeah, Dreadale, Like

684
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 1: it's like a pet, like you just let her out?

685
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 1: Like what are you trying about, Opie? So she told

686
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 1: me that that she told me that it is a

687
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:23,720
Speaker 1: day with his brother and that just because she lives

688
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 1: in the house doesn't change that. She said that she

689
00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:28,680
Speaker 1: just kept to herself, doing her own things while the

690
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: boys played video games with each other, and that my

691
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 1: boyfriend came over to her when she was in the

692
00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 1: kitchen to talk to her about me. Briefly, I didn't

693
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 1: say anything. I still felt a bit jealous, but I

694
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:42,000
Speaker 1: just didn't know what to say. She then asked me

695
00:33:42,040 --> 00:33:44,160
Speaker 1: if I had anything else I wanted to get out,

696
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 1: and I declined. She said that she didn't want to

697
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: part ways without giving me some advice. She went on

698
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,480
Speaker 1: to say that she thinks I'm a very nice girl,

699
00:33:52,480 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 1: and that the entire family feels that way, and wanted

700
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 1: to remind me that all of the spouses and significant

701
00:33:57,400 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 1: others were new to the family at one point. She

702
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,880
Speaker 1: then went on about how it takes time to feel

703
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:06,719
Speaker 1: a closeness with everyone and that she went through it too. Again,

704
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 1: I can't see the error.

705
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:13,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like one person has a healthy comprehension

706
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:16,839
Speaker 2: of like relationship dynamics in a family and the other

707
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:22,720
Speaker 2: one might not. Crazy hot take there, stay toxic, stay

708
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 2: freaking toxic.

709
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:27,800
Speaker 1: So God, Florida John is here today, Florida John, baby

710
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: Canadian tucks John from Florida to you. As crazy as

711
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:34,680
Speaker 1: your jean jacket blends into that couch. I am the

712
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 1: couch one with his environments. You're so right, though. She

713
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:41,800
Speaker 1: then said that she didn't want to come across the

714
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 1: wrong way, but that I needed to work hard on

715
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:47,400
Speaker 1: my insecurities or else I would lose my boyfriend. She

716
00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:49,720
Speaker 1: went on and on saying how I am so nice

717
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:51,600
Speaker 1: and that I'm ruining a good thing by letting myself

718
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 1: overthink these things and by being so insecure. She told

719
00:34:54,680 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 1: me to really think about how I am acting over

720
00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:00,800
Speaker 1: his own sister in law interacting with him. That's when

721
00:35:01,360 --> 00:35:05,799
Speaker 1: my stupid brain made me so, Well, if you were

722
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: to get a divorce, then you wouldn't be his sister

723
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 1: in law and you would be just another woman in

724
00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:10,760
Speaker 1: his life.

725
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 2: Oh what a that's a great hypothetical. Hey, if the

726
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 2: moon were made out of cheese, would you eat it?

727
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 2: Because that's yes, that question has about the same weight.

728
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 1: I love cheese. Oh God, give me the moon cheese. Hi.

729
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:27,960
Speaker 1: Hey my hi. If the moon might aspire ribs, would

730
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 1: you ate it? Like? What are we talking about, folks?

731
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 1: That's not the case. I mean, that'd be fire. Though,

732
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:36,239
Speaker 1: it would be fire. That was the moment that it

733
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 1: finally hit me how crazy I was being. She gave

734
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 1: me a look and said, well, we aren't getting a

735
00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 1: divorced so.

736
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:52,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, so yeah, but that's not happening

737
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:54,680
Speaker 2: anything else. Yeah, what if the oh my god, the

738
00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 2: huns are attacking. Oh the Mongol hoard is Oh wait

739
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 2: no they're not, They're not here nothing. Well, if the

740
00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:05,359
Speaker 2: Mongol Horde came and raided our villages.

741
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 1: Be different. It ain't happen in jan And I just

742
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:12,839
Speaker 1: felt completely embarrassed and apologized. She then very nicely told

743
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 1: me that on second thought, she thinks I might not

744
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:17,839
Speaker 1: be ready for a relationship at all, and that I

745
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 1: really need to work on myself. That was pretty much

746
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:22,839
Speaker 1: the end of it, and we parted ways. I spent

747
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 1: the rest of the weekend crying and hating myself. Oh no,

748
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: my boyfriend didn't call me or text me at all. Finally,

749
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: on Monday, he asked if he could come over. So

750
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:35,439
Speaker 1: he came over and asked how it went with sister

751
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 1: in law, and I figured he knew everything, but he

752
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: said that all she said was that he needed to

753
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,280
Speaker 1: talk to me. Turns out that we didn't. It turns

754
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 1: out that he didn't talk to me all weekend because

755
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:48,759
Speaker 1: he was angry with how I acted about him going

756
00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: to his brother's house and then bringing up the gift again,

757
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 1: and he just needed some space. I mean, honestly, I

758
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:56,520
Speaker 1: kind of you know.

759
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 2: I don't like the ghost. If that's the case, just

760
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,759
Speaker 2: say that, don't be silent about it, Yes, say it.

761
00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 2: Communicate like I just need some space for me this weekend,

762
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 2: and we'll talk on money, and it's like, don't don't

763
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 2: freak out, still care about you. I just need a

764
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 2: little time to process my thoughts solo style, and like

765
00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 2: people just need to learn how to respect that and

766
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 2: not freak out about it, because if you freak out

767
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,839
Speaker 2: about that, I don't think maybe you're ready for, you know,

768
00:37:24,680 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 2: the real relationship, or a healthy one at least it's

769
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: bit in hard facts.

770
00:37:28,320 --> 00:37:30,920
Speaker 1: Because sometimes separation is healthy. It's bitten hard facts. Man.

771
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 1: He told me that he wasn't going to put up

772
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 1: with this type of behavior and that is putting way

773
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: too much unnecessary drama into his life. As I'm sure

774
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 1: you're all probably guessing he proceeded to break up with me.

775
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: We weren't guessing that. That's not what were you guessing that?

776
00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 2: I mean, I was kind thinking it was bleeding there,

777
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 2: see the you bro. It just seems like.

778
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: It just happened so sudden. I just wasn't ready for it.

779
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 2: I feel like this isn't the first time something like

780
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:03,279
Speaker 2: this has probably happened. And it's also like, you know,

781
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 2: it was a it might have been a game time decision,

782
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:08,399
Speaker 2: you know, like it might have been like a all right,

783
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:10,600
Speaker 2: I'm taking some time to collect myself now, I'm gonna

784
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 2: go meet back up with you and let's talk. And

785
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 2: like literally it could have been like in the moment,

786
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:16,839
Speaker 2: like I'm realizing through this conversation now that it's like

787
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 2: I don't think we're gonna be compatible. If this is

788
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,279
Speaker 2: like your point of view, this is your perspective, I

789
00:38:23,280 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 2: don't think that going forward. I think we should just

790
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 2: stop wasting our time and figure something else out. And

791
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 2: I think OP definitely needs to like, you know, like

792
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:35,240
Speaker 2: like spending the whole weekend like being angry at yourself

793
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 2: and like hating yourself over this is like not also

794
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 2: not the right way, yeah to go about that, And

795
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:42,759
Speaker 2: it's like you don't need to you know, what are

796
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:49,720
Speaker 2: the ages here, like the early twenties fourteen? Just kidding,

797
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 2: I mean there do be Like I mean, you're never

798
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 2: too old to be emotionally immature.

799
00:38:57,120 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 1: We don't know, but remember I think there's an age

800
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: disparity here too, because everyone else has had five and

801
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 1: a halfy relationship. Yeah, this one is like it's like

802
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 1: really new.

803
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 2: So there's probably that top down pressure too from the

804
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:10,560
Speaker 2: family of like, oh my god, I need to be

805
00:39:10,600 --> 00:39:11,920
Speaker 2: in this long relationship and it easy to be this

806
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:13,399
Speaker 2: and easy to that and blah blah blah blah, bah blah,

807
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 2: and but self imposed and the boyfriend is just like, hey,

808
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:17,480
Speaker 2: maybe I'm not about that.

809
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's okay, as I'm sure you're probably guessing.

810
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: He proceeded to break up with me. He told me

811
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 1: he really cared about me, but just can't imagine how

812
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,320
Speaker 1: bad it will get in the future if I'm already

813
00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:30,280
Speaker 1: acting like this with people who are family. I begged

814
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: him not to leave and that I would do everything

815
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: to change, and he just put bunch, Yeah, no, it's

816
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 1: just day too, got a tango. Man. I don't think

817
00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 1: you're ready for a relationship like that, OPI. I think

818
00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: you need to do some work in the uh.

819
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,640
Speaker 2: I think you need to get cooking in the mental kitchen,

820
00:39:45,200 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 2: get a little get a little perspective, maybe do a

821
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 2: little you know, it's so easy to just and I

822
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 2: do realize it's so easy to say you just need

823
00:39:53,200 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 2: to go get some therapy.

824
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:55,920
Speaker 1: But there's a lot more that just goes into that.

825
00:39:55,960 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 2: It's really easy to say that, yes, but like that

826
00:39:59,160 --> 00:40:02,000
Speaker 2: is the best way I think to approach a situation

827
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 2: like this where you you're kind of like lost in

828
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 2: your own thoughts. You're spending a whole weekend hating yourself.

829
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:09,759
Speaker 1: The same way cool that when remember when she was like, oh,

830
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 1: I said this out loud and I realized how crazy

831
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 1: it was. Guess what happens when you say out loud

832
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: all of your thoughts to someone else, unfiltered and have

833
00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 1: a space for it.

834
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, they they're able to go, hey, maybe let's let's

835
00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:24,760
Speaker 2: unpack that a little. Let's let's revisit this sentence. Yeah,

836
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:27,520
Speaker 2: let's can we analyze that a little more critically? And

837
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:30,440
Speaker 2: then you go, oh my god, you're right. Sister law

838
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 2: wants to my f my boyfriend because she made him

839
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,359
Speaker 2: a plushy and it's his favorite game.

840
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 1: Now, I will say therapy is a good option, but

841
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:40,120
Speaker 1: there are other things like you know, if you if

842
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: you go to Spotify or Apple podcast or your favorite

843
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 1: podcast out and look, you do this thing called typing

844
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:49,919
Speaker 1: you search. Okay, storytime, there are one hundred and four

845
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: straight days of content that will give you good goofy advice,

846
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 1: good advice, goofley, good advice, goofully. You know, so that

847
00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 1: is also hey, hey, listen, guess what guess how expensive

848
00:40:58,120 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: is that to go to?

849
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:01,840
Speaker 2: Literally like it's well, I guess it varies, you know,

850
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 2: it depends on where it's free.

851
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 1: It's free. It's Spotify. Yeah, oh yeah, Spotify is free.

852
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:10,399
Speaker 1: All the podcasts are just free. Yeah that's okay.

853
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 2: So yeah, it's it varies from free to also free

854
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 2: and also zero dollars.

855
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:16,240
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly.

856
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you just need to have a device that

857
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 2: you can listen to it on. So how very much

858
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 2: that costs?

859
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:26,000
Speaker 1: Is? How how much it costs? Well Dakota gets the

860
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 1: full Excel spreadsheet of all the god.

861
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:30,760
Speaker 2: It's like figuring out like the like the carbon emissions

862
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:32,560
Speaker 2: cost of like say, all right, well they burned this

863
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 2: much diesel to mix the concrete and then make this

864
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 2: and then do that and then blah.

865
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah. Yeah we're gonna we're gonna get

866
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 1: back to this story and all that could have said together.

867
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 1: So I haven't heard from him since, and I feel

868
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 1: like I had my heart ripped out and stompedn't Oh

869
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:50,839
Speaker 1: oh my god, And I know that this is all

870
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: my fault. I have my mom and sister telling me

871
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: how it's good riddance. By the way she learned this

872
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:57,920
Speaker 1: from the mom, I think, there you go, and how

873
00:41:57,960 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 1: he broke up with me so that way he wouldn't

874
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 1: have anything holding him back.

875
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 2: From his sister in law, and this just broke me.

876
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:06,879
Speaker 2: So there's the top down right there, there's a top

877
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 2: down pressure.

878
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 1: I am so done with my family and the way

879
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:13,000
Speaker 1: they put these toxic ideas in my head. Wait a minute,

880
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 1: what this is peas family? But right? So wait, did

881
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 1: you just be is ope? Self aware? She now is?

882
00:42:19,239 --> 00:42:19,960
Speaker 1: But it's too late.

883
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 2: Okay, that's confusing to me. That's just really through me. Well,

884
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 2: I mean she did so.

885
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:30,600
Speaker 1: Like earlier in the conversation with Decision Law, she did say,

886
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:32,400
Speaker 1: this is when I realized how crazy I was. Why

887
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:34,760
Speaker 1: I hope she has some self awareness, but then keeps tripping.

888
00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,360
Speaker 2: It seems like she immediately became aware that her family

889
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 2: is the one poisoning her brain.

890
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 1: Here she I think she knows that, which is great.

891
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:43,880
Speaker 1: I think that's good. Yes, So yeah, not a happy

892
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:46,920
Speaker 1: update from here. I am planning on working on myself

893
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 1: and hope to someday maybe convince him to give me

894
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 1: another chance. I don't know why I wrote this update.

895
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 1: It just feels so good to It just feels so

896
00:42:54,040 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: good to get out, I guess, and further convinces me

897
00:42:56,960 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: I need to change. There we go, We're left on

898
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 1: the cliffing, but you know what, he just keep just

899
00:43:02,120 --> 00:43:03,680
Speaker 1: get on that train and just keep going.

900
00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:05,759
Speaker 2: Honestly, Yeah, that's not even to me, that's not even

901
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:08,839
Speaker 2: a cliffhanger. That's like you've now become acutely aware that

902
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 2: your family is toxic and you have behaviors you need

903
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,359
Speaker 2: to change. And that's like a lot of people have

904
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:16,799
Speaker 2: to spend a lot of time in therapy to even

905
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 2: get there. So like you're doing great that, don't you know,

906
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 2: try not to focus to I gotta say, they got

907
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:24,800
Speaker 2: to be young if that's how they're thinking about the

908
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:26,839
Speaker 2: the six month boyfriend and like all this stuff, It's

909
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:29,360
Speaker 2: like I get you know, six months is not nothing

910
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 2: relationship for sure, But it's also not like you know

911
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:36,400
Speaker 2: the it clearly this was not a soulmate or type scenario.

912
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 2: It's not this is not like the end of your

913
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 2: romantic life. It's like, you don't need to don't. I

914
00:43:41,239 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 2: would not get hung up on this one guy being

915
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 2: like maybe I can get him to take me back.

916
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 2: It's more just like work on yourself, focus on you,

917
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 2: and then the right situation will find you.

918
00:43:51,400 --> 00:43:54,640
Speaker 1: And when you're doing all that self work, how well

919
00:43:54,680 --> 00:43:58,760
Speaker 1: is that going to prepare you for the next relationship,

920
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 1: you know, like you who you are going. I feel

921
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:04,880
Speaker 1: like Opie will look back on this, especially now that

922
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,400
Speaker 1: she's hey, she's being aware, She's like, I want to

923
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 1: keep going down this path, Like I feel like she'll

924
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:10,640
Speaker 1: look at this as kind of like a pivotal moment

925
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: of like, yeah, so get ready, folks. My sister disrespected

926
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: my boyfriend at a party, but my family wants me

927
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:21,439
Speaker 1: to apologize. You should just be the bigger person, no

928
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:27,320
Speaker 1: and squash them. Yeah, yes, squash like a bug. Oh hey, guys,

929
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 1: this is a long one, so buckle up. There's a

930
00:44:29,440 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 1: couple of people in my family involved, so bear with me.

931
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 1: So I female thirty one, was invited by my mom

932
00:44:35,320 --> 00:44:37,960
Speaker 1: to attend my nephew's first birthday celebration for turning one

933
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:42,560
Speaker 1: years old. Congrats baby, Hey, keep keep in mind my

934
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,440
Speaker 1: mother invited me, not my sister. By the way, this

935
00:44:45,480 --> 00:44:49,080
Speaker 1: comes from Soggy Swing twenty seven o nine and if

936
00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: you would to send it your own soggy story got

937
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:54,319
Speaker 1: all our slashtokey story time freaking send it in now.

938
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 1: This was in November. I of course am going because

939
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:59,800
Speaker 1: I love being an aunt and want to be supportive

940
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 1: at the time. I was seven months pregnant with my

941
00:45:01,920 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 1: second child. When I was visiting my mom's house, sister

942
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 1: female thirty nine was also there, and when discussing plans

943
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:10,799
Speaker 1: for my nephew's nephew's birthday, she tells me that I

944
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:13,399
Speaker 1: don't have to come, and that my first child, who

945
00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:15,640
Speaker 1: is three years old at the time, can come. How

946
00:45:15,640 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 1: are they gonna get there? The baby car there are three?

947
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, just like one of the little they just

948
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 1: like watch Fred Flintstone bro. When I was in I

949
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 1: was scooting, I could have gotten there.

950
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 2: It's like, sorry, boss, I was late to work as

951
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:29,840
Speaker 2: I got stuck by in one of those baby cars.

952
00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: Maybe I couldn't poop in a toilet, but could I

953
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:35,280
Speaker 1: drive a baby car? Like ten miles to my auntie

954
00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: percent undred percent? Now? I was shocked, but told her no,

955
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 1: why don't I come to my own nephew's birthday celebration.

956
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:45,239
Speaker 1: I thought it was weird for her to say that,

957
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 1: but I brushed it off at first, and it went

958
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,919
Speaker 1: right over my head that my mom fifty six sent

959
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:53,319
Speaker 1: me the invite, not my sister, via text, in a

960
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:57,719
Speaker 1: cute invitation flyer. M so just breaking that down, So

961
00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 1: I understand that Opie's mom had sent Ope the invite,

962
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 1: not her sister, but the sister's now saying that she

963
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: can't come. When I read the details, I saw my

964
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 1: sister and her child's father wanted to have it this

965
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:14,439
Speaker 1: child's this children's event space, which is forty minutes into

966
00:46:14,440 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 1: the city away from my house. This meant getting on

967
00:46:17,600 --> 00:46:21,640
Speaker 1: the expressway and in that direction. I get anxiety. So

968
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 1: maybe is it like a oh, like, you don't have

969
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:27,319
Speaker 1: to come if you don't want to, because I don't

970
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 1: know if you don't want to go there?

971
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:34,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't Is this like a tactical They're like, oh,

972
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:36,480
Speaker 2: I definitely know she won't go because she doesn't like

973
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 2: driving on the highway in that direction, which, like, you know,

974
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:45,839
Speaker 2: to each their own, but quite ridiculous to be like, yeah,

975
00:46:45,960 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 2: just let your three year old go without you?

976
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:52,320
Speaker 1: What is that? What is that? That's a little bit insane?

977
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:55,800
Speaker 1: What does that take? Yeah? Yeah, this is weird. I'm confused.

978
00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 1: So my pregnancy wasn't a smooth sailing and I had

979
00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: some difficulty. So I asked my boyfriend of eight years

980
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:03,719
Speaker 1: forty one if he could take me and it would

981
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:05,479
Speaker 1: be nice for us to buy a gift as well.

982
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 1: At first he didn't want to go, but of course,

983
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 1: seeing as I'm pregnant and he's super supportive of me,

984
00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:13,320
Speaker 1: I didn't have to convince him to go. For context,

985
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 1: my sister dislikes my boyfriend and he doesn't care much

986
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:18,920
Speaker 1: for her either. For years, she would walk past him

987
00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:21,799
Speaker 1: and ignore him, rude. She would make him feel bad

988
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:24,359
Speaker 1: by acting like a total witch towards me. Even at

989
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 1: other family gatherings. She would ask me why is he

990
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:31,520
Speaker 1: even a how? Or I had you are coming along

991
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:35,439
Speaker 1: and proceeded to ignore him and me the entire time.

992
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:38,719
Speaker 1: What is this? He's like, why did you even why

993
00:47:38,760 --> 00:47:43,200
Speaker 1: didn't your baby come here? Out? Lie? Beg baby to

994
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 1: the bar? Like your baby's sug right, but you guys

995
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 1: are trash. Let's give that baby a bottle? Yeah? Just

996
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:54,360
Speaker 1: like what like do they do they? Yeah? Let's dude.

997
00:47:54,640 --> 00:47:55,879
Speaker 1: I'm stupefied here.

998
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 2: I just got hit with the stupefi Harry Potter SPUPI

999
00:47:58,920 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 2: fuck nice And I'm like.

1000
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:04,520
Speaker 1: Oh, hey, what's going on? Guys? I don't know babies

1001
00:48:04,560 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 1: can drive cars? You have a husband. No, I don't

1002
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:12,320
Speaker 1: know how to act in a social setting. That's crazy.

1003
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,520
Speaker 1: That is the wife right now, that's sister. Oh now,

1004
00:48:15,560 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 1: she had a nasty attitude. She's known in the family

1005
00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 1: as the one with the bad attitude, tough exterior, the

1006
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,960
Speaker 1: don't went mess with her, and no one has held

1007
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 1: her accountable for all the time. She's made people who

1008
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:29,239
Speaker 1: come around her uncomfortable, and though we are grown now,

1009
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 1: my mother doesn't do anything to check on her on

1010
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 1: how she acts, especially towards me and my partner, like

1011
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 1: this past summer she cussed at me and my boyfriend

1012
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:41,239
Speaker 1: out through a text over a misunderstanding and made it

1013
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: about my boyfriend as if I was in the wrong.

1014
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:46,879
Speaker 1: She has made me feel horrible for years, ever since

1015
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: I was younger. She wasn't so nice growing up, and

1016
00:48:49,080 --> 00:48:51,359
Speaker 1: it has affected my self esteem and not knowing how

1017
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:53,400
Speaker 1: to stand up to her. But as the youngest of

1018
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:56,839
Speaker 1: three girls, I was always deemed the spoiled one, and

1019
00:48:56,920 --> 00:49:01,640
Speaker 1: I've never disrespected either of my See how they didn't

1020
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 1: deny that they were spoiled, though I've been considered the

1021
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 1: spoiled one, but I never disrespected my sisters. But I

1022
00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 1: was spoil The fact is that the youngest effect is

1023
00:49:12,440 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 1: very real, very but there was no disrespect, but there

1024
00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:19,800
Speaker 1: was no disrepect, but I was spoiled, allegedly, allegedly and allegedly.

1025
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 1: So fast forward to the day of the birthday party place,

1026
00:49:22,920 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 1: which was further than I expected from our house. Uh

1027
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:28,920
Speaker 1: and with no parking available. Street parking up north is

1028
00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 1: a nightmare. Come visit la Uh. I was so glad

1029
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: my boyfriend drove. I came into the party happy and

1030
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: all smiles, were ready to have some fun. And if

1031
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 1: we recalled just quick foreshadowing, sister said, you don't need

1032
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:46,000
Speaker 1: to come, okay, but she's there. Exactly exactly is this

1033
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 1: is the rug. I sensed the rug. The hands are

1034
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 1: on the rug, and the rugg is getting your enemy yanked.

1035
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:55,680
Speaker 1: I came in with positive vibes, just for my sister

1036
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: to act stand offish with me. The entire time. I

1037
00:49:58,800 --> 00:50:01,879
Speaker 1: was oblivious as to why. But for context, remember when

1038
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 1: I said she cussed me out like I was a

1039
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 1: random person on the street. She also cussed out my

1040
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:09,480
Speaker 1: boyfriend in the text, calling him out his name. Yeah,

1041
00:50:09,600 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 1: so she gave me a weak apology and I felt

1042
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 1: it wasn't genuine. I told her she had no reason

1043
00:50:14,080 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 1: to do that to me. Absolutely no reason, and she

1044
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:18,640
Speaker 1: chose to hurt me with her words, and that I

1045
00:50:18,640 --> 00:50:21,720
Speaker 1: would appreciate if she left my boyfriend out of things

1046
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 1: and didn't call him out his name. She tells me

1047
00:50:24,760 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 1: she doesn't have a problem with him and she'll only

1048
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:30,400
Speaker 1: speak to him if he speaks to her first. Mind you,

1049
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:34,000
Speaker 1: him and her haven't had any verbal altercation, and through

1050
00:50:34,080 --> 00:50:36,800
Speaker 1: all the disrespect over the years, he's been calm, cool

1051
00:50:36,880 --> 00:50:40,240
Speaker 1: and collected. But he slowly distanced himself from my family,

1052
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:42,480
Speaker 1: especially my sisters, who he tried his best to be

1053
00:50:42,480 --> 00:50:45,719
Speaker 1: cool with, only keeping contact with my with my mother,

1054
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: but lo and behold. A verbal altercation happened at my

1055
00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:56,360
Speaker 1: nephew's birthday party, Yes, the one turning one years old.

1056
00:50:56,440 --> 00:50:57,120
Speaker 1: Gotta love that.

1057
00:50:57,200 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 2: In case you forgot, I'll getting into vocal spa at

1058
00:51:00,680 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 2: the toddler's birthday party.

1059
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 1: Dude. That that is maturity right there. That's how you

1060
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: you know how to read a room? Yeah, I guarantee

1061
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: you it's They won't even remember when they're older, dude,

1062
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: that's right. It'll just get baked into their frontal love.

1063
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 1: They won't even know why they are the way they are,

1064
00:51:18,080 --> 00:51:21,160
Speaker 1: and then they'll access and be like that's crazy. I'm

1065
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 1: a madman, as I was unaware because I was too

1066
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:25,680
Speaker 1: busy mingling with my mom's friends, who I invited because

1067
00:51:25,719 --> 00:51:28,760
Speaker 1: my sister doesn't even have mom friends. Heck, she doesn't

1068
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:32,640
Speaker 1: even have any friends period. So the verbal altercation happened

1069
00:51:32,719 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 1: because she hit my man with her child's car seat,

1070
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 1: said excuse me, but didn't give him enough time to

1071
00:51:40,160 --> 00:51:43,239
Speaker 1: move in which he only called her a weirdo, and

1072
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 1: she hit him with you're a witch. Mmm, I'm guessing

1073
00:51:46,680 --> 00:51:50,319
Speaker 1: that you're actually the witch. That's what it sounded like.

1074
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 1: This is some You're trying to do some sorcery to

1075
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: turn it around, but it is on you.

1076
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:58,120
Speaker 2: You're trying to cast I am rubber and you are glue.

1077
00:51:58,200 --> 00:51:59,279
Speaker 2: But in fact it's you.

1078
00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:04,919
Speaker 1: Just do you when Gotti of Leavio saw which how

1079
00:52:05,040 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: I didn't hear that happening, I don't know, But my

1080
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:10,400
Speaker 1: boyfriend didn't say a word to me about it. Neither

1081
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:12,600
Speaker 1: did my mom's coworkers, who were there as well with

1082
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,319
Speaker 1: their grandchildren. Not until we're getting ready to go, I

1083
00:52:15,320 --> 00:52:17,799
Speaker 1: had already said my goodbyes to everyone else and was

1084
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:20,680
Speaker 1: going to say goodbye to my sister. I almost forgot

1085
00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 1: to tell her about the gift we brought, because she

1086
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 1: was barely speaking to me, so I came over to

1087
00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:26,239
Speaker 1: say goodbye and give her a hug. She had this

1088
00:52:26,320 --> 00:52:31,360
Speaker 1: angry look on her face and was stiff when I

1089
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 1: reached for a hug. I finally asked her what was wrong,

1090
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:37,840
Speaker 1: and she immediately loudly shout out at me, your witch

1091
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 1: booty baby daddy. Hey, maybe don't say that he can't

1092
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:43,759
Speaker 1: handle these car seats. I'm chucking on them. Maybe don't.

1093
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:46,879
Speaker 2: Maybe don't be saying that. Hey, hey, your man can't

1094
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 2: handle a car seat.

1095
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 1: That's not my fault. That's not my fault. He's not

1096
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:51,760
Speaker 1: built for it. Man's not built for the car seat.

1097
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 1: Man's not built for it. Dude. He called me a weirdo.

1098
00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: The glote wasn't even over. He called me a weirdo. Well,

1099
00:52:59,080 --> 00:53:01,880
Speaker 1: you're acting like a real weird Oh, dude, that is

1100
00:53:01,920 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: so true. That is wow. I was completely taken aback,

1101
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:08,200
Speaker 1: and at the same time, in my mind I was like, what,

1102
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:11,520
Speaker 1: that's it. That's what got you so mad. I almost

1103
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:13,239
Speaker 1: thought it was a bad joke being played on me.

1104
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:15,360
Speaker 1: I was a little angry with him at first because

1105
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:17,880
Speaker 1: I couldn't believe that this has happened. She proceeds to go

1106
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:21,120
Speaker 1: off on me, shouting like he's a witch. He's lucky.

1107
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 1: I don't fight him, I said, whoa, whoa, she's pulling

1108
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 1: up with the You've heard of fisticuffs, but have you

1109
00:53:29,640 --> 00:53:33,680
Speaker 1: heard of baby seated cuffs. Yeah, that's it's like a WWE,

1110
00:53:33,840 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 1: but instead of the folding chair, it's just like, oh watch.

1111
00:53:36,880 --> 00:53:41,920
Speaker 3: Out, they got the they got the toddlers from one.

1112
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 1: To two get car seat. There's plastic everywhere, just like

1113
00:53:48,480 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 1: a little like boxing giant boxing gloves, just like strapped

1114
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 1: to their arms, or they're a whole like cyborg made

1115
00:53:55,040 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 1: out of them, like the hull cans, but they're just Yeah,

1116
00:53:59,120 --> 00:54:01,759
Speaker 1: they're like a real car seats, a robot made of

1117
00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:04,759
Speaker 1: baby car seats. You know, Dakota, I think you've transferred

1118
00:54:04,960 --> 00:54:07,919
Speaker 1: your your tangents into me. I think I think that's

1119
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:12,040
Speaker 1: I think we just our spirits switched places. I think,

1120
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:15,520
Speaker 1: so wow, because that was a real good way. Thank you.

1121
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 1: Like I can't get over that, just like the like

1122
00:54:19,200 --> 00:54:21,480
Speaker 1: strapping it on, like it's like a like the Captain

1123
00:54:21,520 --> 00:54:24,880
Speaker 1: America's shield. Step. Hey, he inspired me, man, that was

1124
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:28,560
Speaker 1: a Dakota inspired quip right there, I'm just listening to

1125
00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 1: your words hashtag free Jakota. He is listening to our words.

1126
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 1: Tight tight, tightly real tight. I said, whoa, but I

1127
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,359
Speaker 1: couldn't get a word out. She tells me, I'm only

1128
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 1: going to take a side anyways, and how she was

1129
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 1: unaware that he was going to be there. I felt

1130
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:47,400
Speaker 1: embarrassed and walked away from her because she was so angry.

1131
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:50,880
Speaker 1: After that, we left, but not before my boyfriend apologized

1132
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:53,240
Speaker 1: to my mom and other sister, who was just standing

1133
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,880
Speaker 1: there the whole time, not saying anything but looking at

1134
00:54:55,960 --> 00:54:58,600
Speaker 1: me as if I deserved it, if he if he

1135
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:01,319
Speaker 1: ever offered them in any way. He told them, if

1136
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:03,359
Speaker 1: they have an issue and it's about him, just come

1137
00:55:03,360 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 1: to him about it and they can talk it out

1138
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 1: instead of taking their frustration out on me. My sister

1139
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 1: just tells him that he should have just dropped me

1140
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:15,160
Speaker 1: off and waited outside. Dude, that sister is bugging out

1141
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 1: like it's it's so weird. What a weird move. You

1142
00:55:20,760 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 1: are weird? Weird, that's weird. Stop. Yeah, yeah, you are

1143
00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:29,239
Speaker 1: a weird though. That was that needed to be said.

1144
00:55:29,320 --> 00:55:34,759
Speaker 1: You do not want peace, You want problems. Always a buffet,

1145
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 1: and that's really weird at a one year old's birthday party.

1146
00:55:38,400 --> 00:55:41,040
Speaker 1: At your one year old's birthday party, you're making somehow,

1147
00:55:41,080 --> 00:55:44,520
Speaker 1: making this about your beef someone you should really not

1148
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 1: be striving to have beef with. But they can't handle

1149
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:50,719
Speaker 1: baby seats apparently not, so you gotta throw them at

1150
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:56,879
Speaker 1: the apparently not work. Yeah, so I couldn't believe it.

1151
00:55:57,239 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: Neither can we. So we go home. Days go past

1152
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:01,920
Speaker 1: and I don't hear from my family. I finally call

1153
00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:04,439
Speaker 1: my mother to let her know that the situation really

1154
00:56:04,480 --> 00:56:07,080
Speaker 1: stressed me out, and I'm already going through some complications

1155
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:09,480
Speaker 1: with my pregnancy, so for my sake and my unborn

1156
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:11,600
Speaker 1: child safety, I won't be coming to visit for a

1157
00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 1: while until after my child is born. And my oldest

1158
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,080
Speaker 1: sister is always there and I don't feel like facing

1159
00:56:18,080 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 1: her at the moment. But before I could get anything out,

1160
00:56:20,640 --> 00:56:23,880
Speaker 1: my mother cuts me off and tells me I'm wrong

1161
00:56:24,040 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 1: for inviting my boyfriend without asking my sister.

1162
00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:32,360
Speaker 2: That's that's actually when it's put like that, that's tricky,

1163
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:36,840
Speaker 2: but also like they do have problems and he wasn't invited,

1164
00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:40,719
Speaker 2: so wait, okay, hold on, Yeah, I mean if you're

1165
00:56:40,719 --> 00:56:43,200
Speaker 2: not invited, you're not invited. I wonderful, Opie, I wonder

1166
00:56:43,200 --> 00:56:46,200
Speaker 2: if you also I have an unreliable narrator here. I

1167
00:56:46,239 --> 00:56:47,439
Speaker 2: think his sister's crazy for joy.

1168
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:51,200
Speaker 1: I mean, but like maybe maybe we've been off the

1169
00:56:51,239 --> 00:56:54,840
Speaker 1: whole time and the boyfriend sucks? What if everyone sucks?

1170
00:56:54,880 --> 00:56:56,960
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like, there's got to be a reason, right,

1171
00:56:57,560 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 2: there's got to be a reason beyond what we've read

1172
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:01,719
Speaker 2: here why he is so not liked And if the

1173
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:04,520
Speaker 2: mom is immediately like, yeah, you shouldn't have, like is

1174
00:57:04,560 --> 00:57:09,200
Speaker 2: backing up now? Mom's now backing up the sister because

1175
00:57:09,239 --> 00:57:10,600
Speaker 2: it's and it is weird.

1176
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:14,279
Speaker 1: It's like, I don't know, it's like, why do you now?

1177
00:57:14,280 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 1: I'm starting to think a little differently. I think you

1178
00:57:16,240 --> 00:57:18,880
Speaker 1: knocked my brain a little loose in the sumo ring. Dude,

1179
00:57:19,560 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 1: something's going on here. I don't know info. Boyfriend bad,

1180
00:57:24,040 --> 00:57:27,240
Speaker 1: good question mark? Let us know. We're gonna figure out.

1181
00:57:27,560 --> 00:57:31,240
Speaker 1: So before I could get anything out, mother cuts me

1182
00:57:31,280 --> 00:57:33,240
Speaker 1: off and tells me I'm wrong for my viting my

1183
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:36,320
Speaker 1: boyfriend with asking my sister once again. I was taking

1184
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:38,760
Speaker 1: my aback and my mother asked me if I thought

1185
00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:40,840
Speaker 1: I was wrong too. I told her, no, I didn't

1186
00:57:40,840 --> 00:57:42,840
Speaker 1: think I was. And my mother gets mad at me

1187
00:57:42,880 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 1: and says, if it was her and she didn't like

1188
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:47,760
Speaker 1: my boyfriend, she would be pissed off too. I told

1189
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:49,920
Speaker 1: her I didn't call. I didn't call it to go

1190
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:52,080
Speaker 1: back and forth with her. She frustrated me to the

1191
00:57:52,120 --> 00:57:54,200
Speaker 1: point of me forgetting what I wanted to tell her

1192
00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 1: in the first place. So I quickly told her that

1193
00:57:57,480 --> 00:57:59,280
Speaker 1: I won't be coming around for a while and I'll

1194
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 1: let her know when the baby is born. Oh and

1195
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 1: another layer of this complex lasagnia has revealed itself. And

1196
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 1: if it has already been revealed, I'm sorry for my

1197
00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:17,800
Speaker 1: brain not being I'm also lost. I think I think

1198
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 1: it might be the the simple answer, which is just

1199
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:25,480
Speaker 1: everyone sucks here. Yeah, it's like maybe don't like ah

1200
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:32,440
Speaker 1: ah ah ah, you don't know why. Boy, this is

1201
00:58:32,480 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 1: like one of those the TikTok videos of like white

1202
00:58:35,680 --> 00:58:39,120
Speaker 1: people lasagna where it's just like three giant slabs of cream,

1203
00:58:39,200 --> 00:58:42,720
Speaker 1: cheese and noodles put around and they just have these

1204
00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 1: weird steps and you don't know what's going on. Italians

1205
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 1: and they're like an Italian told me how to made this.

1206
00:58:47,880 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 1: That's not Italians. I'm sorry for what you just had

1207
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:54,320
Speaker 1: to hear. It's cream cheese. It makes sense. It makes sense.

1208
00:58:54,360 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 1: It's creamy and it's cheesy cheese.

1209
00:58:56,120 --> 00:58:58,600
Speaker 3: Is the step nephew of ricotta?

1210
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:03,840
Speaker 1: You know why? Just that is confusing me? Yes, we're confused.

1211
00:59:03,920 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 1: We're as confused as the cream cheese repot a casserole. Okay,

1212
00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 1: we are, absolutely our gabbers are flasted.

1213
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 2: But it's like, you gotta know that you're starting stuff

1214
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:13,640
Speaker 2: if you don't invite the baby daddy.

1215
00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:16,840
Speaker 1: But also like, is the baby daddy trash? I know

1216
00:59:17,000 --> 00:59:18,880
Speaker 1: people who can get in really who are who have

1217
00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:22,080
Speaker 1: been in relationships with trash people? That's right? And they're like,

1218
00:59:22,320 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 1: I don't know, I are they trash? And it's like, dude, yes,

1219
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:30,720
Speaker 1: how do you not see it? So it's like there

1220
00:59:30,760 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 1: could be more of that. Yeah, And they're always real

1221
00:59:33,240 --> 00:59:37,680
Speaker 1: reluctant to say that they're trash. So I am sensing

1222
00:59:37,720 --> 00:59:41,040
Speaker 1: that the boyfriend sucks. Interesting, that's my spidy sense. Honestly,

1223
00:59:41,080 --> 00:59:42,600
Speaker 1: I think it's the sister. I think she's the main

1224
00:59:42,600 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 1: culprit here. No mom backed her up. I told her

1225
00:59:45,120 --> 00:59:46,600
Speaker 1: I let her know when the baby is born that

1226
00:59:46,680 --> 00:59:49,640
Speaker 1: I love her and goodbye, and I hung up the phone. Afterwhids,

1227
00:59:49,640 --> 00:59:52,360
Speaker 1: she sends me long decked messages saying that I'm ungrateful

1228
00:59:52,520 --> 00:59:54,680
Speaker 1: and how I never appreciated what she's done for me

1229
00:59:54,880 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 1: and for my son. All false op He says. Things

1230
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:00,920
Speaker 1: escalated when my boyfriend taketed my mom and told her,

1231
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:03,600
Speaker 1: respectfully to stop ganging up on me, and it's stressing

1232
01:00:03,640 --> 01:00:08,040
Speaker 1: me out. Oh I think I was wrong. Uh, Oh

1233
01:00:08,120 --> 01:00:14,040
Speaker 1: I might be wrong. So my mom does not take

1234
01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:16,720
Speaker 1: this well and curses him out and says a load

1235
01:00:16,720 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 1: of unnecessary things to him and disrespects his family and says,

1236
01:00:20,280 --> 01:00:24,000
Speaker 1: see who will be there for us, and that he

1237
01:00:24,360 --> 01:00:27,480
Speaker 1: is cut off. We had no contact with him. Thanksgiving

1238
01:00:27,800 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 1: went past, then my birthday in December and none of

1239
01:00:31,080 --> 01:00:32,880
Speaker 1: my family reached out to wish me a happy birthday,

1240
01:00:33,120 --> 01:00:36,200
Speaker 1: all because my mom assumed I wanted to cut them off.

1241
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:38,680
Speaker 1: Remember she met me. She never let me finish what

1242
01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 1: I wanted to say in reference to the phone call

1243
01:00:41,680 --> 01:00:45,000
Speaker 1: that was, and then eventually you don't even remember what

1244
01:00:45,040 --> 01:00:46,680
Speaker 1: I wanted to tell her, I'll see you when the

1245
01:00:46,680 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 1: baby's born, which at face value were like, okay, you're

1246
01:00:49,760 --> 01:00:51,680
Speaker 1: cutting her off and letting her onto the baby. But

1247
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:54,760
Speaker 1: I'm guessing we're we're imminently going to get the context

1248
01:00:54,760 --> 01:00:58,800
Speaker 1: we so doesn't really need. Everyone in this story needs

1249
01:00:58,800 --> 01:01:00,960
Speaker 1: to go to the moon. You had to dude to

1250
01:01:01,120 --> 01:01:04,080
Speaker 1: go over there. Man, you gotta do a couple of

1251
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 1: revolutions and run it back, see tranquility. We need to

1252
01:01:07,560 --> 01:01:11,200
Speaker 1: figure it out. But in a text, in a text,

1253
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 1: I told her I wanted space from my sisters, not

1254
01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:19,320
Speaker 1: cutting off contact, but she did what she wanted to do.

1255
01:01:20,480 --> 01:01:22,880
Speaker 1: Cut to now. I sent my mom and sisters a

1256
01:01:22,960 --> 01:01:26,160
Speaker 1: letter before Christmas stating I missed them and how if

1257
01:01:26,160 --> 01:01:29,040
Speaker 1: bringing my boyfriend to the party seemed disrespectful, and I

1258
01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:32,400
Speaker 1: set boundaries with them about being rude to him. I

1259
01:01:32,480 --> 01:01:35,840
Speaker 1: told them I'm here when they are ready to talk.

1260
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:38,960
Speaker 1: So far, I feel like it was a guys, you're

1261
01:01:38,960 --> 01:01:40,560
Speaker 1: gonna get it, You're gonna see you're gonna see it.

1262
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:43,720
Speaker 1: And it's like you still told your mother, Hey, i'll

1263
01:01:43,760 --> 01:01:46,600
Speaker 1: reach out to you after the baby's born. I'm yeah,

1264
01:01:47,160 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 1: where what are the boundaries? And she's like, I didn't

1265
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:52,960
Speaker 1: cut her off, and I'm like, I mean you literally

1266
01:01:53,040 --> 01:01:55,480
Speaker 1: said I won't talk to you till the baby's born. Yeah,

1267
01:01:55,800 --> 01:01:57,840
Speaker 1: I mean, is it is that next week or is

1268
01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:01,040
Speaker 1: that like it? It does seem she's just seven months pregnant,

1269
01:02:01,520 --> 01:02:05,440
Speaker 1: so but yeah, it does seem like a whatever, shut up,

1270
01:02:05,440 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 1: don't talk to me. Yeah. Ope. But also I'm way

1271
01:02:09,720 --> 01:02:11,640
Speaker 1: more on OP side now than I was five minutes ago,

1272
01:02:11,720 --> 01:02:14,120
Speaker 1: because it does sound like the mom and the sister suck.

1273
01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:16,360
Speaker 1: Mom and sister suck, and the apple did not fall

1274
01:02:16,400 --> 01:02:20,200
Speaker 1: far from the tree unless OP sucks. I think OP

1275
01:02:20,360 --> 01:02:24,160
Speaker 1: might also suck. Moon rocket to the moon, trebu shay

1276
01:02:24,280 --> 01:02:26,280
Speaker 1: to the moon and everyone gets to look at the

1277
01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:29,480
Speaker 1: blue marble and go, can't we all just get along?

1278
01:02:30,280 --> 01:02:32,439
Speaker 1: That's what the moon is for. That's what you guys

1279
01:02:32,600 --> 01:02:34,560
Speaker 1: need to think about right now? Can we all just

1280
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:38,920
Speaker 1: get along? Long and hard, ladies and gentlemen. Well, only

1281
01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:41,640
Speaker 1: my mother reached out after that letter, and she didn't

1282
01:02:41,640 --> 01:02:43,880
Speaker 1: say she was sorry. She didn't even want to get

1283
01:02:43,920 --> 01:02:45,760
Speaker 1: into the details of what happened. But she tells me

1284
01:02:45,840 --> 01:02:48,440
Speaker 1: I should apologize to my sister, and she doesn't want

1285
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:51,200
Speaker 1: to get involved in me and my sister's drama. How ironic.

1286
01:02:51,360 --> 01:02:53,360
Speaker 1: I told her no, I don't think it was wrong,

1287
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:55,600
Speaker 1: but I do see how she feels. But it wasn't

1288
01:02:55,600 --> 01:02:58,120
Speaker 1: my intent to anger her. I told her how they

1289
01:02:58,120 --> 01:03:00,840
Speaker 1: didn't consider me being pregnant, and the distance I didn't

1290
01:03:00,880 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 1: want to travel alone, and just how my mom blindly

1291
01:03:04,080 --> 01:03:06,760
Speaker 1: took my sister's side without leaving me to speak in November,

1292
01:03:06,800 --> 01:03:10,280
Speaker 1: without letting me speak in November. Maybe we're getting more contact.

1293
01:03:10,840 --> 01:03:13,280
Speaker 1: She gave me the excuse I said earlier about her

1294
01:03:13,320 --> 01:03:16,840
Speaker 1: assuming that I wanted no contact, even though I have

1295
01:03:16,920 --> 01:03:20,360
Speaker 1: messages telling her the opposite. And if you are as

1296
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:23,040
Speaker 1: confused as we are right now, and not just the story,

1297
01:03:23,120 --> 01:03:26,440
Speaker 1: but in life, you need a guide. You need six

1298
01:03:26,480 --> 01:03:29,840
Speaker 1: people who can tell you what is right from wrong,

1299
01:03:30,000 --> 01:03:33,120
Speaker 1: what is good and what is goofy ladies and gentlemen,

1300
01:03:33,440 --> 01:03:36,600
Speaker 1: go to Spotify, Apple podcasts, anywhere you listen to your

1301
01:03:36,600 --> 01:03:39,480
Speaker 1: podcast and type of okay, story time. We have one

1302
01:03:39,560 --> 01:03:42,520
Speaker 1: hundred four days of content. All it dicks, that's all.

1303
01:03:43,160 --> 01:03:47,120
Speaker 1: What's that? We just added another episode crazy, it's another

1304
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:50,720
Speaker 1: hour plus of content and we are also we are

1305
01:03:50,760 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I mean to step over you are there?

1306
01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:56,000
Speaker 1: Step it. You're confused. We are so confused. And if

1307
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:59,000
Speaker 1: anyone didn't catch that, you saved it because at the end,

1308
01:03:59,360 --> 01:04:01,560
Speaker 1: oh people, it double negative into that sentence that did

1309
01:04:01,600 --> 01:04:03,440
Speaker 1: not need to be there. That would have confused us

1310
01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:05,960
Speaker 1: even more. I had to correct it. Everyone needs a

1311
01:04:05,960 --> 01:04:08,720
Speaker 1: break from each other. It's it's going to the moon, vibes,

1312
01:04:08,760 --> 01:04:10,720
Speaker 1: go to the moon, think about it, run around and

1313
01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:13,240
Speaker 1: come back. Yeah, but are they Are they all going

1314
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:15,840
Speaker 1: to mutually agree, Hey, we need to break and let's

1315
01:04:15,840 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 1: take some time and then come back. I really feel

1316
01:04:18,040 --> 01:04:21,040
Speaker 1: like the mom and the sister are the kind of

1317
01:04:21,040 --> 01:04:23,200
Speaker 1: people who'd be like, oh, so you now you need space.

1318
01:04:23,600 --> 01:04:26,600
Speaker 1: You just hate us, You just hate all of us,

1319
01:04:26,720 --> 01:04:30,200
Speaker 1: don't you. You're just the worst. You want some space, Yeah,

1320
01:04:30,240 --> 01:04:32,440
Speaker 1: you want some space. Well, guys, what, here's enough space

1321
01:04:32,560 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 1: for a baby. Here's here's space. That's the baby car

1322
01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:46,440
Speaker 1: seat from the top rope. That's right. Well, there's a

1323
01:04:46,480 --> 01:04:48,640
Speaker 1: little bit of the story. Maybe all of our answers

1324
01:04:48,680 --> 01:04:52,040
Speaker 1: will finally be answered in these next three sentences. Let's

1325
01:04:52,280 --> 01:04:56,800
Speaker 1: buckle our seatbelts. Let's see it, baby seat belts. That is, so,

1326
01:04:56,920 --> 01:04:58,880
Speaker 1: it's only me and my mother that are speaking now,

1327
01:04:59,000 --> 01:05:01,080
Speaker 1: and she's acting like nothing happened and wants to come

1328
01:05:01,120 --> 01:05:03,400
Speaker 1: around me and the kids. But she still hasn't spoken

1329
01:05:03,440 --> 01:05:06,160
Speaker 1: to my boyfriend at all. Me and him aren't comfortable

1330
01:05:06,200 --> 01:05:08,520
Speaker 1: with my mom keeping our son anymore, and she mentioned

1331
01:05:08,520 --> 01:05:11,439
Speaker 1: a few times how she wants too soon. I haven't

1332
01:05:11,440 --> 01:05:13,600
Speaker 1: told her yet that I don't want to. I'm still

1333
01:05:13,640 --> 01:05:15,439
Speaker 1: hurt by all of this. Am I the a whole

1334
01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:18,080
Speaker 1: for not apology and for not apologizing to my sister.

1335
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:21,440
Speaker 1: My mom keeps trying to pressure me to apologize after

1336
01:05:21,520 --> 01:05:30,720
Speaker 1: I sent a letter initially and nothing was clear and

1337
01:05:30,880 --> 01:05:32,360
Speaker 1: everything was the same.

1338
01:05:33,160 --> 01:05:39,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, let us know what you think about that.

1339
01:05:39,320 --> 01:05:42,160
Speaker 1: People asking for a TLDR. I couldn't even give you

1340
01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:50,000
Speaker 1: one TLDR. Everyone ever, what everyone sucks TLDR unclear. It's

1341
01:05:50,040 --> 01:05:53,520
Speaker 1: completely true. There was a toddler's birthday party and it

1342
01:05:53,680 --> 01:06:00,080
Speaker 1: escalated from there, and now we're on the moon, and

1343
01:06:00,160 --> 01:06:02,400
Speaker 1: that is going to have to do boom, because that's

1344
01:06:02,400 --> 01:06:03,320
Speaker 1: the end of that story.

1345
01:06:04,240 --> 01:06:07,080
Speaker 3: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives.

1346
01:06:06,480 --> 01:06:08,640
Speaker 1: Time for okop relash.

1347
01:06:11,240 --> 01:06:13,560
Speaker 3: I helped my brother in law cheat on his wife,

1348
01:06:13,640 --> 01:06:14,760
Speaker 3: but then I did something worse.

1349
01:06:14,960 --> 01:06:19,400
Speaker 1: Why this is Game of Thrones level betrayal. Dude.

1350
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:23,640
Speaker 3: It's like siblings stabbing siblings in the back or doing

1351
01:06:23,640 --> 01:06:26,120
Speaker 3: other things or yeah, or using something else to stab

1352
01:06:26,280 --> 01:06:29,520
Speaker 3: I mean, yoh, you know all right. My sister, Gwen

1353
01:06:29,640 --> 01:06:32,320
Speaker 3: thirty eight female, has been married to Jacob thirty nine

1354
01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:35,000
Speaker 3: male for ten years. I've had a best friend Ellie

1355
01:06:35,360 --> 01:06:38,400
Speaker 3: twenty one female since middle school. She's always been around,

1356
01:06:38,440 --> 01:06:41,480
Speaker 3: but in twenty twenty I started inviting her more because

1357
01:06:41,720 --> 01:06:44,080
Speaker 3: her mom dot COVID, so she didn't have any family around.

1358
01:06:44,440 --> 01:06:46,160
Speaker 1: Sad damn it's rough. That sucks.

1359
01:06:46,360 --> 01:06:48,960
Speaker 3: So I invited her to holiday parties, family get togethers,

1360
01:06:48,960 --> 01:06:51,360
Speaker 3: et cetera. I wanted her to feel part of the family.

1361
01:06:51,680 --> 01:06:54,800
Speaker 3: But then last night we found out from text My

1362
01:06:54,920 --> 01:06:58,040
Speaker 3: sister found on Jacob's phone that he's been sleeping with

1363
01:06:58,240 --> 01:07:02,920
Speaker 3: Ellie and she might I did no pregnant, pregnant?

1364
01:07:02,960 --> 01:07:05,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god? What is people?

1365
01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:12,520
Speaker 3: I feel like that is terrible on like two fronts. Yeah, one,

1366
01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:18,280
Speaker 3: the cheating terrible obviously obviously, But to wrap that, bro, like,

1367
01:07:18,360 --> 01:07:20,520
Speaker 3: are you kidding me? You're gonna cheat on your wife

1368
01:07:20,680 --> 01:07:26,040
Speaker 3: and dog has a freaking decency before you cheat and

1369
01:07:26,360 --> 01:07:29,760
Speaker 3: either get a vasectomy momentarily or you know, you know,

1370
01:07:29,920 --> 01:07:32,080
Speaker 3: use use Trojan brand condoms.

1371
01:07:31,760 --> 01:07:34,840
Speaker 1: It's it's the the Sopranos thing. It's like you kiss

1372
01:07:34,880 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 1: your your mother with that mouth like that to your

1373
01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:40,320
Speaker 1: side piece to get a little dome.

1374
01:07:40,600 --> 01:07:44,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, I'm not saying don't go to your side piece.

1375
01:07:44,680 --> 01:07:49,120
Speaker 3: Obviously you are a depraved individual that needs uh that

1376
01:07:49,240 --> 01:07:53,960
Speaker 3: kind of thing, but at least at least have the

1377
01:07:54,080 --> 01:07:57,600
Speaker 3: common decency and just like peace of mind to just

1378
01:07:57,720 --> 01:08:00,600
Speaker 3: wrap that Willie god piece of.

1379
01:08:00,600 --> 01:08:02,720
Speaker 1: Trash of honest.

1380
01:08:02,440 --> 01:08:07,200
Speaker 3: Garbage rolling around in the wind, grabbing sdds and depositing

1381
01:08:07,280 --> 01:08:12,120
Speaker 3: babies wherever you see shit. My sister is devastated, obviously yep,

1382
01:08:12,240 --> 01:08:14,120
Speaker 3: and took their kids to come live with our parents.

1383
01:08:14,400 --> 01:08:17,040
Speaker 3: I feel so guilty. I'm the one that brought her

1384
01:08:17,080 --> 01:08:19,559
Speaker 3: around and invited her to stuff. I feel like it's

1385
01:08:19,600 --> 01:08:23,599
Speaker 3: all my fault. My sister's life is ruined. The kids

1386
01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:26,479
Speaker 3: are really upset, and I have no idea what to do.

1387
01:08:27,360 --> 01:08:30,680
Speaker 1: I mean, I think we should put all the blame on.

1388
01:08:30,640 --> 01:08:35,360
Speaker 3: OPI I think it is you. You literally set you

1389
01:08:35,400 --> 01:08:37,240
Speaker 3: set it all up. You set your brother in law

1390
01:08:37,320 --> 01:08:42,439
Speaker 3: up with your super hot, frisky friend. You know now

1391
01:08:42,439 --> 01:08:43,080
Speaker 3: she has daddy.

1392
01:08:43,280 --> 01:08:44,000
Speaker 1: That was bad.

1393
01:08:44,120 --> 01:08:46,439
Speaker 3: Maybe that's too deep deep, it's too deep too me.

1394
01:08:46,560 --> 01:08:49,320
Speaker 3: I'm sorry that it does. It does suck that maybe

1395
01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:51,120
Speaker 3: maybe she's you know, maybe like the friend is kind

1396
01:08:51,160 --> 01:08:53,280
Speaker 3: of acting out. You know you lose your dad at

1397
01:08:53,280 --> 01:08:56,439
Speaker 3: twenty one, literally, And I'm not saying like to excuse

1398
01:08:56,479 --> 01:08:59,719
Speaker 3: her behavior, yeah, by any means, but just to empathize

1399
01:08:59,720 --> 01:09:02,679
Speaker 3: a little like you're in a low emotional place, emotional place,

1400
01:09:02,760 --> 01:09:05,280
Speaker 3: and try to get validation from another father figure. So

1401
01:09:05,439 --> 01:09:08,040
Speaker 3: tripple screw that guy for like I mean, he's basically

1402
01:09:08,120 --> 01:09:11,400
Speaker 3: like taking advantage of this like emotional low point.

1403
01:09:11,640 --> 01:09:14,679
Speaker 1: Almost certainly, almost almost certainly.

1404
01:09:14,960 --> 01:09:23,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's thirty eight, bro, eight man's oldest, geez man's oldest,

1405
01:09:23,920 --> 01:09:27,240
Speaker 3: And here's this girl dad recently died looking for a

1406
01:09:27,320 --> 01:09:33,639
Speaker 3: father figure, probably because of that dating older and then decides, Oh,

1407
01:09:33,720 --> 01:09:36,479
Speaker 3: these older other I'm assuming a lot these other older

1408
01:09:36,520 --> 01:09:38,720
Speaker 3: guys on dating apps aren't doing it for me. I

1409
01:09:38,760 --> 01:09:42,839
Speaker 3: want someone who's married. I want someone who is closer

1410
01:09:42,880 --> 01:09:47,639
Speaker 3: to family. There's there's there's some brewin beneath the surface.

1411
01:09:47,760 --> 01:09:48,520
Speaker 1: Not good.

1412
01:09:48,920 --> 01:09:52,519
Speaker 3: But John, what's it? I thought that wasn't bad enough.

1413
01:09:52,640 --> 01:09:55,320
Speaker 3: Oh my god, there's an update.

1414
01:09:55,439 --> 01:09:58,800
Speaker 1: It cannot get worse, Bro, But show me, but show

1415
01:09:58,840 --> 01:09:59,880
Speaker 1: me what do you got what?

1416
01:10:00,680 --> 01:10:04,320
Speaker 3: My sister is still really upset. Get over it. Come on,

1417
01:10:05,240 --> 01:10:10,360
Speaker 3: it's been a whole posting cycle since since Jacob cheated

1418
01:10:10,400 --> 01:10:10,640
Speaker 3: on you.

1419
01:10:10,960 --> 01:10:11,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

1420
01:10:12,280 --> 01:10:15,240
Speaker 3: Also, she's not doing well at all. The kids all

1421
01:10:15,280 --> 01:10:18,240
Speaker 3: have a really good relationship with Jacob, so that didn't

1422
01:10:18,240 --> 01:10:20,559
Speaker 3: make it easier. Seems like he's good with young people.

1423
01:10:21,280 --> 01:10:25,280
Speaker 3: They were asking about him constantly and crying for him.

1424
01:10:25,800 --> 01:10:28,320
Speaker 3: She went back home two days ago. She's living in

1425
01:10:28,320 --> 01:10:29,920
Speaker 3: the main part of the house and he's living in

1426
01:10:29,960 --> 01:10:33,639
Speaker 3: the garage apartment. Okay, so they're kind of like living

1427
01:10:33,680 --> 01:10:36,880
Speaker 3: separately a little bit. My sister asked me to talk

1428
01:10:36,880 --> 01:10:41,599
Speaker 3: to Ellie, which holy shit, terrible friends, terrible friend.

1429
01:10:42,040 --> 01:10:42,200
Speaker 1: Bro.

1430
01:10:43,200 --> 01:10:45,719
Speaker 3: If I found out one of my girlfriends my dad,

1431
01:10:46,120 --> 01:10:50,760
Speaker 3: I would be mad. To god.

1432
01:10:50,800 --> 01:10:52,000
Speaker 1: You'd be a little peeve.

1433
01:10:52,080 --> 01:10:54,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'd be a little I'd be a little peeved.

1434
01:10:55,200 --> 01:10:58,000
Speaker 3: And that goes to all the okop fam, I consider

1435
01:10:58,080 --> 01:11:03,000
Speaker 3: you my extended friend group. Oh god, please stop my dad.

1436
01:11:07,840 --> 01:11:10,439
Speaker 1: Our live show, our first live show, is just women

1437
01:11:10,680 --> 01:11:15,080
Speaker 1: lining to just get at mister dad.

1438
01:11:15,160 --> 01:11:18,040
Speaker 3: I've heard the talk around town is my dad is

1439
01:11:18,400 --> 01:11:19,240
Speaker 3: a good looking dude.

1440
01:11:19,280 --> 01:11:20,240
Speaker 1: Bro, he looks great.

1441
01:11:20,439 --> 01:11:26,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, he's fifty seven, still freaking got abs.

1442
01:11:26,400 --> 01:11:27,480
Speaker 1: Bro, gravy.

1443
01:11:27,560 --> 01:11:28,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's signed me up.

1444
01:11:29,000 --> 01:11:29,200
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1445
01:11:29,240 --> 01:11:36,320
Speaker 3: Everyone's trying to please mister please please God. No, So

1446
01:11:36,439 --> 01:11:38,000
Speaker 3: my sister asked me to talk to Ellie to find

1447
01:11:38,000 --> 01:11:40,479
Speaker 3: out as much of her side as we can. She's

1448
01:11:40,600 --> 01:11:46,000
Speaker 3: pregnant and apparently her and Jacob have been dating a while. Yikes.

1449
01:11:46,280 --> 01:11:48,880
Speaker 3: He told her my sister had a drinking problem and

1450
01:11:48,880 --> 01:11:51,840
Speaker 3: it was emotionally abusive to him the kids. I told

1451
01:11:51,840 --> 01:11:54,240
Speaker 3: her that was a lie, and if she really thought

1452
01:11:54,240 --> 01:11:56,439
Speaker 3: that was true, why wouldn't she talk to me about it?

1453
01:11:56,600 --> 01:11:59,840
Speaker 3: Good point, She said she thought I'd lie for my sister.

1454
01:12:00,200 --> 01:12:02,960
Speaker 3: I know you all think I'm crazy because I'm so emotional.

1455
01:12:03,040 --> 01:12:05,880
Speaker 3: I'm not usually, but I'm so sad for my sister.

1456
01:12:06,000 --> 01:12:08,840
Speaker 3: But I also feel guilty because I basically set them up.

1457
01:12:09,640 --> 01:12:11,640
Speaker 3: I sat down and sobbed the other day because like,

1458
01:12:11,880 --> 01:12:14,360
Speaker 3: she was my best friend for so many years, and

1459
01:12:14,400 --> 01:12:17,559
Speaker 3: she must have just completely lied and misled me and

1460
01:12:17,600 --> 01:12:20,040
Speaker 3: made up stories to keep her dating him a secret.

1461
01:12:20,240 --> 01:12:22,720
Speaker 3: She wasn't really my friend at all, and I had

1462
01:12:22,760 --> 01:12:25,280
Speaker 3: no idea. And I know this about my sister and

1463
01:12:25,320 --> 01:12:28,400
Speaker 3: her kids, and I know that they are good people.

1464
01:12:28,680 --> 01:12:31,000
Speaker 3: Everything just really sucks now. The only one who doesn't

1465
01:12:31,040 --> 01:12:33,919
Speaker 3: seem affected by any of this is Jacob.

1466
01:12:34,160 --> 01:12:37,160
Speaker 1: Jacob, who is just playing with his kids, is normal.

1467
01:12:37,960 --> 01:12:40,680
Speaker 3: My sister said, he almost seems cheerful about all of this.

1468
01:12:41,479 --> 01:12:46,160
Speaker 1: Jacob, youde, Bro, what is you know what? Sam, I'm

1469
01:12:46,200 --> 01:12:50,920
Speaker 1: not team Jacob. I'm not team Jacob Fricking Edward all

1470
01:12:50,960 --> 01:12:55,360
Speaker 1: the way. Yes, dude, Jacob is a sociopath. He's a

1471
01:12:55,400 --> 01:12:56,719
Speaker 1: trifle and piece of trash.

1472
01:12:56,800 --> 01:13:02,599
Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, I mean, hey, one redeeming quality and I'm

1473
01:13:02,600 --> 01:13:05,479
Speaker 3: serious about this one one redeeming quality at least. It

1474
01:13:05,520 --> 01:13:07,600
Speaker 3: seems like he's a good father to his kid. But

1475
01:13:07,640 --> 01:13:10,160
Speaker 3: he's playing with his kids. He's not letting his personal

1476
01:13:10,200 --> 01:13:14,800
Speaker 3: life getting away of time with his children go on.

1477
01:13:15,520 --> 01:13:19,000
Speaker 3: It's a professional, bro, he is a value. He is

1478
01:13:19,040 --> 01:13:27,519
Speaker 3: a professional god. But wow, so many people suck in

1479
01:13:27,640 --> 01:13:31,759
Speaker 3: this story, specifically Ellie and Jacob. Specifically Ellie and Jacob.

1480
01:13:32,040 --> 01:13:34,560
Speaker 3: But you know what isn't trash, John.

1481
01:13:34,800 --> 01:13:35,719
Speaker 1: What is not trash?

1482
01:13:35,760 --> 01:13:38,040
Speaker 3: Them our suburn in our sashal Kop Show.

1483
01:13:38,320 --> 01:13:39,360
Speaker 1: It's the opposite of trash.

1484
01:13:39,439 --> 01:13:40,320
Speaker 3: It's the opposite of trash.

1485
01:13:40,360 --> 01:13:40,840
Speaker 1: It's gold.

1486
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:42,680
Speaker 3: And if you want to submit some story gold so

1487
01:13:42,720 --> 01:13:44,800
Speaker 3: we can you know, read it and react to it,

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Speaker 3: Please go to our Sacik show and read it, and

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Speaker 3: then we'll pick the best stories and read those shit

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Speaker 3: out of those things. But you know what else, you

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Speaker 3: like this story, you're probably gonna like this other one where, oh,

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Speaker 3: he's children. Seven of them don't look like suspicious suspicious