WEBVTT - Second Date Update Classic: First Date Worth The Wait

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the Second Day podcast. We're so glad you're here,

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<v Speaker 1>especially on a lovely Friday.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happier than the other two girls that you're.

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<v Speaker 1>Here, so you know, it's definitely a computation, Jose. So

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<v Speaker 1>all right, here's your second day. It starts now.

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<v Speaker 3>Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning second date updates.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you think is a good time of day

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<v Speaker 2>for a first date to start first date? I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>six seven pm? Oh, your pm start early. It's dark

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<v Speaker 2>so you don't have to worry about how you look

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<v Speaker 2>that much.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Jeffrey really gets it in some people do a

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<v Speaker 3>morning workout.

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<v Speaker 1>He does the morning date and peaceful.

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<v Speaker 2>No one's around to distract you swoop in, possibly steal

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<v Speaker 2>your date away. Everyone's in bed. But I get it.

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<v Speaker 2>Some people like them later on in the day. But

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<v Speaker 2>one of our listeners, Vincent, says his date started too

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<v Speaker 2>late and that could have been a problem for him. Vincent,

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome to the show man.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, thanks so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't get Jeffrey started. It started at six am? Is

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<v Speaker 3>that what you're saying, Vincent?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, tell us about when years started? How did that

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<v Speaker 2>all happen?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean, honestly, it just took me by surprise.

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<v Speaker 4>I met this girl, Jackie on a dating app, and

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<v Speaker 4>I kind of liked how in her profile, like she

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<v Speaker 4>had a lot of pictures of her with modern art,

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<v Speaker 4>like she'd gone to like the MoMA in New York

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<v Speaker 4>City or like the Dollar Museum and stuff, And I

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<v Speaker 4>minored in art histories. I kind of like that, I

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<v Speaker 4>guess a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's an easy thing to talk about exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>So is that what your opening line with her was

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<v Speaker 3>was about like Jackson Pollock or something.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, it's something like that. I actually don't even remember.

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<v Speaker 4>But I offered to meet her after work and then

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<v Speaker 4>just got to like a bar from there or something,

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<v Speaker 4>and she was pretty chill about that. Okay, that's cool,

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<v Speaker 4>which was I thought, canna nice to be like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>meeting you at your work already, that kind of was

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<v Speaker 4>exciting to me.

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<v Speaker 2>See, that's why my idea works so well, because you

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<v Speaker 2>start the date and then go to work.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, and we're going back to the early morning. I

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<v Speaker 3>think that this is more happy hour time led to.

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<v Speaker 2>The day because of the morning commute.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know was she working an overnight shift, what.

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<v Speaker 2>Time was it?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I mean I got there like six. Then I

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<v Speaker 4>just kind of like sat outside of her work for

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<v Speaker 4>a second because she kept on texting me like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I have like this project deadline and it's going long

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<v Speaker 4>and I'm so sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>How long were you waiting out there?

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<v Speaker 4>I actually didn't see her until about nine pm.

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<v Speaker 1>WHOA, what did you do? Do you take yourself to dinner?

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<v Speaker 4>I should have right, I was starving? No, I mean

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<v Speaker 4>I I just kept on waiting, and I was like

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<v Speaker 4>watching TikTok I guess.

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<v Speaker 2>Our TikTok at Brooke and Jeffery.

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<v Speaker 3>I love when every time there's a moment his eyebrows

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<v Speaker 3>raised like I can plug it.

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<v Speaker 2>We appreciate you following it. So what did you two do?

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<v Speaker 2>Speaking of YouTube, we're.

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<v Speaker 3>Also I mean, why didn't she just reschedule like that?

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<v Speaker 1>Crazy? Or why didn't it? Why didn't you?

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<v Speaker 4>It was just one of those things where it kept

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<v Speaker 4>on getting pushed, so like every ten to fifteen minutes,

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<v Speaker 4>she was like, Okay, I think we're wrapping up, and

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<v Speaker 4>then she would apologize and then she was still I

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<v Speaker 4>felt like she felt really bad about it all. So

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<v Speaker 4>I kept on like, no, no, don't worry. You know

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<v Speaker 4>you work. It's busy. I understand, like sometimes I have

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<v Speaker 4>late nights as well, but she.

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<v Speaker 2>Would have felt like she had blown it if you

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<v Speaker 2>had canceled on the date at the last second.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that, and I'm sure she.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, like, when you finally meet her, is she

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<v Speaker 3>totally fried? Like she's now been working like a twill

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<v Speaker 3>hour day over time.

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<v Speaker 4>That's exactly what happened when she finally like came downstairs.

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<v Speaker 4>She just kind of looked totally exhausted, but she still

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<v Speaker 4>wanted to go out, And I said, you want to

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<v Speaker 4>just call it? She was like, no, no, no, you waited

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<v Speaker 4>all this time, like let's go at least for a

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<v Speaker 4>drink or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it shows you that she's considerate, bro, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>she knows. She's like, she's so aware.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>We talked to have no idea what.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like.

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<v Speaker 3>She I mean, I have this tendency too, where you

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<v Speaker 3>think you have all this time. She sounds like a

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<v Speaker 3>terrible time management. She should have even planned a date

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<v Speaker 3>for that night.

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<v Speaker 2>So I mean, did you end up actually going out

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<v Speaker 2>with her or was that it?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? No, we did.

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<v Speaker 4>We you know, we got to the bar and we

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<v Speaker 4>had a good time, and we have to like we

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<v Speaker 4>played this random game. We just came up with it.

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<v Speaker 4>At the time. We were called art or not art,

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<v Speaker 4>where we just like pointed at random things in the

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<v Speaker 4>bar or random.

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<v Speaker 2>But let's talk about the fun parts of the date though.

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<v Speaker 1>It is fun art or not art?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, that's funny.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's just a table, nothing else to talk about,

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<v Speaker 2>all right? What was the most fun piece of art

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<v Speaker 2>in the bar?

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I kind of like noticed this one

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<v Speaker 4>kind of schlubby looking guy who was in the corner

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<v Speaker 4>and he was kind of like doubled over his drink

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<v Speaker 4>a little bit, and I pointed at that. I was like,

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<v Speaker 4>do you think that's art? But like the way that

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<v Speaker 4>the light was kind of projected from above him, I

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<v Speaker 4>thought was very artistic, and she did as well. Look,

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<v Speaker 4>it's overweight statue of David.

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<v Speaker 2>If you guys bonded over it, then all the power

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<v Speaker 2>to you. So how did the night right?

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<v Speaker 4>But yeah, no, I mean I feel we played that.

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<v Speaker 4>Her energy still was super low. Even after the market.

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<v Speaker 2>She was over guy under the fluorescent lights didn't get

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<v Speaker 2>her all jazzed up.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she wanted to play nap or no, nap.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just such a bad night to catch her on.

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<v Speaker 2>Man, how'd you leave it?

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<v Speaker 4>It kind of just ended super abruptly, like I suggested

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<v Speaker 4>changing venues or I had a couple of friends who

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<v Speaker 4>were going out to a different bar, and she just

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<v Speaker 4>kept on kind of turning everything down and yawning, and

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<v Speaker 4>so it was just like a weird ending. She just

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<v Speaker 4>kind of like hugged.

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<v Speaker 2>Me and cuddled up underneath the drunk guy was like,

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<v Speaker 2>just leave me here. Yeah, me and him can kind of. Yeah, So,

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<v Speaker 2>how long has it been since you last talked to her.

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<v Speaker 4>It's been essentially like four or five days.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, she may have just been she's just in a

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<v Speaker 2>big recovery nap.

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<v Speaker 3>If she had a huge project for work, she may

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<v Speaker 3>have still been swamped.

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<v Speaker 1>She just hasn't had time.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we're gonna call her in just a few minutes here,

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<v Speaker 2>and we're gonna tell her work. Isn't that important you

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<v Speaker 2>need to.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, that's a good life.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll tell you the blow off her work plans and

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<v Speaker 2>go out with you one more time when we get

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<v Speaker 2>your second date update right after that. Hold on, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>Broke and Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 4>Second Date updates.

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<v Speaker 2>It's the first date that was worth the weight.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I mean not really.

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<v Speaker 2>At least that's what we're hoping for in the end,

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<v Speaker 2>right because one of our listeners, Vincent, says he sat

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<v Speaker 2>in his car outside of Jackie's work for three hours.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know why. I just assumed he was like

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<v Speaker 1>a coffee shop or something. He sat in his car

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<v Speaker 1>this entire time.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought that's what he said. Oh, I didn't realize

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<v Speaker 2>that either. Actually, let me ask him, Bro, you were

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<v Speaker 2>in your car? Vince? Were you in your car all time?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 1>You made it sound so much more pathetic, Jeffrey, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's start it again. One of our listeners, Vincent was

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<v Speaker 2>sat in the vicinity.

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<v Speaker 1>Of her work.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, okay, three hours for her to finish, so that

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<v Speaker 2>they could hit the.

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<v Speaker 1>Bars together, just watching TikTok videos.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the kind of commitment from a guy that most

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<v Speaker 2>women would dream of. Your husband wouldn't wait three hours

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<v Speaker 2>for you to do anything?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that kind of But see that's I wouldn't blame him.

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<v Speaker 1>I would wait for three hours for him too. Available.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, good committed is the type of guy that Vincent is.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're all eager to help him. But Vince, first

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<v Speaker 2>we got to do a couple of prank calls. If

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<v Speaker 2>you could just hold on for.

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<v Speaker 4>That's very funny. I'm not waiting for the.

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<v Speaker 2>Learning from his lesson. That's all you can ask for.

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<v Speaker 4>Least there really quick and then I can wait a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, Bro't you're too nice. You have so much.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate your openness for us. Vincent, we're going to

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<v Speaker 2>do our best year. We're going to call Jackie.

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<v Speaker 4>You ready, yeah, super ready?

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<v Speaker 1>Things.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello, Hey, we're looking for jackiey. Hey, Jackie, you're on

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<v Speaker 2>the radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to the show, Jackie.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up? Surprise? Yeah, that's surprise. Good question. We do

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<v Speaker 2>a segment on this show called a second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but we

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<v Speaker 2>try to help out listeners who've gone out with someone

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<v Speaker 2>recently and are having trouble setting up a second date.

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<v Speaker 2>And so you went now with a guy named Vincent

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<v Speaker 2>who wants to see you again.

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<v Speaker 5>I did.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what do you think about Vincent?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, he's a very nice guy here.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, it's just like that description always like if

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<v Speaker 3>you were to describe a girl as like.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, she's a very nice woman.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, the same thing. No one wants to be nice.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not one hundred percent in on Vincent yet.

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<v Speaker 5>Honestly, I don't know if I like anybody.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's not Vincent, it's just people.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure, humans, Okay, I think a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Of people can relate to that sentiment.

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<v Speaker 2>Before we walk down the lonely path with you, can

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<v Speaker 2>we go back to the date night because Vincent says

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<v Speaker 2>you made him wait for three hours outside of your work. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he wasn't complaining about that, but he just said that

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<v Speaker 2>he was willing to wait for that long in order

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<v Speaker 2>to see him, and that's a long time for a

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<v Speaker 2>guy to wait.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh man, Well, so.

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<v Speaker 5>I kind of lied. I wasn't actually at work. Really, what.

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<v Speaker 3>He said that you were texting the entire time and

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<v Speaker 3>you're like you had some deadline and kept going later, I.

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<v Speaker 5>Know I was. I was at home in my pajamas

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<v Speaker 5>with my cats, reading a book's d I was just

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<v Speaker 5>like kind of hoping he'd just give up after a while.

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<v Speaker 5>And you know, oh.

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<v Speaker 2>Man, why why did you want him to give Like

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<v Speaker 2>he made this whole plan with you.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, here's the thing. I really like the idea of

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<v Speaker 5>dating and having a boyfriend and going out and having

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<v Speaker 5>a great time. But like in my heart of hearts,

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<v Speaker 5>I am just a homebody and like it gives me

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<v Speaker 5>a little bit of stress to go out. And I

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<v Speaker 5>was like, maybe he'll just stop texting and be like, oh, okay,

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<v Speaker 5>it sounds you're working too late.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, you just like it's way more stressful to

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<v Speaker 3>lie to someone for three hours and.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel terrible about it. I assume it felt bad, right.

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<v Speaker 5>Like I did. And that's why I like, I reput

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<v Speaker 5>on my work close and I drove to my office

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<v Speaker 5>because he's like waiting around like a bar break by

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<v Speaker 5>my office. So I was like, okay, he's gonna see me,

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<v Speaker 5>not come out of my office. So like I snuck

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<v Speaker 5>into Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>When she was tired on the date, she was literally

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<v Speaker 2>in bed right before it started.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you have I mean, did you have any fun

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<v Speaker 1>on the date?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean like yeah, he's very nice and I mean

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<v Speaker 5>he waited, I guess, and fun and he like did

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<v Speaker 5>this thing because I liked art and stuff. He did

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<v Speaker 5>this thing where we were we got.

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<v Speaker 2>The full art breakdown. Yeah, overall, what it comes down

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<v Speaker 2>to it sounds like you wish you could have a boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 2>but when it comes down to actually doing it and

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<v Speaker 2>actually going through with the dates, right, you would rather

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<v Speaker 2>not be doing any of that.

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<v Speaker 5>My dream date is like, sit on the couch and

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<v Speaker 5>watch a movie.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to adjust your dream date to being surprised

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<v Speaker 2>on the radio by a mystery man on the other

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<v Speaker 2>line who wants to talk to you. Who's that, Oh, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it's Vincent. Yeah, and I spell it out, Yeah, he's there.

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<v Speaker 4>I've been here. I'm just trying to process.

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<v Speaker 2>What's going through your head. Vincent.

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<v Speaker 1>I you mad?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I'm not mad. I'm just more just confused of like,

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<v Speaker 4>why didn't you just say I'm just not feeling it.

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<v Speaker 4>That just seems so much easier.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I don't know, because I was like, I've said

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<v Speaker 5>it to people in the past and they've just kind

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<v Speaker 5>of been a kind of so I this was avoiding

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<v Speaker 5>all of that awkwardness, And I was like, it'll be

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<v Speaker 5>so much easy or for you to make the decision

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<v Speaker 5>not to hang out.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, then you'll.

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<v Speaker 1>Feel less guilty and you canceled and be stating both

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<v Speaker 1>people want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Bail, you want to apologize for not bailing sooner on

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<v Speaker 2>the date.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, yeah, maybe maybe I should have bailed. I

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<v Speaker 4>guess maybe I should have had that sort of like

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<v Speaker 4>self respect earlier on.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't go, don't go too hard on yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I'm almost off I'm almost offive.

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<v Speaker 5>And I didn't realize, you know, how how much someone

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<v Speaker 5>would want to go out on a date with me.

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<v Speaker 4>I go, you're worthy of a date.

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<v Speaker 5>It was, which is why I mean, I put my

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<v Speaker 5>pants on, and when.

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<v Speaker 2>Not a lot of women are willing to do that

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<v Speaker 2>for guys that you got a girl to put her

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<v Speaker 2>pants on instead of take them off, you know, for you.

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<v Speaker 4>But now it's now it just kind of feels like

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<v Speaker 4>indicative of a larger problems, Like let's say we do

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<v Speaker 4>enter in a relationship, you know, or let's say something

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<v Speaker 4>actually does get tougher in our relationship. Are you just

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<v Speaker 4>gonna shut down like that in a larger capacity, Like, God.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't think about that stuff. I thought you were just

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<v Speaker 1>saying to think about, Like what if there's a cool

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<v Speaker 1>party and she doesn't want to go with me?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I don't know. Like if I'm comfortable with the person,

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<v Speaker 5>it's it's much easier to turn off the loud noise

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<v Speaker 5>in the in the outside. But I you know, I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know people on first dates.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just like the first, second, third dates are a little.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, yeah, dating it's hard. Right now, you can

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<v Speaker 1>you can kind of understand that, right, Vincent.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, dating is really hard. I know that because I

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<v Speaker 4>waited three hours for.

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<v Speaker 2>Good job.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, they both went through pain that night, and maybe

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<v Speaker 3>it brought you guys closer together.

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<v Speaker 2>It's possible. And Vincent, if if you heard Jackie, she

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<v Speaker 2>likes to do stuff at home, don't you maybe want

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<v Speaker 2>to like snuggle up, watch the Netflix, dude, put on

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<v Speaker 2>your pj's.

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<v Speaker 4>Some of the best aids I've ever had were all delivery,

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<v Speaker 4>all on a couch, just talking.

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<v Speaker 1>You can go pants on.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you could pay for I do like that. You know.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not a total extrovert by any means.

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<v Speaker 2>I think we're we have some good momentum here, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's why I want to offer to send you guys

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<v Speaker 2>on another date on us. Yeah, we'll give you an

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<v Speaker 2>Uber eats tab so you can deliver food in car.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, maybe like a daytime date, just so like it's

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<v Speaker 5>not after a long day of work and I'm.

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<v Speaker 1>Tired and hold yourself accountable.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, I see what she's doing. He's going to

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<v Speaker 2>show up to her apartment and she'll already be back

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<v Speaker 2>at work. Then she'll have to sneak into apartment through

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<v Speaker 2>the back way through the fire escape.

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<v Speaker 3>It does feel a little strange. I mean, only say

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<v Speaker 3>yes if you really want to go, Jackie, please.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah no, I mean I got to get out of

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<v Speaker 5>my comfort zone. And now that you already know my

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<v Speaker 5>entire story, I don't have to explain it to you anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>Vincent, she was open and honest. She's a little bit

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<v Speaker 2>socially anxious when it comes to first dates. But now

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<v Speaker 2>that you've got the first one out of the way,

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<v Speaker 2>the second one should be super easy. What do you think.

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<v Speaker 4>I think as long as it's like an uber each

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<v Speaker 4>thing or whatever, you give it to her and put

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<v Speaker 4>it in her court.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you want her to make the effort. She's going

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<v Speaker 1>to order without you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yourself. Classic a Lexus movie.

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<v Speaker 3>Reoking Jeffrey in the morning?

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<v Speaker 2>Man, were you guys thinking what I was thinking the

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<v Speaker 2>entire call?

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<v Speaker 1>Like, why was it he so angry that she lied

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<v Speaker 1>to him for three hours? Anyway? So time?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, not that I was wondering, did we just

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<v Speaker 2>get off the phone with the female Jose.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, because you're so right.

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<v Speaker 2>The idea of having a significant other is obviously amazing,

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<v Speaker 2>spot on, But when it finally comes time to have

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<v Speaker 2>a free night, oh god, they would rather stay home,

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<v Speaker 2>avoid the crowds, or and stream a show, fall asleep

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<v Speaker 2>with their hand and the right.

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<v Speaker 1>How many fridays does he tell us? I'm like, what

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<v Speaker 1>are you doing this week? He's like, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>this girl isn't on a date.

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<v Speaker 2>I finally have a Friday night off.

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<v Speaker 1>I got some time off. I want to stream a

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<v Speaker 1>stream game. I want a girlfriend so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to skip all that and just marry me,

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<v Speaker 2>text to seven eighty.

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<v Speaker 1>Five nine two. All right, let's have a cute family.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure that'll work out.

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<v Speaker 2>We're accepting proposals now, but I won't be at the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>By the way, if you got to take a nap,

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<v Speaker 2>fair warning. If you want to get a second date

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<v Speaker 2>update that, you can always email the show. We'll call

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<v Speaker 2>that person who isn't calling you back and check out

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