Speaker 1: Welcome to the Second Day podcast. We're so glad you're here,
Speaker 1: especially on a lovely Friday.
Speaker 2: I'm happier than the other two girls that you're.
Speaker 1: Here, so you know, it's definitely a computation, Jose. So
Speaker 1: all right, here's your second day. It starts now.
Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning second date updates.
Speaker 2: What do you think is a good time of day
Speaker 2: for a first date to start first date? I don't know,
Speaker 2: six seven pm? Oh, your pm start early. It's dark
Speaker 2: so you don't have to worry about how you look
Speaker 2: that much.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Jeffrey really gets it in some people do a
Speaker 3: morning workout.
Speaker 1: He does the morning date and peaceful.
Speaker 2: No one's around to distract you swoop in, possibly steal
Speaker 2: your date away. Everyone's in bed. But I get it.
Speaker 2: Some people like them later on in the day. But
Speaker 2: one of our listeners, Vincent, says his date started too
Speaker 2: late and that could have been a problem for him. Vincent,
Speaker 2: Welcome to the show man.
Speaker 4: Hey, thanks so much for having me.
Speaker 3: Don't get Jeffrey started. It started at six am? Is
Speaker 3: that what you're saying, Vincent?
Speaker 2: Yeah, tell us about when years started? How did that
Speaker 2: all happen?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, honestly, it just took me by surprise.
Speaker 4: I met this girl, Jackie on a dating app, and
Speaker 4: I kind of liked how in her profile, like she
Speaker 4: had a lot of pictures of her with modern art,
Speaker 4: like she'd gone to like the MoMA in New York
Speaker 4: City or like the Dollar Museum and stuff, And I
Speaker 4: minored in art histories. I kind of like that, I
Speaker 4: guess a little bit.
Speaker 1: And it's an easy thing to talk about exactly.
Speaker 3: So is that what your opening line with her was
Speaker 3: was about like Jackson Pollock or something.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's something like that. I actually don't even remember.
Speaker 4: But I offered to meet her after work and then
Speaker 4: just got to like a bar from there or something,
Speaker 4: and she was pretty chill about that. Okay, that's cool,
Speaker 4: which was I thought, canna nice to be like, Okay,
Speaker 4: meeting you at your work already, that kind of was
Speaker 4: exciting to me.
Speaker 2: See, that's why my idea works so well, because you
Speaker 2: start the date and then go to work.
Speaker 3: Well, and we're going back to the early morning. I
Speaker 3: think that this is more happy hour time led to.
Speaker 2: The day because of the morning commute.
Speaker 1: I don't know was she working an overnight shift, what.
Speaker 2: Time was it?
Speaker 4: No, I mean I got there like six. Then I
Speaker 4: just kind of like sat outside of her work for
Speaker 4: a second because she kept on texting me like, oh,
Speaker 4: I have like this project deadline and it's going long
Speaker 4: and I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: How long were you waiting out there?
Speaker 4: I actually didn't see her until about nine pm.
Speaker 1: WHOA, what did you do? Do you take yourself to dinner?
Speaker 4: I should have right, I was starving? No, I mean
Speaker 4: I I just kept on waiting, and I was like
Speaker 4: watching TikTok I guess.
Speaker 2: Our TikTok at Brooke and Jeffery.
Speaker 3: I love when every time there's a moment his eyebrows
Speaker 3: raised like I can plug it.
Speaker 2: We appreciate you following it. So what did you two do?
Speaker 2: Speaking of YouTube, we're.
Speaker 3: Also I mean, why didn't she just reschedule like that?
Speaker 1: Crazy? Or why didn't it? Why didn't you?
Speaker 4: It was just one of those things where it kept
Speaker 4: on getting pushed, so like every ten to fifteen minutes,
Speaker 4: she was like, Okay, I think we're wrapping up, and
Speaker 4: then she would apologize and then she was still I
Speaker 4: felt like she felt really bad about it all. So
Speaker 4: I kept on like, no, no, don't worry. You know
Speaker 4: you work. It's busy. I understand, like sometimes I have
Speaker 4: late nights as well, but she.
Speaker 2: Would have felt like she had blown it if you
Speaker 2: had canceled on the date at the last second.
Speaker 1: I don't know that, and I'm sure she.
Speaker 3: I mean, like, when you finally meet her, is she
Speaker 3: totally fried? Like she's now been working like a twill
Speaker 3: hour day over time.
Speaker 4: That's exactly what happened when she finally like came downstairs.
Speaker 4: She just kind of looked totally exhausted, but she still
Speaker 4: wanted to go out, And I said, you want to
Speaker 4: just call it? She was like, no, no, no, you waited
Speaker 4: all this time, like let's go at least for a
Speaker 4: drink or something.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it shows you that she's considerate, bro, I mean
Speaker 2: she knows. She's like, she's so aware.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: We talked to have no idea what.
Speaker 1: It sounds like.
Speaker 3: She I mean, I have this tendency too, where you
Speaker 3: think you have all this time. She sounds like a
Speaker 3: terrible time management. She should have even planned a date
Speaker 3: for that night.
Speaker 2: So I mean, did you end up actually going out
Speaker 2: with her or was that it?
Speaker 5: Yeah? No, we did.
Speaker 4: We you know, we got to the bar and we
Speaker 4: had a good time, and we have to like we
Speaker 4: played this random game. We just came up with it.
Speaker 4: At the time. We were called art or not art,
Speaker 4: where we just like pointed at random things in the
Speaker 4: bar or random.
Speaker 2: But let's talk about the fun parts of the date though.
Speaker 1: It is fun art or not art?
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's just a table, nothing else to talk about,
Speaker 2: all right? What was the most fun piece of art
Speaker 2: in the bar?
Speaker 4: I don't know. I kind of like noticed this one
Speaker 4: kind of schlubby looking guy who was in the corner
Speaker 4: and he was kind of like doubled over his drink
Speaker 4: a little bit, and I pointed at that. I was like,
Speaker 4: do you think that's art? But like the way that
Speaker 4: the light was kind of projected from above him, I
Speaker 4: thought was very artistic, and she did as well. Look,
Speaker 4: it's overweight statue of David.
Speaker 2: If you guys bonded over it, then all the power
Speaker 2: to you. So how did the night right?
Speaker 4: But yeah, no, I mean I feel we played that.
Speaker 4: Her energy still was super low. Even after the market.
Speaker 2: She was over guy under the fluorescent lights didn't get
Speaker 2: her all jazzed up.
Speaker 1: I think she wanted to play nap or no, nap.
Speaker 1: It's just such a bad night to catch her on.
Speaker 2: Man, how'd you leave it?
Speaker 4: It kind of just ended super abruptly, like I suggested
Speaker 4: changing venues or I had a couple of friends who
Speaker 4: were going out to a different bar, and she just
Speaker 4: kept on kind of turning everything down and yawning, and
Speaker 4: so it was just like a weird ending. She just
Speaker 4: kind of like hugged.
Speaker 2: Me and cuddled up underneath the drunk guy was like,
Speaker 2: just leave me here. Yeah, me and him can kind of. Yeah, So,
Speaker 2: how long has it been since you last talked to her.
Speaker 4: It's been essentially like four or five days.
Speaker 2: Okay, she may have just been she's just in a
Speaker 2: big recovery nap.
Speaker 3: If she had a huge project for work, she may
Speaker 3: have still been swamped.
Speaker 1: She just hasn't had time.
Speaker 2: Well, we're gonna call her in just a few minutes here,
Speaker 2: and we're gonna tell her work. Isn't that important you
Speaker 2: need to.
Speaker 1: Actually, that's a good life.
Speaker 2: We'll tell you the blow off her work plans and
Speaker 2: go out with you one more time when we get
Speaker 2: your second date update right after that. Hold on, Okay,
Speaker 2: Broke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: Second Date updates.
Speaker 2: It's the first date that was worth the weight.
Speaker 1: Oh, I mean not really.
Speaker 2: At least that's what we're hoping for in the end,
Speaker 2: right because one of our listeners, Vincent, says he sat
Speaker 2: in his car outside of Jackie's work for three hours.
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I just assumed he was like
Speaker 1: a coffee shop or something. He sat in his car
Speaker 1: this entire time.
Speaker 2: I thought that's what he said. Oh, I didn't realize
Speaker 2: that either. Actually, let me ask him, Bro, you were
Speaker 2: in your car? Vince? Were you in your car all time?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: You made it sound so much more pathetic, Jeffrey, you
Speaker 1: know what.
Speaker 2: Let's start it again. One of our listeners, Vincent was
Speaker 2: sat in the vicinity.
Speaker 1: Of her work.
Speaker 2: Yes, okay, three hours for her to finish, so that
Speaker 2: they could hit the.
Speaker 1: Bars together, just watching TikTok videos.
Speaker 2: That's the kind of commitment from a guy that most
Speaker 2: women would dream of. Your husband wouldn't wait three hours
Speaker 2: for you to do anything?
Speaker 1: Oh that kind of But see that's I wouldn't blame him.
Speaker 1: I would wait for three hours for him too. Available.
Speaker 2: Yeah, good committed is the type of guy that Vincent is.
Speaker 2: So we're all eager to help him. But Vince, first
Speaker 2: we got to do a couple of prank calls. If
Speaker 2: you could just hold on for.
Speaker 4: That's very funny. I'm not waiting for the.
Speaker 2: Learning from his lesson. That's all you can ask for.
Speaker 4: Least there really quick and then I can wait a
Speaker 4: little bit.
Speaker 1: Oh no, Bro't you're too nice. You have so much.
Speaker 2: I appreciate your openness for us. Vincent, we're going to
Speaker 2: do our best year. We're going to call Jackie.
Speaker 4: You ready, yeah, super ready?
Speaker 1: Things.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hey, we're looking for jackiey. Hey, Jackie, you're on
Speaker 2: the radio right now with Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show, Jackie.
Speaker 2: What's up? Surprise? Yeah, that's surprise. Good question. We do
Speaker 2: a segment on this show called a second Date Update.
Speaker 2: I'm not sure if you're familiar with that, but we
Speaker 2: try to help out listeners who've gone out with someone
Speaker 2: recently and are having trouble setting up a second date.
Speaker 2: And so you went now with a guy named Vincent
Speaker 2: who wants to see you again.
Speaker 5: I did.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what do you think about Vincent?
Speaker 5: I mean, he's a very nice guy here.
Speaker 3: Oh no, it's just like that description always like if
Speaker 3: you were to describe a girl as like.
Speaker 1: Oh, she's a very nice woman.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the same thing. No one wants to be nice.
Speaker 2: You're not one hundred percent in on Vincent yet.
Speaker 5: Honestly, I don't know if I like anybody.
Speaker 1: So it's not Vincent, it's just people.
Speaker 2: Sure, humans, Okay, I think a lot.
Speaker 1: Of people can relate to that sentiment.
Speaker 2: Before we walk down the lonely path with you, can
Speaker 2: we go back to the date night because Vincent says
Speaker 2: you made him wait for three hours outside of your work. Yeah,
Speaker 2: he wasn't complaining about that, but he just said that
Speaker 2: he was willing to wait for that long in order
Speaker 2: to see him, and that's a long time for a
Speaker 2: guy to wait.
Speaker 1: Oh man, Well, so.
Speaker 5: I kind of lied. I wasn't actually at work. Really, what.
Speaker 3: He said that you were texting the entire time and
Speaker 3: you're like you had some deadline and kept going later, I.
Speaker 5: Know I was. I was at home in my pajamas
Speaker 5: with my cats, reading a book's d I was just
Speaker 5: like kind of hoping he'd just give up after a while.
Speaker 5: And you know, oh.
Speaker 2: Man, why why did you want him to give Like
Speaker 2: he made this whole plan with you.
Speaker 5: Well, here's the thing. I really like the idea of
Speaker 5: dating and having a boyfriend and going out and having
Speaker 5: a great time. But like in my heart of hearts,
Speaker 5: I am just a homebody and like it gives me
Speaker 5: a little bit of stress to go out. And I
Speaker 5: was like, maybe he'll just stop texting and be like, oh, okay,
Speaker 5: it sounds you're working too late.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, you just like it's way more stressful to
Speaker 3: lie to someone for three hours and.
Speaker 1: Feel terrible about it. I assume it felt bad, right.
Speaker 5: Like I did. And that's why I like, I reput
Speaker 5: on my work close and I drove to my office
Speaker 5: because he's like waiting around like a bar break by
Speaker 5: my office. So I was like, okay, he's gonna see me,
Speaker 5: not come out of my office. So like I snuck
Speaker 5: into Oh my god.
Speaker 2: When she was tired on the date, she was literally
Speaker 2: in bed right before it started.
Speaker 1: Did you have I mean, did you have any fun
Speaker 1: on the date?
Speaker 5: I mean like yeah, he's very nice and I mean
Speaker 5: he waited, I guess, and fun and he like did
Speaker 5: this thing because I liked art and stuff. He did
Speaker 5: this thing where we were we got.
Speaker 2: The full art breakdown. Yeah, overall, what it comes down
Speaker 2: to it sounds like you wish you could have a boyfriend,
Speaker 2: but when it comes down to actually doing it and
Speaker 2: actually going through with the dates, right, you would rather
Speaker 2: not be doing any of that.
Speaker 5: My dream date is like, sit on the couch and
Speaker 5: watch a movie.
Speaker 2: We're going to adjust your dream date to being surprised
Speaker 2: on the radio by a mystery man on the other
Speaker 2: line who wants to talk to you. Who's that, Oh, yes,
Speaker 2: it's Vincent. Yeah, and I spell it out, Yeah, he's there.
Speaker 4: I've been here. I'm just trying to process.
Speaker 2: What's going through your head. Vincent.
Speaker 1: I you mad?
Speaker 4: No, I'm not mad. I'm just more just confused of like,
Speaker 4: why didn't you just say I'm just not feeling it.
Speaker 4: That just seems so much easier.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know, because I was like, I've said
Speaker 5: it to people in the past and they've just kind
Speaker 5: of been a kind of so I this was avoiding
Speaker 5: all of that awkwardness, And I was like, it'll be
Speaker 5: so much easy or for you to make the decision
Speaker 5: not to hang out.
Speaker 2: Oh, then you'll.
Speaker 1: Feel less guilty and you canceled and be stating both
Speaker 1: people want to.
Speaker 2: Bail, you want to apologize for not bailing sooner on
Speaker 2: the date.
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, maybe maybe I should have bailed. I
Speaker 4: guess maybe I should have had that sort of like
Speaker 4: self respect earlier on.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't go, don't go too hard on yourself.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm almost off I'm almost offive.
Speaker 5: And I didn't realize, you know, how how much someone
Speaker 5: would want to go out on a date with me.
Speaker 4: I go, you're worthy of a date.
Speaker 5: It was, which is why I mean, I put my
Speaker 5: pants on, and when.
Speaker 2: Not a lot of women are willing to do that
Speaker 2: for guys that you got a girl to put her
Speaker 2: pants on instead of take them off, you know, for you.
Speaker 4: But now it's now it just kind of feels like
Speaker 4: indicative of a larger problems, Like let's say we do
Speaker 4: enter in a relationship, you know, or let's say something
Speaker 4: actually does get tougher in our relationship. Are you just
Speaker 4: gonna shut down like that in a larger capacity, Like, God.
Speaker 1: Don't think about that stuff. I thought you were just
Speaker 1: saying to think about, Like what if there's a cool
Speaker 1: party and she doesn't want to go with me?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know. Like if I'm comfortable with the person,
Speaker 5: it's it's much easier to turn off the loud noise
Speaker 5: in the in the outside. But I you know, I
Speaker 5: don't know people on first dates.
Speaker 2: It's just like the first, second, third dates are a little.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, dating it's hard. Right now, you can
Speaker 1: you can kind of understand that, right, Vincent.
Speaker 4: Yeah, dating is really hard. I know that because I
Speaker 4: waited three hours for.
Speaker 2: Good job.
Speaker 3: Well, they both went through pain that night, and maybe
Speaker 3: it brought you guys closer together.
Speaker 2: It's possible. And Vincent, if if you heard Jackie, she
Speaker 2: likes to do stuff at home, don't you maybe want
Speaker 2: to like snuggle up, watch the Netflix, dude, put on
Speaker 2: your pj's.
Speaker 4: Some of the best aids I've ever had were all delivery,
Speaker 4: all on a couch, just talking.
Speaker 1: You can go pants on.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you could pay for I do like that. You know.
Speaker 4: I'm not a total extrovert by any means.
Speaker 2: I think we're we have some good momentum here, and
Speaker 2: that's why I want to offer to send you guys
Speaker 2: on another date on us. Yeah, we'll give you an
Speaker 2: Uber eats tab so you can deliver food in car.
Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe like a daytime date, just so like it's
Speaker 5: not after a long day of work and I'm.
Speaker 1: Tired and hold yourself accountable.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I see what she's doing. He's going to
Speaker 2: show up to her apartment and she'll already be back
Speaker 2: at work. Then she'll have to sneak into apartment through
Speaker 2: the back way through the fire escape.
Speaker 3: It does feel a little strange. I mean, only say
Speaker 3: yes if you really want to go, Jackie, please.
Speaker 5: Yeah no, I mean I got to get out of
Speaker 5: my comfort zone. And now that you already know my
Speaker 5: entire story, I don't have to explain it to you anymore.
Speaker 2: Vincent, she was open and honest. She's a little bit
Speaker 2: socially anxious when it comes to first dates. But now
Speaker 2: that you've got the first one out of the way,
Speaker 2: the second one should be super easy. What do you think.
Speaker 4: I think as long as it's like an uber each
Speaker 4: thing or whatever, you give it to her and put
Speaker 4: it in her court.
Speaker 1: Oh you want her to make the effort. She's going
Speaker 1: to order without you.
Speaker 2: Yourself. Classic a Lexus movie.
Speaker 3: Reoking Jeffrey in the morning?
Speaker 2: Man, were you guys thinking what I was thinking the
Speaker 2: entire call?
Speaker 1: Like, why was it he so angry that she lied
Speaker 1: to him for three hours? Anyway? So time?
Speaker 2: Oh no, not that I was wondering, did we just
Speaker 2: get off the phone with the female Jose.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, because you're so right.
Speaker 2: The idea of having a significant other is obviously amazing,
Speaker 2: spot on, But when it finally comes time to have
Speaker 2: a free night, oh god, they would rather stay home,
Speaker 2: avoid the crowds, or and stream a show, fall asleep
Speaker 2: with their hand and the right.
Speaker 1: How many fridays does he tell us? I'm like, what
Speaker 1: are you doing this week? He's like, well, you know,
Speaker 1: this girl isn't on a date.
Speaker 2: I finally have a Friday night off.
Speaker 1: I got some time off. I want to stream a
Speaker 1: stream game. I want a girlfriend so bad.
Speaker 2: If you want to skip all that and just marry me,
Speaker 2: text to seven eighty.
Speaker 1: Five nine two. All right, let's have a cute family.
Speaker 1: I'm sure that'll work out.
Speaker 2: We're accepting proposals now, but I won't be at the wedding.
Speaker 2: By the way, if you got to take a nap,
Speaker 2: fair warning. If you want to get a second date
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