1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable with Jay Glacier, a mental health podcast 2 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:11,680 Speaker 1: helping you out of the gray and into the blue. 3 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: Now here's Jay Glacier. 4 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:19,360 Speaker 2: Welcome into a very special Unbreakable, a mental health podcast 5 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 2: with Jay Glazer. I'm Jay Glazer, and this is the 6 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:26,200 Speaker 2: most special guest I've ever had on in my entire life. 7 00:00:26,680 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 2: And before I get to her, just a quick word 8 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 2: here from our title sponsor, Carolyn. If you're like many people, 9 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 2: you may be surprised to learn that one in five 10 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 2: adults in this country experienced mental illness last year. Yet 11 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:40,839 Speaker 2: far too many fellow receive the support they need. Carolyn, 12 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 2: behavioral health is doing something about it. They understand that 13 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:47,440 Speaker 2: behavioral health is a key part of whole health, delivering 14 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 2: compassionate care that treats physical, mental, emotional, and social needs 15 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 2: in tandem. Carolyn, behavioral health raising the quality of life 16 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 2: through empathy and action. The way this came about is wonderful. 17 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:02,280 Speaker 2: People over at Fox Sports Radio and a lot of 18 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 2: people out there have said, man, we have never seen 19 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 2: you better, We've never seen a better version of Jay Glazer. 20 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 2: And I said, well, Rosie's really the reason why my 21 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:16,760 Speaker 2: beautiful fiance Rosie Tennyson, She's why And you know, I finally, 22 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:19,960 Speaker 2: after all these years, found a partner who could really 23 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 2: lift me up. But I feel comfortable and safe for 24 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:23,559 Speaker 2: the first time in my life. And they said, great, 25 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:26,520 Speaker 2: let's get Rosie and I said, no, nono, now, I'm 26 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 2: not getting Rosie on, Absolutely not. And they said, do 27 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:30,839 Speaker 2: you know how many people you can help and give 28 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:33,039 Speaker 2: hope to if the two of you came on and 29 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 2: just talked about not only Rosie's life, which is unbelievable, 30 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:40,080 Speaker 2: like she's the reality show of all reality shows and 31 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 2: the success story of success stories for all little girls 32 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 2: out there trying to make it, but also just the 33 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,760 Speaker 2: hope that we can give people that it's never too 34 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 2: late to find love, and also to give people insight 35 00:01:52,080 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 2: into what she does to help me when my crazy 36 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 2: gets out of control, when my gray gets really dark 37 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 2: and deep, what she does tell lift me up and 38 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 2: to be there for me. So I am this better version. 39 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 2: So this is for Don and Scott m Horriy and 40 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:10,920 Speaker 2: Justin and everybody else out there who has said this 41 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 2: is the best version of Jay Glazers they've seen. Everybody. 42 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:18,280 Speaker 2: Welcome my beautiful fiance, Rosie Tennyson. 43 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 3: Thank you, babe. That's quite the introduction. 44 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 2: It is quite the introduction. Then move up to Rosie. 45 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 2: So what was your favorite acting or modeling job? And 46 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 2: now like she'll come up with and by the way, 47 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 2: here's the thing that the crazy part. Rosie ended up 48 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:39,840 Speaker 2: graduating oh la la in broadcasting, Yeah, broadcast journalism because 49 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 2: she wants to be a sports reporter. 50 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,359 Speaker 3: Yeah right, And I. 51 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 2: Don't know this until a year ago, Like, hello, like, Rosie, 52 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 2: how do you fail to tell me this? And then 53 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 2: tells me she was a researcher in Fox Sports in 54 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 2: the early nineties, like the same thing I did, but 55 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 2: to start my career at CBS logging game tape and 56 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 2: I'm like, put it. I'm telling you why that we 57 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 2: saw his playmate sitting there doing and she is over 58 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:07,960 Speaker 2: there on the research. You're like you you had a 59 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 2: kid me And like again, she doesn't tell me this 60 00:03:10,400 --> 00:03:11,079 Speaker 2: till like recently. 61 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:12,519 Speaker 3: Oh by the way, very long. 62 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 4: I was only there for a couple of weeks and 63 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 4: that I ended up I feel like going on to 64 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 4: what I do now. 65 00:03:16,919 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 3: But it was fun. 66 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,800 Speaker 2: It was oh so okay, okay, okay, so you do 67 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 2: that and then after that, you know, I've told you guys, 68 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 2: it's it's never too late to make a change. Right. 69 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 2: I've talked about this. You've changed your life in the 70 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 2: fraction of a second, and you decide to You decided 71 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 2: to get out of modeling all together, you and your 72 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:38,119 Speaker 2: sister together at your height, right. 73 00:03:38,360 --> 00:03:41,119 Speaker 4: Well, yeah, we had we modeled for years and years 74 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 4: and years. But then after a while I kind of 75 00:03:42,840 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 4: was like, you know what, I kind of just the 76 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 4: I just lost the thrill and wanted to do something else. 77 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 4: So I remember I was thinking, gosh, what could I do? 78 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 3: What can I do? 79 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 4: And then I was watching this Oprah show called Find 80 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 4: Your Passion, and they were like telling you if you 81 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 4: could do anything, and a genie came down and said, Hey, 82 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 4: you know, you could do whatever you want. It's not 83 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 4: no one's telling you you don't have the experience. 84 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 3: You're too old or this or that. What would you do? 85 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 4: And my sister and I were like, we would probably 86 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 4: do something in fashion, because we used to like design 87 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 4: our own clothes and all this stuff. So that's what 88 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:14,720 Speaker 4: we kind of were like, Well, wait, what if we 89 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:16,599 Speaker 4: did something in fashion? What if we start like a 90 00:04:16,640 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 4: clothing company, which was like something we never would have 91 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 4: thought of or never would have even allowed ourselves to 92 00:04:21,520 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 4: even dream to do. And like slowly but surely we 93 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 4: started like you know, so you but. 94 00:04:27,839 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 2: How old are are this time you reinvent yourself? 95 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,560 Speaker 3: It was like probably in your thirties. 96 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:35,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, you decided and your thirties you're going to completely 97 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:37,600 Speaker 2: reinvent your whole life and whole career. Yeah, so I 98 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 2: want people to hear that too. That's great. 99 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 4: That's never that extra, yeah, because it's a completely different 100 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 4: than what we were doing. So we just started off 101 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 4: like small, and we got like a little Kiosk and 102 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:51,680 Speaker 4: like this is you know, Kiosk is in Idaho, which 103 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 4: what we were flying back? 104 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 2: So Kiosk in the mall in Idaho and you were 105 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 2: so you started selling clothes. 106 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:58,719 Speaker 3: We were doing accessories at the question time. 107 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, you were just I'm making those little lot rhine 108 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 4: star jewelry and stuff like that. 109 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 3: It was like a little crazy. 110 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 2: So it started that. 111 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, it started small, and then we like, you know, 112 00:05:09,040 --> 00:05:12,279 Speaker 4: several Kiosks, and then a friend of ours was telling us, hey, 113 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 4: you know you should combine these into like one store. 114 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:15,720 Speaker 2: But you were still living here. 115 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:17,159 Speaker 3: Did you move back to fly back and forth? 116 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 2: So you fly back and forth and you just have 117 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 2: people run those kiosks. 118 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, okay, And then we ended up getting our 119 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 4: first brick and mortar in Santa Monica. This is like 120 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:29,480 Speaker 4: our very first like store, which was like like the 121 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 4: start of like. 122 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 2: And their store is called Varga. 123 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 3: It's called Varga, Yeah, and it was. 124 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,279 Speaker 2: Named after Alberto Varga, who was the Yeah. 125 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 4: He does like the pennant drawings from like the fifties, 126 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 4: and it's like it's really cool because it was like 127 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 4: a really cool time like when women were like very 128 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:47,040 Speaker 4: fashionable and they were dressed really like Elizabeth Taylor, Marilyn 129 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 4: Monroe or Rodrey Hepburn. So it's inspired by that kind 130 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 4: of concept, right. 131 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 2: And then so then you get one brick and mortar 132 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 2: and you have since gone on to build this empire 133 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 2: of how many brick and mortars. 134 00:05:57,640 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 4: We've opened plate thirty Vargas over the course since since then, 135 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 4: since we start. 136 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:12,200 Speaker 2: Again stores. But again, han, I love you to go 137 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 2: from these two little girls we're making a dollar an 138 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 2: hour working in these fields of topping corn and holding 139 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:21,280 Speaker 2: beats and getting their dad stealing the money from them, 140 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,720 Speaker 2: to going out and having a very successful get an 141 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 2: alf off that farm in Idaho, having a very successful, 142 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:31,800 Speaker 2: you know, career in modeling and doing authentically and not 143 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 2: having to sell your soul for it, and then in 144 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:36,520 Speaker 2: your thirties to say we're going to pivot and do 145 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:40,280 Speaker 2: something completely different and build something that big on it 146 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:45,800 Speaker 2: is incredible. It's incredible. And Rosie has a hard time 147 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 2: with realizing how successful she's been, how magnificent that is. Like, 148 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:52,599 Speaker 2: this is the same two girls who have their arms 149 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 2: draped around them in Idaho watching the cars drive to 150 00:06:56,279 --> 00:06:59,599 Speaker 2: LA and you have both done that. If that ain't 151 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:03,120 Speaker 2: the Amare dream, I don't know what it is. And 152 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 2: if that ain't two girls saying I don't care what 153 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 2: uphill battles we have, we are going to overcome them 154 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:11,760 Speaker 2: and make our dreams come true, I don't know what 155 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 2: that is. 156 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 3: Thank you. 157 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 2: Can you give yourself a little grace and love yourself? 158 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:18,800 Speaker 3: I can love myself up. 159 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's hard to give yourself credit, I guess for 160 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:22,520 Speaker 4: all the work because we were always striving to do 161 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 4: more and do more and do more, and then at 162 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 4: some point I was like, wait, you know what, We've 163 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:29,840 Speaker 4: already done so much. Sometimes you kind of just need 164 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 4: to just kick back and like enjoy everything that you've 165 00:07:32,400 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 4: done and see it. 166 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 3: But it's sometimes hard to. 167 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 2: See for sure. But that's the thing that's a huge 168 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 2: lesson for everybody. It's like, that's where we get in problems, 169 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 2: is that we're we'll want more and more and more 170 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 2: and more and more, and you never get to enjoy 171 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:45,240 Speaker 2: it what you have have, have had that exactly what 172 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,960 Speaker 2: you've done, done, done, done, done. Like that's a big thing. 173 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 2: And that's a huge thing that gets in trouble in 174 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 2: between our ears, you know, with anxiety and with the grave. 175 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:56,880 Speaker 2: We get stuck in the grave because you don't allow 176 00:07:56,920 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 2: yourself that grace. So if yeah, I did this, Yeah 177 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 2: done this, and it's a it's a huge thing that 178 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 2: we now work on with Rosie so she could start 179 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 2: loving herself for all this. Rosie does it with me, 180 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:12,119 Speaker 2: so I can love myself up for all the different 181 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:14,760 Speaker 2: things I've done. I've reinvented myself five different times, you know, 182 00:08:14,840 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 2: with different things with businesses, charities and you know, from 183 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 2: NFL to MMA to mental health. Now, like God, I've 184 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:26,200 Speaker 2: you know, reinvented a bunch. But we really have to 185 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:30,680 Speaker 2: love our souls up for what we've done all right, 186 00:08:30,720 --> 00:08:34,439 Speaker 2: So now we're gonna shift into how Rosie I met, 187 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 2: and we met in Covid. I had gone to Pittsburgh 188 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 2: in a business trip right before everything shut down. And 189 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 2: I come back to my house and my friend Nikki's 190 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 2: Iering is there, who's my assist at time, she was 191 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 2: Eyeing's Erring's ex wife and she's done playboy and prices 192 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 2: right with Rosie. When I come home and I have 193 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 2: the tennis and twins at my house and they are 194 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 2: shifting drunk just sitting there at my house. I'm like, 195 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,080 Speaker 2: and I kne who the tennis and twins were. I 196 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 2: didn't expect to ever see them at my house. I'm like, 197 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 2: this is pretty fantastic right here. And Rosie and I 198 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:15,200 Speaker 2: just became friends in Covid, like you know here in La, 199 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 2: like no one wanted to look at you, and all 200 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 2: our business were closed down, and a couple of different 201 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 2: times we hung out just as friends. And one night, 202 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 2: NICKI and we're gonna ended up going off with this 203 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 2: deep conversation and I really got to sit there and 204 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:33,200 Speaker 2: talk with Rosie and we started talking about God and 205 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 2: our faith right and we just started bonding. It was 206 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 2: about three hours, and so I shifted over from me 207 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 2: as a friend to man, this woman is fantastic. And 208 00:09:44,640 --> 00:09:49,240 Speaker 2: I said, can I take on a date? And You're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, 209 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 2: we could do that, okay, But I literally go like 210 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:56,040 Speaker 2: what she said to me that night was just so 211 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,760 Speaker 2: different than anything else. And what she said by the 212 00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 2: way she had been on I was running a yeah right, 213 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:06,880 Speaker 2: I had her come on because actually wrote Rosie donated 214 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 2: clothes to some of our veterans. She donated a lot 215 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 2: of her equipment her store to a lot of our veterans, 216 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 2: right from merging vets and players. So I said, well, 217 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:18,679 Speaker 2: I'd love to have you come on, and I'd love 218 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:20,439 Speaker 2: for these people to thank you. So come on a 219 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:23,199 Speaker 2: session on zoom. Man. We had about one hundred vets 220 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:23,840 Speaker 2: and players. 221 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:26,439 Speaker 3: And by the way, it's very really cool. 222 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 2: And putting them together and I'm coaching it. And Rosie 223 00:10:31,000 --> 00:10:33,680 Speaker 2: had said to Nicky. 224 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:35,120 Speaker 3: Oh yeah. 225 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:39,880 Speaker 4: So I was watching the session and Jay is always 226 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 4: the one that's like, you know, leaving the pack over 227 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 4: there and cheering up, just encouraging everybody and just really 228 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 4: really positive. 229 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 3: And I was just I could see how much she. 230 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 4: Was like helping out everybody, like he's just like being 231 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:55,240 Speaker 4: like this motivational person. So I was just like, Wow, 232 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:58,079 Speaker 4: this this guy, he's so amazing. He takes care of 233 00:10:58,160 --> 00:11:00,520 Speaker 4: all these people. That's what you were just like giving, 234 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 4: so giving what you're saying. But I was like, but 235 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,560 Speaker 4: who takes care of him? That's what I was just 236 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:07,560 Speaker 4: like wondering, because I was like, Wow, he's so like 237 00:11:07,640 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 4: he's just giving so much for everybody. 238 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 3: But you know, I was just like, he takes care 239 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:14,960 Speaker 3: of him, he takes care of him. And then and then. 240 00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:18,880 Speaker 2: After after yeah, she said it again, she said yes, 241 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 2: and then she says to Nicky again, Hey, remember I said, man, 242 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 2: this guy takes care of so many people, but who 243 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:26,680 Speaker 2: takes care of him? I think I want to be 244 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 2: the one that takes care of him. 245 00:11:28,160 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, right, yeah, yeah yeah. 246 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:35,960 Speaker 2: Very same night, I said to her sister, Renee, Rose 247 00:11:35,960 --> 00:11:38,160 Speaker 2: has never been married. She said nope. And that's the 248 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 2: other part we'll tell you about Rosie. She said nope. 249 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 2: I said why, and Renee said, because all she does 250 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:47,840 Speaker 2: is take care of everybody else. She's never given herself time, yeah, 251 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 2: right to take care of anybody. She always takes care 252 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:53,800 Speaker 2: everybody else. I said, wow, I'm going to marry your sister. 253 00:11:55,520 --> 00:12:00,439 Speaker 2: Literally said that to Renee. Renee's like, okay, yeah, whatever, whatever, 254 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:01,920 Speaker 2: sure you are. And I said, now I'm gonna marry 255 00:12:01,920 --> 00:12:04,440 Speaker 2: your sister. And it's the first time I've ever felt 256 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:06,320 Speaker 2: like that my life, first time i'd ever And I 257 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 2: heard what you said from NICKI, and you said, man, 258 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:10,880 Speaker 2: this guy takes care of so many people, but who 259 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:12,719 Speaker 2: takes care of him? I want to be the one 260 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 2: to take care of him. I've just never heard that 261 00:12:15,160 --> 00:12:18,400 Speaker 2: in my life. I've never ever ever heard that. And 262 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 2: I was like, that's my soulmate, a my wife. And again, 263 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:28,360 Speaker 2: Rosie here has literally like helped out older brothers get 264 00:12:28,920 --> 00:12:31,720 Speaker 2: jobs and moved them in with her, and helped her 265 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 2: sister and her relationship, and she's just taken care of 266 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 2: everybody else and those thirty stores, and she just never 267 00:12:37,640 --> 00:12:40,520 Speaker 2: given herself grace to say it's my turn. So I 268 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 2: think at one point you said, she's not gonna happen 269 00:12:43,160 --> 00:12:43,439 Speaker 2: for you. 270 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 5: Yeah. 271 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:46,200 Speaker 4: It was so like I kind of was so career driven, 272 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 4: and plus I was like, you know, I was kind 273 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:50,199 Speaker 4: of had people like I was hopping. 274 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 3: Out and stuff. 275 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:53,080 Speaker 4: But in doing so, I just looked up and I 276 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 4: was like wait a second, I realized. I was like 277 00:12:55,840 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 4: I didn't get married, I didn't have a family. It's like, 278 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 4: you know, I just one point. I was kind of 279 00:13:01,240 --> 00:13:03,360 Speaker 4: depressed because I felt like I had just missed the 280 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 4: boat and I was just it was too late. 281 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 3: And so I was like, wait a second, you know wow. 282 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 4: So I remember like thinking like it was just not 283 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 4: going to happen, but it did. 284 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:18,240 Speaker 3: It's it's never too late, that's what. It's never too late, 285 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:18,920 Speaker 3: Like that's the me. 286 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 2: Also started writing down I started. 287 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 3: When I life, Oh yes, yes, yes. 288 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:25,880 Speaker 4: So I was like just kind of putting out to 289 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:28,040 Speaker 4: the universe what I wanted. So I kept like making 290 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:29,920 Speaker 4: all my passwords. I was like I changed them to 291 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 4: new Life. I was wanting a new life. 292 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:32,800 Speaker 2: I was. 293 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 4: I was putting everything like a quite like best life 294 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 4: this life. So I was kind of thinking in my 295 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 4: head like what I wanted to attract. And it was 296 00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 4: so amazing before we met. 297 00:13:41,840 --> 00:13:44,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks all our past. Yeah every new life when 298 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 2: we meet twenty twenty. Yeah, new Life twenty twenty. Everything 299 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:49,920 Speaker 2: was New Life twenty twenty. It's like it became so 300 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 2: instead of you taking care ofbody. 301 00:13:51,559 --> 00:13:52,640 Speaker 3: Else wishing, it's wishing. 302 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:56,240 Speaker 2: First time you allowed yourself to say, yeah, I am 303 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 2: worthy of this. I've got to make a change. 304 00:13:58,640 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 4: Yeah that was big yeah, which was so unlikely, and 305 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 4: because I just had kind of gotten caught in a 306 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:05,080 Speaker 4: red of doing the same thing over and over and over, 307 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:07,000 Speaker 4: and so I was like, you know what, in order 308 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:08,280 Speaker 4: for things to change, I have to change. 309 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 3: I have to be different. 310 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 4: So when Nikki called me to come over, that was 311 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,240 Speaker 4: something I may not have done. But then instead of 312 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:16,839 Speaker 4: saying no, I started saying yes. I was like, yeah, yeah, 313 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:18,480 Speaker 4: I'll come over. Yeah, let's yeah, I've seen you all. 314 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 4: So but that one, you know, meeting of coming over 315 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:23,200 Speaker 4: to see NICKI, you brought me to meet you, which 316 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 4: changed my life. So it's like, you know, you're just 317 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 4: like one person away from like your life changing, or 318 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 4: when you know, like moment away, yeah that changes your life. 319 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 2: So away. I did that once for Yus. I did 320 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,440 Speaker 2: that one away as a motivate weekly motivation. I got 321 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:40,760 Speaker 2: it from Rosie. She said, you're one away. You're one 322 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 2: meeting away from changing your life. One opportunity, one opportunity, 323 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:47,120 Speaker 2: one dinner, one person day, one person You're one away 324 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 2: when your life changing, one encounter from your life changing 325 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:54,000 Speaker 2: and she started believing that. Yeah, and she was and 326 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:57,120 Speaker 2: thank God Almighty have happened because we met. Yeah. So 327 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 2: now our first date, we're closed in COVID and while 328 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 2: we were closed, we went down and took a bottle 329 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:06,240 Speaker 2: of wine down by the beach in Santa Monica. It 330 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:08,240 Speaker 2: was pretty hilarious. There was a guy with an acoustic 331 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 2: guitar sitting and we're still trying to kind of feel 332 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 2: each other out. And we actually we drove to Malibu 333 00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 2: for a little bit because what a munch you could do. 334 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 2: We came back to Santa Monica where she lives. I 335 00:15:19,040 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 2: had a bottle of wine I brought. We sat down 336 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 2: there and there was a guy with an acoustic guitars 337 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 2: who was like, man, this is great. This is very robotic, 338 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:29,480 Speaker 2: very very beautiful. Man. It was perfect. And all of 339 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:30,960 Speaker 2: a sudden, the guy says, hey, you to on a 340 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:33,360 Speaker 2: first date. We said yeah. He goes, I got a 341 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 2: song for you, and in acoustics sings, baby got bad, 342 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:43,440 Speaker 2: Baby got back, Baby got back. He said, baby got back, 343 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 2: Oh my god. And I'm like, babe, just you know, 344 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:49,320 Speaker 2: this is how my life is. If something crazy get happened, 345 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:50,280 Speaker 2: this is that what's going to be. 346 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:51,280 Speaker 3: It's actually really good. 347 00:15:52,360 --> 00:15:55,160 Speaker 2: But I said, you'll always be enter dates. Okay. So 348 00:15:55,400 --> 00:16:00,200 Speaker 2: now our second date Santa Barbara was open. I called Roy, 349 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:03,920 Speaker 2: aikman who lives in Santa Barbara, and I say, brother, man, 350 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:07,720 Speaker 2: do you know the Tennis and Twins. He's like Rosie Renee. 351 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:10,440 Speaker 2: I said, yeah, I know they are. I said, man, 352 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:13,200 Speaker 2: I'm going on a date with Rosie. He goes, Wow, 353 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 2: good for you, I said, but I want to take 354 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,200 Speaker 2: her to Santa Barbara because La is not open, and 355 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:18,840 Speaker 2: I know you live there. Is there a restaurant you 356 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 2: can get me into that you love? He goes, I 357 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:23,760 Speaker 2: love this Italian restaurant. I'll catch you guys in your set. 358 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:27,000 Speaker 2: We drive up to Santa Barbara on our second date. 359 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 2: We're in there, and then we go to Lucky's for 360 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 2: a little nightcap over there, and all of a sudden, 361 00:16:34,920 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 2: our phone start pinging and ringing and ringing, sing it 362 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:39,480 Speaker 2: and bring it, and everybody's like, you're right, you're right. 363 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm doing great, I'm pet of the Tennis 364 00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 2: and Twins, Santa Barbara fantastic, And her phone's lighting up 365 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 2: and then my friend's like, yo, you need to come 366 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 2: over there, Yo, you need to come over there. And 367 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 2: I'm like, what is going on? And that was the 368 00:16:50,880 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 2: night of the riots that happened here in La and 369 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 2: her cell phone which shows her store, which was in 370 00:16:58,840 --> 00:17:04,360 Speaker 2: Santa Monica Place, which shows everybody looting the entire mall, 371 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 2: destroys everything, and that's her main store. So here we 372 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 2: are on our second date and they are putting her 373 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:13,639 Speaker 2: out of business, smashed everything every and we're just watching 374 00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:16,679 Speaker 2: it from her phone of them smashing the windows of 375 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 2: the stores next to her. They didn't get it. They 376 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:22,240 Speaker 2: didn't smash her when there's two stores. They didn't smash 377 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:22,840 Speaker 2: the windows of. 378 00:17:22,880 --> 00:17:24,840 Speaker 3: Right everything else. 379 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:28,640 Speaker 2: No idea why. And I didn't think they know knew 380 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:30,680 Speaker 2: you were a black o score but you got spare. 381 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:33,760 Speaker 2: But it didn't matter. Put the whole mall out of business, Rosie. 382 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:36,359 Speaker 3: It was like intense. National Guard was there. It was 383 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:38,159 Speaker 3: just it was really crazy. 384 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:41,399 Speaker 2: And meanwhile, I'm trying to fly back at one o'clock 385 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:43,960 Speaker 2: in the morning and get her there, and even though like, 386 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:45,720 Speaker 2: what are we gonna do? But I also want to 387 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 2: make sure like my house was safe, and so we 388 00:17:48,400 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 2: end up getting back there. Unfortunately Rosie lost her store. 389 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:53,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, we ended up having to close that store because 390 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,120 Speaker 4: the ball it just it's still it's still struggling because 391 00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:57,200 Speaker 4: it's just you know. 392 00:17:57,200 --> 00:17:59,479 Speaker 2: I still had to pay rent, and then all her 393 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:02,240 Speaker 2: others store that were closed, she still had to pay 394 00:18:02,240 --> 00:18:02,680 Speaker 2: rent for it. 395 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:07,400 Speaker 3: COVID was very really hard. Yeah for you, right, really 396 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 3: good for sure? Yeah for sure. 397 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 2: And here you are in a new relationship, and I 398 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:14,399 Speaker 2: was just like, hey, you know, we did for about 399 00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:16,000 Speaker 2: ten months or so something like that, and I knew, man, 400 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:18,639 Speaker 2: this girl my soulmate. She's it for me. And Rosie 401 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 2: ends up breaking up with me NFC Championship game right 402 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:25,719 Speaker 2: after my babe, we're gonna have a whole, like our 403 00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 2: whole off season now come, We're really going to work 404 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:30,879 Speaker 2: on everything. And she said, no, I'm not coming home today. 405 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:33,440 Speaker 2: I just we need a break. I'm like what, She goes, 406 00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:35,679 Speaker 2: I need to go save my store and I know 407 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:37,919 Speaker 2: you need a lot of attention in time. And the 408 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:39,359 Speaker 2: only way I'm going to do this is I have 409 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:41,200 Speaker 2: to do this. I have to go. I'm going to 410 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 2: pull us out of debt. And I'm like, no, no, 411 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:44,919 Speaker 2: I got it. I got I said no, no, And 412 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 2: she's like, I don't want to be like every other 413 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:48,960 Speaker 2: girl and just take from you. I'm going to do 414 00:18:49,000 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 2: this right. 415 00:18:50,320 --> 00:18:52,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I mean it was my baby, and I 416 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 4: just was like, I got myself in this mess, I'll 417 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:55,200 Speaker 4: get myself out. 418 00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:56,879 Speaker 3: So I just did what I had to do. 419 00:18:57,119 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 2: Was really hard time me because I thought she's my 420 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:03,080 Speaker 2: soulmate and man, you know me who my mental health 421 00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:05,159 Speaker 2: issues believes like you know, the universe is gonna come 422 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:08,000 Speaker 2: crashing that around me and the sky's falling. Skott fell 423 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 2: that day and it came out of nowhere, and you 424 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:13,119 Speaker 2: just kept telling me, no, we're just didn't take a 425 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 2: break until I get myself out of this. But I'm 426 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:17,320 Speaker 2: not having you pay for it. 427 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:18,200 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah. 428 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:21,560 Speaker 2: And for me, I was very conflicting because I'm like, yeah, 429 00:19:21,560 --> 00:19:22,560 Speaker 2: but then you're abandoning me. 430 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, not like I was like, but I was like, no, 431 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:27,880 Speaker 4: but I'm not. I didn't feel right about like having 432 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:30,480 Speaker 4: him take on all this stuff that wasn't yours. 433 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:33,480 Speaker 2: So which no, I don't know another girl who would 434 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 2: have done that. They would just said okay, yeah, if 435 00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:37,879 Speaker 2: you can help me out and take take care of it, great, 436 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:40,800 Speaker 2: and she just didn't. And and she kept also assuring 437 00:19:40,840 --> 00:19:44,040 Speaker 2: me this isn't forever. This is just a break in 438 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:49,280 Speaker 2: my mind forever. It's that it's no way and it's 439 00:19:49,320 --> 00:19:51,960 Speaker 2: the first time I'd ever been in a tank, really 440 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 2: really in the tank, because I'm like, man, this is 441 00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:56,200 Speaker 2: like I finally got like this, this soul made of 442 00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:58,160 Speaker 2: mind who I did believe was like set up through 443 00:19:58,160 --> 00:20:00,840 Speaker 2: God because we are like you have to get me 444 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:04,040 Speaker 2: and you have to get Rosie. And if you get us, 445 00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:06,600 Speaker 2: you really understand how special we are. And we got 446 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:09,720 Speaker 2: each other, and you know, all of a sudden it's gone, 447 00:20:09,920 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 2: and I don't hear it's just a break. I hear 448 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:17,040 Speaker 2: it's forever. To the point where I said, well, I 449 00:20:17,040 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 2: don't even want to be in California anymore, and I'm 450 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:23,960 Speaker 2: so heartbroken. I need to start something for myself, a 451 00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 2: new life for myself. And I moved to Arizona, and 452 00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:30,919 Speaker 2: the day before I left, Rosie came over to the 453 00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 2: house to tell me, Hey, I got my ship straight. 454 00:20:35,200 --> 00:20:37,960 Speaker 2: I'm ready to get back. And I said, well, if 455 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,240 Speaker 2: you're going to get back, it's going to have to 456 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 2: be in Arizona because I've moved, and that was really hard. 457 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:47,520 Speaker 2: Rosie started crying. I don't see her cry a lot. 458 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:51,560 Speaker 2: She started crying, and you know, I made my decision, 459 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:54,520 Speaker 2: and she said, well, I told you it was just 460 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,040 Speaker 2: a break. I guess I'll have to start coming to Arizona. 461 00:20:57,680 --> 00:21:01,640 Speaker 2: Nobody knows, but you know, last football season, every single week, 462 00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 2: Rosie flew to Arizona from Wednesday, Friday or Saturday every 463 00:21:07,080 --> 00:21:09,760 Speaker 2: week and fought to get me. 464 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:13,440 Speaker 5: Back, which was huge at the time, right, yeah, yep, 465 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:18,160 Speaker 5: and eventually said to me, now backing up here, when 466 00:21:18,280 --> 00:21:21,160 Speaker 5: Rosie first did break up with me, I went into 467 00:21:21,200 --> 00:21:23,400 Speaker 5: this horrifically downward spiral. 468 00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:25,320 Speaker 2: I was already in an odd place because when I 469 00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 2: wrote Unbreakable, people don't know this, but I stopped all 470 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:32,320 Speaker 2: my treatment for my mental health illness and issues, which 471 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,080 Speaker 2: was all therapy. I threw a lot of vitamins and 472 00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 2: ivs and things like that, and different therapies. I've usually 473 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:40,440 Speaker 2: of three therapists, but I work at my mental health. 474 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:43,280 Speaker 2: I stopped it all to be in as darker places 475 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,000 Speaker 2: I could be. So when I wrote Unbreakable, it was 476 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 2: so authentic. This is what depression feels like, this is 477 00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:53,439 Speaker 2: what anxiety feels like, this is what ADHD feels like. 478 00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,360 Speaker 2: And it took a long time to try and get 479 00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 2: myself out of that hole. And I did that for 480 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 2: everybody else sitting at home, so I can discore it 481 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,440 Speaker 2: and give it word so you will have the words 482 00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:05,879 Speaker 2: to be able to, you know, use moving forward and 483 00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:08,960 Speaker 2: have conversations with people. So still trying to come out 484 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 2: of that. And then this happened with Rosie. I really 485 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:15,359 Speaker 2: went off the deep end and it forced me to 486 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:18,760 Speaker 2: really go get help that I needed to change habit. 487 00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 2: Trevor and I look now, say we didn't break up, 488 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 2: we probably wouldn't have made it because I really learned, 489 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:29,280 Speaker 2: how you know, in that time I went to Thailand and. 490 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 3: I learned a lot of work on yourself, did a 491 00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:31,120 Speaker 3: lot of work. 492 00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:33,080 Speaker 2: You did a lot of work on yourself. 493 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:37,320 Speaker 3: You different, but yeah, but like you weren't worthy of that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 494 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:39,200 Speaker 3: there was a yeah different things. Yeah for sure. 495 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 2: And you did a lot of work. And then you 496 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:42,199 Speaker 2: would you say to me one day, you're gonna put 497 00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:43,040 Speaker 2: your captain hat on it? 498 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, this is I was talking about your destiny. When 499 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 4: you're like choosing your destiny, it's like you have to 500 00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:50,160 Speaker 4: be the one. 501 00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:52,399 Speaker 3: That puts the captain's hat on and then steer your 502 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:54,399 Speaker 3: life the way you want it. To go even if 503 00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:56,760 Speaker 3: it's not you know initially where you want it. You 504 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 3: have to be like on a little you know, might 505 00:22:58,840 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 3: be a little canoe boat. Then soon you go to 506 00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 3: the motor boat. 507 00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 4: Then, but you're the one with the ability to take 508 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,119 Speaker 4: your life in the direction that you wanted to go 509 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,919 Speaker 4: and your destiny, which is what you're really good at. 510 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:11,800 Speaker 2: And I decided to do that and say no, I'm 511 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 2: worthy of this now. So you could have Captain Don 512 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,560 Speaker 2: and said no, I'm I'm going to steer my boat 513 00:23:15,560 --> 00:23:18,880 Speaker 2: into Jay's waters. And for me, I went to Thailand 514 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:20,800 Speaker 2: and I learned how to heal that little kid of me, 515 00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 2: how to feel like the universe wasn't against me. And 516 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 2: really there I understood I've been putting all this pain 517 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:31,959 Speaker 2: for all these years so I can help others through theirs. 518 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:35,320 Speaker 2: And Rose and I were talking and we weren't together, 519 00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 2: but I called her from there and I'm like, oh 520 00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 2: my god, I am worthy of being in love. I 521 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:42,040 Speaker 2: now know why I had this pain. And by the way, 522 00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:43,720 Speaker 2: I almost said this, like when I was out there, 523 00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:46,040 Speaker 2: this epiphany, like this voice from like God in the 524 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:48,600 Speaker 2: universe of hey, listen, you you needed to be in 525 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:50,439 Speaker 2: this kind of pain, so you can help others through 526 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:54,280 Speaker 2: through theirs. But we need you to understand and see 527 00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,800 Speaker 2: we made all your other dreams come true to keep 528 00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:02,480 Speaker 2: you afloat and that everything for me. You used to 529 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:06,160 Speaker 2: always feel like I was cursed with this depression, anxiety 530 00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:08,639 Speaker 2: and the sky is falling mentality, And now I felt 531 00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,639 Speaker 2: like God blessed me with these mental health issues to 532 00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:13,880 Speaker 2: help others. And because I want to live a life 533 00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:15,920 Speaker 2: of service, I want to leave something behind in this life. 534 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:18,600 Speaker 2: And I know that unbreakable to save lives. I've been 535 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 2: you and I read messages of people who are going 536 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:24,439 Speaker 2: to commit suicide now didn't because of this book. Are 537 00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:26,600 Speaker 2: people who are so lost and now found their way 538 00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,119 Speaker 2: because of this book or this podcast of something I 539 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,719 Speaker 2: said of somebody. We do a weekly motivation and that 540 00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:36,679 Speaker 2: day that person needed to hear that message, and if 541 00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:40,240 Speaker 2: they didn't, they might have made the ultimate wrong decision. 542 00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,679 Speaker 2: You and I we can't message again with that, so 543 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,560 Speaker 2: I understand why we had to do it right. So 544 00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:49,920 Speaker 2: Rosie's coming out every week, and finally I just kind 545 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:52,960 Speaker 2: of wanted to hear from her. Hey, I'll move to Arizona. 546 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 2: I want to be with you, But I still have 547 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,040 Speaker 2: my stories back in La So I'm gonna have to commute. 548 00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:58,480 Speaker 2: I just kind of want to hear that from her. 549 00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:00,440 Speaker 2: And once she sat out to me, I said, no, 550 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 2: I don't want you commute. I want to be at 551 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 2: the all time. Okay, I'll move back to California. 552 00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 3: I'll do it, right, I'll move California. 553 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:07,520 Speaker 2: But if it's a place that on the beach that 554 00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:10,119 Speaker 2: we both love, and we did and we did that, 555 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,720 Speaker 2: we found a place and I fell more in love 556 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 2: than I ever could have dreamed. And folks, this is 557 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 2: what I want you to understand. Like I'm I'm fifty four, Rose, 558 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:20,120 Speaker 2: and I know she don't look it, but we're both 559 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:24,160 Speaker 2: in our fifties. It's never too late to find love. 560 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,360 Speaker 2: And you know what, I think we're giving people home. Yeah, 561 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:31,120 Speaker 2: right that it is never too late. And I absolutely 562 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:33,320 Speaker 2: never had a love this deep. I've never been cared 563 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:35,439 Speaker 2: for this deeply. I've never just been able to just 564 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:38,760 Speaker 2: be with someone without worrying until I met you. 565 00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's really it's very like when you find it, 566 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:46,360 Speaker 4: it's like really like unbelievable and it's great down. 567 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,680 Speaker 3: It with you. So it's really cool. It's never too late. 568 00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:50,960 Speaker 3: Too late late. 569 00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, what what's your feelings on all this stuff? Like you, 570 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 2: you when I first met you, you were never you 571 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,439 Speaker 2: wouldn't ever allow yourself to feel like this. What changed? 572 00:25:59,520 --> 00:25:59,680 Speaker 4: Yeah? 573 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:00,200 Speaker 3: I don't no. 574 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 4: I think I would always like I wanted it, but 575 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 4: then if it got to. 576 00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:06,720 Speaker 3: I don't know. 577 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,960 Speaker 4: I just don't know if I wasn't feeling worthy of it, 578 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:10,960 Speaker 4: or I would sabotage it. 579 00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 3: I don't know. 580 00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:13,760 Speaker 4: It was it was a thing that I had to 581 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 4: go through that I never allowed myself to go deeply 582 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:18,520 Speaker 4: into relationships. I was always on the surface. Probably I 583 00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:20,800 Speaker 4: wouldn't get hurt. But this is the first time that 584 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:23,920 Speaker 4: I actually allowed myself to go in and give love 585 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:25,880 Speaker 4: and receive love and to the level. 586 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 2: Of then why with me? 587 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,679 Speaker 3: Because I think it was just meant to be. 588 00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,359 Speaker 4: I just knew, like like you and I are like 589 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 4: the same kind of going through the same things, and 590 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 4: you're like very vulnerable, and like. 591 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:38,159 Speaker 3: I just knew when I met you. 592 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:39,720 Speaker 4: I was like, this is the guy I'm supposed to 593 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 4: be with, and you're amazing, and I just knew it. 594 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:45,879 Speaker 4: I don't know something, it's something you don't know until 595 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:46,480 Speaker 4: it happened. 596 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:49,359 Speaker 2: So again, you don't know why things happened during the 597 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 2: time we hadn't broken up. You wouldn't have gotten more 598 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,920 Speaker 2: help for yourself to open that you're yeah your heart more. 599 00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,119 Speaker 2: I wouldn't have got to do all the work I 600 00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 2: did in Thailand and with my therapist to learn more. 601 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,840 Speaker 2: So now we're going to kind of finish you off 602 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:06,040 Speaker 2: here with the high point for us, it was our engagement. 603 00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,720 Speaker 2: Now everybody saw that we got engaged in Santa Monica, 604 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:12,680 Speaker 2: which is the same spot where we had our first date, 605 00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 2: but that actually wasn't the case, and nobody knows this. 606 00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,000 Speaker 2: So we did it when we did it publicly, when 607 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:23,640 Speaker 2: I finally got our ring. But the truth is, as 608 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,359 Speaker 2: I said, the year before, I went to Thailand on 609 00:27:25,400 --> 00:27:27,960 Speaker 2: a mind, body spirit journey to really learn how to 610 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:31,000 Speaker 2: do breath work and meditation and heal that little kid 611 00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,960 Speaker 2: in me. And and I was fighting Muatai and the jungle, 612 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,200 Speaker 2: which is fantastic. Oh my god, it was the greatest 613 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 2: thing ever. With my friend Mike Swick, who thought was 614 00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,520 Speaker 2: the first ultimate fighter and homes a place out there 615 00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:45,320 Speaker 2: called Aka Thailand, and another guy named Christian who's from 616 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 2: Sweden who's great kickboxers anyway, But it was really about 617 00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:52,680 Speaker 2: I didn't drink any alcohol. I only ate anti inflammatory foods. 618 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 2: I did breathwork and meditation every day. I work with 619 00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:59,840 Speaker 2: these monks as my therapists. I did all this and 620 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:03,159 Speaker 2: I'm out there and I took a boat ride one 621 00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:04,920 Speaker 2: day and I'm out in the middle of the siamc 622 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,960 Speaker 2: in the middle, I mean an hour and a half 623 00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:11,320 Speaker 2: away from shore, in the middle of the SIMC and 624 00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:14,879 Speaker 2: there's this big rock in the middle there, and some 625 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:17,960 Speaker 2: was sitting and I look up and I kind of 626 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,760 Speaker 2: get in the order, and I start having this conversation 627 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,240 Speaker 2: with God. I start talking to God and I having 628 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:28,920 Speaker 2: a great moment of healing and peace and some of 629 00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,520 Speaker 2: the stuff I'm talking about of yeah, you're worthy man, 630 00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:34,040 Speaker 2: you just you had to go through this and so 631 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 2: you can help others through there. So it was just 632 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,520 Speaker 2: this beautiful moment with God who I felt. I really 633 00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 2: felt the love of the universe, and I felt like 634 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,480 Speaker 2: I was okay. And I came back and I told 635 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,120 Speaker 2: Rosie about it. A year later. This past year, Rosie 636 00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:48,240 Speaker 2: comes with me back to the same place in Thailand 637 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:52,720 Speaker 2: called Kamalaya, and I want to her to experience for 638 00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:55,920 Speaker 2: my experience it was for her, but I disguise it 639 00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,240 Speaker 2: and mastered as come out there with me so you 640 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 2: can learn these same things from these bunks, uh, this 641 00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,360 Speaker 2: breath work and meditation, so you can help me along 642 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,400 Speaker 2: with it. I take Rosie out there and she's. 643 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,960 Speaker 3: Like, I was like, but this is you know, I'm 644 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:09,400 Speaker 3: doing it. 645 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,120 Speaker 4: But these monks are going to be able to relate 646 00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,560 Speaker 4: because I was, you know, I'd lost my business and 647 00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:15,040 Speaker 4: all this stuff. So I was like, they're not going 648 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 4: to know what you know, But actually it was great. 649 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:21,920 Speaker 3: They really do. They're very like, yeah, meditation. 650 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:27,960 Speaker 2: Rosie crying like crazy, and I'm like, she's just lost 651 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 2: her mother and she's trying to do with that and 652 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:33,360 Speaker 2: her stores. She's you know, she's you know, close those 653 00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 2: stores that we're giving them problems. And it's been a 654 00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:37,000 Speaker 2: lot that's gone on in her life. She's got her 655 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 2: condo burned down twice, like not once, but twice. She's 656 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,720 Speaker 2: been through a lot, and you shripped her and she 657 00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:48,280 Speaker 2: just starts hysterical crying. And then even these these monks 658 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:50,680 Speaker 2: start helping you big time with they're great. 659 00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:53,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, they're actually like they give you like these analogies 660 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,480 Speaker 4: that you wouldn't like expect, but they're really good. 661 00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:58,000 Speaker 3: They're very good, like that really great. 662 00:29:57,840 --> 00:29:59,640 Speaker 2: Like I think I've used it here before. We're like, 663 00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 2: for example, Rosie is telling this Monk, yeah, I just 664 00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,360 Speaker 2: don't feel worthy of you know, Jay's love, like and 665 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:07,240 Speaker 2: all these things. 666 00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:10,840 Speaker 4: Crappy things happening to me, like with just everything, everything, everything. 667 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,080 Speaker 4: So when the good things start happening at Jay, and 668 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,280 Speaker 4: was like, you know, all these good things, they felt 669 00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:18,080 Speaker 4: like unworthy or like even worried that, like, oh God, 670 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,880 Speaker 4: something bad's gonna happen, you know, because I was in that. 671 00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,640 Speaker 3: Little that was your story. That was your rack, I story, 672 00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:24,880 Speaker 3: it was my racket I was running with. 673 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,080 Speaker 2: Bunk says to her, Rosie, what's what's your favorite food? 674 00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 3: And you say that R and D chicken sandwich. 675 00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,120 Speaker 2: And then Monk clearly says you love that chicken sandwich. 676 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:36,920 Speaker 2: He says, yeah, you get a great pleasure on that 677 00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:39,880 Speaker 2: chicken sandwich. Yeah, when you're eating that chicken sandwiches think 678 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:42,320 Speaker 2: anybody else thinks you shouldn't enjoy that chicken sandwich. 679 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:43,880 Speaker 3: You're not worthy of the chicken sandwich. 680 00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:45,080 Speaker 2: And you said no. 681 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,160 Speaker 4: It was like, she goes, you're just enjoying like, like, 682 00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:50,000 Speaker 4: what happens? You know, you get another bite of Are 683 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,800 Speaker 4: you worried that the person over at the other tables 684 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,240 Speaker 4: thinking that you're not worthy of that chicken sandwich that 685 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:56,520 Speaker 4: you're eating? And I was like no, She goes, you're 686 00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:58,640 Speaker 4: just enjoying your chicken sandwich until it's gone. 687 00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 3: And I was like, yeah, I'm doing the pride. And 688 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:04,000 Speaker 3: she's like, well, this is this is this is your life. 689 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:07,200 Speaker 3: This is your life sandwich, So enjoy it. 690 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,480 Speaker 4: Don't don't worry about what anybody else is like over there, 691 00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:13,160 Speaker 4: worried that you don't deserve that, or you shouldn't have that, 692 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,479 Speaker 4: or the fries, or because you're not thinking that when 693 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,080 Speaker 4: you get your favorite milk, you're just eating it and 694 00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:17,840 Speaker 4: enjoying it. 695 00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:20,280 Speaker 3: She's like, that's this. Your life's the chicken. 696 00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:24,240 Speaker 2: Your life is the chicken sandwich. And it changed everything 697 00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:24,920 Speaker 2: for Rosie. 698 00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 4: She literally looked a love Yeah, that's a really cool 699 00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:29,840 Speaker 4: right right, nobody's against me. 700 00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:34,640 Speaker 2: There's nothing against me and she and it changed Rosy 701 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:38,800 Speaker 2: and it changed her so much. I saw this huge change. 702 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,000 Speaker 2: I take her on the boat ride totally different boat, coming, 703 00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 2: totally different places everything, and all of a sudden we're 704 00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:48,120 Speaker 2: getting the sunset, and I look, we come over these 705 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,560 Speaker 2: rocks and I look over and I go, oh my god. 706 00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:53,080 Speaker 2: We're at the same exact spot I was at last 707 00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:55,920 Speaker 2: year when I was having that talk with God. Oh 708 00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:57,840 Speaker 2: my god. I never thought i'd see that place again. 709 00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 2: Oh my god. So maybe this is place I told 710 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 2: you about. This is the place. This is where I 711 00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:04,600 Speaker 2: told you I had that talk with God. She's like, well, 712 00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:07,520 Speaker 2: it's literally in the middle of the Siam c and 713 00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:09,600 Speaker 2: this like rock comes up, and there could be any 714 00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,200 Speaker 2: other place. We could have been a different boat company. 715 00:32:12,360 --> 00:32:15,880 Speaker 2: We're in the same exact place. And I turned a 716 00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:19,320 Speaker 2: Rosie and I said, maybe I promise you I'll always 717 00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:23,280 Speaker 2: love you, admire you, appreciate you. Most of all, I 718 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 2: will always take care of you and love you. I 719 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,160 Speaker 2: guess I'm asking you to marry me. And she says, 720 00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:34,160 Speaker 2: well are you, And I go, yeah, yeah, yeah, I am, 721 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:35,880 Speaker 2: I mean ask you to marry me, like I wan't 722 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:37,480 Speaker 2: expecting it. But it's the same place. 723 00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:41,520 Speaker 3: And what she says, I said, yes. 724 00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,440 Speaker 2: Yes, Well I didn't have a ring, so we had 725 00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:47,920 Speaker 2: we had cutlery and there was a string around the cutlery. 726 00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,120 Speaker 2: So I pulled the string off the cutlery and I 727 00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 2: put that on her finger, and she wore that for 728 00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,040 Speaker 2: a couple of weeks without anybody knowing that we were engaged. 729 00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:57,080 Speaker 2: We didn't tell anybody. She had this little piece of 730 00:32:57,120 --> 00:32:59,320 Speaker 2: string around her finger. I'm not going to show off 731 00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,880 Speaker 2: that we I got engaged to Rosie, but a little 732 00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:03,520 Speaker 2: piece of string on her finger, I'm gonna look like 733 00:33:03,560 --> 00:33:06,640 Speaker 2: the cheapest bastard who ever lived. So it really wasn't 734 00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:08,880 Speaker 2: until we went out. We went ring shopping. We did 735 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:11,280 Speaker 2: it all and we got a ring. And then I said, 736 00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:14,560 Speaker 2: let's go back to the original spot of our first date. 737 00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:16,239 Speaker 2: And I got down on my knee and I did 738 00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:19,560 Speaker 2: a proper engagement. That's from the world found out that 739 00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:21,360 Speaker 2: we were engaged, But we were actually engaged for. 740 00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,520 Speaker 4: Two beautiful engagement and one that could only happen like 741 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,000 Speaker 4: once in a lifetime and once amazing. 742 00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you're really amazing too. 743 00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:33,520 Speaker 2: Again. This is you know. I hope we've given people hope. 744 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,560 Speaker 2: I hope we've given people the ability to say, wow, 745 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 2: that there is It is never too late, and also 746 00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:41,760 Speaker 2: know that by a rosy story, it's never too late 747 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:45,440 Speaker 2: to reinvent yourself, never too late to make a change right. 748 00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:47,840 Speaker 2: And I hope we've also taught more than anything with 749 00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:50,560 Speaker 2: your partner, lean into them and make sure they know 750 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,360 Speaker 2: I got you, I'm not going anywhere. I got you, 751 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:57,880 Speaker 2: and really make them understand. And then the other thing 752 00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:02,160 Speaker 2: that Rosie and I really do right somewhere lessons. I 753 00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:05,760 Speaker 2: am very vocal to Rosie about what I need. Maybe 754 00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:08,040 Speaker 2: I need you to hear this, this is what I 755 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,439 Speaker 2: need from you, and you listen. And the same thing 756 00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,160 Speaker 2: she will come to me and say, hey, I'm really 757 00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:17,319 Speaker 2: uncomfortable with this, Jay need I need you to hear 758 00:34:17,360 --> 00:34:19,799 Speaker 2: me on this. This is what I need from you, 759 00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:23,640 Speaker 2: So be very vocal. We hear a lot of couple say, yeah, 760 00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,680 Speaker 2: he's not going to understand. Yeah, he's not going to listen. 761 00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,400 Speaker 2: Yeah she won't understand me. You don't know that until 762 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:30,640 Speaker 2: you actually sit down and tell them, Hey, I really 763 00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:32,399 Speaker 2: need you to hear me here. I'm in a lot 764 00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:36,160 Speaker 2: of pain. And we've had somebody that we knew who's 765 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:37,880 Speaker 2: one of the most beautiful women we've ever seen in 766 00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,040 Speaker 2: our lives, basically tell us she was about to kill 767 00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:43,160 Speaker 2: herself and she's in a happily married relationship. And I say, 768 00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:46,759 Speaker 2: he needs to understand your pain, and she said he won't. 769 00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:49,239 Speaker 2: I said, well he needs to. You deserve that. And 770 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 2: we called him over and said, hey, man, you need 771 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,320 Speaker 2: to read the third chapter of my book that lays 772 00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,560 Speaker 2: out this is what it feels like to have this 773 00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:59,319 Speaker 2: anxiety and this depression, and what it feels like and 774 00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:02,960 Speaker 2: what it feels like, just so you understand her, because man, 775 00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:06,120 Speaker 2: you deserve to understand her. She deserves for you to 776 00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:10,440 Speaker 2: be her best teammate. And he at that time said, oh, 777 00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:14,000 Speaker 2: I didn't realize it was this bad. Okay, and did 778 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:17,120 Speaker 2: And you know, they're great, but really a lot of 779 00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,760 Speaker 2: times people were closest to we hold the most things 780 00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,840 Speaker 2: back from. Give them the grace of being your best friend, 781 00:35:23,239 --> 00:35:25,680 Speaker 2: give them the grace of being your teammate. Really tell 782 00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:29,080 Speaker 2: them everything you're going through and don't say, oh, I 783 00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:30,799 Speaker 2: don't want to put more on them. No, that's what 784 00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,799 Speaker 2: marriage is about. That's relationships are about. So you have 785 00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,719 Speaker 2: the ultimate teammate walking this walk together with you. 786 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:39,360 Speaker 3: Oh, I love that. 787 00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:44,919 Speaker 2: That's great. I love that, so baby. I loved having 788 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:48,120 Speaker 2: you on. I love showing you to the world. It's 789 00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:50,399 Speaker 2: been fantastic. Anything else you want to add, if something 790 00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:51,480 Speaker 2: you've learned from us, or. 791 00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,640 Speaker 4: I just think that the communication is really like our 792 00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:59,480 Speaker 4: communication the second go around is much better. So like 793 00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:01,799 Speaker 4: that's the best thing that we give each other is 794 00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:05,480 Speaker 4: like now we're communicating and making sure that we're like 795 00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:07,759 Speaker 4: making sure the other one knows like like what you 796 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:08,120 Speaker 4: just said. 797 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's it's amazing. It's been really good and 798 00:36:10,400 --> 00:36:10,799 Speaker 3: I want you. 799 00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:12,920 Speaker 2: To know also, like I've had a lot of miltowns 800 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:14,680 Speaker 2: to you. Has it ever gotten too much? 801 00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:16,520 Speaker 3: No? No, it's no. 802 00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:18,480 Speaker 4: But but if it does, then you know you just 803 00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:20,719 Speaker 4: take a little like you know, get a little moment 804 00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,000 Speaker 4: and then come back and reset. 805 00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:25,440 Speaker 2: But no, it's like, yeah, well my point is people think, oh, 806 00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,120 Speaker 2: it's be too much and that other person's going to 807 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:28,040 Speaker 2: leave right now. 808 00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:30,400 Speaker 4: No no, yeah, no, yeah, that's that's what you just 809 00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:33,480 Speaker 4: have to assure them and reassure the reassure them and 810 00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,400 Speaker 4: and you know, reassure them because that's. 811 00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:36,960 Speaker 2: That you've been on and off forget together now for 812 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,719 Speaker 2: three years and she still reassures me, and she may 813 00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:40,920 Speaker 2: have to for the rest of her life. 814 00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:42,759 Speaker 3: And the meltdowns are really part of it. Like so 815 00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,000 Speaker 3: they make you grow, they make you. 816 00:36:44,800 --> 00:36:47,000 Speaker 4: Grow closer because you can make it through it. Because 817 00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,840 Speaker 4: sometimes people are fearful, like if this happens, the person's 818 00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:51,239 Speaker 4: going to break up with you or it's going to 819 00:36:51,360 --> 00:36:54,120 Speaker 4: end the thing. But like, bumpy roads just make you stronger. 820 00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:56,160 Speaker 4: And if your relationship is not strong enough to make 821 00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,720 Speaker 4: it through these bumpy roads, then it's not that strong 822 00:36:58,719 --> 00:36:59,000 Speaker 4: of a. 823 00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:02,439 Speaker 3: Relationship that's make it through the storms through the story. Yeah, 824 00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:03,960 Speaker 3: so it's like I start with. 825 00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,040 Speaker 2: The bumpy roads and then make sure you get through 826 00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:09,920 Speaker 2: those so you could together hold each other's hands and 827 00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:12,359 Speaker 2: get through the storms of life. Nobody more than I'd 828 00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:13,719 Speaker 2: rather go through these storms of life. 829 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:15,640 Speaker 3: Thank you. 830 00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:20,680 Speaker 2: That is my beautiful fiance, Rosie Tennyson, one half of 831 00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:27,799 Speaker 2: the tennis and twins, the better half. Uh, better clean 832 00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,080 Speaker 2: that up. But also I did. The great part to 833 00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,600 Speaker 2: me is I do get a sister. Renee has been amazing. 834 00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,640 Speaker 2: She has been fantastic. And one thing you do is 835 00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:38,000 Speaker 2: you don't get between two twins. You make sure that 836 00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,239 Speaker 2: you follster that relationship more and more and more. They 837 00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,719 Speaker 2: started in the room and you two were survivors again, 838 00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:47,919 Speaker 2: your survivors. You survived that place in Idaho and these 839 00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:51,040 Speaker 2: journeys and all these you guys are survivors. You were 840 00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,080 Speaker 2: the American dream and your mind trip. 841 00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,320 Speaker 3: Thank you. I love you too, Folks. 842 00:37:56,480 --> 00:37:58,440 Speaker 2: This was the best guest I've ever had, an unbreakable 843 00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,359 Speaker 2: hope you enjoy it over the holidays, and I hope 844 00:38:00,360 --> 00:38:02,560 Speaker 2: we have given you all some hope and some lessons 845 00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,120 Speaker 2: for you all to walk this walk together.