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Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome back to a very special episode

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Speaker 1: of Cheese and Chew. I'm your host Cheeky's and guess what,

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Speaker 1: I'm engaged. I seriously can't believe it either. I know right,

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Speaker 1: I'm so excited and I can't wait to share all

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Speaker 1: So without further ado, let's talk about how I'm on

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Speaker 1: of the proposal. All right, So, Emilia, when I met

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Speaker 1: you put your phone on it. It's a damn phone stand.

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00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:10,600
Speaker 1: And you know, he was like super excited. He's like, okay, well,

426
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:13,400
Speaker 1: let's find a spot. And it was really busy everywhere.

427
00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:15,880
Speaker 1: So there was this really pretty spot that he's like, oh,

428
00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:17,280
Speaker 1: this is where I want to take a picture, but

429
00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:19,000
Speaker 1: there were people sitting there. So he's like, you know what,

430
00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:21,199
Speaker 1: let's hike a little higher. And I was like okay.

431
00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:23,720
Speaker 1: I was like I didn't complain because the first time

432
00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 1: we went, I was like I'm not going any further

433
00:20:25,320 --> 00:20:27,919
Speaker 1: than this, like I'm tired. But this time I'm like, okay,

434
00:20:28,119 --> 00:20:29,840
Speaker 1: let's go. I had a little bit more energy. So

435
00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,119
Speaker 1: we did hike up a little further and we found

436
00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:35,000
Speaker 1: this beautiful spot where there were like little cactuses and

437
00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,080
Speaker 1: am no pallet should I say? There were little flowers,

438
00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:40,240
Speaker 1: like pink flowers, and I was just like in awe

439
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:42,040
Speaker 1: or whatever, and he was like trying to scout to

440
00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:43,760
Speaker 1: find like the perfect place for us to take a

441
00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,000
Speaker 1: picture and put his little you know thing up, And

442
00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:48,239
Speaker 1: I just thought he's just excited put his little thing up,

443
00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,320
Speaker 1: you know, to because he doesn't have to ask anyone

444
00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:52,960
Speaker 1: to take a picture of us. So anyways, we're like, okay,

445
00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:54,920
Speaker 1: this is a perfect spot, Like we'll take a picture here.

446
00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:56,840
Speaker 1: There's like some shade here, we'll sit here and have

447
00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:58,920
Speaker 1: our lunch before we you know, we start hiking down

448
00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:02,159
Speaker 1: and so he's like, hey, babe, you know, can you

449
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:04,480
Speaker 1: stand right there? It was like right on like kind

450
00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,000
Speaker 1: of like on the edge, you know, where you could

451
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,399
Speaker 1: see like how high we've we came up, and it

452
00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:11,080
Speaker 1: was a very pretty view. And I'm like yeah, So

453
00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,240
Speaker 1: I take my first picture and I'm like okay, you know,

454
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:15,760
Speaker 1: and then he's like, okay, now, let's take one together.

455
00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,520
Speaker 1: So he comes and we take a picture together, and

456
00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:19,920
Speaker 1: then he goes like, okay, I'm gonna I'm going to

457
00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:22,919
Speaker 1: record a video now. I'm like, okay, cool. No, actually

458
00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:24,400
Speaker 1: I'm lying. No, he didn't say that. He's like, oh wait,

459
00:21:24,400 --> 00:21:25,879
Speaker 1: I'm going to take another picture. I'm put the time

460
00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:27,919
Speaker 1: around again, I'm like, okay, cool. So I turn around

461
00:21:28,720 --> 00:21:31,360
Speaker 1: like looking at the view while he's doing whatever, and

462
00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,560
Speaker 1: right when I turned back around to face him, I

463
00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:37,359
Speaker 1: see like he had grabbed something from his backpack and

464
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,520
Speaker 1: he's like, babe, and then he said doodle because he

465
00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:41,520
Speaker 1: calls me doodle. I don't know why he calls me doodle.

466
00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,439
Speaker 1: I think because we have a doodle, like a multiple doodle.

467
00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:47,200
Speaker 1: I don't know, he calls me doodle. And I saw

468
00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,199
Speaker 1: the box and that's when in the moment where I

469
00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:52,399
Speaker 1: was like, oh, oh my god, and I just like

470
00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:55,560
Speaker 1: everything kind of just went into a daze and I'm like,

471
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I can crossed my mind. I'm like,

472
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,600
Speaker 1: is it happening? And he just looked at me with

473
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:03,000
Speaker 1: his big, old, beautiful hazel eyes and they were kind

474
00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:05,400
Speaker 1: of watery but not really. And then I'm like, what

475
00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:07,400
Speaker 1: is I told you? I asked him, I'll say, what's happening?

476
00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: And he's like just started saying all kinds of beautiful

477
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 1: things and how I have come to just be a

478
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:18,560
Speaker 1: positive force in his life, and that he once made

479
00:22:18,600 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 1: me a promise with like another ring, because he did

480
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 1: give me a promise ring that I lost you guys.

481
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I lost the promise ring. I know,

482
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,600
Speaker 1: my goodness. Anyways, so he's like, I gave you a

483
00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 1: promise ring, and I just want to reinforce those promises

484
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 1: and just tell you how much I love you and

485
00:22:34,720 --> 00:22:35,919
Speaker 1: that I want to take care of you for the

486
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,919
Speaker 1: rest of my life and I want to bring out

487
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:40,680
Speaker 1: the best in you the way you've brought it out

488
00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:42,639
Speaker 1: in me. And he just said all these beautiful things.

489
00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:46,840
Speaker 1: It was very short, sweet and to the point. And

490
00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:49,840
Speaker 1: then he just asked if I would marry him, and

491
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 1: oh my god, I started crying. Like I was just

492
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:54,920
Speaker 1: like crying. I was in disbelief because in the beginning,

493
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 1: I just felt like everything was a blur. I'm like,

494
00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,680
Speaker 1: is this really happening? It felt so surreal. I felt

495
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 1: like I was in a dream and now and I

496
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 1: was looking around, I was looking at the camera. I

497
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, it all makes sense. It

498
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:08,119
Speaker 1: all just made so much sense in the moment that

499
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 1: I had to like really just pause and say, okay, Jenne,

500
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 1: you need to be present. So I had to like

501
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: close my eyes and take a deep breath. And then

502
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: once I opened up my eyes, I was listening to

503
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 1: everything he was saying. I was like, this is really happening.

504
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:22,680
Speaker 1: And I didn't even want to look at the ring

505
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,199
Speaker 1: because I was like low key kind of scared. I

506
00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, like hopefully like it's it's

507
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:31,000
Speaker 1: because it's not all about the ring, but like it's

508
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 1: kind of important. But I'm not like a superficial type

509
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 1: of girl materialistic in that way. I just wanted it

510
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:39,679
Speaker 1: to be like something I liked. Okay, So anyways, I

511
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,159
Speaker 1: just closed my eyes and then he opened up the

512
00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 1: box and I was like, oh my god. That was

513
00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:44,760
Speaker 1: another thing where I was like, oh my god, it's perfect.

514
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 1: It's exactly what I want. It was just like perfect. Anyways,

515
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:51,400
Speaker 1: he puts the ring on my finger. We hug, and

516
00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 1: I'm just like super quiet, and he's like are you okay?

517
00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 1: He's like, are you sure you're You're yes is a yes,

518
00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:59,560
Speaker 1: and I'm like yeah, no, no, no, it is I'm

519
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 1: just in shit and I'm just like so many things

520
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,480
Speaker 1: are running through like my mind. And then finally we

521
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:07,880
Speaker 1: just sat down and we had our lunch and he's like, Janey, like,

522
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:12,440
Speaker 1: like I told you before, marriage is just something for

523
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 1: God to give us his blessing. And it's a spiritual

524
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,120
Speaker 1: like thing for you and I It's not that I'm

525
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,679
Speaker 1: going to take control of you. I'm trying to change you.

526
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:24,200
Speaker 1: You're my property. He's like, I know that those things

527
00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 1: are what keep you from wanting to get married. And

528
00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, like I still want to be myself,

529
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:32,439
Speaker 1: Like I still you know, want to go out with

530
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:36,080
Speaker 1: my friends and I still want to be me. And

531
00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:37,879
Speaker 1: he said, you know, and I've explained all of this

532
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:40,400
Speaker 1: to him, and he said yeah, he says, I totally understand.

533
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:45,240
Speaker 1: And I just want to help you in any way

534
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:47,919
Speaker 1: that I can and support you and show you my

535
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:52,480
Speaker 1: support every day. I just want this to bless our love,

536
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,159
Speaker 1: you know. I want us to have a ceremony to

537
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 1: bless our love, not for anything else. And I'm like, okay,

538
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 1: And it just made me feel very safe, Like it

539
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 1: made me feel very very safe. And that's what he

540
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,720
Speaker 1: makes me feel, you guys, I feel safe. I feel

541
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 1: like I can literally just trust him with my heart.

542
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:13,920
Speaker 1: But anyways, so fine, we eat. It was really nice.

543
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,639
Speaker 1: We take more pictures. We had no reception so we

544
00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 1: couldn't really call anyone, so you know, we got down

545
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:22,160
Speaker 1: the mountain. I think like in less than an hour,

546
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 1: like forty minutes. We like freaking. I guess it was

547
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,040
Speaker 1: just the the adrenaline. I'm not too sure, but I

548
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:30,400
Speaker 1: was kind of quiet on the way down. I'm usually

549
00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:32,919
Speaker 1: pretty quiet, But I don't know if he thought like, oh,

550
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk a little bit more. But I think

551
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,199
Speaker 1: what it was, I was like I wasn't able to

552
00:25:37,359 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 1: like vocalize it out loud. That I think that's what

553
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,399
Speaker 1: kind of like it was it was. I don't know.

554
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:45,639
Speaker 1: I just I guess I didn't believe it. I was

555
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,160
Speaker 1: in shock, you guys. So anyways, we get on the shuttle,

556
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 1: we sit finally get to sit, thank goodness. So we

557
00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:53,640
Speaker 1: get on the on the shuttle, we're sitting and we

558
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:57,120
Speaker 1: sit next to these to this to these two couples,

559
00:25:57,200 --> 00:25:59,679
Speaker 1: older couples, and we just started talking and they were

560
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 1: telling that they weren't like, you know, retired, and that

561
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:04,320
Speaker 1: they're going, you know, they're traveling all around the world.

562
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 1: They're doing different hikes. And I asked her, I said, oh,

563
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:08,719
Speaker 1: how long have you guys been married. She's like, oh,

564
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 1: we've just got married a couple years ago, but we've

565
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 1: been together for about seven years and you know, she

566
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:14,639
Speaker 1: was telling me the whole thing, and then she's like,

567
00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,919
Speaker 1: but them, they've been married for thirty two years. You know.

568
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,679
Speaker 1: The people that were sitting across They were traveling with

569
00:26:18,680 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 1: this other couple, so they were sitting across us. I said,

570
00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: oh nice, and then she said, well, how long have

571
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 1: you guys been together. I'm like, oh, well two years

572
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 1: and we just got engaged today, he's and I'm like,

573
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 1: and it's his birthday. And that's another thing, you guys.

574
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 1: When he was like proposing we have the video because

575
00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:36,359
Speaker 1: everything's on video and you can actually hear what I'm saying,

576
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:39,160
Speaker 1: it's so cute. I was like, but it's your birthday, Emilio.

577
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,879
Speaker 1: And he's like, you know what you said, you guys,

578
00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 1: he said, and all I wanted was for you to say, yes,

579
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:48,480
Speaker 1: That's all I've ever wanted for my birthday. Oh my god.

580
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh oh, and my I started

581
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 1: like crying again. It was so pretty. So anyway, so

582
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: I let's go back to the shuttle. So I just

583
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:59,479
Speaker 1: they were like, oh my god. The lady like started

584
00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: screaming and I started crying again, and I think that's

585
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:04,800
Speaker 1: in the moment. I was like it happened because they're like,

586
00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:06,440
Speaker 1: oh my god, your emotion. I'm like yeah, I was

587
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: like I think I just needed to tell someone because

588
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 1: there was no there's no reception in the park, you guys,

589
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 1: not until you get to like your hotel or your villa,

590
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: like you have Wi Fi. So I couldn't like call

591
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: anyone or you know. So I just told these random

592
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:21,160
Speaker 1: people and I started crying. And he's like, oh my god.

593
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,040
Speaker 1: He's like, I think it just hit you. I'm like, yes,

594
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 1: it just hit me. So then when we were on

595
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 1: our walk back from the shuttle to the villa, I

596
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,359
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god. I was like Emilio, like,

597
00:27:30,440 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: what if we get married here or there? And he's

598
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:35,400
Speaker 1: like wow. He looked at me, He's like really, I said, yeah,

599
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:37,159
Speaker 1: why is it weird that I'm thinking about like the

600
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: wedding already. And he's like, no, that actually makes me

601
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:41,919
Speaker 1: very happy. He's like, there's no rush. I want us

602
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 1: to like enjoy the engagement, but the fact that you're

603
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 1: thinking about it makes me very happy. And I was.

604
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 1: I genuinely was just excited and thinking where can we

605
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:52,679
Speaker 1: do it? Do we want to like do it in

606
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 1: like a natury place for sure, it has to be

607
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,199
Speaker 1: like nature esque for sure. I don't know if it's

608
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 1: going to be like I don't know, like the ocean,

609
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: the mountains or I just I know I want trees

610
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: and flowers and stuff around. That's all I see right now.

611
00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 1: But anyways, so I think that's when it really hit me.

612
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:10,240
Speaker 1: And then I just got super excited. And then finally

613
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 1: we started calling everyone. We called his mom, his grandma,

614
00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 1: we told his grandma because his grandma's been wanting us

615
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: to get engaged for like, I think since the day

616
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,480
Speaker 1: we met, and so everyone was super excited. My siblings knew,

617
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: so I that's one of the questions I asked Emilia.

618
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: I was like, well, who knows. He's like, well, everybody

619
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 1: that's important to you knows. I'm like, what my siblings know?

620
00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 1: And he's like yes. I asked Johnny about a month

621
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,480
Speaker 1: and a half ago, almost two months ago, for your hand.

622
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 1: I was like what, He's like, yeah. I took him

623
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 1: to eat and I asked him, you know, I told

624
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 1: him I wanted to marry you, and I asked him

625
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: for your hand. And I talked to your brother Mikey,

626
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 1: and he started telling me like how and when he

627
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 1: talked to each one of my siblings individually, which I

628
00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:55,320
Speaker 1: absolutely appreciate because I knew I wanted it to just

629
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:57,959
Speaker 1: be him and I. I didn't want this whole show

630
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,520
Speaker 1: or anything like being engaged. I wanted to be very private,

631
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:05,680
Speaker 1: but I wanted my siblings to be aware. And he

632
00:29:05,840 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: told a few other people about it, and very key people,

633
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: and I just thought it was so beautiful of him

634
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: to just go out of his way without me having

635
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 1: to tell him, Like, it's just those little things. I'm like, oh,

636
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 1: it just gave me so much confirmation. And he told

637
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,720
Speaker 1: me He's like, Johnny has helped me so much through

638
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 1: this whole thing. He's given me so much confidence, like

639
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 1: so much support. He went with me to go pick

640
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 1: up the ring, and those things just mean so much

641
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,560
Speaker 1: to me. That my siblings knew that they were excited.

642
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: He's like, Jackie was so freaking excited. I got on

643
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 1: a FaceTime called with Jenica. She loved the ring. She's like,

644
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: oh my god, I love the band, Like the ring

645
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: is so beautiful, and you know, it's like all those

646
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 1: little things just I don't know, gave me confirmation. And

647
00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 1: and that's what I told my siblings. I was like, guys,

648
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:50,840
Speaker 1: I sent them, I said, before I posted, I sent

649
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 1: it to like you know, my siblings, and I said,

650
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 1: you know, Jennica was like, how do you feel. It's

651
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:58,200
Speaker 1: like I'm happy, like I trust this man with my heart.

652
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: Like things aren't perfect and they never will be perfect.

653
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 1: I think, you know, it's a relationship is work every

654
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:06,440
Speaker 1: single day. You have to choose your partner every single

655
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 1: day and it's it's work. And I've been one before

656
00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 1: to just say I don't want to deal with this,

657
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 1: like I have too much on my plate, but I've

658
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:21,240
Speaker 1: learned that it's so much better to live your life

659
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:26,080
Speaker 1: with a companion. And I don't know, like you know,

660
00:30:26,160 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 1: you hear all like that independent woman like I can

661
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 1: do it myself, you know, and yes, but I don't know.

662
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 1: I want to kind of break that, like you know,

663
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 1: and and and really do my part to make this

664
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: work and learn to see the good in him, because

665
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,960
Speaker 1: I think it's just as humans, it's so much easier

666
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 1: for us to point out the negative things in people

667
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: or the things that they do wrong, but when in

668
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: reality you put it on a list of like pros

669
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,800
Speaker 1: and cons, if the pros and the good things and

670
00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: the positive things outweigh the negative things the cons then

671
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: it's just like you know that you're with the right

672
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:05,680
Speaker 1: person because everything else you can work on. There are

673
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 1: certain things like I feel like obviously cheating and drugs

674
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: and like having addictions and stuff like that, like or

675
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: freaking being you know, verbally, physically, emotionally abused. Those things

676
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,240
Speaker 1: are like a huge red flags that you can't ignore.

677
00:31:21,280 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 1: But there are other things, you know that can be

678
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:27,280
Speaker 1: worked through, you know, And I think it just clicked.

679
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 1: I don't know how to explain it that in that moment,

680
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 1: it just clicked. I'm like, everything that's happening in my

681
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 1: life right now, because it's been a very tough month,

682
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: it's happening for a reason. And it was like to

683
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: prepare me for this moment to just really appreciate what

684
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:51,720
Speaker 1: I have standing in front of me. I mean, I'm

685
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 1: already thinking of dates, I'm already thinking of locations, and

686
00:31:56,440 --> 00:32:00,080
Speaker 1: I didn't expect this. I do want us to just

687
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 1: enjoy the engagement and still do our couple's therapy because

688
00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:07,120
Speaker 1: there are things that we're working through, and start seeing

689
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 1: those things as as a good thing, not necessarily bad things,

690
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 1: you know, And the fact that I have someone that's

691
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 1: willing to try and willing to do anything and everything

692
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,880
Speaker 1: to make me happy and to make me smile, and

693
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 1: that means so much to me, you know. And I'm

694
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:29,120
Speaker 1: just choosing to trade fear for faith and leave everything

695
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 1: in contents. And if we're meant to have kids, it'll happen.

696
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:35,520
Speaker 1: And it's okay that he's seven years younger than me,

697
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:37,959
Speaker 1: you know, because sometimes I would let that kind of

698
00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: you know, get into my head and be like, oh

699
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 1: my god, but he's seven years younger and this and

700
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: that and blah blah blah, Like okaya, stop stop. We

701
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 1: have to learn to just think. And I talk to

702
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: you guys about this so much, and it's so much

703
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: easier for me to help other people and guide them

704
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,680
Speaker 1: and give them advice. And sometimes I mean, this must

705
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 1: happen to all of you guys. To take our own

706
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: advice and to put it practice. What we preach is

707
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 1: a little bit harder. I mean, I'm very intentional and

708
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 1: every day being what I talk about, but there are

709
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 1: days that it is hard and I'm just like I

710
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,920
Speaker 1: want to run and just throw in the towel and

711
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 1: just say f at all. And you know, but I

712
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: guess I was a little afraid of marriage, but now

713
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 1: I am just seeing everything for what it is, and

714
00:33:22,800 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 1: I am excited and I'm happy and I feel happy

715
00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: and I feel blessed and I feel just excited. That's

716
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 1: what I feel right now. So I don't know. I'll

717
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:35,440
Speaker 1: keep you guys updated as to when, and I just

718
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 1: have to figure out the details. But right now I'm

719
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 1: enjoying it and I love the ring very much. I

720
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: think he did very, very, very good, and I think

721
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: it's awesome. Awesome, you guys, because I even thought I

722
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, if I would have known

723
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 1: that I was going to get proposed to today on

724
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 1: his birthday, which I thought was so selfless of him.

725
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 1: It's so beautiful. I at least would have brushed my

726
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 1: hair a little more. I would have put on a

727
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:57,040
Speaker 1: little bit of makeup. But I'm like, no, this is

728
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 1: the beauty of it, this is us, this is what

729
00:33:58,920 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 1: we love to do. He loves it When I'm like,

730
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 1: you know, just Jene, no makeup, hairs of mess, he

731
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 1: loves it that. I'm like, it was perfect and it

732
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 1: was in my favorite like one of my favorite places

733
00:34:09,520 --> 00:34:11,880
Speaker 1: in the world. Zion, you guys on the top of

734
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: like Angels landing. He made me work for it. Okay,

735
00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 1: it was like an hour and a half hike, almost

736
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 1: two and then on the way down, but it was

737
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,360
Speaker 1: just so amazing. It was it was just so nice.

738
00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:27,319
Speaker 1: Everything just happened the way it was supposed to, Like

739
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 1: even getting on the shuttle. It was just perfect. I can't.

740
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,359
Speaker 1: We were talking about it and we were tripping out

741
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,480
Speaker 1: on everything like how it connected and how everything just

742
00:34:36,520 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 1: worked out so nicely. And then the next few days

743
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 1: that we were there we were just able to just

744
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:44,439
Speaker 1: enjoy our engagement together. And someone in Zion, I don't

745
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:46,320
Speaker 1: know who. I still don't know who if she's listening

746
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,919
Speaker 1: to the podcast, her name is Maria p. She left

747
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 1: us outside of our villa a cute little gift. It

748
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 1: was like a marriage base and a necklace of necklace

749
00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 1: and just said congratulations. It was just so nice and

750
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,320
Speaker 1: so thoughtful that I just want to thank that person.

751
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 1: I said thank you on Instagram. But still, like it

752
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 1: was the last few days that we were there in

753
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:10,840
Speaker 1: Zion after the engagement, it was nice. We cooked, we

754
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:14,480
Speaker 1: hung out, we like had dinner together, We had hikes,

755
00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 1: we went on bike rides. It was just so nice.

756
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 1: It was so nice, and I'm so glad he did

757
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 1: it in the beginning of the trip because we were able

758
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 1: to just enjoy our engagement together and peacefully and just us.

759
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 1: So that's that. Hopefully I didn't drive you guys too

760
00:35:28,680 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 1: crazy with like my going back and forth, but I

761
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:34,760
Speaker 1: did feel it was important to just explain everything the beginning,

762
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 1: what I've been through and how I'm so grateful for

763
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 1: my past. And I think that that's how we have

764
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:43,840
Speaker 1: to see things, you guys like. We can't hold onto, resentment,

765
00:35:44,719 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 1: onto fear, none of those things because it makes us sick.

766
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 1: And we have to forgive people and forgive ourselves in

767
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 1: order to move forward and in order to allow God

768
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 1: to send us the right people, the right situations in

769
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 1: our life. And I feel that after all of that pain,

770
00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 1: after that dark time in my life, I can say, honestly,

771
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:06,359
Speaker 1: I can look back and say thank you. I had

772
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 1: to go through that, I had to fall on my

773
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 1: knees in order to get back up stronger, you know. So,

774
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:14,240
Speaker 1: I've gotten a lot of beautiful messages from you guys.

775
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,839
Speaker 1: I have a lot of dms, a lot of comments.

776
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:20,560
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for being excited for me. I

777
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: can tell you guys that I feel like I'm in

778
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:26,400
Speaker 1: really good hands. I really truly believe it, and if anything,

779
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:30,959
Speaker 1: I can be honest with you guys. For a long

780
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:35,000
Speaker 1: time in my past relationships, I would say this relationship

781
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: isn't going to end because of my fault. And with Emilio,

782
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 1: there was a time, you guys, that I felt that

783
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,799
Speaker 1: I didn't deserve him because I felt he was more

784
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 1: ready than I was. And I just felt and I

785
00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:47,399
Speaker 1: told him a few times, like I just think I'm

786
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,720
Speaker 1: not ready for you. I can't give you what you deserve.

787
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 1: I can't give you I can't give you myself right

788
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 1: now because I need to just really figure things out.

789
00:36:56,239 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: And he was just like, if that's what you really want,

790
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:00,800
Speaker 1: it's going to break my heart. But I don't think

791
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 1: that you need to do it alone. I am here

792
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 1: to help you. I am patient, Like you have a

793
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 1: partner that wants to help you and is willing to

794
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 1: do anything and everything. And I think I was just

795
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:17,760
Speaker 1: being like a little resistant, and I felt like, Okay,

796
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 1: if this relationship ends, it's not going to be his fault,

797
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: like he's doing everything right, It's going to be my fault.

798
00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 1: And ever since the engagement it switched. I'm just like, no,

799
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,799
Speaker 1: I really want to take care of this relationship and

800
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 1: I have someone that absolutely adores me and loves me,

801
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 1: and I deserve it, you know. Because the crazy thing is,

802
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:39,000
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm crying, But the crazy thing is I

803
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:42,320
Speaker 1: had just told Tony and Jessica are my makeup you know,

804
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: Jessica's my makeup artist and Tony is my hairstylist. I

805
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,040
Speaker 1: had just I was telling them a week before. I'm like, you, guys,

806
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,440
Speaker 1: like I feel like I don't deserve a media Like

807
00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: I feel like I have to let him go. This

808
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 1: is literally a week ago, a week before our engagement,

809
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 1: and I just said, I feel like I can't I

810
00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 1: disappoint him, Like I can't give him what I want

811
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 1: to give him right now. Like I'm just so focused

812
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:09,319
Speaker 1: on work and I still want to do certain things

813
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: and certain things bother him, and I just I want

814
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:15,040
Speaker 1: to be kind of like be able to be myself,

815
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 1: you know. And Jessica was like, you know, you have

816
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 1: a good one, Like I think that you really just

817
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 1: need to have a deep conversation with him. And the

818
00:38:25,719 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 1: weekend before his birthday, weekend, we went to Vegas and

819
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 1: we had this crazy ass long talk just him and

820
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 1: I at the bar in Vegas. We got a little

821
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 1: buzz and I told him everything. Everything that was just

822
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:39,600
Speaker 1: I need to get off my chest, things that have

823
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:42,080
Speaker 1: happened in my past that I haven't told anybody. You guys,

824
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: I said, I'm just gonna lay it all out. I'm

825
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,920
Speaker 1: gonna freaking tell him everything that I feel and how

826
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: I'm afraid and how I still want to be me

827
00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 1: and I want him to respect that, and I want

828
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 1: him to be himself. And I want to be okay

829
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 1: with him going on trips with his friends, Like I

830
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:57,839
Speaker 1: don't want it to just be one sided, Like I

831
00:38:57,880 --> 00:39:00,879
Speaker 1: really want to have that healthy relationship of hey, babe,

832
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:02,719
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go on a trip with my friends for

833
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 1: the weekend, and I want to be genuinely okay with it,

834
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 1: like I don't. I used to be very controlling before,

835
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 1: and controlling because yes, people would do certain things and

836
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 1: it would make me feel like, oh my god, let

837
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 1: me hang on tight, let me save you from yourself

838
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: sort of thing. And in this relationship, I'm like, I

839
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: don't want to be that way. I don't want to

840
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 1: suffocate I don't want to hold onto tight because when

841
00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: you hold on too tight, they're gonna want to like

842
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 1: get loose. You know, when you hold onto anything too tight,

843
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 1: it's just it's you're gonna suffocate it. That's the best

844
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 1: way I can put it. So anyways, we had that

845
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: conversation and I'm like, Okay, Zion is gonna be like

846
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 1: our new beginning. I was telling myself this. I was

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Speaker 1: like okay, because again I was thinking, I'm like I

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Speaker 1: have to let him go. So anyway, so once we

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Speaker 1: got engaged and everything, Tony texts me and he remembered

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00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 1: our conversation and he's like, Babe, I'm so happy for you.

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00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 1: You guys deserve each other. You deserve this. And I

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00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 1: had to read that and I was like, yes, I

853
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 1: deserve this. I deserve this moment. I just deserve this person.

854
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:07,359
Speaker 1: I deserve to be loved this way. I deserve this ring.

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00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 1: I deserve these days of like not doing anything and

856
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 1: just embracing nature and doing the things that make me

857
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:17,799
Speaker 1: absolutely happy. Like something switched out there. You guys, like,

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Speaker 1: I can't even explain it. It has to do with like

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00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:21,840
Speaker 1: just being out in one of my favorite places, getting

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00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:26,919
Speaker 1: engaged and I don't know. I'm just things I could

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Speaker 1: just see clearly. And right now it's my birthday month

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00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 1: and I'm doing a cleanse and other cleans you guys,

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00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 1: I love cleanses. You guys know me because I just

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00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: want to set the tone like I feel like this

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Speaker 1: is the beginning of a new gene of a new

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Speaker 1: life for me obviously for me and my partner. And yeah,

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Speaker 1: I deserve this and I'm happy and I just really

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Speaker 1: now I could say I truly believe it. So anyways,

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Speaker 1: I just let it all out here. And for those

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Speaker 1: of you wondering, yes, I am going to take his

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Speaker 1: last name. I will be Janey Sanchez. He deserves Yeah. Absolutely,

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00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:04,680
Speaker 1: And Vanessa, my friend Vanessa Sanchez, is very happy about it.

873
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:07,280
Speaker 1: She's like, oh my god, we're gonna be Sanchez is together.

874
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,879
Speaker 1: But yes, the plan is to definitely take his name,

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Speaker 1: and I am very happy and excited to do that.

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00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 1: So I love his family. His family loves me, and

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Speaker 1: I love them all. Shout out to all of the

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Speaker 1: Sanchez family who has just welcomed me with their arms

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00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: and their hearts wide open. He has a beautiful family,

880
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 1: you guys. I love his mother. I love his grandma,

881
00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:32,840
Speaker 1: his aunts is just his nano. Everyone's so nice to me,

882
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: and I'm just happy. I'm happy that I'm gonna have

883
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:41,719
Speaker 1: like a beautiful family. So yeah, that's it, guys. I'm

884
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:45,360
Speaker 1: being a cry baby, but it's just it's nice. I

885
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 1: feel like I've gone through so much in my life

886
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:51,680
Speaker 1: and no one's ever loved me this way. No one,

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00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: I can honestly tell you, like, no one has ever

888
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 1: loved me the way he loves me, not my family,

889
00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:02,399
Speaker 1: not my parents, like his page, and he literally tells

890
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 1: me I'm beautiful every single day. And it's just it's nice.

891
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: It's nice. And if I can just wrap up this

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00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:18,840
Speaker 1: episode with something for you guys that speaking from personal experience.

893
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:22,400
Speaker 1: Sometimes I think because what we have gone through and

894
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 1: sometimes maybe even the things that we've done, we feel

895
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Speaker 1: like we don't deserve to be loved the right way,

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00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:31,240
Speaker 1: or we don't believe in love anymore. We think, oh,

897
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 1: there's no way that there is a perfect man out

898
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,320
Speaker 1: there for me, and there isn't because no one is perfect.

899
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Speaker 1: You're not perfect. I'm not perfect. You're not going to

900
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:43,960
Speaker 1: find a perfect person. It's picking and choosing your battles.

901
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 1: If you find someone, and it definitely the good things

902
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 1: outweigh the bad things, and that's an indication of like,

903
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:56,719
Speaker 1: stay there. It's worth working towards it, you know, communication,

904
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 1: but first and foremost, it's important that you you feel

905
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:08,359
Speaker 1: that you deserve it. The crazy thing is I would

906
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:11,319
Speaker 1: go back and forth like I'm like, well, yeah, like

907
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:13,319
Speaker 1: God set me this person. It has to be for

908
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 1: a reason. But then we would have an argument or

909
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 1: something would happen. I'm like, oh my god, I just

910
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 1: I feel like I just can't give him what he expects,

911
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:23,640
Speaker 1: what he wants, what he deserves. And a little did

912
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 1: I know that I mentally was drawing more of that

913
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 1: like to my life because I was so focused on that,

914
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,160
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, And and like there has

915
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: to be a switch where we're like, wait, no, I

916
00:43:38,360 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 1: deserve this. I absolutely deserve to be loved the right way.

917
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,239
Speaker 1: I deserve to be happy. I deserve to have a

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Speaker 1: person in my life that is willing to work at

919
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,600
Speaker 1: the relationship the way I'm willing to do that, you

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00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I think that that's like

921
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,400
Speaker 1: it's a constant thing and it's something that like I'm

922
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:58,239
Speaker 1: telling you, therapy has helped me and just saying these

923
00:43:58,280 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 1: things out loud, even to you guys, and being vulvulnerable

924
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 1: enough to say it out loud. Once you hear it

925
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: out loud, then it just kind of sets and you're like, okay, wait, no,

926
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Speaker 1: you know what you have to work on once you

927
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Speaker 1: hear it out loud, if that makes sense. So, more

928
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Speaker 1: than anything, just believe in love, know that it's out there.

929
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 1: Don't give up. Even if you've kissed a few frogs.

930
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 1: It's okay. Those frogs were supposed to be in your

931
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 1: life because you are also a lesson in their life

932
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 1: for them to also appreciate the next person hopefully that

933
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 1: comes into their life. And forgiving your past is another thing.

934
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:35,439
Speaker 1: Forgive your past, know that everything and everyone comes into

935
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 1: your life for a reason. Sounds cliche, but it's very true.

936
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Speaker 1: And forgiving and really letting go it's the best advice.

937
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 1: And really working on yourself and being intentional and adamant

938
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Speaker 1: about becoming the best version of yourself so that you

939
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 1: can attract what you want and what you need for

940
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 1: your life. Well that's my story, you guys, and I

941
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Speaker 1: hope that I am able to help you guys, and

942
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 1: anyway by sharing my experiences with you guys, and I

943
00:45:07,640 --> 00:45:12,239
Speaker 1: feel like honesty is literally the best policy, and that's

944
00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:14,719
Speaker 1: who I am. I'm transparent and I just pray that

945
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: through what I share, it helps you, guys, become the

946
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: best versions of yourself. And I'm just so excited to

947
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Speaker 1: be marrying my best friend Emilio. I can honestly tell you, like,

948
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 1: I'm just happy and I'm so grateful and I thank

949
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 1: God that I'm able to share life with a person

950
00:45:33,520 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 1: that just understands me the way he does so and

951
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:39,240
Speaker 1: I don't he doesn't bore me, which is so crazy.

952
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: I have so much fun with him. I was like,

953
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:42,919
Speaker 1: oh my god, you don't get on my nerves. Well, yeah,

954
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:44,319
Speaker 1: he gets on my nerve sometimes I'm trying I get

955
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,280
Speaker 1: on his nerves. But like, honestly, like it's so fun.

956
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 1: I've never been able to travel with someone just ourselves

957
00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 1: and have so much fun. So anyways, I'm excited and

958
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 1: I just I don't know, I'm excited to just see

959
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 1: what the future holds for us together. Anyways, I love

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Speaker 1: you guys, Thank you for listening, and I will catch

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Speaker 1: you on the next episode here on Cheeky's and Chill Yay.

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