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Speaker 1: You're welcome, nephew, I mean, thank you, nephew, and you're

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Speaker 1: welcome to subject. He called me the name that's tatted

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Speaker 1: on him. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been dealing with a

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Speaker 1: fell out again, and this time I don't think I

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Speaker 1: can look past his lives. He has four names tattooed

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Speaker 1: on his body, among his many other tats. His mama's

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Speaker 1: name is across his heart, with his daughter's name and

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Speaker 1: his baby mama's names under his mom's name. Way below

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Speaker 1: all of those names, there is a lady's name and

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Speaker 1: the words my girl below it. He told me that's

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Speaker 3: I was trying to ask.

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Speaker 1: His mom about the tattoo and his mystery grandmother, but

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to start a big argument. For years,

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Speaker 1: I have had sex with him and I see several

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Speaker 1: women's names on his body. But last night I realized

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Speaker 1: how crazy he thinks I am. We were having the

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Speaker 1: things he loves, and he started begging for mercy and

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Speaker 1: calling me the mystery name, all at the same time.

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Speaker 1: I let him finish, and I told him what he

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Speaker 1: said in the heat of passion. He swore it didn't happen,

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Speaker 1: now I am sure it is not his grandmother. My

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Speaker 1: why is she so special? Really, you are asking the

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Speaker 1: they do that, big Mama? No, they don't do that.

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Speaker 1: You don't even know my grandkids call me mimi. You

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Speaker 1: don't even need your intuition to know how stupid that is.

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Speaker 1: It's not his grandmother, it's the name of whoever he's

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Speaker 1: seeing when he's not with you. This has been going

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Speaker 1: do you want a man that will be there for

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Speaker 1: you and not call you by anyone one else's name

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Speaker 3: Those are your choices. Stop wasting your.

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Speaker 1: Time with this guy and allowing him to treat you

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Speaker 3: Tell me, gladys Oh, Gladys.

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Speaker 2: Oh Glass, Oh oh Gladdy, you got this all this?

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Speaker 2: Why you got all this pot on glass?

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Speaker 1: The body powder with the pool.

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Speaker 2: Said, yeah, I don't know. Maybe he in love with

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Speaker 2: But her name, glad it's an old ass name. Whatever

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Speaker 2: It could be Kindie. It could be Kindie. These are

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Speaker 2: these names. You got to start looking for these people.

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Speaker 2: Start out with Gladys. Okay, look for you a Ruby

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Speaker 2: or Joyce, or it could be together ruben Joyce, you understand,

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Speaker 2: ruben Joyce. It could be a ruben Joyce. KINDI Kinnie,

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Speaker 2: uh uh Veronica. It could be a Veronica, all right,

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Speaker 2: trying to see these names start at the churches, because

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Speaker 2: these are old names. She will be at the church. Okay,

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Speaker 2: Veronica at the church. Let's see, let me see you.

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Speaker 2: They call her Ryan for sure. I always be familiar

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Speaker 3: Now, Jorthy. But but go back.

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Speaker 2: Dorothy Ruth. Dorothy Ruth is who you're probably looking from.

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Speaker 2: Dorothy Ruth or Dot you could do that, okay, Uh,

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Speaker 2: could be Lee. You could be looking for Lee now, okay,

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Speaker 2: I want you all to know. Uh. Let's see Carolyn, Carolyn, Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, here's the names you got to start looking

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Speaker 2: who this woman is. The woman does exist, he does exist.

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Speaker 2: So keep in mind with time and say it mm hmm. Gladdys,

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Speaker 2: Dorothy Ruth okay, Dorothy ruthe ealy all right, and then Carolyn, Uh,

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Speaker 2: I need to give you one moto your favorite name. Gwen, yes,

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Speaker 2: Gwen not not not Now, I didn't been in love

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Speaker 2: with Gwen. No I could happen I get Gwen tatted

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Speaker 2: favorite times in my life. The best chapter in my

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Speaker 2: life was Gwen. I'm just letting y'all know that, all.

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Speaker 4: Right, Diane, We'll have part two of our response to

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Speaker 4: the Strawberry Letter coming up in twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 4: today's subjects he called me the name that's tatted on him.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: hard Morning Show. It's time to recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is he called me the name that's tatted

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Speaker 1: on him.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 1: This is written by a woman who's been dealing with

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Speaker 1: a man for a few years, but they can never

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Speaker 1: stay together longer than three or four months at a time,

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Speaker 1: because she says, he always disappears for a few days,

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Speaker 1: then he pops up like nothing happened. Okay. She said

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Speaker 1: they argue over women a lot because he refuses to

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Speaker 1: be honest with her, and that's how they fell out again,

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Speaker 1: and this time she doesn't think she can look past

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Speaker 1: his lies. Apparently they were being intimate and he called

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Speaker 1: her the name of a woman that wasn't her name

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Speaker 1: and he this is the name of his grandmother, or

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Speaker 1: so he told her.

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Speaker 2: Okay, normal, Jean, I didn't I didn't get that when you.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, She's mad that he called her this name and

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Speaker 1: the I mean they were having the best makeup sex

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Speaker 1: ever and he shouted out this name and it was

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Speaker 1: a name that he told her was his grandmother's name.

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Speaker 1: What anyway, So she wants to know. Her intuition is

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Speaker 1: telling her that she should let him go for good,

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Speaker 1: but she just wants to know who this chick is

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Speaker 1: that he called her?

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Speaker 3: Who? Who is she? She said?

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Speaker 1: He never tattooed her name on him. So why is

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Speaker 1: this woman so special? That is the question, Junior? You're up?

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well, clearly this man like names. Now this mysterious

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Speaker 5: grandmother you've never met, and he just calls you her

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Speaker 5: name just in the middle of having intimacy, he just

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Speaker 5: says it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So what name did you hear? Is the question?

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Speaker 3: That's what me and Tommy want to know. What name

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Speaker 3: media was? Did he say Medeath?

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Speaker 2: Wow?

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Speaker 5: Did he say that? He didn't say that? Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 5: here go one. Since it's the grandmother we've never met.

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Speaker 3: Did he say nana? What do you say?

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Speaker 6: Nana?

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Speaker 3: Nana?

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Speaker 5: Just he pleaded for mercy, Nana. That's came out. Okay,

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Speaker 5: all right, we don't know, but it's his grandmother. So

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Speaker 5: we just trying to figure this out. What name did

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Speaker 5: he say? Gene Author, Jean Author, Lord, Gene Author.

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Speaker 3: Just just holler at that during the middle.

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Speaker 6: Okay, all wow, oh Willie May, Yes, we are I grandmother?

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Speaker 2: Name right?

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Speaker 3: What what did he say? Okay, all right?

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Speaker 5: Oh Wilma, Wilma, will Ma, Oh, Willma.

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Speaker 3: Faith was dark? Oh, darn's faith. It's her name. What

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Speaker 3: did he say? What name you had?

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Speaker 1: She didn't say, can be any name?

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Speaker 3: His grandmother mysterious. I can't believe it is Shirlene.

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Speaker 7: Oh, I can't believe this.

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Speaker 3: Shirlene. That's too close. What what is he saying?

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Speaker 7: Oh, Georgia, May, Georgia, merle you up and here as money?

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Speaker 2: What Maryll I'm sorry, I said Merle my best.

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Speaker 3: That's not the concern. It was the other part of

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Speaker 3: the statement. Let me tell you.

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Speaker 5: All, Ruthie, ruth d Ruthie, what name did you hear that?

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Speaker 5: This mysterious grandmother he calls you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Had it? May? If you don't get this.

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Speaker 6: Hot my daddy's side.

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Speaker 5: Let me tell you something. I don't know what named

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Speaker 5: he called you. He swear god he didn't do it. Okay,

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Speaker 5: but I know if he said, ooh, gir true, gir.

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Speaker 7: True right there, true true, Gerdy, ain't gerdy.

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Speaker 3: I can't tell you right now. You're doing something to me, girl.

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Speaker 3: I'm telling you, Rachel, Rachel, you're doing something that Rachel's common. Rachel,

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Speaker 3: that's all Rachel filmlu not f.

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Speaker 5: We don't know what name he called you with this.

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Speaker 5: You ain't never never met the grandmother, and he gonna

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Speaker 5: just that's not that's not.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 4: No, he's lying.

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Speaker 1: You know he's lying.

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Speaker 3: You know the long top of that, he calling names

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Speaker 3: and begging for mercy. Gene what about all Barber Jean

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Speaker 3: the work?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, uh yeah, Junior, Lois Lois, No, I know, not Lois.

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Speaker 3: I know he didn't say Lois. Yeah yeah yeah.

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Speaker 1: She said her intuition was telling her that she should

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Speaker 3: Genevieve, girl, you better stop.

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Speaker 2: Genevieve night grade on the full hunting haul me and Genevieve,

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Speaker 2: you bet Genevieve.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what. I don't know what he was

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Speaker 3: yet out and don't side. Oh my god, Grace, that's

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Speaker 3: a good one.

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Speaker 1: Special, that's what she wants. She's so special.

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Speaker 3: Bridge. Did you say Bridget?

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Speaker 1: Gidget?

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Speaker 3: Give it a Bridget.

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Speaker 5: I don't know, I don't know what name you said,

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Speaker 5: but probably one of these right here to a ruby nail.

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