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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We gotta pull you.

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Speaker 1: Draw by letter, subject long gone and return. I am

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Speaker 1: in love with a man who loves me. We've been

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Speaker 1: dating for fourteen months. However, four months ago, I decided

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Speaker 1: to further my career and take a job three thousand

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Speaker 1: miles away. I made sure to let my boyfriend know

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Speaker 1: that I was not leaving him, but trying to obtain

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Speaker 1: a better life for me and my daughter. Well, he

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Speaker 1: was devastated by my departure and try it hard not

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Speaker 1: to remain in love because he said it hurts too much.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward four months later, the job did not work

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Speaker 1: out and I returned to our hometown. Problem is, he

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Speaker 1: is still so hurt that he still does not want

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Speaker 1: a relationship. He claims he's lonely, still in love with me.

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Speaker 1: He's forty six years years old and I'm forty two,

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Speaker 1: and does not want to be alone, but he's afraid

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Speaker 1: to put his heart on the line. I have tried

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Speaker 1: everything to reassure him of my love and devotion. We

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Speaker 1: even try being just physical with with with each They're weird,

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Speaker 1: I know. We even tried just being physical with each other,

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Speaker 1: but we are both emotional and he does not want

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Speaker 1: to feel the feelings he's feeling. This man continues to

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Speaker 1: put himself last and can't seem to understand he deserves happiness.

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Speaker 1: What do I do? Should I move on and date

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Speaker 1: others while I wait for him to come around, or

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Speaker 1: simply sever all times ties and forget he ever existed.

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Speaker 1: In case I didn't mention it, I am very much

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Speaker 1: in love with him and would drop everything for him

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Speaker 1: at any time. Signed, broken heart, Okay, dear broken heart

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Speaker 1: to me, The key to this whole letter is when

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Speaker 1: you said that you made sure to let your boyfriend

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Speaker 1: know that you were not leaving him, but trying to

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Speaker 1: obtain a better life for you and your daughter. But

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Speaker 1: you left out some key elements at the time. Were

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Speaker 1: you planning on staying there permanently and maintaining a long

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Speaker 1: distance relationship or where's your three thousand mile away move

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Speaker 1: just temporary? See to me? If this was a permanent move,

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Speaker 1: I can definitely see why your man acted this way,

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Speaker 1: because long distance love does not work for everyone. That's

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Speaker 1: probably why he tripped like that. Of course, I commend you,

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Speaker 1: I really do, for trying to make a life a

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Speaker 1: better life for you and your daughter, But this man

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Speaker 1: was devastated. You said it in your letter, and yes,

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Speaker 1: it can happen to men too, They can get devastated.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't know if you'll pick up and leave again.

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Speaker 1: He's forty six. He's probably ready to settle down with

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Speaker 1: the woman he loves you, But the next opportunity, you

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Speaker 1: may pick up and leave again. So if you guys

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Speaker 1: try and make it work together in the same city.

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Speaker 1: And I think the underlying issue here is trust. You

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Speaker 1: were hoping to come back and just pick up where

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Speaker 1: you left off, but you know he was a big

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Speaker 1: gun shy. You know, I gotta ask you what would

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Speaker 1: have happened if your job had worked out and you

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Speaker 1: stay there, you know, try some counseling. Maybe he'll come

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Speaker 1: around with that. See if he'll go, he'll go with her.

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Speaker 1: He got to go to counselor if he'll go with her,

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's go. Let's get to part two of

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Speaker 1: your response to today's Strawberry Letter. Let's go, y'all long

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Speaker 1: gone and return. I'm in love with a man who

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Speaker 1: loves me. We've been dating for fourteen months. However, four

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Speaker 1: months ago I decided to further my career and take

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Speaker 1: a job three thousand miles away. I made sure to

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Speaker 1: let my boyfriend know that I was not leaving him,

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Speaker 1: but trying to obtain a better life for me and

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Speaker 1: my daughter. Well, he was devastated and tried hard not

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Speaker 1: to remain in love because he said it hurts too much.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward four months later, the job didn't work out,

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Speaker 1: not returned back to our hometown. Problem is he still

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Speaker 1: He claims he's lonely, still in love with me. He's

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Speaker 1: forty six and I'm forty two, and does not want

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Speaker 1: not want to feel the feelings he's feeling. This man

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Speaker 1: understand that he deserves happiness. What do I do? Should

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Speaker 1: I move on and date others while I wait for

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Speaker 1: forget he ever existed? And in case I did not

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Speaker 1: mention it, I am very much in love with him

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Speaker 1: and would drop everything for him at any time, Signed

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Speaker 1: broken Heart. Let me start this letter by telling little

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Speaker 1: miss broken Heart what her problem is in this whole thing.

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Speaker 1: You your actions never line up with your words, and

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Speaker 1: none of this makes any sense to me or your

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Speaker 1: forty six year old man. Let me help you understand

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Speaker 1: you wait till the very bottom of the letter to say,

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Speaker 1: in case I did not mention it, I am very

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Speaker 1: much in love with him and would drop everything for

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Speaker 1: him at any time, Signed broken hearted. Well, let's go

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Speaker 1: down the list of things you've done to see if

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Speaker 1: you sound like you would drop anything for him, or

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Speaker 1: even if you're in love. Come on, I'm in love

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Speaker 1: with a man and who loves me. You've been dating

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Speaker 1: for fourteen months. However, four months ago I decided wh

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Speaker 1: wh wh whoa what? See you're adding the four months

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Speaker 1: ago when you made the decision into the fourteen months

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Speaker 1: that y'all date. So really, y'all was only dating ten

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Speaker 1: months ago. Then you moved, right, that ain't a year

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Speaker 1: and you moved on the man. Not only did you move,

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Speaker 1: you moved three thousand miles away, which requires a minimum

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Speaker 1: eight hundred to a thousand dollar airplane ticket. And Lord,

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Speaker 1: don't think of this. I want to see you at

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Speaker 1: the last minute, three thousand miles away. I made sure

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Speaker 1: to let my boyfriend know keyword boyfriend. Y'all are too

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Speaker 1: old at forty six and forty two for the term

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Speaker 1: boyfriend to be tossed around. Boyfriend. This is my girlfriend

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Speaker 1: at a certain age where you can't be boyfriend girlfriend

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Speaker 1: no more. This your man, This is my woman. There's

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Speaker 1: an age limit. I think it's thirty. I think it's thirty. Well,

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Speaker 1: I just said I think it's third that if you

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Speaker 1: think it's another number, that's fine. But they didn't write.

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Speaker 1: They wrote me, okay, cool now. And I tried to

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Speaker 1: a better life for me and my daughter. You ain't

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Speaker 1: leaving him three thousand miles You ain't leaving him? How

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Speaker 1: this sound to the man? Is here in this news

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Speaker 1: we're gonna still be boyfriend girlfriend or three thousand miles

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Speaker 1: away after only ten months. They ain't gonna ring. We

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Speaker 1: ain't got no commitment. We've been to be what three

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Speaker 1: thousand miles away? Where he was devastated trying not to

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Speaker 1: remain in love, said, now here she go. Fast forward

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Speaker 1: four months later, the job didn't work out, and I

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Speaker 1: returned back to our hometown. Problem is he still so hurt.

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Speaker 1: He don't want to relationship, he claimed me lonely and

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Speaker 1: and I want to be alone, fraid to put his

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Speaker 1: hard on. I've tried everything to reassure him of my love. Lady.

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Speaker 1: The key word that you missed using here is reassured.

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Speaker 1: How do you reassure a person when he was never

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Speaker 1: sure in the first place, When he thought he had

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Speaker 1: something a little while ago, you up and took it

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Speaker 1: three thousand miles away. Now you want to reassure him.

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Speaker 1: How do you reassure man who has never been sure

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Speaker 1: he will show in the first place, you took that

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Speaker 1: from you. Now you the same person that's been snatching

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Speaker 1: stuff then came to reassure him. Man, that ain't been

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Speaker 1: the work. I've tried everything to reassure him of my

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Speaker 1: love and devotion. Devotion do you understand the definition any

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Speaker 1: of these words? And your damn letter? Devotion is when

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Speaker 1: you devoted to a person. When you devoted to a person,

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Speaker 1: you don't get on the plane and leave with the baby,

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Speaker 1: three thousand miles, then here you go. We even tried

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Speaker 1: being just physical with each other, but we are most okay. Now,

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Speaker 1: let me just get to this far run out of town.

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Speaker 1: What happens if you get another job off of more money?

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Speaker 1: Your ass probably do that too. Thank you, We got

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Speaker 1: to get out of here. You can email us or instagram.

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Speaker 1: What's your thoughts on today's Strawberry letter at my girl,

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Speaker 1: surely you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show