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Speaker 3: I hired a private investigator because I'm suspicious of my husband.

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Speaker 4: What did he do?

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Speaker 3: I hired a detective last weekend. He caught my husband

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Speaker 3: Mail forty with his ex secretary, female thirty three on

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Speaker 3: Saturday night. Plenty of pictures. There isn't any disputing this

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Speaker 3: or the happenings kissing, handholding, and back to her room

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Speaker 3: together for the entire night. Zero doubt on the events

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to

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Speaker 3: give good advice. Cooofully, But we don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 3: We only know what we do, so let us know

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Speaker 3: what you would do in the comments. And OHP says

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Speaker 3: they were at a week d business conference I suspected

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Speaker 3: it and was right. I actually felt like complete crap

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Speaker 3: in the lead up, and to a lesser degree, still do.

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Speaker 3: But his behavior was a bit off for a couple

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Speaker 3: of weeks. I had that terrible gut feeling. I let

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Speaker 3: him know over text this morning that he was caught

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Speaker 3: read the receipt, but no reply. I didn't state any intentions.

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Speaker 3: I just told him I would take a break to

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Speaker 3: gather my thoughts. He should do the same, and I

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Speaker 3: need to see if I can find a way to

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Speaker 3: trust again. As expected, today has been a rollercoaster of emotion, anger,

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Speaker 3: and tears galore. This is the absolute worst feeling ever.

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Speaker 3: I wish this on nobody, which leads me to the

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Speaker 3: next thought. Do I send the picks to the secretary's husband.

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Speaker 3: I'm conflicted on that. I'm not a vindictive person and

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Speaker 3: it's not intended to hurt the secretary, but my thinking

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Speaker 3: found out instead.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say sorry to interrupt with like

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Speaker 2: I feel like, yeah, you don't want to bring more

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Speaker 2: people with the mix, but if you're a relevant person, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's a relevant person with a relevant irrelevant person in

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Speaker 2: the party here if it was switched, would you want

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and it seems like you do so I.

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Speaker 2: Think yes, I would give him the you know, hey,

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Speaker 2: you better tell her to tell the secretary's husband or

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Speaker 2: one of you, like she should know them to it

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Speaker 2: kind of thing. But if you know, if you guys don't,

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Speaker 2: I'll do it for him.

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Speaker 3: If you want, you could either tell him that you

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Speaker 3: know secretary needs to tell her husband, or if you

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Speaker 3: do it anonymously.

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Speaker 5: But even then they can't legally like retaliate that in

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Speaker 5: the workplace. No, but yeah, technically yeah.

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Speaker 3: But this emotional pain is so heavy terrible to inflict

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Speaker 3: on someone. I haven't shared it with anybody. I feel

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Speaker 3: this is our issue at the moment. Anyone I share

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Speaker 3: with will simply hate him forever. Well, I don't think

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Speaker 5: Like this isn't your doing at the end of the day,

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Speaker 5: Like you might be the one to break the news,

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Speaker 5: but it's like his wife did it. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I have so many picks of them together. I stopped

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Speaker 3: looking and moved them to a folder on my PC

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Speaker 3: and zip them up. Looking at them just stirs me up.

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Speaker 3: I feel absolutely horrible that I did this, but I

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Speaker 3: also realized that I needed to confirm the affair. Am

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Speaker 3: I a horrible wife for hiring a detective? Didn't he

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Speaker 3: break the trust first? Should I share the picks with

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Speaker 3: her husband? Is taking a break? A reasonable strategy?

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Speaker 2: Is the screen while black?

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Speaker 4: Nooil Ah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they blacked out because of how insane those questions are.

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Speaker 4: Oh p, yeah, uh.

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Speaker 3: Let's just take a minute and breathe because I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: A break that is unreasonable?

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Speaker 4: Break up? Divorce? Should I share the picks with her husband? Yes?

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Speaker 4: Didn't he break the trust first? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Don't feel bad for literally anything that you did because

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Speaker 3: There is an update, But oh p, you need to

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Speaker 4: Divorce update?

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Speaker 3: Where to begin? For those that remember that he turned

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Speaker 3: It was before anything went down one day. That's still

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Speaker 3: a huge red flag. Anyhow, the events went like this.

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Speaker 3: He was sleeping with the secretary when he received my

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Speaker 3: message calling him out.

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Speaker 2: He was with her, and we're still debating.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, while debating this.

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Speaker 2: Like taking a break.

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Speaker 4: I mean I think we're not we're beyond like break

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Speaker 4: is not our debate. Divorce.

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Speaker 3: No, yeah, you should not be going on a break.

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Speaker 3: You should be divorcing.

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Speaker 2: I think it's a huge like whoa, what's going on

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Speaker 2: kind of thing, you know, gather yourself for sure, but

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Speaker 2: devorce a lawyer. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: He immediately went completely mental dressed and left the room,

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Speaker 3: not before throwing his phone into the mirror.

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Speaker 4: Oh that's real good.

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Speaker 2: He's like, this is your fault.

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Speaker 3: The hotel will build us play. I'm sure, what do

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Speaker 3: you mean us girl. This was confirmed by his best friend,

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Speaker 3: who went back to retrieve his belongings and the remains

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Speaker 5: Oh he's so sad that he got caught.

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 3: He ended up as a complete wreck at his best

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Speaker 3: which he very well may have. He has been staying

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Speaker 3: there in their guest house. We have not had any

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Speaker 3: contact his best friend's wife. My best tie for twenty

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Speaker 3: Excuse me, your best friend of twenty years just came

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Speaker 3: over to you and said, I'm worried about your husband.

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Speaker 5: I'd be like, okay, tell he's affair partner to take

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sorry, where's my worry?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Are you worried about me? You're worried about me. I've

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Speaker 3: They're bringing him into the main house. She was to

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Speaker 3: She said, he has no condition to talk to me.

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Speaker 3: He's a complete wreck, and they're worried for his life.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I could be friends with these

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Speaker 5: I can always have sympathy when something's getting to that

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Speaker 5: sure that a human life is okay. First absolutely, but

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Speaker 5: then it's the return fact that they haven't seemed to

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Speaker 4: That's my point.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, It's like, yes, we don't want this person to

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Speaker 3: doesn't do that. But the fact that there's been zero

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Speaker 4: They are monitoring him.

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Speaker 3: He's been just laying in bed, crying off and on,

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Speaker 3: If he doesn't soon they will get him something to help.

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Speaker 3: They brought him food and he has hardly eaten.

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Speaker 5: Boof freaking who Yeah, I think at this point we

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Speaker 4: Professional help for that.

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Speaker 5: That's staying at your friend's house. Isn't gonna really be

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Speaker 4: No where.

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Speaker 3: They're like freaking waiting on you hand and foot after

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Speaker 5: And now you want to spiral is that you had

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I would have a pretty tough time having any sympathy

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Speaker 5: Cheated on I would get him help, but he wouldn't be.

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Speaker 3: Saying exactly now. A quick background on the friends. She

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Speaker 3: extremely close and confide in each other about everything. Her

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Speaker 3: They have been closed for twelve years. These are both

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Speaker 3: professional people. They call bs when needed. They do not

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Speaker 3: react poorly under stress, but are pure no bs. He

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Speaker 3: yard work. No pity party over there.

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Speaker 4: It sounds like, right now, that's what he is. This

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Speaker 2: What Yeah, I was gonna say, why is not op

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Speaker 5: She did mention alone, but you get him checked in

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Speaker 3: She did mention that this morning she went into his

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Speaker 4: I'm just kind of confused.

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Speaker 3: This feels like for all of my summer, the summer

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Speaker 4: This feels like.

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Speaker 3: How everyone treated Jeremiah after finding out that he cheated

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Speaker 5: What it feels like to meet. I don't know you

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Speaker 4: That's kind of what it feels like to me.

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Speaker 3: It feels like they're taking care of him because they

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Speaker 3: have sympathy for his current situation, it doesn't have a

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Speaker 3: need to work through my next moves. I'm back and

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Speaker 5: You should you react so hard and divorce this man

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Speaker 2: Just say, put a little bit more of emotion into it.

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Speaker 3: His drama is meaningless. I thank you all for the

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Speaker 3: excellent advice I received. One fifty or so dms, mostly helpful.

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Speaker 3: A few guys looking at help me pick up the piece,

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Speaker 3: yeah gross.

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Speaker 4: A couple even cent their picks gross.

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Speaker 3: A couple solicitations to online counseling dollars pretty crazy stuff here.

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Speaker 3: I did get some great links to online articles that

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Speaker 3: seem helpful. The last thing I would like to mention

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Speaker 3: is that divorce him people. I totally get it, and

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Speaker 3: I am leaning slightly that direction, lean harder. But at

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Speaker 3: the same time, I'm a believer in responsibility and being responsible.

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Speaker 4: This your responsibility to divorce him.

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Speaker 3: Now we're in this marriage for better or worse? Girl,

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Speaker 2: He didn't even apologize one. I mean, yeah, even apologies

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Speaker 2: And I guess never came back home, never tried to

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Speaker 3: Just because once apologized her, that's it. Yeah, this is

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Speaker 3: His current situation will garner no pity for me. He

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Speaker 4: Maybe next year. Do not have children with him? No,

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Speaker 3: But if we reconcile, this will push that timetable or

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Speaker 5: You know I'm staying with him just to have children.

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Speaker 5: I was taking that as take it off the table

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Speaker 4: And so I think she's saying taking that as yeah,

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Speaker 3: But I think she's saying, oh, well, I might give

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Speaker 3: not an issue. He does well and will survive without me.

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Speaker 3: I work part time from home, and I'm pretty set

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Speaker 3: for life. He would never go after assets. That's simply

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Speaker 3: not him. Yes, I know divorce changes people. And then

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Speaker 3: Even if you did, it would not be a major impact.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you do know him.

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Speaker 5: You hired an investigator.

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Speaker 3: I genuinely don't think that you can say that you

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Speaker 4: There is an update.

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Speaker 3: I do want to point out also that op literally

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know about that one. I'm not on

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Speaker 3: It doesn't seem like they're on my radar. Yeah, it

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Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but there is an update. He messaged me last night,

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Speaker 3: appeared apologetic and full of shame. He wanted to call

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Speaker 3: our friends. He feels he has done irreparable damage, and

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Speaker 3: he has our previous relationship has ended to TBD if

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Speaker 2: Okay, whereiningly, where was this, Suri?

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Speaker 5: I think this has been happening. I think we just

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Speaker 4: Yeah years, Yeah, Okay.

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Speaker 5: I'm like, I'm not saying that's a bad thing. I

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Speaker 3: She insisted I eat and said she would stare at

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Speaker 3: remorseful and would not elaborate on him anymore. This is

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Speaker 3: about you. We went for a run and it seemed

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Speaker 3: to clear my mind. I work as I please, so

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Speaker 3: I have no work schedule, which makes it easy. She'll

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Speaker 3: stay the next couple of nights. We are going out

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Speaker 3: Cabo or something warm. I may not have been clear,

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Speaker 3: but we have no children. I am thirty two years old.

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Speaker 3: We do have a prenup, the reason being because of

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Speaker 3: hundred K payout that is in place for twenty years

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Speaker 3: but I really don't care about it. The house is

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Speaker 3: and personal belongings. My bestie is referring me to a

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Speaker 3: I will not send the proof to her husband at

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Speaker 3: this time, not until I consult with the attorney and therapist.

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Speaker 3: This isn't street justice, but if after consultation with them

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Speaker 3: it makes sense, I will. One thought for my bestie

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Speaker 3: is to have the attorney's service proxy. He will be

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Speaker 3: moving to their guest house on the weekend. You can

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Speaker 3: He must park in the street and pay for a

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Speaker 3: housekeeper weekly. There is a little bit left to this story.

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Speaker 3: It seems like op is on the way to divorce. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: which we are leaning to divorce.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Gone, Thank goodness that needed to happen.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it seems like, yeah, we're getting a little bit

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Speaker 5: I'm still kind of wondering, unless I missed it, did

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Speaker 4: No, she's what she just said.

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Speaker 3: I'm not going to tell him until I talk to

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Speaker 5: I just don't see why you wouldn't be. Yeah, and

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Speaker 5: if not, you can't like your friends say it or something.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, could you just kind.

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Speaker 5: Of work with staying there? She could have overheard it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think it's good that they are doing it in

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Speaker 3: making sure he doesn't have any of these privileges of

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Speaker 5: Okay with it, only because I think that the husband

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Speaker 5: also like to think that as like a human, you

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that.

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Speaker 5: I could understand in the like crisis beginning, I think

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Speaker 5: even though he did it upon himself, Like we can

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Speaker 5: give him some short term grace to get back.

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Speaker 4: On his feet, and then it's like bye bye. That's

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Speaker 4: exactly how I would approach it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because if I'm actually worried about someone's well being,

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Speaker 4: I don't know if I want to be friends with

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Speaker 5: That's why I'm like, the rules set up is good

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you just kind of you say, you actually can't

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Speaker 4: You have a doctor's house. It's yours.

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Speaker 3: No, but there is a little bit left. The hotel

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Speaker 3: build him six hundred dollars for the mirror and room cleaning.

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Speaker 3: He reimbursed my bestie for the phone replacement. For his

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Speaker 2: What yikes?

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Speaker 4: Just sick.

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Speaker 3: Finally, divorces absolutely on the table, but so is reconciliation.

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Speaker 4: Who do you had half of it?

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Speaker 5: Right?

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Speaker 3: I didn't get to this place in my life by

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Speaker 3: making rash decisions. This is not a rash decision. It

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Speaker 3: all has to be worked through and planned.

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Speaker 5: I A, yeah, if you're gonna be stuck in this

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Speaker 2: You might get a rash through his decisions.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, honestly, Yeah, I hope that you got tested, girl,

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Speaker 3: genuinely for your safety. I hope that you got tested

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Speaker 3: because this and a ya yai yah. That's the end

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Speaker 5: My husband has been talking with random women while.

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Speaker 4: Abroad abroad what's her name?

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Speaker 5: And this comes directly from the Okay storytime subreddit. Me

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Speaker 5: thirty four female, married my husband thirty eight mail nine

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Speaker 5: couples go through hard times, and we have had a

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Speaker 4: Pretty bump. Pretty bump.

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Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from recent condition eight six'.

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Speaker 4: Supreddit I'm, Carly.

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Speaker 2: I'm, Sophia i'm on.

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Speaker 4: And we're here to give good. Advice. Goofully but we

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00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:24,720
Speaker 4: don't have all the.

448
00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:26,879
Speaker 5: Answers we only know what we would, do so let

449
00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:29,639
Speaker 5: us know what you would do in the. Comments As opie,

450
00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:32,440
Speaker 5: says this, year my husband decided to start a new

451
00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:35,040
Speaker 5: business in an industry that he is not related. To

452
00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:38,240
Speaker 5: he is the smartest MAN i, know ready to take

453
00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:41,159
Speaker 5: a risk and go against the rules and it usually

454
00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:45,359
Speaker 5: all works. OUT i always support him in. Anything we

455
00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:48,480
Speaker 5: have two, kids six mail and four. Male i'm a

456
00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:50,600
Speaker 5: stay at home mother in a new country for, me

457
00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:54,639
Speaker 5: without any family or. Support my husband travels a lot

458
00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:56,919
Speaker 5: for his new, business AND i had no problem with,

459
00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:59,679
Speaker 5: that but the results are not as great as we.

460
00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:02,000
Speaker 5: Thought but and it's been almost a, year he has

461
00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:05,440
Speaker 5: been stressed a. Lot so my husband goes overseas a,

462
00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:08,680
Speaker 5: lot coming back for less than a week each. Month

463
00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,520
Speaker 5: WHILE i managed with two kids and the whole routine.

464
00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:14,320
Speaker 5: Here In april this, year we visited him in the

465
00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:17,000
Speaker 5: country he was working. In for the first two days

466
00:20:17,080 --> 00:20:20,320
Speaker 5: everything fell. Off he didn't spend much time with, us

467
00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,760
Speaker 5: saying that we were still jet lagged and he needed

468
00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:26,560
Speaker 5: to work for the first time in twelve. YEARS i felt,

469
00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 5: weird call it, intuition BUT i did check his. Phone

470
00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:33,439
Speaker 5: here is WHERE i might come across as an a

471
00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:37,560
Speaker 5: hole and unsupportive. WIFE i found a one hundred plus

472
00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:41,080
Speaker 5: numbers and many chats with young girls.

473
00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:45,120
Speaker 4: There, okay what do you mean young? Girls and chatting about?

474
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:48,480
Speaker 4: What what do you? Mean young? Girls how? Old how?

475
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,800
Speaker 5: Young My Eastern european nature couldn't hold it for too.

476
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:54,399
Speaker 5: LONG i woke him up AND i asked him what it.

477
00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:57,159
Speaker 5: Was he promised me that it was not, much just

478
00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:01,560
Speaker 5: conversations that help him unwind and talk about things other

479
00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:03,359
Speaker 5: than businesses or the stress of.

480
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:07,879
Speaker 2: Life you mean the thing you're supposed to do with your, partner.

481
00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 4: Wife your, friends and not young. Girls how old are these?

482
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:15,160
Speaker 5: GIRLS i was, like really, strongly hoping like maybe it's

483
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:16,280
Speaker 5: a business.

484
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:21,199
Speaker 3: Chat maybe he's getting into like modeling and he wants

485
00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:26,240
Speaker 3: a base of young. Girls it's called network casting the

486
00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:29,159
Speaker 3: next teen Drama Stranger things season.

487
00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:33,400
Speaker 5: SIX i just don't understand why he chose, young Beautiful

488
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,719
Speaker 5: Eastern european women for that not a.

489
00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:37,840
Speaker 4: Professional, yes he has a.

490
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:41,600
Speaker 3: Type, OPE i understand, why AND i think you do understand.

491
00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:45,120
Speaker 5: WHY i don't know. THAT i understand what's going on.

492
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,400
Speaker 4: Because he's attracted to the young women and he wants

493
00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:49,720
Speaker 4: to talk To no KNEW i knew that. Part, YEAH

494
00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:51,000
Speaker 4: i thought you WERE i.

495
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:53,199
Speaker 3: KNOW i think he, is just LIKE i don't understand

496
00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:55,960
Speaker 3: why you would talk to attractive young women because he's

497
00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 3: attracted to.

498
00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,720
Speaker 5: Them. YEAH i wanted to, leave but couldn't get tickets

499
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:02,639
Speaker 5: for me and the. Kids he convinced me to stay

500
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:06,440
Speaker 5: until our return ticket. Together one of the days, THERE

501
00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 5: i managed to get a LOCAL sim card and pretended

502
00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:12,439
Speaker 5: to contact him as one of the. Girls in the

503
00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,400
Speaker 5: beginning of the. Conversation he agreed to, me but then

504
00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:18,159
Speaker 5: blocked the. NUMBER i really don't know what to. THINK

505
00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:21,520
Speaker 5: i want to believe that nothing, happened but still don't

506
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:25,080
Speaker 5: want to become that stupid and blind in. MARRIAGE i

507
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 5: lost my trust AND i don't know WHAT i should.

508
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:31,200
Speaker 5: DO i moved to this country for. Him we got

509
00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 5: married two weeks after my. MOVE i have never worked

510
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:37,439
Speaker 5: here AND i don't have any credit. History we have

511
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:40,200
Speaker 5: two kids with busy lives at, school AND i have

512
00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 5: no one. Else IF i leave, HIM i know how

513
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 5: hard it will. BE i really hope it was just

514
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:50,159
Speaker 5: a stupid, mistake just conversations and nothing. Else but, again

515
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:54,200
Speaker 5: why does it still feel like cheating and? Betrayal the thing,

516
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 5: is it is.

517
00:22:55,920 --> 00:23:00,720
Speaker 3: Cheating and, Betrayal, however because you have JUST i don't have,

518
00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:04,000
Speaker 3: CREDIT i don't have a support system, HERE i have.

519
00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:07,119
Speaker 3: KIDS i think you need to take some time to

520
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 3: prepare before you cut him. OFF i think you need

521
00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:15,400
Speaker 3: to take a minute and prep. EVERYTHING i do want

522
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,879
Speaker 3: to evalidate you in that this is cheating and a.

523
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,880
Speaker 3: Betrayal and if he was willing to meet up with one, person.

524
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,399
Speaker 5: RIGHT i do fear that maybe he only blocked that

525
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,439
Speaker 5: one because he remembered he were in. Town, yeah and

526
00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 5: what was happening for the like hundreds.

527
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:32,919
Speaker 4: Of, others m update or more like a.

528
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 5: Backstory we met WHEN i was twenty one and he

529
00:23:35,600 --> 00:23:38,920
Speaker 5: was twenty. Five we come from different, cultures, languages and,

530
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:42,560
Speaker 5: religions although both of us are not that. Religious our

531
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:46,080
Speaker 5: families were cool with our. Choice his very traditional parents

532
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 5: still took me as their. Daughter we have good. Relationships

533
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:52,200
Speaker 5: when we, met we didn't have. Much he had gone

534
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 5: through a horrible breakup and the loss of his first.

535
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 5: Business he put on a lot of extra weight and

536
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 5: was insecure about. THAT i saw him as a good

537
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 5: person with a kind. Heart we did long distance and

538
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 5: THEN i got approved for a partner's visa To.

539
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 4: Australia.

540
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,640
Speaker 5: Nice we got married and both started from. Zero over

541
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 5: the next few, years we started working and saved. Money

542
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,160
Speaker 5: later we put it into real estate and it worked.

543
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 5: Out while he gained confidence as a provider and got

544
00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 5: in better, SHAPE i gave birth to our two children

545
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:21,879
Speaker 5: with a small age.

546
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 4: GAP i went through a lot.

547
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 5: During that, time including later diagnosed postpartum depression and the

548
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:31,400
Speaker 5: loss of my. Mother my body, CHANGED i had mood,

549
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,240
Speaker 5: swings AND i had no support in my everyday mom.

550
00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:37,719
Speaker 5: Life while my husband became more confident started to grow our.

551
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 5: Business he found a few people overseas for, investment and

552
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,440
Speaker 5: this is how he started to. Travel in the past two,

553
00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 5: years we traveled with, him but me and the kids

554
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:47,680
Speaker 5: weren't happy without.

555
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:48,800
Speaker 4: Stability it was.

556
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,639
Speaker 5: About time for our oldest to start. School we tried

557
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 5: to live between two. Countries this, YEAR i started to

558
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 5: realize that we have basically.

559
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,320
Speaker 4: Grown, together but probably want different.

560
00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 5: Things he often talked about a luxury life and first class,

561
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:05,639
Speaker 5: travels A dubai style, life which we're already.

562
00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: Achieving.

563
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:09,200
Speaker 5: DANG i want a simple life in our small, city

564
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 5: in a big enough house with a garden and maybe some.

565
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 4: Chickens the kids also want.

566
00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 5: Stability my oldest loves his, school which was hard to

567
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 5: find because he's more, introverted and my younger one can't

568
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 5: wait to start the same school next. Year my husband

569
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,120
Speaker 5: talks about the future and how he's working on. IT

570
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 5: i talk about the present and how the kids are

571
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 5: growing way too fast and we need to spend more

572
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 5: time together. NOW i think we just see life differently

573
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:37,119
Speaker 5: and have grown a part in the past few. YEARS

574
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,399
Speaker 5: i appreciate your suggestions and would like to hear if

575
00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 5: someone has similar experience in a family with.

576
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 4: Kids we have another. UPDATE i think you could potentially.

577
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 3: If you guys are that well, OFF i think you

578
00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 3: could potentially get a fairly good amount of money in the. Divorce,

579
00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 3: yeah if you got a good enough lawyer and you

580
00:25:56,040 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 3: would definitely get some child support if he's traveling all the, TIME.

581
00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:00,880
Speaker 4: I would hope.

582
00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 5: So, well obviously it sounds like she's mainly In.

583
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:06,600
Speaker 3: Australia, YEAH i think that you could work this, out

584
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:09,639
Speaker 3: talk to a. Lawyer in, general it sounds like you

585
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 3: guys are.

586
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:10,760
Speaker 4: Just not a.

587
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:15,600
Speaker 3: Fit. Yeah and now it's reached a point where he's messaging.

588
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 4: In these other girls and also doesn't see a problem with.

589
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 5: It, Yeah i'd call him. OUT i be, like, Listen

590
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 5: i'm not. Stupid what or what's what the?

591
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 4: Girls?

592
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh day two for my post earlier this week

593
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 5: about my, husband he is back from his. TRIP i

594
00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:31,760
Speaker 5: told him that he can't go back to his meetings

595
00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:35,880
Speaker 5: overseas until at least next. Year this is a very

596
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 5: busy time Before christmas and the end of the school,

597
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 5: year PLUS i feel we need to try to work on.

598
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 4: Our relationship before making a bigger.

599
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 5: DECISION i told HIM i am not continuing without couples,

600
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:49,240
Speaker 5: counseling something he never believed. In this is also a

601
00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:52,240
Speaker 5: reason WHY i wasn't diagnosed with postpartum depression WHEN i.

602
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 5: NEEDED i booked our first appointment for people suggesting divorce

603
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 5: and moving back to my.

604
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 4: Country this is my country as.

605
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,880
Speaker 5: WELL i am a. Citizen my kids were born. Here

606
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 5: english is their first language and they go to school.

607
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 5: Here we love our city and have a couple of

608
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:10,800
Speaker 5: good friends. Here back in my, HOMELAND i only have

609
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 5: family who also go through THINGS i consider my current place,

610
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 5: home the stress of, moving looking for a, job and

611
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:18,560
Speaker 5: changing the kid's.

612
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 4: Routine there will be. MORE i know it will be

613
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 4: hard to.

614
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 5: Find a job and become more, independent BUT i can

615
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 5: do it for my kids IF i.

616
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 3: Need, YEAH i think that's like step one is, fine job,

617
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:29,160
Speaker 3: here good.

618
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 5: Call, SURPRISINGLY i have the support of my parents in

619
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,560
Speaker 5: law and brother in, law who have taken care of

620
00:27:34,600 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 5: me better than all three of my own.

621
00:27:36,320 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 4: Brothers just a little bit more.

622
00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:42,520
Speaker 5: Sure is sure is feel like she's got the plans,

623
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:46,280
Speaker 5: Though get that? Job, YEAH, ok get your own little

624
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 5: routine life.

625
00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 4: Down that's the.

626
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 3: THING i think that because you are more dependent on your,

627
00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 3: PARTNER i think before you go the rout of.

628
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:57,560
Speaker 4: Divorce and calm out and Say i'm done with, this

629
00:27:58,119 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 4: you get your affairs in.

630
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 3: Order you may make sure that you have a place

631
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,919
Speaker 3: where you, know or you're in a place where you

632
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 3: have the lawyer you. Need in the you, know event

633
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 3: that you get a. Divorce you have a job to

634
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 3: support to you and could support your. Kids, YEAH i

635
00:28:11,840 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 3: think you just make a. Plan is there more to death?

636
00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 4: Strung there?

637
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 5: Is half of everything is already in my name for tax.

638
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 4: Purposes but with this new thing this, year we put

639
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:21,879
Speaker 4: everything on.

640
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 5: Red we will see if we lose everything and become

641
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:27,239
Speaker 5: bankrupt or, oh everything works out and we achieve our.

642
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 4: Goals oh my, goodness WHAT i thought you guys were

643
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 4: like super.

644
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 5: WEALTHY i thought you were already live in the Life dubai.

645
00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:37,000
Speaker 3: Lifestyle that's what you, said is The dubai. Lifestyle, also

646
00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 3: we go bankrupt next?

647
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 4: Year apparently so probably met like The dubai.

648
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 2: Chocolate we're nice and guie and the.

649
00:28:43,520 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 5: Inside another thing is THAT i am willing to work

650
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 5: on our relationship IF i know he puts in as

651
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 5: much effort AS i. Do before, this we were best, friends good,

652
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:55,760
Speaker 5: partners and understood each other with all basic values and

653
00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 5: beliefs on the same. Page we started family and business

654
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 5: together from. Zero he always says that his success is my.

655
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 4: Success.

656
00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,160
Speaker 5: Together we built our little. EMPIRE i am inside and

657
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 5: he is. OUTSIDE i am not ready to throw it all.

658
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 5: AWAY i put so much into. IT i know that

659
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 5: after the hardest, year more successful times may.

660
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 4: Follow and that is the end of that. Story sure.

661
00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 3: IS i, mean if you wanted to have a conversation with,

662
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:25,040
Speaker 3: him you can yea to discuss you, know, like, hey

663
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,520
Speaker 3: you can't be doing. This this is HOW i feel about.

664
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 3: This and if he continues to be, like, well it's, fine.

665
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 4: It's not even a big.

666
00:29:31,560 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 5: Deal and By, Colmo, yeah and how young were these?

667
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Speaker 4: Women you never said, that you never said you said young.

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Speaker 5: Girls that's a very alarming.

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Speaker 3: Thing it's an alarming. Phrase but, uh we've got another.

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Speaker 3: Story we'll see if it's the same amount of. Alarming

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Speaker 3: it could be, more could be.

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00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 4: Less hope. Not we will.

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Speaker 1: See, hey It's. Sam we're gonna get back to the.

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Speaker 1: Stories but here's three minutes of bads from our. Sponsors

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Speaker 1: my wife.

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Speaker 4: Removes her wedding ring when going. Golfing does that get

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Speaker 4: in the way of?

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Speaker 3: GOLF i thirty five, male just found out tonight that my,

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Speaker 3: wife thirty five female of five, years has been at

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Speaker 3: the minimum having an emotional affair for the last five

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Speaker 3: months behind my. Back oh, No by the, way this

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Speaker 3: storytime separate.

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Speaker 2: It I'm, Sophia I'm, Carly I'm, keon and we're.

686
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Speaker 4: Here to give good advice, goofully but we don't have

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Speaker 4: all the.

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Speaker 3: Answers we only know what we, do so let us

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Speaker 3: know what you would do in the, comments And op,

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00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 3: Says i'm active duty military and coming off a pretty

691
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:39,719
Speaker 3: long period of underway time with a job that allows

692
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 3: pretty much zero contact back.

693
00:30:42,160 --> 00:30:46,920
Speaker 4: Home that is. Tough that's tough on any.

694
00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 3: RELATIONSHIP i left earlier this year with what to me

695
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 3: felt like a pretty happy. Marriage we bought our dream

696
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 3: home back in twenty twenty three that was perfect for

697
00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:58,720
Speaker 3: my two step, kids and overall there was a lot

698
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,520
Speaker 3: of love between the two of. Us distance with my

699
00:31:01,720 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 3: job and her being so busy with hers made it,

700
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 3: hard along with trying to raise two, kids BUT i

701
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 3: never felt like there were any major issues we couldn't work.

702
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 3: THROUGH i got home and things immediately felt. Different the

703
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,560
Speaker 3: loving and caring WIFE i THOUGHT i knew was distant

704
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 3: and not opening up to me at. All for those

705
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 3: who don't, know this is pretty common in military marriages

706
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 3: after deployments or time, away SO i just figured she

707
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:28,360
Speaker 3: was adjusting to me being back. HOME a couple weeks

708
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 3: went by AND i noticed she was sleeping on the

709
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,760
Speaker 3: couch more and on her phone more often than ever.

710
00:31:33,800 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 3: Before after about a month being, HOME i finally spoke

711
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,640
Speaker 3: up and said something felt. Off around a nice backyard

712
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,240
Speaker 3: fire one. Night she agreed with, me and we talked

713
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 3: a lot over some drinks and agreed that we needed

714
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 3: to work on each. Other at this, POINT i was

715
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 3: happy with the outcome and thought together we would work through.

716
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 3: THIS i tried to become more attentive to, her take

717
00:31:55,080 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 3: things off her, plate do the cooking and, cleaning and

718
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 3: let her have some. Hobbies took up, golf AND i

719
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 3: was really happy she found something she really liked to.

720
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,240
Speaker 3: Do we also still played on a local softball team

721
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 3: with friends when we. Could fast forward to last week

722
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:13,840
Speaker 3: and we're sitting around another fire talking and she brings

723
00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:16,240
Speaker 3: up that she just doesn't see us working out.

724
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 4: Anymore lots of it's not, you it's.

725
00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:20,960
Speaker 3: Me i've tried to get back to where we, were

726
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:23,000
Speaker 3: AND i don't want you to hate. Me at this,

727
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 3: point the feeling in my stomach sinks AND i go

728
00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 3: into full panic. MODE i suggest marriage, counseling spicing up

729
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 3: our bedroom, life and any other THING i could do

730
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 3: to save everything we worked so hard. For then my

731
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 3: gut starts kicking, in AND i can't help but ask the,

732
00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 3: question is there someone? ELSE i got hit with a quick.

733
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:46,719
Speaker 3: Draw of course. Not i'd never do that to. YOU

734
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 3: i believed. Her she had never given me a reason not.

735
00:32:49,760 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 2: To that's crazy that she's giving you the it's not,

736
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 2: you it's, seeah or LIKE i wish we could go

737
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 2: back to the way we, were but, like are you

738
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 2: seeing somebody? Else?

739
00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 4: No me see someone. ELSE i would never get to.

740
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 4: You her voice keeps going up. Octaves he's, LIKE i

741
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 4: can't even hear. You you're too far to.

742
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 3: Range some more days go, by AND i schedule marriage

743
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 3: counseling for, us surprise her with flowers at, work take

744
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 3: her to, lunch just try to be a good husband

745
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,959
Speaker 3: and supportive inner. Feelings, sunday she goes golfing with some

746
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:28,200
Speaker 3: friends and comes back without her rings. ON i immediately say,

747
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 3: something but she assures me that she takes them off

748
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 3: for golf and forgot to put them, on after.

749
00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 4: Which from all of our lovely chat people, HERE.

750
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 3: I have learned is a very common thing to. Do,

751
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 3: WELL i figured with the. Gloves, yeah BUT i don't

752
00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:41,280
Speaker 3: think that's the case.

753
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 5: Here, no SO i agree with, You but everybody's also, like,

754
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 5: YEAH i don't wear.

755
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 4: Mine, yeah it's. Weird, yeah, no that makes. SENSE i

756
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 4: think he's gonna be a little bit more to this.

757
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 4: Story but, YEAH i think in this, case apparently this is.

758
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 5: Fine so if your next partner also takes her rings off.

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00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 4: In, golf don't worry about. It it might it be

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00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 4: not the same.

761
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 2: Thing, YEAH i looked it.

762
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 3: Up.

763
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 2: Ass golfer's take off, rings especially wedding rings for.

764
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:09,880
Speaker 5: Comfort you can potentially deg love your finger yow.

765
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,320
Speaker 2: To prevent injury like getting, caught and to avoid damage

766
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,880
Speaker 2: to the ring or club during the. Swing, yeah AND

767
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:17,560
Speaker 2: i can see that making a lot of.

768
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 3: SENSE i did sleep on the couch that night because

769
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:23,440
Speaker 3: my stomach was tossing and, turning AND i felt LIKE

770
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 3: i was going. Crazy my marriage was falling, apart and

771
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 3: ALL i got was cliche lines about it not being

772
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:33,120
Speaker 3: me and a, cold distant. Wife ninety percent of the,

773
00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 3: time my gut was trying to tell me what my

774
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 3: heart and mind didn't want to. Admit fast forward to.

775
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:41,480
Speaker 3: Tonight she gets home And i'm making dinner for my

776
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 3: stepdaughter after a. Workout still no. RING i text her

777
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,880
Speaker 3: an idea my therapist gave me to try different modes of,

778
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 3: communication and it.

779
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 4: WORKS i get more out of her tonight THAN i

780
00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 4: did in two.

781
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 3: Months i'm spilling my heart out over, text trying not

782
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,879
Speaker 3: to break down in front of our, stepdaughter and she's

783
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 3: basically telling me that she's uncomfortable in our marriage and

784
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:04,759
Speaker 3: she can't see us getting back to.

785
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 4: Good.

786
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 3: Ever it's crazy because while she's texting all this directly

787
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:11,040
Speaker 3: across from, me there's.

788
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 4: Really no sadness in her face at.

789
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 3: All it really broke. Me y'all are having a conversation

790
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 3: over text that's wild in the same room while your stepdaughter's.

791
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,879
Speaker 5: THERE i, also, LIKE i don't think that it's very

792
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 5: uncommon that she would be the calm one that's like

793
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,360
Speaker 5: okay with, Everything like she's the one that ended, things

794
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:32,720
Speaker 5: she pre mourned.

795
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,719
Speaker 4: Everything this is a wild way to have a conversation about.

796
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:38,279
Speaker 2: It, Yeah and the fact that from this story op

797
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 2: that we're getting it's always you trying to work things

798
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 2: out it's you trying to find a. Compromise never.

799
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:47,279
Speaker 3: HER i ended up going to the shower and just

800
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 3: kind of sulked while she did some stuff with my.

801
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 3: Stepdaughter something about this point just doesn't make sense to.

802
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 3: Me i've never checked her phone, before BUT i decided

803
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 3: to check the phone call or message log on her

804
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 3: phone accounts us nothing stuck, Out but THEN i saw

805
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,839
Speaker 3: text messages or picture messages from a number at inappropriate

806
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 3: times in the last month's. Log there were also forty

807
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 3: to sixty minute phone calls daily to that same number as.

808
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:14,879
Speaker 3: WELL i went back Into september and it was happening there,

809
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:18,359
Speaker 3: Too literally three am texts on the DAY i got.

810
00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 3: Home next to me in, BED i tracked over twelve

811
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:27,359
Speaker 3: thousand messages and phone calls going all the way back

812
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 3: to about a month AFTER i. Left the worst part

813
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 3: WAS i knew the. Number it was a friend of

814
00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 3: ours from the softball team that we play on THAT

815
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 3: i literally had just gone out for drinks with a

816
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 3: couple weeks. Back what kind of like psychopathy do you.

817
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 5: Have to have to meet go out normally to.

818
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 3: Go out normally with the person whose wife you're cheating.

819
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 3: With there were forty minute phone calls after our lunch

820
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 3: from the other, day and god knows what. Else at this,

821
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 3: POINT i was furious and my anger took over WHEN

822
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 3: i should have made, cool calm and. COLLECTED i asked

823
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:04,720
Speaker 3: her to come to the bedroom and send the kids

824
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 3: to bed so we could talk some. More when she

825
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: got in there and sat on the, BED i demanded

826
00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:12,400
Speaker 3: to see the text messages between. Them her face panicked

827
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 3: and she quickly took off into our. Bathroom when she came,

828
00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:17,839
Speaker 3: out she handed me the phone AND i couldn't find

829
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 3: any messages between.

830
00:37:19,120 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 2: Them that's. Hilarious, wow what were you doing in the?

831
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:25,879
Speaker 4: Bathroom what were you doing in the bathroohone in? There

832
00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:26,920
Speaker 4: that's like.

833
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:30,280
Speaker 5: Crazy Like at that, point, though is WHEN i started

834
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:31,799
Speaker 5: to just look at people AND i, go do you

835
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 5: Think i'm?

836
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:35,839
Speaker 4: Dumb? Yeah do you Think i'm an? Idiot nothing at?

837
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:40,040
Speaker 3: All WHAT i looked At facebook messager and saw some

838
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 3: flirty texts going back To november, tenth but everything before

839
00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 3: that was. DELETED i ended her the phone back and

840
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,759
Speaker 3: asked if she just deleted, them and she, said.

841
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:53,760
Speaker 4: Yeah why delete? Them then they must be really bad

842
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:57,040
Speaker 4: if she had to tell you. That i'll admit that they're,

843
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 4: there but you can't read the.

844
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 3: Content at this POINT i realized THAT i could look

845
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:03,839
Speaker 3: at the deleted message, log but she refused to give

846
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 3: me the phone. Back WHEN i asked, why all she

847
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 3: could say was it's too, personal my, god too personal

848
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 3: to share with your, husband but not with WHAT i

849
00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 3: assume is now your new. Boyfriend she swears there was

850
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 3: nothing physical between them or anything spicy at. ALL i

851
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:25,240
Speaker 3: don't believe. You i'd literally have never believed anyone. Less

852
00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 3: and then WHEN i explained to her what an emotional affair,

853
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 3: was and now this was blatantly, one she played stupid

854
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:34,360
Speaker 3: and acted like she had a light bulb moment and

855
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:36,040
Speaker 3: just came to the realization that it.

856
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 5: WAS i need to see the bad acting of that.

857
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:42,800
Speaker 3: Op he, Goes, okay, well if it wasn't spicy, affair

858
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 3: it was an emotional.

859
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:47,600
Speaker 4: One she's, like. Emotional what's an Emotional.

860
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 2: Gosh you're, right that was. BAD i had.

861
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 4: An affair so. BAD i haven't heard of that emotional.

862
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 2: Emotion emotionn't.

863
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 4: EMOTIONAL i didn't know. THAT i didn't know. THAT i

864
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 4: didn't know that that was a. Thing it doesn't.

865
00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:15,319
Speaker 3: Count we are argued some more and she kind of

866
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:18,399
Speaker 3: did the usual nervous laugh and emotionless face she's been.

867
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,359
Speaker 3: DOING i told HER i wanted a divorce and we

868
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:22,799
Speaker 3: need to start working.

869
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:25,240
Speaker 4: On selling this. House so for, you, nice.

870
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,840
Speaker 3: Whether it's an emotional affair or, physical it really doesn't.

871
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:31,439
Speaker 3: Matter she had me BELIEVING i was losing my mind

872
00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 3: for nearly two months while she was investing all her

873
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 3: time and interest into another person that we both know.

874
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 3: Well on top of, that she then had the nerve

875
00:39:40,120 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 3: to tell ME i never text her and that this

876
00:39:42,120 --> 00:39:44,040
Speaker 3: guy is basically her best.

877
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 4: Friend, okay stinks head over to. Him this woman. Stinks

878
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 4: you're both.

879
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:53,279
Speaker 3: Statkers between losing WHAT i thought was my partner in

880
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 3: crime for life and these kids having their lives uprooted

881
00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:00,719
Speaker 3: because she decided to, Cheat i'm honestly more heartbroken for the.

882
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,320
Speaker 3: Kids she's already guilting me about the kids having to

883
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 3: leave their. Home when we were talking about selling the.

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00:40:05,760 --> 00:40:08,640
Speaker 2: Home she's, Saying, oh, no you can't do that to the.

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00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 2: Kids i'm, like oh, no you can't do. THAT i

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Speaker 2: can't fancy we.

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Speaker 5: Were text arguing in the same room as the. Kids

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Speaker 5: now you're. Concerned now it's too much OOH i.

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00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 2: Like christina's snatch the phone and call the guy right

890
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 2: there with her on the phone for what at THE

891
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 2: i don't. KNOW i.

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00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:26,279
Speaker 4: Think you have all the.

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00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 5: PROOF c like to, me it does sound we know

894
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 5: you have enough. Proof it does sound like the content

895
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 5: of that might have just been more than you needed

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Speaker 5: to be.

897
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:35,719
Speaker 4: Readly that's the.

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00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:38,879
Speaker 3: THING i think that it was probably just incredibly, explicit.

899
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:41,240
Speaker 5: Right WHICH i would then agree that it was better

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00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:42,399
Speaker 5: that you did not see.

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00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 4: IT i agree you already know she. Cheated you.

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00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 5: Know.

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00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:46,839
Speaker 2: Update hey, y'all It's john Og host.

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00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:48,399
Speaker 1: Here we're gonna get back to the, stories but here's

905
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 1: a quick three minute break from as for more.

906
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 3: Sponsors just wanted to give an update to all the

907
00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,799
Speaker 3: kind people have read it that gave me advice and.

908
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:58,319
Speaker 3: SUPPORT i didn't take anyone's advice on here lightly and

909
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 3: made sure to read each comment and create a game

910
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 3: plan for the two DAYS i had prior To Turkey.

911
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,080
Speaker 3: Day some of you were harsh and, blunt but made

912
00:41:07,120 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 3: me realize how DECISIVE i needed to be before my

913
00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:14,400
Speaker 3: feelings began to affect my decision. Making to the person

914
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 3: that suggested reading leave a, Cheater gain a, life thank

915
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 3: you so. Much that book has already shown me so

916
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 3: many SIGNS i missed over the last two months and

917
00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:26,160
Speaker 3: help navigate all the gaslighting that occurred during the past

918
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:31,000
Speaker 3: few days now to the. Plan the very next, DAY

919
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 3: i was actually able to sit down and meet with

920
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 3: a lawyer Great after discussing the entire situation with, THEM

921
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 3: i was advised to come up with a set of

922
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,360
Speaker 3: TERMS i would like to see in the. DIVORCE i

923
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 3: needed to have a few THINGS i was willing to

924
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:47,280
Speaker 3: give up and docked my soon to be ex wife

925
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 3: to turn this into an uncontested event if.

926
00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:51,359
Speaker 4: Possible the amount.

927
00:41:51,080 --> 00:41:52,839
Speaker 3: Of money it would save in the long run when

928
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 3: attempting to sell her home and split assets was not

929
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 3: SOMETHING i could pass. UP i also scheduled myself in

930
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,920
Speaker 3: urgent with my therapist for the coming. Week that, evening

931
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:05,719
Speaker 3: we had a conversation that was completely limited to our

932
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:09,240
Speaker 3: assets and how we plan to move through this. DIVORCE

933
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 3: i did my best to keep my emotions out of

934
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 3: everything and be cold hearted on the. Outside, unfortunately on

935
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:16,560
Speaker 3: the INSIDE i felt.

936
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 4: AWFUL a nice.

937
00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 3: Redditor reached out to me and told ME i needed

938
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 3: to grieve my wife as if she passed. Away whenever

939
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 3: this affair started and the person in front of me

940
00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 3: is some evil monster who possessed her body THAT i

941
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 3: have to mentally fight with great, advice but hard to

942
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 3: do in the.

943
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:33,760
Speaker 4: Moment yea long story.

944
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 3: Short there was only one disagreement on my, list but

945
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 3: we worked that out the very next. DAY i had

946
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:42,680
Speaker 3: the lawyers start drafting up everything and ad realtors at the. House,

947
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,840
Speaker 3: Now i'd like to SAY i maintained my cool And

948
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 3: i've been gray rocking as suggested since this all, started

949
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 3: but today was.

950
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:50,960
Speaker 4: Hard we all.

951
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 3: Had these plans For thanksgiving and to watch them be

952
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,799
Speaker 3: blown up by all this was pretty. Heartbreaking putting away

953
00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,279
Speaker 3: all The christmas decorations that were taken out was a

954
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,600
Speaker 3: huge punt in the nether. REGION i caved and had

955
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 3: a conversation with her that was probably not, beneficial but

956
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:07,040
Speaker 3: at least opened my eyes some.

957
00:43:07,080 --> 00:43:08,919
Speaker 4: MORE i asked so many.

958
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:11,959
Speaker 3: Questions anne got a lot of what seemed to be fair,

959
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 3: answers but it didn't make me feel. Better there's still

960
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 3: complete denial of anything, physical but admitted to an emotional

961
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 3: connection with our. Friend lots of statements about how she

962
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:25,160
Speaker 3: understands how bad our reaction was when deleting the, texts

963
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 3: but she just didn't want me to see the connection

964
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:30,440
Speaker 3: she had because it would hurt me. WORSE i also

965
00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:32,800
Speaker 3: asked her about a few times when she was supposed

966
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:34,799
Speaker 3: to be hanging out with a, friend but WHEN i

967
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 3: asked the friend about it over the past two, days

968
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 3: they said they never hung.

969
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 4: Out, wow the liar. Lied.

970
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 3: Shock she couldn't really explain other than saying she just

971
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:46,640
Speaker 3: Thought i'd be mad if she told me she was

972
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 3: staying out to drink with other. Friends, LASTLY i asked

973
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 3: if she thought there was any chance we could work this,

974
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,399
Speaker 3: out and with zero too little, EMOTION i.

975
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 4: Got a hard.

976
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:59,600
Speaker 3: No after that conversation was, OVER i looked at her

977
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 3: call law. Again she had been on the phone with

978
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:05,920
Speaker 3: this guy for nearly four hours over the past three.

979
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:09,719
Speaker 3: Days girl can't even wait until you guys have settled that.

980
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:15,840
Speaker 5: Marriage she can't even wait untilation started the divorce she

981
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 5: started six months into. It, yeah even knowing about a,

982
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 5: DIVORCE i certainly don't think that anyone that started this

983
00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 5: as cheating cares about the.

984
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 3: Ending, NO i would have loved a forty minute conversation

985
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:33,880
Speaker 3: over the last two. Months it's painfully obvious she's choosing

986
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 3: him over to, me even though there are lots of

987
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 3: statements LIKE i just want to be alone and raise my,

988
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,440
Speaker 3: kids Or i'm not ready for any type of relationship right.

989
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 4: Now are you? Sure are you? Sure because that sounds

990
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:49,280
Speaker 4: like a pretty bold placed. Lie let's say it, again

991
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 4: because that's said. Placed i'm so. Tired that sounds like

992
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:55,879
Speaker 4: a pretty bold faced. Lie there you, GO i got

993
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 4: on the second.

994
00:44:56,520 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 3: Time, uh you're making me tired of wife because of YOUR.

995
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:04,800
Speaker 3: Bs there is a little bit left to this, story

996
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:05,720
Speaker 3: any final.

997
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:12,000
Speaker 5: Thoughts, no you know that your wife. Sucks she's the.

998
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 4: Worst he. YOU i can smell her feet from over.

999
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 4: Here she's the.

1000
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 3: Worst there is a little bit left to the. Story

1001
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 3: But i'm glad appease on the train Of i'm divorcing

1002
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 3: my wife.

1003
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 4: Divorce but there is a little bit.

1004
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 3: Left so this is it for a little, while unless

1005
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 3: she changes her mind about, assets until we can sell

1006
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 3: the house AND i can get the heck out of

1007
00:45:32,719 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 3: here for. Good i've been having this recurring dream WHEN

1008
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:38,839
Speaker 3: i can, sleep where she's driving the family somewhere, erratically

1009
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 3: almost getting into an accident before getting to the. Destination

1010
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 3: when we get, there she always has some medical emergency

1011
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:48,240
Speaker 3: Where i'm screaming for help but no one is. Coming

1012
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 3: i'm sure my therapist is gonna have a field day with.

1013
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 4: That i'm.

1014
00:45:51,719 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 3: Sure, Anyway i'm going to continue to be the best

1015
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:56,799
Speaker 3: male role MODEL i can for these kids While i'm.

1016
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 3: HERE i don't know If i'm going to update this,

1017
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 3: again BUT i can say it. Enough thank you to

1018
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 3: every stranger that gave me support WHEN i needed it

1019
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 3: more than. Ever and that is the end of that, story.

1020
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 3: Folks but uh, yeah good, Luck.

1021
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 4: Opy good. Luck it's a really tough situation and you have.

1022
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 5: Kids, yikes, yikes, yikes fall. AROUND i slept with my

1023
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 5: bff's father AND i don't know how to tell her,

1024
00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:23,840
Speaker 5: now why'd you go and do? That WHEN i twenty

1025
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:27,840
Speaker 5: female was a little, kid MY pos parents got divorced

1026
00:46:27,880 --> 00:46:30,239
Speaker 5: AND i ended up with my mom and we moved

1027
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 5: back to her home. State somehow we managed to live

1028
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:36,239
Speaker 5: with my, grandparents who were NOT pos. People by the,

1029
00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:38,279
Speaker 5: way this comes from deleted and if you want u

1030
00:46:38,280 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 5: submit your own, stories go to the r Slash okay

1031
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Speaker 5: storytime sub.

1032
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:42,440
Speaker 4: Reddit I'm, Carly.

1033
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 5: I'm, sophia and we're here to give good.

1034
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 4: Advice.

1035
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 5: Goofully but we don't have all the. Answers we only

1036
00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:49,600
Speaker 5: know what we would, Do so let us know what

1037
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 5: you would do in the. Comments As op, SAYS i

1038
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 5: was thrown into a school with total, strangers AND i

1039
00:46:56,000 --> 00:47:00,080
Speaker 5: was given mountains of crap for talking funny BECAUSE i

1040
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 5: was born and raised in The south.

1041
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:02,759
Speaker 4: And was now living In New.

1042
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:05,520
Speaker 5: England the first person to decide to be nice to

1043
00:47:05,560 --> 00:47:09,320
Speaker 5: me was my Friend kate twenty. Female kate quickly became

1044
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 5: MY bff and we have been BFFs ever. Since because

1045
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 5: my mom is an awful piece of human, GARBAGE i

1046
00:47:15,880 --> 00:47:18,320
Speaker 5: spent as much time as possible.

1047
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 4: With kate and her family over the.

1048
00:47:19,920 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 5: Years not only WAS i accepted by, them but EVENTUALLY

1049
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 5: i started to look at them as the FAMILY i

1050
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:27,200
Speaker 5: always thought a family should.

1051
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 4: Be and she started to look at her friend's dad, like,

1052
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 4: wow maybe you have to look like. FAMILY i could

1053
00:47:33,320 --> 00:47:37,920
Speaker 4: maybe even be closer to this, family maybe really close

1054
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:40,080
Speaker 4: to this. Family started off, Like, kate would you like

1055
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:42,120
Speaker 4: a new? MOM i THOUGHT i should just be your.

1056
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:44,799
Speaker 2: Mom Now i've always seen you as like a daughter. Figure, yeah,

1057
00:47:44,880 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 2: yeah no one has a. Daughter we've always had his close.

1058
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,960
Speaker 4: Relationship let's make it closer by high.

1059
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 5: SCHOOL i was calling down forty six male And. Joan

1060
00:47:53,680 --> 00:47:56,879
Speaker 5: kate's parents also not real, Names mom And dad.

1061
00:47:56,920 --> 00:48:00,680
Speaker 3: Respectively, wait, sorry you've been calling him dad since high?

1062
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 4: School she calls me something.

1063
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 3: Else, no, genuinely if this is going WHERE i think it's.

1064
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 3: Going that sounds like her dad groomed. You.

1065
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 5: Yeah they always welcomed me into their. HOME i always had,

1066
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 5: food a place to, stay you name.

1067
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 3: It, yeah, Well i'm the only other THING i can.

1068
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:20,360
Speaker 3: NAME i don't want to.

1069
00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 5: Name they even took me with them on a couple

1070
00:48:22,920 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 5: of family. VACATIONS i love this family with all my.

1071
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 4: Heart there's a limit to how the.

1072
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:30,839
Speaker 2: Last who do you love the? Most your?

1073
00:48:30,880 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 5: Favorite the story takes a turn for the strange in twenty, eighteen,

1074
00:48:35,719 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 5: when After kate AND i graduated high, school was here

1075
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 5: night And don And joan had no more kids in the,

1076
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 5: house as they were all on their own or in.

1077
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 5: College joan decided to come out of the closet as a,

1078
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:52,760
Speaker 5: saffog admit to an affair that had lasted the entire

1079
00:48:52,840 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 5: time they were, married and file for a.

1080
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:55,799
Speaker 4: Divorce.

1081
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:58,960
Speaker 2: Job it was a wild, turn changing my.

1082
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 5: Major you really was gonna be like. DANG i hope

1083
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:07,560
Speaker 5: O pete didn't. Like she, like don't worry and took

1084
00:49:07,640 --> 00:49:10,919
Speaker 5: care of. It, joan we've got A i'm.

1085
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:14,360
Speaker 3: Blanking what's that? FROM i have no. IDEA i Know

1086
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:16,800
Speaker 3: i'm changing my major To. Joan it's from a, musical

1087
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 3: And i'm. Blank i've seen the. Musical it's a dude singing. It, no, no,

1088
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:21,320
Speaker 3: no it's it's a.

1089
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:24,560
Speaker 5: Girl It's that's WHY i made the, joke because saying

1090
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:25,240
Speaker 5: it at The jimmy's.

1091
00:49:25,280 --> 00:49:28,240
Speaker 3: This oh. No changing my major To joan is about

1092
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 3: a young queer like lesbian girl who this is her.

1093
00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 3: Girlfriend she's sing about her, girlfriend so it really. Fits

1094
00:49:35,360 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 3: BUT i can't remember what it's.

1095
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 5: From i'm sure you can imagine. That Don, kate her,

1096
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 5: brothers and, well everybody was. Devastated kate went off to

1097
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 5: college In california and neither of her brothers were, around

1098
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:50,239
Speaker 5: and So don was kind of on his own and

1099
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:53,840
Speaker 5: he needed some comfort SINCE i wasn't going to further

1100
00:49:53,920 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 5: my education and was basically staying in. TOWN i promised

1101
00:49:58,200 --> 00:50:01,200
Speaker 5: my BFF i would make sure her dad was, okay

1102
00:50:02,000 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 5: look in on him often and all.

1103
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:07,840
Speaker 4: That this is what she meant it. Stop, WELL i

1104
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:09,879
Speaker 4: tried community college and that didn't work.

1105
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:12,480
Speaker 5: Out BUT i got lucky and my grandma pulled in

1106
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:14,360
Speaker 5: a favor and got me a job as a teller

1107
00:50:14,440 --> 00:50:16,920
Speaker 5: in one of the local, banks SO i was at

1108
00:50:17,000 --> 00:50:21,400
Speaker 5: least somewhat productive in. Society i'd Called don and texted

1109
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 5: him a few times to check on, him but things

1110
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 5: got crazy last. Summer OH i literally ran into him

1111
00:50:29,080 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 5: at the grocery store one afternoon after. WORK i saw

1112
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,400
Speaker 5: what he was, buying and it made me super. Sad

1113
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 5: it was like all the Single bachelor tropes all in.

1114
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:41,880
Speaker 4: One i'm just imagining his card is full of. Ramen.

1115
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:44,160
Speaker 5: OH i was fully going microwave mac and.

1116
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,839
Speaker 4: Cheese, OH i was, saying just full, ramen.

1117
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:52,799
Speaker 5: Frozen dinner, meals it's, sacked it's half six crozyk of.

1118
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:59,880
Speaker 3: Soda, yeah it's it's it's, chips frozen, dinner, ramen and.

1119
00:51:00,239 --> 00:51:02,239
Speaker 3: Beer and that's. It that's all he had in the.

1120
00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 3: Cart and she, Said, wow the sad man is really.

1121
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:09,919
Speaker 3: Hot he's so dang turning me off to share one

1122
00:51:09,920 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 3: of THOSE tv. Dinners it's, like oh my, god he's so, pathetic.

1123
00:51:13,560 --> 00:51:16,319
Speaker 4: So being the good bff THAT i. Am, no you're.

1124
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 5: NOT i insisted that don buy some actual food and

1125
00:51:20,680 --> 00:51:23,400
Speaker 5: That i'd go over to his place after work On

1126
00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:25,360
Speaker 5: friday and make him a home cooked.

1127
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:29,359
Speaker 2: Meal, okay without the title of this, STORY i still

1128
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:29,920
Speaker 2: think this is.

1129
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 4: Weird it's still kind of.

1130
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,680
Speaker 3: WEIRD i don't genuinely IF, I i, MEAN opi has bad.

1131
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,399
Speaker 3: Parents but IF i Were opie's parents AND i had

1132
00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 3: a good relationship WITH, Opi i'd be, like, uh what

1133
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:45,200
Speaker 3: my twenty, two twenty three year old, Daughter, yeah is

1134
00:51:45,239 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 3: having dinner with adult man who just got divorced.

1135
00:51:47,920 --> 00:51:50,120
Speaker 4: ALONE i think this is maybe daddy.

1136
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:54,320
Speaker 3: Issues they think that one just maybe daddy.

1137
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 5: ISSUES i only took one in you have, sick BUT

1138
00:51:57,560 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 5: i Think i've been cooking SINCE i was. YOUNG i

1139
00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:04,440
Speaker 5: kind of had to, learn and we both agreed that

1140
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:08,160
Speaker 5: he needed. It So friday came around AND i went

1141
00:52:08,239 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 5: over AND i cooked him a nice chicken palm. Dinner

1142
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 5: we had fun visiting for a, bit AND i went

1143
00:52:13,560 --> 00:52:17,240
Speaker 5: home feeling good about. Myself we agreed to do this every.

1144
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 4: Week hate THAT i hate.

1145
00:52:19,680 --> 00:52:23,280
Speaker 5: This next, week after, dinner he asked if i'd stay

1146
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:24,439
Speaker 5: for a bit to hang.

1147
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:28,400
Speaker 4: Out do you know what this reminds me? Of juno

1148
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 4: the movie how does this? Forever? Though but, YEAH i was,

1149
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:36,680
Speaker 4: like what do you mean out of? This that's what

1150
00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:37,279
Speaker 4: this reminds me.

1151
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:40,359
Speaker 5: Of so we fired Up exfinity on demand and got

1152
00:52:40,400 --> 00:52:41,080
Speaker 5: cozy on the.

1153
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 4: Couch, oh he just wants a father figure so. Bad

1154
00:52:47,080 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 4: but she doesn't understad.

1155
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:50,840
Speaker 2: She's getting a. Figure.

1156
00:52:51,520 --> 00:52:55,240
Speaker 5: NO i don't know exactly what led to this next

1157
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:57,000
Speaker 5: part to, happen but it.

1158
00:52:57,200 --> 00:52:58,520
Speaker 4: Happened what do you?

1159
00:52:58,520 --> 00:52:58,719
Speaker 5: Mean you?

1160
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:01,880
Speaker 4: Know what led to? It maybe saying let me freaking

1161
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 4: cook for you every.

1162
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 5: Day maybe it was the love scene in what we were.

1163
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:07,719
Speaker 4: WATCHING i don't.

1164
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:10,960
Speaker 5: Know you guys watched a movie with a love scene

1165
00:53:10,960 --> 00:53:14,040
Speaker 5: and you consider this your dad and you were fine with.

1166
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 4: This i'm, sorry and that led you to? This y'all are.

1167
00:53:19,000 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 5: Crazy ALL i know is that he seemed super lonely

1168
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 5: AND i felt bad for.

1169
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:27,040
Speaker 4: Him my, Gosh SO.

1170
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 5: I initiated things and gave him a spicy act.

1171
00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:33,759
Speaker 2: Ah WHEN i.

1172
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 5: Left that, night things were a little, awkward but we

1173
00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:38,840
Speaker 5: decided to continue Our friday dinner.

1174
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:42,279
Speaker 3: Tradition, genuinely this Is i'm just gonna give my my

1175
00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:46,400
Speaker 3: If i'm this. Friend, first first of, All i'm disgusted

1176
00:53:46,400 --> 00:53:49,640
Speaker 3: by my. Dad i'd be, like, dad you're a little awful.

1177
00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:53,000
Speaker 3: PERSON i don't care how lonely you. Were this is

1178
00:53:53,000 --> 00:53:54,759
Speaker 3: a person that you've known since she was a.

1179
00:53:54,960 --> 00:53:55,440
Speaker 4: Child.

1180
00:53:56,160 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 3: Gross and Then i'm going to my best friend And i'm,

1181
00:54:00,760 --> 00:54:03,879
Speaker 3: saying don't literally ever come over here ever.

1182
00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:09,360
Speaker 4: Again don't, call don't, tags don't come my. House we're.

1183
00:54:09,440 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 5: Done just the fact that she admitted that she initiated,

1184
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:14,839
Speaker 5: it and.

1185
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:18,719
Speaker 4: Also which might be, hard took the two. Situations but

1186
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 4: this is maybe getting two into the.

1187
00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 3: Weeds BUT i think the power dynamics of it not

1188
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:28,120
Speaker 3: being actual full on spicy, sleep but just being this specific.

1189
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:31,760
Speaker 5: Act, oh don't, worry Don't we're getting there the next

1190
00:54:31,800 --> 00:54:35,880
Speaker 5: week after the movie IF i can stay around a little.

1191
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:39,719
Speaker 5: LONG i ended up staying the, night and that was

1192
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 5: when we first had spicy.

1193
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:44,640
Speaker 2: SLEEP i hate this.

1194
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:49,320
Speaker 5: Sentence friday night dinner Became friday night dinner and spicy.

1195
00:54:49,400 --> 00:54:55,160
Speaker 5: Sleep that lasted eight or nine. Weeks then we started

1196
00:54:55,280 --> 00:54:58,760
Speaker 5: being more open about what we were, doing going out

1197
00:54:58,800 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 5: to eat during the, week going to a movie or

1198
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:05,600
Speaker 5: shopping all that, stuff despite a lot of people we

1199
00:55:05,680 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 5: know giving us side eye for. It, yeah how small

1200
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 5: is your?

1201
00:55:09,520 --> 00:55:13,040
Speaker 3: Town, Yeah i'm, sorry do you know HOW i am

1202
00:55:13,080 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 3: giving like the sixty year old with the eighteen year

1203
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 3: old And i'm.

1204
00:55:16,440 --> 00:55:18,160
Speaker 4: Like is that her? Dad or are they on a?

1205
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 5: Date? Yeah you guys at least walk around like it's

1206
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:23,120
Speaker 5: just like dad and.

1207
00:55:23,239 --> 00:55:26,880
Speaker 4: Daughter are you guys like holding? Hands, yeah. Dude Whenever

1208
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:29,719
Speaker 4: i'm with my, Dad i'm constantly like me and my.

1209
00:55:29,880 --> 00:55:34,120
Speaker 4: Dad this is me and my. Dad BECAUSE i hate

1210
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:35,000
Speaker 4: to clarify it that.

1211
00:55:35,120 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 3: Much, yeah BECAUSE i feel like people are so weird

1212
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 3: about when you, Go i'm always.

1213
00:55:41,239 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 4: WEIRD i can't ALWAY i share that do you not

1214
00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:46,680
Speaker 4: look like your? DAD i look exactly like my.

1215
00:55:46,800 --> 00:55:50,399
Speaker 3: Dad but also people think THAT i like have say

1216
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:53,359
Speaker 3: the same thing with my, Brother SO i think people

1217
00:55:53,440 --> 00:55:54,440
Speaker 3: are just weird in.

1218
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:56,319
Speaker 4: General my point.

1219
00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 3: Of this is, though that this is really weird and

1220
00:55:59,840 --> 00:56:03,279
Speaker 3: you should be getting side eye because it's, weird especially.

1221
00:56:02,960 --> 00:56:05,040
Speaker 4: If they said people we know are giving a side?

1222
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:06,759
Speaker 4: Eye or is it just like in the. Town, no

1223
00:56:06,920 --> 00:56:09,479
Speaker 4: just a lot of. Fun, okay, okay, yeah yeah makes.

1224
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 5: Sense all the, WHILE i was keeping everything a secret From,

1225
00:56:13,200 --> 00:56:17,480
Speaker 5: kate my. Bff fast forward to THE, vid and, that

1226
00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:20,359
Speaker 5: combined with my lack of ability to judge friends, well

1227
00:56:20,560 --> 00:56:23,080
Speaker 5: resulted in my roommates bailing on me and leaving me

1228
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:25,800
Speaker 5: on the hook for our entire. APARTMENT i got lucky

1229
00:56:25,800 --> 00:56:27,600
Speaker 5: and that our landlord let me out of the, lease

1230
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:30,160
Speaker 5: but that put me in a SPOT i was going

1231
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:32,279
Speaker 5: to have to move back in with my. MOTHER i

1232
00:56:32,480 --> 00:56:35,880
Speaker 5: was desperate to avoid. That and Then don stepped in

1233
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:39,080
Speaker 5: and saved me kind. Of he asked me to move

1234
00:56:39,120 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 5: in with. HIM i, did and we've been living as

1235
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:46,719
Speaker 5: a couple ever. Since donna is maybe like, evil do

1236
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:51,040
Speaker 5: we have the initial ages? Again Recently don has stopped

1237
00:56:51,120 --> 00:56:55,880
Speaker 5: using A wiener wrapper, spicy and he's.

1238
00:56:57,520 --> 00:56:57,880
Speaker 4: Get your.

1239
00:56:58,080 --> 00:57:03,160
Speaker 6: Tail he says he to marry, me start a, family

1240
00:57:03,640 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 6: and the whole. Deal and Now i'm wondering THE F

1241
00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:08,520
Speaker 6: DO i Talk kate about?

1242
00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:10,000
Speaker 4: This, okay, okay?

1243
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:16,280
Speaker 3: Ope? Ope wait wait wait wait, no, no, no, no, no,

1244
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:17,800
Speaker 3: no no OPIE.

1245
00:57:18,000 --> 00:57:20,960
Speaker 2: O how old is he forty? Six? Oh he's? Twenty

1246
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 2: oh he's twenty right.

1247
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:23,920
Speaker 4: NOW i think that was earlier in the, story that.

1248
00:57:25,040 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 2: This might be an old, story because, again he was

1249
00:57:27,800 --> 00:57:29,320
Speaker 2: eighteen when they graduated high.

1250
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:31,240
Speaker 5: School which is when those ages were.

1251
00:57:31,280 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 4: Said though when was the story? Posted? Kean oh my,

1252
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:36,760
Speaker 4: God i'm pretty sure she. Was oh, yeah, wait because

1253
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 4: that's What i'm. Saying, wait ye, WAY i know she's

1254
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 4: my age currently five years, AGO, opi she's. Twenty she's

1255
00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:51,760
Speaker 4: twenty right, Now, opie you've been. Groomed i'm gonna go

1256
00:57:51,960 --> 00:57:54,720
Speaker 4: talk to you. Straight this is a person that you call.

1257
00:57:55,200 --> 00:58:01,200
Speaker 3: Dad and then he started, inviting whether or not you, initiated.

1258
00:58:00,640 --> 00:58:02,840
Speaker 4: Like, oh do you want to have? Dinner he.

1259
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 3: Accepted he should have said, no he is an. Adult

1260
00:58:06,840 --> 00:58:08,680
Speaker 3: he should have said. No this is a person who

1261
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:11,320
Speaker 3: is a daughter figure in my. Life this is my

1262
00:58:11,880 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 3: child's best. Friend, no how.

1263
00:58:15,040 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 4: Did we get to?

1264
00:58:16,080 --> 00:58:19,800
Speaker 5: Now he wants you to have your bff step, sibling.

1265
00:58:19,960 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 3: And then your friend is gonna find out. Anyway BUT

1266
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 3: i think the friendship With kate's it's. Done she is

1267
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:28,880
Speaker 3: going to cut off her father and.

1268
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:31,240
Speaker 5: You, WELL i will, say there could be the one

1269
00:58:31,280 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 5: way where If kate comes by and tries to just

1270
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:36,560
Speaker 5: knock some sense into op and it, Worked, yeah THEN

1271
00:58:36,600 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 5: i could see it being, like, uh you got me

1272
00:58:38,600 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 5: out of that situation kind of.

1273
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:42,320
Speaker 3: Thing But kate would have to get through like being,

1274
00:58:42,360 --> 00:58:44,720
Speaker 3: like oh my, god you and my, Dad you and my,

1275
00:58:44,800 --> 00:58:46,600
Speaker 3: Dad like she would have to get through, That, yeah

1276
00:58:46,680 --> 00:58:49,080
Speaker 3: to realize my dad is in the.

1277
00:58:49,200 --> 00:58:53,720
Speaker 4: WRONG i would not be. Friends oh my, goodness, yes,

1278
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:55,000
Speaker 4: yes this was five years.

1279
00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:55,160
Speaker 5: Ago.

1280
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:58,640
Speaker 3: Yeah to be, Clear op has known him since she was,

1281
00:58:59,160 --> 00:59:03,480
Speaker 3: little called him dad because at a certain point her

1282
00:59:03,480 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 3: parents were awful and she's spent all her time. There

1283
00:59:05,560 --> 00:59:08,320
Speaker 3: and now she is twenty years old and having a

1284
00:59:08,360 --> 00:59:12,720
Speaker 3: relationship with this father figure in her life who has

1285
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:14,000
Speaker 3: now asked her.

1286
00:59:14,120 --> 00:59:18,120
Speaker 4: They're not, married to go off birth control and to get.

1287
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:19,840
Speaker 5: Married he says he wants me to marry me and

1288
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 5: start a, family but he's.

1289
00:59:21,360 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 4: Preemptive oh, yeah he's already trying to start the.

1290
00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:28,520
Speaker 3: One your friend's dad is a, creep As shannie o'pete.

1291
00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:31,640
Speaker 4: SAYS i Love kate on so many. Levels, no you,

1292
00:59:31,680 --> 00:59:32,640
Speaker 4: don't well.

1293
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:34,720
Speaker 2: You, might you love her dad. More, HONESTLY i.

1294
00:59:34,720 --> 00:59:36,680
Speaker 3: Don't even like fully fault you because you are so

1295
00:59:36,840 --> 00:59:41,160
Speaker 3: deeply being manipulated in this situation, anyway.

1296
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:43,560
Speaker 5: AND i don't want to lose, her But i'm terrified

1297
00:59:43,560 --> 00:59:46,800
Speaker 5: that she'll be mad. MAD i don't know IF i

1298
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:50,200
Speaker 5: can give Up down to Keep, kate THOUGH i do

1299
00:59:50,320 --> 00:59:52,720
Speaker 5: know That i'd pass away a little inside IF i

1300
00:59:52,760 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 5: stayed With, down and that ruined his relationship with his.

1301
00:59:55,800 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 4: Daughter though there's no saving that.

1302
00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:01,400
Speaker 2: Relationship you should have thought about that. Way you should

1303
01:00:01,440 --> 01:00:02,040
Speaker 2: have thought about.

1304
01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:04,360
Speaker 5: You initiated the first. Act.

1305
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:08,840
Speaker 3: Genuinely it doesn't matter if you stay with them or

1306
01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:12,439
Speaker 3: if you. Don't you are not getting that friendship back

1307
01:00:12,880 --> 01:00:14,360
Speaker 3: Unless kate is the most.

1308
01:00:14,480 --> 01:00:17,560
Speaker 2: Understanding, nah there's no saving grace from.

1309
01:00:17,560 --> 01:00:20,920
Speaker 5: This. SORRY i know this is a you want your

1310
01:00:20,920 --> 01:00:21,720
Speaker 5: cake and eat it too.

1311
01:00:21,840 --> 01:00:24,919
Speaker 3: Moment this is your cake is rancid Leave you're gonna

1312
01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:25,920
Speaker 3: get food poisoning.

1313
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Speaker 5: Moment but what's the point of having the cake if

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01:00:28,480 --> 01:00:29,880
Speaker 5: you can't eat the effing?

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01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:34,240
Speaker 4: Thing, please, someone anyone.

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Speaker 5: Give me some idea about how to, proceed, please and

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01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:39,760
Speaker 5: we have an updates one week.

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Speaker 4: Late read, it read, It please save.

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Speaker 5: Her SO i was awake late into the night after

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01:00:47,960 --> 01:00:51,720
Speaker 5: making the post and reading everyone's. COMMENTS i appreciate everyone

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01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:54,200
Speaker 5: who weighed in with something other than reminding me That

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01:00:54,240 --> 01:00:54,680
Speaker 5: i'm a.

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01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 4: Horrible fed up piece of crap as a.

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01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:59,320
Speaker 5: PERSON i had come to that conclusion on my, own

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01:00:59,400 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 5: but it was nice to have it. Verified so. THANKS

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01:01:02,720 --> 01:01:05,560
Speaker 5: i want to get. Better the day after, POSTING i

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01:01:05,680 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 5: was visibly bothered by deep thoughts at, work and one

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01:01:09,400 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 5: of my coworkers was concerned and asked me what was bothering?

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01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:17,480
Speaker 5: Me SO i told her the whole. Story, together we

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01:01:17,520 --> 01:01:20,440
Speaker 5: looked into if my insurance would cover. Therapy it, does

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01:01:20,600 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 5: and even with THE vid making it a video chat

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01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:23,640
Speaker 5: only kind of.

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01:01:23,680 --> 01:01:27,120
Speaker 4: DEAL i started yesterday at. Lunch thank god for that.

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01:01:27,440 --> 01:01:32,040
Speaker 3: Coworker, genuinely thank. God you need massive amounts of.

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01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 5: THERAPY i Spent friday night down at the. Shore huh

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01:01:36,760 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 5: are you from down at the? Shore?

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01:01:39,280 --> 01:01:41,919
Speaker 4: What that's what we call Where i'm?

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01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:45,520
Speaker 5: From and you graduated the same year as?

1339
01:01:45,600 --> 01:01:49,480
Speaker 4: Me DO i know? YOU i don't. Know do you

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01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:50,000
Speaker 4: know anyone who?

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01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:54,000
Speaker 5: Didn't at My grandpa's? House so THAT i could be

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01:01:54,080 --> 01:01:57,080
Speaker 5: somewhere THAT i love and feel. Safe for the next,

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01:01:57,080 --> 01:01:58,960
Speaker 5: PART i Called.

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01:01:59,400 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 4: Kate there's a little bit, left oh, man many.

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01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 3: Predictions, WELL i think that your friendship is happily AFTER

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01:02:07,440 --> 01:02:11,640
Speaker 3: i think your friendship's could, End And i'm really hopeful

1347
01:02:12,080 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 3: that your therapist tells, you, hey, girl you've been groomed

1348
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:17,520
Speaker 3: and kind.

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01:02:17,400 --> 01:02:21,000
Speaker 4: Of explains that before she has a kid with this.

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01:02:21,160 --> 01:02:25,120
Speaker 5: Creep it went like anyone would, Expect no, lies worst

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01:02:25,120 --> 01:02:28,120
Speaker 5: Conversation i've ever. HAD i told her when it was

1352
01:02:28,160 --> 01:02:30,480
Speaker 5: all said and, done THAT i wasn't expecting her to

1353
01:02:30,600 --> 01:02:33,520
Speaker 5: ever forgive, me AS i don't know IF i deserve.

1354
01:02:33,560 --> 01:02:36,080
Speaker 5: It she knows That i'm not there, anymore And i'm

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01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:38,440
Speaker 5: going to try my hardest to put as much distance

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01:02:38,520 --> 01:02:42,800
Speaker 5: as possible between me and her family. ASAP i ended

1357
01:02:42,800 --> 01:02:45,760
Speaker 5: the call by telling her THAT i won't be initiating contact.

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01:02:45,760 --> 01:02:48,720
Speaker 5: Anymore i'm going to give her all the space and

1359
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 5: time that she, needs even if that Means i'll never

1360
01:02:51,720 --> 01:02:54,120
Speaker 5: talk to her. AGAIN i really do love her more

1361
01:02:54,160 --> 01:02:56,920
Speaker 5: than life, itself AND i hope that we can eventually,

1362
01:02:56,960 --> 01:02:59,840
Speaker 5: recover BUT i doubt we. Will this is my own

1363
01:03:00,080 --> 01:03:03,080
Speaker 5: fault And i'm trying to take accountability.

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01:03:02,360 --> 01:03:04,720
Speaker 4: Here and that is the end of that. Story it

1365
01:03:04,840 --> 01:03:06,040
Speaker 4: seems like she's leaving.

1366
01:03:06,080 --> 01:03:09,880
Speaker 5: Him, yeah it seems like coworker did the house and was, like, no,

1367
01:03:10,000 --> 01:03:10,640
Speaker 5: girl that's not.

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01:03:10,760 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 3: You, Like, yeah it seems Like reddit actually kind of

1369
01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:17,800
Speaker 3: and also probably mostly this, coworker But reddit kind of catalyzed.

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01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:19,600
Speaker 4: This, yeah and that's.

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01:03:19,320 --> 01:03:21,520
Speaker 5: Amazing, honestly Go, reddit go.

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01:03:21,600 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 3: Coworker i'm very glad that you are getting help and

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01:03:25,000 --> 01:03:27,200
Speaker 3: you're getting out of this, situation AND i think everything

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01:03:27,200 --> 01:03:29,200
Speaker 3: that you're doing is the right.

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01:03:29,240 --> 01:03:32,160
Speaker 5: Steps, yeah AND i think like saying that To kate

1376
01:03:32,200 --> 01:03:34,680
Speaker 5: and then saying, like line will always be, open BUT

1377
01:03:34,880 --> 01:03:37,760
Speaker 5: i will not reach out is like the perfect thing

1378
01:03:37,800 --> 01:03:38,280
Speaker 5: to be doing.

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01:03:38,320 --> 01:03:42,080
Speaker 4: Too Oh, pee did you make good decisions in the? Story?

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01:03:42,160 --> 01:03:47,840
Speaker 3: No were you a twenty year old being manipulated by

1381
01:03:48,120 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 3: a grown man who's known you since you were?

1382
01:03:50,480 --> 01:03:51,880
Speaker 4: Child, probably so.

1383
01:03:53,480 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 3: That is fully his responsibility in that moment to be, like,

1384
01:03:58,680 --> 01:04:02,440
Speaker 3: hey we need to create a line here because you

1385
01:04:02,600 --> 01:04:05,320
Speaker 3: are my daughter's best friend and also a person That

1386
01:04:05,360 --> 01:04:06,680
Speaker 3: i've referred to as my.

1387
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:09,160
Speaker 4: Daughter but that's the end of that. Story and we've

1388
01:04:09,160 --> 01:04:11,080
Speaker 4: got some comments from the.

1389
01:04:11,120 --> 01:04:13,880
Speaker 3: Video my wife had a wild phase before, marriage and

1390
01:04:13,920 --> 01:04:16,880
Speaker 3: NOW i feel left. Out and this was Posted october,

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01:04:16,920 --> 01:04:20,640
Speaker 3: ninth twenty twenty. Five tildr Is op's wife had a wild,

1392
01:04:20,680 --> 01:04:23,280
Speaker 3: past but now their bedroom life is super. Calm op

1393
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:26,160
Speaker 3: never got to have those experiences and suddenly feels like

1394
01:04:26,200 --> 01:04:29,480
Speaker 3: he missed. Out when he finally tells his, wife she's,

1395
01:04:29,520 --> 01:04:34,000
Speaker 3: shocked cries and things get emotional. Fast now everything in

1396
01:04:34,040 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 3: their marriage feels, shaky and it's clear the story isn't.

1397
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:39,480
Speaker 3: Over if you're curious to know the full, story you

1398
01:04:39,520 --> 01:04:40,320
Speaker 3: can go watch the full.

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01:04:40,400 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 4: Video let's hear what you guys have to.

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01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:44,520
Speaker 2: Say first comment By Annie camp forty forty nine says

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01:04:44,840 --> 01:04:47,400
Speaker 2: husband is very insecure with his wife's, past as much

1402
01:04:47,440 --> 01:04:51,240
Speaker 2: as he says otherwise from past, experiences this will most

1403
01:04:51,360 --> 01:04:54,720
Speaker 2: likely not and well in the air, now AND i.

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01:04:54,760 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 3: Don't think it did unless it was the other, story

1405
01:04:56,960 --> 01:04:59,160
Speaker 3: in which in CASE i was gonna.

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01:04:58,920 --> 01:05:02,840
Speaker 4: SAY i THINK i also both stories, stories and one

1407
01:05:02,840 --> 01:05:04,960
Speaker 4: of them had a good. Ending one of them did

1408
01:05:05,000 --> 01:05:08,880
Speaker 4: not have a good. Ending so go find the whole full. Video,

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01:05:09,160 --> 01:05:09,840
Speaker 4: yeah you'll find.

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01:05:09,920 --> 01:05:14,480
Speaker 2: OUT i don't Love amy's happy hobby, says okay do.

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01:05:14,680 --> 01:05:17,680
Speaker 2: THINGS i think either his wife is not that attracted,

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01:05:17,760 --> 01:05:20,440
Speaker 2: him or she's very ashamed of her past and feels

1413
01:05:20,480 --> 01:05:23,760
Speaker 2: grossed out about it and again feels, ashamed so she

1414
01:05:23,840 --> 01:05:26,960
Speaker 2: doesn't want to revisit. That, however there needs to be

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01:05:27,000 --> 01:05:29,520
Speaker 2: an open line of direct, communication And i've been in this.

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01:05:29,600 --> 01:05:32,240
Speaker 2: SITUATION i grew up and spicy sleep was disgusting and

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01:05:32,280 --> 01:05:35,000
Speaker 2: gross blah blah blah blah. BLAH i met my husband

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01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:37,440
Speaker 2: AND i was so attracted him and we had the

1419
01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:40,600
Speaker 2: best spicy. Sleep, also years, LATER i ended up with

1420
01:05:40,600 --> 01:05:43,360
Speaker 2: mental health issues and, addictions AND i did not like

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01:05:43,480 --> 01:05:46,160
Speaker 2: him for a WHILE i took responsibility for my mental

1422
01:05:46,160 --> 01:05:49,560
Speaker 2: health and my. Addictions but for about two YEARS i

1423
01:05:49,640 --> 01:05:51,720
Speaker 2: was so ashamed of my past BEFORE i met my,

1424
01:05:51,800 --> 01:05:54,560
Speaker 2: HUSBAND i was very insecure about that AND i just

1425
01:05:54,600 --> 01:05:57,240
Speaker 2: felt really grossed. Out BUT i continue to work on,

1426
01:05:57,240 --> 01:05:59,560
Speaker 2: myself and now there's no. Shame my husband AND i

1427
01:05:59,640 --> 01:06:02,360
Speaker 2: are back to the best spicy. Sleep, EVER i just

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01:06:02,360 --> 01:06:04,160
Speaker 2: don't see a wife who is so attracted to her

1429
01:06:04,240 --> 01:06:07,120
Speaker 2: husband who literally shut down everything and does not even

1430
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:09,880
Speaker 2: try anything with. Him to, me that's kind of. Weird,

1431
01:06:10,240 --> 01:06:12,800
Speaker 2: however THOUGH i don't know how far he is trying to,

1432
01:06:12,840 --> 01:06:15,160
Speaker 2: go BUT i think that she could give a little

1433
01:06:15,360 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 2: and he could give a. LITTLE i also think that

1434
01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:19,840
Speaker 2: if he felt like he was desired by her and

1435
01:06:19,960 --> 01:06:23,600
Speaker 2: they had more spontaneous, actions maybe would make things. Better

1436
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:26,040
Speaker 2: BUT i wouldn't want to do all kinds of crazy.

1437
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:29,480
Speaker 2: Things BUT i enjoyed the things THAT i do with my. Husband, okay, yeah,

1438
01:06:29,680 --> 01:06:31,880
Speaker 2: yeah we have a com. Here by steph is back

1439
01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:35,640
Speaker 2: story one my seem to be husband's ex wife left

1440
01:06:35,680 --> 01:06:39,400
Speaker 2: him so she could explore her spicy, life saying she

1441
01:06:39,480 --> 01:06:41,360
Speaker 2: married him too soon before she got to see what

1442
01:06:41,480 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 2: was out. There while on the other, hand my best

1443
01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:45,760
Speaker 2: friend married her husband who was her first, everything and

1444
01:06:45,800 --> 01:06:48,960
Speaker 2: they're in the best Relationship i've ever. Seen, yes they've

1445
01:06:49,000 --> 01:06:51,240
Speaker 2: had their ups and, downs but they're going strong and

1446
01:06:51,280 --> 01:06:52,000
Speaker 2: we'll continue to do.

1447
01:06:52,080 --> 01:06:59,160
Speaker 3: So this feels like the end of a like a

1448
01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:02,520
Speaker 3: sitcompis or maybe the. Beginning, yeah but that's the end

1449
01:07:02,520 --> 01:07:04,920
Speaker 3: of those comments and the end of this. Episode so

1450
01:07:05,360 --> 01:07:07,959
Speaker 3: if you love, us make sure to. Subscribe we love

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01:07:08,040 --> 01:07:09,520
Speaker 3: you and see you.

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01:07:09,600 --> 01:07:10,120
Speaker 4: Tomorrow