Speaker 1: Speaks to the planet, Charlamagne to God here and as
Speaker 1: we come closer to the closing out this year, I
Speaker 1: just want to say thank you for tuning into the
Speaker 1: Black Podcast Network. There have been so many great moments
Speaker 1: over the past year. Take a listen to some of
Speaker 1: those captivating moments in this special best of episode.
Speaker 2: Now listen, we got some listener commentary whatnot I'm going
Speaker 2: to read one.
Speaker 3: Right now, see trick. What is how do you pronounce
Speaker 3: that name?
Speaker 4: Keltric?
Speaker 5: Keltric?
Speaker 2: Okay, Hello, Rod Jerries, Hello, and it is The subject
Speaker 2: is I eat soft bacon Keltric eats soft bacon. Hi,
Speaker 2: my name's Keltric. I'm twenty nine in Monroe, Louisiana. So
Speaker 2: sorry to scream at you in the subject. But because
Speaker 2: in the subject says I eat soft bacon, it's all
Speaker 2: cats caps, Caltric stops screaming at me.
Speaker 3: All right, he says.
Speaker 2: Budgeselle said that the email had seemed threatening for you
Speaker 2: to read it. Oh did I say that? Yes, We're
Speaker 2: only going to read emails that are threatening.
Speaker 4: You said, if you like threaten us well to read
Speaker 4: the email, then then we'll read it. Really, Yeah, why
Speaker 4: did I say that? Because you eat blueberry.
Speaker 3: I wasn't eating them at the time, so.
Speaker 2: All right, So if you gonna read it anyway, I know,
Speaker 2: I just want you to know that I love soft bacon.
Speaker 2: It's not chewy bacon. I'm sure there aren't many of us,
Speaker 2: but we are out here.
Speaker 3: Anyway.
Speaker 2: Love you guys on RHL, P Robin I will be
Speaker 2: Robin will be missed, and I love the podcast. Ps Gaselle,
Speaker 2: you are the best housewife there is. Oh in my opinion,
Speaker 2: I love you forever. Okay, thank you Kelcher. Okay, but
Speaker 2: soft bacon is disgusting.
Speaker 4: Okay, I think there's a level of soft bacon because
Speaker 4: there's some crispy bacon that is too crispy. I can
Speaker 4: see where the crispy can go overboard if it's burnt.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, so not burnt crispy, but like but also
Speaker 4: not crispy where it's like all the pieces are breaking up.
Speaker 4: I like that, really, Yes, it's.
Speaker 3: All breaking up in my mouth. That's so good. Yeah,
Speaker 3: Like I don't.
Speaker 4: Want all the pieces to break up. She just wouldn't
Speaker 4: be like a little little Chris.
Speaker 2: Okay, but not soft soft is like not cooked almost right,
Speaker 2: So Celtrier get yourself together.
Speaker 3: Okay, I have something from.
Speaker 2: The the Ali Ali Hawkins family, my favorite folks.
Speaker 3: High ladies.
Speaker 2: I'm currently in the bathroom with my earbuds and listening
Speaker 2: to reasonably shady and scrolling on my phone. So yes,
Speaker 2: the cell phone is in the bathroom.
Speaker 3: Yep lol, yep.
Speaker 2: So if y'all don't know, we discussed previously, what do
Speaker 2: you do when you go number two? Yeah, and I
Speaker 2: just go in there and go. Yeah, Robin goes in there.
Speaker 2: She takes her phone, she takes the Bible, she takes
Speaker 2: all kinds of things.
Speaker 4: I used to have a stack of magazines before Instagram
Speaker 4: was a thing. Yeah, she takes everything because not because
Speaker 4: that's needed?
Speaker 3: Is that needed in order to go?
Speaker 5: Uh?
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I don't unfortunately for the I mean sometimes
Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, in and out right, but unfortunately I'm
Speaker 4: not always in and out. It's just it like takes
Speaker 4: a minute.
Speaker 2: Okay, and that you don't want to just be sitting
Speaker 2: there with your own personal.
Speaker 4: Thoughts, no, Like I want to catch up on light.
Speaker 5: Like, Okay, I.
Speaker 4: Do some of my best thinking, I feel like I do.
Speaker 4: I come up with my best ideas in the shower. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like you know, I'll be in the shower and I
Speaker 4: have like this great idea and I'll of course forget it.
Speaker 4: But you know, sometimes I'll remember to like get out
Speaker 4: the shower and put it down on my notes before
Speaker 4: I forget. But I don't know why I feel like
Speaker 4: I come with my best ideas in the shower. Yeah,
Speaker 4: but back to the toilet, yeah, I mean, it's just
Speaker 4: it's just like and then it's also like, I mean,
Speaker 4: I guess you could do the same thing like on
Speaker 4: the couch, but you know, if you live in a
Speaker 4: house with people, like this is your your private time,
Speaker 4: right hopefully to just sit in blacks, yeah, be by
Speaker 4: your and scroll Instagram and not be interrupted.
Speaker 2: I just okay, So, like when you go to wipe,
Speaker 2: where do you put the phone?
Speaker 4: So I have a ledge. So first of all, I
Speaker 4: only use my left hand to hold my phone.
Speaker 3: Okay, got it.
Speaker 4: I only wipe with my right hand.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 4: But still it's like cross contamination. Okay, So I have
Speaker 4: a ledge. Do you ever see those toilet roll holders
Speaker 4: toilet paper holders and it has like a ledge on top.
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah, so my phone goes on the ledge, oh okay, yeah.
Speaker 3: And then you go wash your hands and you come
Speaker 3: back and get it.
Speaker 5: Yes. Wow, that's a lot.
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't ever, I dad say, I don't ever
Speaker 2: bring my phone in the bathroom at all. Yeah, yeah, okay, okay,
Speaker 2: Hi ladies, this is from to stop it. Okay, So
Speaker 2: Raquel not Rachel, this is then actually the last time
Speaker 2: that you can email us, because we're going through our
Speaker 2: emails and you've probably emailed us like twenty times back
Speaker 2: to back. Yeah, two different Okay, So this is it
Speaker 2: for you, Raquel not Rachel.
Speaker 5: This is it.
Speaker 3: Hi, ladies, love the show.
Speaker 2: Robin gave a shout out to the producer for editing
Speaker 2: something she wanted out of the show and raved about
Speaker 2: how amazing producers are. And she's right, that is very true.
Speaker 2: Producers are amazing. Yes, you guys have no clue. Yeah,
Speaker 2: how amazing they are.
Speaker 4: Hey, Taylor, hello.
Speaker 2: That I do a podcast with my friend called R
Speaker 2: and R Experience and I am the one who edits
Speaker 2: our show. Editing has been the most challenging aspect of podcasting,
Speaker 2: from Wi Fi disruptions, Mike's not working, random glitches, and
Speaker 2: all the talkative guests who overshare I.
Speaker 4: Have to fix it all. I love it and I
Speaker 4: hate it. It's definitely a complicated relationship.
Speaker 3: Lol.
Speaker 2: What has been the hardest part of podcasting for you guys?
Speaker 3: That's our question.
Speaker 2: And then she, of course she wants this is her
Speaker 2: publicizing her podcast R and R Experience, but Raquel also
Speaker 2: known as not Rachel, this is your last email to
Speaker 2: us SIS. Okay, so everybody check out her podcast. But
Speaker 2: I think it None of this podcast for us, for
Speaker 2: me has been hard, right, So there is no hardest.
Speaker 5: Part for me.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we definitely are blessed because I've had people reach
Speaker 4: out and say, oh, can you give us advice on
Speaker 4: starting a podcast all the time? You know, what do
Speaker 4: you do? And I'm like, to be honest, we are
Speaker 4: blessed to have already been on a public platform so
Speaker 4: that our experience getting into podcasting was very seamless. We
Speaker 4: already had an audience, We already have the support, you
Speaker 4: know from the producers and the editors and the you know,
Speaker 4: the people who upload, Like, I can't tell you how
Speaker 4: to upload an episode.
Speaker 5: I can't tell.
Speaker 4: You you know what I mean, I can't tell you the thing, No,
Speaker 4: I can't you know, all of that type of stuff.
Speaker 4: So we've been really blessed. But I know for people
Speaker 4: who do start a podcast on their own from scratch,
Speaker 4: it is a grind, and I think the hardest part
Speaker 4: probably for those people are probably being consistent, yeah, while
Speaker 4: not necessarily having an audience just yet. Yes, you know,
Speaker 4: so you're you're recording these these episodes and of course
Speaker 4: hopefully your friends and family and people listen, but you
Speaker 4: don't know how to get other people to listen. So
Speaker 4: I would think for people unlike us, the hardest part
Speaker 4: would be just building it and growing it and staying
Speaker 4: consistent and staying in the game without quitting.
Speaker 2: You guys, you got to definitely stay consistent. You don't
Speaker 2: ever want to, like because there have been times when
Speaker 2: we're been extra extra busy and we could have like
Speaker 2: not had an episode that week, but we always try
Speaker 2: to get it in because you never want to leave
Speaker 2: your listeners like with nothing. I'm not the person because
Speaker 2: a lot of people have asked me to critique their podcast.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, I'm so not the person to do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I have had to have given feedback that
Speaker 2: was like, stick with their data, don't do this.
Speaker 3: You sound terrible.
Speaker 2: Your voice is monotone, Like nobody wants to listen to this,
Speaker 2: I've done that.
Speaker 3: I've been that friend.
Speaker 2: Oh no, So like also also be realistic, Yeah, because
Speaker 2: I don't want you spinning your wheels or feeling like
Speaker 2: this is great and everybody's telling you that it's not.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I think a lot of people think
Speaker 4: it's easy. I mean we you know, there's we always
Speaker 4: hear about somebody getting into podcasting, whether they're whether it's
Speaker 4: whether they're celebrities or even your friends, like, hey, we're
Speaker 4: gonna start a podcasting thinking.
Speaker 3: Of Scherisa has one?
Speaker 5: Now is do it? Well?
Speaker 3: By the way, listen to it. I need to listen
Speaker 3: to it.
Speaker 4: I tried to listen to it and for whatever reason,
Speaker 4: my Apple podcasts wouldn't play it. But I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 4: gonna try again.
Speaker 5: But yeah, so.
Speaker 4: It's you can get into it, it's staying in it
Speaker 4: that is really the challenge. Absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 2: And try to get a deal, even though they're not
Speaker 2: really giving out podcast deals these days. Like, try to
Speaker 2: get a deal because that means that you'll have like
Speaker 2: potentially a producer and they'll take care of the back end.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 4: But I think in order to get a deal, you
Speaker 4: either a have to be like us and already have
Speaker 4: some sort of public platform, you know, or some sort
Speaker 4: of be a public figure or be have a podcast
Speaker 4: that you've started that you can show the you know,
Speaker 4: the numbers for. Yeah, so that's easy. Yeah, so just
Speaker 4: don't start a podcast. I don't know, I mean podcasting
Speaker 4: to me and Robin, right, if you do it, do
Speaker 4: it because you love it. Yes, but yeah, I know,
Speaker 4: I know there's a lot of people like, oh, we
Speaker 4: should start a podcast, right, what should I do? And
Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't want to like sell you a
Speaker 4: dream because my experience is different.
Speaker 3: Right, but I can say, like I have loved doing it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like you know, this is our fourth season.
Speaker 2: There's there's never been a time where I'm like, ah,
Speaker 2: I'm dreading it, right, or like I can't believe we
Speaker 2: have to do reasons to be shaded tomorrow and be
Speaker 2: like pissed about it because there's other jobs that I've
Speaker 2: had that I've felt that way, right, Yeah, but like, yeah, no,
Speaker 2: this has been a joy.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, absolutely, Yeah, So I don't have I don't
Speaker 4: have a negative either. But I think the most challenging
Speaker 4: part was just the consistency.
Speaker 2: I would say, Okay, so this says where do you
Speaker 2: both see yourself? This is from images or something I
Speaker 2: don't know. Thank you for writing. Where do you both
Speaker 2: see yourselves? In ten years?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: Wow?
Speaker 2: So ten years for me, like all my kids will
Speaker 2: be out of college. Yeah, I might even have a
Speaker 2: grandchild by then, right, yes, yeah, and I'm gonna be
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, they're gonna be on my knee.
Speaker 3: I'm rocking them to sleep.
Speaker 5: That's why.
Speaker 3: That's what I'm gonna be doing your ten years.
Speaker 4: Can you envision that?
Speaker 5: Why?
Speaker 2: Now, I totally cam like a cute little grand baby. Yes,
Speaker 2: I would be so happy.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's so crazy to think. Ten years. Okay,
Speaker 4: so in ten years, I'm forty five. Now, ten years i'll.
Speaker 3: Be fifty five.
Speaker 4: I will be in the club with my kids.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Wait, I will be partying in the club with my
Speaker 4: kid and.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be there too, y'all at gonna leave me behind.
Speaker 4: Yes.
Speaker 2: So recently I was joking with one of my daughters
Speaker 2: because she's going to my where I went to college.
Speaker 3: I went to Hampton. She's going doors going to Hampton.
Speaker 2: And so because I know Hampton, I was like, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna meet you in the club. Yeah, And so she
Speaker 2: was like, what, monn't say that because she knows I
Speaker 2: who will meet her?
Speaker 4: Right, I'm gonna beat you to the club before you
Speaker 4: get gonna be at the club at eight o'clock.
Speaker 2: Yes, when the clubs, And I'm gonna get the the
Speaker 2: the what do you call him? Not the bar service bottle.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna get the bottle service. I'm gonna get the
Speaker 2: booth like she don't have no money to get no bottle. So, yes,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna take care of the clubs.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So I recently asked my kids. I said, when y'all
Speaker 4: turn twenty one, will you let me go to the
Speaker 4: club with you?
Speaker 3: And they both were.
Speaker 4: Like yes, yes, And Carter was like, yeah, I'm gonna
Speaker 4: be following you around. I'm all right, remember y'all said that.
Speaker 4: So that's why I say I'm gonna be in the
Speaker 4: club with my kids in ten years. We're going to
Speaker 4: be having fun and partying and chilling that because yeah,
Speaker 4: we just I don't know my kids. I made it
Speaker 4: into cool mom status. I'm gonna stay there.
Speaker 3: You want to stay there?
Speaker 4: So do you think you could go to a strip
Speaker 4: club with your kids? Yeah?
Speaker 5: Wow?
Speaker 3: Did we talk about this?
Speaker 4: Did I talk about how Wiz Khalifa said that he
Speaker 4: goes to the strip club with his mom. Did we
Speaker 4: talk about Oh yeah we did.
Speaker 5: We did.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I can't because I know your kids, and
Speaker 2: I can't release and you and y'all's dying nam make
Speaker 2: like y'all in the strip blod together. Yeah, I can't
Speaker 2: really see that right now, but I'm sure it'll happen.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think, I mean.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I think in ten years, like when they're Corey's twenty
Speaker 4: six and yeah whatever, I think I could for sure casino,
Speaker 4: strip club wherever, wherever we're gonna hang out, not the casino.
Speaker 3: Y'all not taking my money, I know.
Speaker 4: Yeah that's true. But on a serious note, in ten years,
Speaker 4: I definitely envision having more businesses, like more like I'm
Speaker 4: opening the Glow Dirty Skincare studio, but I also want
Speaker 4: I'm also already looking at other franchises that I could
Speaker 4: possibly open, So I'm looking at, like, you know, having
Speaker 4: multiple different types of businesses that I can open at
Speaker 4: one time.
Speaker 5: I like that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I like that.
Speaker 4: You know, we already talked about wanting to move, so
Speaker 4: we'll see.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you're gonna move. But like where could you move.
Speaker 3: Did you feel like you'd be happy?
Speaker 4: I don't know, California. L'said that the weather, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so if it's nice the time, you don't
Speaker 2: appreciate it. Just keep that in mind.
Speaker 4: Very true, yes, very true. So this email came from
Speaker 4: Ben Dover.
Speaker 2: I kid you not, that's the person's name, Ben, Ben Dover. Yes,
Speaker 2: you think that's his real name? No, I do not,
Speaker 2: I do not.
Speaker 4: I do not.
Speaker 3: Ben Dover.
Speaker 4: You know Dover?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 4: And even their email address incorporates Ben Dover in it.
Speaker 2: Okay, So no, that's not his real name. Yes, yes,
Speaker 2: and if it is changing, right, well, I actually think
Speaker 2: this is from a female, so Ben be eaten. So okay,
Speaker 2: you think it's from my female. Dover is the last name, Yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: Ben Dover. That's made up, all right? And she just
Speaker 2: bent us over in this email.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, So she says, Dear Robin and Jaselle really
Speaker 4: enjoy the show. I actually love the fact that, unlike
Speaker 4: every podcast in the world, you don't have guests. It's
Speaker 4: just you two talking about whatever. It's refreshing and entertaining.
Speaker 4: On your podcast that aired the week of June third,
Speaker 4: you both were pushing somewhat hard on ladies. You should
Speaker 4: get botox and do the enhancements to your face. Robin
Speaker 4: went on to state how it's all about preserving your
Speaker 4: youthful looks. While that is all well in Dandy, there
Speaker 4: also is a population that feels that aging gracefully and
Speaker 4: naturally is still a thing. Okay, life is about balance,
Speaker 4: so sure, good skincare is great and fine. But to
Speaker 4: encourage others to inject botox regularly in an attempt to
Speaker 4: mask the fact that, yes, we are aging, it's something
Speaker 4: I don't agree with. Many people see beauties like Vanessa Williams,
Speaker 4: halle Berry and even at seventy eight years old Helen
Speaker 4: Mirren as still being extremely gorgeous, but having aged naturally
Speaker 4: and not succumbing to social media pressure of following the crowd.
Speaker 4: Trust me when I say many men still feel like
Speaker 4: Paulina Portsakova. Pooritzakova. She's a supermodel who has had no surgery,
Speaker 4: no fillers, no botox, could get it now today. So
Speaker 4: I said, you both, who have the benefit of natural,
Speaker 4: genetic based beauty, please support the natural aging process and
Speaker 4: beauty and stop attempting to come heat with all of
Speaker 4: the other housewives who have almost become unrecognizable, like someone
Speaker 4: that rhymes with Baron Booker. I hate I had loved
Speaker 4: at y'all, not Baron Booker.
Speaker 5: Okay, I did love that.
Speaker 4: Sorry, y'all, I'd hate for both of you to end
Speaker 4: up looking like green eyed versions of the current Little Kim. Okay.
Speaker 4: I don't remember ever pushing botox on people. Well, right, we.
Speaker 3: Weren't pushing it.
Speaker 4: I was, so remember we talked about we were talking
Speaker 4: about the lip flip.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, then we.
Speaker 4: Were talking about we started talking about botox, and I
Speaker 4: was saying how I think both for me, botox is
Speaker 4: not about changing the way I look, but about just
Speaker 4: kind of preventing your wrinkles from getting deeper. Right, So
Speaker 4: I'm not pushing it on anyone by any means, but
Speaker 4: I personally just if I can prevent my wrinkles from
Speaker 4: getting deeper from then That's what I'm going to do.
Speaker 4: I don't want to change the way I look, right totally.
Speaker 4: I'm not trying to turn my face into someone else's
Speaker 4: face or I'm not trying to you know. So, so yes,
Speaker 4: I I and I am a very natural person. I'm
Speaker 4: sitting here with no makeup on like I you know,
Speaker 4: so I'm I would definitely prefer to be more natural
Speaker 4: than not. However, I just you know, for me personally,
Speaker 4: if I can stop my wrinkles from getting deeper, then
Speaker 4: that's what I'm going to do. So so and I'm
Speaker 4: not going to judge anyone that's not doing that. I'm
Speaker 4: not going to you know, but if people and it
Speaker 4: was more for people who think botox is about changing
Speaker 4: the way you look, and it was just just letting
Speaker 4: you all know it's not necessarily to change the way
Speaker 4: you look. It's more about just preventing your wrinkles from
Speaker 4: getting deeper.
Speaker 2: Right, That's but who did she say? It hasn't gotten
Speaker 2: is a natural and hasn't gotten.
Speaker 4: Said Halle Berry, Vanessa Williams, and Paulina Portzakova.
Speaker 2: So she feels like they haven't because of the way
Speaker 2: their face looks or because they've.
Speaker 3: Said that, I don't know. Okay, So all of those.
Speaker 4: People have gotten work done, right, period.
Speaker 2: I don't want anyone to think that there's probably one
Speaker 2: percent of people that are in front of a camera
Speaker 2: that haven't gotten anything done to their face, body, whatever.
Speaker 3: So shut up, bend over. We don't like you.
Speaker 4: Okay, go away, bend Over, bend somewhere else.
Speaker 2: And Bendover is definitely a woman, because no man is
Speaker 2: even thinking about this like that. So yeah, bend Over,
Speaker 2: goodbye the worst, You're the worst, bend.
Speaker 3: Over, Bendover that wants the menu over. Okay, not in.
Speaker 5: A good way.
Speaker 2: Okay, totally not in a good way. Asia sent us,
Speaker 2: Asia's one of our faiths.
Speaker 5: Is she coming to Philly? Asia? Asia? Asia?
Speaker 4: I think it's Asia. It's just spelled as Hia, So
Speaker 4: it's Asia.
Speaker 2: Listen, Gibbs, it's coming to Hopefully she's coming to Philly,
Speaker 2: I think so. All right, So she wrote us and
Speaker 2: she said she's thirty and she is thriving. Hi, ladies,
Speaker 2: I'm writing in because on February fifth, I'll be turning
Speaker 2: thirty years loved.
Speaker 5: Oh, I like that thirty years loved. Happy Birthday.
Speaker 2: It would mean the world to me for my favorite
Speaker 2: rich aunties to give me a birthday shout out what
Speaker 2: was up?
Speaker 5: And happy?
Speaker 3: I guess am am I the rich auntie in you
Speaker 3: two birthday.
Speaker 4: She can't be talking about us because somebody in this
Speaker 4: world keeps calling us broke.
Speaker 2: So can't be Yeah, and which listen the first class
Speaker 2: calling us broke. It's not in our tax bridets. Okay, okay,
Speaker 2: all right. So she has a question to the two
Speaker 2: of you, remember your thirtieth birthday? Would what did you
Speaker 2: do to celebrate? Also, what advice would you give someone
Speaker 2: who is entering into their thirties? Huh, I don't remember
Speaker 2: my thirtieth birthday. Don't let me think. Okay, I remember mine.
Speaker 4: So, first of all, happy thirtieth birthday, Asia, Yes, thirty
Speaker 4: is like that. I feel like that decade of thirties
Speaker 4: is one of a lot of growth and evolution. Yes,
Speaker 4: and you really start to like start to come into
Speaker 4: the person that you're gonna be, You're gonna be yep.
Speaker 4: So yes, like enjoy it, make the most of it,
Speaker 4: and it goes fast, and it'll be like, oh my god,
Speaker 4: I'm forty.
Speaker 5: A right, forty is good.
Speaker 3: But oh happy birthday?
Speaker 4: Okay, So thirty is awesome. So my thirtieth birthday.
Speaker 3: I share.
Speaker 4: Okay. I have a group of friends college friends, and
Speaker 4: a couple of us are aries so like, and we
Speaker 4: were both turning thirty, and so we plan a girls
Speaker 4: trip with love a bunch of girls.
Speaker 5: Okay, right, are you sure because it was a girl's trip.
Speaker 4: I can't remember how many of us, it's like probably
Speaker 4: like ten of us. So we're going to Miami doing
Speaker 4: the Miami thing. We had activities planned, you know, dinner, clubs,
Speaker 4: yacht all this type of stuff, right, all these activities.
Speaker 4: Everyone we're all on Gosh, when I was thirty, I
Speaker 4: don't even know if it was like a group. I
Speaker 4: don't know how we communicated, but emails whatever. Everyone got
Speaker 4: the itinerary. Everyone knew where we're staying, what we're paying,
Speaker 4: what we're doing, blah blah blah blah blah blah. So
Speaker 4: my best friend from college at the time.
Speaker 5: Was going.
Speaker 4: But she was notorious for always wanting a hookup.
Speaker 5: Oh god, I hate those people.
Speaker 4: Yes, notorious, and she would do it wherever we went.
Speaker 4: We would always, you know, go to NBA All Star
Speaker 4: weekends and Londes of Morning weekend and Miami, like we
Speaker 4: would just always be going places, and she always wanted
Speaker 4: a hook up from for anything. She didn't want to
Speaker 4: pay for anything. Now she has a great job, she
Speaker 4: makes good money, she saves her money. It's good with
Speaker 4: her money, like you know, it's she's not broke by
Speaker 4: any means. And I had seen her do it over
Speaker 4: and over and over to other people, but she had
Speaker 4: never really done it to me because I was always
Speaker 4: in a position like.
Speaker 3: Wan was in the NBA.
Speaker 4: You know, I didn't I would always treat everyone, you know,
Speaker 4: So I never asked anyone for anything. But when it
Speaker 4: came to this trip, people have to contribute. Like, if
Speaker 4: you wanna, we're gonna go to the club. Everyone contribute
Speaker 4: to go to the you know, to get the table.
Speaker 4: If you want to, we're gonna go go on the yacht.
Speaker 4: You gotta contribute this to go on the yacht. Yes,
Speaker 4: blah blah blah. So when it came time for her
Speaker 4: to contribute, she was like, Oh, no, I have a
Speaker 4: friend there and I'm just gonna you know, my friend
Speaker 4: is gonna get me in what And then like yeah,
Speaker 4: it was just every little thing. It was, Oh, I
Speaker 4: have someone someone down there, and she's gonna she knows
Speaker 4: people at that club, and we're gonna do this. And
Speaker 4: this friend here, she's going to do this. And I
Speaker 4: was so angry with her because I'm like, you do
Speaker 4: this to everyone, now you're doing it to me. I've
Speaker 4: never made you pay for anything a day in your
Speaker 4: life and now and then you're bringing strangers around to
Speaker 4: our birthday celebration. Oh yeah, that's and no, we were
Speaker 4: at Prime one twelve and this old, nasty ass bitch
Speaker 4: walked up in a restaurant to because to meet my friends. Yeah,
Speaker 4: but my friend was there for us, and she's all
Speaker 4: and we're all looking at her like who the fuck
Speaker 4: are you? You know what I'm saying. And then and
Speaker 4: so then my friend's like, oh, well, I'm gonna go.
Speaker 4: And she was her older so war older chapter so war,
Speaker 4: I'm I'm own this bitch. So then she's like, I'm
Speaker 4: gonna I'm gonna go with her because she's gonna get
Speaker 4: us in. It was a whole fall out.
Speaker 3: Yeah no, so it was like, oh my god.
Speaker 4: And one of the other friend that was celebrating her
Speaker 4: thirtieth birthday was her line sister. So she not only
Speaker 4: did it to me, her best friend, she also did
Speaker 4: it to her line sister. So we didn't talk for
Speaker 4: three years. What yes, three years. I didn't want to
Speaker 4: say one word to her. I was like, I'm I can't.
Speaker 4: Like it was just like you're done, No, you're done.
Speaker 4: You always want to hook up and top first bringing
Speaker 4: strangers around that are giving us the evil eye, and
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. I mean, oh my god,
Speaker 4: that this story keeps going. I was pregnant, like six
Speaker 4: months pregnant, maybe not six months, maybe four months whatever,
Speaker 4: six months. And the girl that my friend brought around
Speaker 4: that we didn't know, so we so I'm in the
Speaker 4: club with my friends.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we left her.
Speaker 4: And then they walk in the club and she walks
Speaker 4: up to one of my friends and says something and
Speaker 4: it rolls out like what, So I asked her for her.
Speaker 4: I said, what she said to you? And she was like,
Speaker 4: I don't know, I can't remember what she said. She said,
Speaker 4: whatever she said, I turned my pregnant ass around and
Speaker 4: like ran after the girl. The girl runs out.
Speaker 3: The damn club. But I mean, it was just it
Speaker 3: was a man being pregnant.
Speaker 4: Yes, it was a mess, and it was just it
Speaker 4: was just mayhem. So I was just so mad. I
Speaker 4: was like, this is my thirtieth birthday, yeah, and you
Speaker 4: ruined it and you over here wearying about a damn hookup.
Speaker 4: You can't just take one for the team and go
Speaker 4: with the flow and be with the group, and you
Speaker 4: gotta So that was my thirtieth birthday experience.
Speaker 2: So did she apologize after we talked to her thirty
Speaker 2: years I mean three years later, Yeah she did.
Speaker 4: We're good now, Like, okay, we're good now.
Speaker 3: Do I know who this person is?
Speaker 4: You've met her? Joy?
Speaker 5: Joy?
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I didn't want to say her name.
Speaker 4: Yes, okay, Joy, you were wrong for that, Yes, but
Speaker 4: I really was just like I cannot talk to you
Speaker 4: anymore because like that, you just don't do that ship
Speaker 4: for a friend, like you're so selfish. But she she
Speaker 4: has realized that about herself and she has. Yes, she
Speaker 4: has changed her ways good big times. Okay she stops
Speaker 4: all that and yeah, so good.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well advice for I can't remember my thirtieth birthday
Speaker 2: at all. I'm sure I was doing something on a
Speaker 2: table or something. I don't know anyway, But like when
Speaker 2: you get into your thirties, it's like, okay, it's now
Speaker 2: time to be an adult, right, So that goes to Joy,
Speaker 2: like you you're playing little girl games and you're doing
Speaker 2: immature nonsense like being an adult, right, figure out what
Speaker 2: makes you happy and what makes you sad and living happy?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah for sure. Yeah, I say, like like I said,
Speaker 4: for your thirties. It's definitely a time I think of
Speaker 4: lots of change. Yeah, a lot of people, I know,
Speaker 4: my thirties were.
Speaker 3: I had some kids, I had three kids.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I had kids. We went you know, I went
Speaker 4: through a divorce, We went through you know, financial challenges.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I had to kind of like you know, figure shit
Speaker 4: out and work. I was working multiple jobs at a point,
Speaker 4: began the house. I was a potomac in my thirties,
Speaker 4: you know. So it was just like so much and
Speaker 4: I just kept telling myself like it's okay, Like whatever
Speaker 4: it was that I was going through, I knew I
Speaker 4: would be okay. So I'm gonna say, like, your thirties
Speaker 4: aren't always going to be beautiful, but just know that
Speaker 4: what you go through during your thirties is building you
Speaker 4: into becoming a much better person person, a more well
Speaker 4: rounded person. It's just shaping your experiences.
Speaker 3: Yes, I agree with all of that. Robin Dixon.
Speaker 2: Okay, So sometimes people write as things and they're nasty
Speaker 2: and we don't read them. But I decided we're gonna
Speaker 2: read one today. Oh okay, Okay, So this is.
Speaker 3: From Linda Martin.
Speaker 4: What's up, Linda?
Speaker 5: Are we really saying hi? To Linda.
Speaker 2: She says, it is shameful that you gloated over leaving
Speaker 2: a poor broken deer, possibly withering in pain until he
Speaker 2: or she he or she succumbed to its injuries.
Speaker 3: Where is your like? What's insane? Where is your compassion?
Speaker 3: Forty miles an hour?
Speaker 2: It's too fast to be driving. Where you know living
Speaker 2: things are crossing? It's thirty miles. Yeah, it's thirty in
Speaker 2: New York and they're trying to get it down to twenty.
Speaker 2: People want to live around nature and then disregard, and
Speaker 2: you disregarded. I'm done with this ship that promotes this
Speaker 2: bad behavior. And you're bad English. I don't know about that.
Speaker 2: I feel yeah, she said, I feel you represent everything
Speaker 2: wrong in our nation.
Speaker 4: Oh, everything wrong, everything wrong, she said, I really want
Speaker 4: to get my point across.
Speaker 2: I thought you guys were decent people rather than shallow narcissis.
Speaker 3: Listen, this was a comedy.
Speaker 2: Read's funny as shit, Like, what are you talking about, lady?
Speaker 3: I had fifteen thousand dollars worth damages to my car?
Speaker 2: What are you saying?
Speaker 3: She could have died?
Speaker 5: Does would have died?
Speaker 4: Affording that poor dear withering in pain? Are you kidding me.
Speaker 3: Yes, have my kids hit it, they would be dead?
Speaker 4: Are you little kidding? Okay, but thank you for yes. Yeah,
Speaker 4: sometimes we gotta we gotta read the haters.
Speaker 5: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: So and she says she's not now mind you, she
Speaker 2: should be listening because you know we gave her.
Speaker 4: I hope she is.
Speaker 3: If anyone knows, Linda, listen, lend her to listen.
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