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Speaker 1: All right, it's that time. You already know his time

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Speaker 1: for the Strawberry lettic with my friend Shirley Strawberry, Thank

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Speaker 1: you friend. Subject he cheated and I embarrassed him. Dear Stephen, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: My husband cheated on me two years ago when he

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Speaker 1: was away on a work related trip. I could tell

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Speaker 1: past two years I asked him over and over if

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Speaker 1: he cheated on me, and he denied it. About a

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Speaker 1: month ago, while we were in a heated argument, he

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Speaker 1: admitted that he cheated and told me who the woman was.

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Speaker 1: I went on Facebook and found the woman and saw

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Speaker 1: that they are still Facebook friends and he comments on

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Speaker 1: her photos and sends her direct messages. That made me

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Speaker 1: even more angry. I felt betrayed and humiliated, so I

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Speaker 1: put a post on my Facebook page and tagged my

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Speaker 1: husband and this woman on the post, so it also

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Speaker 1: showed up on their Facebook pages. The post said, in

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Speaker 1: all caps, he cheated on me with her. I knew

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Speaker 1: it was impulsive and the wrong thing to do, so

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Speaker 1: I removed the post thirty minutes later. Well, that was

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Speaker 1: long enough for everybody to see it and react to it.

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Speaker 1: Now his entire family hates me. He's upset with me

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Speaker 1: because he says it could affect his job. He cheated

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Speaker 1: But I'm the bad person now. He has blocked me

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Speaker 1: from his Facebook page and he opened another bank account

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Speaker 1: for his personal youth and I don't have access to it.

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Speaker 1: I know my marriage is wrecked, but I'm willing to

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Speaker 1: fight for it. Am I being a fool? Should I

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Speaker 1: just leave him and move on with my life? Look,

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Speaker 1: you didn't cheat on him. He cheated on you, remember that.

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Speaker 1: Let's not get this twisted. Let's not let anybody flip

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Speaker 1: this none of that. You were hurt, you were angry,

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Speaker 1: and like you said, you felt betrayed and humiliated. And

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Speaker 1: not to mention, they are still in contact two years

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Speaker 1: later and he lied about it for two years. So

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Speaker 1: so this is what he gets. I say he ambled

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Speaker 1: on his marriage with this other woman while he was

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Speaker 1: says it could affect his job. Well, I'd like to

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Speaker 1: know how how could this affect his job? You took

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Speaker 1: it down the post down after thirty minutes? Right? Well?

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Speaker 1: Has he is he still working? Has he been fired yet. No,

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Speaker 1: he's still working, right, So don't take on that guilt

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Speaker 1: for any of this. As far as his family goes,

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Speaker 1: you are not married to them, Okay, you are not.

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Speaker 1: He did the cheating, he did the lyne, and he's

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Speaker 1: got to pay for it. Sorry, Steve, Well, what an

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Speaker 1: interesting letter. I'm gonna tell you how I was feeling it.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna read this letter and the thoughts that was

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Speaker 1: going to my head as we went along. My husband

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Speaker 1: cheated on me two years ago when he was away

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Speaker 1: different when he got home. So for the past two

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Speaker 1: years I asked him over and over and over if

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Speaker 1: he cheated on me, and he denied. My man, my man,

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Speaker 1: that he denied it. Stay strong, Rijo La all to wait,

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Speaker 1: keep reading. I was sitting here, Shirley. I didn't interrupt you.

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Speaker 1: I told you I was gonna give you the letter

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Speaker 1: as how I felt along the way. Pride was feeling

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Speaker 1: my heart up until that. He denied it for two years,

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Speaker 1: over and over in the home. About a month ago,

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Speaker 1: we were in a heated argument. He admitted he cheated

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Speaker 1: stupid are you now what heated argument? How you that down? Man?

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Speaker 1: You forgot to ride the light out? What did he

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Speaker 1: think that? He? You know what? Send I mean up?

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Speaker 1: I ain't that small? Quick calling me small? She don't

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Speaker 1: you just confess don't know? So what your wife called

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Speaker 1: you small? What damn? You bring up? Sheila? And he

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Speaker 1: of a he did argument you could have. You can

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Speaker 1: ain't got no problem with me? So I went on

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Speaker 1: they've been talking for two years, you got madam. I

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Speaker 1: the post, so it also showed up on their Facebook pages.

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Speaker 1: The post said he cheated on me with her, Well,

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Speaker 1: that was true. Didn't he tell you that's what he did?

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Speaker 1: That was true? You didn't lie. He told you that. See,

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Speaker 1: He told you it was Sheila because you kept calling

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Speaker 1: him small. But that's probably what the heated argument was about,

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Speaker 1: because I don't know what the hell you can snap

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Speaker 1: and say names for. So he cheated on me with her,

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Speaker 1: I knew it was impulsive and the wrong thing to do. Well,

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Speaker 1: two wrongs don't make a right. But posting he cheated

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Speaker 1: versus him cheating with another woman for several years, I

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Speaker 1: minutes later, Well you don't must not know about cyberspace

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Speaker 1: it down. Thirty minute later, somebody's screen shot that baby.

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Speaker 1: Well that was long enough for everybody to see it.

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Speaker 1: Now he's entire family hate me. Why would you say

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Speaker 1: he cheated? Now he didn't talk. Now, let me tell

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Speaker 1: you why a family hate you because he didn't told

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Speaker 1: the family. He didn't cheat with her. He told the family,

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Speaker 1: you trying to ruin him. That's why the family hate you. See,

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Speaker 1: if the family knew he cheated on you, the women

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Speaker 1: and the family would understand. But he had told them

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Speaker 1: you try. He hadn't told him. The family don't know

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Speaker 1: he cheated with this woman. I'll be back with the

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Speaker 1: rest of it. Ain't nothing to recap. This woman, Uh

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Speaker 1: You too small. Probably said something like that that hurt

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Speaker 1: him so bad. He was Sheila, don't think, who the

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Speaker 1: hell is Sheila? The girl to think I'm bigg enough? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So then he does saying her name. She didn't went

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Speaker 1: online and find a woman tagged impulsively his Facebook and

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Speaker 1: her and said he cheated on me with her. Then

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Speaker 1: the woman said I knew it was impositive, the wrong

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Speaker 1: the family hates you, because they don't know the whole story.

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Speaker 1: He's upset with me because he says it could affect

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Speaker 1: his job. Well it ain't. You didn't think the cheating

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Speaker 1: was gonna affect our marriage, Well here you go. He

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Speaker 1: But I'm the bad person now he has blocked me

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Speaker 1: from his Facebook page. He opened another bank account for

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Speaker 1: his personal use, and I don't have access to it.

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Speaker 1: I know my marriage is wrecked, but I'm willing to

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Speaker 1: first of all, I don't know how old you are.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you've got children involved in this,

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Speaker 1: But it takes two people to make a marriage work.

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Speaker 1: What you really need to find out if he wants

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Speaker 1: to make it work, you need to find out if

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Speaker 1: he wants to fight for it, You need to find

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Speaker 1: if he want to make it work with you. See you,

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Speaker 1: you can go and fight all you want, but if

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Speaker 1: that's a real simple ask. Now, let me play something.

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Speaker 1: He didn't open this checking account, and you don't have

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Speaker 1: of individuality, and that's why we do it. She gets

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Speaker 1: Damn baby, grand baby. Damn what I'm saying. You know,

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Speaker 1: I got my issues too, But it's her account now.

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Speaker 1: She can't say nothing to me. If I want to

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Speaker 1: you blocked from Facebook? Because he's gonna say something else

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Speaker 1: on Facebook because Sheila, Hell, yeah, right back. But I

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Speaker 1: she ain't only one. You don't block nobody for one. No,

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Speaker 1: there's some other business for you. Get to dig into

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Speaker 1: deep come in no photos like isn't that Drew? Wow?

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Speaker 1: So now you want to ask me and Shirley, am

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Speaker 1: Should I just leave him and move on with my life?

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Speaker 1: They got to be young, because grown folks that don't say,

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Speaker 1: So I'm assuming y'are young. I don't know what the

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Speaker 1: that call for you. Course, Sherley, can't you leave him?

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Speaker 1: Get you somebody else? Because you know that? Okay, what

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Speaker 1: did you say? I said he made his bat He's

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Speaker 1: gotta lie in it now, so be sure I agree

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Speaker 1: they it has to be both of their decision. If not,

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Speaker 1: looks like he's moving away from her though different bank accounts,

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Speaker 1: all of that different bank account blocked you on Facebook

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Speaker 1: and look good, pretty stinking yeah, pretty funky. Okay, ladies

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Speaker 1: and gentlemen, here we are. This is how the woman's

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Speaker 1: the argument, because for two years it was denied, and

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Speaker 1: then they got into a heated argument. Here is what happened.

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Speaker 1: White lying, Brad, I'm not lying, Brad. Look me in

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Speaker 1: you because I know I'm looking at you. I ain't

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Speaker 1: been with nobody. I keep telling you how many times

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Speaker 1: I gotta tell you, why are you lying to me?

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Speaker 1: I ain't lying, baby, I'm telling you that. You keep

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Speaker 1: You land this not on top of that, and you

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Speaker 1: small to what you hurt me? Your small? Whoa what

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Speaker 1: you mean? I'm small? What other definition of small do

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Speaker 1: you need? No? What? What? What? What? I'm small? High? Small?

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Speaker 1: your thoughts on Today's Strawberry Letter. And Steve Harvey got

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Speaker 1: you small so small, walking passing like you're listening to

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Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show