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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, on work, on sex,

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Speaker 1: on parenting, on dating, please please please submit your Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter to Steve HARVEYSM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air,

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Speaker 1: just like we're going to read this one right here,

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Speaker 1: right now, and you never know it could be yours. Yeah, right, Shirley, Ladies,

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Speaker 1: Gylan's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend

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Speaker 1: Shirley Strawberry. All right, thank you, my good friend. Junior

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Speaker 1: subject subject he called me a call girl. Dear Stephen, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm a forty one year old entrepreneur and I own

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Speaker 1: a brokerage firm. I'm dating a four year old forty

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Speaker 1: year old former pro athlete, and we met three years ago.

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Speaker 1: He's a coach and he owns a laundromat. I have

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Speaker 1: my own house and he has his own house. I

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Speaker 1: was driving a small sports car when I met him,

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Speaker 1: and he suggest I did I get an SUV for

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Speaker 1: all of my yard signs and stuff for my business.

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Speaker 1: I was fine driving my little BMW, but for my

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Speaker 1: fortieth birthday, he surprised me with a twenty twenty two SUV.

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Speaker 1: He loves giving gifts and I love getting them, but

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Speaker 1: it's the commentary after the gift that bothers me. I

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Speaker 1: wasn't wearing designer labels before I met him, but he

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Speaker 1: loves to buy them for me, so I let him.

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Speaker 1: He has flurged on overpriced designer shoes and purses for

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Speaker 1: me since we met. He said, I have to look

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Speaker 1: a certain way to represent him properly. He loves to

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Speaker 1: brag about whatever he spends money on. Over the weekend,

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Speaker 1: he went too far with the bragging, and now we're

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Speaker 1: not speaking. We were at a rooftop bar on Sunday

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Speaker 1: with three other couples, and the males moved away from

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Speaker 1: the female so they could smoke cigars. They were still

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Speaker 1: an earshot of where we were sitting, and I overheard

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Speaker 1: my man say that I'm the black Julia Roberts from

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Speaker 1: Pretty Woman, and he has spent a lot of money

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Speaker 1: on me so I can be as fly as he is.

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Speaker 1: He said I was worth every bit of it because

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Speaker 1: he plans to marry me. I went over to him

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Speaker 1: and cursed him out. One of his boys told me

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Speaker 1: that I'm focused on the wrong part of what my

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Speaker 1: man said. He told me to focus on the fact

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Speaker 1: that my guy wants to marry me, But how can

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Speaker 1: I when he compared me to a prostitute from a movie.

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Speaker 1: You feel the way you feel. That's okay, your feelings

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Speaker 1: are valid. But I really think that the anger you

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Speaker 1: have towards your man and what made you curse him

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Speaker 1: out at the party was a build up of all

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Speaker 1: the things that get on your nerves about him. You've

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Speaker 1: got a big bragger on your hands. He's someone that

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Speaker 1: is generous, and how he buys nice things for you

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Speaker 1: but selfish, and how he needs so much attention and

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Speaker 1: credit for doing that. When you do things for people,

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Speaker 1: especially for your mate, it should be from the heart

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Speaker 1: because you want to do it, and gratitude and a

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Speaker 1: ciation should be all the thanks you need. Although you

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Speaker 1: love getting the gifts, you're not even into all these

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Speaker 1: expensive designer things. That is what he wants you to

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Speaker 1: wear because he wants you to represent him in a

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Speaker 1: certain way. So I think you were just sick of

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Speaker 1: all his bragging and saying you were the black Julie

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Speaker 1: Roberts was the last straw for you, and you just

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Speaker 1: let him have it. I mean, clearly he's clueless because

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Speaker 1: in the same sentence he said he wanted to marry you.

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Speaker 1: I really don't think he was knowingly saying you were

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Speaker 1: a prostitute or anything like that. He was just bragging

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Speaker 1: so much he got caught up and says something real

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Speaker 1: stupid at the time. So tell him how you feel

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Speaker 1: about his bragging. Tell him you don't like it, and

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Speaker 1: who he is before you get married, and he'll only

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Speaker 1: change if he wants to change for you. But you

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Speaker 1: know know that you're not the black Julie Roberts. You're

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Speaker 1: not a prostitute, Okay, And I don't think he really

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Speaker 1: meant that. I really don't, Steve, Lady, relax, you find

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Speaker 1: the mess up. Listen to me, Lady, you find the

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Speaker 1: mess up. You overheard. I'll wait till I get there.

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Speaker 1: You forty one, your entrepreneur, You own a broken firm.

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Speaker 1: You're dating a former pro athlete. Met three years ago.

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Speaker 1: He's a coach. He got a laundrymat. You got your

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Speaker 1: stuff for your business makes sense to me. But I

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Speaker 1: Now here's where you don't. I don't want you to

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Speaker 1: miss what's happening. Your man actually has an interest in

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Speaker 1: the car. Oh I was fine with my little Yeah

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Speaker 1: you was, but then guess what For your fortieth birthday?

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Speaker 1: He surprised you with a twenty twenty two suv. He

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Speaker 1: woman needed. He loves giving gifts and I love getting them.

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Speaker 1: So far sound like we win it, but it's the

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Speaker 1: commentary after the gift that bothers me. I wasn't wearing

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Speaker 1: buy them for me, so I let him. Yeah, see,

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Speaker 1: you wasn't buying designer stuff, but now he buying it

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Speaker 1: for you. You wasn't into that but you let him.

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Speaker 1: You know why, because it looked good. You know why,

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Speaker 1: because it feel good. You know why, because it makes

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Speaker 1: it on. That's why you buy the stuff he has

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Speaker 1: splurged on. Overpriced designer shoes. Listen to me, lady, They're

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Speaker 1: not overpriced. That's how much they cost. See, they're not

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Speaker 1: over priced for what they are. Pay Less exists, so

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Speaker 1: you can pay less Nieman, Marcus Mono, o'blonic, Christian Luberton.

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Speaker 1: They don't have a But then pay less shoes don't

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Speaker 1: like that. O give a damn what you do? Hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Oh god, now what I'm like? What are you mad

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Speaker 1: for her? What for what? We'll have part two. We'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. The topic for today's Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter is the subject he called me a call girl.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. Calm down,

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Speaker 1: you're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject he called me a

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Speaker 1: call girl? All right, Shirley wants me to calm down

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Speaker 1: and not be angry in my response, so he is

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Speaker 1: less attempted. Here is this woman that's an entrepreneur, how

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Speaker 1: former athlete. He's a coach, got a laundry match, she's

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Speaker 1: an entrepreneur. He failed for this woman right away and

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Speaker 1: are to get her by suv instead of driving this

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Speaker 1: little sports car round for your business. I was fine

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Speaker 1: driving the sports car round, but on her fortieth birthday

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Speaker 1: he's surprised it with a brand new twenty twenty two suv.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, she liked it. Man, what a guy. So far?

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Speaker 1: We winning, as I said. And then he loves giving

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Speaker 1: gifts and I love getting them. Okay, shut your mouth

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Speaker 1: and keep taking the gifts. What's wrong? And then but

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Speaker 1: it's the commentary after the gift that bothers me. Everybody

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Speaker 1: they ain't perfect something, come with everything? You know? I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't really care for being famous sometime, but when

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Speaker 1: and gonna gets back to being famous. Okay, almost started

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Speaker 1: to get loud again, go back. I wasn't wearing designer

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Speaker 1: wants to wear the product, the Louis Vaton, Now you

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Speaker 1: like stuff, uh Birkins, and now you likes the Christian

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Speaker 1: And the Jimmy shoes, Yeah, you like it. He has

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Speaker 1: splurged on overpriced designer shoes. Stop saying that they're not overpriced.

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Speaker 1: Them is Shawaska crystals on that shoe. That's why they

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Speaker 1: That ain't the frick. Okay, come back down and buys

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Speaker 1: persons for me. Since we met, he said, I have

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Speaker 1: just a man being a little braggish. I'll admit that.

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Speaker 1: But you know, I want you to be out there

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Speaker 1: to provide. That's what he's leaning home. He loves to

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Speaker 1: I went over to him and cust him out. What.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I never saw Pretty Woman. I don't

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Speaker 1: that you got? You gotta see that? Yeah, Richard, here,

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Speaker 1: how has that changed your life? It made you believe

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Speaker 1: fact that the guy wants to marry me. The analogy

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Speaker 1: all that right there. All he know is you fine

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Speaker 1: to him, and he's willing to put everything he got

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Speaker 1: to him. Damn, Julia Robinson, you're stupid ass. Man don't

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Speaker 1: know movie analogy. What's her name, Julia Roberts, He does

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Speaker 1: Richard Gear he white White. That's a man's driving force.

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Speaker 1: And when we get around each other, I definition what

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Speaker 1: And he talking trash with his boys. You was in

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Speaker 1: the men knew was man he feeling her. Now you

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Speaker 1: damn movie analogy, because ain't nobody calling you no prostitute.

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