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Speaker 1: This is John, this is them Okay Storytime podcast hosts.

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Speaker 2: And we have some.

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Speaker 1: But before that, we have a little morsel of a

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Speaker 1: I left my bachelorette party because my friends hired spicy dancers.

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Speaker 3: What you don't want to dance with them?

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Speaker 4: What? Hello?

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Speaker 1: I know the title might sound dumb, but please bear

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Speaker 3: You being a bear.

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Speaker 1: I thirty one female getting married on January. But my

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Speaker 1: best friend, thirty female, is going to be gone for

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Speaker 1: most of the month, only being able to come back

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Speaker 1: for my wedding. So my friends decided to just throw

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Speaker 1: my batchelorette party yesterday to get it out of the way.

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Speaker 3: I'm Dakota, I mean, I said Carl, and.

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Speaker 1: We're here to give you a good advice googly. But

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Speaker 1: we're a bunch of goofballs. We don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 1: We only know what we do, so tell us what

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Speaker 1: you do in the comments, Maybe you're a lawyer or

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Speaker 1: a doctor and nopesis. I was very specific about not

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Speaker 1: wanting Despicia dancers because knowing them, I knew they would

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Speaker 1: do it just to prank me. They agreed and made

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Speaker 1: all the arrangements. Yesterday we went to a little venue

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Speaker 1: they rented, and everything was good. We were having fun,

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Speaker 1: playing games, drinking and so on. Around midnight, my best

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Speaker 1: friend says, the deliveries here.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, I didn't know anything. What is it?

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Speaker 2: You ordered flesh?

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Speaker 1: And I didn't think much about it because I thought

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Speaker 1: it was food or something, But nope. Two men came

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Speaker 1: in with her and the music changed. They said something

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Speaker 1: I didn't really hear and started dancing. They were like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: now for youall's going to dance. Feeling here to take

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Speaker 1: off the close sentance. Yeah, but the music was just.

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Speaker 5: So you're like what, I'm just imagining the fact that,

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Speaker 5: like theirs, they're cool.

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Speaker 3: Line wasn't heard.

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Speaker 5: I'm just imagining it looking like they're just like.

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Speaker 1: I was sitting there thinking about how to escape the

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Speaker 1: situation the door, but they got close to me and

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Speaker 1: one of them grabbed my hand and made me touch

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Speaker 1: his abs, I guess his torso again, you.

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Speaker 3: Didn't have abs, just torso torso.

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Speaker 1: Something you can do is no and then door. You

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Speaker 1: go to all your friends and you go and you

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Speaker 1: spin on all of them. He was all sweaty, and

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Speaker 1: that grossed me out because I hate I didn't even

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Speaker 1: grab my dad's hands when I was a kid if

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Speaker 1: he was sweaty. The juxtaposition of a male dancer and

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Speaker 1: then talking about your dad's hands is wild. So I

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Speaker 1: yanked my hand away and said, wait, let me go

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Speaker 1: to the bathroom first and I'll come back prepared, and

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Speaker 1: left to the bathroom. Why would you say that?

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Speaker 5: Oh god, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Oh god. Okay. They cheered, but they were so busy

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Speaker 1: entertaining themselves with the dancers that they didn't realize I

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Speaker 1: was literally gone. Well today I woke up to very

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Speaker 1: angry voicemails and texts about not appreciating the effort and

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Speaker 1: money they spent, and now I'm a bad friend for

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Speaker 1: abandoning them. I had agreed to take two girls home,

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Speaker 1: but when I left in a hurry, I forgot. My

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Speaker 1: best friend sent me a very long text saying she

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Speaker 1: is hurt and disappointed and she doesn't know if she

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Speaker 1: would come to my wedding if I don't apologize. So

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Speaker 1: this is all your fault.

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Speaker 4: It was fun and be like, I'm hurt that you

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Speaker 4: don't know me better as a friend. Yeah, right to

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Speaker 4: know that that's not what I wanted. I'm so hurt

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Speaker 4: that I was.

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Speaker 5: I spent so much time with my dancers that I

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Speaker 3: You didn't even know I was gone.

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Speaker 1: I do want to say, also, you were very clear

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so listen to me. Maybe I don't want you

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Speaker 5: at my wedding. Maybe you don't deserve to be in

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Speaker 1: After the bad friend award would not be going to you,

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Speaker 1: you know, but let this be a future reference. Like

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Speaker 1: in the future, you can just go, hey, leave, no,

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Speaker 1: like this is my thing, and you guys can go.

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Speaker 1: You'll be paid, but leave and.

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Speaker 3: Then they'll be fine. They'll just be like, but like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they.

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Speaker 3: For all our listeners. They're dancing, dancing.

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Speaker 1: So my friend said, I obviously didn't consider her feelings

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Speaker 1: when I ran away without saying anything. Because she leaves

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Speaker 1: today and I didn't even say bye. I understand that

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Speaker 1: they might be mad, but I feel like I made

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Speaker 1: myself clear when I said no spicy dancers. I don't

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Speaker 1: know if they thought I was kidding or just being

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Speaker 1: up tight. My fiance is glad that I left because

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Speaker 1: we agreed on no dancers or anything similar. My sister's

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Speaker 1: on my side, but I basically made half my wedding

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Speaker 1: party mad. I don't know if I should just apologize

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Speaker 1: to keep the peace because my wedding is literally next month.

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Speaker 1: Or my second option is to tell them to go

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Speaker 1: f themselves, which I want to do, but I'm still

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Speaker 1: angry and that would possibly ruin my friendships. So am

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Speaker 1: I the a hole? What should I do? And we

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Speaker 1: do have some comments, but I don't know if either

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Speaker 1: of those is the rat move. I think instead of

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Speaker 1: telling them to go f themselves, you can clearly lay

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Speaker 1: out your reasoning for doing that, and that you were

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Speaker 1: just so un comfortable that you're like, yeah, I spaced,

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Speaker 1: I couldn't. I didn't even think about you leaving tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: I didn't even think about that because me and my

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Speaker 1: future husband agreed that we wouldn't do this. So the

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Speaker 1: fact that you brought them there made me go, I

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Speaker 1: gotta get out of here.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like, this is not like, oh, I spent so

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Speaker 3: Believe you just like spot on it and left like

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Speaker 3: that's not what happened.

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Speaker 5: This is such a reasonable thing to be uncomfortable with,

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Speaker 5: and the fact that she isn't understanding that is red

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Speaker 5: flag of a friend and maybe just a person in general.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, general rule of like I don't know you're planning

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Speaker 1: someone's bachelorette party and they tell you, Hey, this is

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Speaker 1: the thing I don't want. Don't want that me, I

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Speaker 1: don't want that, Ben, don't do that.

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Speaker 3: Don't do that, don't do that thing.

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Speaker 1: How dare you turn this around on oh pe being

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Speaker 1: a bad friend? I tell you I want that to

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Speaker 4: Now, can someone gift the dancing together?

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Speaker 5: Please? Yeah, please make a load of every single time

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Speaker 5: that we've made that joke.

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Speaker 1: This spart montage comments Okay. Entrepreneur eighty forty nine says

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Speaker 1: I was very specific about not wanting diansas my fiance

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Speaker 1: is glad that I left because we agreed on no dances.

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Speaker 2: That was a quote.

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Speaker 1: The commentary says, it was your bachelorette and you made

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Speaker 1: clear boundaries beforehand. You also honored an agreement to your fiance.

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Speaker 1: Not the A hole and good for you. Silk Temptation

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Speaker 1: XC says, I totally agree with this. The night was

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Speaker 1: about you and they should have given you that much honor.

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Speaker 1: What they did was really selfish. Maverick J. Two K says,

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Speaker 1: not the a hole. You said, no, she went and

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Speaker 1: did something else, so she should be mad at herself.

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Speaker 1: You gave boundaries and she didn't respect them. Curious by

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Speaker 1: Moon says, ask them why they booked the dancers when

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Speaker 1: you had specifically told them not to. They planned something

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Speaker 1: you didn't want and are now complaining about the and

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Speaker 1: your leaving. There's no apology due from you, but your friends,

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Speaker 1: I say this in the loosest sense, should be embarrassed

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Speaker 1: and apologizing to you. You did not shout or tell

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Speaker 1: everyone the night is over. You simply left so they

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Speaker 1: could enjoy the act they booked. I suspect they wanted

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Speaker 1: the dancers in the first place. Explain to the two

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Speaker 1: you were giving a lift to all of this, and

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Speaker 1: if they wanted to send you the receipt for their

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Speaker 1: taxi or uber journey back, then you will reimburse them.

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Speaker 1: You have nothing to feel sorry for. If you were vegetarian,

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Speaker 1: would you eat a hog roast?

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Speaker 3: They booked no exactly.

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Speaker 1: This commentator continues, your feelings and boundaries were clearly laid out,

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Speaker 1: and they trampled over the first and ignored the second,

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Speaker 1: not the AO, and there is an update from five

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Speaker 1: days later. Yeah. I agree, it's crazy for them to

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Speaker 1: them straight up not to do this. But I also

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Speaker 1: think we could work on our ore. Like I won't

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Speaker 1: say you don't have a backbone because you left, but

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Speaker 1: it's like we're going putting our foot down, because it's

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Speaker 1: like as soon as that started, you could be like,

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Speaker 1: whoa no, no no, no, no no no, this isn't happening.

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Speaker 1: And even if they're like you could be like stop stop,

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Speaker 1: whoa stop, I'm sorry, there's been a mistake. You should go.

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Speaker 1: Both of you should go and you will be paid

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Speaker 1: and you will go and you go. What what was that? Guys?

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Speaker 1: What was that?

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Speaker 3: Ladies?

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Speaker 1: What was that?

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Speaker 3: I thought I was clear? I want to know.

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Speaker 5: Peepe's out at the vessel of Red Potty No dance

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Speaker 5: and peepees, no thank you.

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Speaker 1: No sweaty torsos.

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Speaker 3: No sweaty torsos that I have to.

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Speaker 1: Touch remind me of my dad's hand. I wasn't expecting

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Speaker 1: to be back so soon, but everything kind of resolved already,

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Speaker 1: so why not to clarify some things. Some people told

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Speaker 1: me not to tell my fiance, but I literally told

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Speaker 1: me to come home, as he always does when I

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Speaker 1: go out with friends. My best friend was never my

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Speaker 1: maid of honor. That's my older sister. She was a bridesmaid, though.

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Speaker 1: And people who told me to offer to reimburse for

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Speaker 1: the two girls ubers, why, well, just because you had

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Speaker 1: agree to take them home. But even that is like

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Speaker 1: don't remember if I gave my ex best friend a

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Speaker 1: fake name, but we'll call her Jenny or else I'll

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Speaker 1: get confused. I sent a long text in the group chat,

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Speaker 1: that they could have jeopardized my wedding and my relationship

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Speaker 1: with their little stunt. I also clarified that I wasn't

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Speaker 1: going to apologize for leaving a situation where I didn't

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Speaker 1: feel safe or good being there. I told him I

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Speaker 1: didn't care if they apologized anymore, because they were all

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Speaker 1: uninvited from my wedding anyway. Whoa, And they clearly didn't

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Speaker 1: care about me or what I wanted because the party

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Speaker 1: was obviously for them and not me.

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Speaker 5: I mean, listen and taking care of business. That sounds

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Speaker 5: like the right thing to do to me in a way.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think also going back to like the whole

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Speaker 1: planning rationale of it, where they were just like, yeah, whatever,

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Speaker 1: we'll just get it out of the way. It's like,

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Speaker 1: that's not really how that's supposed to vibe. You know.

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Speaker 1: It shouldn't be like, oh, yeah, but they got two

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Speaker 1: for one at the grocery story or whatever, we'll get

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Speaker 5: I really wonder how she worded it to those significant

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Speaker 3: But who knows. Yeah, I don't know, let's find out.

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Speaker 1: One of them said that Jenny told them the dancers

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Speaker 3: What is happening? What is the story turning into?

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Speaker 1: You hired your little brother's roommates to be spicy dancers

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Speaker 5: She was like, they worked so hard on their dances

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Speaker 1: You say bye bye, Jenny, goodbye bye bye. So you

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 1: The husband said he doesn't know if he can stay

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this guy's an idiot, but like

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Speaker 3: I think it's very possible that he did lie about that,

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Speaker 1: He's shown so passionable he didn't, but it sounds like trademark, like.

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Speaker 3: God, shut up, dude, shut up, dude. Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 1: It was kind of a long story. Sorry about that.

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I are as good as always, and

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Speaker 1: the wedding is still scheduled for late January, so everything's good.

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Speaker 1: I blocked Jenny aka I lost Jenny's number. No, wait,

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Speaker 1: However much your old friends weighed. Oh yeah, and then

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, no, well, carved marmally, it says it could

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Speaker 5: be why they were there, so Jenny could be icky.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I feel like.

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Speaker 5: If you are spotting your your younger brother's roommates to

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Speaker 5: I feel like there's not like the best intentions behind

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're a little creepy. You're a little creepy. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Everyone loves my girlfriend except my one friend.

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Speaker 3: Ask them why.

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Speaker 2: I, twenty nine became really interested in someone a thirty

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Speaker 2: to the r slash. Okay, storytime subured it. I'm Sophia,

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Speaker 2: I'm Angie, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice. Gooofully,

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Speaker 2: but we don't have all the answers really know what

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Speaker 2: the comments, and OP says backstory. I met Milina fake

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Speaker 2: Thought she was cute and approached her. We talked a little,

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Speaker 2: When she put her cart down first as the meal started,

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Speaker 2: I already thought she was great with my nephew. I

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Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, she eats, where'd all that food go?

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Speaker 2: I always laugh at that. She admitted she didn't want

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Speaker 2: She's very thin, so I don't know. She wanted our

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Speaker 2: She ordered the booze and we shared that too. It

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Speaker 2: of interacted soothing quiet time games. I didn't ask why.

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Speaker 2: Her response was, it's already hard out here. Do you

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Speaker 3: And like gift them stuff. It's like, okay, sure, whatever. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't like so for you just paid for everything.

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Speaker 2: I didn't think I could literally want to marry someone

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Speaker 2: By month five, I was learning more about her health issues,

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Speaker 2: like I needed to stay too late. Our morning decks

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Speaker 3: She's just goth snow white. She's gothic, creepy. I think

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Speaker 3: Creepy, she like creepy, like in a hot way, you

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Speaker 2: make things one hundred percent official with Melina. We didn't

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00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 2: want to rush into it in case life got in

439
00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 2: the way. I brought it up with my two best

440
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 2: friends who are dating. Good on them. They work well together,

441
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:45,359
Speaker 2: Megan and Alan. Megan is over the moon. Over the

442
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:47,960
Speaker 2: last two to four months, Milina has helped her aunt

443
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 2: Alan with their new kitten. She taught them bunting and

444
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:53,199
Speaker 2: helped them set up a cat apartment. She went with

445
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,000
Speaker 2: me and Alan to our weekend basketball game and was

446
00:22:56,040 --> 00:23:00,639
Speaker 2: the loudest cheer. It was hilarious and awesome. I invited

447
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 2: the rest of our group over, as dating Melina means

448
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:05,200
Speaker 2: she'll be around more, and I wanted to make sure

449
00:23:05,280 --> 00:23:08,199
Speaker 2: everyone was cool with the changing dynamic and if there

450
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: was anything that bothered anyone about Melina. By month three,

451
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:14,159
Speaker 2: we were hanging out more together and group outings started

452
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 2: at the end of the month three and more mid

453
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 2: month four. I know she can be a bit quirky

454
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:23,440
Speaker 2: and she may make someone mad by just smiling. No joke,

455
00:23:23,880 --> 00:23:26,480
Speaker 2: I saw it happen. It was weird. People suck. The

456
00:23:26,520 --> 00:23:29,440
Speaker 2: problem is another couple in our group, Andy and Cynthia.

457
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:32,680
Speaker 2: Not so much Andy, but Cynthia she had a lot

458
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 2: of issues with Melina. Molina carries Megan's kittens everywhere Megan

459
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,479
Speaker 2: asked her to. Molina was so excited she got a

460
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:44,880
Speaker 2: cat hoodie. It's purple. The cat's name is Amethyst. Molina

461
00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 2: miow's at the cat when it's in another room. That

462
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,439
Speaker 2: stops the kitten from howling. The kitten comes out and

463
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 2: just chills. Molina is short and Megan's chairs are really tall.

464
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 2: Molina likes being on the floor with the kitten. Both

465
00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:00,639
Speaker 2: women are happy. This is a big one. Lena doesn't

466
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 2: cover her periods. She won't cover the pad or the

467
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:07,040
Speaker 2: used tissues. She'll flush and wipe it all and shower.

468
00:24:07,119 --> 00:24:10,200
Speaker 2: She just doesn't roll toilet paper over pads and use tissues.

469
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 2: She bleeds two to three times a month.

470
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,639
Speaker 3: What that's she's got something. She had a lot of

471
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 3: medical issues.

472
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's true. Okay, that makes sense. That's a

473
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,720
Speaker 2: lot to waste. I don't have an issue with it.

474
00:24:22,000 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 2: I grew up with sisters and female cousins. They're normal.

475
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,200
Speaker 2: I'm happy she doesn't waste toilet paper covering what I

476
00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 2: already know she has. Megan started doing it, and Alan

477
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 2: didn't have an issue. He said, Megan is one hundred

478
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:35,879
Speaker 2: percent happier during that time of the month. She doesn't

479
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 2: feel as gross. He doesn't spend as much on toilet paper,

480
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 2: She cuddles with him more because, in his words, she said,

481
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 2: she can be herself and not feel like she's turning

482
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:46,560
Speaker 2: me off. I don't care. I'm happy to save money,

483
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:49,399
Speaker 2: and I'm happy she's happy. It's stupid. It's not like

484
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 2: I don't know she bleeds every month while others in

485
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:54,160
Speaker 2: our group don't really care either way, so long as

486
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:57,200
Speaker 2: they don't have to touch it. Cynthia is the only one

487
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,639
Speaker 2: making a stink about it. Molina's gift. This is a

488
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 2: separate point. Molina will buy things for us, our friends,

489
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 2: our families. If our families come over and see something

490
00:25:06,119 --> 00:25:08,760
Speaker 2: they like in use and it's hers, she asks them

491
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 2: to let her wash it up and they can take

492
00:25:10,480 --> 00:25:12,639
Speaker 2: it with them. They always ask if she's sure, and

493
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,359
Speaker 2: she shows them a shopping list. She said. Every time

494
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 2: something breaks or someone sees value in something she has

495
00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:21,040
Speaker 2: that she may want to replace, she will award herself

496
00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 2: a replacement. That usually means the goodwill. Since they have

497
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 2: a sight now everyone is happy at the end. This

498
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 2: is another point. Molina is tea time where she listens

499
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 2: to your problems in a pretend therapist office with a

500
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 2: beverage and a snack, complete with a notepad and couches.

501
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,119
Speaker 2: None of these are like that, but this one is

502
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,880
Speaker 2: just like, Oh, I don't even know how I feel

503
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 2: about this one. I'm just she just kind of does everything.

504
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,679
Speaker 5: She's a Disney princess. I feel like this is Barbie.

505
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:50,800
Speaker 5: This is Barbie. Yeah, this is Barbie.

506
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 2: She has all of the barbie jobs, all of the

507
00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:57,120
Speaker 2: jobs probably also an astronaut. Oh yeah, it's hilarious. Everyone

508
00:25:57,160 --> 00:26:00,400
Speaker 2: wants to turn even me. Sometimes we make a fake

509
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 2: problems just to hear her go. And how does that

510
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:08,200
Speaker 2: make you feel? Next point Melina's schmecksy eyes. Cynthia claims

511
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:10,639
Speaker 2: Malena looks at Andy and all the other guys in

512
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:15,160
Speaker 2: our group with flirty eyes. First, Melina is slowly going blind.

513
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:20,160
Speaker 2: She squints a lot. Oh my god, that's hilarious. She's

514
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:23,400
Speaker 2: like Cynthia's like, she keeps flirting. She keeps winking at

515
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:27,160
Speaker 2: my my boy friend. I actually don't even I didn't

516
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:28,679
Speaker 2: know that I was looking at him.

517
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 3: Sorry, I can tell that was him. He was a blur. Sorry,

518
00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 3: I'm bad.

519
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,639
Speaker 2: I know this and I don't care. I'm really attracted

520
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 2: to her. I'm in love. It was Megan who told

521
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 2: me Malina was giving me I love you eyes. We

522
00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 2: had our first kiss that hangout, and I was more

523
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:45,200
Speaker 2: nervous than her. I think her eyes looked huge though,

524
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,119
Speaker 2: like a cat. She spends a lot of time with animals,

525
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 2: so I think that's what that is. Not being able

526
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:54,360
Speaker 2: to touch Molina's hair. Second point or next point Molina

527
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:56,199
Speaker 2: is shared with Megan that there is an issue with

528
00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 2: anyone touching her hair. She doesn't like it. I don't

529
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 2: like touching air, So it never came up. By the

530
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:04,120
Speaker 2: end of the fourth month, she let Megan braid her hair.

531
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 2: Not a lot, but the ones the Queen's and the

532
00:27:06,359 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 2: movies where I thought it looked nice. She kept it

533
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:12,639
Speaker 2: in for days and let Megan take them out. She

534
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 2: looked happy both times, and I was happy. Cynthia thinks

535
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:20,160
Speaker 2: Malina is on substances. Her pupils are always dilated at

536
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 2: some point during the day. Maybe that's because she's going blind.

537
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:27,479
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think Cynthia's just got some sort of problem.

538
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: Yeah.

539
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 2: The lawyer Princess says, why do I feel like this

540
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,159
Speaker 2: is an able as an issue, because it feels like

541
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,440
Speaker 2: everything that Cynthia does or has to do because of

542
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 2: various different medical needs. Cynthia's like, ah ah, yeah, Cynthia's

543
00:27:41,280 --> 00:27:44,680
Speaker 2: just like everything in here has an explanation. And Cynthia's like, well,

544
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,399
Speaker 2: it must be something bad, and then it's not.

545
00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:49,840
Speaker 3: It's just just let her be, dude, let her be.

546
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:52,640
Speaker 2: I don't know what the issue is with Melina's eyes, myself,

547
00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:55,720
Speaker 2: her behavior, never changes. I don't think she's on substances.

548
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 2: On the one camp out we add, Cynthia claims she

549
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:03,679
Speaker 2: heard Melina be high and inappropriate. Sorry you heard her

550
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 2: being high?

551
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 3: Are you the one that's high?

552
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 2: How did you hear her being high?

553
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 3: Come on?

554
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: At that time, Alina had fallen asleep before us. The

555
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 2: inappropriate sounds were very soft, meowing sounds in her sleep

556
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:21,399
Speaker 2: that Cynthia described as moans. She meows in her sleep.

557
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: That's really funny. She's just like I thought. I was

558
00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 3: just talking to Megan's cat.

559
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 4: I think she might be a cat.

560
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,119
Speaker 2: Guy. I think she I think dating a cat. She

561
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:30,680
Speaker 2: is a cat.

562
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 3: She is a cat.

563
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 2: I have a friend who uh like I no, no, no.

564
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 2: When she sleeps, she'll go mean like literally no literally,

565
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 2: And I remember I was sleeping next to her because

566
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 2: we were like we were traveling, and I like what.

567
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 3: I was like, that's no joke. No, that is crazy

568
00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 3: a cartoon.

569
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 1: Literally mean, that's hilarious.

570
00:28:55,560 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 2: It was so funny that she doesn't respect about that

571
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 2: she acts like everyone's partner instead of a friend, and

572
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 2: that she thinks Molina is just using me for money,

573
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,719
Speaker 2: so she's shelling out. Now I'm sorry, Cynthia said, well,

574
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,480
Speaker 2: she's just a cold digger, that's why she's paying for everything.

575
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 5: I think Cynthia's just got a little crush on either

576
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 5: Opie and or Molina.

577
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so. I think she's big, big jealous,

578
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 2: big jealous, big time jealous. Wellina purposely doesn't wear pants

579
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 2: when we visit our Muslim friend, as his family doesn't

580
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 2: allow women to wear pants. Molina also wears a job

581
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 2: when we visit and sits with the women. Molina literally

582
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:35,480
Speaker 2: runs her outfit by our black friend. When we visit

583
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 2: church with her and her family. She brings donation, money, snacks,

584
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 2: and she always mentions how my friend and her family

585
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 2: are the reason she's here and so well fed.

586
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 3: They love it.

587
00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 2: It's like we discovered a pocket fairy. Molina can't have

588
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 2: spicy foods due to medical problems, but we'll have seconds

589
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 2: of our Korean friends mom's food, which is painfully spicy.

590
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:57,000
Speaker 2: His parents aren't bothered by the fact that she isn't Korean.

591
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 2: They're upset she's not dating him. She takes off her shoes,

592
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:03,040
Speaker 2: she brings gifts. It may seem like I'm biased, but

593
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 2: I read a lot of stories where people love each

594
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 2: other except for this or that issue. I feel I

595
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 2: won the jackpot. The fact that she takes things slow

596
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 2: lets me know she's not a serial dater. By our

597
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 2: third month, her phone rang while she was playing with

598
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 2: the kitten, and she asked me to tell her who

599
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:20,000
Speaker 2: it was. She asked me to reply to the text

600
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:22,240
Speaker 2: from her sister for her. If she's up to anything,

601
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 2: it's not obvious. She's very open. I told Cynthia that

602
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 2: she's probably not comfortable because she herself is new. But

603
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 2: we like Molina and we like her too. They're just

604
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 2: two very different people and that's okay. She fired back

605
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 2: with it's not okay that Melina makes pepper sauce for

606
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,960
Speaker 2: Andy that his grandma used to make, that she's overstepping,

607
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 2: That it's not okay that she makes Alan's favorite pound

608
00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 2: cake or Leyla's lamb curry, that Melina is obsessed. I

609
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 2: lost my temper and shouted, I think that makes me

610
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 2: the a hole. I told Cynthia that just because the

611
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 2: world doesn't revolve around her and someone actually wants to

612
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 2: be selfless doesn't mean they're being weird or overstepping. That

613
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 2: everyone has a mouth and can voice their opinion and

614
00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 2: no one has, and Andy didn't say anything. He likes

615
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 2: the pepper sauce and the teacakes. He shares with us too,

616
00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:14,520
Speaker 2: and talks about missing his mom she's in another country.

617
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:18,080
Speaker 2: I guess Malina acts like a mom sometimes, but it's

618
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 2: not overdone. She just makes people happy when she's around.

619
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 2: If I never would have taken the chance to talk

620
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 2: to her, I don't think my confidence, happiness, and my

621
00:31:26,760 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 2: world would have changed for the better. Damn I the

622
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:33,000
Speaker 2: ale for not stopping it. And that is where we'll

623
00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 2: pause for a moment. There isn't edit, But uh, do

624
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 2: you have any thoughts?

625
00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: Yeah?

626
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 3: I think Cynthia just needs to like whoa, whoa, whoa

627
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 3: back down.

628
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 1: Whoa whoa whoa.

629
00:31:42,480 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 6: Cynthia's a freaking deal like she's it really is just

630
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:50,760
Speaker 6: so obvious that it's not actually about Milina, like it's Yeah,

631
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,600
Speaker 6: it's totally jealousy. Cynthia's just not as good of a

632
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 6: person and doesn't understand how to be a good person

633
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 6: like Milina is. She just don't get it, so she's

634
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 6: trying to be like bab but it's not that good.

635
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 3: Actually it's bad this us need that.

636
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, well come on, no, she's trying to make stuff

637
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 2: up about why you shouldn't like Melina, and I think

638
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:10,720
Speaker 2: at this point you just say, hey, thanks for telling

639
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 2: me your opinion. But you know at this point staying

640
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 2: with Melina, So please don't continue to say stuff like this.

641
00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 3: Such a trap.

642
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 2: Such a trap, Cynthia, because she can say it now,

643
00:32:21,480 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 2: but you can also say I actually don't want to

644
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 2: hear this anymore because I'm not changing my mind about Malina.

645
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 2: But there is an edit. It's one twenty three am,

646
00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 2: and I will be texting everyone for a meeting later

647
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 2: without Cynthia, because no one is really talking about the situation.

648
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 2: It's not like the post where everyone is forcing me

649
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,400
Speaker 2: to apologize. I just feel bad for yelling at Cynthia

650
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 2: when she wasn't yelling. There is a little bit left

651
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 2: to this story. Any last last thoughts.

652
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:49,040
Speaker 3: No, we said what we needed, so what we said,

653
00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 3: let's hear it.

654
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 2: I did feel she was attacking Molina. In my mind.

655
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 1: I got lucky.

656
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: I got a girl who can handle special needs kids, who,

657
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,720
Speaker 2: after my sister did a background check on, feels happy

658
00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 2: that she can spend time to herself. My brother in

659
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 2: law passed away in a car accident just a lot

660
00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 2: of background pain and why my friend group is super important.

661
00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 2: Molina happily babysits number one SOS. She complained about my

662
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,480
Speaker 2: sister dropping them off last minute. She likes video games, animals,

663
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:19,760
Speaker 2: loves fantasy and dressing up. She can cook and bake.

664
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 2: It took six months for us to be an official

665
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:25,880
Speaker 2: exclusive couple. This was a slow process and I don't

666
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 2: want to ruin it or have her think she's doing

667
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 2: something wrong. I also know that for some people, certain

668
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 2: things are tied to certain behaviors, so I wanted to

669
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Speaker 2: be transparent. Sorry for the long post, and that is

670
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Speaker 2: the end of that story, but we've got another one.

671
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam.

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Speaker 3: My best friend regretted being with my ex.

675
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:48,719
Speaker 2: I wonder why.

676
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:53,800
Speaker 5: And trigger warning there is substance use in this story.

677
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Speaker 5: For some background, I have known we'll call her Bee

678
00:33:57,240 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 5: since we were eleven years old. We are currently twenty

679
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Speaker 5: six years old. I am five days older than her.

680
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 3: Wow.

681
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:06,480
Speaker 5: We met in sixth grade and were instantly best friends.

682
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:09,480
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684
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Speaker 5: over to that subreddit.

687
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Speaker 3: Submit your own stories. And I'm Angie, I'm Sophia, I'm Carly,

688
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,280
Speaker 3: and we're here to give great advice Goofily.

689
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 5: But we don't have all the answers. We just know

690
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:32,080
Speaker 5: what we would do in this situation, So let us

691
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:35,040
Speaker 5: know what you would do in the comments. So Op

692
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 5: says she ended up moving schools after seventh grade, but

693
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 5: we still kept in contact. We were the kind of

694
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 5: friends where we could not speak for a year and

695
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 5: then pick up right where we left off, and we're

696
00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 5: still closer than ever. Always called in each other's birthdays XYZ.

697
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 5: When we were around sixteen, she got kicked out and

698
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:53,560
Speaker 5: I let her stay at my house with her boyfriend.

699
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 5: My mom was out of the picture, and my stepdad

700
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 5: let me do whatever I wanted. A few years later,

701
00:34:58,360 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 5: when I was homeless and had nothing at eighteen, she

702
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,239
Speaker 5: was there for me and let me sleep in her car.

703
00:35:03,719 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 5: We had each other's back through everything and would be

704
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,319
Speaker 5: there at the drop of a hat if the other

705
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 5: needed help. Over the next several years, we were seeing

706
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 5: each other pretty regularly. We were all using substances and

707
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 5: shared the same circle. I've been cleaned for five years now.

708
00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,840
Speaker 5: In twenty eighteen, when Bee and I were nineteen, I

709
00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 5: got together with my ex we'll call him Harold, who

710
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:27,720
Speaker 5: was also nineteen. B and I had both known Harold

711
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 5: for two years before this. Harold and I had been

712
00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 5: really close friends, and I knew that he thought he

713
00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 5: was cute, which is relevant to the story. B. Harold

714
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 5: and I hung out all the time during the later

715
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 5: parts of twenty twenty and into twenty twenty one. Harold

716
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 5: and Be even hung out by themselves when I was

717
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 5: at work towards the end. I completely trusted Bee with

718
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:49,920
Speaker 5: my whole heart and never knew that she would do

719
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 5: what she did to me.

720
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 2: What did she do?

721
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 5: I believe that Harold and I were soulmates. I've never

722
00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 5: loved anyone the way I loved him. But it was

723
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,279
Speaker 5: not the right time. He had a lot of things

724
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:03,920
Speaker 5: he needed to work through and heal from. In twenty eighteen,

725
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,360
Speaker 5: about five months before we got together, his best friend

726
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 5: passed away right in front of him. Oh my gosh.

727
00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:13,759
Speaker 5: That gave him a lot of issues. He developed schizophrenia WHOA.

728
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 5: His substance use was out of control, which made everything worse.

729
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 5: I loved him so much and wanted us to have

730
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:22,080
Speaker 5: a normal life. I got clean, got my job back,

731
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,359
Speaker 5: and tried to help us out of the situation. But

732
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 5: it got to a point that I could not handle

733
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 5: the heartache anymore, so I moved out and lived with

734
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,480
Speaker 5: my dad. Two days later, Harold broke up with me.

735
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 5: When this happened, I texted B and told her what

736
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:36,839
Speaker 5: happened and that I was going to need her now

737
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 5: more than ever. Despite how toxic Harold and I's relationship was,

738
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,399
Speaker 5: I wanted it to work so badly. The substance use

739
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,719
Speaker 5: was the only thing holding us back. Really, I was

740
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:49,319
Speaker 5: devastated now. B had been with us constantly for like

741
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 5: the last year and saw firsthand all the things I

742
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:52,960
Speaker 5: went through with Harold.

743
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 2: She was like, Yeah, that's the guy for me.

744
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:56,919
Speaker 3: Ah, what a great guy.

745
00:36:56,960 --> 00:37:00,319
Speaker 2: Harold is emotionally unavailable. That's the guy for me.

746
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 5: But after Harold and I broke up, I drove to

747
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 5: his house to get my things and B was there.

748
00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 5: I thought it odd, but if they can be friends,

749
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 5: I'm not going to dictate that. After I got my things.

750
00:37:13,600 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 5: I was sitting in my car and be sat with me.

751
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:18,000
Speaker 5: She asked, if he gets clean, would you.

752
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:18,960
Speaker 3: Give him another chance?

753
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 5: I said no, that any kind of future relationship would

754
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 5: be tainted by all this history. In hindsight, she wanted

755
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:27,240
Speaker 5: to make sure the playing field was clear.

756
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:30,359
Speaker 2: She's like, if these circumstances were met, would you date him?

757
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 3: Would you go back? Yeah?

758
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:34,320
Speaker 2: I'm just wondering, right, for no reason.

759
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 5: So if you wouldn't go back, then, like he's like singable,

760
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:39,880
Speaker 5: he can date like anyone.

761
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like you wouldn't care if he was dating someone

762
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 2: or and like you would wanted to be happy, right,

763
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 2: and you'd probably prefer that he was dating someone that

764
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:48,200
Speaker 2: you know.

765
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 3: Right.

766
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 5: About a week later, I had been struggling to get

767
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 5: more than one short text message from her here and there.

768
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 5: Finally she texted me to let me know that she

769
00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 5: and Harold had been seeing each other and how she

770
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 5: was so sorry and hoped that we could still be friends.

771
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 3: I was livid.

772
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 5: How could she do that to me after I told

773
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:11,160
Speaker 5: her I needed her, after she watched me struggle. I

774
00:38:11,280 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 5: was blindsided because I never expected her to go for him.

775
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 5: She knew I loved him so much and wanted it

776
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:20,160
Speaker 5: to work. I knew he would pursue her. He was

777
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,040
Speaker 5: very promiscuous, and they were hanging out all the time

778
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 5: without me.

779
00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:24,720
Speaker 3: I called her out.

780
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 5: I knew they had been sleeping together behind my bag.

781
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:30,280
Speaker 3: Wait, so this is post breakup.

782
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 5: I believe so. But LP is still friends with B

783
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,560
Speaker 5: at this time. Yeah, it's still like girl code. It's

784
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 5: not cheating, but his girl yite. Yeah, never break girl code.

785
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:43,600
Speaker 5: Come on people, girl code one on one, never break it,

786
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 5: don't break it. I noticed a change in her behavior

787
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:48,800
Speaker 5: in the weeks leading up to Harold and I's breakup,

788
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 5: but I didn't put together until she told me that

789
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 5: they were seeing each other. They would hang out all

790
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:55,720
Speaker 5: day when I was at work, and then I would

791
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:58,800
Speaker 5: get home and Bee would leave thirty minutes later, saying

792
00:38:58,960 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 5: I was just hanging around waiting for you to get

793
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 5: home so I could say hi. That was out of

794
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,839
Speaker 5: character for her. Normally she would hang out and stay

795
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:08,760
Speaker 5: the night for days. Why was she suddenly leaving early

796
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:12,000
Speaker 5: every single day, sometimes not even staying until I got

797
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:14,879
Speaker 5: home because she just had to go. I know her,

798
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 5: she didn't have anything going on in her life. She

799
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 5: was just guilty. I told her that I never wanted

800
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:21,719
Speaker 5: to speak to her again and that I could not

801
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,040
Speaker 5: believe she would ever do such a thing to me.

802
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 5: I did use some choice words and was pretty mean,

803
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:29,480
Speaker 5: which wasn't okay regardless of how e ft up this was,

804
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,920
Speaker 5: but I blocked her on everything. I met someone new.

805
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 3: Got married and had a baby. A baby.

806
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 5: About fourteen months after going no contact, in mid twenty

807
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 5: twenty two, Bee got hold of my mother asking for

808
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 5: my number because she had to talk to me. My

809
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 5: mom called me to tell me that she was inquiring

810
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 5: about me. I told my mom to give her my

811
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,480
Speaker 5: number because I was curious what she even wanted. Bee

812
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 5: sent me a message apologizing for being a bad friend

813
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 5: and that she was so lost without me. She said

814
00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:01,839
Speaker 5: I was the best friend I ever had, and that

815
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:05,000
Speaker 5: she didn't know why she ever did what she did

816
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:05,800
Speaker 5: too bad.

817
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 2: You did it.

818
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:08,040
Speaker 3: You did it, girl, You did it.

819
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:09,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know why you did it, but you did.

820
00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 5: She told me she was unhappy with Harold and that

821
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 5: mistreatment was going on. Their substance use was worse than ever,

822
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 5: and she was afraid for their lives. I told her

823
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 5: that I didn't know if I could forgive her, but

824
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 5: I said that I would talk to her and maybe

825
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 5: we could eventually make amends because I missed her friendship.

826
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 2: It's just crazy. Well, go ahead. I was just saying,

827
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:34,240
Speaker 2: it's just crazy to me for her to see every

828
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 2: problem in your guys's relationship and also probably have you

829
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:41,319
Speaker 2: detail what was going on, yeah, and talk about it

830
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,720
Speaker 2: and say I left him because of the substance issues

831
00:40:43,719 --> 00:40:47,239
Speaker 2: and this and this and stuff, and then be surprised

832
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:48,720
Speaker 2: that that happened with her.

833
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:50,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like, well, I mean, I don't really know

834
00:40:50,960 --> 00:40:53,839
Speaker 5: why you're coming to me for help when, like I mean,

835
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,480
Speaker 5: when didn't do that, you kind of erase the friendship

836
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:59,360
Speaker 5: and we thought it was post breakup, but then immediately

837
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 5: after there was a sentence that said they had been

838
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 5: like hanging out more in a few weeks leading up

839
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:05,640
Speaker 5: to the breakup.

840
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 3: But we don't technically know if that means there.

841
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 2: Is a little bit of emotional cheating press at the

842
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 2: very least.

843
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 5: But with how she's saying it and how she is

844
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 5: like so betrayed by this, I'm kind of assuming that

845
00:41:19,360 --> 00:41:23,480
Speaker 5: some of the spicy relations were overlapping with her relationship

846
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:27,680
Speaker 5: with Harold potentially, and we have a little bit more

847
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 5: to this story. So well, Be and Harold would be

848
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 5: on and off, and she couldn't stay away from him.

849
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 5: In twenty twenty three, she went to rehab in California

850
00:41:37,360 --> 00:41:39,799
Speaker 5: and got stranded there. In the fall of twenty twenty three,

851
00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 5: Harold's stepmother reached out to me to apologize for the

852
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:45,120
Speaker 5: way she treated me and told me that she had

853
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 5: since learned that Harold is the toxic one.

854
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,800
Speaker 3: She's like I and realized.

855
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 2: It took me a minute. Yeah, but I'm on this.

856
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 2: We're on the same page.

857
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:58,160
Speaker 3: Now we're on the same page. My bad, Min'm so sorry.

858
00:41:58,239 --> 00:41:59,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right.

859
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,600
Speaker 5: She told me Harold and b were living in her house.

860
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:05,600
Speaker 5: When I learned this, I messaged to Be. I told

861
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 5: her that I was through. She said she wanted to

862
00:42:08,719 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 5: fix our friendship, but then would ignore me all the

863
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 5: time and lie, saying that she and Harold were done

864
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 5: for good.

865
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,800
Speaker 3: Come to find out she's living with him. I told

866
00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:19,080
Speaker 3: her that that was it.

867
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 5: We couldn't fix our friendship, and that's the last thing

868
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 5: I ever said to her.

869
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 3: She never even answered.

870
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:26,960
Speaker 5: It's been five years since the start of all this,

871
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 5: and Be and Harold are still together, but I have

872
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 5: a family and my life was saved. So I guess

873
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:34,440
Speaker 5: I'm the real winner. I'm sorry if the story is

874
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:37,760
Speaker 5: all over the place. I mean, yeah, you're definitely the winner, totally.

875
00:42:37,920 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 2: Like you got out of that relationship and now seemed

876
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 2: to be in a much better place, whereas b is

877
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 2: in the place that you were when you were dating Harold. Yeah,

878
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:52,960
Speaker 2: which didn't seem positive. She lost your friendship, she lost

879
00:42:53,440 --> 00:42:56,920
Speaker 2: like a peaceful life, as it seems. Yeah, you definitely

880
00:42:56,960 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 2: won this. It's just kind of like stupid to look for.

881
00:43:00,239 --> 00:43:03,399
Speaker 5: Help in the hands of like someone that.

882
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 3: You screwed over, so screwing the Rex, Yeah exactly.

883
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, you guys were friends. Yeah, you are in a

884
00:43:11,160 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 5: tough time right now. But girl, look at what you did.

885
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 5: This is not someone that you can go to for

886
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 5: help anymore.

887
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 2: You just can't.

888
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story. We've got another

889
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Speaker 3: one coming up.

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00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,160
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892
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 2: My friend ditched my wedding after accepting responsibilities.

893
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:33,360
Speaker 3: You can't quit after you just got the job.

894
00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 2: I twenty nine female have been in no contact with

895
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:40,040
Speaker 2: one of my twenty eight female bridesmaids ever since the

896
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 2: wedding day. By the way, this comes from Prize Cheesecake

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Speaker 2: Separate it. I'm Sophia, I'm Angie, I'm Carly, and we're

900
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 2: here to give good advice. Goofley, but we don't have

901
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 2: all the answers.

902
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 3: We only know what.

903
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 2: We'd do, So let us know what you would do

904
00:43:55,520 --> 00:44:00,120
Speaker 2: in the comments, and OP says I met my bride'smaid.

905
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 2: We will call her Kathy through my friend, an ex coworker.

906
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:07,240
Speaker 2: Ever since hanging out, our vibes just clicked. We always

907
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 2: had a good time together and I genuinely thought she

908
00:44:09,680 --> 00:44:12,160
Speaker 2: was cool and fun. She lives in another state and

909
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 2: would come visit for our birthdays for the previous two years,

910
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 2: and I thought that was so sweet of her to

911
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,040
Speaker 2: put in the effort for our friendship. When she was

912
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 2: not visiting, we would stay in touch through social media,

913
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,719
Speaker 2: keep each other updated, and even have phone calls from

914
00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:28,919
Speaker 2: time to time. Cathy recently got married after six months

915
00:44:28,920 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 2: of meeting a guy. It was an arranged marriage.

916
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 3: Me and my.

917
00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:35,560
Speaker 2: Coworker and friend thought it was too soon, but we

918
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 2: didn't say anything. Whenever we asked how he was and

919
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:41,760
Speaker 2: how she was, she would say she was genuinely happy,

920
00:44:42,040 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 2: and that was all that was important for us, that

921
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 2: she was happy. Two years ago, on one of her visits,

922
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:49,800
Speaker 2: I made her waffles I usually bake and cook for

923
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 2: my friends, and she made a comment that when I

924
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 2: get married, she would make a speech and tell everyone

925
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:57,279
Speaker 2: that I make the best waffles. I told her I

926
00:44:57,280 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 2: would hold her up to it, and she agreed. Fast

927
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 2: forward to June twenty twenty five, my boyfriend of one

928
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:07,440
Speaker 2: year proposed I wanted to have a small, intimate wedding

929
00:45:07,480 --> 00:45:10,240
Speaker 2: with forty five guests in two months, and I asked

930
00:45:10,239 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 2: her to be my bridesmaid. She said yes. She asked

931
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 2: if there was anything she could help with, even though

932
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 2: she was far away. I said it was okay, and

933
00:45:17,719 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 2: I already had vendors, decorp, budget and dress sorted out,

934
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,840
Speaker 2: but I would need help the night before with prepping

935
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 2: the venue. Since she is outspoken and cheerful, I asked

936
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 2: if she could emc along with the best man. She

937
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 2: agreed and said she would do it. I asked her

938
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:34,759
Speaker 2: if she could do the speech. She promised two years ago.

939
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 2: She said her perspective on marriage was not the greatest

940
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:39,840
Speaker 2: at the moment, and she did not want it to

941
00:45:39,920 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 2: rub off on me, so she could not but just

942
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,400
Speaker 2: write something that is not depressing.

943
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 3: I guess, right, that's all. I don't know. I don't know.

944
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:50,760
Speaker 2: I feel like you don't have to be like marriage

945
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 2: is stupid and I'd never do it. But I guess

946
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 2: it's good that you're getting married, op right. I feel

947
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 2: like we could avoid doing that.

948
00:45:58,040 --> 00:45:58,760
Speaker 3: I agree.

949
00:45:59,160 --> 00:46:01,720
Speaker 2: I was sad, but there was no point forcing someone

950
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 2: to make a speech. She arrived the day before and me,

951
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:08,360
Speaker 2: my friend and coworker Kathy, the groomsmen, and my family

952
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:11,319
Speaker 2: all started decorating around nine pm. I had to work

953
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:14,359
Speaker 2: until six pm that day. I was concerned with how

954
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:17,759
Speaker 2: our relationship was doing after her response last time, so

955
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:20,240
Speaker 2: I pulled her aside and talked to her about it again.

956
00:46:20,480 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 2: She said it was nothing and that she was happy,

957
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:25,080
Speaker 2: but it was just hard adjusting to living with someone.

958
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 2: All throughout decorating the day before my wedding, she kept

959
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 2: making negative comments about getting married, like say goodbye to freedom,

960
00:46:33,200 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 2: or marriage takes away a girl's spark for life, and

961
00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:39,360
Speaker 2: many more. Girl, get a grip.

962
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:40,839
Speaker 3: Why is this guy?

963
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 2: Oh, he's like standing behind like Debbie Downer, and she's

964
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 2: standing behind opee going lost marriages and in divorce.

965
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:53,080
Speaker 3: Exactly, that's exactly what this is.

966
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 2: My fiance actually got concerned and said she sounded like

967
00:46:56,480 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 2: she was really not happy in her marriage. I thought

968
00:46:59,600 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 2: she had been divorced, she's currently in a marriage.

969
00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:05,760
Speaker 3: She just looking for a divorce.

970
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:07,640
Speaker 2: He also said it was not the time to be

971
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 2: saying things like that when her friend me was excited

972
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:14,439
Speaker 2: to get married. The next day, around one am, all

973
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 2: the tables were set up and we just had to

974
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 2: put up a bit more decorations on the ceiling. She

975
00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 2: said she had to go home, and she had been

976
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 2: up since three am for the flight. I really wanted

977
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:25,879
Speaker 2: to go home as well, but I had to finish,

978
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:28,360
Speaker 2: and her going home meant my maid of honor my

979
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:31,960
Speaker 2: friend an ex coworker, at a driver since she did

980
00:47:31,960 --> 00:47:34,680
Speaker 2: not have a car, meaning we would lose two sets

981
00:47:34,680 --> 00:47:37,719
Speaker 2: of helping hands. I thought it was understandable and I

982
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 2: would rather her rest so she could emcee comfortably. The

983
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 2: next day, I slept at six am after decorating and

984
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 2: had to wake up at nine Am. On the day

985
00:47:46,239 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 2: of the wedding, I gave her the will you be

986
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 2: my Bridesmaid gift as I was not able to give

987
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:52,759
Speaker 2: it to her earlier since she was not here. She

988
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 2: just said, oh, Am, I the only one who got this,

989
00:47:55,520 --> 00:47:58,879
Speaker 2: and I said no, all the other bridesmaids got it too.

990
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 2: She just put it aside without a thank you. We

991
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 2: were having a break while getting our hair and makeup done,

992
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:06,080
Speaker 2: so I thought she was just busy and forgot to

993
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 2: say thank you. Mid getting ready, she showed me a

994
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 2: message from her husband saying they should eat dinner with

995
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 2: their relatives the night of the wedding. I said, you

996
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 2: should tell him no, as you have come here for

997
00:48:17,760 --> 00:48:21,439
Speaker 2: my wedding not to have dinner with them, and you'll

998
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,439
Speaker 2: be em seeing so I need you. They just saw

999
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 2: these relatives a week before, so it wasn't like they

1000
00:48:26,800 --> 00:48:29,319
Speaker 2: had not seen each other in a long time and

1001
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,800
Speaker 2: she had a responsibility. Yeah, He's like, I, okay, yeah, Actually,

1002
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 2: you're one of my bridesmaids, so you're gonna have to

1003
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 2: be here, right.

1004
00:48:38,360 --> 00:48:40,719
Speaker 3: Actually I told you to say the day you can't

1005
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 3: just like yeah, oh yeah, yeah, okay, I'll just like

1006
00:48:43,560 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 3: go eat with you. Guys.

1007
00:48:44,680 --> 00:48:46,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, like, I'll be there during the day and then

1008
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:49,719
Speaker 2: like aet six, I'll probably leave for dinner and I'll

1009
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 2: be like hello. She said she would try, but there

1010
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 2: was nothing she could do if her husband really wanted to.

1011
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:57,920
Speaker 2: What do you mean there's nothing you can do? You

1012
00:48:57,960 --> 00:49:00,360
Speaker 2: even like your husband. You keep saying I don't like

1013
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 2: this guy, and now you're saying, oh, well, I have

1014
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 2: to get dinner with his parents if he asks me to.

1015
00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 3: This is the lack of freedom she was talking about.

1016
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:10,359
Speaker 2: Yes, so I thought that was such a douche move

1017
00:49:10,480 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 2: of her husband, knowing her friend was getting married and

1018
00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 2: she had responsibilities or would want to spend time with us.

1019
00:49:16,440 --> 00:49:18,640
Speaker 2: After the ceremonies, she came up to me and said,

1020
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:21,000
Speaker 2: I think you know what I'm gonna say. I did

1021
00:49:21,040 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 2: not want it to ruin the day, so I just

1022
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 2: said goodbye and thank you. But deep inside I felt

1023
00:49:26,840 --> 00:49:29,240
Speaker 2: really bad that she left the best man by himself

1024
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,839
Speaker 2: with the MC role. She stepped down from her role

1025
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:34,640
Speaker 2: without even letting me know. And even though her husband

1026
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 2: said that she was not going to celebrate with me

1027
00:49:36,840 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 2: and she did not choose me. There is a little

1028
00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:42,920
Speaker 2: bit left to this story. Any final thoughts.

1029
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:45,960
Speaker 3: A boo boo boo woohoo.

1030
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:48,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, does she know her again, isn't she like it's

1031
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:51,799
Speaker 2: like a coworker's friend that she met and like got

1032
00:49:51,840 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 2: along with really well, and I became friends with cool well.

1033
00:49:56,000 --> 00:49:58,200
Speaker 5: Good thing about friends is that you can become friends

1034
00:49:58,239 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 5: with them and you could not.

1035
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:02,440
Speaker 2: Become unbecome friends with them. Because let's just drop this

1036
00:50:03,000 --> 00:50:06,040
Speaker 2: person because she is not a good friend at all,

1037
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 2: not at all. But there is a little bit leved

1038
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 2: to the story. It has been two months and she

1039
00:50:11,880 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 2: just messaged me now saying sorry girl, and she has

1040
00:50:14,960 --> 00:50:17,640
Speaker 2: not paid her part for hair and makeup yet. The

1041
00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:20,640
Speaker 2: apology feels very insincere, and I am still a little

1042
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:23,040
Speaker 2: hurt by what she and her husband did. I saw

1043
00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:25,760
Speaker 2: photos of them posing at the ceremony and their table.

1044
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 2: They were all lovey dovey, but he was saying they

1045
00:50:28,040 --> 00:50:30,080
Speaker 2: had to go soon so they would not be late

1046
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:32,600
Speaker 2: for dinner. Am I the ale for not replying to

1047
00:50:32,640 --> 00:50:34,919
Speaker 2: her and thinking of ending the friendship because I feel

1048
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:36,840
Speaker 2: like I do not really mean much to her.

1049
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 1: I know you would not be the ale for that.

1050
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:43,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, not at all, because you don't mean much to her.

1051
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 2: Clearly by her actions. Yeah, exactly, But that's the end

1052
00:50:47,719 --> 00:50:50,560
Speaker 2: of that story. And we've got some comments from the video.

1053
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:53,120
Speaker 2: My mother in law ruined my wedding and this was

1054
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:57,720
Speaker 2: posted October twenty fifth, twenty twenty five. Tildr Opie's future

1055
00:50:57,719 --> 00:51:01,359
Speaker 2: mother in law spirals before the wedding creepy I left

1056
00:51:01,440 --> 00:51:04,919
Speaker 2: him first shirt. I remember this one, crossing boundaries, wearing

1057
00:51:05,000 --> 00:51:09,479
Speaker 2: white and constantly playing the victim. She causes scenes during

1058
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 2: the wedding weekend and tries to steal attention, forcing Opi

1059
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:16,320
Speaker 2: and her husband to set firm boundaries after the honeymoon.

1060
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:18,880
Speaker 2: If you're curious to know the full story, you can

1061
00:51:18,920 --> 00:51:22,319
Speaker 2: go watch the full video. And we've got some comments.

1062
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, comment one by TMS sixty.

1063
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 2: Five eighty two.

1064
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 4: Mother in law in first story is mildly annoying, but

1065
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:31,879
Speaker 4: I also feel like bride went out of the way

1066
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 4: to make her not feel included. She told her she

1067
00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:37,760
Speaker 4: could go dress shopping, then didn't take her without saying anything.

1068
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:42,120
Speaker 4: I'm really curious what financial issues caused the divorce that

1069
00:51:42,239 --> 00:51:44,400
Speaker 4: led father in law to a happy, secure marriage and

1070
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 4: mother in law to a financially precarious place.

1071
00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 5: I don't remember all of those details from that story,

1072
00:51:50,640 --> 00:51:54,239
Speaker 5: but yeah, I think perspective, you have to watch the

1073
00:51:54,320 --> 00:51:54,920
Speaker 5: video again.

1074
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:55,439
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1075
00:51:55,600 --> 00:52:01,560
Speaker 4: Comment to by Kaylie Gustavenson eleven s op in first

1076
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:05,239
Speaker 4: story is a raging red flag, literally doing things to

1077
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:09,040
Speaker 4: cause issues and now already thinking about restricting her from

1078
00:52:09,080 --> 00:52:12,320
Speaker 4: your future kids. Mother in law had her annoying faults

1079
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 4: as well, but Opie's on another level.

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00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 2: Interesting.

1081
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:17,440
Speaker 5: I think I remember that story, but I do not

1082
00:52:17,480 --> 00:52:19,320
Speaker 5: remember Opee being that bad, nor do I.

1083
00:52:19,719 --> 00:52:22,520
Speaker 2: That's crazy, I don't remember ope being that bad. But yeh,

1084
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:24,240
Speaker 2: so I don't remember that story fully.

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Speaker 5: I remember the the mother in law being annoying and

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Speaker 5: being weird and stuff.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but like I wonder what did yeah?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 4: And coming three by cat Angeline. I'll probably get jumped

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Speaker 4: on in the comments, but I feel like all these

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Speaker 4: things that mother in law has done are being blown

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Speaker 4: out of proportion. I might be wrong, but it feels

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Speaker 4: like the wife is just looking for things to be

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Speaker 4: upset about at this point, and none of the things

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Speaker 4: she is upset about with maybe the exception of the dress,

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Speaker 4: have been big things. Mother in law could have done

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Speaker 4: so much worse. I personally wouldn't have let any of

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Speaker 4: this stuff bother me especially since I know that the

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Speaker 4: mother in law is emotionally hurting right now. I feel

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Speaker 4: bad for her and wish that the fiance would have

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Speaker 4: tried to make mother in law feel better instead of

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Speaker 4: just getting annoyed at everything.

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Speaker 5: Interesting I really like wanted me to.

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Speaker 3: And so should you or watch.

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Speaker 2: It for the first time.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let us know what you guys think.

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Speaker 5: Or if you guys remember it and you're in the

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Speaker 5: chat right now, let us know, because I truly don't

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Speaker 5: remember it like that.

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Speaker 3: I remember being on Op's side.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's the end of those comments and the

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Speaker 2: end of that episode. So if you love us, make

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Speaker 2: sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 3: We love you and see tomorrow.