WEBVTT - Alone is Not a Bad Word with Chelsea’s Sisters, Simone and Shoshanna 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:04.200 Hello, Catherine, Hi Chelsea, how are you? 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:10.160 I am coming to you live from Los Angeles, Los Angeles. 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:12.560 I can't believe it, you're actually here in your house. 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:15.160 I know I'm not from Los Angeles. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:15.360 I'm so. 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:19.239 I did Nueva yure Si, but I'm Pedro Estoi and 0:00:19.360 --> 0:00:20.079 Los Angeles. 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:21.279 I am. 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:23.880 I have a new assistant who only speaks Spanish to me, 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:26.439 and I'm hoping that he will cut it out because 0:00:26.520 --> 0:00:29.280 we are not communicating well. I'm like, I only want 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:31.520 you to speak Spanish and now then like three sentences in, 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:32.639 I'm like, okay, a little bit of. 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:35.400 English, you know what, starting with Panglish is fine. 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:37.479 But I'm home. I'm a home in Los Angeles. I 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:38.400 haven't been here in forever. 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:41.919 My house is still not done, but I'm living in it, 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:45.760 and Doug is here. And Doug loves me, and that 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:47.960 is really the most important part of this story. 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:49.640 Are you two having a love reconnection. 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:52.680 He's so sweet, he loves me, He gets into bed, 0:00:52.760 --> 0:00:55.080 we play together, he follows me everywhere. 0:00:55.080 --> 0:00:56.760 I mean, this is exactly what I was hoping for. 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:58.640 And my bell, he does not give a shit about 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:00.880 my bell, and that is exactly what I was looking. 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:02.080 For he's bonded with you. 0:01:02.440 --> 0:01:05.240 Yeah. Yeah, we have a really ridiculous episode today. 0:01:05.280 --> 0:01:07.600 And I want to preface this episode by telling our 0:01:07.680 --> 0:01:11.319 listeners that I had my sisters back on the podcast 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:14.480 because everybody really seemed to enjoy it last time, and 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:16.959 everyone really enjoyed my niece episode, so. 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:19.480 I mistakenly booked them again. 0:01:19.760 --> 0:01:24.400 And one of them is a hot fucking mess during 0:01:24.480 --> 0:01:27.720 this entire podcast, and I can't wait for you guys 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:32.000 to figure out which person that is and understand why. 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:35.720 The other sister, who was also on this podcast episode, 0:01:36.600 --> 0:01:39.840 has since told me they are no longer available to 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:41.520 do podcast. 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:44.200 When she said that is it. 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:48.160 We're done with your podcast and you were done with us. 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:50.440 I'm so sad. We love them, we love them on 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:51.120 the podcast. 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:54.480 I cannot believe this episode. I hope you guys enjoy it, 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:58.160 and please let us know your thoughts. Please welcome Shoshana 0:01:58.160 --> 0:01:59.200 and Simone Handler. 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:06.800 Hello, what are we talking about? 0:02:07.320 --> 0:02:07.760 You guys? 0:02:08.040 --> 0:02:10.639 We're talking You guys are doing the same fucking thing 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:14.280 we did last time. We're giving counseling with Catherine. We're 0:02:14.320 --> 0:02:16.120 taking live callers. 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:19.760 Before that, before the call, we're gonna well, I don't know. 0:02:19.760 --> 0:02:20.720 What did you take today? 0:02:20.800 --> 0:02:24.640 Anything special for your performance this afternoon? Are you on 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:26.959 anything that we need to know about, Shshana. 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:30.600 No, I'm not anything. That's a lie. I think you 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:31.280 took something. 0:02:32.600 --> 0:02:33.239 No, I didn't. 0:02:33.680 --> 0:02:36.480 What would you prescribe doctor Handler a beta blocker? I 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:39.520 would prescribe her a beta blocker. Actually, I've prescribed Simone 0:02:39.600 --> 0:02:43.800 a beta blocker before and with what success. Actually, for 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:49.960 anyone who's listening, these are my two sisters, Simone and yes, Shashaana, 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:52.200 I know that you're on something. I can tell by 0:02:52.240 --> 0:02:55.320 the smile on your face that you took something, and 0:02:55.639 --> 0:02:58.040 that's okay. You're allowed to take something if it calms 0:02:58.040 --> 0:02:59.480 your nerves to talk to people. 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:01.320 Okay, let's go, do you. 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:04.800 Anyway? 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:08.840 These are my sisters, Simone and Shoshana, and they are 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.160 back by popular demand. 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:12.960 For ciss Cissy Advice. 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:15.639 Truly popular, like your episode is one of our most 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:16.679 listened to last year. 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:18.880 Don't tell them they're gonna want to get into my 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:21.240 cash flow if they know that, so don't give them 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:22.320 too much background. 0:03:22.360 --> 0:03:25.079 Okay, please, Catherine, keep it to yourself. 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:27.680 Girls, you know what we can talk about. 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:29.880 Actually, to open up our episode today, we're going to 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:31.680 talk about the fact that this was funny. 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.800 I have a friend, Sophie. 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:36.880 She came to visit us on vacation and she she 0:03:37.080 --> 0:03:39.640 was telling us about an recent experience she had at 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:44.000 work getting an anonymous three sixty review. So the people 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:47.800 that report to you or her in her case, reviewed 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:51.840 her performance as a CEO and gave her feedback about herself. 0:03:52.040 --> 0:03:53.800 But I don't know why it's called an anonymous three 0:03:53.880 --> 0:03:55.040 sixty because it's not that. 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:57.120 It's pretty obvious telling, you know. 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:00.440 So anyway, she pitched the idea at our life summer 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:02.960 vacation on the Vineyard when we were all together that 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:06.000 we should do a performance anonymous three sixty review our 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.800 family members our family members to see who fucking has 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:12.040 earned the right to be on the trip and who hasn't, 0:04:12.120 --> 0:04:14.800 you know, like who's contributing? What does this person bring 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:17.200 to the table. Does this person make drinks for everyone? 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:18.160 Does this person cook? 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:19.560 You know what? 0:04:19.680 --> 0:04:21.080 And everybody's on board. 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:27.800 Everybody got it very very nervous, and especially Shshana and 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:29.920 Simone were like, we're not doing that. And I was like, 0:04:30.080 --> 0:04:32.720 I think it's a great idea, and Sewn is like, well, 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:33.680 who's gonna review you. 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:36.040 I'm like, I have no secrets review me. I already 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:37.000 know what you all think of me. 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:39.320 And the only ones that really need to be nervous 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:40.359 are the in laws. 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:42.800 Yeah, that's right, and they know why. 0:04:42.880 --> 0:04:44.640 Yeah, but I mean, you know you can't you come 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.240 to the family. You know, your personality should have been 0:04:47.320 --> 0:04:50.279 checked before the marriage, not now twenty years later. 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:51.919 Yeah, if they're gonna get booted. 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:56.480 No, because of the exposure, the repetitive exposure that I'm 0:04:56.520 --> 0:05:00.000 subjected to, has made me rethink my strategy. 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:03.280 Gee, I didn't know twenty years ago. 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:05.840 That I wasn't gonna want a vacation with everybody all 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:08.320 the time. Now I know because I've done it so 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:12.279 many times that I have Like I it would be 0:05:12.360 --> 0:05:16.080 called a non anonymous three sixty. Actually we renamed it 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:19.599 a non monogamous three sixty, which I'm not sure what 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:21.279 that has anything to do with, but that's where we 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:24.279 went with it. So anyway, just thoughts that are spinning around. 0:05:24.320 --> 0:05:26.240 That's the kind of vacations we have. I threaten my 0:05:26.320 --> 0:05:28.520 family when we go away that this may be the 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:29.400 last trip ever. 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:31.839 And that's pretty much the pattern. 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:34.120 But let's face it, it's the in laws that are going 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:35.120 to be at the top of the list. 0:05:35.560 --> 0:05:37.680 Okay, all right, well I guess you're trying to build 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:38.800 immunity for yourself. 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:41.520 But yeah, this is like survivor, it is. 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.520 But what I decided to do so another way for 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:49.280 me to avoid my in laws is I don't even 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:50.039 know why I have in laws. 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:51.440 I didn't get married, you know, why do I have 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:52.080 to deal with this? 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:54.480 So I decided to take all my nieces and nephews 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:56.520 to my Orca and I was like, this is a 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:59.040 good work around to avoid the other adult set, you know, 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:02.600 are kind of But now I have two interlopers, my 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:05.560 brother Glenn and Roy have invaded the trip. So we're 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:06.600 doing an all boys trip. 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:09.599 Apparently. I put them in. 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:13.200 A hotel together, in a hotel room with two beds 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:15.400 for two sixty year old men, and I think that 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:17.839 is going to be fucking out of this world an adventure. 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:21.800 And they're the two most opposite people you can put together, basically, like, 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:24.159 you know, one's neat and one's a big slum. 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:28.720 Well, Roy travels with a garbage bag as his suitcase. 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:32.720 Well no, no, he goes shopping wherever he ends up 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:34.920 and just buys some clothes there he travels. 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:38.000 Light shopping is in quotes because I wouldn't call what 0:06:38.040 --> 0:06:41.720 he's doing shopping. It's like he picks up the basic necessities. 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.280 So he'll get boxer shorts and maybe a couple T 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:47.800 shirts and some gross, you know, sweatpant outfit thing. 0:06:48.320 --> 0:06:50.520 And something is he buys the T shirt from the 0:06:50.560 --> 0:06:54.279 place he's visiting, so all week long he's wearing the 0:06:54.360 --> 0:06:57.880 T shirt from the place the tourist buy. So it's 0:06:58.040 --> 0:07:00.880 like Martha's Vineyard all week or Edgartown and that's where 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:02.640 he is. It doesn't make any sense. 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:04.400 Roy is very much like our father. 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:07.360 Our father was a slob, but not when he was younger, 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:08.520 only when he was older. 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:10.240 Yes, he got older, everything went down. 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:12.520 It went downhill, right Like when I grew up. He 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:14.680 would show up to my softball games. It was the 0:07:14.720 --> 0:07:19.200 sweaters covered in dog hair and just you know, embarrassing. 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:23.120 It's like, yeah, slip on sneakers, what are those things 0:07:23.120 --> 0:07:23.600 that he wore? 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:28.040 Those where you little duck shoes, little l Yeah, but he. 0:07:28.000 --> 0:07:30.360 Never put his foot fully in, so there's always half 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:31.400 of his foot hanging. 0:07:31.720 --> 0:07:33.400 It was just so gross. 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:36.760 Anyway, Roy has picked up some Seanna you have picked 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:37.960 up some of the Dad's habits too. 0:07:38.000 --> 0:07:44.040 By the way, Oh really, would you care to expand? 0:07:44.080 --> 0:07:45.200 I'm not sure I want to hear this. 0:07:48.840 --> 0:07:50.360 You're gonna have to give examples. 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:53.600 I don't know. I mean, Simone, I don't know. You're 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:54.320 not a slob. 0:07:54.640 --> 0:07:57.560 I can give you one example that your driving skills 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:00.600 are very much like Dad. Like you. Stops are just 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:01.840 like a suggestion. 0:08:01.480 --> 0:08:05.120 To you, but behind places like you're like weaving in 0:08:05.160 --> 0:08:05.840 and out of traffic. 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:08.280 Vashume he's a lunatic driver. I'm also not. 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:10.520 I'm also a driver that's better on my own than 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:12.560 having any passengers because I don't want to hear about 0:08:12.560 --> 0:08:14.040 it what I'm up to on the road. 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:16.560 Listen, in New Jersey, it's every man for himself. You 0:08:16.640 --> 0:08:18.640 have to just survive, so you gotta do what you 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:22.720 gotta do. It's genetic, though, is it. Yeah? I mean 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:25.040 I learned to drive from him. We had to follow 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:27.240 him to pick up used cars. And in order to 0:08:27.360 --> 0:08:30.640 follow him, you had to go through every red yellow 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:34.240 light that existed just to stay with him because there 0:08:34.360 --> 0:08:37.520 was no you know, cell phone with directions like if 0:08:37.559 --> 0:08:39.240 you lost him, you were on your own and you 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:40.439 would find a pay phone. 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:42.079 He would be like, Hey, I need you to come 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:43.839 with me to pick up a car, and you're like fuck. 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:46.320 And then you had to go follow him to Verona 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:49.240 or West Orange or something. And he never would stop 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:52.480 at stop signs. Yellow lights meant go, red lights meant 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:54.840 go slow through them while you look both ways. 0:08:55.160 --> 0:08:55.440 It was. 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:56.960 And then if you didn't keep up with him, he'd 0:08:57.000 --> 0:08:59.400 scream at you and be like, why weren't you following me? 0:08:59.440 --> 0:09:01.319 It's like, because I'm he's not a fucking lunatic. 0:09:02.320 --> 0:09:03.800 Yeah, that's why I drive that way. 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:04.400 Yeah. 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:07.280 I have some special driving skills too. They're not they're 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:09.920 not great. I mean I I think they're great, but 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:12.120 most people don't. Most people don't drive it with me 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:15.560 because they they'll get sick. But Shashana when Charlie was 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:20.320 a little girl, remember she she got cars sick the 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:24.080 whole time. When you would take her to school every morning, 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:26.760 they thought she was she had motion sickness, which she does, 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:29.520 but it was because Shawna gave it to her drivers, 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:30.160 which she was. 0:09:30.200 --> 0:09:30.600 Shana. 0:09:31.240 --> 0:09:33.480 She would just and then in Africa this summer she 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:34.720 threw up on the plane. 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:38.120 No, she's had motion sickness. Every trip we've ever been on. 0:09:38.400 --> 0:09:40.679 She really had motion sickness and it was more like 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:41.480 for long drive. 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:44.160 Yeah, but she got the motion sickness from your driving. 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:51.840 Well, you're entitled to your opinion, Simon. 0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:53.200 What do you have to say for yourself? 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:55.840 Not much. I'm at work, girl, So this is you know, 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.000 this is a little low. 0:09:58.280 --> 0:10:01.400 Well it's not that down low, Simon, because we have 0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:03.240 a lot of people that listen to this podcast, so 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:03.840 they're gonna. 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:04.680 Find out, Oh, I'm at work. 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:07.880 Okay, So you're at work giving it life advice to people. 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:09.760 This is your lunch hour. It's fine. 0:10:10.000 --> 0:10:10.800 Okay. 0:10:10.880 --> 0:10:13.360 So you want to talk about menopause. 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.760 Sure, let's talk about that, because actually this is a subject. 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:17.600 Where are you with your menopause journey? 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:20.680 I don't know because I got an ablazion after Simone 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:23.000 got one and she told me about it, and then 0:10:23.040 --> 0:10:26.319 I went and got one immediately, and I don't know 0:10:26.440 --> 0:10:28.120 if I where I am because I don't get a 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:28.760 people the way, have. 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:30.960 You told your listeners about that procedure, because that. 0:10:30.880 --> 0:10:34.520 Procedure is not very like well known and doctors don't 0:10:34.520 --> 0:10:35.200 talk about it. 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:38.920 An ablazion we've talked about it, Yeah, we have we have. Yeah, yeah, no, 0:10:38.960 --> 0:10:40.920 it's it's amazing. It's the best thing I've ever done. 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:42.719 I mean not ever, but it's one of the best 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:45.079 things I've ever done. It's amazing once you stop getting 0:10:45.080 --> 0:10:48.360 your period, that you just forget about periods altogether. Like 0:10:48.520 --> 0:10:51.400 it should be like more of a season of gratefulness 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:54.800 to celebrate no more periods before you just ease into 0:10:54.840 --> 0:10:55.640 the rest of your life. 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:57.359 Because if someone. 0:10:57.120 --> 0:10:58.480 I mean I would have gotten rid of it when 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:00.680 I was sixteen, if I had known about this Ablasian thing. 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:04.199 But for most people, they have to go through everything else. 0:11:04.400 --> 0:11:06.880 I mean, most people are not getting an Ablasian to 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:08.360 start menopause. 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:08.520 But they should. 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:11.280 Like that's my point, Like if people like goo, they suffer, 0:11:11.360 --> 0:11:14.040 they have heavy periods, they have accidents then, and the 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:16.920 doctor never brings up that this is an option. That's 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:19.360 my point is that it's like such a great option 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:20.880 if you're done having kids. 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:23.360 And you had a good experience with that, Oh my. 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:25.440 God, it took like fifteen minutes and then my life 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:26.560 was like back on track. 0:11:26.800 --> 0:11:27.240 That's amazing. 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.760 It was literally anemic for like two years before that, 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:31.960 and it just solved that problem overnight. 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:34.320 SHAWNA. Do you still get your period? 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:36.600 No, So a lot of people don't know this. The 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:41.320 definition of menopause is the day. It's one day, twelve 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:45.360 months after you've stopped getting periods. It's literally one day. 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:47.240 So good to know. 0:11:47.360 --> 0:11:51.199 You're either premenopausal, which happens like for years before you 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:55.120 actually go through menopause, or your postmenopausal, or you have 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:58.440 menopause for one day. So there's pretty much before or after. 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:02.160 So yes, I have I probably a year and a half, 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:07.520 so I am postmenopausal, but I'm suffering from hot flashes, 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:11.920 night sweats, mood swings, poor sleep, weight gain. 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:15.880 You wouldn't say that's menopause. You would say that's postmenopausal 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:18.079 because those are all menopausal symptoms. 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.920 Now, all these symptoms can happen before, during, and after. 0:12:21.120 --> 0:12:24.400 Yes, okay, So so menopause is the day you said, 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:28.040 twelve months after you've had your last period. Yes, and 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:31.480 it's just that one day, Yeah, like Halloween. 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:34.679 Exactly one day. I've never heard that before. 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:36.720 I always thought it was a period of time that 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:37.760 you're having symptoms. 0:12:37.800 --> 0:12:39.320 It's not the whole period of time. 0:12:39.679 --> 0:12:42.320 No, people just confuse the term and it's just become like, 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:44.840 you know, vernacular. But really it's not, you know, it's 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:47.720 just the literally that one day that you're one year 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:48.920 without any period. 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:52.920 So okay, well that's that's good information to know. 0:12:53.240 --> 0:12:55.959 You know, but that all these symptoms can last from 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:57.880 you know, a year to ten years even. 0:12:58.320 --> 0:12:58.520 Yeah. 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:00.000 Yeah, I don't know if I have symptoms. 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:02.920 I mean I sometimes wake up sweaty and that that's something, 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:04.679 But I don't know about other symptoms. 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:07.600 I don't know what are the other symptoms, memory. 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:12.240 Memory loss or memory problems, trouble, sleeping, hot splashes, night sweats, 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:13.760 vaginal dryness. 0:13:14.080 --> 0:13:16.719 Thank you, that sounds hot. Thank you for bringing that up. 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:18.520 So it's like, what time is it is? It's not 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:21.960 even noon. I want to talk about vaginal dryness. What 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.319 are people supposed to do about vaginal dryness? 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:25.840 Lube? Is that what you're supposed to do? 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.240 And are you supposed to lubricate your vagina when you're 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:30.360 having sex only or are you supposed to lubricate it 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:31.080 all the time? 0:13:31.559 --> 0:13:32.320 How does that work? 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:34.640 That seems like a subject for another project. 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:37.600 No, guys, this is a health podcast shown us A 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:40.920 registered nurse, Simone works in the healthcare industry and I'm 0:13:40.920 --> 0:13:41.400 a doctor. 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:43.440 So between the three of us we can figure out. 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:48.280 So you can't explore hormones, hormone replacement or bioidentical hormones. 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:52.000 And yes, you can supplement with loub. 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:54.559 Supplement with lube. 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:57.320 You're not supposed to lubricate your cayslopis every day, right. 0:13:58.120 --> 0:14:00.480 I don't think we know the answer to that questioned Again. 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:07.760 I think the answer is no, no, no, pun intended 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:08.880 or pun intended. 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:11.400 I do have a question about have you both been 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:13.160 through menopause or like postmenopausal? 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:13.400 Yeah? 0:14:13.679 --> 0:14:17.920 Yeah, So aside from the physical manifestations of it, are 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.840 there any sort of like emotional positive emotional feelings that 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.720 you've gotten, Like, yeah, great. You know, some cultures believe 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:27.160 that postmenopausal women are like basically your like goddesses because 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:30.320 you have that sort of strength of character and not 0:14:30.440 --> 0:14:33.400 giving a fuck that you do before you go through puberty. 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:36.960 Are you feeling any of that? Are you feeling extra confident, happy, 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:37.920 anything like that? 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:39.960 I feel like you get that with age, but I 0:14:40.000 --> 0:14:44.200 don't know that it's directly related to hormones or menopause. 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:46.080 I feel like after you get to a certain age, 0:14:46.080 --> 0:14:47.800 you start to give less and less of a fuck. 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:50.480 I mean about everything, and that you don't like people 0:14:50.520 --> 0:14:53.040 have opinions. You're like whatever, you just don't care. But 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:56.240 I don't know that that's an effect of menopause. I 0:14:56.240 --> 0:14:58.960 think that menopause does have some like emotional like valleys, 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:01.240 kind of like this same thing when you're having your 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:03.640 period or whatever, you're on this sort of you know, 0:15:03.760 --> 0:15:06.520 emotional roller coaster your whole life. I think you go 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:09.440 through that during menopause too. Some people get really really 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:12.320 sad and emotional, and some people don't. 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:14.960 Like it's very very individual. 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:17.000 And it's just so annoying that there's not a barometer 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.760 to tell you when you're feeling those mood swings that 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:22.960 it's related to your hormones. Like it would be more 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:25.240 beneficial to say, you have a mood coming on for 0:15:25.280 --> 0:15:28.000 the next two to four days and you're going to 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:30.320 be a bitch, Like I want to know that information, 0:15:30.480 --> 0:15:32.280 Like there should be some sort of smart app that 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:33.640 can tell you, But. 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:35.920 Sure there is, actually there has to be. 0:15:36.480 --> 0:15:38.200 Yeah, I'm sure it has to do with your temperature, 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:40.120 Like you could put something, you could put a monitor 0:15:40.160 --> 0:15:42.560 on you that would be able to show your cycles, 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:45.120 but nobody you know, because women's health is such a 0:15:45.160 --> 0:15:48.040 low priority in terms of what people are working on. 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:50.480 It's probably just not out there, but I guarantee that 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:51.800 that can be easily created. 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:57.960 And ablationions are recommended highly for people with endometriosis, right, yeah, 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:01.080 because of the Yeah, so if you have endometriosis, you're 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:04.760 definitely a candidate. Before we take callers, here's an upbeat question. 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:09.600 Where do your favorite memories from childhood? Lie, Shauna, you 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:10.120 go first? 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:12.560 I would have to say Martha's Vineyard for sure. It's, 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:14.720 you know, still to this day, my favorite place in 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:18.480 the world. And I just remember like there always being 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:20.960 somebody around to play with, to hang out with, to 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:24.400 do something with because we had six kids, and just 0:16:24.560 --> 0:16:28.400 like an endless summer, you know, that just was seemed 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:32.600 like forever and it was like Cameloin just beautiful, just 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:35.680 beautiful memories of the beach and the water and warm 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:40.600 weather and good food and laughing and playing and ticks. 0:16:40.680 --> 0:16:41.720 That would definitely be it. 0:16:41.960 --> 0:16:43.920 Yeah, what about you, Simone? 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.120 Actually this came up recently because I was talking to 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:48.960 someone about mom and different memories that came up, and 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:52.720 this really really strong memory came up of a trip 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.520 I took with her when I was about ten years old. 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:59.480 For some reason, she just I don't know, you were 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:02.240 like an I think she chills. And I took a 0:17:02.240 --> 0:17:04.119 trip with her to California. So it was my first 0:17:04.119 --> 0:17:07.560 trip to Seattle and then LA and it was just 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:10.600 the two of us, or mom and me, and we 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:11.439 just did all of. 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:12.480 This cool stuff together. 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:14.320 And we rented a car together and I got a 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:17.639 map and we like went all around LA and all 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.200