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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of Horrible Decision. We

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Speaker 1: are not the only hose you're gonna listen to today,

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Speaker 1: but we actually have another one resident gay every man

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Speaker 1: has its own special dream true laugh. It's not as

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Speaker 1: bad as it may see. When a Sunday's running front

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Speaker 1: of you, I can see thinks. This is if I

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Speaker 1: were around hend not this is if I were deaf.

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Speaker 1: I'd be happy right now. That's why we're here. I

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Speaker 1: am wheezy um with your girl, Mandy b a k A.

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Speaker 1: Peg the Stallion, And we have asked Peg, why am

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Speaker 1: I here? You know, I hear you're here because I

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Speaker 1: kidnapped you last night and I was like, oh wait,

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Speaker 1: we're literally at the bar drunk. He took me to

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Speaker 1: get another gay bar. Apparently that's what we do together.

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Speaker 1: Goddamn it. I'm not going. Yeah, we were last night.

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Speaker 1: I only know that that bar is not for me

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Speaker 1: because I was walking by it one day and thought

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Speaker 1: it was a chicken place. And it was two am,

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Speaker 1: and I said, wait, there is a chicken and red

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Speaker 1: like a chicken man. The normally there's people like outside

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Speaker 1: of the cock, which I did not know was the cock.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't say it just has the chicken exactly. So, um,

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Speaker 1: I was having a really fun date. I think I

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Speaker 1: was with Jeeves, actually walking around the neighborhood and I'm

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Speaker 1: like a fucking starving So I'm like, look, let's go

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Speaker 1: to this chicken place. It looks open. And the bouncer

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Speaker 1: started smiling at me, and I'm like, you guys closed,

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Speaker 1: and he was like, honey, for you, we are, Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: and that's what We literally literally sat at the bar

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Speaker 1: at this point. We had to be over ten shots

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Speaker 1: in tequila all night and we're literally coming up with

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Speaker 1: a goddamn outline at the bar. I was we have

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Speaker 1: to we have to talk about getting it done while

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Speaker 1: there's porn playing taking out behind us. And then he

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Speaker 1: almost fought somebody, but we ain't gonna get into that.

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Speaker 1: But he he took me to another um room right

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Speaker 1: around the corner. We now have, we now have our spot.

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Speaker 1: So we go to can I say it? You think

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Speaker 1: I should go? So we got to this place called Boxers.

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Speaker 1: So because I don't know what, but there's so many boxers.

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Speaker 1: Well then don't just look just talk about it. Because

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Speaker 1: just just randomly, I've always wanted to be a creative

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Speaker 1: director for Boxers see, and that's the thing. I feel

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Speaker 1: like each Boxers, because there are so many different places

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Speaker 1: of New York, should be like unique to the neighborhood.

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Speaker 1: So like there's a Boxer uptown and should havelf. I

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Speaker 1: feel like more black folks, Dominican folks. And then there

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Speaker 1: was one that used to be on that free side

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Speaker 1: that one should have like a Dominican here there from

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Speaker 1: the project when there's some snobby ass white kids up

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Speaker 1: in there. A little bit everything, but the h K,

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Speaker 1: you know, they do a little too much sometimes. I

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Speaker 1: love that roof. I'm not gonna lie that one. So

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Speaker 1: not only did I fall in love with the bartender there,

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Speaker 1: we just I do like bartender. It's fine, It's probably

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Speaker 1: not gonna last because I just ruin everything. But we

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Speaker 1: went there the other night. This was after the phrase

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Speaker 1: back there, and we went there and there was Dick's

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Speaker 1: all on the bar like visible one. I didn't see

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Speaker 1: that the first time we went. So we went and

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Speaker 1: they have little tiny towels. They all look like, well,

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Speaker 1: this was that night. Whenever the dancers, dancers always like

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Speaker 1: a theme. I feel like they definitely have a WhatsApp

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Speaker 1: group chat and they're like, you know what, Luo. You

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Speaker 1: know because the night So the first night we went there,

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Speaker 1: they definitely did like like the the it was like

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Speaker 1: a racer theme or something. Remember imagine when you don't

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Speaker 1: we're going football players get some I thought it was

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Speaker 1: like uptown night because I want to say they had

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Speaker 1: Tim's and Jay's on the bar dancing. Oh boy, they

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Speaker 1: had their Jordan's is this black night? There were literally

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Speaker 1: like hard as Dick's fallen under the town, like under

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Speaker 1: the towels was just Dick And I was like, what's that?

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Speaker 1: Other games Boxers, but it's also in Chelsea, tell me

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Speaker 1: me on the spot. Up my gayness from Boxers? From

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Speaker 1: Boxers and oh I never go to that Boxers. But

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Speaker 1: And oh what is down the street from there because

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Speaker 1: that's around the corner from Lime Light, But I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know the area. I can't think of it

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Speaker 1: right now. I'm funing. I only knew about I was there,

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Speaker 1: I think because Bounce is over there, and I was

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Speaker 1: I mean, because sometimes that is not literally say, that's

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Speaker 1: why I almost going to the damn fight a damn

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Speaker 1: And to be fair, I heard all the latinos from

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Speaker 1: also to the cocke. It was okay, let me get well,

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Speaker 1: here's the thing. Let me just give you the complete

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Speaker 1: rundown of the cock. Right. The cock is a CD bar.

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Speaker 1: It's super dark. They porn playing on the TVs. People

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Speaker 1: be jacking off in the bathrooms head here, and they're

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Speaker 1: all that. So when you funked up at a bar,

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Speaker 1: you sunked up at the bar. I get that. This

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Speaker 1: dude comes taps me on my chair, so I'm looking

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Speaker 1: up seeing it's like, okay, that's a drunk dude comes

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Speaker 1: arms all on top of me, like you'll knowl me

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Speaker 1: why he's taking his money out doing this whole thing,

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Speaker 1: And like you just said, it's Monday, this bar is empty,

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Speaker 1: so I don't understand why you're all on me, and

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Speaker 1: so when I finally say something calmly, when I finally

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Speaker 1: and Martiner thinks I'm a pussy, and it's like, of course,

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Speaker 1: you're at a bar, you're gonna get touched or else.

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Speaker 1: Don't come out, no nigger, you're at a bar, you

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Speaker 1: can get your ass beat and you want not be

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Speaker 1: he there and I can tell me. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: I've had too many shots at the pussy because I

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Speaker 1: we went to the boiler room after that, because I

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Speaker 1: can't tell you what I've learned. There's a time and

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Speaker 1: place for everything. But if they they deserve it, you'll

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Speaker 1: see him in the right motherfucking place. Let me tell you,

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Speaker 1: in place where I'm not turning up, in a place

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Speaker 1: where I'm a little crazy, but I'm gonna turning up

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Speaker 1: on your ass. You drunk, I want you to be sober.

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Speaker 1: I want you to be sober so so you can

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Speaker 1: feel it and talk about it for the rest of

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Speaker 1: your life. If you do a drunk you might not

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Speaker 1: remember me being your people call you pussy. If it's oh,

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Speaker 1: you see me what happened? Maybe I saw you couldn't

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Speaker 1: do it right in there, right, there's a mother for

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Speaker 1: it all. It took everything in me not to follow

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Speaker 1: I was like, he's just gonna be laying on the

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Speaker 1: care about him. They really want to get arrested at

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Speaker 1: the cock, That's what I'm saying. How am I gonna

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Speaker 1: explain it? Don't at least get something out of it? Actually,

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Speaker 1: I think that Listen debate that for a second. Would

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Speaker 1: I be pissed for getting arrested for sucking a gate

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Speaker 1: club when everybody does it? Because I think that would

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Speaker 1: one that got caught out of everyone that does this.

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Speaker 1: Is it because I'm black? Or is it because I'm gay?

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Speaker 1: It better not be because I'm gay. Everyone better because

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Speaker 1: I'm black, either because I'm not gay. Bar recommendations before

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Speaker 1: we jump in, recommend for people that are visiting New York. Okay,

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Speaker 1: then women best bars. Let's say up and downtown. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so you know I'm gonna start you off on Harlem, right, Um.

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Speaker 1: Shout out to the promoters. Shout out to the promoters.

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Speaker 1: Frank Watson. I'm gonna give you promoter names. Frank Watson.

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Speaker 1: Check out his party. Rson, please check out Frank. He

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Speaker 1: does bubbles and y'all just also just just follow Frank

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Speaker 1: to just follow him. And Joe Morris rebel boy, Joe rebellious,

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Speaker 1: Joe rebellion Joe. He has plenty of names. I just

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Speaker 1: I just like the promoters, don't Superman. Yes, he's the

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Speaker 1: one that through the space party darn Pride with spades.

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Speaker 1: He tried, he did. It was great. Yeah, the party was.

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Speaker 1: The party was too lit for the space, That's what

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Speaker 1: it was. Where were we going to play? Because it

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Speaker 1: was packed Before y'all got there, there was a wave

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Speaker 1: and then like they cleared out and another wave came

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Speaker 1: and I was, damn, I love Pride. I wish I was.

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Speaker 1: UM thought we were gonna we we ain't gonna catch

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Speaker 1: up now on our dating lives. But it's not existing

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Speaker 1: for me anyway. So we're gonna get straight into right.

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Speaker 1: We just go out and drink together I mean, well, also,

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Speaker 1: there's another person here, but like, what's going on? What

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Speaker 1: you tell me, I don't worry about. I want to know.

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Speaker 1: I was working around just because I felt like I was.

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Speaker 1: I was the guest for a second. The people already

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Speaker 1: in your day in life? Do the people already know

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Speaker 1: your day in life? See you feel us all in Actually,

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Speaker 1: I've been on some news ship very much exercising my

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Speaker 1: ethical nonmonogamy, so like, I have been learning a lot

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Speaker 1: the help of a shout out to shamb Booty, that

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Speaker 1: friendships are the best relationships I have later right now,

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Speaker 1: I don't meet people with the intent of just being

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Speaker 1: then there's something else beyond just my sexual attracting to you.

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Speaker 1: So I've made a commitment to take my black cast

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Speaker 1: because I generally meet people online or through somebody, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, that kind of sucks because then you're gonna

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Speaker 1: met amazing fucking niggas. I don't know how I haven't

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Speaker 1: I've been meeting amazing fucking dudes. I have not a

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Speaker 1: new bay, but I did meet a Wall Street nigga

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Speaker 1: nigga emphasis on the okay, okay, So like you know

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Speaker 1: when you block eyes with someone because the only other

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Speaker 1: it happens, you so be happy to see representation on them.

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Speaker 1: But look look what did XD say? Oh when you go,

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Speaker 1: you swipe everybody blackness, right, and then you go through

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Speaker 1: that later. Yes, yes, I was eating at the bar

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Speaker 1: and he was with some coworkers, and the bartender asked

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Speaker 1: get it for me. I said, I want you to

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Speaker 1: I'd like to drink so he can come over for

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Speaker 1: say hennessy because she said niggas. I was like, you know,

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Speaker 1: And I started laughing at like seriously, he was like,

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Speaker 1: do you say it's bro? I was so tight. I

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Speaker 1: was so tight. But anyway, what I have really enjoyed

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Speaker 1: this week, the top five kinks that Americans fantasize about.

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Speaker 1: Um this I am. You know what, I'm gonna do

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Speaker 1: it from five and go to one. I want you

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Speaker 1: to guess, okay, Top five kinks that people fantasize about.

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Speaker 1: What do you think? I think? But she's writing hers

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Speaker 1: just okay, so role play foot fetish? You said top

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Speaker 1: top five? Literally top five role play foot fetish, um group? Okay,

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Speaker 1: what are you two little less rinkik things. I guess

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Speaker 1: b D, S, M and feet okay. So Number five

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Speaker 1: people actually fantasize about partner sharing and non monogamy. So

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Speaker 1: so this this, this would be like swinging partner sharing,

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Speaker 1: polyamory um sex. Categories of about non monogamy fantasies UM

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Speaker 1: do include that. That's also huge with the cut colding

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Speaker 1: fetish objects, and exhibitionism, um, which that makes sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean that's broad, but keep going. Number three novelty

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Speaker 1: and adventure. So the concept of novelty varies widely from

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Speaker 1: person in person. Where exactly these fans sees come from,

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Speaker 1: it's hard to discern. Um three. The three most common

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Speaker 1: sources of people's self reported fantasies are their own imaginations

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Speaker 1: followed by porn than a previous sexual encounter that they've

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Speaker 1: had as adults. So that makes sense. Number two you

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Speaker 1: This this probably actually led more with fifty shades of

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Speaker 1: apparently America's favorite fantasy, in particular threesomes lay Miller's survey

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Speaker 1: reported having these fantasies as well. We're just scared. I

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Speaker 1: This is literally what we were talking about. At two

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Speaker 1: what's crazy is I feel maybe I don't know how

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Speaker 1: just being nicer? Are you flirting with me? And then

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Speaker 1: just even to communicate the fact that I do like women,

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Speaker 1: conversation at the bar because we are all dating in

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Speaker 1: a sense, in a sense, but it's also yeah, innocence,

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Speaker 1: but I'm passively dating. I'm not even actively dating. That's

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Speaker 1: a kind of dating exactly. But we were talking with

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Speaker 1: So having those conversations with me, I'm in a different

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Speaker 1: space right now where I'm dating, but it's letting people

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Speaker 1: know what I want from them and if they can't

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Speaker 1: give it to me, me being okay with not forcing

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Speaker 1: the narrative. So if I'm talking to someone will say

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Speaker 1: even sexually, um, this is of course I'm open with

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Speaker 1: talking sexually. I would say, with me communicating while I'm dating,

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Speaker 1: I've been communicating what I want sexually, and if that

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Speaker 1: person does not really match the bubbles or I see

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Speaker 1: that we're not going to be compatible. It doesn't matter

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Speaker 1: how well he looks on paper, it doesn't matter how

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Speaker 1: fine he is. It's me knowing, Okay, you're not gonna

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Speaker 1: be able to give me what I want. I have

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Speaker 1: to stop dating you, or we have to stop communicating,

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Speaker 1: we have to stop talking. And I know you're dating

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Speaker 1: right now, but it's also letting people know about your

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Speaker 1: other lovers, how you are not monogaly. So I wanted

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Speaker 1: dating right now. Like, I haven't found that dating other

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635
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Speaker 1: about old Babe, the dude that I questioned yeah, who

636
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 1: has an amazing uh. I was gonna say apartment with

637
00:34:54,560 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 1: my mission on Patreon, like, and we are having crazy,

638
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 1: intense and really good sex. Like I didn't expect it

639
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 1: to be this good. He didn't expect it to be

640
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 1: this good. And now because the sex is good, which

641
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:08,919
Speaker 1: is kind of funny because this rarely happens. Now we're

642
00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:11,800
Speaker 1: both interested in other ship. Oh well, let's do dinner

643
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,359
Speaker 1: and talk more. Da da da da. The other day

644
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: he was like, he's like, you really impressed me, Like

645
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:20,320
Speaker 1: because the sex is so good. We just are around

646
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: each other more in now, spending more time together, going

647
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 1: to events and ship And now I'm like, I don't

648
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,359
Speaker 1: really know if what I said I wanted was when

649
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,719
Speaker 1: I met now, because I was like, listen, I have

650
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 1: a primary partner, he doesn't live here, but I don't

651
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:35,840
Speaker 1: have anyone. I'm having sex within New York and I

652
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:38,680
Speaker 1: want to share time with someone and have sex with

653
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 1: someone that I feel safe with and that can fulfill

654
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 1: my needs in that way. And he was totally up

655
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,799
Speaker 1: for it because when he met me, he's like, you

656
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,280
Speaker 1: expressed to me and let me know what two dates

657
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:51,880
Speaker 1: in you were looking for somebody to date with your girlfriend,

658
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 1: which was true and ended up it ended up happening.

659
00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 1: I just did not expect it to be this good.

660
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,839
Speaker 1: And now that this sex is off the charts, I'm

661
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 1: now communicating that I don't know if that's all I

662
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,799
Speaker 1: want this dick tubon and I don't want to have

663
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: to kill this. But these are all good problems. These

664
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 1: are good problems, Like you're you're able to acknowledge these

665
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 1: things as they're coming, as opposed to being like a

666
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:17,399
Speaker 1: year two down on the road and you're like, so,

667
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 1: I mean some ship, I don't know, because this is

668
00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 1: how situation ships happen, right, So that's not fulfilled with

669
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 1: other ship, and so men and women are going to

670
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 1: use each other. I just need to know what you're

671
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 1: using me for and what I'm using you for. And

672
00:36:32,400 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 1: because I'm so um mental about how I have sex, right,

673
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:39,440
Speaker 1: that's literally what gets me. What is being mentally stimulated

674
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: and having some passion and caring for you. I just

675
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,360
Speaker 1: can't use you for sex anymore because it's not what

676
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 1: I want. So finding a way to communicate that is

677
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:52,479
Speaker 1: going to be the new thing. Now, what's interesting about

678
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:55,959
Speaker 1: what's happening is it's kind of happening on its own,

679
00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 1: but also that just could be me being jaded from

680
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: the good dick because the dick is too bomb. The

681
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 1: dick is so good than me and this nigga literally

682
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 1: we're fucking, and he was like, yo, I got a

683
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 1: really early morning, but like stop by since you on

684
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:13,880
Speaker 1: your way back to the city. Bro, we started sucking.

685
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 1: He was like, Yo, I'm sorry, but you can't leave,

686
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:19,000
Speaker 1: Like we gotta fuck in the morning, and you know,

687
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:20,960
Speaker 1: we gotta fuck in the morning, so figure out what

688
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:22,719
Speaker 1: you gotta do and what time you gotta be there

689
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 1: because you can't leave. And I was like, nig and

690
00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 1: I didn't what to had to Postmates, toothbrush and all

691
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 1: that ship to myself because it wasn't even happening. Like

692
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: it's a crazy fucking sexual chemistry which is almost blinding

693
00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 1: me from other ship. And I'm like, this dick just

694
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 1: can't be no regular dick. See, And what's crazy when

695
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 1: when you mentioned being blinded, that's been the conversation that

696
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:45,920
Speaker 1: all my friends are trying to have. And it's actually

697
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 1: the question I asked Shannon Shannon fran uh Um yesterday,

698
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 1: is that with seven I'm not having casual sex partners anymore.

699
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: I'm having casual sex, of course with him, because I

700
00:38:00,560 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 1: don't want anything else out of him. But it's now

701
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 1: when I'm meeting a guy, it's almost like I need

702
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 1: you to fulfill everything but sex, and I know that

703
00:38:08,719 --> 00:38:12,239
Speaker 1: that can't have that. That's where my dilemma is coming in.

704
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 1: When I'm dating, I want the dates, the cuddling, the intimacy.

705
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 1: If that person is, for whatever reason, can't give me that,

706
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: then okay, we can't talk. But there's also a piece

707
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 1: of me that genuinely doesn't want to have sex with

708
00:38:26,760 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 1: other people. Yeah, but that's only because you're not even

709
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 1: allowing yourself the time to explore someone else and want

710
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:34,759
Speaker 1: to I'm not you see, I was supposed to have

711
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:38,080
Speaker 1: a date and I just this is this is the you'

712
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 1: and that's it. But you want these other things. You're saying,

713
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:45,200
Speaker 1: how are you gonna If you can't get it from

714
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: that other person, then what do you want? Does dick

715
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 1: weigh that much more that you don't want anyone else? See?

716
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 1: And if it does, that's fine to say, but you

717
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 1: have to just say that that's what it is. You

718
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 1: can't keep saying like even hearing you say like, I

719
00:38:59,560 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 1: can't you posted a clip or whatever about how you

720
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:03,919
Speaker 1: I'm not going to just cut him off for someone

721
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,719
Speaker 1: I don't know that I have yet totally agree, but

722
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:09,080
Speaker 1: that just means that person is not there yet. You

723
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:13,720
Speaker 1: will eventually meet someone and realize like, oh, I don't

724
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 1: need you anymore. You're only fucking this nigga as much

725
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 1: as you are because you're not fucking anyone else. Might

726
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: meet somebody that you'd want to fuck, like, you might

727
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 1: meet somebody that's the dates cool and all that, and

728
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden comes along and so that's

729
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,279
Speaker 1: the thing too. Mentally, in my mind, you have to

730
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 1: just tell people on the first date like I'm sucking

731
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:33,920
Speaker 1: another nigga and I'm not letting them go. Yeah, no,

732
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: I don't think that that's that's the conversation that like

733
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:43,760
Speaker 1: even of course with people listening to the show, nigga's

734
00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:45,879
Speaker 1: thinking I have someone because I'm sucking. So I don't

735
00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 1: understand this this idea that because we're single and we're dating,

736
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 1: that as soon as you know or find out that

737
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 1: the person you're dating is having sex with someone else,

738
00:39:54,440 --> 00:39:57,920
Speaker 1: now you feel like I got it right or not

739
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,920
Speaker 1: only that, just that oh, didn't you have someone? Like

740
00:40:00,960 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 1: single people could have sex and still be seeking a relationship.

741
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 1: But I think you maybe need even need to use

742
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:10,480
Speaker 1: different ver verbage, like saying things like his dick is

743
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 1: so good, you can't fun anyone else. Be like, look,

744
00:40:13,320 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 1: you can even use the word dating casually. Just be like, oh,

745
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 1: I'm casually seeing someone, but no, there's nothing else there.

746
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:22,920
Speaker 1: That's that's all you need, right, So, like when it

747
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 1: gets to that point, why you made that face because

748
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,879
Speaker 1: because they don't believe me. I don't really believe it either,

749
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:31,319
Speaker 1: But okay, no that's how I say it. I just

750
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: I just think that's how you say it, because you

751
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:36,719
Speaker 1: could be the way that you're communicating, could be doing

752
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:41,279
Speaker 1: this before someone even gets close to you. Like how

753
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,239
Speaker 1: would you feel if somebody was having dinner with you

754
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: and being like, yo, I'm sucking this girl and I

755
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:47,600
Speaker 1: ain't really cutting her off until because I mean we

756
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:50,200
Speaker 1: even going at it for years, So why would I

757
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:51,759
Speaker 1: cut this bitch off? And I don't even know what

758
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:56,360
Speaker 1: you could do? Like that's she let's get into into me.

759
00:40:56,480 --> 00:41:02,040
Speaker 1: I see, let's talk about communication, because your communication, like

760
00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:05,279
Speaker 1: your communication is on point, and your communication is about

761
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,279
Speaker 1: where I'm at like I could use somewhere because I

762
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:10,439
Speaker 1: have to communicate to myself what it is that I want.

763
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:12,759
Speaker 1: And I feel like you know what you want, but

764
00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: you're still looking at what you already got to. But

765
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:18,200
Speaker 1: when you get things that you're supposed to have, like

766
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:19,799
Speaker 1: it will take you away from all the things. But

767
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 1: even I just think, I think you're on the right track,

768
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:25,080
Speaker 1: but there's something you miss fill in many that's what

769
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:28,320
Speaker 1: she wants. She's just not taking the steps she needs

770
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:32,759
Speaker 1: to get it. That's it. Yeah, because I like hanging

771
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 1: with my friends, and I think that's why you don't

772
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:40,840
Speaker 1: really prioritize dating. And you work and you have your friends,

773
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 1: Then do you need to if there's no need to

774
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:47,239
Speaker 1: prioritize it, if you don't want it that bad. So

775
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:49,960
Speaker 1: that's the thing I've been on this podcast, and with

776
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: with communicating, it is communicating as well to myself. So

777
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:58,000
Speaker 1: I've communicated on this podcast for the last few months,

778
00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 1: maybe even until last year. As soon I graduated, got

779
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 1: my job and everything, and I was like, I want

780
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:04,280
Speaker 1: a boyfriend. I want a boyfriend. I want a boyfriend.

781
00:42:04,280 --> 00:42:07,879
Speaker 1: I want a boyfriend. And I was around my my

782
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 1: friend all summer and she found someone that she was

783
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: really intimate with, and everything about her and him disgusted me.

784
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:19,759
Speaker 1: I didn't want to. I was like, and she had

785
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,080
Speaker 1: to say, well, what does a relationship look like to you?

786
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:25,439
Speaker 1: And I feel like that's honestly my problem right now

787
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:27,960
Speaker 1: is that I don't know what a relationship looks like

788
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 1: to me. Because her face timing him all day and

789
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:33,880
Speaker 1: checking in and rushing home to be with him and

790
00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 1: cooking for him at two am and all this weird ship.

791
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I was I wanted to throw up. Well,

792
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:42,799
Speaker 1: no I did. I wanted to throw up. Now, I'll

793
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: give you that to tell a little bit different though,

794
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 1: because the face timing every day for someone that's more

795
00:42:49,160 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 1: independent is gonna be like, that's fucking wild. That's having

796
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,359
Speaker 1: to answer to somebody, right, that's that And I don't

797
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:57,160
Speaker 1: want that. I hate that. But a lot of a

798
00:42:57,200 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 1: lot of people that I know, that's their relationship. They

799
00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 1: are they do, they check in, they let someone know

800
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:03,839
Speaker 1: what they're doing. They're just on FaceTime just to see

801
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: what each other are doing. And like, I'm so busy

802
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 1: I'll be forgetting to text back. So like, to me,

803
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 1: the things, the things that I thought that's not your Listen,

804
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:14,719
Speaker 1: that is not the example of a relationship that needs

805
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: to be for you. That's not an example of love.

806
00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 1: And that's my thing you and that's fine. But but

807
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:21,879
Speaker 1: don't think that that is the But that's what I'm saying.

808
00:43:21,880 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 1: But it's not only her, it's everyone that I know

809
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 1: that are in a relationship. No one that I've seen

810
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: that's in a relationship. Do I look like, damn, I

811
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:33,319
Speaker 1: want that. So I genuinely don't know what a relationship

812
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 1: looks like to me that I would want. That sucks

813
00:43:35,440 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 1: to hear that it's literally same. Actually, I don't think

814
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 1: I know any like gay relationships that are like damn

815
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,719
Speaker 1: that they bombs hell wow. You know, gay relationships are

816
00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 1: literally the best ones I know. You know, gay relationships,

817
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 1: that is the ideal relationship. The gay men I know

818
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: in relationships are better than the straight and you said

819
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 1: the opposite point. Point they have the best communication, non monogamy,

820
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:09,399
Speaker 1: the best life plans together. They exist. We're just we're

821
00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 1: just in this world of like a d D where

822
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:13,359
Speaker 1: everybody knows they can funk or get whatever they want.

823
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 1: That it is so hard for me, Like my theme

824
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 1: is communication. So I ain't trying to put that off

825
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:21,000
Speaker 1: on your ass. Was like, I communicate poorly in everything.

826
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:23,320
Speaker 1: So that's why I can recognize I don't need a relationship.

827
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 1: I need to fix this part, this part, this part,

828
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:30,520
Speaker 1: and fixing yourself is a big deal. Can I ask

829
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 1: you what a what a relationship looks like to you?

830
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 1: So that's what I'm saying. So that's the thing. Even

831
00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 1: my friend asked me and I was like, well, I

832
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 1: just really want someone I can either like Vin too,

833
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:42,880
Speaker 1: and we have a lot like long conversation. She's like, oh,

834
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,640
Speaker 1: you want a friend, and I was like yeah. And

835
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:47,160
Speaker 1: then that's the thing too. I don't like to be

836
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 1: up under somebody, so I want I want the idea

837
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 1: of missing someone. So I think I would like a

838
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,879
Speaker 1: long distance relationship. Maybe you've just never experienced it. Well,

839
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 1: probably that too, But I'm just like, I'm like, I

840
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 1: don't know what I what I want relationship wise. So

841
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 1: as much as I want a boyfriend, I don't know

842
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:08,360
Speaker 1: what a relationship. Also, asking to have a friendship is

843
00:45:08,400 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 1: not a bad thing at all. Like my therapist said

844
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 1: something to me two years ago that I thought was amazing.

845
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 1: I was getting super depressed and really confused about relationships

846
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:20,399
Speaker 1: and not understanding why they weren't working out. In the end,

847
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 1: he's like, tell me three things that you want in

848
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 1: your tell me three things about your best friend that

849
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 1: you love. And I was like, um, he's super into

850
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 1: social justice ship. Me and him are in the same

851
00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: no bullshit. This is literally when I think of him.

852
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:37,480
Speaker 1: If I called him about anything, we're on the same

853
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 1: fucking page. I have the best time with him. He's

854
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: super funny and loyal, he says, Great, your partner for

855
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 1: life will have those same three qualities and you just

856
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:50,839
Speaker 1: have to look for them because your friends should kind

857
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: of emulate your mate. You're just gonna have a romantic

858
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: thing there. And frankly, my best relationships I've carried on,

859
00:45:58,040 --> 00:45:59,800
Speaker 1: I mean Jeeves, I would say, is like the my

860
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:03,240
Speaker 1: old person that I've met recently that was that person.

861
00:46:03,400 --> 00:46:05,239
Speaker 1: Just because we broke up doesn't mean that it wasn't

862
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:08,879
Speaker 1: a great relationship, but all of those things worked like

863
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 1: it was like an immediate attraction because that bass was there.

864
00:46:12,239 --> 00:46:14,719
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. And I think that the

865
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:18,760
Speaker 1: things that you love about your friends one your partner

866
00:46:18,840 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 1: should have. Because I'm gonna tell you right now, I

867
00:46:20,800 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 1: like the fucking party. And when I meet niggas that

868
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,359
Speaker 1: be kind of you know, I I meet to many

869
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:26,960
Speaker 1: people that are kind of like my friends, Like they'd

870
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:32,840
Speaker 1: be liking to fight too, and your friends to be

871
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: ready to fight? Yes, do you that's the quality that

872
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:37,920
Speaker 1: you're gonna pick us top three? They know, not the

873
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:39,920
Speaker 1: top three, but like you know what I'm saying, But

874
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:42,279
Speaker 1: there'll be like similarities and like sometimes on the people

875
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: that I date that are like good friends, like like

876
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 1: you just met my best home girl, like she is

877
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 1: with the one of the people I think of when

878
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 1: I think of like anything, like anybody I date, I

879
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:54,280
Speaker 1: hear her voice in the back of the head, remember,

880
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:57,000
Speaker 1: and she was like we would always like talk to

881
00:46:57,000 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 1: each other about dating, like, well you know this person

882
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 1: talking enough? Are they enough to day you care? Blah

883
00:47:01,040 --> 00:47:03,239
Speaker 1: blah blah. Like every time I'm going through dating, I

884
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 1: hear her in my head. So I'm thinking about not

885
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:08,000
Speaker 1: that she likes to fight, but she likes to you know,

886
00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:11,880
Speaker 1: if you not confrontational, but she really likes to. And

887
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:13,759
Speaker 1: I have to say, get you together. But if you

888
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:16,399
Speaker 1: put her in a place, she will communicate effectively enough

889
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: to round that ship out. And be like I'm not

890
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: the one, but not in like a terrible bitch. Don't

891
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:26,319
Speaker 1: try it kind of work. What Miguel girl, I thought

892
00:47:26,320 --> 00:47:30,759
Speaker 1: you were talking about but her? Okay, look another fright

893
00:47:30,840 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 1: that I want to I want to see where both

894
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 1: of you guys have turn on triggers and you're not

895
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 1: love language but the way that you like to be

896
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:45,760
Speaker 1: loved from sham booty. Okay, I'm gonna read these five scenarios. Yeah,

897
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 1: and you guys tell me how you guys like to

898
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:50,839
Speaker 1: be loved. So imagine that you just got home from

899
00:47:50,880 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: a long day and your partner agrees to you at

900
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 1: the door, ready to get freaky. What could they say

901
00:47:56,400 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: or do to get you in the mood as well?

902
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:01,560
Speaker 1: One you looks so good and I want you so bad.

903
00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:03,439
Speaker 1: Go to the bedroom. Take your clothes off. I want

904
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:07,080
Speaker 1: every square inch of your body. Two I ordered dinner

905
00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 1: for us. Let's still talk connect. I want to hear

906
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: everything about your day and I'll tell you everything about mine.

907
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:15,160
Speaker 1: Three I vacuumed, cleaned the kitchen, laid downs and fresh seats,

908
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:17,880
Speaker 1: and put on your favorite music. Take your time getting

909
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:21,560
Speaker 1: cleaned up, and then meet me in the bedroom. Four. Hey,

910
00:48:21,640 --> 00:48:23,680
Speaker 1: your home early. I was gonna shower and walk around

911
00:48:23,760 --> 00:48:25,799
Speaker 1: naked for a bit. But I mean, now that you're here,

912
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 1: I guess I could change my plans unless five. I

913
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:32,399
Speaker 1: know you've had a long day. So if I take

914
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 1: care of the house, handle dinner, and take your car

915
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:36,720
Speaker 1: to get some gas, do you think tonight that we could.

916
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 1: I stopped at the second one. That's the one I

917
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 1: ordered dinner for us. Let me tell me about your day,

918
00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 1: and I'll tell you by mine. And that's literally I

919
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: had that with um Mine too before we had that

920
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:55,719
Speaker 1: number two is mine like five that that was to

921
00:48:55,719 --> 00:48:57,839
Speaker 1: find as transactional, there needs to be something more than

922
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:01,240
Speaker 1: physical act entice you. What's fun is I've actually thought

923
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 1: you were not going to pick two because that's someone

924
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 1: who needed mental stimulation, which actually, well that's what I

925
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:09,160
Speaker 1: was going to tell you. I want. I need a talker,

926
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 1: Like I said all the time I went, I have

927
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:15,080
Speaker 1: like the biggest crush on Arian Foster because of just

928
00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:19,160
Speaker 1: how he speaks. I told Joe this and Van. I

929
00:49:19,200 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 1: love talking to Van because Van just gets me to

930
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,320
Speaker 1: think and we can have long ass conversations about random

931
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 1: ass topics. They're mostly porn, but we just we we

932
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: dissect porn. But it's just like I really enjoy talking

933
00:49:32,160 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 1: to someone, which is why I liked the guy that

934
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:36,959
Speaker 1: I cut off, which now I literally in my mind,

935
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 1: I was just like I need to hit him back,

936
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:46,880
Speaker 1: so I like talking that. I know it's so bad.

937
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:52,040
Speaker 1: You just had mental come up transactional, which means that

938
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: you like a trade of something, which probably you do

939
00:49:56,600 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 1: trade trade. Actually, like what's interesting about Mandy getting mental

940
00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: to me? And this is just years of fair if

941
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 1: you're trying to like like not self diagnosed, but you know,

942
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: you constantly talk about how you don't need emotional ship

943
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 1: to fuck somebody, right, but literally, mental is the only

944
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:22,399
Speaker 1: way that you're going to get off from sex. The

945
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:24,879
Speaker 1: only person you're sucking right now, you don't have mental

946
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:28,000
Speaker 1: stimulation with. You're saying, there's no intimacy to see there,

947
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 1: so technically no, because that ship was intimate. So if

948
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 1: there's no intimacy there, that ship that you don't want

949
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,680
Speaker 1: that you're doing it was crazy as now before we

950
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:39,400
Speaker 1: have sex, like we always catch up on our weeks,

951
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:42,240
Speaker 1: the projects were doing. He loves to know, like what's

952
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 1: don't kiss? We don't we don't kiss, but so this

953
00:50:45,280 --> 00:50:47,239
Speaker 1: is not how you like to be loved, right, So

954
00:50:48,320 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 1: what I liked was him saying he ordered dinner, and

955
00:50:50,719 --> 00:50:53,320
Speaker 1: you'll talk about your day before me and him normally

956
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:55,840
Speaker 1: have sex. We do, we catch up on our schedule,

957
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,360
Speaker 1: the projects, were doing what we like. He questions me

958
00:50:58,400 --> 00:51:00,799
Speaker 1: about the tore coming up a girl at this point,

959
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 1: he ain't gonna be your boyfriend, and you're getting what

960
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 1: you want from him, But I'm not getting that. Sex

961
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 1: is what I want from him. I'm not getting fully.

962
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 1: But the guy that I really liked, we like and

963
00:51:11,120 --> 00:51:13,760
Speaker 1: we never agreed, but we talked and he spoke well,

964
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 1: and we would just talk about I love niggas who

965
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:25,480
Speaker 1: speaking I don't know because I grew up a niggas

966
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:29,799
Speaker 1: but Florida education. I'm sorry, That's why I'd be getting

967
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:34,640
Speaker 1: ship wrong. So I just really love a guy who

968
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:37,279
Speaker 1: could just talk for long hours and we just can

969
00:51:37,360 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 1: keep talking, and they're good listeners and talkers. I really

970
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:43,319
Speaker 1: like talking clearly, So I like talkers, and I like

971
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 1: when someone comes back and talk like I hate niggers

972
00:51:46,120 --> 00:51:47,800
Speaker 1: that come over and they just be so stupid, but

973
00:51:47,800 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 1: they'd be so fine, but they just don't know your

974
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 1: love languages. Um, I didn't know mine line of physical

975
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:58,720
Speaker 1: touch affirmation gifts. I think affirmation is then quality time

976
00:51:58,880 --> 00:52:01,799
Speaker 1: then as aformation, and quality time is my big thing

977
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,000
Speaker 1: and I tell everyone that all the time, Like if

978
00:52:04,000 --> 00:52:05,719
Speaker 1: I give you my time, that means the most. I

979
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:07,239
Speaker 1: don't care how much money you spend on me. I

980
00:52:07,239 --> 00:52:09,280
Speaker 1: don't care none of that. I just want your time.

981
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 1: That was my That's always my big thing. Language. I

982
00:52:12,400 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 1: was gonna be like French ebon level of accent. What

983
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:22,120
Speaker 1: do your love languages minus quality time and affirmation? Be

984
00:52:22,239 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 1: sure mine's physical touch and affirmation physical touch Like I'm

985
00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:30,239
Speaker 1: a I'm a hugger. I like to I touched people

986
00:52:30,239 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 1: to let them know that hug Some people hug you,

987
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 1: and this stiff I don't know what that was. I

988
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:39,320
Speaker 1: would have just rather not. I don't even like pitter patterns.

989
00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:41,120
Speaker 1: Don't touch me. And you know what, I don't like

990
00:52:41,200 --> 00:52:43,279
Speaker 1: hugging straight men when they do like that double pad

991
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:45,719
Speaker 1: thing because they just like man hug and it's like,

992
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 1: don't funny that I remember telling someone I used to date,

993
00:52:49,560 --> 00:52:53,279
Speaker 1: or just noticing how he hugged my friends, which are

994
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: mostly gay. Man really made me happy because he wasn't

995
00:52:57,280 --> 00:52:59,960
Speaker 1: scared of it, like he was so secure in himself,

996
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 1: like you know, I give a funk about them, so

997
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 1: it ain't know like all right, bro, like you know,

998
00:53:04,440 --> 00:53:06,480
Speaker 1: that's a really important thing for me, is touch though,

999
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 1: And I think I think finding out so in the

1000
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 1: book that I like what chance book the game desire,

1001
00:53:12,640 --> 00:53:15,319
Speaker 1: like talking about how you like to be loved, so

1002
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 1: that you can know and understand what kind of partner

1003
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 1: you want. That's what. Yeah, that's another one. So and

1004
00:53:20,640 --> 00:53:23,239
Speaker 1: that's that's another thing where I think long distance, long

1005
00:53:23,280 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 1: distance to me would work. I like to be able

1006
00:53:25,000 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 1: to miss someone, and I don't want someone all up

1007
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 1: under me. So even if I have a local boyfriend,

1008
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:31,680
Speaker 1: I'm sorry we can't see each other every day. Don't

1009
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 1: come over every day. Don't think I'm gonna be with

1010
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:36,040
Speaker 1: you every day. That's hard. What you're saying is crazy.

1011
00:53:36,280 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people I know plenty of

1012
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 1: people that I don't want. I don't want a kind

1013
00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 1: of people that would love to get married and live

1014
00:53:41,680 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 1: in separate friends. Hey, Franky would love to get married

1015
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:46,719
Speaker 1: and live in a separate house. Like it just be

1016
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:50,440
Speaker 1: like complexes. I was like, that's Boss's fun, all right?

1017
00:53:50,560 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 1: You know you definitely talk about what our dream relationship

1018
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 1: WUL looks like you start, I would be the last one.

1019
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,839
Speaker 1: Dream relationship would look like me being at my best

1020
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:01,760
Speaker 1: self and me being someone that is their best self

1021
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:05,840
Speaker 1: or that can either be interested enough and pushing theirselves

1022
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 1: to be their best self or just interested enough, and

1023
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 1: the relationship. I mean, so many people that have a

1024
00:54:10,680 --> 00:54:12,680
Speaker 1: d D. In New York. Dating is really hard because

1025
00:54:12,680 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 1: you're dating so many people at once. If you are

1026
00:54:14,280 --> 00:54:16,360
Speaker 1: dating a lot of people and then sometimes is just

1027
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 1: go ghost. So it's kind of like if I can

1028
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:22,279
Speaker 1: find somebody that's not that's consistent, Like consistency is what

1029
00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 1: I pray so like, and I feel like consistency can

1030
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:29,439
Speaker 1: be rooted in communication sometimes because I literally just apologize,

1031
00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 1: like my communication was bad last night, sorry because we

1032
00:54:31,880 --> 00:54:33,160
Speaker 1: were supposed to go on a date and that thing

1033
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:34,520
Speaker 1: is in Brookland, which means I'm not going to see

1034
00:54:34,520 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 1: because don't mean a lot of guys that even acknowledge

1035
00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:39,480
Speaker 1: how bad their communication is, like when they're like I'll

1036
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: mean people they're like, oh, let's hang out today and

1037
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:42,480
Speaker 1: I'll be all right cool, but I have to work

1038
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:44,479
Speaker 1: at five and then it'll be like four or fifty

1039
00:54:44,520 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 1: and they're like, Okay, I'm headed over like I'm about

1040
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:50,160
Speaker 1: and then they're like, oh well you couldn't hit me.

1041
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 1: I'm like, I gave you the time ahead of time.

1042
00:54:52,600 --> 00:54:54,800
Speaker 1: And then it turns into an argument that I shouldn't

1043
00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 1: even be having with somebody I haven't even seen. It's

1044
00:54:57,640 --> 00:55:01,920
Speaker 1: like a lot of people are dismissive. I think, Um,

1045
00:55:02,719 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 1: what's it? What's your dream relationship? Go around the table.

1046
00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:12,400
Speaker 1: Obviously husband and wife, but I'm looking for like partnership.

1047
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:15,319
Speaker 1: I think where they're like two p's in a fucking fod.

1048
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:20,080
Speaker 1: You elevate my frequency, like we are on the same wavelength,

1049
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:25,360
Speaker 1: like when I'm a total balance when I'm overreacting. Um,

1050
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:28,320
Speaker 1: you need to be the source that feels calm when

1051
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:32,000
Speaker 1: I am doing well. You need to elevate that ship,

1052
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:36,360
Speaker 1: not feel threatened by it. Completely motivate me, um to

1053
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 1: be be doing better. A lot of people I think

1054
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 1: find their successes is like, that's what it is like,

1055
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:43,239
Speaker 1: And I'm totally humble and feeling like what I do

1056
00:55:43,320 --> 00:55:45,120
Speaker 1: is nothing sometimes like I want you to make me

1057
00:55:45,120 --> 00:55:48,360
Speaker 1: feel like I could be scared to tell what I do. Yeah,

1058
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:50,720
Speaker 1: me too, I don't like doing it. And I also

1059
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:53,680
Speaker 1: and Shannon has taught me this just from personal conversations.

1060
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:57,520
Speaker 1: Someone that is loving and obsessed with the person, the

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00:55:57,560 --> 00:56:01,239
Speaker 1: public persona that I have right now, the older dude

1062
00:56:01,280 --> 00:56:04,320
Speaker 1: that I'm seeing, like Beard Bay who's my main partner,

1063
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:08,520
Speaker 1: and Scissors. They love horrible decisions, They completely love what

1064
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 1: I do. They would tell anybody and can't wait to

1065
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:13,520
Speaker 1: tell them how fucking gross my ship is and how

1066
00:56:13,520 --> 00:56:18,279
Speaker 1: funny I am. This older nigked really likes me, and

1067
00:56:18,360 --> 00:56:20,920
Speaker 1: I can tell is like he said, I'm impressed by you,

1068
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:23,359
Speaker 1: but like sometimes I'll talk about work and he'd be like, yo,

1069
00:56:23,440 --> 00:56:27,439
Speaker 1: you be wild, and like that'shi wild to me. That's

1070
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 1: not the partner for me because that person needs to

1071
00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 1: be like Damn Bay, he came in there talking about

1072
00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:35,360
Speaker 1: drinking piste. I don't know where you find these motherfucker's.

1073
00:56:35,400 --> 00:56:38,040
Speaker 1: That's what I need is someone that knows and understand

1074
00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:41,360
Speaker 1: that my public persona is totally different from who I am.

1075
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:44,200
Speaker 1: And I think that people in the era of dating

1076
00:56:44,239 --> 00:56:48,879
Speaker 1: today can't grapple the two differences, like people that talk

1077
00:56:48,920 --> 00:56:51,040
Speaker 1: to it about me on the Internet or YouTube comments

1078
00:56:51,120 --> 00:56:54,160
Speaker 1: or whatever. I share everything that I feel like telling

1079
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:57,440
Speaker 1: you you have no idea who I am, and I

1080
00:56:57,520 --> 00:57:00,040
Speaker 1: want the person that's with me to completely understand and

1081
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:02,640
Speaker 1: me all of me because I know who I am,

1082
00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:04,839
Speaker 1: but I want them to know and accept it and

1083
00:57:04,920 --> 00:57:07,040
Speaker 1: also be cool with what other people might think of me,

1084
00:57:07,320 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 1: because other people might think I'm trash. I come on

1085
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:12,000
Speaker 1: here and do accents every week. I fight with Mandy

1086
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:14,560
Speaker 1: on air. What if they love Mandy and they hate me,

1087
00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 1: They're gonna think I'm a terrible person, right, Like, no

1088
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:20,120
Speaker 1: one understand that those people don't matter. Create your own

1089
00:57:20,160 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 1: opinion of me and put me on the bostal. That

1090
00:57:22,840 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 1: is the best relationship. See. And I also want somebody

1091
00:57:25,640 --> 00:57:28,640
Speaker 1: that respects my work but don't necessarily to be involved

1092
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:30,400
Speaker 1: in it or with it. Like I don't need you

1093
00:57:30,440 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: to check in and be like, yes, I heard your

1094
00:57:32,040 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 1: show this week. Oh that was crazy, No nigga, right.

1095
00:57:36,480 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 1: I don't come up to your job and say you

1096
00:57:38,120 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 1: didn't feel your quota this week. I had to talk

1097
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 1: about foot fucking I did four years because this is

1098
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:46,000
Speaker 1: my job. I mean, shann with Jared like she loves

1099
00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:49,160
Speaker 1: talking about how casual dating was fun for her and

1100
00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:50,880
Speaker 1: her Man can sit there and watch and be proud

1101
00:57:51,240 --> 00:57:53,600
Speaker 1: because look at this fucking book, you know what I'm saying,

1102
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:55,800
Speaker 1: Look at what the funk I'm doing a fucking tour,

1103
00:57:56,080 --> 00:57:58,400
Speaker 1: a show running two years and Ship like that, Like

1104
00:57:58,720 --> 00:58:01,760
Speaker 1: no one appreciate that me talking about cream pies is

1105
00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:04,680
Speaker 1: my job. Yeah, and you know what, it's gonna take

1106
00:58:04,760 --> 00:58:07,760
Speaker 1: somebody that's gonna have to be very forward thinking and

1107
00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:10,160
Speaker 1: understanding of the work that you're doing and how important

1108
00:58:10,160 --> 00:58:12,400
Speaker 1: it is, like talking about how Ship just isn't like

1109
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 1: we're trying to be a pornhub podcast as much as

1110
00:58:15,360 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 1: it is. I feel like bringing light and removing shame

1111
00:58:18,600 --> 00:58:22,240
Speaker 1: and really giving people like the strength to be accountable

1112
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:24,760
Speaker 1: for what Then they do. People look at me and

1113
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: the spaces that I exist in, and they think that

1114
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:29,400
Speaker 1: it's easy, that my gayness is easy. They think that

1115
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:32,520
Speaker 1: I have you know, we was joking about trade earlier,

1116
00:58:32,520 --> 00:58:33,960
Speaker 1: and I don't think that I'm trade. But people are like,

1117
00:58:33,960 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 1: you're more masculine than a certain homosexual, so you have

1118
00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:38,400
Speaker 1: a certain privilege. And for me, I don't feel like

1119
00:58:38,440 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 1: I have any privilege. I don't feel like and not

1120
00:58:40,520 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 1: that I'm just a vigor yes, just it literally just

1121
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:47,840
Speaker 1: happened to me too that so I was like a

1122
00:58:47,920 --> 00:58:49,960
Speaker 1: nigga literally just told me that I think being gay

1123
00:58:50,000 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 1: is easy, disgusted, and I'm sitt up here like I'm

1124
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:55,320
Speaker 1: making it look easy. So y'all don't have to deal

1125
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:57,200
Speaker 1: with it because I want to open more doors because

1126
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:00,000
Speaker 1: homosexual ain't got ship to do with ship. A nigga

1127
00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:01,720
Speaker 1: that straight that texts deal doos ain't got ship to

1128
00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 1: do what. I know that Malcolm I said the black

1129
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 1: woman is the most disrespected in the world in America

1130
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:08,160
Speaker 1: and where I do believe that's true. I believe gay

1131
00:59:08,200 --> 00:59:10,920
Speaker 1: black men are just as low on that totem post's

1132
00:59:10,920 --> 00:59:17,000
Speaker 1: still women just add trance to that. Yeah, I'm sorry,

1133
00:59:17,040 --> 00:59:19,880
Speaker 1: but I've watched it with my own eyes. I mean

1134
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:22,680
Speaker 1: my close relationships. I mean, I don't know if anyone

1135
00:59:22,880 --> 00:59:24,960
Speaker 1: that listens to the show knows and understands how deep

1136
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:27,680
Speaker 1: rooted and gay I am. I was born in San France.

1137
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:30,760
Speaker 1: My godmother was a drag queen. Okay, my mother was.

1138
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:34,480
Speaker 1: I don't even uncles like seriously her close girlfriend, and

1139
00:59:34,520 --> 00:59:36,560
Speaker 1: I am my mother's child. All of my friends are

1140
00:59:36,560 --> 00:59:40,040
Speaker 1: gay man, you know, and I am watching on a

1141
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 1: constant basis how they're talked to treated in relationships treated

1142
00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:46,680
Speaker 1: by people they love, family, society. Vinnie, who's come on

1143
00:59:46,680 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 1: this show fucking got kicked out of school for being gay. Okay,

1144
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:53,600
Speaker 1: so up the house. I've had friends that used to

1145
00:59:53,600 --> 00:59:55,600
Speaker 1: stay with me. I used to take people around the places,

1146
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:57,920
Speaker 1: like to get shipped. I know that ship is not

1147
00:59:57,960 --> 01:00:00,680
Speaker 1: easy at all. I grew up in Atlanta, gay mecca

1148
01:00:00,720 --> 01:00:03,320
Speaker 1: because it's full of homosexuals, but that don't mean it's

1149
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:07,280
Speaker 1: gay mecca because it's gay run because remember Georgia, Gay Georgia.

1150
01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:13,880
Speaker 1: People forget that it's Atlanta, Georgia. That's what they be forgetting.

1151
01:00:14,040 --> 01:00:15,520
Speaker 1: Before we get out of here, I want to get

1152
01:00:15,560 --> 01:00:18,200
Speaker 1: real quick into our homemail. Everyone give a little bit

1153
01:00:19,360 --> 01:00:21,640
Speaker 1: um and this has a little bit to do with

1154
01:00:21,640 --> 01:00:24,880
Speaker 1: with with the communications. So a bit is catching feelings

1155
01:00:24,920 --> 01:00:27,560
Speaker 1: over at Twitter, Nigga. Hey, horr, sisters. I'm a new

1156
01:00:27,600 --> 01:00:29,920
Speaker 1: listener to the podcast, and I have to fucking lutely

1157
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:33,680
Speaker 1: love y'all. Y'all holds wild. I can relate mostly to

1158
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:36,920
Speaker 1: everything you'll talk about. But look a here, Maine, I'm

1159
01:00:36,960 --> 01:00:40,600
Speaker 1: in some trouble. That's literally how it's right. So I

1160
01:00:40,640 --> 01:00:43,800
Speaker 1: met this beautiful, chubby, funny bearded man off of Twitter.

1161
01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:47,560
Speaker 1: We're currently eight hours apart, but that man is my world.

1162
01:00:47,800 --> 01:00:50,720
Speaker 1: We talk in text every day. We've been rapping since

1163
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:53,680
Speaker 1: my birthday. This past April sent the nudes hourly Sexton

1164
01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:56,600
Speaker 1: right now. Hell this fall, we're planning to meet up.

1165
01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:59,840
Speaker 1: But here's my dilemma. I don't want to talk to

1166
01:01:00,000 --> 01:01:03,320
Speaker 1: anyone else. I don't want to suck anyone else. And

1167
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:05,680
Speaker 1: I love to fuck. When I'm out on dates or

1168
01:01:05,760 --> 01:01:08,520
Speaker 1: my head is in another nigga's lap, I feel as

1169
01:01:08,560 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 1: if I'm cheating. We're not even together. He tells me

1170
01:01:12,000 --> 01:01:15,520
Speaker 1: to always be open with him, but bitch, I just can't.

1171
01:01:15,960 --> 01:01:18,480
Speaker 1: I don't want him to feel any different about me.

1172
01:01:18,800 --> 01:01:20,600
Speaker 1: I can really see a future with this man. But

1173
01:01:20,680 --> 01:01:23,520
Speaker 1: like I said, we're miles apart. He is literally everything

1174
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:25,880
Speaker 1: I've ever asked for. And I phone too fast and

1175
01:01:25,960 --> 01:01:28,200
Speaker 1: I being stupid over a Twitter nigga, And how do

1176
01:01:28,280 --> 01:01:31,120
Speaker 1: I tell him about my sexual ron Davos please help

1177
01:01:31,360 --> 01:01:38,520
Speaker 1: a confused descent lover. Because you're the guest. Look, I'm

1178
01:01:39,160 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 1: straight up get away from the bullshit, be upfront, honest, say.

1179
01:01:42,600 --> 01:01:45,120
Speaker 1: I was just like, Hey, we've not mean until here,

1180
01:01:45,200 --> 01:01:47,720
Speaker 1: but you know, I'm still dating other people and you know,

1181
01:01:47,760 --> 01:01:49,280
Speaker 1: every now and then, I gotta scratched that it and

1182
01:01:49,280 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 1: you don't even got to say that much. But I'm

1183
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:53,360
Speaker 1: still seeing other people up until we've decided this is

1184
01:01:53,360 --> 01:01:56,120
Speaker 1: gonna be locked it, and I think I think everyone

1185
01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:58,439
Speaker 1: needs to open up with that. Just be honest on

1186
01:01:58,640 --> 01:02:01,280
Speaker 1: what you're doing, who you are currently, even when you're dating.

1187
01:02:01,280 --> 01:02:03,920
Speaker 1: And I picked that knowing that we had this whole conversation,

1188
01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:07,400
Speaker 1: so hopefully everything that we even communicated during the horrible

1189
01:02:07,400 --> 01:02:10,240
Speaker 1: decision can relate to you. Like you should never feel

1190
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:13,520
Speaker 1: like you when you're dating, that you're pretending to be

1191
01:02:13,600 --> 01:02:16,200
Speaker 1: something you're not. As soon as you do that, you

1192
01:02:16,240 --> 01:02:18,400
Speaker 1: need to know that that's not the person for you.

1193
01:02:18,400 --> 01:02:19,880
Speaker 1: You don't need to play a role. You don't need

1194
01:02:19,920 --> 01:02:22,760
Speaker 1: to hide parts of yourself to think you're gonna please

1195
01:02:22,800 --> 01:02:25,440
Speaker 1: who you're dating. So that would be my advice is

1196
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:27,120
Speaker 1: just let him know who you are. Also let him

1197
01:02:27,120 --> 01:02:29,160
Speaker 1: know we're both single. I love talking to you and

1198
01:02:29,200 --> 01:02:31,080
Speaker 1: I want to be with you, but yeah, I may

1199
01:02:31,120 --> 01:02:33,800
Speaker 1: see some people from time to time because I'm sexual

1200
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:35,439
Speaker 1: and I need to get my nut off. I don't

1201
01:02:35,440 --> 01:02:37,440
Speaker 1: that's what kind of say, right, Yeah, you can say that,

1202
01:02:37,520 --> 01:02:41,400
Speaker 1: right that I need to hit my nut. If a dude,

1203
01:02:41,400 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 1: won't you going to accept that? So will and if

1204
01:02:44,600 --> 01:02:47,240
Speaker 1: you don't, then there's something bad waiting for you. You

1205
01:02:47,480 --> 01:02:51,680
Speaker 1: do compromise, and again, guys, continue to send your homemail

1206
01:02:51,760 --> 01:02:55,160
Speaker 1: questions into us A horrible decisions at gmail dot com. Assante.

1207
01:02:55,280 --> 01:02:57,400
Speaker 1: Before we get out of here, let our listeners know

1208
01:02:57,680 --> 01:03:00,480
Speaker 1: where they could find you and also what project you have.

1209
01:03:00,840 --> 01:03:04,360
Speaker 1: Find me on all social media at hair Science Twitter back.

1210
01:03:05,040 --> 01:03:06,560
Speaker 1: I am not back on my Twitter. You have not

1211
01:03:06,600 --> 01:03:08,000
Speaker 1: seen me tweet I have it back when I'm not

1212
01:03:08,040 --> 01:03:10,080
Speaker 1: on there, but you can still tweet me on Instagram me.

1213
01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:12,920
Speaker 1: I'm on Instagram mostly at hair Science. H E y A,

1214
01:03:13,080 --> 01:03:16,280
Speaker 1: S S A and t E. Interact with my Instagram

1215
01:03:16,640 --> 01:03:18,400
Speaker 1: for If I Were a Rapper it's at If I

1216
01:03:18,480 --> 01:03:20,280
Speaker 1: Were a Rapper and that's the name of the podcast,

1217
01:03:20,480 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 1: and if you want to tweet that, it's at I

1218
01:03:22,080 --> 01:03:24,000
Speaker 1: F I W A R find me. I Love the

1219
01:03:24,080 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 1: Internet and check out the friend Zone podcast. Yes, check

1220
01:03:26,640 --> 01:03:29,160
Speaker 1: out both of those. UM. I was on an episode

1221
01:03:29,160 --> 01:03:31,320
Speaker 1: of If I Work a Rapper and we talked about

1222
01:03:31,360 --> 01:03:36,520
Speaker 1: just mad ghetto shit. I loved it. Yeah, it's two things.

1223
01:03:36,680 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 1: Yours has to come back. Um, with somebody else. I

1224
01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:41,080
Speaker 1: have to plan who was going to be and your

1225
01:03:41,080 --> 01:03:43,160
Speaker 1: grass has to come on there. I like bringing people

1226
01:03:43,160 --> 01:03:45,760
Speaker 1: onto the show and they all switch like that. But

1227
01:03:45,920 --> 01:03:48,080
Speaker 1: she was at a lot of motherfucker show and I

1228
01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 1: wont but exactly so you won. You funked up so

1229
01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:55,520
Speaker 1: exactly now you're justin knew the words to everything. But

1230
01:03:55,560 --> 01:03:58,000
Speaker 1: my teammates for your team was holding down. The team

1231
01:03:58,080 --> 01:04:02,080
Speaker 1: was holding you down. I was like, um, so holday, alright,

1232
01:04:02,120 --> 01:04:09,520
Speaker 1: look I'm lo care bitch money now. Thank you for

1233
01:04:09,720 --> 01:04:12,800
Speaker 1: joining us, um and also just a huge shout out

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01:04:12,800 --> 01:04:14,720
Speaker 1: to our patrons. As you guys know, if you're all

1235
01:04:14,760 --> 01:04:17,400
Speaker 1: caught up with all of our episodes, we have a

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01:04:17,400 --> 01:04:21,920
Speaker 1: little over forty more episodes on Patreon, So become a patron.

1237
01:04:22,280 --> 01:04:25,440
Speaker 1: That's patreon dot com back Slash Horrible Decisions, And before

1238
01:04:25,440 --> 01:04:26,760
Speaker 1: we get out of here, we are going to leave

1239
01:04:26,760 --> 01:04:30,760
Speaker 1: you guys with a five minute clip to let you

1240
01:04:30,800 --> 01:04:33,000
Speaker 1: guys motherfucking know what the fun is going out, So

1241
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 1: check it out. Become a patron. So, speaking of patrons,

1242
01:04:36,840 --> 01:04:39,280
Speaker 1: I want to give a super motherfucker shout out to

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Speaker 1: d C. We are doing our pre sale tickets open

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01:04:44,240 --> 01:04:48,080
Speaker 1: available only two patrons throughout the tour, and our Patreon

1245
01:04:48,120 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 1: community in d C was able to sell out one

1246
01:04:50,920 --> 01:04:54,040
Speaker 1: fifth of the show in one day, so I want

1247
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:55,840
Speaker 1: to give a super huge shout out to d C.

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Speaker 1: Boston and Philly were also coming to you. So November six,

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Speaker 1: we will be in Philadelphia, followed by the eighth of

1250
01:05:03,160 --> 01:05:05,440
Speaker 1: November will be in d C. And of course on

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Speaker 1: twelve twelve, got is December twelve, we will be in

1252
01:05:09,440 --> 01:05:14,240
Speaker 1: motherfucking Boston. So looking forward to see you guys all there.

1253
01:05:14,720 --> 01:05:20,600
Speaker 1: Check out tickets now available at horrible decisions dot com.

1254
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Speaker 1: Once again, it's now open to the public. Get your

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01:05:23,800 --> 01:05:28,360
Speaker 1: tickets now at horrible decisions dot com. And as always,

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01:05:28,360 --> 01:05:31,800
Speaker 1: this has been yet another episode of poor decisions Bright.

1257
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:39,360
Speaker 1: So pumpkin is the next food you know, I love

1258
01:05:39,400 --> 01:05:44,480
Speaker 1: them because like you, I love that ship. Give me full.

1259
01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:48,240
Speaker 1: Whether I get Punking everything, I want pumpkin literally everything

1260
01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:51,160
Speaker 1: at Punking Candle. But pumpkin is high in fiber and

1261
01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:55,560
Speaker 1: has potassium, so it's actually good for stamina um as

1262
01:05:55,600 --> 01:05:58,280
Speaker 1: well as magnesium, which can help calm nerves and muscles,

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Speaker 1: So maybe it's good if you wanna have anal sex folloween.

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Speaker 1: Let's get this ship going pumpkin? Wait, did you ever

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01:06:05,480 --> 01:06:08,120
Speaker 1: an know yet? No? I mean I got, I went in,

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01:06:08,200 --> 01:06:09,680
Speaker 1: but like I haven't had a full on funk. I

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01:06:09,680 --> 01:06:12,040
Speaker 1: want it, though what happened, I couldn't handle it, But

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Speaker 1: I guess I'll have a pumpkin now. Oh my god,

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01:06:15,240 --> 01:06:18,880
Speaker 1: use that lube, bro, I used a lube, use the

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01:06:19,560 --> 01:06:24,120
Speaker 1: basic But to do that, I never thought about my ask.

1271
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:27,040
Speaker 1: So that's the thing. But but with a lot of

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01:06:27,080 --> 01:06:29,560
Speaker 1: those um and this isn't just even the one I use,

1273
01:06:29,680 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 1: but any of those CBD um oils, they're not compatible

1274
01:06:33,240 --> 01:06:36,480
Speaker 1: with latex. So because I'm someone who has sex with condoms,

1275
01:06:36,560 --> 01:06:38,840
Speaker 1: I only use it for self pleasure because a lot

1276
01:06:38,880 --> 01:06:42,840
Speaker 1: of these organic things don't mix well once you like

1277
01:06:44,040 --> 01:06:47,640
Speaker 1: firmacides skill, I don't know what happens, But the condoms,

1278
01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:49,040
Speaker 1: I don't know if it breaks with for you know,

1279
01:06:49,080 --> 01:06:51,520
Speaker 1: I don't know what happens. And with condom, I just

1280
01:06:51,520 --> 01:06:53,000
Speaker 1: don't want to try and say, don't use a condo

1281
01:06:53,000 --> 01:06:56,480
Speaker 1: your boyfriend, no, he like, I just don't even. I

1282
01:06:56,560 --> 01:07:00,920
Speaker 1: just I'm so like hypo sexually, like I forgot about that.

1283
01:07:00,920 --> 01:07:06,400
Speaker 1: That's right, that I am. I am dead. Um one

1284
01:07:06,440 --> 01:07:08,480
Speaker 1: of the other foods that I've found really interesting, which

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01:07:08,480 --> 01:07:12,760
Speaker 1: which I had no idea. Apples. Apples have been associated

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01:07:12,800 --> 01:07:17,120
Speaker 1: with increased sex drive two thousand fourteen. Studies suggested that

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01:07:17,120 --> 01:07:19,280
Speaker 1: eating an apple will day, which not only keeps the

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01:07:19,280 --> 01:07:23,080
Speaker 1: doctor away, but it's correlated with better sexual quality of

1289
01:07:23,120 --> 01:07:26,080
Speaker 1: life in young women. That's interesting. It's interesting. A lot

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01:07:26,120 --> 01:07:28,880
Speaker 1: of apples, suit it ain't no help me. Champagne is

1291
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Speaker 1: on this list. I always knew, Like, I just thought

1292
01:07:33,440 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 1: I felt classy when I drink it. I didn't know.

1293
01:07:35,320 --> 01:07:37,200
Speaker 1: I thought that's what made me want to funk. I'm like, oh,

1294
01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:42,000
Speaker 1: my egos going. But no, I guess so champagne, what

1295
01:07:42,040 --> 01:07:44,520
Speaker 1: if it? What if it? What does it say about

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01:07:44,560 --> 01:07:47,160
Speaker 1: champagne Because it's alcohol, so technically I'm saying that it

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01:07:47,200 --> 01:07:48,720
Speaker 1: has more to do with getting in the mood for

1298
01:07:48,720 --> 01:07:51,800
Speaker 1: a special occasion and the actual science behind the bubbles.

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01:07:51,840 --> 01:07:54,960
Speaker 1: It's shown that women with limited amounts of alcohol can

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01:07:55,000 --> 01:07:59,840
Speaker 1: increase the desire and potentially lower their inhibitions, specifically with champagne,

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01:07:59,840 --> 01:08:05,000
Speaker 1: though over any other calls are classy and sexy. Yeah,

1302
01:08:05,040 --> 01:08:08,200
Speaker 1: but some girls are gonna be drinking prosecco and thinking champagne. No, yeah,

1303
01:08:08,280 --> 01:08:16,799
Speaker 1: nob if it ain't you ain't feeling limited? It's a sugar. UM.

1304
01:08:16,840 --> 01:08:18,760
Speaker 1: This is a common one that all of you know

1305
01:08:18,840 --> 01:08:22,760
Speaker 1: that is an aphrodisiac. Oysters UM. So the um what

1306
01:08:22,840 --> 01:08:26,759
Speaker 1: oysters do um is they contain actually a lot of zinc,

1307
01:08:27,000 --> 01:08:29,800
Speaker 1: which is a mineral important in the production of potosterone

1308
01:08:29,880 --> 01:08:33,320
Speaker 1: and sperm production. UM. They also contain a dopamine, which

1309
01:08:33,360 --> 01:08:36,800
Speaker 1: is a brain a brain chemical that increases desire. I

1310
01:08:36,840 --> 01:08:38,160
Speaker 1: think it has a lot to do with the sloping

1311
01:08:38,240 --> 01:08:42,920
Speaker 1: motion that you're doing. It's like I like to me,

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01:08:43,360 --> 01:08:45,600
Speaker 1: it's the motion of slopping. I think that makes you

1313
01:08:45,640 --> 01:08:49,200
Speaker 1: sexy when you have ice cream. I'm sorry if ice

1314
01:08:49,200 --> 01:08:51,960
Speaker 1: cream is on this list. There's no fucking science behind bana.

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01:08:52,520 --> 01:08:58,280
Speaker 1: Vanilla is vanilla ice cream like the vanilla bean. There's

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01:08:58,320 --> 01:09:00,200
Speaker 1: a weird one I want to read because I know

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01:09:00,240 --> 01:09:04,800
Speaker 1: that specifically make sure pie stink asparagus. The high amount

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01:09:04,800 --> 01:09:07,479
Speaker 1: of vitamin E increases the blood flow and oxygen to

1319
01:09:07,520 --> 01:09:10,640
Speaker 1: the genitals, and they say that the phallic shape of

1320
01:09:10,760 --> 01:09:13,000
Speaker 1: things can also help you get in the bood. I'm sorry,

1321
01:09:13,040 --> 01:09:15,080
Speaker 1: but I'm just going to take a vitamin E supplement

1322
01:09:15,160 --> 01:09:17,080
Speaker 1: and like look at something that I'm like not trying

1323
01:09:17,120 --> 01:09:18,800
Speaker 1: to have my wait, hold on, wait, what do you

1324
01:09:18,840 --> 01:09:22,040
Speaker 1: say about that ship? Asparagus makes your pee smell? Absolutely yes,

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I love sorry that I just

1326
01:09:23,800 --> 01:09:27,840
Speaker 1: said that you never pissed after eating asparagus. I mean, yes,

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Speaker 1: I have, I do drink a lot of okay, but

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Speaker 1: it