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Speaker 1: Letter with my girls. Sure to straw marry, thank you subject.

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Speaker 1: She was determined to have my child. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: Three years ago, I decided I was going to leave

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Speaker 1: that she stole my sperm. I am very angry about this.

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Speaker 1: Is there some legal action that I can take against her?

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Speaker 1: was deceitful. She was evil for doing this. I mean,

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Speaker 1: You said that she kept bugging you about having a child. Uh.

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Speaker 1: I mean, and so should you at this point. As

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Speaker 1: you love and take care of. I commend you for that.

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Speaker 1: So you're going to have to be an adult here.

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Speaker 1: He's married to a junk, and she couldn't she kept

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Speaker 1: Then when you found out the problems was molding, you

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Speaker 1: That's what happened. Thinking with the wrong Yeah. And I

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Speaker 1: listening to the same Harday morning show.