Speaker 1: I mean when I looked at the notes for the
Speaker 1: show and so you had a report about quiet dumping,
Speaker 1: so many things crossed my mind.
Speaker 2: You know, the same thing happened to me when I
Speaker 2: first heard about this. It's like, why are you talking
Speaker 2: about what?
Speaker 1: You just do it really quietly?
Speaker 2: So confused, So that's not what it is, not what
Speaker 2: you're thinking about.
Speaker 1: No, why dumping and why are people doing it? So
Speaker 1: it's obviously it's not. Ghosting is different than ghosting.
Speaker 2: I think it might be even worse than ghosting because
Speaker 2: it's manipulative, it's it's gas lighting, it's it's it's a
Speaker 2: cross between quite quitting and ghosting. Do you remember we
Speaker 2: talked about quite quitting a few weeks ago, from probably
Speaker 2: months ago at this point. Yeah, And it's when people
Speaker 2: only put the minimum amount of energy into their job
Speaker 2: when they're over it already because they're already looking for
Speaker 2: something new. But they're just like, I'll just be do
Speaker 2: the minimum anyways, and if they get fired, to get
Speaker 2: fired or eventually or I just don't care.
Speaker 1: So is this people trying to get people to break
Speaker 1: up with them.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's people just doing the minimum into but now
Speaker 2: into the relationship.
Speaker 1: And so that the other person sees that there's like
Speaker 1: nothing there and they break up with them. They don't
Speaker 1: have to do the breaking up exactly forever.
Speaker 2: It could go on forever, Noble. It all depends on
Speaker 2: what your style of dumpiness. Maybe this is your style.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know. I think that.
Speaker 2: Ryan seems very familiar with it.
Speaker 1: No, I'm not saying that. I'm just saying I feel
Speaker 1: like the term maybe is new. But I do think
Speaker 1: that people have lost interest for decades in relationships and
Speaker 1: they just go quiet.
Speaker 2: It's a slow phasing out right. So it's quiet. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's quite quitting, but just in a relationship. But it's
Speaker 2: it's a form of gas lighting because then you start
Speaker 2: making the other person feel like they're doing something wrong,
Speaker 2: when in reality they're not doing something wrong. It's you
Speaker 2: with the issue, and you're the one that's not. It
Speaker 2: doesn't have the you know, wabeles to and the reallylationship.
Speaker 1: Tanya, have you ever just gone sort of silent or
Speaker 1: less engaging in a relationship to get them to be
Speaker 1: turned on less or turned off?
Speaker 2: I can't say that I have. I'm usually the dumpy.
Speaker 3: The dumpy, Yeah, you're the dumpy yeah, you say, can
Speaker 3: we have a chat? Oh no, sorry, the dumped dumped? Yeah,
Speaker 3: that is.
Speaker 1: The dumpy, then, isn't the dumper to the dumpy? I
Speaker 1: think you're right.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I'm right, because which reminds me, I
Speaker 3: don't know that she's saying she's not the dumper, therefore
Speaker 3: she is the one that's dumped.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're saying you get dumped, Yes, dump. I know
Speaker 1: so sad.
Speaker 2: Well, we keep saying it over and over again. Thank you, Ryan,
Speaker 2: thank you, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: I mean, we know the value that she provides their loss.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you weren't the right what do you say, you
Speaker 2: weren't the right sock for them?
Speaker 3: It wasn't the right sock for their phone.
Speaker 1: They're listening, some of them are listening right now, hearing
Speaker 1: about the success that you were having with Robbie, thinking, oh,
Speaker 1: she's the one that got away.
Speaker 2: Right, she's the sock that got away. Believe. I do
Speaker 2: believe that.
Speaker 1: Actually yep, And I think I know one of the
Speaker 1: few specifically that's saying that.
Speaker 2: Now, why you gotta go and put some nonsense in
Speaker 2: her head like that?
Speaker 1: Well, look at her face, but you see she's all
Speaker 1: let up.
Speaker 2: Now, she wants to know who she's gonna go and
Speaker 2: like search old instagrams and.
Speaker 1: Reason you think it is.
Speaker 2: She's engaged Bliss right now, and you're okay, okay, we
Speaker 2: don't need to go down a rabbit.
Speaker 1: Hey, this all stays here.
Speaker 2: It doesn't stay here, just stay here.
Speaker 1: A microphone, Yeah, but they're not listening.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Anyways, the point of this is, let this be
Speaker 2: a P S A. And so if you're in a
Speaker 2: relationship like this, maybe it's time to evaluate it. And
Speaker 2: that's all. That's all I'm trying to say.
Speaker 1: I hear it.