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<v Speaker 1>Can we get a mic check please for the microphones.

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<v Speaker 2>Mike check one, two, three, four.

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<v Speaker 3>Here we go scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya

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<v Speaker 3>rat An iHeartRadio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Hey, it's her last

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<v Speaker 2>brain cell. She mustered out. We are fresh off of

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<v Speaker 2>Ali's bachelorette weekend.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought I would come home on a Sunday and

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<v Speaker 3>get one good night of sleep and be back to

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<v Speaker 3>health and wealth the next day. And that is not

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<v Speaker 3>the case.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I would have been fine, except Phoebe kept

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<v Speaker 2>me up all night. She needed to go pee, she

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<v Speaker 2>needed to go boop, like hours apart. Haley didn't budge.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, can you help me out a little bit,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm struggling. Finally the third time, it was at like

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<v Speaker 2>six this morning, and I was like, Tapter, can you

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<v Speaker 2>take her out?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I love you.

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<v Speaker 3>I know. That's a good thing about the the fifty

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<v Speaker 3>to fifty dog ownership is that we really do swap well.

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<v Speaker 2>She watched her all weekend, so I was. But I

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<v Speaker 2>was also like, I'm running low on my sleep sleep hours.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just running low, just running. Yeah, that could have.

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<v Speaker 2>Been in that sentence right there.

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<v Speaker 3>Period.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a great time. We were in the desert.

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<v Speaker 3>Should we start with Bacchorette or should we start with

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<v Speaker 3>I got so many dms of people wanted to hear

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<v Speaker 3>about your dad meeting Haley.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was a really big week. Like the fact

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<v Speaker 2>that all this happened within one week blows my mind

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<v Speaker 2>because it was a lot. But my parents came into

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<v Speaker 2>town from Florida, and it was my dad's first time

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<v Speaker 2>meeting Haley, and so it was a big deal. And

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<v Speaker 2>my mom has been out, she's met Haley obviously, but

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<v Speaker 2>in like my dad when I'm on FaceTime or like

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm talking to my parents on the phone or

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<v Speaker 2>on FaceTime, like Haley and my dad will say hey

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<v Speaker 2>and stuff. But this was the first time meeting in person.

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<v Speaker 2>And we've been together for we're on the approaching six years.

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<v Speaker 2>And a lot of people were like, can you talk

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<v Speaker 2>about that? And I think it's a very normal thing.

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<v Speaker 2>When I think for anybody, take out like religion, take

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<v Speaker 2>out beliefs, take out culture. I think when you have

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<v Speaker 2>expectations for who your kids are going to be, who

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<v Speaker 2>they're going to end up with, I think it's very

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<v Speaker 2>natural when you come out to have a reaction of

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<v Speaker 2>shock and like, oh, like, we definitely weren't expecting that,

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<v Speaker 2>and then you add in religion and cultural beliefs and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and then me going on the Bachelor. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>there was just like a lot where I think it

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<v Speaker 2>totally shocked them when I started dating Haley. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>been a journey, and it's like I'm I would love

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<v Speaker 2>to do like a podcast or something where I sit

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<v Speaker 2>done with my parents and like have their opinions on

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<v Speaker 2>it out knowle Like, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Know they never want to do that.

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<v Speaker 2>That'd be great, But I know it's been a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of grace I think on both sides of the relationship

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<v Speaker 2>of being like I know that you don't understand this,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's okay. Like I love you guys, and I

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<v Speaker 2>will never not be a part or have y'all as

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<v Speaker 2>a part of my life. And I think they have

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<v Speaker 2>done their best to get to a place where they

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<v Speaker 2>were comfortable with it right, And sometimes that looks like

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes that never happens for people, you know, which is

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<v Speaker 2>so sad. It's so sad, but it's the reality for

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of people. And so I think a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people are like what six years, But it was

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<v Speaker 2>the most like healing week that I think I've had

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<v Speaker 2>in a really long time. Like I would say, the

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<v Speaker 2>last time I really felt like that relief, for felt

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<v Speaker 2>elated was when Haley and I came out publicly. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think seeing my dad and Hailey got along so

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<v Speaker 2>well that it was like almost shocking.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, like you were like, why what's taking what took

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<v Speaker 3>so long?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Also, it's like I knew that they would like

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<v Speaker 2>each other, like she and Haley was so excited to

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<v Speaker 2>meet She was like, I'm so excited to meet your

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<v Speaker 2>dad because I know I feel like I know you

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<v Speaker 2>and have met your mom, so I go, oh, those

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<v Speaker 2>things are from her mom, And she was like meeting

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<v Speaker 2>your dad, I can say like, oh, Becca gets her

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<v Speaker 2>sarcasm and her wit and like her playfulness from her dad,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I got to see that. So it was so

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<v Speaker 2>fun to watch them like bond right, and it was

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<v Speaker 2>really really special. So I think the thing that Haley

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<v Speaker 2>and I talked about a lot was the gratitude of

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<v Speaker 2>my parents being willing and open to come out and

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<v Speaker 2>like see our lives and like be a part of it,

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<v Speaker 2>like stay with us and make it feel so comfortable

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<v Speaker 2>even though it was like, Okay, this was six years

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<v Speaker 2>in the making, it felt so worth the weight.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know, and I felt like at least you

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<v Speaker 3>got here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, totally. And I don't even have I mean, I

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<v Speaker 2>think you know a lot people I think it's like,

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<v Speaker 2>do you hold resentment that it took so long? But

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<v Speaker 2>I don't because I think that they did it the

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<v Speaker 2>way that they needed to do it to get to

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<v Speaker 2>this point. Yeah, and I feel grateful for that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. And you know, they say time heels, time heels.

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<v Speaker 2>And I kept saying that. I was like, I just believe,

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<v Speaker 2>like I know that there will come a time and

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know when it's gonna happen where this happened,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was never like my parents never did anything

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<v Speaker 2>or said anything that like where they were like, we

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to meet Haley, right. I think I just

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to feel comfortable for both parties. And maybe that

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<v Speaker 2>was a little bit on me, as when people.

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<v Speaker 3>Pleased for it, you didn't want to like force it.

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<v Speaker 3>You wanted it to kind of happen naturally, which it did.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I think which we're going to do an

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<v Speaker 2>episode about this, but we took the human Design Test

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<v Speaker 2>and this really resonated with me because right in this time,

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<v Speaker 2>I am a projector and a lot of that is

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<v Speaker 2>waiting for things to come to you. And I think

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<v Speaker 2>there's other people who would be like, I'm just going

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<v Speaker 2>to rip the band aid and they're going to meet and.

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<v Speaker 3>It's going to be what it is, but I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>to make it happen.

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<v Speaker 2>Wanted to wait for it to feel good for everybody,

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<v Speaker 2>and we did, and I was so proud of like

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<v Speaker 2>the collective effort on everyone's end, and it was just

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<v Speaker 2>like such a beautiful week. So I was so grateful.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're someone who you've had to wait for loved

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<v Speaker 2>ones to come around, like stay hopeful, Oh cry, no,

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<v Speaker 2>don't cry, don't make me cry. Looking at me when

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<v Speaker 2>making eye contact, Okay, everyone's look at each other. Just

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<v Speaker 2>it can happen.

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<v Speaker 3>So I know I'm fine. I'm good. I'm not fine.

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<v Speaker 3>I just think, like, you know, just from watching you,

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<v Speaker 3>I just feel like you're so strong, and you've been

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<v Speaker 3>so strong throughout the whole process and like loving on

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<v Speaker 3>both sides, you know, like loving to your parents, loving

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<v Speaker 3>to Haley and being that bridge for so many years

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<v Speaker 3>and just kind of having that relief and that release.

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<v Speaker 3>I just can't imagine what that feels like for you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>it's really good. Yeah. Uh so I just want to

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<v Speaker 3>say you're welcome for the Human Design Test because you

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<v Speaker 3>always peep through the homework I give you, and now

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<v Speaker 3>you feel like enlightened.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't poop put. Well, actually it was a very

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<v Speaker 2>easy test.

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<v Speaker 1>We all.

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<v Speaker 2>It was basically put your where you were born, what

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<v Speaker 2>time you were born, and there you go. You got

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<v Speaker 2>your answer. But I did We're gonna go like do

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<v Speaker 2>a deep dive into that, but I was just we

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<v Speaker 2>did it yesterday and it in my mind it like

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<v Speaker 2>went so well with that. My parents, you know, just

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<v Speaker 2>like that. Wait.

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<v Speaker 3>So, but as I'm saying, who knows if you would

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<v Speaker 3>have forced it, Let's say four years ago, if you

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<v Speaker 3>were like, you know what, I'm gonna come home for

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<v Speaker 3>Christmas and I'm bringing my girlfriend and you forced it,

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<v Speaker 3>it could have gone bad, you know what I mean? Like,

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like it went so well because you gave

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<v Speaker 3>it time, you gave everybody. You let everybody do it

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<v Speaker 3>at their own time. Yeah, if you forced it, it

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<v Speaker 3>could have been not so not gone so well.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my family's wonderful, like my family's so warm, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think if I had brought Haley home it maybe

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<v Speaker 2>there would have been like some awkward moments, but I

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<v Speaker 2>think Haley would have felt very welcomed in love. But

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't want to force it on Hailey, and I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to force it on my parents, and I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't want to force it on me. Yeah, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>like it almost felt like I was doing it for

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<v Speaker 2>myself as well, right, So it was just no notes, no,

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<v Speaker 2>no notes, I don't think.

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<v Speaker 3>So when's the next gathering? Well?

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<v Speaker 2>I told my parents because you know, it was so

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<v Speaker 2>fun to have them out here, and like I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>y'all have to do this at least once a year, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>because we normally go home for Christmas and so we

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<v Speaker 2>see them everyone's together then. But I was like, this

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<v Speaker 2>was such a fun just having them, you know, giving

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<v Speaker 2>my mom all my having her go through the clothes

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<v Speaker 2>in my closets that I didn't want, like dressing. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>it was just so fun to have them here and

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<v Speaker 2>not feel like ru. I mean, it was fast, but

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<v Speaker 2>it was just it was so nice. So hopefully it

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<v Speaker 2>happens at least once a year. Okay, good, and then

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<v Speaker 2>you know, with the holidays. There's that, there's that now

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<v Speaker 2>that open.

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<v Speaker 3>Now you guys have to start splitting your holidays.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're lucky with that. Yours is just like a

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<v Speaker 2>you could go same day as you both families.

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<v Speaker 3>I know. But you know also we don't have the

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<v Speaker 3>same holidays, so it's like a win.

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<v Speaker 2>Win all round.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. True.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, But I was thinking, and Mark's really the only

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<v Speaker 2>one who can speak to this, but I think when

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<v Speaker 2>you have kids, it's like you you want them to

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<v Speaker 2>live a life that is the easiest and least challenging, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And so I think in my parents mind it was like,

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<v Speaker 2>that's going to be harder for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, one hundred Yes, I've had this discussion with a

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<v Speaker 1>number of people. There are plenty of parents who have

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<v Speaker 1>misgivings about their children's sexuality or even gender identity. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's not because of a home of phobia or transphobia

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<v Speaker 1>or some sort of closed mindedness. It's just, yes, you

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<v Speaker 1>I want your kid to have the easiest life possible,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know they're going to get harassed. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>the people are to try to take their rights away

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<v Speaker 1>from them and kick them out of bathrooms and stuff

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<v Speaker 1>like that. You know that they're going to be and

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<v Speaker 1>they're going to be used as targets by politicians to

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<v Speaker 1>gain votes, like it's such a gross thing. Yeah, So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand that element of it.

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<v Speaker 3>It's also not even like your sexuality. Like when my mom,

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<v Speaker 3>when I first told my mom about Robbie, she had

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<v Speaker 3>like her own I don't know what the word is.

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<v Speaker 3>Her guard was up a little bit because because, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>because she was like, oh, like being with someone who has,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, divorced with kids, it comes to a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of hard and there's a lot of hard there, you know.

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<v Speaker 3>And she's like, I want the easiest life for you. You

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<v Speaker 3>have very you have a very easy life right now.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to keep you know, I want you to

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<v Speaker 3>keep that. And so it's it's not just about sexuality.

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<v Speaker 3>It could also be about that, you know. Over time,

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<v Speaker 3>I think obviously she realized, yes, it was hard at moments,

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<v Speaker 3>but I feel like it's it's the man. It was.

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<v Speaker 3>It was the man that was what I had always wanted,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, And it took her some time to like

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<v Speaker 3>learn that too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think that just comes with none of us

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<v Speaker 2>are parents yet, but I think that comes with a

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<v Speaker 2>parent of wanting ease, wanting the best, easiest, happiest life.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't want to see us her or struggle or

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<v Speaker 2>have hardships or have people be mean to us. So

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<v Speaker 2>and I think that was another thing because you know,

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<v Speaker 2>both of my younger sisters are gay, and I think

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<v Speaker 2>it was there was this public element to my life

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<v Speaker 2>that it was like, are you going to get hurt?

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<v Speaker 2>Right people who don't agree with this? So I think

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<v Speaker 2>that's why it's important to That's why it's like what

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<v Speaker 2>Hailey's doing and normalizing are really like what Haley's doing

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<v Speaker 2>with her music and what you're doing it.

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<v Speaker 4>Too, girlfriend, being that chest out, just like changing the

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<v Speaker 4>narrative that it doesn't have to be scary, even though

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<v Speaker 4>there's scary parts of the world where it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's the tempt is to change it, you know. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very grateful to my parents, I'm grateful to Haley.

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<v Speaker 2>And it was it was wonderful, and then it was

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<v Speaker 2>a very quick gear shift. Dropped them off at the

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<v Speaker 2>airport and went into bachelorette mode.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah wow, what a one eight, three sixty whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>It is, because I think three sixty take you all

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<v Speaker 2>the way back?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah right, yeah, yeah, and we take a break before

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<v Speaker 3>we get into the bacherette.

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<v Speaker 5>That's what I was leading into Great minds, all right,

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<v Speaker 5>before we get into the bacherette.

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<v Speaker 3>I do want to thank you for sharing that because

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<v Speaker 3>I know that that's hard and it's private, and I

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<v Speaker 3>just wanted to thank you for sharing that because I

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<v Speaker 3>think a lot of people are going through that as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And I, like I said, it's it's such a

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<v Speaker 2>we're all doing our best, yeah, you know, and and

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes it's like takes people longer than it takes you,

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<v Speaker 2>and and everyone's on their own timeline and it's easy

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<v Speaker 2>to compare people. Like you look at people and they're

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<v Speaker 2>like right off the bat, it's like their partner's besties

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<v Speaker 2>with their parents, you know, and it's like that's not everything.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm like I said, I will never be able

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<v Speaker 2>to express the gratitude to my parents for making the

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<v Speaker 2>effort to come out here. Yeah, because I don't I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if they'll if they know like the significance, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>go to Bachelor atte we got it.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's important. And I'm very proud of you,

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<v Speaker 3>and I just love you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>I love you too.

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<v Speaker 3>Next time they come out here, I'm taking my share.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I know, Tanya, I was like, can I

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<v Speaker 2>come by? I'm like, we got a lot going on,

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<v Speaker 2>but next time, Yes, I forgot. You and my dad

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<v Speaker 2>really bonded at my blog. Yeah, I know, I forgot

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<v Speaker 2>the bond that y'all had created. So I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>has she met my parents?

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<v Speaker 4>Well?

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<v Speaker 2>I know when we met my mom, but I just

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<v Speaker 2>you know, first of all, the blog night was just

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<v Speaker 2>to update y'all. In two thousand and I think sixteen,

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<v Speaker 2>I launched my blog, which no longer exists, and we

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<v Speaker 2>did the party at the Bachelor mansion and it was

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<v Speaker 2>so fun, so fun. My whole family came out. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think my brother was here, but most a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of my family and then all friends.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's when like the Tanya Chrys Tillie love fest

0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:50.960
<v Speaker 3>really started. Because they got along so well with your dad.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I should just be family. Yeah, Kando

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<v Speaker 3>to make that happen. Yeah, wait, there's a brother.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there is a brother who is now married with

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<v Speaker 2>two beautiful children. Yes, yes, and you also are about

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<v Speaker 2>to be married with two beautiful children.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Life happens fast.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So anyways, we switched gears and we went bachelorette to

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<v Speaker 2>the desert for Alley Grant's bachelorette party, Palm Springs.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, where do we start?

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<v Speaker 2>Where do we start? First of all, we left it

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<v Speaker 2>nine thirty in the morning, which you know, for me,

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<v Speaker 2>that's getting out, getting packed in.

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<v Speaker 3>Out of the house was like, wow, poor thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and I have never gotten to Palm Springs that fast.

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<v Speaker 2>No traffic, no traffic.

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<v Speaker 3>I left around noon and I got there pretty quick too.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you met us like right at the bar Spring. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So we went to Palm Springs. We had the most

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<v Speaker 2>insane house.

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<v Speaker 3>Insane.

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<v Speaker 2>It was crazy in pictures, but when you it was

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<v Speaker 2>like a resort.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was like our own little hotel.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, there was thirteen girls, nine bedrooms, and a crazy

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<v Speaker 2>Oh go ahead.

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<v Speaker 3>I just have to shout out, Rebecca Tilly, Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 3>Why Because first of all, when you have thirteen I

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<v Speaker 3>think if you're in a group of more than five women,

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<v Speaker 3>and there's a lot of personalities, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a lot of personalities of people who know you

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<v Speaker 3>from high school, from college. Then there's the family, you know,

0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:25.720
<v Speaker 3>the girls, from the family you're marrying into. It's a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of different dynamics going on, and Becca literally makes

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<v Speaker 3>every single person make makes them feel welcome and included

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<v Speaker 3>and part of and like she was running around Ali

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<v Speaker 3>taking videos and pictures of her all weekend like you

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<v Speaker 3>really were made of honor goals like that, Like was

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<v Speaker 3>so like seeing you in action, like you kept the

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<v Speaker 3>vibes high all weekend like things, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>Like there's there's things happen, and you were just like

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<v Speaker 3>always steady Eddie but like happy Harry, and I don't know,

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<v Speaker 3>it was just like so fun seeing you in that

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<v Speaker 3>way because it, yeah, it was like really like I

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<v Speaker 3>want to cry, and I actually wanted to, like.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to cry.

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<v Speaker 3>I wanted to get you a massage last night when

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<v Speaker 3>we got back from the Bachelorette because it was so

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<v Speaker 3>much like it was just like a law on you

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<v Speaker 3>and I wanted you to like relief, relief, release and

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<v Speaker 3>just like have a night to just like relax because

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<v Speaker 3>you were just like so on but like in such

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<v Speaker 3>a nice way.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, thank you, that's so nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Just seeing her in action? Does that put her in

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<v Speaker 1>the lead then for your decision?

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<v Speaker 3>So there's no like there's no there's no there was

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<v Speaker 3>no test there's no test, but like seeing her, no,

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<v Speaker 3>nobody's been informed interesting but but seeing you in action

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<v Speaker 3>was like so crazy. It was so crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, where Pauline is a maid of honest you could see.

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<v Speaker 2>Her in that and.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I honestly thought about it, like you could maybe

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<v Speaker 3>start like a made of Honor school or something. I

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<v Speaker 3>know it sounds silly. There's there's weirder out there, guys,

0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:03.640
<v Speaker 3>like people do, like people do weirder stuff out there

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<v Speaker 3>than a masterclass on being the best maid of honor.

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<v Speaker 3>I really think you could do it.

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<v Speaker 1>You can call it maid of Honor m A d E.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a lot of people. I had a few

0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:18.119
<v Speaker 2>people they were like, my wedding's this date? Are you available?

0:18:19.359 --> 0:18:22.760
<v Speaker 2>There's there's a movie, the one with Deborah Messing and

0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:25.360
<v Speaker 2>the guy and she hires him. Wait no, I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 2>of something different.

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<v Speaker 3>Thinking seven. Yeah, yeah, she's honor.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh just Bridemain.

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<v Speaker 3>That was it was pretty epic seeing you like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, thank you. It was really fun. It It is

0:18:36.480 --> 0:18:39.520
<v Speaker 2>like you go into a situation and, uh, when there's

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<v Speaker 2>that many girls from different parts you you just want

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<v Speaker 2>to connect everyone. And I knew for Ali it was

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<v Speaker 2>important that everyone felt like a part and included and

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<v Speaker 2>so and a lot of those people I haven't gotten

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<v Speaker 2>to spend time with and they're really close to Ali,

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<v Speaker 2>so you know, part of me was like, oh, this

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<v Speaker 2>is my chance to have time with them. Yeah, but

0:18:57.640 --> 0:19:00.880
<v Speaker 2>it was so much fun. It was such a chill

0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:03.040
<v Speaker 2>group of girls too, Like you talk about that many

0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:06.720
<v Speaker 2>girls and personalities and everyone was just there for Ali and.

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<v Speaker 3>It was it was really really like a good group

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<v Speaker 3>and it was like I literally felt like we were

0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:12.320
<v Speaker 3>in our own Barbie house. Yeah, I feel like we

0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:15.000
<v Speaker 3>were in the movie. So, you know, like getting ready together.

0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:18.120
<v Speaker 3>Becca was on makeup duty, Margam was doing everybody's hair.

0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:19.959
<v Speaker 3>I was like, this is so cute.

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<v Speaker 2>It was really cute. And then later on Saturday night,

0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:26.159
<v Speaker 2>we met up with the guys because Carson alex fiance

0:19:26.320 --> 0:19:28.639
<v Speaker 2>did his bachelor party there, so we met up with

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<v Speaker 2>them at the bar and it was fun. The vibes

0:19:31.640 --> 0:19:33.600
<v Speaker 2>were high, and then we brought them back and then

0:19:33.680 --> 0:19:36.000
<v Speaker 2>we were like, they're eating all of our food, they're

0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:38.720
<v Speaker 2>drinking our drinks like they're like pens and we need

0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:40.920
<v Speaker 2>them out of the Barbie House. They were trying to

0:19:40.920 --> 0:19:41.280
<v Speaker 2>make the.

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<v Speaker 3>Like this is not a Barbie stream House anymore. It's

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<v Speaker 3>getting weird here.

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<v Speaker 2>And we were like, we were like, we gotta y'all

0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:49.640
<v Speaker 2>gotta go, and we played I'm just Ken on their

0:19:49.640 --> 0:19:52.200
<v Speaker 2>exit walk. Yeah, it was really funny.

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<v Speaker 1>I asked, someone who's never been to a bachelorette party before,

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<v Speaker 1>what was the level of debauchery at this one? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh wow, hi, no, hi, Hi.

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<v Speaker 2>For me, it would be high for you. But like

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<v Speaker 2>compared to other bachelor and Bachelor parties, it wasn't that

0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:10.919
<v Speaker 2>Saturday night I got pretty crazy, but did Friday.

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<v Speaker 3>We're taking shots like it was like.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, but we didn't have like strippers, you know what.

0:20:18.440 --> 0:20:19.399
<v Speaker 1>Penis hats and penis.

0:20:20.600 --> 0:20:23.880
<v Speaker 3>There was penis confetti. That was it. Yeah, we didn't.

0:20:23.600 --> 0:20:25.720
<v Speaker 2>Do Ali didn't want a lot of like penis stuff.

0:20:25.720 --> 0:20:27.320
<v Speaker 2>We did make her do like a blow drop shot,

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<v Speaker 2>which she failed at.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah I didn't even do.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well that's because it was in a champagne flute.

0:20:31.680 --> 0:20:32.120
<v Speaker 3>That was hard.

0:20:32.119 --> 0:20:34.680
<v Speaker 2>But a professional could.

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<v Speaker 3>Really I touch you, I take that down, no problem.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, it wasn't like, you know, we didn't have

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<v Speaker 2>like alcohol.

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<v Speaker 1>It was very debauchous in that sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's just say I myself was l I v E

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<v Speaker 2>no what ig and I didn't sleep much like the

0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:02.359
<v Speaker 2>first night, and these girls get up early and they're like,

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<v Speaker 2>let's put our ankle weights on and go on a

0:21:04.119 --> 0:21:04.840
<v Speaker 2>walk in a while.

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<v Speaker 3>The best part is is like Friday and night. The

0:21:10.600 --> 0:21:12.040
<v Speaker 3>problem with me when I get drunk is I just

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<v Speaker 3>get really tired, especially on a Friday. I'm like done

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<v Speaker 3>from the week. And we were like playing some game

0:21:16.760 --> 0:21:18.239
<v Speaker 3>I don't know if it's called like Girls Like Us

0:21:18.359 --> 0:21:21.520
<v Speaker 3>or something some girly like a card card game. And

0:21:21.560 --> 0:21:22.960
<v Speaker 3>I was like laying on the catch next to Jojo

0:21:23.040 --> 0:21:24.240
<v Speaker 3>and I was like, I'm just gonna close my eyes

0:21:24.280 --> 0:21:26.560
<v Speaker 3>really quick, like I'm gonna like wake me up when

0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:28.600
<v Speaker 3>it's my turn. So I was like basically passed out

0:21:28.680 --> 0:21:32.320
<v Speaker 3>and then back up when it's because I didn't want

0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:34.080
<v Speaker 3>Allie to see I was falling asleep, so I was

0:21:34.119 --> 0:21:35.680
<v Speaker 3>like just me, just like hit me, it's my turn.

0:21:36.320 --> 0:21:38.679
<v Speaker 3>So I'm like basically passed out, and then somehow the

0:21:38.720 --> 0:21:41.120
<v Speaker 3>game heads up gets brought out and I'm like back

0:21:41.160 --> 0:21:44.080
<v Speaker 3>to life, like I'm I'm back to life and thriving

0:21:44.119 --> 0:21:46.840
<v Speaker 3>again until one thirty am. Yeah, and then that's when

0:21:46.880 --> 0:21:50.240
<v Speaker 3>I passed out. But okay, back when I got room together.

0:21:50.920 --> 0:21:52.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but wait, hold on, let's got back to the game.

0:21:52.760 --> 0:21:58.040
<v Speaker 2>Because remember when episodes episodes ago, Tanya said, I'm not competitive.

0:21:59.359 --> 0:21:59.960
<v Speaker 3>I do you remember that?

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you something. Heads up brings out a

0:22:04.240 --> 0:22:06.480
<v Speaker 2>competitive side of Donya.

0:22:07.280 --> 0:22:11.240
<v Speaker 3>She was but competitive with myself. I have a title.

0:22:11.800 --> 0:22:14.800
<v Speaker 3>You were competitive with me because the title at nine.

0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:17.600
<v Speaker 3>Then Becca somehow got nine, but still I was still

0:22:17.600 --> 0:22:19.320
<v Speaker 3>the first one to get nine. So I was still.

0:22:19.160 --> 0:22:21.879
<v Speaker 1>Winning and was a category.

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<v Speaker 3>It was like pop culture or something. And then I

0:22:24.720 --> 0:22:26.600
<v Speaker 3>could not go to sleep until I hit ten. Until

0:22:26.600 --> 0:22:27.040
<v Speaker 3>I got ten.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh gosh, and.

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<v Speaker 3>Go yeah, thank you.

0:22:30.960 --> 0:22:33.000
<v Speaker 2>She was very upset when I tied her at night.

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<v Speaker 1>As a guesser, yes, because a lot of the onus

0:22:35.840 --> 0:22:36.600
<v Speaker 1>is on the givers.

0:22:36.760 --> 0:22:39.520
<v Speaker 3>Yes, as a guesser, but the guesser should get the credit.

0:22:39.880 --> 0:22:42.479
<v Speaker 1>I agreed. But if the giver sucks, you're not getting ten.

0:22:42.760 --> 0:22:44.639
<v Speaker 3>You have a lot of givers and only one guess, right,

0:22:44.760 --> 0:22:45.200
<v Speaker 3>that's true.

0:22:45.280 --> 0:22:49.320
<v Speaker 2>You know you get the givers and got the takers exactly. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>So okay, so yeah, we were rooming together, so cute,

0:22:52.680 --> 0:22:53.360
<v Speaker 2>so cute.

0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:54.639
<v Speaker 3>I miss rooming together.

0:22:56.000 --> 0:22:57.159
<v Speaker 2>When have we roomed together?

0:22:57.320 --> 0:22:57.520
<v Speaker 4>Oh?

0:22:57.640 --> 0:23:00.800
<v Speaker 2>My god, Like, when have we've been on a trip

0:23:00.800 --> 0:23:02.800
<v Speaker 2>in like years.

0:23:02.520 --> 0:23:04.800
<v Speaker 3>That's what I'm saying, in years. But like, we did

0:23:04.840 --> 0:23:09.359
<v Speaker 3>Hawaii together. We did Ashley and Jared's wedding. We stayed together.

0:23:09.480 --> 0:23:11.560
<v Speaker 2>It was really fun. And Hawaii it was really fun.

0:23:11.960 --> 0:23:14.160
<v Speaker 3>Countless several other just.

0:23:14.119 --> 0:23:16.120
<v Speaker 2>To give yours. Those were twenty nineteen.

0:23:17.359 --> 0:23:19.600
<v Speaker 1>Well you were together at that wedding recently, but that

0:23:19.760 --> 0:23:23.000
<v Speaker 1>was the wedding.

0:23:23.080 --> 0:23:25.440
<v Speaker 2>But we have our we have our partners with us

0:23:25.480 --> 0:23:25.840
<v Speaker 2>on those.

0:23:25.880 --> 0:23:29.080
<v Speaker 3>So yeah, we're not quite like bed sharing, you know.

0:23:29.359 --> 0:23:32.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah we shared a bed. Yeah, but we weren't in

0:23:32.640 --> 0:23:36.880
<v Speaker 2>there there much. I wasn't get many hours in that unfortunately.

0:23:37.440 --> 0:23:39.399
<v Speaker 3>But it felt comforting to know that you were sleeping

0:23:39.400 --> 0:23:40.000
<v Speaker 3>next to me. Yeah.

0:23:40.080 --> 0:23:41.879
<v Speaker 2>I was very quiet. Huh. She didn't even hear me

0:23:41.920 --> 0:23:43.879
<v Speaker 2>come in the second. I was three am, so I

0:23:43.920 --> 0:23:44.879
<v Speaker 2>was quiet as a mouse.

0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:47.200
<v Speaker 3>I was so nauseous. I was passed out both nights.

0:23:47.200 --> 0:23:49.800
<v Speaker 2>I literally passed out, like what Tanya looks like when

0:23:49.800 --> 0:23:52.320
<v Speaker 2>she's sleeping. It was it was like scary.

0:23:52.119 --> 0:23:53.639
<v Speaker 1>Is the better worse than the picture we was haw

0:23:53.720 --> 0:23:56.160
<v Speaker 1>last week that inspired her full makeover.

0:23:57.040 --> 0:23:58.479
<v Speaker 2>Oh I did take a picture.

0:23:58.760 --> 0:23:59.920
<v Speaker 1>Oh yes it was.

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<v Speaker 2>I was gonna do a demonstration. My arms were corpse

0:24:08.240 --> 0:24:10.399
<v Speaker 2>and one leg was out of the covers, and she

0:24:10.520 --> 0:24:13.600
<v Speaker 2>was sleeping in like flannel Robbie face. It was her

0:24:13.680 --> 0:24:16.720
<v Speaker 2>and Robbie's face on the pajamas. And then she would

0:24:16.720 --> 0:24:19.119
<v Speaker 2>be like, it's so hot, and I'm like, you're in

0:24:19.320 --> 0:24:24.399
<v Speaker 2>flannel like this weird material long sleeve and pants. You know,

0:24:24.520 --> 0:24:25.879
<v Speaker 2>I'm in like a D shirt underwear.

0:24:25.880 --> 0:24:28.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I'm good and mind you. When I sleep,

0:24:28.359 --> 0:24:30.359
<v Speaker 3>I'm a stomach sleeper, so I usually like lay on

0:24:30.359 --> 0:24:33.600
<v Speaker 3>my my face is flat in the bed like I'm like, yeah,

0:24:33.640 --> 0:24:36.520
<v Speaker 3>so bad for you. That's how I normally sleep. I

0:24:36.640 --> 0:24:38.679
<v Speaker 3>was so ill I thought I was gonna like I

0:24:38.720 --> 0:24:43.320
<v Speaker 3>literally thought I was gonna regurgitate whatever was going on, like,

0:24:43.359 --> 0:24:46.640
<v Speaker 3>and so I had to lay flat like a corpse

0:24:46.800 --> 0:24:49.640
<v Speaker 3>on my back and I couldn't move otherwise I thought

0:24:49.680 --> 0:24:52.479
<v Speaker 3>something might happen. So that's I guess how I fell asleep,

0:24:52.600 --> 0:24:53.280
<v Speaker 3>and that is how.

0:24:53.200 --> 0:24:56.320
<v Speaker 2>You fell asleep. But then because she goes, oh, my

0:24:56.440 --> 0:24:59.240
<v Speaker 2>pillow sells like noldew, I'm gonna throw in it. I can't,

0:24:59.320 --> 0:25:01.639
<v Speaker 2>like I can't on my face, And I was like, okay,

0:25:01.760 --> 0:25:04.359
<v Speaker 2>just fall asleep on your back. I wake up in

0:25:04.440 --> 0:25:07.679
<v Speaker 2>the morning and I look over to my right and

0:25:07.720 --> 0:25:10.480
<v Speaker 2>Tanya looks like she's like in the mattress. She's so

0:25:10.720 --> 0:25:14.399
<v Speaker 2>deep on her stomach into the mattress. She had lost

0:25:14.440 --> 0:25:17.560
<v Speaker 2>side of the millsy smell and found her comfort.

0:25:18.359 --> 0:25:18.919
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:25:19.119 --> 0:25:22.760
<v Speaker 2>I was like, dang, she's sleeping so hard, you know

0:25:22.960 --> 0:25:28.280
<v Speaker 2>when you're And then Tanya gets up and goes to

0:25:28.320 --> 0:25:30.440
<v Speaker 2>breakfast and Jojo comes in and she's like, just ton,

0:25:30.480 --> 0:25:33.560
<v Speaker 2>you have toothpaste in here. And she goes to brush

0:25:33.600 --> 0:25:37.160
<v Speaker 2>your teeth and she was like, did you poop in here?

0:25:37.200 --> 0:25:39.560
<v Speaker 2>And I was like no, I was like, but Tanya

0:25:39.840 --> 0:25:42.239
<v Speaker 2>was just She's like, I gotta I'm gonna throw up.

0:25:44.000 --> 0:25:49.400
<v Speaker 3>So then the normal to go poop in the bathroom.

0:25:49.760 --> 0:25:51.800
<v Speaker 1>Then weird for Joji to call you out on that.

0:25:51.960 --> 0:25:54.840
<v Speaker 2>Oh well, well, I think she was asking.

0:25:54.560 --> 0:25:57.480
<v Speaker 1>Me your private bathroom exactly.

0:25:57.680 --> 0:26:00.439
<v Speaker 2>She was trying to blame me for that smell. And

0:26:00.480 --> 0:26:01.280
<v Speaker 2>I said, that is not.

0:26:01.240 --> 0:26:04.840
<v Speaker 3>Me, thank you. Yeah, there you want me to do it.

0:26:04.840 --> 0:26:06.400
<v Speaker 3>It's not like I was like farting in the room.

0:26:06.480 --> 0:26:08.360
<v Speaker 3>Like I went to the bathroom. I went to the bathroom,

0:26:08.400 --> 0:26:12.120
<v Speaker 3>and the yeah, JoJo's fletcher.

0:26:12.480 --> 0:26:15.560
<v Speaker 2>And then the next day yesterday when we were leaving Tanya.

0:26:15.720 --> 0:26:17.680
<v Speaker 2>The thing is she shuts the door so it gets

0:26:17.720 --> 0:26:21.199
<v Speaker 2>like trapped, and that's the problem. So I walked in

0:26:21.240 --> 0:26:23.719
<v Speaker 2>there from.

0:26:23.400 --> 0:26:24.600
<v Speaker 3>Coming into the room.

0:26:26.920 --> 0:26:30.560
<v Speaker 1>There, though ideally you open a window shut, there was

0:26:30.600 --> 0:26:33.000
<v Speaker 1>no window fan fan.

0:26:34.240 --> 0:26:37.400
<v Speaker 2>There was some spray that she could have that makes

0:26:37.440 --> 0:26:37.840
<v Speaker 2>it worse.

0:26:38.880 --> 0:26:41.960
<v Speaker 3>Okay, So I don't like endo crime disruptors. I'm not

0:26:42.000 --> 0:26:45.199
<v Speaker 3>an endocrime disruptor fan. So I think poop smell is

0:26:45.240 --> 0:26:47.960
<v Speaker 3>more natural than any sort of POOPAI that you're going

0:26:48.000 --> 0:26:50.359
<v Speaker 3>to be spraying in the bathroom, better for your health

0:26:50.520 --> 0:26:51.159
<v Speaker 3>than the spray.

0:26:52.800 --> 0:26:59.679
<v Speaker 2>I should get to choose that. I'm also jealous that,

0:26:59.760 --> 0:27:03.320
<v Speaker 2>like in the morning, you're just like ready to go.

0:27:03.440 --> 0:27:08.119
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, it was hard for that. Yeah, yeah, I

0:27:08.160 --> 0:27:11.399
<v Speaker 2>was proud. Also, you know what Tanya was, So I

0:27:11.880 --> 0:27:16.480
<v Speaker 2>have to compliment you because I really felt seen and

0:27:16.600 --> 0:27:19.960
<v Speaker 2>validated as I was eating just like donut hole after

0:27:20.040 --> 0:27:23.960
<v Speaker 2>donut hole and cinnamon rolls. That Tanya was also indulging

0:27:24.119 --> 0:27:28.360
<v Speaker 2>in the sweet treats of life with me because she normally.

0:27:28.119 --> 0:27:33.119
<v Speaker 3>Is just like almonds, yeah, apples, that's like my go

0:27:33.240 --> 0:27:37.720
<v Speaker 3>to snack. This weekend it was cinnamon rolls and not

0:27:37.800 --> 0:27:40.960
<v Speaker 3>didn eat the pizza. Oh but what else they eat?

0:27:40.960 --> 0:27:44.240
<v Speaker 3>Cimon rolls? Uh, donut holes? Yeah, calls.

0:27:44.320 --> 0:27:45.119
<v Speaker 2>It was so fun.

0:27:45.400 --> 0:27:46.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was fun.

0:27:46.240 --> 0:27:54.639
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's fun to be but yeah, it was a

0:27:54.760 --> 0:27:57.480
<v Speaker 2>very fun girls weekend. We had a great time in

0:27:57.480 --> 0:28:02.200
<v Speaker 2>a new bff who Kate oh Kayln Carter? Yes, who

0:28:02.240 --> 0:28:02.880
<v Speaker 2>we love.

0:28:02.960 --> 0:28:05.560
<v Speaker 3>Love We like literally hit it off the first night.

0:28:05.600 --> 0:28:06.960
<v Speaker 3>We talked for like four hours.

0:28:07.160 --> 0:28:10.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they were chit chatting. What made y'all hit it

0:28:10.359 --> 0:28:10.960
<v Speaker 2>off so well?

0:28:11.359 --> 0:28:14.320
<v Speaker 3>She is a step parent, Uh and I am as well,

0:28:14.359 --> 0:28:17.119
<v Speaker 3>And there's just this like bond. It just bonds you

0:28:17.560 --> 0:28:19.840
<v Speaker 3>just parallel. It's just parallel, you know, like the parallel

0:28:19.880 --> 0:28:22.399
<v Speaker 3>life situation. Nobody gets it unless they're in it. And

0:28:22.440 --> 0:28:24.479
<v Speaker 3>then when somebody's in it and you can chat about it,

0:28:24.480 --> 0:28:26.520
<v Speaker 3>it's like yes, Yeah.

0:28:26.840 --> 0:28:30.639
<v Speaker 2>It's so interesting that when you go through something specific,

0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:34.040
<v Speaker 2>if it's like considered a hardship or like a challenger

0:28:34.160 --> 0:28:37.040
<v Speaker 2>or change in life, when you meet someone that maybe

0:28:37.040 --> 0:28:40.040
<v Speaker 2>you never would have been able to relate to otherwise,

0:28:40.520 --> 0:28:42.280
<v Speaker 2>you have this thing that bonds you in a way

0:28:42.320 --> 0:28:44.520
<v Speaker 2>that it's like an instant connection.

0:28:44.720 --> 0:28:46.560
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. We had literally an instant connection.

0:28:47.160 --> 0:28:49.560
<v Speaker 2>Wow. Yeah, and we played never have I ever in

0:28:49.600 --> 0:28:50.880
<v Speaker 2>the pool.

0:28:50.800 --> 0:28:52.560
<v Speaker 3>Every single girl. I was shocked.

0:28:53.160 --> 0:28:56.400
<v Speaker 2>What do you mean in there? Yeah, I mean the jacuzzi.

0:28:56.480 --> 0:28:58.960
<v Speaker 2>Everyone fit in the dracuzzi and we played uh, never

0:28:59.000 --> 0:28:59.640
<v Speaker 2>have I ever had?

0:28:59.640 --> 0:29:01.120
<v Speaker 3>But then then next day I'm like pretty sure I

0:29:01.160 --> 0:29:06.080
<v Speaker 3>got a uti, so I know it's like I party

0:29:06.160 --> 0:29:08.040
<v Speaker 3>so hard and then my body's just like no, no, no,

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:12.160
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, yes, it's yes. I know. That's why

0:29:12.240 --> 0:29:14.240
<v Speaker 3>they go in the next day because I was like, oh,

0:29:14.280 --> 0:29:15.400
<v Speaker 3>you can't make it worse.

0:29:15.640 --> 0:29:18.600
<v Speaker 2>Tanya also brought her puffer vest to the desert put

0:29:18.600 --> 0:29:20.440
<v Speaker 2>it on over her cocktail dress.

0:29:20.560 --> 0:29:21.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's right. It never.

0:29:21.720 --> 0:29:24.720
<v Speaker 2>I never don't see you, never not seeing Tanya in

0:29:24.760 --> 0:29:25.480
<v Speaker 2>a puffer.

0:29:25.200 --> 0:29:27.040
<v Speaker 3>Because you know what the problem is in the desert.

0:29:27.240 --> 0:29:30.360
<v Speaker 3>It's so hot outside, but they make the inside so

0:29:30.600 --> 0:29:33.240
<v Speaker 3>cold everywhere that it's like you can't even wear a

0:29:33.320 --> 0:29:36.880
<v Speaker 3>dress inside because it's so icicle in there. I don't

0:29:36.920 --> 0:29:39.120
<v Speaker 3>know how you guys are like walking around in like dresses.

0:29:39.840 --> 0:29:42.600
<v Speaker 3>I think the liquor like Antarctica in there.

0:29:42.920 --> 0:29:45.600
<v Speaker 2>One fireball shot, you'd warm up.

0:29:45.640 --> 0:29:47.040
<v Speaker 3>Did Ali have the best time ever?

0:29:47.400 --> 0:29:50.280
<v Speaker 2>Ali's in depression, you know, like when posts what's it

0:29:50.280 --> 0:29:53.480
<v Speaker 2>called like post vacation blues. She's in post bachelorette blues.

0:29:53.320 --> 0:29:55.360
<v Speaker 3>Right, because like she's never gonna have that ever again.

0:29:56.120 --> 0:30:00.800
<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, I didn't tell her that she has

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:06.600
<v Speaker 2>the wedding right right, right, but then it's gonna be right,

0:30:06.720 --> 0:30:13.320
<v Speaker 2>we're going to Spain c. Yeah, I'm gonna miss you,

0:30:13.360 --> 0:30:15.000
<v Speaker 2>so we do have that. I think the post of

0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:18.360
<v Speaker 2>wedding blues are gonna be We're gonna maybe check in

0:30:18.440 --> 0:30:18.720
<v Speaker 2>on her.

0:30:18.960 --> 0:30:21.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, hm, let's get.

0:30:21.080 --> 0:30:23.040
<v Speaker 2>To you now, sure were you?

0:30:23.200 --> 0:30:25.560
<v Speaker 3>Was I taking notes at the h Okay?

0:30:25.560 --> 0:30:28.120
<v Speaker 2>But what about So?

0:30:28.160 --> 0:30:31.320
<v Speaker 3>I love I love, I love girls, so like to me,

0:30:31.560 --> 0:30:33.320
<v Speaker 3>reminded me of sorority days and I like lived in

0:30:33.360 --> 0:30:35.720
<v Speaker 3>a house with fifty six girls and everyone's you know

0:30:35.800 --> 0:30:37.360
<v Speaker 3>what I mean, Like that was the vibe and I

0:30:37.400 --> 0:30:42.680
<v Speaker 3>love that. I don't know, it's like so, I don't know.

0:30:43.680 --> 0:30:45.760
<v Speaker 3>I definitely want like pin the tail on the rain,

0:30:45.880 --> 0:30:47.720
<v Speaker 3>the pin the penis on the Robbie, Like I want.

0:30:47.520 --> 0:30:48.240
<v Speaker 2>That type of stuff.

0:30:48.320 --> 0:30:50.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I definitely want a lot more peenie.

0:30:51.040 --> 0:30:52.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I know she loves the penie.

0:30:52.680 --> 0:30:56.200
<v Speaker 3>I love a peenie. That's pretty much all the notes

0:30:56.240 --> 0:30:59.600
<v Speaker 3>I got. And then and then you just like on fire.

0:31:00.720 --> 0:31:02.560
<v Speaker 2>Just like content left and right, not.

0:31:02.520 --> 0:31:04.240
<v Speaker 3>Even content, but like high vibes.

0:31:04.480 --> 0:31:06.720
<v Speaker 2>Well, I told I was told that my job was

0:31:06.760 --> 0:31:07.600
<v Speaker 2>to keep the vibes high.

0:31:07.680 --> 0:31:09.560
<v Speaker 3>So that was your only job.

0:31:09.680 --> 0:31:10.680
<v Speaker 2>That was my main job.

0:31:10.920 --> 0:31:11.720
<v Speaker 3>You kept him high?

0:31:11.760 --> 0:31:15.240
<v Speaker 2>Thank you. Yeah, and I'm paying for it today.

0:31:15.360 --> 0:31:17.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think we're all paying for it.

0:31:17.400 --> 0:31:20.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's different to recover from these weekends in your

0:31:20.160 --> 0:31:20.840
<v Speaker 2>mid thirties.

0:31:22.040 --> 0:31:22.400
<v Speaker 4>Damn.

0:31:23.880 --> 0:31:26.000
<v Speaker 3>That's my other thing too, is I'm like, it's so fun,

0:31:26.080 --> 0:31:28.720
<v Speaker 3>drinking is so fun when you're in it, and then

0:31:28.840 --> 0:31:32.040
<v Speaker 3>after it just feels so painful that I'm like, I

0:31:32.040 --> 0:31:33.880
<v Speaker 3>don't know if I can do two full days of

0:31:33.920 --> 0:31:35.600
<v Speaker 3>drinking ever again. Like I don't think I want to

0:31:35.640 --> 0:31:36.320
<v Speaker 3>drink ever again.

0:31:37.040 --> 0:31:38.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah everyone said that, but mark this.

0:31:38.880 --> 0:31:42.360
<v Speaker 3>Podcast, this is my last time drinking, okay, of my life.

0:31:42.600 --> 0:31:45.600
<v Speaker 1>That's not true. March twenty fifth, but you know that's

0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:46.240
<v Speaker 1>not true.

0:31:46.400 --> 0:31:51.520
<v Speaker 2>We'll look back on this until my wedding date. For

0:31:51.560 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 2>that you don't even know.

0:31:52.640 --> 0:31:55.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, until my wedding. I will not be drinking in

0:31:55.320 --> 0:31:57.280
<v Speaker 3>your back or wedding festivities.

0:31:57.360 --> 0:31:59.520
<v Speaker 1>You mean drinking two excess, right, because you're going to.

0:31:59.480 --> 0:32:02.440
<v Speaker 3>Have drinks, right, drink shots.

0:32:02.200 --> 0:32:05.480
<v Speaker 1>No shots shots until my wedding. Okay, I mean that's

0:32:05.880 --> 0:32:06.760
<v Speaker 1>maybe possible.

0:32:08.320 --> 0:32:09.200
<v Speaker 3>You heard it here first.

0:32:13.080 --> 0:32:15.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't think anyone believes you, but we like the effort.

0:32:15.400 --> 0:32:17.440
<v Speaker 3>No shots till my wedding. I can definitely do that.

0:32:18.000 --> 0:32:19.280
<v Speaker 2>When is that?

0:32:19.520 --> 0:32:22.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know, pretty ripped without shots though, can't you know?

0:32:22.280 --> 0:32:24.520
<v Speaker 1>I mean those are mandatory.

0:32:24.600 --> 0:32:24.880
<v Speaker 4>When you.

0:32:26.600 --> 0:32:26.880
<v Speaker 3>Get it.

0:32:27.440 --> 0:32:28.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah right, yeah, you're saying.

0:32:28.960 --> 0:32:31.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. The problem is I was mixing a lot of

0:32:31.680 --> 0:32:35.720
<v Speaker 3>stuff this weekend. It was like and champagne and sprits

0:32:35.800 --> 0:32:37.840
<v Speaker 3>and like it was kind of all over the place.

0:32:37.880 --> 0:32:41.360
<v Speaker 3>I think that a fireball. I think that I did.

0:32:42.200 --> 0:32:43.719
<v Speaker 3>So I mix a lot of stuff, which I think

0:32:43.800 --> 0:32:46.040
<v Speaker 3>is like the big no no I took.

0:32:46.160 --> 0:32:48.440
<v Speaker 2>I took this like vitamin shot or something before I

0:32:48.440 --> 0:32:51.240
<v Speaker 2>started drinking, and so I had no hangover. I just

0:32:51.400 --> 0:32:53.040
<v Speaker 2>was exhausted.

0:32:53.520 --> 0:32:56.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but it was.

0:32:56.080 --> 0:32:58.120
<v Speaker 2>A good time. Not something I could do weekly. I

0:32:58.160 --> 0:33:00.560
<v Speaker 2>do have Haley's birthday coming up this weekend, so oh

0:33:00.640 --> 0:33:04.000
<v Speaker 2>my God, send thoughts and prayers, teas and peas.

0:33:04.240 --> 0:33:05.600
<v Speaker 3>I know, you know what I was actually gonna add.

0:33:05.600 --> 0:33:07.400
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to do like, well, I'll figure it out

0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:09.560
<v Speaker 3>a different day. What I was gonna do like a

0:33:09.560 --> 0:33:13.720
<v Speaker 3>cute shabat dinner and invite my little bridesmaids over. When's

0:33:13.760 --> 0:33:18.800
<v Speaker 3>that Friday here? It's gonna have to be postponed.

0:33:19.040 --> 0:33:21.520
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we're gonna have to do a postponed Shabbat.

0:33:21.640 --> 0:33:24.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah. The good thing was Shabbat is it comes every Friday.

0:33:24.760 --> 0:33:27.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I would love to join, but I've never

0:33:27.320 --> 0:33:27.720
<v Speaker 2>been to one.

0:33:27.880 --> 0:33:28.320
<v Speaker 3>So cute.

0:33:29.000 --> 0:33:32.760
<v Speaker 2>I love that I want to talk about. There was

0:33:32.760 --> 0:33:36.280
<v Speaker 2>this TikTok that was like, girls, tell me the craziest

0:33:36.280 --> 0:33:39.360
<v Speaker 2>thing you've ever done in a relationship, or.

0:33:40.600 --> 0:33:42.560
<v Speaker 1>Just like these are really good.

0:33:43.200 --> 0:33:46.760
<v Speaker 2>It is one of my favorite comment sections I've ever seen.

0:33:46.880 --> 0:33:49.719
<v Speaker 2>And you know, Tanya has some that she can add

0:33:50.640 --> 0:33:53.880
<v Speaker 2>to this list. So we're gonna take a break and we'll.

0:33:53.680 --> 0:33:54.680
<v Speaker 3>Be say it worked.

0:34:14.360 --> 0:34:20.160
<v Speaker 2>All right, we are back. So the TikTok was it says,

0:34:20.160 --> 0:34:22.319
<v Speaker 2>I want all the girls to comment the craziest thing

0:34:22.360 --> 0:34:24.320
<v Speaker 2>you've done, because I want to see if I'm really

0:34:24.400 --> 0:34:29.000
<v Speaker 2>that crazy. And it was the most beautiful comment section

0:34:29.080 --> 0:34:33.040
<v Speaker 2>I think I've ever seen of just absolute unhinged behavior.

0:34:33.200 --> 0:34:35.440
<v Speaker 1>Usually because you've been wrong by him, or since you've

0:34:35.480 --> 0:34:38.400
<v Speaker 1>been wronged by him and what you've done in response, or.

0:34:38.400 --> 0:34:46.239
<v Speaker 2>You're just mad you're better. Someone said all valid. Okay,

0:34:46.880 --> 0:34:50.439
<v Speaker 2>let you after we read a few of these, got

0:34:50.440 --> 0:34:53.080
<v Speaker 2>a job at his company, climb the corporate ladder, and

0:34:53.160 --> 0:34:55.040
<v Speaker 2>then fired him.

0:34:55.080 --> 0:34:56.400
<v Speaker 3>That's epic, so epic.

0:34:57.239 --> 0:34:59.080
<v Speaker 1>That's the long game, playing the long game.

0:34:59.360 --> 0:35:01.920
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I also feel was a little unnecessary, but she.

0:35:01.920 --> 0:35:08.719
<v Speaker 2>Had a vision. My ex cheated on me, so I

0:35:08.760 --> 0:35:11.200
<v Speaker 2>convinced him to get matching tattoos and then broke up

0:35:11.200 --> 0:35:13.080
<v Speaker 2>with him before I got mine.

0:35:14.640 --> 0:35:15.440
<v Speaker 3>And that feels.

0:35:15.880 --> 0:35:17.200
<v Speaker 1>That's good.

0:35:18.280 --> 0:35:21.440
<v Speaker 2>That's a long game too, that's permanent game. Put gorilla

0:35:21.480 --> 0:35:27.160
<v Speaker 2>glue in his hair, jel, that's pretty dirty. And then

0:35:27.200 --> 0:35:29.759
<v Speaker 2>the comment section was like, this comment section is like

0:35:29.800 --> 0:35:37.200
<v Speaker 2>a vision board, like you, you and your trigger.

0:35:37.719 --> 0:35:40.000
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I did some pretty wild things.

0:35:40.040 --> 0:35:42.320
<v Speaker 2>You would have been taking notes on.

0:35:42.200 --> 0:35:44.880
<v Speaker 3>This, Oh my gosh, notes with permanent sharpies.

0:35:46.640 --> 0:35:47.800
<v Speaker 2>Revisit that time.

0:35:48.160 --> 0:35:49.880
<v Speaker 3>What did I do? Okay? One of the things I

0:35:49.880 --> 0:35:54.440
<v Speaker 3>did was Robbie's like a big ice man. Sorry that

0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:56.880
<v Speaker 3>sounds so weird. He likes the snow, he loves he

0:35:56.920 --> 0:35:58.360
<v Speaker 3>loves the snow. He's like a snow bunny.

0:35:59.320 --> 0:35:59.759
<v Speaker 1>What you're saying?

0:36:00.080 --> 0:36:05.719
<v Speaker 3>A big iceman and and a friend of mine, Torri

0:36:05.840 --> 0:36:14.560
<v Speaker 3>MARLDI shout out. She's definitely definitely a girl's girl, because

0:36:14.560 --> 0:36:17.600
<v Speaker 3>I saw that she was in the snow ice queen,

0:36:18.320 --> 0:36:21.680
<v Speaker 3>and I go, where are you? She said, I'm a

0:36:21.719 --> 0:36:23.960
<v Speaker 3>big bear. And I said can you help me with something?

0:36:23.960 --> 0:36:26.680
<v Speaker 3>And she said, sure, whatever you need. And I said,

0:36:26.680 --> 0:36:28.919
<v Speaker 3>can you write my initials in the snow and send

0:36:28.920 --> 0:36:33.920
<v Speaker 3>me a picture of it? So she does. I posted

0:36:34.120 --> 0:36:38.120
<v Speaker 3>to my story, knowing it would get my iceman's attention. Meanwhile,

0:36:38.120 --> 0:36:40.240
<v Speaker 3>we're not talking at this time, y'all are no contact,

0:36:40.320 --> 0:36:42.360
<v Speaker 3>no contact at this point. So I posted in my

0:36:42.400 --> 0:36:45.880
<v Speaker 3>stories my little t r in the snow with little boots,

0:36:46.120 --> 0:36:48.600
<v Speaker 3>you know, so there, So he thinks I'm there, and

0:36:48.640 --> 0:36:51.920
<v Speaker 3>guess what, It freaking worked and he sent me a message,

0:36:52.239 --> 0:36:52.799
<v Speaker 3>where are you?

0:36:54.320 --> 0:36:54.800
<v Speaker 2>Iceman?

0:36:56.600 --> 0:36:59.160
<v Speaker 3>Iceman took the bag and guess what I did?

0:36:59.840 --> 0:37:00.520
<v Speaker 1>Ignored it.

0:37:00.600 --> 0:37:01.439
<v Speaker 3>I didn't open it.

0:37:01.560 --> 0:37:04.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, the move would have been to open it

0:37:05.000 --> 0:37:06.680
<v Speaker 2>and just no respond.

0:37:06.320 --> 0:37:09.400
<v Speaker 3>No, because what I did at the time I discovered

0:37:09.400 --> 0:37:11.080
<v Speaker 3>I don't think you could do it with Instagram anymore.

0:37:11.440 --> 0:37:14.000
<v Speaker 3>But actually Paulina had discovered it for me. There was

0:37:14.000 --> 0:37:17.080
<v Speaker 3>a way in which you could check your dms without

0:37:17.160 --> 0:37:19.279
<v Speaker 3>them seeing you, like put it on airplane mode, check

0:37:19.320 --> 0:37:21.160
<v Speaker 3>the DM and then get out of the DM and

0:37:21.160 --> 0:37:23.080
<v Speaker 3>then take it off airplane mode and it.

0:37:23.080 --> 0:37:25.560
<v Speaker 2>Shows this is great a great hack.

0:37:25.640 --> 0:37:26.840
<v Speaker 3>It is a great hack. But I don't think you

0:37:26.840 --> 0:37:29.400
<v Speaker 3>could do it anymore because somebody recently was asking me

0:37:30.360 --> 0:37:31.520
<v Speaker 3>and I tried to do it, and I was like,

0:37:31.520 --> 0:37:33.959
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, it's not working. But at the time

0:37:33.960 --> 0:37:35.319
<v Speaker 3>it worked, and so I was able to read all

0:37:35.360 --> 0:37:37.839
<v Speaker 3>of his messages, but it looked like I didn't even

0:37:37.920 --> 0:37:41.960
<v Speaker 3>open any of them. Did really cut deep? Okay, so

0:37:42.120 --> 0:37:42.879
<v Speaker 3>I didn't quit.

0:37:43.080 --> 0:37:46.800
<v Speaker 2>The trigger happened early December, right mid December, mid December,

0:37:47.000 --> 0:37:50.040
<v Speaker 2>the week or two before Christmas. So when did the

0:37:50.360 --> 0:37:51.600
<v Speaker 2>iceman come back?

0:37:51.680 --> 0:37:51.839
<v Speaker 4>When?

0:37:51.840 --> 0:37:53.879
<v Speaker 3>It was like right after the New year?

0:37:53.960 --> 0:37:54.840
<v Speaker 2>Okay? So January?

0:37:54.920 --> 0:37:56.200
<v Speaker 3>Okay, yeah, January.

0:37:56.520 --> 0:37:59.080
<v Speaker 2>So there was another time also, I mean, mind, dude,

0:37:59.120 --> 0:38:02.040
<v Speaker 2>this was going on. Tonya would go, should I put

0:38:02.120 --> 0:38:03.959
<v Speaker 2>on like a hot outfit? So it's like a mirror

0:38:04.040 --> 0:38:06.040
<v Speaker 2>picture even though I'm like not saying at home and

0:38:06.160 --> 0:38:09.640
<v Speaker 2>doing and I'm like, sure, didn't. I mean, she did

0:38:09.680 --> 0:38:10.840
<v Speaker 2>do it a lot, and I finally had to go,

0:38:10.880 --> 0:38:16.880
<v Speaker 2>you know, Tanya, I think it's time to stop this behavior.

0:38:17.560 --> 0:38:20.759
<v Speaker 2>Get rid. Then it train kept going. The train kept

0:38:20.760 --> 0:38:23.280
<v Speaker 2>going chew choo. Because what you do next.

0:38:23.160 --> 0:38:27.640
<v Speaker 3>Got Robert Graham to my ex boyfriend. Yeah, brought him

0:38:27.640 --> 0:38:30.120
<v Speaker 3>over to my apartment, put his shoes right up on

0:38:30.160 --> 0:38:32.400
<v Speaker 3>my coffee table, snapped a photo of my feet in

0:38:32.480 --> 0:38:33.760
<v Speaker 3>his feet watching something.

0:38:34.280 --> 0:38:37.240
<v Speaker 2>No, but the first one was he was on zoom

0:38:37.480 --> 0:38:40.240
<v Speaker 2>y'all were zooming or facetiming, and you had him say

0:38:40.680 --> 0:38:43.000
<v Speaker 2>you filmed the story and you had him say like, oh,

0:38:43.000 --> 0:38:44.160
<v Speaker 2>it is the Postmates here.

0:38:44.239 --> 0:38:47.359
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, oh yeah, man's boy. I wanted a man's voice

0:38:47.360 --> 0:38:48.440
<v Speaker 3>in the background.

0:38:48.600 --> 0:38:50.319
<v Speaker 2>That didn't get his attention. I don't think though the

0:38:50.440 --> 0:38:51.040
<v Speaker 2>boys man.

0:38:51.440 --> 0:38:54.520
<v Speaker 3>No, the ice definitely got it, but the man, the

0:38:54.560 --> 0:38:58.160
<v Speaker 3>other man, Robert Graham, didn't get the attention. It didn't

0:38:58.200 --> 0:39:00.680
<v Speaker 3>get anything because obviously, what's he in a comment with

0:39:00.719 --> 0:39:03.280
<v Speaker 3>like another guy there. But after we got back together,

0:39:03.320 --> 0:39:07.200
<v Speaker 3>he did tell me that he thought I was dating somebody. Wow.

0:39:08.320 --> 0:39:08.719
<v Speaker 1>You know what.

0:39:08.880 --> 0:39:12.080
<v Speaker 2>The main thing that didn't even involve your crazy.

0:39:12.320 --> 0:39:14.920
<v Speaker 3>Right, It was just like me being my natural, amazing self.

0:39:15.040 --> 0:39:18.799
<v Speaker 3>The orange dress, my orange dress, that's and then yes,

0:39:19.120 --> 0:39:20.960
<v Speaker 3>it was my orange dress that I wore to the

0:39:21.000 --> 0:39:23.400
<v Speaker 3>Golden Globes that year. I posted a picture and he

0:39:23.480 --> 0:39:26.239
<v Speaker 3>commented something like you look so beautiful, like like a

0:39:26.320 --> 0:39:29.320
<v Speaker 3>very long message your your essence is shining through or

0:39:29.360 --> 0:39:31.520
<v Speaker 3>something like that. And I was so tired because I

0:39:31.520 --> 0:39:33.640
<v Speaker 3>hadn't slept that night and I was feeling vulnerable, and

0:39:33.680 --> 0:39:37.640
<v Speaker 3>so guess what I did. I read it and I replied,

0:39:38.880 --> 0:39:40.200
<v Speaker 3>and that's when it all started again.

0:39:40.280 --> 0:39:42.200
<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, so nicely.

0:39:42.400 --> 0:39:48.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and then he responded within seconds where because he

0:39:48.520 --> 0:39:51.719
<v Speaker 3>had also he had also DM me on Valentine's Day,

0:39:51.960 --> 0:39:53.799
<v Speaker 3>he also sent me a message on a very long

0:39:53.840 --> 0:39:57.080
<v Speaker 3>message on Valentine's Day that I also did not open.

0:39:57.120 --> 0:39:59.640
<v Speaker 2>Oh and you didn't say anything on his birthday because

0:39:59.640 --> 0:40:01.319
<v Speaker 2>you remember we all went to you with Ashley and.

0:40:01.360 --> 0:40:03.400
<v Speaker 3>Jade yep, and I was going to send him a

0:40:03.440 --> 0:40:05.080
<v Speaker 3>birthday cake and everyone's like, why are you going to

0:40:05.120 --> 0:40:06.960
<v Speaker 3>set him a birthday cake? This guy broke up with you,

0:40:07.000 --> 0:40:08.680
<v Speaker 3>And I was like, yeah, I'm not going to do anything,

0:40:08.760 --> 0:40:12.600
<v Speaker 3>but you were upset. I was upset, not really about him. Yeah, yeah,

0:40:12.600 --> 0:40:13.120
<v Speaker 3>I hurt him.

0:40:13.520 --> 0:40:15.040
<v Speaker 1>I you a couple other ones that I think are

0:40:15.040 --> 0:40:15.440
<v Speaker 1>good on here.

0:40:15.520 --> 0:40:16.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, what are your favorites?

0:40:16.680 --> 0:40:19.120
<v Speaker 3>That crazy? When you like, look at this stuff, right.

0:40:19.080 --> 0:40:21.239
<v Speaker 1>No, compared to some of these. Now, I was still

0:40:21.280 --> 0:40:23.880
<v Speaker 1>lugged into my excess emails, so I started deleting almost

0:40:23.880 --> 0:40:30.200
<v Speaker 1>completed assignments on his Google Drive. That is dark's dark,

0:40:30.320 --> 0:40:30.839
<v Speaker 1>that's dark.

0:40:31.000 --> 0:40:31.280
<v Speaker 2>Wow.

0:40:32.640 --> 0:40:34.640
<v Speaker 1>We broke up and he uninvited me to a group

0:40:34.680 --> 0:40:37.080
<v Speaker 1>trip I was included in, so I contacted the Airbnb

0:40:37.160 --> 0:40:38.920
<v Speaker 1>host and had their whole reservation canceled.

0:40:40.920 --> 0:40:42.560
<v Speaker 2>That's a good one.

0:40:42.600 --> 0:40:43.239
<v Speaker 3>That is a good one.

0:40:43.280 --> 0:40:45.360
<v Speaker 1>After I caught him cheating, I called the airline and

0:40:45.400 --> 0:40:47.600
<v Speaker 1>canceled his family's trip to Europe and used his car

0:40:47.680 --> 0:40:52.120
<v Speaker 1>to pay the cancelation fee. Wow. Once I saw he

0:40:52.160 --> 0:40:55.280
<v Speaker 1>was texting girls on his phone, so did a factory resets.

0:40:55.320 --> 0:40:58.040
<v Speaker 1>We lost all of his contacts.

0:40:57.040 --> 0:40:59.160
<v Speaker 2>That's so smart.

0:40:59.239 --> 0:41:00.640
<v Speaker 3>You kind of deserved that up your cheatings.

0:41:00.640 --> 0:41:03.120
<v Speaker 1>This is statistic. This would drive me insane. I sefrayed

0:41:03.280 --> 0:41:06.680
<v Speaker 1>milk on this guy's bathroom walls, so it started to smell,

0:41:06.719 --> 0:41:10.120
<v Speaker 1>but he could never find it. I liked that one

0:41:10.239 --> 0:41:12.360
<v Speaker 1>milk when it starts to stink after a while and

0:41:12.400 --> 0:41:15.719
<v Speaker 1>you'd be looking everywhere where is this gross smell coming from?

0:41:15.920 --> 0:41:19.200
<v Speaker 3>That's genius Actually keeping that in my back pocket.

0:41:19.280 --> 0:41:22.360
<v Speaker 1>And finally I found out he cheated after fifteen years.

0:41:23.320 --> 0:41:26.600
<v Speaker 1>He thought we were refinancing our house, so he filled

0:41:26.600 --> 0:41:29.759
<v Speaker 1>out the DOCU sign turns out that document was to

0:41:29.800 --> 0:41:32.200
<v Speaker 1>take his name off the house and he had to

0:41:32.239 --> 0:41:32.600
<v Speaker 1>move out.

0:41:34.840 --> 0:41:42.600
<v Speaker 2>That that is something to put in your back pocket. Yeah,

0:41:42.640 --> 0:41:45.080
<v Speaker 2>and that's also reminder read your docu signs.

0:41:45.360 --> 0:41:47.040
<v Speaker 3>Yea, seriously, Wow?

0:41:47.200 --> 0:41:50.000
<v Speaker 1>Anything else? What about the big Arizona Guy? Anything there?

0:41:50.000 --> 0:41:52.399
<v Speaker 1>Any uh revenge?

0:41:53.080 --> 0:41:53.279
<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

0:41:53.320 --> 0:41:55.080
<v Speaker 2>Did you do anything crazy with it? I didn't know

0:41:55.160 --> 0:41:55.680
<v Speaker 2>you at that.

0:41:55.600 --> 0:41:59.919
<v Speaker 1>Time, doctor Chicago, But I don't remember the other names

0:42:00.160 --> 0:42:00.799
<v Speaker 1>because I think the.

0:42:00.760 --> 0:42:03.960
<v Speaker 3>Thing is when everything ended, Arizona Guy just like crushed

0:42:04.000 --> 0:42:06.200
<v Speaker 3>me out. Was just like so sad that I didn't

0:42:06.239 --> 0:42:08.160
<v Speaker 3>really do anything like that because I didn't really I

0:42:08.160 --> 0:42:11.040
<v Speaker 3>didn't want to get back together with him and every

0:42:11.040 --> 0:42:13.680
<v Speaker 3>other guy. I don't think I ever did anything like

0:42:13.760 --> 0:42:15.600
<v Speaker 3>that other than just look like super hot.

0:42:16.080 --> 0:42:17.640
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know that's the best revenge.

0:42:17.680 --> 0:42:20.120
<v Speaker 3>That's the best revenge. Yeah, because real the other ones.

0:42:20.160 --> 0:42:25.560
<v Speaker 2>I was like, Robbie's attention, Sure, you're just looking super

0:42:25.600 --> 0:42:31.160
<v Speaker 2>hot is what got him clicking the keyboard in the teats.

0:42:31.600 --> 0:42:35.120
<v Speaker 2>Oh that's not what I meant. But I was like,

0:42:35.160 --> 0:42:39.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what that means, but click in the teeth.

0:42:38.719 --> 0:42:42.440
<v Speaker 1>Well, we have a title Easton episode in the teeth.

0:42:43.960 --> 0:42:44.960
<v Speaker 3>Doesna makes sense?

0:42:45.800 --> 0:42:46.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

0:42:46.080 --> 0:42:48.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't know that you.

0:42:50.320 --> 0:42:51.000
<v Speaker 1>Would say.

0:42:51.160 --> 0:42:56.720
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, the torrid m though, was so desperate.

0:42:56.840 --> 0:43:00.600
<v Speaker 1>YEA toy is always in service you need.

0:43:00.640 --> 0:43:02.239
<v Speaker 3>And like I knew it, Like I knew it when

0:43:02.280 --> 0:43:04.000
<v Speaker 3>I asked for it, I knew it would elicit some

0:43:04.040 --> 0:43:06.760
<v Speaker 3>sort of reaction from him, you know, like snowman wants

0:43:07.239 --> 0:43:09.399
<v Speaker 3>loves his snow. They knew that was going to get him.

0:43:10.280 --> 0:43:16.040
<v Speaker 2>Snowman loves his snow, loves the snow Iceman. I think

0:43:16.040 --> 0:43:16.920
<v Speaker 2>that's all for today.

0:43:17.080 --> 0:43:17.880
<v Speaker 3>That's all, folks.

0:43:18.080 --> 0:43:20.520
<v Speaker 2>Unfortunately our time has come to an end.

0:43:20.760 --> 0:43:23.360
<v Speaker 3>Yes, but we'll be back on Thursday. I will be

0:43:23.360 --> 0:43:23.719
<v Speaker 3>back on.

0:43:24.000 --> 0:43:27.080
<v Speaker 2>I will not, but Tanya will be mm hmm with

0:43:27.880 --> 0:43:35.280
<v Speaker 2>Jason Tartick talking money to me, Talk money to me. Yeah,

0:43:35.320 --> 0:43:40.439
<v Speaker 2>So that will air Thursday, and you'll quite enjoy it.

0:43:40.120 --> 0:43:42.399
<v Speaker 3>From what I've heard, I think so. I think it's

0:43:42.400 --> 0:43:43.160
<v Speaker 3>a good episode.

0:43:43.280 --> 0:43:47.280
<v Speaker 2>It's a great episode, and there's some fun old school

0:43:47.320 --> 0:43:51.040
<v Speaker 2>Tanya Jason stuff that comes up bts.

0:43:50.480 --> 0:43:54.239
<v Speaker 3>From when we when uh we try to get set

0:43:54.320 --> 0:43:55.840
<v Speaker 3>up or I don't really know exactly what it was

0:43:55.880 --> 0:43:57.480
<v Speaker 3>going on the episode.

0:43:57.880 --> 0:43:59.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in form that one.

0:44:01.000 --> 0:44:02.200
<v Speaker 1>Also, I've never heard.

0:44:01.960 --> 0:44:06.319
<v Speaker 3>Someone tune in for that one. It's your podcast, Yeah,

0:44:07.360 --> 0:44:09.800
<v Speaker 3>If you're not downloading it, how do we expect anybody

0:44:09.800 --> 0:44:10.120
<v Speaker 3>else to?

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