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Speaker 1: Can we get a mic check please for the microphones.

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Speaker 2: Mike check one, two, three, four.

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Speaker 3: Here we go scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya

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Speaker 3: rat An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. Hey, it's her last

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Speaker 2: brain cell. She mustered out. We are fresh off of

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Speaker 2: Ali's bachelorette weekend.

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Speaker 3: I thought I would come home on a Sunday and

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Speaker 3: get one good night of sleep and be back to

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Speaker 3: health and wealth the next day. And that is not

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Speaker 3: the case.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think I would have been fine, except Phoebe kept

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Speaker 2: me up all night. She needed to go pee, she

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Speaker 2: needed to go boop, like hours apart. Haley didn't budge.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, can you help me out a little bit,

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Speaker 2: I'm struggling. Finally the third time, it was at like

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Speaker 2: six this morning, and I was like, Tapter, can you

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Speaker 2: take her out?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I love you.

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Speaker 3: I know. That's a good thing about the the fifty

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Speaker 3: to fifty dog ownership is that we really do swap well.

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Speaker 2: She watched her all weekend, so I was. But I

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Speaker 2: was also like, I'm running low on my sleep sleep hours.

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Speaker 3: I'm just running low, just running. Yeah, that could have.

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Speaker 2: Been in that sentence right there.

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Speaker 3: Period.

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Speaker 2: It was a great time. We were in the desert.

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Speaker 3: Should we start with Bacchorette or should we start with

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Speaker 3: I got so many dms of people wanted to hear

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Speaker 3: about your dad meeting Haley.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a really big week. Like the fact

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Speaker 2: that all this happened within one week blows my mind

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Speaker 2: because it was a lot. But my parents came into

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Speaker 2: my mom has been out, she's met Haley obviously, but

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Speaker 2: And we've been together for we're on the approaching six years.

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Speaker 2: And a lot of people were like, can you talk

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Speaker 2: When I think for anybody, take out like religion, take

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Speaker 2: and then you add in religion and cultural beliefs and

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Speaker 2: been a journey, and it's like I'm I would love

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Speaker 2: That'd be great, But I know it's been a lot

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Speaker 2: And I kept saying that. I was like, I just believe,

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Speaker 3: Pleased for it, you didn't want to like force it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think which we're going to do an

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Speaker 2: and this really resonated with me because right in this time,

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Speaker 2: Wanted to wait for it to feel good for everybody,

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Speaker 2: If you're someone who you've had to wait for loved

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Speaker 3: So I know I'm fine. I'm good. I'm not fine.

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Speaker 3: I just think, like, you know, just from watching you,

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Speaker 2: I don't poop put. Well, actually it was a very

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Speaker 2: It was basically put your where you were born, what

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Speaker 3: So, but as I'm saying, who knows if you would

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my family's wonderful, like my family's so warm, and

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Speaker 2: I think if I had brought Haley home it maybe

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Speaker 3: Now you guys have to start splitting your holidays.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're lucky with that. Yours is just like a

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Speaker 2: live a life that is the easiest and least challenging, right,

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Speaker 2: And so I think in my parents mind it was like,

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Speaker 2: that's going to be harder for you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, one hundred Yes, I've had this discussion with a

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Speaker 1: number of people. There are plenty of parents who have

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Speaker 1: misgivings about their children's sexuality or even gender identity. And

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Speaker 1: it's not because of a home of phobia or transphobia

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Speaker 1: and you know they're going to get harassed. You know,

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Speaker 3: I think it's important. And I'm very proud of you,

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Speaker 3: Next time they come out here, I'm taking my share.

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Speaker 2: I know when we met my mom, but I just

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Speaker 3: And that's when like the Tanya Chrys Tillie love fest

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there is a brother who is now married with

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Speaker 2: two beautiful children. Yes, yes, and you also are about

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Speaker 2: Life happens fast.

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Speaker 2: So anyways, we switched gears and we went bachelorette to

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Speaker 3: Yes, where do we start?

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Speaker 2: Where do we start? First of all, we left it

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I have never gotten to Palm Springs that fast.

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Speaker 3: I left around noon and I got there pretty quick too.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you met us like right at the bar Spring. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It was crazy in pictures, but when you it was

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it was like our own little hotel.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, there was thirteen girls, nine bedrooms, and a crazy

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Speaker 3: Why Because first of all, when you have thirteen I

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Speaker 3: taking videos and pictures of her all weekend like you

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Speaker 3: so like seeing you in action, like you kept the

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Speaker 3: Like there's there's things happen, and you were just like

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Speaker 3: it was just like so fun seeing you in that

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Speaker 2: I want to cry.

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Speaker 3: I wanted to get you a massage last night when

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Speaker 3: we got back from the Bachelorette because it was so

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Speaker 2: Wow, thank you, that's so nice.

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Speaker 1: Just seeing her in action? Does that put her in

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Speaker 3: So there's no like there's no there's no there was

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Speaker 3: no test there's no test, but like seeing her, no,

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Speaker 3: nobody's been informed interesting but but seeing you in action

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Speaker 1: Yeah, where Pauline is a maid of honest you could see.

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Speaker 3: Like, I honestly thought about it, like you could maybe

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Speaker 3: like people do, like people do weirder stuff out there

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Speaker 3: than a masterclass on being the best maid of honor.

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Speaker 3: I really think you could do it.

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Speaker 1: You can call it maid of Honor m A d E.

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Speaker 2: I had a lot of people. I had a few

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Speaker 2: people they were like, my wedding's this date? Are you available?

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Speaker 2: There's there's a movie, the one with Deborah Messing and

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Speaker 2: the guy and she hires him. Wait no, I'm thinking

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Speaker 3: Thinking seven. Yeah, yeah, she's honor.

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Speaker 2: Oh just Bridemain.

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Speaker 3: That was it was pretty epic seeing you like that.

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Speaker 2: Wow, thank you. It was really fun. It It is

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Speaker 2: like you go into a situation and, uh, when there's

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Speaker 2: so you know, part of me was like, oh, this

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Speaker 2: it was so much fun. It was such a chill

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Speaker 3: It was it was really really like a good group

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Speaker 3: Becca was on makeup duty, Margam was doing everybody's hair.

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Speaker 3: I was like, this is so cute.

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Speaker 2: It was really cute. And then later on Saturday night,

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Speaker 2: we were like, they're eating all of our food, they're

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Speaker 3: Like this is not a Barbie stream House anymore. It's

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Speaker 2: And we were like, we were like, we gotta y'all

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Speaker 1: I asked, someone who's never been to a bachelorette party before,

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Speaker 2: For me, it would be high for you. But like

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Speaker 2: compared to other bachelor and Bachelor parties, it wasn't that

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Speaker 2: Saturday night I got pretty crazy, but did Friday.

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Speaker 3: We're taking shots like it was like.

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Speaker 2: I know, but we didn't have like strippers, you know what.

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Speaker 1: Penis hats and penis.

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Speaker 3: There was penis confetti. That was it. Yeah, we didn't.

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Speaker 2: We did make her do like a blow drop shot,

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Speaker 3: Yeah I didn't even do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's because it was in a champagne flute.

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Speaker 3: That was hard.

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Speaker 2: But a professional could.

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Speaker 3: Really I touch you, I take that down, no problem.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, it wasn't like, you know, we didn't have

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Speaker 1: It was very debauchous in that sense.

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Speaker 2: Let's just say I myself was l I v E

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Speaker 3: The best part is is like Friday and night. The

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Speaker 3: from the week. And we were like playing some game

440
00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:18,239
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's called like Girls Like Us

441
00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 3: or something some girly like a card card game. And

442
00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:22,960
Speaker 3: I was like laying on the catch next to Jojo

443
00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:24,240
Speaker 3: and I was like, I'm just gonna close my eyes

444
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,560
Speaker 3: really quick, like I'm gonna like wake me up when

445
00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:28,600
Speaker 3: it's my turn. So I was like basically passed out

446
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:32,320
Speaker 3: and then back up when it's because I didn't want

447
00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 3: Allie to see I was falling asleep, so I was

448
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:35,680
Speaker 3: like just me, just like hit me, it's my turn.

449
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:38,679
Speaker 3: So I'm like basically passed out, and then somehow the

450
00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:41,120
Speaker 3: game heads up gets brought out and I'm like back

451
00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:44,080
Speaker 3: to life, like I'm I'm back to life and thriving

452
00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 3: again until one thirty am. Yeah, and then that's when

453
00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 3: I passed out. But okay, back when I got room together.

454
00:21:50,920 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, but wait, hold on, let's got back to the game.

455
00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:58,040
Speaker 2: Because remember when episodes episodes ago, Tanya said, I'm not competitive.

456
00:21:59,359 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 3: I do you remember that?

457
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:04,159
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. Heads up brings out a

458
00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:06,480
Speaker 2: competitive side of Donya.

459
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:11,240
Speaker 3: She was but competitive with myself. I have a title.

460
00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 3: You were competitive with me because the title at nine.

461
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 3: Then Becca somehow got nine, but still I was still

462
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:19,320
Speaker 3: the first one to get nine. So I was still.

463
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 1: Winning and was a category.

464
00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:24,720
Speaker 3: It was like pop culture or something. And then I

465
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,600
Speaker 3: could not go to sleep until I hit ten. Until

466
00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 3: I got ten.

467
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:28,120
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, and.

468
00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:30,640
Speaker 3: Go yeah, thank you.

469
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 2: She was very upset when I tied her at night.

470
00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:35,800
Speaker 1: As a guesser, yes, because a lot of the onus

471
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 1: is on the givers.

472
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 3: Yes, as a guesser, but the guesser should get the credit.

473
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,479
Speaker 1: I agreed. But if the giver sucks, you're not getting ten.

474
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:44,639
Speaker 3: You have a lot of givers and only one guess, right,

475
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 3: that's true.

476
00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 2: You know you get the givers and got the takers exactly. Yeah,

477
00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:52,399
Speaker 2: So okay, so yeah, we were rooming together, so cute,

478
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:53,360
Speaker 2: so cute.

479
00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 3: I miss rooming together.

480
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:57,159
Speaker 2: When have we roomed together?

481
00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 4: Oh?

482
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 2: My god, Like, when have we've been on a trip

483
00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 2: in like years.

484
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying, in years. But like, we did

485
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 3: Hawaii together. We did Ashley and Jared's wedding. We stayed together.

486
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 2: It was really fun. And Hawaii it was really fun.

487
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,160
Speaker 3: Countless several other just.

488
00:23:14,119 --> 00:23:16,120
Speaker 2: To give yours. Those were twenty nineteen.

489
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 1: Well you were together at that wedding recently, but that

490
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:23,000
Speaker 1: was the wedding.

491
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:25,440
Speaker 2: But we have our we have our partners with us

492
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 2: on those.

493
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 3: So yeah, we're not quite like bed sharing, you know.

494
00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 2: Yeah we shared a bed. Yeah, but we weren't in

495
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:36,880
Speaker 2: there there much. I wasn't get many hours in that unfortunately.

496
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:39,399
Speaker 3: But it felt comforting to know that you were sleeping

497
00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 3: next to me. Yeah.

498
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:41,879
Speaker 2: I was very quiet. Huh. She didn't even hear me

499
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:43,879
Speaker 2: come in the second. I was three am, so I

500
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:44,879
Speaker 2: was quiet as a mouse.

501
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:47,200
Speaker 3: I was so nauseous. I was passed out both nights.

502
00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:49,800
Speaker 2: I literally passed out, like what Tanya looks like when

503
00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 2: she's sleeping. It was it was like scary.

504
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 1: Is the better worse than the picture we was haw

505
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 1: last week that inspired her full makeover.

506
00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:58,479
Speaker 2: Oh I did take a picture.

507
00:23:58,760 --> 00:23:59,920
Speaker 1: Oh yes it was.

508
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:06,240
Speaker 2: I was gonna do a demonstration. My arms were corpse

509
00:24:08,240 --> 00:24:10,399
Speaker 2: and one leg was out of the covers, and she

510
00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:13,600
Speaker 2: was sleeping in like flannel Robbie face. It was her

511
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,720
Speaker 2: and Robbie's face on the pajamas. And then she would

512
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,119
Speaker 2: be like, it's so hot, and I'm like, you're in

513
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:24,399
Speaker 2: flannel like this weird material long sleeve and pants. You know,

514
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:25,879
Speaker 2: I'm in like a D shirt underwear.

515
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,320
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm good and mind you. When I sleep,

516
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,359
Speaker 3: I'm a stomach sleeper, so I usually like lay on

517
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 3: my my face is flat in the bed like I'm like, yeah,

518
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 3: so bad for you. That's how I normally sleep. I

519
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 3: was so ill I thought I was gonna like I

520
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 3: literally thought I was gonna regurgitate whatever was going on, like,

521
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:46,640
Speaker 3: and so I had to lay flat like a corpse

522
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 3: on my back and I couldn't move otherwise I thought

523
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:52,479
Speaker 3: something might happen. So that's I guess how I fell asleep,

524
00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:53,280
Speaker 3: and that is how.

525
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 2: You fell asleep. But then because she goes, oh, my

526
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 2: pillow sells like noldew, I'm gonna throw in it. I can't,

527
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 2: like I can't on my face, And I was like, okay,

528
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,359
Speaker 2: just fall asleep on your back. I wake up in

529
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,679
Speaker 2: the morning and I look over to my right and

530
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 2: Tanya looks like she's like in the mattress. She's so

531
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:14,399
Speaker 2: deep on her stomach into the mattress. She had lost

532
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 2: side of the millsy smell and found her comfort.

533
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:18,919
Speaker 1: Yeah.

534
00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 2: I was like, dang, she's sleeping so hard, you know

535
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 2: when you're And then Tanya gets up and goes to

536
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:30,440
Speaker 2: breakfast and Jojo comes in and she's like, just ton,

537
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 2: you have toothpaste in here. And she goes to brush

538
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 2: your teeth and she was like, did you poop in here?

539
00:25:37,200 --> 00:25:39,560
Speaker 2: And I was like no, I was like, but Tanya

540
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,239
Speaker 2: was just She's like, I gotta I'm gonna throw up.

541
00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:49,400
Speaker 3: So then the normal to go poop in the bathroom.

542
00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:51,800
Speaker 1: Then weird for Joji to call you out on that.

543
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 2: Oh well, well, I think she was asking.

544
00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 1: Me your private bathroom exactly.

545
00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:00,439
Speaker 2: She was trying to blame me for that smell. And

546
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 2: I said, that is not.

547
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 3: Me, thank you. Yeah, there you want me to do it.

548
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:06,400
Speaker 3: It's not like I was like farting in the room.

549
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,360
Speaker 3: Like I went to the bathroom. I went to the bathroom,

550
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:12,120
Speaker 3: and the yeah, JoJo's fletcher.

551
00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 2: And then the next day yesterday when we were leaving Tanya.

552
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 2: The thing is she shuts the door so it gets

553
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:21,199
Speaker 2: like trapped, and that's the problem. So I walked in

554
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:23,719
Speaker 2: there from.

555
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 3: Coming into the room.

556
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:30,560
Speaker 1: There, though ideally you open a window shut, there was

557
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,000
Speaker 1: no window fan fan.

558
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 2: There was some spray that she could have that makes

559
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 2: it worse.

560
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 3: Okay, So I don't like endo crime disruptors. I'm not

561
00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:45,199
Speaker 3: an endocrime disruptor fan. So I think poop smell is

562
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 3: more natural than any sort of POOPAI that you're going

563
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,359
Speaker 3: to be spraying in the bathroom, better for your health

564
00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:51,159
Speaker 3: than the spray.

565
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:59,679
Speaker 2: I should get to choose that. I'm also jealous that,

566
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 2: like in the morning, you're just like ready to go.

567
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 2: But yeah, it was hard for that. Yeah, yeah, I

568
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 2: was proud. Also, you know what Tanya was, So I

569
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 2: have to compliment you because I really felt seen and

570
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 2: validated as I was eating just like donut hole after

571
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 2: donut hole and cinnamon rolls. That Tanya was also indulging

572
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:28,360
Speaker 2: in the sweet treats of life with me because she normally.

573
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:33,119
Speaker 3: Is just like almonds, yeah, apples, that's like my go

574
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:37,720
Speaker 3: to snack. This weekend it was cinnamon rolls and not

575
00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,960
Speaker 3: didn eat the pizza. Oh but what else they eat?

576
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 3: Cimon rolls? Uh, donut holes? Yeah, calls.

577
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:45,119
Speaker 2: It was so fun.

578
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:46,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was fun.

579
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fun to be but yeah, it was a

580
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 2: very fun girls weekend. We had a great time in

581
00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:02,200
Speaker 2: a new bff who Kate oh Kayln Carter? Yes, who

582
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:02,880
Speaker 2: we love.

583
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:05,560
Speaker 3: Love We like literally hit it off the first night.

584
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 3: We talked for like four hours.

585
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, they were chit chatting. What made y'all hit it

586
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 2: off so well?

587
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,320
Speaker 3: She is a step parent, Uh and I am as well,

588
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,119
Speaker 3: And there's just this like bond. It just bonds you

589
00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 3: just parallel. It's just parallel, you know, like the parallel

590
00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 3: life situation. Nobody gets it unless they're in it. And

591
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:24,479
Speaker 3: then when somebody's in it and you can chat about it,

592
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 3: it's like yes, Yeah.

593
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 2: It's so interesting that when you go through something specific,

594
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 2: if it's like considered a hardship or like a challenger

595
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:37,040
Speaker 2: or change in life, when you meet someone that maybe

596
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 2: you never would have been able to relate to otherwise,

597
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 2: you have this thing that bonds you in a way

598
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 2: that it's like an instant connection.

599
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 3: Yeah. We had literally an instant connection.

600
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, and we played never have I ever in

601
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:50,880
Speaker 2: the pool.

602
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 3: Every single girl. I was shocked.

603
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:56,400
Speaker 2: What do you mean in there? Yeah, I mean the jacuzzi.

604
00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 2: Everyone fit in the dracuzzi and we played uh, never

605
00:28:59,000 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 2: have I ever had?

606
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 3: But then then next day I'm like pretty sure I

607
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 3: got a uti, so I know it's like I party

608
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 3: so hard and then my body's just like no, no, no,

609
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 3: and I'm like, yes, it's yes. I know. That's why

610
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 3: they go in the next day because I was like, oh,

611
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 3: you can't make it worse.

612
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 2: Tanya also brought her puffer vest to the desert put

613
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 2: it on over her cocktail dress.

614
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:21,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's right. It never.

615
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,720
Speaker 2: I never don't see you, never not seeing Tanya in

616
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 2: a puffer.

617
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 3: Because you know what the problem is in the desert.

618
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 3: It's so hot outside, but they make the inside so

619
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 3: cold everywhere that it's like you can't even wear a

620
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 3: dress inside because it's so icicle in there. I don't

621
00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,120
Speaker 3: know how you guys are like walking around in like dresses.

622
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 3: I think the liquor like Antarctica in there.

623
00:29:42,920 --> 00:29:45,600
Speaker 2: One fireball shot, you'd warm up.

624
00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 3: Did Ali have the best time ever?

625
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 2: Ali's in depression, you know, like when posts what's it

626
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 2: called like post vacation blues. She's in post bachelorette blues.

627
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 3: Right, because like she's never gonna have that ever again.

628
00:29:56,120 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I didn't tell her that she has

629
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 2: the wedding right right, right, but then it's gonna be right,

630
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:13,320
Speaker 2: we're going to Spain c. Yeah, I'm gonna miss you,

631
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,000
Speaker 2: so we do have that. I think the post of

632
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 2: wedding blues are gonna be We're gonna maybe check in

633
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 2: on her.

634
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, hm, let's get.

635
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 2: To you now, sure were you?

636
00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 3: Was I taking notes at the h Okay?

637
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,120
Speaker 2: But what about So?

638
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 3: I love I love, I love girls, so like to me,

639
00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 3: reminded me of sorority days and I like lived in

640
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,720
Speaker 3: a house with fifty six girls and everyone's you know

641
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:37,360
Speaker 3: what I mean, Like that was the vibe and I

642
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 3: love that. I don't know, it's like so, I don't know.

643
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 3: I definitely want like pin the tail on the rain,

644
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 3: the pin the penis on the Robbie, Like I want.

645
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 2: That type of stuff.

646
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely want a lot more peenie.

647
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know she loves the penie.

648
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 3: I love a peenie. That's pretty much all the notes

649
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 3: I got. And then and then you just like on fire.

650
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 2: Just like content left and right, not.

651
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 3: Even content, but like high vibes.

652
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 2: Well, I told I was told that my job was

653
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 2: to keep the vibes high.

654
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 3: So that was your only job.

655
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 2: That was my main job.

656
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 3: You kept him high?

657
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 2: Thank you. Yeah, and I'm paying for it today.

658
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think we're all paying for it.

659
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's different to recover from these weekends in your

660
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 2: mid thirties.

661
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:22,400
Speaker 4: Damn.

662
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,000
Speaker 3: That's my other thing too, is I'm like, it's so fun,

663
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 3: drinking is so fun when you're in it, and then

664
00:31:28,840 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 3: after it just feels so painful that I'm like, I

665
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 3: don't know if I can do two full days of

666
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 3: drinking ever again. Like I don't think I want to

667
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 3: drink ever again.

668
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 2: Yeah everyone said that, but mark this.

669
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 3: Podcast, this is my last time drinking, okay, of my life.

670
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 1: That's not true. March twenty fifth, but you know that's

671
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 1: not true.

672
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 2: We'll look back on this until my wedding date. For

673
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 2: that you don't even know.

674
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, until my wedding. I will not be drinking in

675
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 3: your back or wedding festivities.

676
00:31:57,360 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 1: You mean drinking two excess, right, because you're going to.

677
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 3: Have drinks, right, drink shots.

678
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:05,480
Speaker 1: No shots shots until my wedding. Okay, I mean that's

679
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 1: maybe possible.

680
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 3: You heard it here first.

681
00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 2: I don't think anyone believes you, but we like the effort.

682
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 3: No shots till my wedding. I can definitely do that.

683
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 2: When is that?

684
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, pretty ripped without shots though, can't you know?

685
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:24,520
Speaker 1: I mean those are mandatory.

686
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 4: When you.

687
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 3: Get it.

688
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: Yeah right, yeah, you're saying.

689
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 3: Yeah. The problem is I was mixing a lot of

690
00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 3: stuff this weekend. It was like and champagne and sprits

691
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 3: and like it was kind of all over the place.

692
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 3: I think that a fireball. I think that I did.

693
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:43,719
Speaker 3: So I mix a lot of stuff, which I think

694
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,040
Speaker 3: is like the big no no I took.

695
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 2: I took this like vitamin shot or something before I

696
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 2: started drinking, and so I had no hangover. I just

697
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 2: was exhausted.

698
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:56,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it was.

699
00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 2: A good time. Not something I could do weekly. I

700
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 2: do have Haley's birthday coming up this weekend, so oh

701
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 2: my God, send thoughts and prayers, teas and peas.

702
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:05,600
Speaker 3: I know, you know what I was actually gonna add.

703
00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 3: I wanted to do like, well, I'll figure it out

704
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 3: a different day. What I was gonna do like a

705
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:13,720
Speaker 3: cute shabat dinner and invite my little bridesmaids over. When's

706
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:18,800
Speaker 3: that Friday here? It's gonna have to be postponed.

707
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're gonna have to do a postponed Shabbat.

708
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 3: Yeah. The good thing was Shabbat is it comes every Friday.

709
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I would love to join, but I've never

710
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:27,720
Speaker 2: been to one.

711
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 3: So cute.

712
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 2: I love that I want to talk about. There was

713
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 2: this TikTok that was like, girls, tell me the craziest

714
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 2: thing you've ever done in a relationship, or.

715
00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 1: Just like these are really good.

716
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 2: It is one of my favorite comment sections I've ever seen.

717
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:49,719
Speaker 2: And you know, Tanya has some that she can add

718
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 2: to this list. So we're gonna take a break and we'll.

719
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 3: Be say it worked.

720
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 2: All right, we are back. So the TikTok was it says,

721
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 2: I want all the girls to comment the craziest thing

722
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:24,320
Speaker 2: you've done, because I want to see if I'm really

723
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 2: that crazy. And it was the most beautiful comment section

724
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 2: I think I've ever seen of just absolute unhinged behavior.

725
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 1: Usually because you've been wrong by him, or since you've

726
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,400
Speaker 1: been wronged by him and what you've done in response, or.

727
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:46,239
Speaker 2: You're just mad you're better. Someone said all valid. Okay,

728
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:50,439
Speaker 2: let you after we read a few of these, got

729
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 2: a job at his company, climb the corporate ladder, and

730
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 2: then fired him.

731
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:56,400
Speaker 3: That's epic, so epic.

732
00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:59,080
Speaker 1: That's the long game, playing the long game.

733
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I also feel was a little unnecessary, but she.

734
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 2: Had a vision. My ex cheated on me, so I

735
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 2: convinced him to get matching tattoos and then broke up

736
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 2: with him before I got mine.

737
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 3: And that feels.

738
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 1: That's good.

739
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 2: That's a long game too, that's permanent game. Put gorilla

740
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 2: glue in his hair, jel, that's pretty dirty. And then

741
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 2: the comment section was like, this comment section is like

742
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:37,200
Speaker 2: a vision board, like you, you and your trigger.

743
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did some pretty wild things.

744
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,320
Speaker 2: You would have been taking notes on.

745
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 3: This, Oh my gosh, notes with permanent sharpies.

746
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 2: Revisit that time.

747
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 3: What did I do? Okay? One of the things I

748
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:54,440
Speaker 3: did was Robbie's like a big ice man. Sorry that

749
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:56,880
Speaker 3: sounds so weird. He likes the snow, he loves he

750
00:35:56,920 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 3: loves the snow. He's like a snow bunny.

751
00:35:59,320 --> 00:35:59,759
Speaker 1: What you're saying?

752
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 3: A big iceman and and a friend of mine, Torri

753
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 3: MARLDI shout out. She's definitely definitely a girl's girl, because

754
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 3: I saw that she was in the snow ice queen,

755
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 3: and I go, where are you? She said, I'm a

756
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 3: big bear. And I said can you help me with something?

757
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 3: And she said, sure, whatever you need. And I said,

758
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:28,919
Speaker 3: can you write my initials in the snow and send

759
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:33,920
Speaker 3: me a picture of it? So she does. I posted

760
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 3: to my story, knowing it would get my iceman's attention. Meanwhile,

761
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,240
Speaker 3: we're not talking at this time, y'all are no contact,

762
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,360
Speaker 3: no contact at this point. So I posted in my

763
00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:45,880
Speaker 3: stories my little t r in the snow with little boots,

764
00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:48,600
Speaker 3: you know, so there, So he thinks I'm there, and

765
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 3: guess what, It freaking worked and he sent me a message,

766
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 3: where are you?

767
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:54,800
Speaker 2: Iceman?

768
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 3: Iceman took the bag and guess what I did?

769
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 1: Ignored it.

770
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:01,439
Speaker 3: I didn't open it.

771
00:37:01,560 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 2: Oh no, the move would have been to open it

772
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 2: and just no respond.

773
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:09,400
Speaker 3: No, because what I did at the time I discovered

774
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 3: I don't think you could do it with Instagram anymore.

775
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 3: But actually Paulina had discovered it for me. There was

776
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 3: a way in which you could check your dms without

777
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,279
Speaker 3: them seeing you, like put it on airplane mode, check

778
00:37:19,320 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 3: the DM and then get out of the DM and

779
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 3: then take it off airplane mode and it.

780
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 2: Shows this is great a great hack.

781
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 3: It is a great hack. But I don't think you

782
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:29,400
Speaker 3: could do it anymore because somebody recently was asking me

783
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 3: and I tried to do it, and I was like,

784
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:33,959
Speaker 3: I don't know, it's not working. But at the time

785
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 3: it worked, and so I was able to read all

786
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:37,839
Speaker 3: of his messages, but it looked like I didn't even

787
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 3: open any of them. Did really cut deep? Okay, so

788
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:42,879
Speaker 3: I didn't quit.

789
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 2: The trigger happened early December, right mid December, mid December,

790
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 2: the week or two before Christmas. So when did the

791
00:37:50,360 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 2: iceman come back?

792
00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:51,839
Speaker 4: When?

793
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:53,879
Speaker 3: It was like right after the New year?

794
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 2: Okay? So January?

795
00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, January.

796
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 2: So there was another time also, I mean, mind, dude,

797
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 2: this was going on. Tonya would go, should I put

798
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:03,959
Speaker 2: on like a hot outfit? So it's like a mirror

799
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 2: picture even though I'm like not saying at home and

800
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 2: doing and I'm like, sure, didn't. I mean, she did

801
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:10,840
Speaker 2: do it a lot, and I finally had to go,

802
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:16,880
Speaker 2: you know, Tanya, I think it's time to stop this behavior.

803
00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 2: Get rid. Then it train kept going. The train kept

804
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,280
Speaker 2: going chew choo. Because what you do next.

805
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 3: Got Robert Graham to my ex boyfriend. Yeah, brought him

806
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,120
Speaker 3: over to my apartment, put his shoes right up on

807
00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 3: my coffee table, snapped a photo of my feet in

808
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 3: his feet watching something.

809
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:37,240
Speaker 2: No, but the first one was he was on zoom

810
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,240
Speaker 2: y'all were zooming or facetiming, and you had him say

811
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:43,000
Speaker 2: you filmed the story and you had him say like, oh,

812
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 2: it is the Postmates here.

813
00:38:44,239 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, man's boy. I wanted a man's voice

814
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 3: in the background.

815
00:38:48,600 --> 00:38:50,319
Speaker 2: That didn't get his attention. I don't think though the

816
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 2: boys man.

817
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 3: No, the ice definitely got it, but the man, the

818
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:58,160
Speaker 3: other man, Robert Graham, didn't get the attention. It didn't

819
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 3: get anything because obviously, what's he in a comment with

820
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,280
Speaker 3: like another guy there. But after we got back together,

821
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 3: he did tell me that he thought I was dating somebody. Wow.

822
00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 1: You know what.

823
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:12,080
Speaker 2: The main thing that didn't even involve your crazy.

824
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 3: Right, It was just like me being my natural, amazing self.

825
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:18,799
Speaker 3: The orange dress, my orange dress, that's and then yes,

826
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 3: it was my orange dress that I wore to the

827
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 3: Golden Globes that year. I posted a picture and he

828
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:26,239
Speaker 3: commented something like you look so beautiful, like like a

829
00:39:26,320 --> 00:39:29,320
Speaker 3: very long message your your essence is shining through or

830
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 3: something like that. And I was so tired because I

831
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:33,640
Speaker 3: hadn't slept that night and I was feeling vulnerable, and

832
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 3: so guess what I did. I read it and I replied,

833
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 3: and that's when it all started again.

834
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 1: Oh wow, so nicely.

835
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:48,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then he responded within seconds where because he

836
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,719
Speaker 3: had also he had also DM me on Valentine's Day,

837
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:53,799
Speaker 3: he also sent me a message on a very long

838
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 3: message on Valentine's Day that I also did not open.

839
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 2: Oh and you didn't say anything on his birthday because

840
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:01,319
Speaker 2: you remember we all went to you with Ashley and.

841
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:03,400
Speaker 3: Jade yep, and I was going to send him a

842
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 3: birthday cake and everyone's like, why are you going to

843
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 3: set him a birthday cake? This guy broke up with you,

844
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 3: And I was like, yeah, I'm not going to do anything,

845
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 3: but you were upset. I was upset, not really about him. Yeah, yeah,

846
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 3: I hurt him.

847
00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 1: I you a couple other ones that I think are

848
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:15,440
Speaker 1: good on here.

849
00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what are your favorites?

850
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 3: That crazy? When you like, look at this stuff, right.

851
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 1: No, compared to some of these. Now, I was still

852
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 1: lugged into my excess emails, so I started deleting almost

853
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 1: completed assignments on his Google Drive. That is dark's dark,

854
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:30,839
Speaker 1: that's dark.

855
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:31,280
Speaker 2: Wow.

856
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 1: We broke up and he uninvited me to a group

857
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: trip I was included in, so I contacted the Airbnb

858
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 1: host and had their whole reservation canceled.

859
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 2: That's a good one.

860
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:43,239
Speaker 3: That is a good one.

861
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,360
Speaker 1: After I caught him cheating, I called the airline and

862
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:47,600
Speaker 1: canceled his family's trip to Europe and used his car

863
00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 1: to pay the cancelation fee. Wow. Once I saw he

864
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:55,280
Speaker 1: was texting girls on his phone, so did a factory resets.

865
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 1: We lost all of his contacts.

866
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,160
Speaker 2: That's so smart.

867
00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 3: You kind of deserved that up your cheatings.

868
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:03,120
Speaker 1: This is statistic. This would drive me insane. I sefrayed

869
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: milk on this guy's bathroom walls, so it started to smell,

870
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 1: but he could never find it. I liked that one

871
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 1: milk when it starts to stink after a while and

872
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:15,719
Speaker 1: you'd be looking everywhere where is this gross smell coming from?

873
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 3: That's genius Actually keeping that in my back pocket.

874
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:22,360
Speaker 1: And finally I found out he cheated after fifteen years.

875
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: He thought we were refinancing our house, so he filled

876
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: out the DOCU sign turns out that document was to

877
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: take his name off the house and he had to

878
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 1: move out.

879
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 2: That that is something to put in your back pocket. Yeah,

880
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:45,080
Speaker 2: and that's also reminder read your docu signs.

881
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 3: Yea, seriously, Wow?

882
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:50,000
Speaker 1: Anything else? What about the big Arizona Guy? Anything there?

883
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:52,399
Speaker 1: Any uh revenge?

884
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 3: Yeah?

885
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 2: Did you do anything crazy with it? I didn't know

886
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 2: you at that.

887
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:59,919
Speaker 1: Time, doctor Chicago, But I don't remember the other names

888
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:00,799
Speaker 1: because I think the.

889
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 3: Thing is when everything ended, Arizona Guy just like crushed

890
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 3: me out. Was just like so sad that I didn't

891
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 3: really do anything like that because I didn't really I

892
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 3: didn't want to get back together with him and every

893
00:42:11,040 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 3: other guy. I don't think I ever did anything like

894
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 3: that other than just look like super hot.

895
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know that's the best revenge.

896
00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 3: That's the best revenge. Yeah, because real the other ones.

897
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:25,560
Speaker 2: I was like, Robbie's attention, Sure, you're just looking super

898
00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:31,160
Speaker 2: hot is what got him clicking the keyboard in the teats.

899
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 2: Oh that's not what I meant. But I was like,

900
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:39,000
Speaker 2: I don't know what that means, but click in the teeth.

901
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 1: Well, we have a title Easton episode in the teeth.

902
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 3: Doesna makes sense?

903
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

904
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 2: I don't know that you.

905
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:51,000
Speaker 1: Would say.

906
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:56,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, the torrid m though, was so desperate.

907
00:42:56,840 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: YEA toy is always in service you need.

908
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:02,239
Speaker 3: And like I knew it, Like I knew it when

909
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 3: I asked for it, I knew it would elicit some

910
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:06,760
Speaker 3: sort of reaction from him, you know, like snowman wants

911
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:09,399
Speaker 3: loves his snow. They knew that was going to get him.

912
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:16,040
Speaker 2: Snowman loves his snow, loves the snow Iceman. I think

913
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:16,920
Speaker 2: that's all for today.

914
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 3: That's all, folks.

915
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 2: Unfortunately our time has come to an end.

916
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 3: Yes, but we'll be back on Thursday. I will be

917
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 3: back on.

918
00:43:24,000 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 2: I will not, but Tanya will be mm hmm with

919
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:35,280
Speaker 2: Jason Tartick talking money to me, Talk money to me. Yeah,

920
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:40,439
Speaker 2: So that will air Thursday, and you'll quite enjoy it.

921
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,399
Speaker 3: From what I've heard, I think so. I think it's

922
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 3: a good episode.

923
00:43:43,280 --> 00:43:47,280
Speaker 2: It's a great episode, and there's some fun old school

924
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 2: Tanya Jason stuff that comes up bts.

925
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 3: From when we when uh we try to get set

926
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 3: up or I don't really know exactly what it was

927
00:43:55,880 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 3: going on the episode.

928
00:43:57,880 --> 00:43:59,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, in form that one.

929
00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 1: Also, I've never heard.

930
00:44:01,960 --> 00:44:06,319
Speaker 3: Someone tune in for that one. It's your podcast, Yeah,

931
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 3: If you're not downloading it, how do we expect anybody

932
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 3: else to?

933
00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 2: It's always downloaded. I'm subscribed.

934
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 3: Oh nice, but I will listen. H reminder. Please ask

935
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 3: your friends and family to hit subscribe.

936
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:24,480
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937
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:27,200
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938
00:44:27,280 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 2: I have a wonderful week.

939
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 3: Bye bye