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Speaker 1: My husband and I tried opening up our relationship, but

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Speaker 2: It sounds like he can't handle the.

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Speaker 1: Heat, So get out the ketching. Yes, so, my husband

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Speaker 1: and I have been together for eight years and married

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Speaker 1: for three. We have an active, spicy sleep life and

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Speaker 1: had question mark a very good romantic relationship. No that

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Speaker 1: been talking about opening the relationship to be able to

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Speaker 1: experience things together. By the way, this comes from throwaway,

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Speaker 1: Oh so I have only known him meaning in the

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Speaker 1: spicy sleep type way I think, and he has had

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Speaker 1: other experiences. We have very close friends who have an

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Speaker 1: open relationship for their entire friendship, and we're in the

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Speaker 1: talks of doing something together with our female friends.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: We spent a very long time talking about how we

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Speaker 1: would want to do this and be physical and not emotional.

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Speaker 1: We set up rules made sure that if we proceeded

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Speaker 1: So basically, it seems like they're getting on a little

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Speaker 1: little action with one of their friends or something, getting.

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Speaker 2: At getting in on that action adding.

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Speaker 1: Some people to the mix. You know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: I can't can't have a party without throwing a couple

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Speaker 1: After a lot of back and forth and prep, we

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Speaker 1: have decided we do want to go forward with this

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Speaker 1: and plan to get together one of these days. Since

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Speaker 1: we are in a different state. They're in a different

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Speaker 2: Or a different stay from them, they're emotionally.

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Speaker 1: Emotionally, apparently, we traveled yesterday to visit our friends and

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Speaker 1: see the family, So there you go. He did not

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Speaker 1: mention anything about doing things today with said friends, and

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Speaker 1: I expected today to just be very platonic and get

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Speaker 1: to know each other. You know, it's chill, we're chatting.

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Speaker 2: We're just seeing if we mesh.

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Speaker 1: I don't think so. Towards eleven thirty pm, he told

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Speaker 1: I did not want to be involved at first, since

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Speaker 1: one he did not state that it was a three

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Fast forward, after some truth or dare exercises, I got

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Speaker 2: I was like, I didn't want to do it, but

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Speaker 1: I went to shower quickly and prep while they continued alone,

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Speaker 1: was honestly fun. Sometime after I got off love OPI's

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Speaker 1: coded language, he just stared at us. Okay, ignored our

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Speaker 1: But my friend and I quickly got dressed and we

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Speaker 2: Okay, well you started this. You freaking started this, brother.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, without going into extreme detail, we asked our friend

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Speaker 3: You just started it, and you didn't even like make

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Speaker 2: You just kind of like, go, we're doing it.

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Speaker 1: No, I do, like it's too much.

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Speaker 2: No, it's not as fun because you were there.

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Speaker 1: No, Oh my god. Yeah. Actually it was two am

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Speaker 2: Can't, dude, doesn't mean other people can't.

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Speaker 1: Huh, do you not? It's funny they have this idea

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Speaker 1: She was very open and hated me her phone and

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well she even told him told her like at

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Speaker 2: Yeah, right, like she she brought it up again.

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Speaker 3: She's She's like, even though she thought that they had

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Speaker 1: Yes, she's like continuing to check in with her and

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Speaker 2: You can't because you're inadequate.

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Speaker 1: Yep, you don't last long. Nope. I genuinely don't know

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Speaker 1: Kim k video. Uh oh, it's not about the Spicy Sleep.

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Speaker 1: It's the line. It's the throwing blame back to me.

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Speaker 1: He often does this halfway through tearing him a new one.

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Speaker 1: He admitted to all his false and provided no excuses.

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Speaker 1: He genuinely thought that this wasn't going to be a

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Speaker 3: You already got your service. Can it's not our problem

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Speaker 1: By the time I got involved, he was already finished.

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Speaker 4: Yike, break the mother this guys.

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Speaker 1: Everything led to him basically acting out because I got

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Speaker 1: I don't even know how to feel, and I've been

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Speaker 1: can provide more details and questions. I know this stemmed

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Speaker 2: Break up with him, break up, break up with them?

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Speaker 1: How do I proceed with this?

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Speaker 2: Break up with him?

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Speaker 1: What can I do to make him understand what he

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Speaker 1: did was not okay at all?

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Speaker 3: Break Up with him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so Sophia, what should we do here? Oh?

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Speaker 3: Break up with him? Break up with him? Yeah, break

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Speaker 3: up with him. It wasn't okay. He's not gonna understand.

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Speaker 3: He sucks and he doesn't have anything to offer. That's it,

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Speaker 3: and that's my that's what those are my thoughts.

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Speaker 1: D I just wanted to provide some more info. So

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Speaker 2: I could do whatever.

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Speaker 1: Live with it. But I completely love my husband and

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Speaker 2: To I want to bang with him, not so much anymore.

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Speaker 1: Number three, he was very much telling me for weeks

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Speaker 1: We collect, our and go. He obviously lied about that too.

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Speaker 2: They weren't. They weren't doing it with protection.

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Speaker 2: She said that it was just a mile and it

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Speaker 1: You suck. By the way, if you want to protect

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Speaker 1: Every week they have three PMPSC and it is protection

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Speaker 2: Truly, we protect you.

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Speaker 1: You will learn to protect your soul on the show.

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Speaker 1: That's all. That's That's all I'm saying. That's true. That's

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Speaker 1: all I'm saying. Now. Four, I tore him a new

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Speaker 1: That is, uh three hours and fifty nine minutes longer

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Speaker 1: do not care about the spicy sleep, the spicy texting,

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Speaker 4: Told me about it, literally, come communication fumbled, the bag bumbled, bumbled.

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Speaker 1: The number five. We my friends and I have one

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Speaker 1: hundred thousand percent trust in each other. If he let

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Speaker 1: They would just start making me soups and teas W

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Speaker 1: That's what he's got with them. He kept reassuring her

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Speaker 1: I was not.

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Speaker 2: Why are you lying?

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Speaker 1: Why you always lie?

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Speaker 3: Always lying?

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Speaker 1: If there's anything else, I will update probably. Thank you

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Speaker 1: all for your responses. We already had discussed this amongst

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Speaker 2: No, but doghouse divorce, divorce, just divorced.

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Speaker 3: So if you love us, make sure to subscribe we

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Speaker 3: love you and see.

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Speaker 1: John, I love you.

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Speaker 5: This is an episode from Deep Within the archives time

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Speaker 5: for okop ree lash. I lied on my resume to

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Speaker 2: Did you exaggerated?

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Speaker 5: I never exaggerated anything. Never where It's it's like you

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Speaker 6: How would you get a job when all you've done

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Speaker 5: Pulling out is an art? Never this woman? Oh, also

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Speaker 5: welcome Arianna. John's out this week. So Arianna is subbing in.

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Speaker 5: This is my girlfriend. Please be nice to her and

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Speaker 5: Comment every my double life by my baby Mama's my

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Speaker 2: At least self aware.

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Speaker 6: I was gonna say, at least he was a rich,

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Speaker 5: This makes him even more of a loser because not

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Speaker 5: I got a ged I dropped out of college twice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, loser for no sympathy.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm just like, oh, yeah, loser.

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Speaker 5: If you don't know all you are user whatever, major loser.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Teachers of the ropes by stroke in his rope.

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Speaker 5: I would sell everything I had and ended up living

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Speaker 5: I just couldn't live like that anymore and needed something stable,

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Speaker 5: We're going to make some enemies here. But what profession

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Speaker 6: You know, you probably you need to be pretty intelligent

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Speaker 5: Plumbers are the back crack of our anyone who's not

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Speaker 5: I was great at computers and technology and it was

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, it's just about finding your potential. I took

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Speaker 5: Who you're going to call the lying men, the.

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Speaker 2: Lie lie liars, lying men, the lying men, lying men.

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Speaker 5: We're gonna call also known as lawyers boh, justice scrot

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Speaker 5: and lawyers are liars.

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Speaker 2: You're about to make some enemies, now, yeah, yeah, I know.

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Speaker 5: Is anyone listening a lawyer? Can you put in the comments?

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Speaker 5: Just kidding? I wouldn't believe it if you said it anyway,

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Speaker 5: all right? And like, like how much? So you arian

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Speaker 2: I would I would want to.

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Speaker 6: I'm a bad liar. Let's let's get that out of

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Speaker 5: Like what also, Arianna is sick? Kidding, she's in full health.

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Speaker 5: That was a lie. Lawyer, lawyer didn't even turn red.

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Speaker 5: That's how you know I'm such a good liar, A

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Speaker 6: I would just exaggerate, maybe some numbers of you know,

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Speaker 5: How much you're exaggerated? Yes, how much are you exaggerate?

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Speaker 5: What are you looking at? Madam? But do you think

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Speaker 5: I'm putting my penis size on my resume? Is that

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Speaker 5: Yes, and for for my only fans of Asia?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you've got all these internet jobs.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you don't know what John and I do all

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Speaker 7: I love you too. I found help in lying, but listen,

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Speaker 5: I got a help disposition within the month and worked

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Speaker 5: Everything worked out the end, and now I'm working as

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Speaker 2: Lying always serves.

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Speaker 5: Lying always serves. That's why Ariana and I never told

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Speaker 5: So do you think Op is an a hole for

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Speaker 5: have you lied about? Please answer in the comments resume

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Speaker 6: Here's the thing. He stated his job for two years.

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Speaker 5: He stated his job for six months.

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Speaker 6: No, the next one, the new one was two years.

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Speaker 5: Once he got it after lying.

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Speaker 2: Once he got it after lying.

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Speaker 6: He did a good job enough, and they could have

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Speaker 2: So I don't know. View does that big of a deal?

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Speaker 5: So Ariana condones lying.

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Speaker 2: I condone lying. Spread it, Spread those.

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Speaker 5: Cheeks a little bit afure. This camera turns off right,

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Speaker 4: The others in my group project tried to force me

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Speaker 5: OK, this is Okayop. I'm Samuel Daughter.

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Speaker 4: I'm hey guys, thanks for having me.

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Speaker 5: A question for you, Jamie jack Man, when have you

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Speaker 4: I actually failed calculus two times freshman year of college

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Speaker 4: you guys have to do like a science fair?

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Speaker 1: For sure?

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Speaker 4: my project was titled what happened to my Apples? I'm serious?

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Speaker 1: Why is that fun?

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Speaker 4: And I was measuring what capped apples fresher after they

447
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Speaker 4: were sliced?

448
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Speaker 1: Was it tupperware glass? See?

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Speaker 5: I was expecting the side project to be like you

450
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Speaker 5: left a bushel of apples in your home and then

451
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Speaker 5: you just tracked like did someone did my mom to

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Speaker 5: the apple?

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Speaker 1: Were they turned into just for the name alone? Like

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Speaker 1: that was some some great titling. But about you guys failed?

455
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Speaker 1: I really started failing in college. That's that's really when

456
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Speaker 1: the failures started to happen. So I was going to

457
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Speaker 1: U see Santa Cruz go banana slugs. But at the

458
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Speaker 1: end of my senior year, I was supposed to lick

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Speaker 1: a banana slug, but I didn't like stay long enough

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Speaker 1: for like the opportunity to That's like the the initiation,

461
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Speaker 1: like you lick a banana slug, yeah, because it's like

462
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Speaker 1: in a forest, so it's like banana slugs everywhere.

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Speaker 5: The vanesslas are huge too. I put one on my face,

464
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Speaker 5: just covered my whole face.

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Speaker 1: Your whole face.

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Speaker 4: Are you on fear factor?

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Speaker 5: Noah? I was on shrooms.

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Speaker 1: By the way, shrooms at you. You see, Santa Cruz

469
00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:01,720
Speaker 1: is probably like the greatest experience of all time, but

470
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Speaker 1: it's literally a forest. So okay, back to my failure.

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Speaker 1: So I was taking speech class super easy. I was like,

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Speaker 1: this is like, this is the same. You were just

473
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Speaker 1: killing it. I was. I was like chilling right, and

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Speaker 1: then I had the day of the final as like

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Speaker 1: the wrong like the day after. Oh, so literally I

476
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Speaker 1: missed it. And if I if I got to see

477
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Speaker 1: your below in that class, I would lose twenty thousand

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Speaker 1: dollars in scholarship money. So I emailed her and I

479
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Speaker 1: was like, lady, please please, if you have any mercy,

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Speaker 1: I swear I had it in my calendar on the

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Speaker 1: wrong day. And then she's like, I'll tell you what,

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Speaker 1: I'll let you take it. And I think she might

483
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Speaker 1: adopted me a little bit. And she was like a

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Speaker 1: super super Christian person so you got You could get

485
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Speaker 1: extra credit if you watch the super cheesy Christian movie

486
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Speaker 1: in the theater. Nice. So she let me get a

487
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Speaker 1: little bit of extra credit with that cheesy movie.

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Speaker 5: No, well, that that is like the closest almost failure

489
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Speaker 5: you could get.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I licked the face of death.

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Speaker 5: But not the bananas.

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Speaker 4: The others in my group the project tried to force

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Speaker 4: me to do their parts. I submitted it anyway and

494
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Speaker 4: risk the chance of all of us failing.

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Speaker 5: Holy Moly, Holy Moly.

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Speaker 4: In my university, most of the lessons don't have an

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Speaker 4: attendance requirement, and they upload the video recording of the

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Speaker 4: lecture and lecture notes to the school system.

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Speaker 5: That's amazing. No classes, that's like it.

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Speaker 4: When I have questions, I prefer to send an email

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Speaker 4: or give a visit to the professor. It has our

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Speaker 4: office hours, so I see no reason to physically attend

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Speaker 4: the lessons. The only downside to that is that I

504
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 4: rarely know the other students taking the same lesson, so.

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Speaker 5: Op, got no friends in the class.

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Speaker 4: This becomes a problem in some courses where there's mandatory

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Speaker 4: group projects. That means you are not able to upload

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00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:45,119
Speaker 4: the project to the school system. Unless you choose your

509
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 4: group members, and I always end up with the other

510
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 4: people who have nothing to do with school and absolutely

511
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Speaker 4: nothing to do to help with the project.

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Speaker 5: I feel like that's that's kind of like what you deserve,

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Speaker 5: Like if you don't show up teddy classes, you deserve

514
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Speaker 5: to be with the balls.

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Speaker 1: Sam, weren't you the person that never showed down? Definitely?

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Speaker 5: But I had friends outside the class, Like I had

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Speaker 5: friends that I would make at the first couple of weeks, right,

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Speaker 5: and then I would just not show up any like

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Speaker 5: any of the other weeks, like basically the syllabus week.

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00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:17,600
Speaker 5: I would be like, hey, all, you're the one part

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Speaker 5: of all those those study group chats, and then I

522
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Speaker 5: could just f off for the rest of the time

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Speaker 5: and and then just come in for group projects when

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Speaker 5: I when when I need to do. I was a bozo.

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Speaker 4: After multiple projects which I had to do the other

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Speaker 4: people's parts, I had had enough. And that's where our

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Speaker 4: malicious compliance begins. In one of the hardest courses in

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Speaker 4: our department, we had a massive six person project, which

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Speaker 4: was forty percent of our total grade.

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Speaker 5: Bruh, dude, that's just the whole class, the whole class.

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Speaker 1: Why do we even Yeah, why did why? Why is?

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Speaker 1: Why did teachers do that? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: All make like the most of your grade dependent on

534
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Speaker 5: a bunch of bozoe.

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Speaker 1: Goodbye.

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Speaker 4: Now, to pass the course, you had to make a

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Speaker 4: minimum of a fifty percent, which means with a good project,

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Speaker 4: you can almost guarantee that you pass the course. Okay,

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00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 4: but that's with the minimum grade. It's still a big

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Speaker 4: deal since on average people take this course three times three.

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Speaker 1: That is absolutely insane.

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Speaker 5: And that's the average. So you want someone's out here

543
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 5: taking the class like seven eight times.

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Speaker 1: Bill Billy Bob is taking it every semester.

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Speaker 5: Here he's rubbing shoulders with the professor. He's gonna drink.

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Speaker 5: The Professor's like, Billy, come on past this class, and

547
00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 5: Billy is like, but I miss you so much, professor.

548
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:34,919
Speaker 5: Maybe they just keep giving me that d.

549
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:39,360
Speaker 1: Yeah or that sweet ah, that asshole.

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Speaker 4: We had two months to finish the project, and for

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Speaker 4: the first two weeks I emailed message called my team

552
00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:49,160
Speaker 4: members all about the project, but they always had some

553
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 4: excuse about why they can't join the meetings.

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Speaker 5: I mean, all just to be fair, like, who starts

555
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:57,360
Speaker 5: a project that you have two months to do? And

556
00:27:57,800 --> 00:28:00,360
Speaker 5: I wouldn't start the last Hey, you know, twenty four

557
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,480
Speaker 5: hours before the deadline. I call it cracked out on coffee.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's when I met my almost so.

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Speaker 4: In the end, I separated our roles in the project

560
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,399
Speaker 4: and sent them an email showing who is responsible for what?

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Speaker 5: Wow leadership skills, stepping up a regular Barack Obama Group projects,

562
00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:21,400
Speaker 5: the Baraka Group project, the putin of power points.

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Speaker 4: I finished my part on the project rather quickly, and

564
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Speaker 4: I started to wait a week before the deadline. My

565
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 4: group members noticed that this time nobody did their part.

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Speaker 4: Come on, there was chaos, they were panicking, and they

567
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 4: were angry. Very group message was filled with messages like

568
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 4: why did nobody do the project?

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Speaker 1: And what are we gonna do? Now?

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Speaker 5: I love I love the person who's saying why did

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Speaker 5: nobody do the project? And that person also come on.

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Speaker 5: I was like, come on, guys, AND's gotta move these

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Speaker 5: But you didn't do it.

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Speaker 1: I didn't do it.

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Speaker 4: I was enjoying reading they're angry and desperate messages. You're

576
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 4: enjoying that crazy, But of course I am not heartless.

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00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,600
Speaker 4: So I explained to them what they should do and

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Speaker 4: how they could do it. I even sent them some

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Speaker 4: links to tutorials in examples of other projects similar to

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Speaker 4: ours in an effort and told them that there was

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Speaker 4: enough time to do something decent that was solid.

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Speaker 1: He did not have to do that.

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Speaker 5: Okay, you're sending them a lifeline. I guess that's right.

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Speaker 4: Time was passing and they were getting even more desperate,

585
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 4: but they were still doing nothing. Some of them tried

586
00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:37,600
Speaker 4: to call me in a arrange a meeting, but I

587
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 4: gave them the exact same excuses they gave me a

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Speaker 4: month ago, and I told them I already finished my part,

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Speaker 4: so don't worry about me.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, shit don't taste good when it's vomited up.

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Speaker 4: They tried to convince me to help, but every time

592
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Speaker 4: I said I would love to help, but inserted one

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Speaker 4: of their excuses is that they've given me before's heartless, heartless.

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Speaker 1: The last day of the dead sorry, banger, the last

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Speaker 1: day of the deadline.

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Speaker 4: I asked them to send me the part that they did,

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00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 4: which they responded, they will try to send me something

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Speaker 4: in a couple of days.

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Speaker 1: A couple of days is the day. Do you know

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Speaker 1: what death line means? It's like a face of salami

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Speaker 1: when it's finished.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you'll take it out of the oven.

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Speaker 1: It's over.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you know what, you don't tell the doctor like, hey,

605
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Speaker 5: my babies do today, and the doctor is not, like,

606
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Speaker 5: let me deliver next.

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Speaker 1: Thusday a couple of yeah, darlic.

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Speaker 4: Now there's a ten percent punishment for each day past

609
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Speaker 4: the deadline. So I said, no, I'm sending it in today. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: so send me the part that you've completed.

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Speaker 5: You know, they haven't completed ship, you haven't done anything.

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00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 4: They say, give me a couple of days with zero.

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Speaker 4: Realizing they're going to get a zero, they insisted that

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Speaker 4: for my part, I write their name is well, and

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00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 4: I simply answered with no. I ignored the rest of

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Speaker 4: the messages, and a couple of hours before the deadline,

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Speaker 4: I sent the project in with documentations explaining the project

618
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 4: itself and who did which part. Now ten percent of

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Speaker 4: the project's grade was sending a working project, so I

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Speaker 4: was awaiting the maximum BO of ninety out of one hundred.

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Speaker 4: But I was also worried because eighty percent of the

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00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 4: project was missing, and perhaps the professor could decide to

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00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:27,720
Speaker 4: just give everyone.

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Speaker 5: A zero, which happens all the time, normally happen. Yeah,

625
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 5: like this is a group project. You didn't work as

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Speaker 5: a group f.

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Speaker 4: But luckily this didn't happen and I actually got ninety

628
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Speaker 4: points while other teammates got a big, fat, juicy oh zero.

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Speaker 1: Billy passed the group project. Oh us, we we just

630
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Speaker 1: we just completed a group project.

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Speaker 5: We did and you know what, you could always get

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Speaker 5: an A plus set, a big juicy one oh oh

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Speaker 5: one hundred percent on by completing one hundred percent of

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Speaker 5: the video.

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Speaker 2: Is okay?

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