Speaker 1: Welcome back. That's our happy our listeners. If you tuned
Speaker 1: in last week, you now know we had our next Bachelorette,
Speaker 1: Claire Crowley on the podcast, and she spoke so much
Speaker 1: truth you guys. We obviously had so much to talk
Speaker 1: to her about. So here is part two of that conversation.
Speaker 1: Right now, I feel like, Becca, this is the perfect
Speaker 1: time for us to give you advice Claire, because I
Speaker 1: don't know. I know that now you know some more
Speaker 1: details about your season, but I don't know if we're
Speaker 1: usually bachelorettes come on the season you know and give advice.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's going to be able to happen.
Speaker 1: So I think now is a good time where we
Speaker 1: give you some advice. I would love you kidding me.
Speaker 1: I've been waiting for this moment. I would love it. Well, Claire,
Speaker 1: this wasn't planned in the podcast, but right before you
Speaker 1: hopped on, I did a little digging in a bunch
Speaker 1: of boxes in my apartment and I found the Bachelor
Speaker 1: Bible that Rachel, Caitlin and Joejoe made for me. I
Speaker 1: met them one before I met my guys, and they
Speaker 1: gave me the Batchelor, a bible they have some great
Speaker 1: things written in here, so we'll go through them. But
Speaker 1: I also I think we need to add our own
Speaker 1: and like write some more stuff and then I'll send
Speaker 1: it to you. But this was so good to carry
Speaker 1: on and pass down. Yeah, I don't know why we
Speaker 1: didn't give it to Hannah. I blame you because you
Speaker 1: had it and you didn't give it to Hannah. Hey, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna blame it on my mom then, because it
Speaker 1: was in her basement for the past two years and
Speaker 1: she just send this to me. Claire's like, I'll take it.
Speaker 1: That's fine. I could just through Like it's fine. No,
Speaker 1: I mean, truth be told, it was an idea that
Speaker 1: started with your season. Becca. We didn't have it before,
Speaker 1: so it was an idea with you. We can make
Speaker 1: Hannah one so she has one too, and so she
Speaker 1: feels included. But we should get it, you know, pass
Speaker 1: it on down to Claire. If I don't remember what
Speaker 1: I wrote, and I hope it's not the same information
Speaker 1: that the advice that I'm about to give you off
Speaker 1: the top of my head now, Claire. But the thing,
Speaker 1: the thing that stands out to me the most is
Speaker 1: I thought, obviously never been the beast wrap. But I
Speaker 1: just thought I had this down, Like I was like,
Speaker 1: I know who I am. I got this, you know,
Speaker 1: I know what I want. I know the type of
Speaker 1: man I want. I know what I'm looking for. You know,
Speaker 1: I'll meet these guys, but whatever. And I remember the
Speaker 1: first night, which is Claire I was. I said the
Speaker 1: same thing to you, Becca. I was like, this night
Speaker 1: is so, it's so exciting, Claire, you have no I
Speaker 1: could cry talking about the first night because I know
Speaker 1: that joy, the joy you're gonna feel getting ready and
Speaker 1: knowing that however many men come, there are there for you,
Speaker 1: right reasons, wrong reasons, forget it. It's your season, you're
Speaker 1: in charge. They came to be a part of your journey.
Speaker 1: It is powerful, every emotions, it's all of it. But
Speaker 1: that first night I remember and they come up in
Speaker 1: the limo. You're standing there, Chris like leaves you and
Speaker 1: it's just you. And I remember meeting the guys and
Speaker 1: I had gone through all of the women, and I
Speaker 1: was like, this is it worth the rest? I was
Speaker 1: so it was, And honestly because not because they were
Speaker 1: bad guys, because I overall loved the group of men
Speaker 1: that I had it was just it happened so fast,
Speaker 1: and people are doing silly things when they come out
Speaker 1: of the limo that I wasn't overall impressed. And I
Speaker 1: remember a producer pulling me to the side. They were like,
Speaker 1: you know, you do you have some favorites. I couldn't
Speaker 1: name favorites. I wasn't. I just it just didn't hit
Speaker 1: me the way that I thought all that emotion I
Speaker 1: had coming in. So I remember a producer said to me,
Speaker 1: give it time and be open because there really are
Speaker 1: some great men. And that was the best advice I
Speaker 1: could get because after the limo interests and then I
Speaker 1: was talking to the men. It was amazing. After that,
Speaker 1: I was like, I like this one, this one, this one,
Speaker 1: this one and this one, and so if I could
Speaker 1: give you advices, it's like you think you know that
Speaker 1: you have no idea, So truly be open to everybody
Speaker 1: that comes through, because you will be beautifully surprised at
Speaker 1: the men that you meet on your season. M oh b,
Speaker 1: I am. I feel like that's amazing advice. Thank you,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for saying that, because it is
Speaker 1: scary going what if my guy's not there? You know, like,
Speaker 1: what if there's so many things that go through your mind,
Speaker 1: you know, if like m damn, or what if I
Speaker 1: don't feel it right away or so I appreciate that. Oh,
Speaker 1: but the joy of the first night, I just can't
Speaker 1: put it into words for you, Claire. It's so much fun.
Speaker 1: It's so great it is, and as Rachel said, it
Speaker 1: goes by so incredibly fast, Like I like, because I
Speaker 1: think I had twenty eight guys maybe, And as Rachel said,
Speaker 1: you're like, that's it, like the arrivals are already done,
Speaker 1: and then you go into something else and you're being
Speaker 1: like pulled every which way. But it's that anticipation that
Speaker 1: like you have so much to look forward to. I
Speaker 1: think play on top of what Rachel said, too, is
Speaker 1: like there's no other time in your life where you
Speaker 1: will meet this many guys at once, like all vying
Speaker 1: for you and your attention. And I look at first
Speaker 1: felt awkward. I was like I don't deserve this, like
Speaker 1: I'm not worthy. Like it was very weird because it's
Speaker 1: like you want to be humble, you want to stay grounded.
Speaker 1: But then also too, it's like, damn, like these twenty
Speaker 1: eight men are here for me, so let me just say,
Speaker 1: especially night one. Don't like soak that in revel in
Speaker 1: that like appreciate the fact that, as Rachel said, all
Speaker 1: of these men, well, hopefully they've done their homework. If
Speaker 1: they haven't, I mean, by but all of these men
Speaker 1: should hopefully know by now who Claire Crawley is. They
Speaker 1: should want to have the opportunity and the privilege to
Speaker 1: have your time and your conversations and get to know you.
Speaker 1: And vice verst to two. As like, I'm playing off
Speaker 1: of everything that Rachel said, but I mean, for me,
Speaker 1: I'm like, pretty like I feel it. If I like you,
Speaker 1: I like you. If I don't, I don't. And so
Speaker 1: I for me, really had to take a step back
Speaker 1: and be like, maybe talk to these guys a little
Speaker 1: bit more. Maybe talk to somebody who you kind of
Speaker 1: just wrote off because you thought he was like the goofy,
Speaker 1: funny one. Because you will always be surprised. There's going
Speaker 1: to be one moment in time where your brain's going
Speaker 1: to click to somebody else and you're gonna be like,
Speaker 1: I didn't see that in this man in the beginning,
Speaker 1: and I'm really pleasantly surprised, and it's you know, and
Speaker 1: not to say he might not be the one, but
Speaker 1: there's something so powerful and special about exhausting each and
Speaker 1: every relationship to the very end. I mean, and you're
Speaker 1: you're going to exhaust a lot of them in a
Speaker 1: very short amount of time. One other thing too, that
Speaker 1: I I've heard this from a lot of the past,
Speaker 1: leads to is make time for yourself. You're going to
Speaker 1: be going like crazy. You are going to be constantly
Speaker 1: having conversations, You're gonna be constantly in interviews. You're gonna
Speaker 1: be bust from place to place and between men to
Speaker 1: men and in fittings and all of this. There's so
Speaker 1: much craziness in chaos that you really don't have a
Speaker 1: lot of time for yourself, especially in the beginning weeks.
Speaker 1: So even if it's fifteen minutes, like pretend you have
Speaker 1: to go to the bathroom you don't feel good, Take
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes, just hide away, keep a journal if you can.
Speaker 1: But you need that alone time to really sift and
Speaker 1: think on your own and so utilize that whenever you can.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be very important for your sammy be you know.
Speaker 1: You know what's funny is I'm very much. I always
Speaker 1: tell people I'm kind if I like, I'm an introvert
Speaker 1: in the way where I need my own time to recharge.
Speaker 1: So I think that is going to be key. And
Speaker 1: that's excellent advice because I already need that in life
Speaker 1: as it is right now, and I like my alone
Speaker 1: time and I appreciate that's where I recharge. So I
Speaker 1: definitely will be trying to fit in as much as
Speaker 1: I can of that. Yeah, now you have to like
Speaker 1: plane flights, car rides. I mean I pretended to, like
Speaker 1: I had to go poop like every hour just because
Speaker 1: I needed alone time. Okay, that might be t and
Speaker 1: I but I needed to just like sit, whatever it takes, whatever,
Speaker 1: saying her makeup like whenever you're doing that too. To
Speaker 1: add on to that, this is something Ali told me
Speaker 1: which I loved, was she said that she regretted not
Speaker 1: enjoying her season, not taking the time to its one thing,
Speaker 1: to take time for yourself and you need that, like
Speaker 1: Becca was saying, everything she said is true, but also
Speaker 1: taking the time to appreciate the moment of things, because
Speaker 1: like Becca said, you'll be pulled in so many different ways,
Speaker 1: and you go to bed late and you get up early,
Speaker 1: and you have to do all these itms, and then
Speaker 1: you're trying to remember names and stories and backgrounds, and
Speaker 1: then there's some guys you're just not interested in that.
Speaker 1: You get caught up in the present and then you
Speaker 1: don't appreciate what's actually happening. Like you're the bachelorette and
Speaker 1: it's a beautiful experience and you're having this chance to
Speaker 1: write your love story and remember that, remember those moments
Speaker 1: like when you're taking that time to reflect, remember that
Speaker 1: time to be grateful and to appreciate the present because
Speaker 1: it goes so fast. It's in the blink of an eye.
Speaker 1: It's so fast. You another one so excited for it.
Speaker 1: It literally hasn't, like I said, it hasn't felt real
Speaker 1: up until these last couple of days where I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's really happening, and it's happening soon. So I already
Speaker 1: was in the moment of like go go, go, go
Speaker 1: go before the quarantine happened. So you're right, You're absolutely right.
Speaker 1: I need to slow down and live in the moment,
Speaker 1: because when else do we get to experience this and
Speaker 1: live it. You know, you are one of now, well
Speaker 1: one of fifteen other women who get to be in
Speaker 1: this position, like that's such a small feel few. I
Speaker 1: cannot talk right now. That's such a small few. And
Speaker 1: just as we're just said, live in it, soak it in,
Speaker 1: appreciate it because it's gonna go by fast. Like I'm
Speaker 1: two years removed now, and I still like, look back.
Speaker 1: I kept a journal and I reread little moments for
Speaker 1: little details. It's just a word that I I kept
Speaker 1: in my journal, and I'm like, oh my gosh, it
Speaker 1: takes me back to that moment to kind of be
Speaker 1: there and remember it and embrace it and love it
Speaker 1: because you're in for a journey, Claire. One other thing
Speaker 1: that I think we have to say, which the producers
Speaker 1: are awesome at, always keeping on hand breath mints are key.
Speaker 1: Listening strips will be your best friend. You never know
Speaker 1: when someone's going to show up to your hotel room
Speaker 1: at like two in the morning to have a conversation.
Speaker 1: You never know when some guy's going to steal you
Speaker 1: away to kiss you behind the fireplace. I mean, you've
Speaker 1: been on the show, You've done a few seasons, so
Speaker 1: you know. I think I kept like listening and my
Speaker 1: brow at one point just to be like I have
Speaker 1: it on hand. Oh I swear to God. If a
Speaker 1: guy shows up that my place to two in the
Speaker 1: morning and I've only get four hours to sleep, you
Speaker 1: better turn around and go home because late I need
Speaker 1: my sleep. Yeah. Well, yeah, you're not going to get
Speaker 1: much of it, especially those first three weeks. Yeah. Function,
Speaker 1: How do you function through it? I'm coffee, coffee. I
Speaker 1: don't drink alcohol. I need will Claire, not even alcohol. Well,
Speaker 1: they don't really let you drink a lot of alcohol
Speaker 1: as a lead, but no coffee. Will you do a
Speaker 1: Red Bull? Nothing? No, I don't know. You know what
Speaker 1: I do get is green tea from Starbucks, or I
Speaker 1: get red Coca Classic Coca Cola. That'll hop me up.
Speaker 1: That's perfect. They'll keep you stocked up with Coca Cola
Speaker 1: on your off days to try to get an ivy
Speaker 1: with just extra vitamins that will hopefully help nice. Okay,
Speaker 1: good call CoA call. But but honestly too, I don't
Speaker 1: even remember drinking a lot of coffee. The adrenaline, the
Speaker 1: excitement of especially when you're going to see that one
Speaker 1: guy you're really interested in, or a few whatever. Um,
Speaker 1: that's gonna keep you going to like you're excited. Oh
Speaker 1: I'm putting on this outfit. This is super cute. Oh
Speaker 1: I love my makeup in my hair today. Oh I'm
Speaker 1: in this place. This date's gonna be really exciting. It'll
Speaker 1: be little things like that that'll get you going, that
Speaker 1: will make you excited. Yeah yeah, and oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop with the advice, but another thing that
Speaker 1: would help me with as far as energy, and you'll
Speaker 1: get this right. I remember what it was like, and
Speaker 1: I know you guys too, did too, when we were
Speaker 1: on the Bachelor and you're waiting for those ten minutes
Speaker 1: at a cocktail party you could spend with the lead,
Speaker 1: or you're on a group date and you just want
Speaker 1: that alone time for ten to fifteen minutes, and you
Speaker 1: remember that feeling. I remember thinking when I was the lead,
Speaker 1: whenever I'm with somebody, I have to be present and
Speaker 1: give them my full attention because I remember what it
Speaker 1: was like to be waiting all day just to get
Speaker 1: ten minutes with Nick in my case, So that also
Speaker 1: kept me going because I want I never wanted to forget.
Speaker 1: I never wanted to feel like I was too big.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm the lead now, No, I was just like you,
Speaker 1: and I want to honor that you're here for me
Speaker 1: for whatever reason. Staying present. That's so key, that's so key.
Speaker 1: I hear you on that. I'm definitely gonna work on
Speaker 1: that because it can't be overwhelming, right like you and
Speaker 1: it will for directions, will so be overwhelming. It will be, yeah,
Speaker 1: so overwhelming. But you have a great team that will
Speaker 1: be on your side too, who's always there to kind
Speaker 1: of especially when at first, like I'm terrible with names
Speaker 1: to begin with, and we all saw I forgot Jason
Speaker 1: same at one point. But the team really is there
Speaker 1: to help you. Then another thing that really helps is
Speaker 1: of course Chris Harrison. Lean on him when you can.
Speaker 1: I mean, he has seen it all. He has had
Speaker 1: every type of conversation in the book. So lean on
Speaker 1: him when you can. And also like the dream Team,
Speaker 1: I mean we talked to Carrie and Gina on the podcast.
Speaker 1: For those of you who didn't tune in, we had
Speaker 1: the stylists and the makeup artist from the show who
Speaker 1: really are there to just like they became such friends,
Speaker 1: such confidence. They're there there to like make you look
Speaker 1: gorgeous and flawless, but there's so much more than that.
Speaker 1: So lean on them too, because they kept me. Saying
Speaker 1: kept me grounded, especially in the moments when I needed it,
Speaker 1: when I felt like I didn't want to talk about
Speaker 1: anything in an interview or in front of the guys.
Speaker 1: So they're going to be good to help you too.
Speaker 1: I already love them so incredibly much. Yeah, I've known
Speaker 1: them the whole time, but just now in this space
Speaker 1: even doing like the fittings and the makeup for all
Speaker 1: the shoots and stuff. Already, like, I've just adore them,
Speaker 1: and they you can tell, like you said, they're such
Speaker 1: an a friend role and that dream team of like
Speaker 1: we got you. You know that they're not trying to
Speaker 1: produce anything that I'm trying to do it anything more
Speaker 1: than to just be there for you. And so I
Speaker 1: think that's amazing. If you could have one date on
Speaker 1: your season, or one group date, what would it be?
Speaker 1: One group dates the one I've always keep trying to
Speaker 1: commence them of. I hope they do this so bad,
Speaker 1: but I want so. I do snnet and cold plunge.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've heard of Oh gosh, I've
Speaker 1: done it, Okay, So I do cold plunges every single day, um,
Speaker 1: and it is the thing that I just live for
Speaker 1: and I joke as my friend because he's always like
Speaker 1: the guy who I do it with, he's his studio.
Speaker 1: He's always like, guys get in here and just jump
Speaker 1: right out. And I the best thing I want from like,
Speaker 1: I want them to do this. I want to put
Speaker 1: him in speedos. I basically want to see because you know,
Speaker 1: you know, if you've done it before. Those ice bafts
Speaker 1: are not about the water being cold. It's about sitting
Speaker 1: in the uncomfortable and how you handle uncomfortableness. So I
Speaker 1: want to know what guys will sit in there and
Speaker 1: stay in the uncomfortable, or what guys will jump out.
Speaker 1: I want to see because I can stay in it
Speaker 1: and it's built me a minute. It's taken me a
Speaker 1: minute to build that up. But I want to see
Speaker 1: if they will or can't. That's so funny, that's good,
Speaker 1: step it up, that's good TV. Clear this is you
Speaker 1: got to add on an extra layer to that. So
Speaker 1: when they're in the cold water, in the uncomfortable, you
Speaker 1: have to have whoever stays in it, who chooses to
Speaker 1: make them share something uncomfortable with you. Oh I like that.
Speaker 1: Oh that's something deep down dirty love this. That's really
Speaker 1: good Okay, So I know this is our podcast and
Speaker 1: we usually do the questioning, but while we're here and
Speaker 1: we're just in this space of sharing advice and you know,
Speaker 1: like just lifting each other up, Claire, what advice do you?
Speaker 1: Not advice? But is there anything that you want to
Speaker 1: ask us, Like maybe that's been on your mind. I
Speaker 1: know we have a sisterhood and we have our own
Speaker 1: group chat with the bachelorettes, but maybe there's something that
Speaker 1: you know it's been on your mind that you want
Speaker 1: to take this chance to ask us. You guys have
Speaker 1: actually covered a lot of it. This is more than
Speaker 1: I've talked to any prayer bachelottes about kind of doing
Speaker 1: the season and being honest, and you guys have been
Speaker 1: given amazing advice. So for me, I'm more so actually
Speaker 1: just want to thank you guys for doing that and
Speaker 1: kind of being here for me because I think it's
Speaker 1: an important thing that, like you guys have said before,
Speaker 1: and we know that there's only fifteen women or sixteen
Speaker 1: now women that have done this. It's not of people.
Speaker 1: And I'm the one that share and the ones that
Speaker 1: reach out and say this helped me or this is
Speaker 1: a piece of advice I have appreciated that, and I
Speaker 1: appreciate it that more than anything in the entire world,
Speaker 1: because it's kind of a weird space where not a
Speaker 1: lot of people can understand it and relate to it.
Speaker 1: So thank you at least even reaching out and talking
Speaker 1: to me and messaging me. It's it's kind of lifted
Speaker 1: me up and made me feel encouraged. So oh so
Speaker 1: I just want to say thank you for this stuff.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure you'll be getting texted me and being like,
Speaker 1: what about this? What do I That's what we're here for.
Speaker 1: That's what this is about. When you were saying when
Speaker 1: you were when you were just talking, and thank you
Speaker 1: for saying that, Like it's our pleasure, Like this is
Speaker 1: what this is about. I feel bad for people listening
Speaker 1: because I'm like, we're just having our own love fest.
Speaker 1: Sorry you guys, but this is also just like I
Speaker 1: don't know for anybody who needs this type of encouragement,
Speaker 1: who needs to be lifted up. One thing I was
Speaker 1: thinking when you were just talking now is you won't
Speaker 1: because you won't get a chance to talk to us
Speaker 1: while you're in your season. It's it's a different world
Speaker 1: when it's just you as the lead, no family, no friends,
Speaker 1: no former bachelorrettes. It's just you and the producers and
Speaker 1: your gut, which is what you have to go by.
Speaker 1: You know, Becca and I are both with our first
Speaker 1: impression Rose guys. We trusted our gut. But when it
Speaker 1: got down to the final few, it's a really hard decision.
Speaker 1: And for various reasons. It's not even because you don't
Speaker 1: know what you're gonna do. It's just so hard. You've
Speaker 1: got you've grown close with these people at this point,
Speaker 1: You've shared things, you've exerted certain emotions with them, and
Speaker 1: so it's hard to cut it off, to let it go,
Speaker 1: to break someone's heart and send them home. And so
Speaker 1: when you get to those moments, I remember, like, I'm
Speaker 1: asking what did Jojo do? Because Jojo was before me?
Speaker 1: And I remember Becca being like, what did Rachel do?
Speaker 1: And I'm sure Hannah asked what a Becca do? And
Speaker 1: you'll ask the same thing. And so the best thing
Speaker 1: I can tell you is because you will be so
Speaker 1: alone and it is your decision, and you have to
Speaker 1: be comfortable with what you're doing, and you can get
Speaker 1: all all the advice in the world, but you have
Speaker 1: to know, you know what your what decision you're going
Speaker 1: to make and live with that. So trust your gut.
Speaker 1: Don't at the end of the day when it comes
Speaker 1: down to whatever, because it will come down to the
Speaker 1: one and you will have a ring on your finger
Speaker 1: and you will be engaged. Is that what it says,
Speaker 1: just follow your gut, Just follow your gut. Advice Peace
Speaker 1: number two is just follow your guts, and that is
Speaker 1: so true. It will not lead you astray. But you
Speaker 1: know what, rich I feel like, Claire, I'm not worried
Speaker 1: about you. I mean, you sure you're gonna go through
Speaker 1: the ups and the downs, and you're going to have
Speaker 1: really sad moments and days and your heart is going
Speaker 1: to feel like it's being torn out of your chest.
Speaker 1: But out of anyone who has probably been in this position,
Speaker 1: I am not worried about you. I think that you,
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, will whatever is meant
Speaker 1: to happen will happen for you. And you just seem
Speaker 1: to attract such You just have this positive energy and
Speaker 1: I feel like you'll attract that and at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, you, if I have faith in anyone,
Speaker 1: you will follow your gut. You will listen to your heart,
Speaker 1: and you will hopefully find the right man for you
Speaker 1: that I can promise I'll definitely follow my gut. Like
Speaker 1: we were talking out in the very beginning of this podcast, Rachel,
Speaker 1: you had said that everything happens for a reason, and
Speaker 1: one of the blessings I would say that I took
Speaker 1: from my season being on one Pablo season and from
Speaker 1: how I was treated was not discounting somebody for even
Speaker 1: just showing up and being there and letting them know
Speaker 1: the gratitude for them even doing that and being there.
Speaker 1: And I can only imagine for the people that make
Speaker 1: it to the end. I can't imagine how hard it's
Speaker 1: going to be, and it's gonna be crazy hard, right,
Speaker 1: But one thing that I really will and I try
Speaker 1: to practice every day in life as it is, but
Speaker 1: just to those men just knowing that they're there and
Speaker 1: they've put their life on hold, everything, their jobs on hold,
Speaker 1: their families on hold, they put everything on hold to
Speaker 1: be there for this, and to have a sense of
Speaker 1: gratitude to let them know even just how much I
Speaker 1: appreciate them doing this, I think goes a long way.
Speaker 1: Even if it's not the person for me or I'm
Speaker 1: not the person for them, knowing that I appreciate them
Speaker 1: even being there, because that was something that I wasn't
Speaker 1: told and didn't feel like that I had given up
Speaker 1: my whole life and my job. I had given up
Speaker 1: my job to be there, and I wasn't getting paid.
Speaker 1: I didn't get paid leave for being a hairstylist and
Speaker 1: going on the show. There's a choice I made, but
Speaker 1: it was also there wasn't even like a thank you
Speaker 1: or anything of like thank you for opening up your heart,
Speaker 1: thank you for being here, or just thank you for
Speaker 1: being open thing that I want to even just be
Speaker 1: if things don't work out with certain people, that that
Speaker 1: gratitude and let it. I hope they know, and I
Speaker 1: hope they feel from my heart as hard as it is,
Speaker 1: but also just my appreciation for appreciation for them even
Speaker 1: being there, and I hope that comes well. And that's
Speaker 1: the beauty of you now being the lead is you
Speaker 1: have that opportunity and you know, maybe leads have failed
Speaker 1: in the past, like he who must not be named
Speaker 1: who season you started on, but you have that ability
Speaker 1: and that power to show that graciousness and to show
Speaker 1: that thankfulness. You know, we're lucky because at the top
Speaker 1: of each cocktail party or at the top of each
Speaker 1: row ceremony, you can pick and choose how you want
Speaker 1: to address the men and how you want to start
Speaker 1: each night and each date. And that's something that for
Speaker 1: me personally, I was really kind of nervous about. I
Speaker 1: kept thinking about, like, what am I going to say?
Speaker 1: I'm I ever going to find the right words for
Speaker 1: these guys, and you just have to feel it out.
Speaker 1: But but I think that sentiment will go a long
Speaker 1: way to them. It just shows your heart and where
Speaker 1: it is. It's in the right place with these men,
Speaker 1: and I think that they'll appreciate it. I hope. So
Speaker 1: it's one of the perks I think of being older
Speaker 1: is that our life experiences and things we've been through,
Speaker 1: even though it might not be a good experience, have
Speaker 1: all taught us something. And this is one of those
Speaker 1: lessons for me, is that graduate and I hope it
Speaker 1: does convey properly to them that they see that I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for them even be in there. Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: want to ask. Obviously, especially in this day and age,
Speaker 1: life is so unpredictable. Obviously, we don't know who you're
Speaker 1: gonna meet, who's gonna step out of the limo. I mean,
Speaker 1: we know some of the guys, but we don't know
Speaker 1: who you'll end up with ultimately at the end. So
Speaker 1: in your perfect world, envisioning a couple months down the road,
Speaker 1: you're with the man of your dreams, what does that
Speaker 1: look like, and what's your hopeful happy ending here? A
Speaker 1: happy ending to me, obviously, would be staying true to myself.
Speaker 1: And I think that's key to say, because I think
Speaker 1: a lot of people have said in the past, like
Speaker 1: how many shows have you been on or how many
Speaker 1: times are you going to do this? And you, oh,
Speaker 1: this is You've already had four tries at this. And
Speaker 1: when I say being true to myself, that means loving
Speaker 1: myself for first. And if that means there's no man
Speaker 1: at the end for me, that means there's no man
Speaker 1: at the end for me. But if they're hopefully in
Speaker 1: my best ideal situation would be the man of my
Speaker 1: dreams is there, and we can walk away and not
Speaker 1: be We can honestly just go back into normal life.
Speaker 1: I've always said, and I told I told Mike Swie
Speaker 1: in them this in the very beginning. I'm not here
Speaker 1: to be famous as weird as this is because it
Speaker 1: is a TV show. I love my job and I
Speaker 1: love my life here and I wouldn't change it for
Speaker 1: the world. I want a man that I can bring
Speaker 1: back into that life, that will go on a Friday
Speaker 1: night to the nursing home with me to visit my mom,
Speaker 1: and that will be after dinner going on the walks
Speaker 1: with my dog and not care about anything other than
Speaker 1: finding that happiness like that I'm looking for. That's so
Speaker 1: important and it's so refreshing to hear. I mean, you
Speaker 1: never know how this is going to take, where this
Speaker 1: is going to take you, and who you're going to
Speaker 1: end up with, and where you may move or where
Speaker 1: you may stay, or how your career path may end.
Speaker 1: But it's so nice to hear you say. I just
Speaker 1: want a man who is going to fit into my life.
Speaker 1: And I'm not trying to do this for whatever now Claire.
Speaker 1: Should an opportunity present itself, take it, Daanan, But I'm
Speaker 1: not taking away from what you're saying. I totally know
Speaker 1: what you mean by that, and I love that you
Speaker 1: said that, and the people need to hear that, and
Speaker 1: that is why, like you guys, I don't I feel
Speaker 1: like people have such short term memory Claire, they were
Speaker 1: asking for you without even calling you by name, like
Speaker 1: Beca and I were doing podcasting in these other seasons before,
Speaker 1: and the audiences has been so frustrated with what we've
Speaker 1: seen and the type of lead that they have been requesting,
Speaker 1: all the things they say that they want you have.
Speaker 1: So I know we're excited to watch your season and
Speaker 1: they are too. I feel like, Okay, I feel like
Speaker 1: we just completed the first thirty minutes of your season,
Speaker 1: because you know how it's like the Bachelorette talk and
Speaker 1: it's giving advice. Like I feel like I should be
Speaker 1: like and that's a rap, no, But I do want
Speaker 1: to ask you because I feel like we, you know,
Speaker 1: we just had our moment. But I want to turn
Speaker 1: this back to the people who are also listening to
Speaker 1: us right now. And Claire, you're a role model, even
Speaker 1: though your season hasn't started. Just listening to the things
Speaker 1: that you're saying, the life that you live, the experiences
Speaker 1: that you've gone through, you have a lot to say.
Speaker 1: I mean, we've written chapters three, four, and five in
Speaker 1: this podcast of your story, but there will be a
Speaker 1: lot of women who come to you, and it's it's
Speaker 1: such a beautiful thing, Claire. They will come to you
Speaker 1: and they're probably already in your DMS asking you for
Speaker 1: advice about life and what is it like to be
Speaker 1: a single woman in their thirties who has their career,
Speaker 1: who maybe hasn't found the man of their life or
Speaker 1: the one for them. What advice do you have for
Speaker 1: those women? Because you are you are wearing so many
Speaker 1: hats as the lead. Yeah, I think for me, the
Speaker 1: best thing I could say for being somebody who is
Speaker 1: thirty nine the piece of advice that I would give
Speaker 1: that I kind of laugh people when they're like, I
Speaker 1: can't belave it thirty nine and single, you're desperate, or
Speaker 1: this or that. My best best piece of advice I
Speaker 1: could say is, I personally would rather be spending twenty
Speaker 1: years with the man of my dreams being wholly loved
Speaker 1: for who I am, rather than fifty sixty years with
Speaker 1: the wrong man and takes that much extra time, or
Speaker 1: if it takes an extra month or an extra year,
Speaker 1: no matter what age, let yourself be loved by the
Speaker 1: right person and find that right person for you and
Speaker 1: don't settle a lot of people have said that you're
Speaker 1: so picky or just you need to learn. I've been
Speaker 1: told so many times to settle. I can't, even by
Speaker 1: my friends and by other people too. It's and it's
Speaker 1: I would rather love myself enough by myself than to
Speaker 1: be with the wrong person, because trust me, I have
Speaker 1: been with the wrong person. I have been in those
Speaker 1: relationships and they are exhausting, and they are draining, and
Speaker 1: they deplete and kind of take away from who you are.
Speaker 1: And I would rather spend a shorter amount of time
Speaker 1: with the right man who lifts me up and matches
Speaker 1: me in my energy, rather than a longer time the
Speaker 1: wrong person. Well said. And this, ladies and gentlemen, is
Speaker 1: why Claire deserves to be our next patchirette. I know,
Speaker 1: I feel like we should we snap him right now.
Speaker 1: So good. I always question. I questioned the people who
Speaker 1: are like, I can't believe you're thirty nine in single,
Speaker 1: And it's like, do you understand the perks that come
Speaker 1: with being thirty nine in single? Like I can sleep
Speaker 1: as late as I bob, no kids bothering me, I
Speaker 1: can travel wherever I want to go. I mean, there
Speaker 1: are perks to all different situations. But yeah, it's not
Speaker 1: just I'm not sitting here on a Friday night going
Speaker 1: what can I do with myself? And I'm not having
Speaker 1: pity parties by any Yeah. Yeah, you're living your best
Speaker 1: life and you will do that with or without a man.
Speaker 1: And that's the advice that you're given to these ladies. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: Man does not define you all right. So looking back,
Speaker 1: if you could sit with twenty year old Claire face
Speaker 1: to face, what advice would you give to her? This
Speaker 1: is the question that makes me cry every time. How
Speaker 1: don't I get so emotional about it? But I don't
Speaker 1: even know where I would start with that. But if
Speaker 1: I could speak to twenty year old Claire, I would say,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be okay. And all the hard work that
Speaker 1: you're gonna put in and that you're going to be
Speaker 1: going through it's goodna sep. And it's gonna challenge you
Speaker 1: to your clore, but it's all for the greater good
Speaker 1: for yourself and for your life, and you you're worth it.
Speaker 1: You're worth fighting for it, and you're worth fighting for yourself,
Speaker 1: you know, fighting for your own happiness. It is worth it,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna suck and it's gonna be hard, but
Speaker 1: fight for yourself because at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: There are going to be times when you feel like
Speaker 1: you're the only one fighting for yourself and nobody fights
Speaker 1: for you, and you're all alone. But as long as
Speaker 1: you don't give up on yourself, it's worth it. It's
Speaker 1: so worth it. And I mean I say that and
Speaker 1: it gets me emotional because I've had so many moments
Speaker 1: of feeling so alone I just want to give up.
Speaker 1: But seeing where I'm at now in life and seeing
Speaker 1: how I feel about everything in life now, it is
Speaker 1: so incredibly worth it to just when nobody else is
Speaker 1: there for you, be there for yourself. Claire. I don't
Speaker 1: have anything else to say. I mean, it's that the
Speaker 1: okay I can't speak, that's like, clearly do you have
Speaker 1: you have rendered racial speechless and not to cry. I
Speaker 1: don't know how often that happens. True, It's true. I
Speaker 1: literally I was sitting here a couple like last month,
Speaker 1: reflecting on it, and I was just sitting there, going, God,
Speaker 1: if I could even just tell younger Claire, it's gonna
Speaker 1: be okay, It's gonna be okay. Be yourself, be authentic.
Speaker 1: There will be somebody out there that will love you
Speaker 1: for every piece of your being, regardless of how dirty
Speaker 1: or ugly or bad or hard it's been. There is
Speaker 1: somebody out there along with yourself that would love you
Speaker 1: for that. I think it's so somebody needed. Apparently I
Speaker 1: needed to hear that because I'm over here getting emotional.
Speaker 1: I think that is the perfect way to end this
Speaker 1: podcast because what you said was so passionate, it was
Speaker 1: so hard felt, it was so rich, and I felt it.
Speaker 1: I felt like I needed to hear that at twenty.
Speaker 1: I needed to hear that at thirty. But I'm saying,
Speaker 1: you know, and I just I it was. It was beautiful,
Speaker 1: It was so well put. I becca place because well,
Speaker 1: I don't even want to top that. I mean, you like,
Speaker 1: out of any season that we've known who the lead's
Speaker 1: going to be, I think this is the one that
Speaker 1: I am most looking forward to. It's so deserving to
Speaker 1: go to you. And I'm glad that we had you
Speaker 1: on before you left from filming. I think when we
Speaker 1: had Peter on, he had just rapped filming, so he
Speaker 1: was in a different mindset. But to be able to
Speaker 1: have you on and give our audience a chance to
Speaker 1: get to know you a little bit more and to
Speaker 1: get to know your background and your story and where
Speaker 1: your heart is and what you're hopefully wanting to get
Speaker 1: from this journey. I think it's just going to make
Speaker 1: our listeners fall in love with you a little bit more.
Speaker 1: And I just feel really grateful and Rachel, I hope
Speaker 1: I can speak for both of us, but I just
Speaker 1: feel grateful that we've had this opportunity to talk with you.
Speaker 1: And I truly cannot wait to see where this goes
Speaker 1: for you, because I really think it's going to be
Speaker 1: the best, the best experience of your entire life, and
Speaker 1: good things are going to come, and I cannot wait
Speaker 1: for you. Thank you so much. I literally can't wait.
Speaker 1: It's been a long time coming for me and I'm ready.
Speaker 1: I'm ready to show the hard parts and the ugly parts,
Speaker 1: and I don't I guess in the past, I haven't
Speaker 1: shared with it because, like I said, I looked at
Speaker 1: it as a weakness or I don't want to people.
Speaker 1: I still don't want people to feel sorry for me
Speaker 1: or to go like she's playing the victim here, because
Speaker 1: it's not that I want other people to see that.
Speaker 1: Like I'm proud of how far I've come from what
Speaker 1: I've gone through, and I'm a survivor instead of a victim.
Speaker 1: And I want people to see and to feel that
Speaker 1: into gaining that mentality for themselves too, that you can
Speaker 1: overcome stuff and it's so no matter how long it takes,
Speaker 1: it's so worth it. So I feel like this is
Speaker 1: all that that goal for me that I've been working
Speaker 1: so hard and I'm still working at that I can
Speaker 1: finally be ready for this. I think it's your time, Claire,
Speaker 1: and we are so excited for you, happy to sit
Speaker 1: back and watch it all unfold. Yes, me too, me too.
Speaker 1: We say that now, but we shall see. Yeah, I mean, Clai,
Speaker 1: we gotta talk about you on the podcast. But it's
Speaker 1: all up. It's all up, no well, and regardless if
Speaker 1: you come back with a big old rock on your
Speaker 1: hand or not, you have fifteen other women who have
Speaker 1: been where you have been, who are here to support
Speaker 1: you no matter what happens throughout the entire season. You know,
Speaker 1: you can always call on us once once you get
Speaker 1: your phone back, but um, this is your time, so
Speaker 1: soak it and live it up, balls to the walls.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't even know what other inspirational things
Speaker 1: to say, but it's right, that's right. Somebody said, um,
Speaker 1: why don't are you? Were you for a dancer? I
Speaker 1: was never a dancer. I've tried okay times, but I'm
Speaker 1: not a dancer. Hey, producers, listen to this dancing date.
Speaker 1: That's Claire. It's already, it's already happened to Claire. You
Speaker 1: know what's gonna happen, say your weakness is to the producers, Claire,
Speaker 1: we love you. We're so happy we had you on today.
Speaker 1: Thank you for talking with us, to just opening up
Speaker 1: a little bit more and to sharing your beautiful soul.
Speaker 1: And I cannot wait to see where this I hate
Speaker 1: seeing journey, but where this journey is gonna take you?
Speaker 1: Nothing but love for you, guys and Becca, we need
Speaker 1: to talk about Dexter. I'm gonna message you right after this.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna see if we can get a Dexter date
Speaker 1: on the line. Oh shoot, my god, trying to wrap
Speaker 1: people up in plastic I can't. I can't. I think
Speaker 1: we gotta fine tune it a little bit. But um,
Speaker 1: it's that's a that's a coronavirus appropriate date though not
Speaker 1: what I mean. Just see how bad you can scare
Speaker 1: the men like thinking that their lives are on the line. Here, Oh,
Speaker 1: just nothing. When it comes down to the line, fight
Speaker 1: or flight, Let's see what you got. Let's see fight
Speaker 1: or Flight chapter six? All right, because been so much fun, Claire.
Speaker 1: We love you. We will let you get back to it,
Speaker 1: and we can't wait to watch you do it all.
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for everything, and opefully love this so much,
Speaker 1: so thank you so much, Thank you, bye girl. Becca.
Speaker 1: There aren't many times where I can't speak. She rendered
Speaker 1: you speechless. I got it on one hand. I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean it was a deep question, but I didn't
Speaker 1: know that. That's I mean, you can tell somebody who's
Speaker 1: really been through some things and then taken the time
Speaker 1: to reflect on where they are now. When they give
Speaker 1: that kind of answer, they've definitely done the work. Like
Speaker 1: she's not just saying I've done the work. No, no, no no, no.
Speaker 1: Her last answer means she's done the work. And if
Speaker 1: you are out there listening and you're one of these
Speaker 1: men on her season, you're welcome because we just gave
Speaker 1: you a whole guy to understand Claire and the gift
Speaker 1: that she is. Yes, well, and so one thing, And
Speaker 1: I know I lost my train of thought earlier when
Speaker 1: we were talking to her at the beginning. But you know,
Speaker 1: we're in this day and age where we keep pushing
Speaker 1: for change. You know, we've talked about it a lot
Speaker 1: in diversity on the franchise. But one thing, and which
Speaker 1: is why I'm so happy that we're changing it up
Speaker 1: a little bit and bringing on Claire, is because she's
Speaker 1: done this before. She's been on a few seasons. She
Speaker 1: is a little bit older, She's dated all types of men,
Speaker 1: has been in all sorts of relationships, and I'm glad
Speaker 1: that we're steering away from just like the young you know,
Speaker 1: super like just hopeful. Oh yeah, I'm here to find
Speaker 1: love like. She is the real deal. As you said,
Speaker 1: She's put in the work, she has really grown in
Speaker 1: herself and she owns it and so I cannot wait
Speaker 1: for her season. She was one when before she was
Speaker 1: even announced, when they were throwing out different bachelorettes out there,
Speaker 1: at first, she didn't even cross my mind, you know,
Speaker 1: I assumed it would maybe be Tia, somebody from Peter's season.
Speaker 1: But she, I think is well and beyond just like
Speaker 1: the best choice at this time to really bring us
Speaker 1: back to the roots of what the show is, and
Speaker 1: that is to find a solid partnership and I cannot wait.
Speaker 1: I told her this too. I'm like, I feel like
Speaker 1: you're really like okay with putting the guys through the
Speaker 1: ringer for your heart. And it's gonna be such a
Speaker 1: balanced season, full of drama, full of fun, full of love,
Speaker 1: full of heartfelt conversations, full of depth, and she's going
Speaker 1: to deliver all of that and more. I have no doubt. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: And I was thinking the whole time we were doing
Speaker 1: the interview with her, what would be her tagline? That's
Speaker 1: what I kept thinking. I thought, what is it going
Speaker 1: to be? And I feel like it has to after
Speaker 1: this whole time we've been talking to her, I'm like,
Speaker 1: it has to be something with clarity, right because that's
Speaker 1: where she is right now. And if y'all take it,
Speaker 1: I'm suing and withis. I love that? Yeah, I love
Speaker 1: And this is one podcast that I think multiple times
Speaker 1: listening to her speak, I have gotten full body chills
Speaker 1: with things that she has said. You know, as women,
Speaker 1: we have all been through tough breakups, we have all
Speaker 1: been through hard times, like we can all relate in
Speaker 1: that way. We're all human, and she does a great
Speaker 1: job of putting that into words where we can all understand.
Speaker 1: And I hope that viewers can watch her and listen
Speaker 1: to her and not just look at her as the Bachelorette,
Speaker 1: but like as just Claire, this amazing human being who
Speaker 1: has grown so much since we've seen her six years ago. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm excited, you're excited. I just with Claire. What you
Speaker 1: see is what you get, and I can't wait for
Speaker 1: it to all unfold. You guys, if you did know
Speaker 1: about Claire before, now you know. And we thank you
Speaker 1: so much for hanging out with us because we're so
Speaker 1: excited for Claire's season and we hope that you guys
Speaker 1: are too. Can't wait for it to air. But in
Speaker 1: the meantime, if you need your Bachelor fixed, keep tuning
Speaker 1: in to Bachelor Greatest Seasons Ever every Monday night, eight
Speaker 1: seven pm Central on ABC. But please, I know that
Speaker 1: there's a lot going on in the world. I know
Speaker 1: there's a lot happening, but sometimes you just need a
Speaker 1: good release, and we hope that that's what we can
Speaker 1: provide you. You know, when things are going on in
Speaker 1: the world, we do want to cover them. We want
Speaker 1: to talk about things and how they are affecting our
Speaker 1: lives and we hope that you've appreciated that and you've
Speaker 1: gotten a lot from that when we've presented that on
Speaker 1: the podcast. But we also want to give you a
Speaker 1: good release, and so we hope that you're getting that too.
Speaker 1: And I'm after this episode. My god, you got a
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