WEBVTT - Bachelorette Clare Crawley: Part 2 0:00:01.720 --> 0:00:04.440 Welcome back. That's our happy our listeners. If you tuned 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:08.320 in last week, you now know we had our next Bachelorette, 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:11.760 Claire Crowley on the podcast, and she spoke so much 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:14.760 truth you guys. We obviously had so much to talk 0:00:14.800 --> 0:00:17.480 to her about. So here is part two of that conversation. 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:21.439 Right now, I feel like, Becca, this is the perfect 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:25.120 time for us to give you advice Claire, because I 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:27.520 don't know. I know that now you know some more 0:00:27.560 --> 0:00:30.760 details about your season, but I don't know if we're 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:34.280 usually bachelorettes come on the season you know and give advice. 0:00:34.320 --> 0:00:36.200 I don't know if that's going to be able to happen. 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:38.839 So I think now is a good time where we 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:41.640 give you some advice. I would love you kidding me. 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:45.160 I've been waiting for this moment. I would love it. Well, Claire, 0:00:45.760 --> 0:00:48.680 this wasn't planned in the podcast, but right before you 0:00:48.720 --> 0:00:51.720 hopped on, I did a little digging in a bunch 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:54.480 of boxes in my apartment and I found the Bachelor 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:59.200 Bible that Rachel, Caitlin and Joejoe made for me. I 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:01.560 met them one before I met my guys, and they 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:03.960 gave me the Batchelor, a bible they have some great 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:06.480 things written in here, so we'll go through them. But 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:08.720 I also I think we need to add our own 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:10.400 and like write some more stuff and then I'll send 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.200 it to you. But this was so good to carry 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:15.800 on and pass down. Yeah, I don't know why we 0:01:15.800 --> 0:01:20.200 didn't give it to Hannah. I blame you because you 0:01:20.319 --> 0:01:24.280 had it and you didn't give it to Hannah. Hey, okay, 0:01:24.280 --> 0:01:26.200 I'm gonna blame it on my mom then, because it 0:01:26.240 --> 0:01:28.160 was in her basement for the past two years and 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:31.520 she just send this to me. Claire's like, I'll take it. 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:33.720 That's fine. I could just through Like it's fine. No, 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:36.400 I mean, truth be told, it was an idea that 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:39.240 started with your season. Becca. We didn't have it before, 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:42.680 so it was an idea with you. We can make 0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:44.720 Hannah one so she has one too, and so she 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:46.880 feels included. But we should get it, you know, pass 0:01:46.920 --> 0:01:49.560 it on down to Claire. If I don't remember what 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:51.960 I wrote, and I hope it's not the same information 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:53.800 that the advice that I'm about to give you off 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:56.200 the top of my head now, Claire. But the thing, 0:01:57.080 --> 0:01:59.480 the thing that stands out to me the most is 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:04.800 I thought, obviously never been the beast wrap. But I 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:06.720 just thought I had this down, Like I was like, 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:09.360 I know who I am. I got this, you know, 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:10.720 I know what I want. I know the type of 0:02:10.720 --> 0:02:12.960 man I want. I know what I'm looking for. You know, 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:16.880 I'll meet these guys, but whatever. And I remember the 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:20.600 first night, which is Claire I was. I said the 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.000 same thing to you, Becca. I was like, this night 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:28.040 is so, it's so exciting, Claire, you have no I 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:31.000 could cry talking about the first night because I know 0:02:31.120 --> 0:02:35.480 that joy, the joy you're gonna feel getting ready and 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:39.120 knowing that however many men come, there are there for you, 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:43.160 right reasons, wrong reasons, forget it. It's your season, you're 0:02:43.200 --> 0:02:46.520 in charge. They came to be a part of your journey. 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:53.080 It is powerful, every emotions, it's all of it. But 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:56.960 that first night I remember and they come up in 0:02:56.960 --> 0:03:00.320 the limo. You're standing there, Chris like leaves you and 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:04.280 it's just you. And I remember meeting the guys and 0:03:04.320 --> 0:03:06.200 I had gone through all of the women, and I 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:10.880 was like, this is it worth the rest? I was 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:14.519 so it was, And honestly because not because they were 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:16.919 bad guys, because I overall loved the group of men 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:19.520 that I had it was just it happened so fast, 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:22.200 and people are doing silly things when they come out 0:03:22.200 --> 0:03:25.440 of the limo that I wasn't overall impressed. And I 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:27.920 remember a producer pulling me to the side. They were like, 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:30.760 you know, you do you have some favorites. I couldn't 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.840 name favorites. I wasn't. I just it just didn't hit 0:03:33.840 --> 0:03:35.680 me the way that I thought all that emotion I 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:38.400 had coming in. So I remember a producer said to me, 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:42.720 give it time and be open because there really are 0:03:42.800 --> 0:03:46.000 some great men. And that was the best advice I 0:03:46.000 --> 0:03:49.360 could get because after the limo interests and then I 0:03:49.400 --> 0:03:53.640 was talking to the men. It was amazing. After that, 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:55.640 I was like, I like this one, this one, this one, 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:57.560 this one and this one, and so if I could 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:00.040 give you advices, it's like you think you know that 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:04.280 you have no idea, So truly be open to everybody 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:08.800 that comes through, because you will be beautifully surprised at 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:11.400 the men that you meet on your season. M oh b, 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.640 I am. I feel like that's amazing advice. Thank you, 0:04:14.080 --> 0:04:16.120 Thank you so much for saying that, because it is 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:20.960 scary going what if my guy's not there? You know, like, 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:24.000 what if there's so many things that go through your mind, 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:26.080 you know, if like m damn, or what if I 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:29.480 don't feel it right away or so I appreciate that. Oh, 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:32.440 but the joy of the first night, I just can't 0:04:32.480 --> 0:04:35.839 put it into words for you, Claire. It's so much fun. 0:04:36.279 --> 0:04:39.080 It's so great it is, and as Rachel said, it 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:44.560 goes by so incredibly fast, Like I like, because I 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:47.880 think I had twenty eight guys maybe, And as Rachel said, 0:04:47.920 --> 0:04:51.320 you're like, that's it, like the arrivals are already done, 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:53.240 and then you go into something else and you're being 0:04:53.240 --> 0:04:56.640 like pulled every which way. But it's that anticipation that 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:59.440 like you have so much to look forward to. I 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:01.560 think play on top of what Rachel said, too, is 0:05:01.600 --> 0:05:04.640 like there's no other time in your life where you 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:07.679 will meet this many guys at once, like all vying 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:12.800 for you and your attention. And I look at first 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:15.560 felt awkward. I was like I don't deserve this, like 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:18.960 I'm not worthy. Like it was very weird because it's 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:21.400 like you want to be humble, you want to stay grounded. 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:24.400 But then also too, it's like, damn, like these twenty 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:27.640 eight men are here for me, so let me just say, 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:32.200 especially night one. Don't like soak that in revel in 0:05:32.279 --> 0:05:34.600 that like appreciate the fact that, as Rachel said, all 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:37.159 of these men, well, hopefully they've done their homework. If 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:39.880 they haven't, I mean, by but all of these men 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:42.680 should hopefully know by now who Claire Crawley is. They 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:46.279 should want to have the opportunity and the privilege to 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:49.039 have your time and your conversations and get to know you. 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.880 And vice verst to two. As like, I'm playing off 0:05:51.880 --> 0:05:54.320 of everything that Rachel said, but I mean, for me, 0:05:54.480 --> 0:05:57.520 I'm like, pretty like I feel it. If I like you, 0:05:57.560 --> 0:05:59.200 I like you. If I don't, I don't. And so 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:01.240 I for me, really had to take a step back 0:06:01.279 --> 0:06:03.480 and be like, maybe talk to these guys a little 0:06:03.480 --> 0:06:06.000 bit more. Maybe talk to somebody who you kind of 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:08.120 just wrote off because you thought he was like the goofy, 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:11.159 funny one. Because you will always be surprised. There's going 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:13.000 to be one moment in time where your brain's going 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:14.880 to click to somebody else and you're gonna be like, 0:06:15.480 --> 0:06:18.799 I didn't see that in this man in the beginning, 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:22.000 and I'm really pleasantly surprised, and it's you know, and 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:24.480 not to say he might not be the one, but 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:28.440 there's something so powerful and special about exhausting each and 0:06:28.440 --> 0:06:32.680 every relationship to the very end. I mean, and you're 0:06:32.960 --> 0:06:34.919 you're going to exhaust a lot of them in a 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:39.279 very short amount of time. One other thing too, that 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:42.919 I I've heard this from a lot of the past, 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:46.680 leads to is make time for yourself. You're going to 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:49.200 be going like crazy. You are going to be constantly 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:52.239 having conversations, You're gonna be constantly in interviews. You're gonna 0:06:52.279 --> 0:06:56.560 be bust from place to place and between men to 0:06:56.600 --> 0:06:58.640 men and in fittings and all of this. There's so 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:01.719 much craziness in chaos that you really don't have a 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:04.040 lot of time for yourself, especially in the beginning weeks. 0:07:04.360 --> 0:07:07.599 So even if it's fifteen minutes, like pretend you have 0:07:07.680 --> 0:07:09.600 to go to the bathroom you don't feel good, Take 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:12.720 fifteen minutes, just hide away, keep a journal if you can. 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:14.960 But you need that alone time to really sift and 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:18.360 think on your own and so utilize that whenever you can. 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:21.720 It's gonna be very important for your sammy be you know. 0:07:22.360 --> 0:07:25.040 You know what's funny is I'm very much. I always 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:28.520 tell people I'm kind if I like, I'm an introvert 0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:30.920 in the way where I need my own time to recharge. 0:07:31.200 --> 0:07:33.320 So I think that is going to be key. And 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:36.360 that's excellent advice because I already need that in life 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:39.200 as it is right now, and I like my alone 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:42.640 time and I appreciate that's where I recharge. So I 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:44.640 definitely will be trying to fit in as much as 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:48.080 I can of that. Yeah, now you have to like 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.160 plane flights, car rides. I mean I pretended to, like 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:54.080 I had to go poop like every hour just because 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:56.440 I needed alone time. Okay, that might be t and 0:07:56.520 --> 0:08:00.400 I but I needed to just like sit, whatever it takes, whatever, 0:08:00.520 --> 0:08:04.720 saying her makeup like whenever you're doing that too. To 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:07.040 add on to that, this is something Ali told me 0:08:07.120 --> 0:08:12.440 which I loved, was she said that she regretted not 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:16.200 enjoying her season, not taking the time to its one thing, 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:18.160 to take time for yourself and you need that, like 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.000 Becca was saying, everything she said is true, but also 0:08:21.160 --> 0:08:24.520 taking the time to appreciate the moment of things, because 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:27.760 like Becca said, you'll be pulled in so many different ways, 0:08:28.440 --> 0:08:30.840 and you go to bed late and you get up early, 0:08:31.200 --> 0:08:33.400 and you have to do all these itms, and then 0:08:33.400 --> 0:08:37.000 you're trying to remember names and stories and backgrounds, and 0:08:37.040 --> 0:08:39.319 then there's some guys you're just not interested in that. 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:41.679 You get caught up in the present and then you 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:46.600 don't appreciate what's actually happening. Like you're the bachelorette and 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:49.520 it's a beautiful experience and you're having this chance to 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:55.240 write your love story and remember that, remember those moments 0:08:55.240 --> 0:08:57.640 like when you're taking that time to reflect, remember that 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:01.840 time to be grateful and to appreciate the present because 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:06.120 it goes so fast. It's in the blink of an eye. 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.160 It's so fast. You another one so excited for it. 0:09:09.160 --> 0:09:11.679 It literally hasn't, like I said, it hasn't felt real 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:15.040 up until these last couple of days where I'm like, Okay, 0:09:15.040 --> 0:09:18.360 it's really happening, and it's happening soon. So I already 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:20.280 was in the moment of like go go, go, go 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:25.400 go before the quarantine happened. So you're right, You're absolutely right. 0:09:25.440 --> 0:09:27.840 I need to slow down and live in the moment, 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:29.760 because when else do we get to experience this and 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:33.920 live it. You know, you are one of now, well 0:09:34.040 --> 0:09:36.800 one of fifteen other women who get to be in 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:40.680 this position, like that's such a small feel few. I 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:43.280 cannot talk right now. That's such a small few. And 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:46.920 just as we're just said, live in it, soak it in, 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:50.760 appreciate it because it's gonna go by fast. Like I'm 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.640 two years removed now, and I still like, look back. 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.480 I kept a journal and I reread little moments for 0:09:56.559 --> 0:10:00.640 little details. It's just a word that I I kept 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:02.320 in my journal, and I'm like, oh my gosh, it 0:10:02.360 --> 0:10:04.400 takes me back to that moment to kind of be 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:07.040 there and remember it and embrace it and love it 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:10.360 because you're in for a journey, Claire. One other thing 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:12.640 that I think we have to say, which the producers 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:16.320 are awesome at, always keeping on hand breath mints are key. 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:20.720 Listening strips will be your best friend. You never know 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:23.560 when someone's going to show up to your hotel room 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:25.640 at like two in the morning to have a conversation. 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:27.480 You never know when some guy's going to steal you 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:30.320 away to kiss you behind the fireplace. I mean, you've 0:10:30.320 --> 0:10:32.320 been on the show, You've done a few seasons, so 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:35.320 you know. I think I kept like listening and my 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:37.120 brow at one point just to be like I have 0:10:37.240 --> 0:10:39.760 it on hand. Oh I swear to God. If a 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:41.160 guy shows up that my place to two in the 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.000 morning and I've only get four hours to sleep, you 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:46.520 better turn around and go home because late I need 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:50.480 my sleep. Yeah. Well, yeah, you're not going to get 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:53.560 much of it, especially those first three weeks. Yeah. Function, 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:58.400 How do you function through it? I'm coffee, coffee. I 0:10:58.400 --> 0:11:04.640 don't drink alcohol. I need will Claire, not even alcohol. Well, 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:06.400 they don't really let you drink a lot of alcohol 0:11:06.440 --> 0:11:09.120 as a lead, but no coffee. Will you do a 0:11:09.160 --> 0:11:12.560 Red Bull? Nothing? No, I don't know. You know what 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:15.079 I do get is green tea from Starbucks, or I 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:19.079 get red Coca Classic Coca Cola. That'll hop me up. 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:22.840 That's perfect. They'll keep you stocked up with Coca Cola 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:24.920 on your off days to try to get an ivy 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:28.160 with just extra vitamins that will hopefully help nice. Okay, 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:31.120 good call CoA call. But but honestly too, I don't 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:34.320 even remember drinking a lot of coffee. The adrenaline, the 0:11:34.559 --> 0:11:37.480 excitement of especially when you're going to see that one 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:41.280 guy you're really interested in, or a few whatever. Um, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.160 that's gonna keep you going to like you're excited. Oh 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:46.640 I'm putting on this outfit. This is super cute. Oh 0:11:46.679 --> 0:11:48.679 I love my makeup in my hair today. Oh I'm 0:11:48.720 --> 0:11:51.360 in this place. This date's gonna be really exciting. It'll 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:54.760 be little things like that that'll get you going, that 0:11:54.840 --> 0:11:58.760 will make you excited. Yeah yeah, and oh my god, 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:02.360 I'm gonna stop with the advice, but another thing that 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:06.120 would help me with as far as energy, and you'll 0:12:06.160 --> 0:12:09.880 get this right. I remember what it was like, and 0:12:09.920 --> 0:12:12.480 I know you guys too, did too, when we were 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:16.080 on the Bachelor and you're waiting for those ten minutes 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:18.560 at a cocktail party you could spend with the lead, 0:12:18.800 --> 0:12:20.440 or you're on a group date and you just want 0:12:20.480 --> 0:12:23.120 that alone time for ten to fifteen minutes, and you 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:26.480 remember that feeling. I remember thinking when I was the lead, 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:29.360 whenever I'm with somebody, I have to be present and 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:32.360 give them my full attention because I remember what it 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:34.240 was like to be waiting all day just to get 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:38.400 ten minutes with Nick in my case, So that also 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:42.080 kept me going because I want I never wanted to forget. 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.319 I never wanted to feel like I was too big. 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:46.920 Oh I'm the lead now, No, I was just like you, 0:12:47.080 --> 0:12:49.040 and I want to honor that you're here for me 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:53.760 for whatever reason. Staying present. That's so key, that's so key. 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:57.160 I hear you on that. I'm definitely gonna work on 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:00.320 that because it can't be overwhelming, right like you and 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:05.560 it will for directions, will so be overwhelming. It will be, yeah, 0:13:05.640 --> 0:13:08.800 so overwhelming. But you have a great team that will 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:11.680 be on your side too, who's always there to kind 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:14.480 of especially when at first, like I'm terrible with names 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:17.199 to begin with, and we all saw I forgot Jason 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:19.440 same at one point. But the team really is there 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:22.240 to help you. Then another thing that really helps is 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:24.600 of course Chris Harrison. Lean on him when you can. 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:27.839 I mean, he has seen it all. He has had 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:31.040 every type of conversation in the book. So lean on 0:13:31.120 --> 0:13:34.760 him when you can. And also like the dream Team, 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:37.119 I mean we talked to Carrie and Gina on the podcast. 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:39.400 For those of you who didn't tune in, we had 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:42.160 the stylists and the makeup artist from the show who 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:46.840 really are there to just like they became such friends, 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:51.120 such confidence. They're there there to like make you look 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:55.319 gorgeous and flawless, but there's so much more than that. 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:59.800 So lean on them too, because they kept me. Saying 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:03.880 kept me grounded, especially in the moments when I needed it, 0:14:03.920 --> 0:14:05.960 when I felt like I didn't want to talk about 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:08.199 anything in an interview or in front of the guys. 0:14:08.640 --> 0:14:10.559 So they're going to be good to help you too. 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:14.560 I already love them so incredibly much. Yeah, I've known 0:14:14.640 --> 0:14:16.360 them the whole time, but just now in this space 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:18.880 even doing like the fittings and the makeup for all 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.640 the shoots and stuff. Already, like, I've just adore them, 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:24.480 and they you can tell, like you said, they're such 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:27.320 an a friend role and that dream team of like 0:14:27.600 --> 0:14:29.800 we got you. You know that they're not trying to 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:31.840 produce anything that I'm trying to do it anything more 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:34.520 than to just be there for you. And so I 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:38.280 think that's amazing. If you could have one date on 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:41.560 your season, or one group date, what would it be? 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:46.760 One group dates the one I've always keep trying to 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:49.040 commence them of. I hope they do this so bad, 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:52.920 but I want so. I do snnet and cold plunge. 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:55.600 I don't know if you've heard of Oh gosh, I've 0:14:55.680 --> 0:15:00.400 done it, Okay, So I do cold plunges every single day, um, 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:02.280 and it is the thing that I just live for 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.840 and I joke as my friend because he's always like 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:07.560 the guy who I do it with, he's his studio. 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:10.640 He's always like, guys get in here and just jump 0:15:10.720 --> 0:15:13.840 right out. And I the best thing I want from like, 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:15.240 I want them to do this. I want to put 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:19.400 him in speedos. I basically want to see because you know, 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:22.000 you know, if you've done it before. Those ice bafts 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.680 are not about the water being cold. It's about sitting 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:29.520 in the uncomfortable and how you handle uncomfortableness. So I 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:31.040 want to know what guys will sit in there and 0:15:31.080 --> 0:15:33.160 stay in the uncomfortable, or what guys will jump out. 0:15:33.400 --> 0:15:35.640 I want to see because I can stay in it 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.400 and it's built me a minute. It's taken me a 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:39.800 minute to build that up. But I want to see 0:15:39.800 --> 0:15:42.040 if they will or can't. That's so funny, that's good, 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:46.040 step it up, that's good TV. Clear this is you 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:48.240 got to add on an extra layer to that. So 0:15:48.320 --> 0:15:51.800 when they're in the cold water, in the uncomfortable, you 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:54.320 have to have whoever stays in it, who chooses to 0:15:54.560 --> 0:15:59.240 make them share something uncomfortable with you. Oh I like that. 0:15:59.280 --> 0:16:04.680 Oh that's something deep down dirty love this. That's really 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:07.400 good Okay, So I know this is our podcast and 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:10.320 we usually do the questioning, but while we're here and 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:13.040 we're just in this space of sharing advice and you know, 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:17.040 like just lifting each other up, Claire, what advice do you? 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:19.600 Not advice? But is there anything that you want to 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:22.800 ask us, Like maybe that's been on your mind. I 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.440 know we have a sisterhood and we have our own 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:27.960 group chat with the bachelorettes, but maybe there's something that 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:30.320 you know it's been on your mind that you want 0:16:30.320 --> 0:16:32.280 to take this chance to ask us. You guys have 0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:34.360 actually covered a lot of it. This is more than 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:38.640 I've talked to any prayer bachelottes about kind of doing 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:40.320 the season and being honest, and you guys have been 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:44.000 given amazing advice. So for me, I'm more so actually 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:45.800 just want to thank you guys for doing that and 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:48.720 kind of being here for me because I think it's 0:16:48.760 --> 0:16:51.240 an important thing that, like you guys have said before, 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:54.760 and we know that there's only fifteen women or sixteen 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:59.160 now women that have done this. It's not of people. 0:16:59.360 --> 0:17:01.440 And I'm the one that share and the ones that 0:17:01.480 --> 0:17:03.640 reach out and say this helped me or this is 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:06.639 a piece of advice I have appreciated that, and I 0:17:06.640 --> 0:17:09.120 appreciate it that more than anything in the entire world, 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:13.159 because it's kind of a weird space where not a 0:17:13.200 --> 0:17:15.080 lot of people can understand it and relate to it. 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:18.640 So thank you at least even reaching out and talking 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:21.520 to me and messaging me. It's it's kind of lifted 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:24.159 me up and made me feel encouraged. So oh so 0:17:24.240 --> 0:17:25.800 I just want to say thank you for this stuff. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:27.719 And I'm sure you'll be getting texted me and being like, 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:31.720 what about this? What do I That's what we're here for. 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:34.399 That's what this is about. When you were saying when 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:36.639 you were when you were just talking, and thank you 0:17:36.640 --> 0:17:38.679 for saying that, Like it's our pleasure, Like this is 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:41.040 what this is about. I feel bad for people listening 0:17:41.040 --> 0:17:42.880 because I'm like, we're just having our own love fest. 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:45.439 Sorry you guys, but this is also just like I 0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:47.680 don't know for anybody who needs this type of encouragement, 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:49.800 who needs to be lifted up. One thing I was 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:53.640 thinking when you were just talking now is you won't 0:17:53.640 --> 0:17:55.400 because you won't get a chance to talk to us 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:58.679 while you're in your season. It's it's a different world 0:17:58.840 --> 0:18:02.480 when it's just you as the lead, no family, no friends, 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:05.240 no former bachelorrettes. It's just you and the producers and 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:08.480 your gut, which is what you have to go by. 0:18:08.640 --> 0:18:11.080 You know, Becca and I are both with our first 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:14.720 impression Rose guys. We trusted our gut. But when it 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:18.520 got down to the final few, it's a really hard decision. 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:21.359 And for various reasons. It's not even because you don't 0:18:21.440 --> 0:18:24.880 know what you're gonna do. It's just so hard. You've 0:18:24.880 --> 0:18:27.200 got you've grown close with these people at this point, 0:18:27.400 --> 0:18:31.359 You've shared things, you've exerted certain emotions with them, and 0:18:31.359 --> 0:18:35.199 so it's hard to cut it off, to let it go, 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:37.640 to break someone's heart and send them home. And so 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:41.280 when you get to those moments, I remember, like, I'm 0:18:41.359 --> 0:18:44.680 asking what did Jojo do? Because Jojo was before me? 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:47.240 And I remember Becca being like, what did Rachel do? 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:49.359 And I'm sure Hannah asked what a Becca do? And 0:18:49.440 --> 0:18:52.120 you'll ask the same thing. And so the best thing 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:53.960 I can tell you is because you will be so 0:18:54.080 --> 0:18:56.800 alone and it is your decision, and you have to 0:18:56.840 --> 0:18:59.880 be comfortable with what you're doing, and you can get 0:18:59.880 --> 0:19:01.840 all all the advice in the world, but you have 0:19:01.920 --> 0:19:04.280 to know, you know what your what decision you're going 0:19:04.320 --> 0:19:06.879 to make and live with that. So trust your gut. 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:09.320 Don't at the end of the day when it comes 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:11.879 down to whatever, because it will come down to the 0:19:11.920 --> 0:19:13.600 one and you will have a ring on your finger 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:15.960 and you will be engaged. Is that what it says, 0:19:16.520 --> 0:19:21.520 just follow your gut, Just follow your gut. Advice Peace 0:19:21.600 --> 0:19:24.480 number two is just follow your guts, and that is 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:28.359 so true. It will not lead you astray. But you 0:19:28.440 --> 0:19:32.919 know what, rich I feel like, Claire, I'm not worried 0:19:32.920 --> 0:19:36.440 about you. I mean, you sure you're gonna go through 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:38.200 the ups and the downs, and you're going to have 0:19:38.840 --> 0:19:43.600 really sad moments and days and your heart is going 0:19:43.680 --> 0:19:45.639 to feel like it's being torn out of your chest. 0:19:45.720 --> 0:19:49.200 But out of anyone who has probably been in this position, 0:19:49.400 --> 0:19:51.640 I am not worried about you. I think that you, 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:55.320 at the end of the day, will whatever is meant 0:19:55.320 --> 0:19:57.480 to happen will happen for you. And you just seem 0:19:57.520 --> 0:20:01.560 to attract such You just have this positive energy and 0:20:01.600 --> 0:20:03.399 I feel like you'll attract that and at the end 0:20:03.480 --> 0:20:06.240 of the day, you, if I have faith in anyone, 0:20:06.280 --> 0:20:08.160 you will follow your gut. You will listen to your heart, 0:20:08.200 --> 0:20:11.359 and you will hopefully find the right man for you 0:20:11.960 --> 0:20:14.359 that I can promise I'll definitely follow my gut. Like 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:18.040