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Speaker 4: I like to get started with something funny each week,

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Speaker 4: and I heard about this hill billy family. They'd never

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Speaker 4: in disbelief, he said, Dad, what happened? Dad said, I

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Speaker 4: the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. We've been

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Speaker 4: And we need to examine our lives and let's find

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Speaker 4: the areas that we constantly struggle in. Is it really

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Speaker 4: A lot of people today have a root of rejection.

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Speaker 4: They've been through hurts in the past, somebody did them wrong,

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Speaker 4: They were always having problems in their marriage, and the

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Speaker 4: Understand that most of our problems have deeper roots, not

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Speaker 4: this is just the way we've always been. Now you

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Speaker 4: know what I found. You will never change what you tolerate.

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Speaker 4: You got to get fed up. You've got to come

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Speaker 4: to the point where you say, I am sick and

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Speaker 4: tired of being sick and tired. And we may have

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Speaker 4: source and I'm gonna start making better decisions for me

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Speaker 4: and my family. And the sad thing is that junk

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Speaker 4: will keep getting passed down until somebody rises up and

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Speaker 4: does something about it. Why don't you be the one.

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Speaker 3: You can make a difference for generations to come.

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Speaker 4: But one of the first things is we got to

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Speaker 4: quit making excuses. We got to quit blaming the past.

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Speaker 4: And you may have been through a lot of junk.

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Speaker 4: That may be the reason you struggle with bad habits,

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Speaker 4: you have trouble in relationships, and you have low self esteem.

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Speaker 4: That may be the reason, but don't use that as

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Speaker 4: an excuse to stay the way you are. Take responsibility.

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Speaker 4: I know too many people today They've had unfair things

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Speaker 4: happen and they go their whole lifetime allowing that to

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Speaker 4: poison them. They're angry, they got a chip on their shoulder,

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Speaker 4: just like the children of Israel. They go around hard

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Speaker 4: to get along with and they always use that as

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Speaker 4: an excuse. Well, Joel, if you've been through what I've

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Speaker 4: done through, you would act this same way. Now, that

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Speaker 4: may be the reason you act that way. But thank God,

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Speaker 4: you don't have to stay that way. You can come

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Speaker 4: up higher. But you got to take responsibility. You got

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Speaker 4: to be willing to face the truth and say, you

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Speaker 4: know what, this is not right. They may have done

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Speaker 4: me wrong, but I'm not supposed to live upset and angry.

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Speaker 4: I'm not supposed to live hard to get along with God.

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Speaker 4: I'm asking you to help me to change. If you

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Speaker 4: have that attitude, God will always help you. Thinking about

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Speaker 4: this lady, she came up to me in the lobby

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Speaker 4: one time and she said, Joel, I wish you would

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Speaker 4: pray for me. I'm about to get married again for

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Speaker 4: my fifth time. I didn't laugh like y'all did, and

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Speaker 4: she said, I want you to really agree that this

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Speaker 4: man will be the one that finally starts treating me right.

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Speaker 4: I wanted to ask her, have you ever thought about

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Speaker 4: what the common denominator is in all these marriages? It's

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Speaker 4: you something wrong on the inside. But after we prayed,

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Speaker 4: I asked her, does anybody else in your family struggle

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Speaker 4: with the the same kind of difficulties? She said, oh, yeah, Joel,

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Speaker 4: my mother's been married four times and she just about

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Speaker 4: to get another divorce. And I thought, that's just what

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Speaker 4: the enemy loves for us, to keep passing this junk

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Speaker 4: down for generation to generation. It's like a negative cycle

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Speaker 4: that he sets up, and if we don't take responsibility

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Speaker 4: and do something about it, it'll just keep repeating itself,

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Speaker 4: and our children, our grandchildren, our great grandchildren will all

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Speaker 4: have to deal with it. Now. I don't know about you,

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Speaker 4: but I want to put a stop to everything that

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Speaker 4: I can. If I have bad habits, if I have insecurities,

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Speaker 4: if I have wrong thinking, I want to be honest

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Speaker 4: and open enough to deal with it and not make excuses.

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Speaker 4: Not blame my past, not blame my parents, not blame

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Speaker 4: my circumstances, not blame my spouse. No, you know what,

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Speaker 4: I can't change any of that, but I can change me.

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Speaker 4: May you say, Joe, if you just knew my family,

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Speaker 4: we are so dysfunctional. We have so many bad habits,

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Speaker 4: We got so many messed up people. No, I say

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Speaker 4: this very respectfully, but I really believe today almost every

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Speaker 4: family has a little bit of dysfunction. Don't use that

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Speaker 4: as an excuse. We all have things to deal with.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I come out of a good family, but

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Speaker 4: y'all know, my brother Paul, we all.

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Speaker 3: Have things to overcome.

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Speaker 4: You know, I hear people tell me, Joel, you know

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Speaker 4: I'm all depressed because my parents were so depressed. Or

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Speaker 4: I'm hot tempered just like my father. I'm a worry

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Speaker 4: warp because my mother always worried. Now that's a cop

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Speaker 4: out you can change. Let me tell you you are

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Speaker 4: a child of the most high God. You have on

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Speaker 4: the inside of you right now, the greatest power in

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Speaker 4: the universe. You can break any addiction, You can overcome

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Speaker 4: any stronghold, you can defeat any bondage. The scripture says

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Speaker 4: in First John four to four, greater is he that's

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Speaker 4: in you than he that's in the world. That simply

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Speaker 4: means there is not an obstacle on this planet that

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Speaker 4: you cannot overcome. You can fulfill your God given destiny.

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Speaker 4: You can accomplish your dreams. And yes, you may have

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Speaker 4: had a negative history, but please understand you don't have

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Speaker 4: to have a negative future.

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Speaker 3: What's important is not where we've come from. What's important

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Speaker 3: is where we are going.

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Speaker 4: One of the main ways we can honor God is

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Speaker 4: by taking responsibility for our actions, not blaming our past,

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Speaker 4: not blaming our circumstances. No, look inside and say, God,

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Speaker 4: show me the truth about myself, show me where I

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Speaker 4: need to change. See, we got to get down to

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Speaker 4: the root so that we don't just go through life

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Speaker 4: trying to pick off the bad fruit.

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Speaker 3: Some of you keep going around that.

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Speaker 4: Same mountain again and again, and until you get to

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Speaker 4: the real source and do something about it, nothing's going

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Speaker 4: to change. I'm asking you to let God in every

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Speaker 4: room of your life. Don't just live on the surface.

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Speaker 4: Go a little deeper. Take time to find out why

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Speaker 4: you do what you do. And yes, it may be

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Speaker 4: because of what you've gone through. It may be because

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Speaker 4: of what somebody has passed down, but don't use that

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Speaker 4: as an excuse. Take responsibility, rise up and do something

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Speaker 4: about it. Let's pass down good things to the next generation. Friends,

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Speaker 4: I want you to enter into your promised land. I

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Speaker 4: want you to experience the good things of God. And

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Speaker 4: I know if you'll do your part and face the

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Speaker 4: truth about yourself, get to the source of the issue,

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Speaker 4: and make adjustments when you need to. If you do that,

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Speaker 4: then I can promise you you'll have better relationships, you'll

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Speaker 4: be more fulfilled, you'll be happier, and you'll live that

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Speaker 4: life of victory God has in story.

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Speaker 3: Amen, if you receive it. Can you give the Lord

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Speaker 4: We never like to close our broadcast without giving you

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Speaker 4: Would you pray with me? Just say, Lord, Jesus, I'll

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Speaker 4: repent of my sins. Come into my heart. Thank you,

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