1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:02,440 Speaker 1: Chip, are you in town? 2 00:00:03,120 --> 00:00:04,320 Speaker 2: I am for now. 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,720 Speaker 1: For now, Chip is like our little world traveler. You 4 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:12,959 Speaker 1: really are living up to your word of the year, 5 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:14,040 Speaker 1: which was explore. 6 00:00:14,600 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 2: I am exploring. 7 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 1: Tell us where you've been. 8 00:00:17,960 --> 00:00:23,200 Speaker 2: Well. I spent Fourth of July week up in Maine 9 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 2: with some friends from Nashville, some friends from that live 10 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:32,480 Speaker 2: in Maine, some friends that live in Los Angeles, and 11 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 2: we spent a couple of days in Portland, which is 12 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 2: an amazing little city. If you've never been, I highly 13 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 2: recommend it, obviously in the summertime, not in the winter. 14 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:45,519 Speaker 2: And then went up to Southwest Harbor, which is in 15 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:48,519 Speaker 2: an Akkadian National Park and it's just super beautiful. And 16 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:53,800 Speaker 2: I went there last year just for a day. I 17 00:00:53,920 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 2: was around a work show and I was like, oh 18 00:00:56,760 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 2: my god, this place is amazing. I got to come back, 19 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 2: so it's it caused a plan for a full week 20 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 2: and it was amazing, just like we runted a cabin 21 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 2: and stayed with friends and had bonfires and ate smores 22 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 2: and did all the things and watched movies outside. It 23 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:16,120 Speaker 2: was awesome. And then from there I flew to London 24 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:17,319 Speaker 2: for two nights. 25 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 1: I was just saying to you, one of our mutual 26 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 1: friends was also in London. There was a music or 27 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:24,200 Speaker 1: a concert. I guess that you guys were all at 28 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: and she sent me a picture of y'all and I 29 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: was like, wait what. I didn't even realize Chip was 30 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 1: going to be in London because I can't keep up 31 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: with your travel schedule. But you're literally like here, You're there, 32 00:01:34,240 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 1: You're everywhere. You're like Carmen san Diego. I can't yep. 33 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:40,560 Speaker 2: And then I leave on Tuesday to go to France. Dang, 34 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 2: I'm so excited. 35 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 1: That's going to be amazing Paris. 36 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 2: Right, I'm going to Paris for a few days and 37 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 2: then to a town called Moussak to visit. And they 38 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:52,920 Speaker 2: exchanged you that live with my family. I'm taking my 39 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 2: sister for her fiftieth birthday. 40 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: So fun going to celebrate over there. Yeah, your voice 41 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: sounds really deep right now? Are you trying to be sexy? 42 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 2: Think it's just whatever's gone on with this cold or 43 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 2: cough or. 44 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: Whatever little slim situation happening. 45 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:12,360 Speaker 2: Okay, come up with me, No girl, not my type. 46 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:16,920 Speaker 1: Do I have any trouble? Come up? Well, whenever this 47 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:20,919 Speaker 1: podcast airs, it will be Friday. Today is Wednesday. That 48 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:27,120 Speaker 1: we're recording, and Thursday is my birthday. Yes, answer, dinner. 49 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: We are, We're having a dinner. It's just so different 50 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: as you age, like it almost feels silly to make 51 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: a big deal out of your birthday. But I really 52 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: do love my birthday, Like it's were you going to 53 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 1: say something. 54 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 2: I was gonna say. My sister calls it her birthday 55 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 2: month she celebrates. 56 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean a month feels extreme, but it is. 57 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: It is lovely. And I was telling you when we 58 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:51,079 Speaker 1: first decided what we were going to talk about today, 59 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: it's like, I don't know if this is some programming 60 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 1: that I got along the way as a woman or 61 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 1: whatever it is. I'm trying to get better about this 62 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:03,120 Speaker 1: about like receiving my life and just accepting, Like that's 63 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:05,679 Speaker 1: like a big thing with feminine energy, is the ability 64 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 1: to receive and like really taking that in. But the 65 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: birthday is the one day that I've literally always been 66 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: able to receive. Like it's just I don't feel guilty 67 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: about it. I let people like tell me how much 68 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,280 Speaker 1: they love me or dote on me or whatever, and 69 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 1: it feels so good, Like it is just the best feeling, 70 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:28,080 Speaker 1: even when you're getting Facebook messages from people you haven't 71 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 1: thought about in years or from high school or whatever 72 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: it is. I don't know. I just have always really 73 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 1: embraced it. And I think it has to do with 74 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: the fact that I let myself off the hook of 75 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: the guilts that like people are giving to me, you know, 76 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 1: which is something I obviously need to work on. 77 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 2: I mean, I kind of suffer from the same thing. 78 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 2: I'm like terrible at receiving compliments like yeah, look great. 79 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 1: I'm like, so do you like yeah, right to give 80 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: it back immediately? 81 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, And like I mean, in some ways it's like 82 00:03:57,240 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 2: it kind of negates their compliments, so it's fair to 83 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 2: them too. But yeah, I I used to make a 84 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 2: really big deal. I used to always have like a 85 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 2: when I lived in New York, I would have a 86 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 2: massive birthday party. But when I was It's funny because 87 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 2: I've it's sort of ebbed and flowed. As a kid, 88 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 2: I hated birthday parties because I hated my own birthday 89 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:21,040 Speaker 2: party because I was always worried I wasn't going to 90 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 2: like the things that people gave me, so I never 91 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:25,839 Speaker 2: wanted to I never wanted to open gifts at my 92 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 2: birthday party. 93 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 1: You didn't think you could fake it or something. 94 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,039 Speaker 2: No, I'm like, I got a rocket. What am I 95 00:04:31,040 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 2: gonna do with this? I'd remember getting a rocket one 96 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 2: year and I was like, I don't want the stupid rocket. 97 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 1: But I could see you in the yard blasting that rocket. 98 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, there was probably something else that year that I 99 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 2: really wanted and didn't get, and it just sort of 100 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 2: magnified me hating everything else that I got. So I was, 101 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 2: you know, probably eight, you know, but yeah, I used 102 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 2: to make a big deal of them in New York 103 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,479 Speaker 2: and would have these massive parties and it was so fun. 104 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:01,359 Speaker 2: And I probably did it in La too. But and 105 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,600 Speaker 2: I've had like I had a big thirtieth that was 106 00:05:03,640 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 2: a joint birthday party, and I had a big fortieth. 107 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 2: And the five zero is coming around the corner. 108 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:11,840 Speaker 1: I know, Yeah, it's creeping up on you. 109 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 2: It's creeping up. But I think, what I want to 110 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:16,480 Speaker 2: do for my fiftieth, and I hope I can get 111 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 2: a bunch of friends on board, is just to have 112 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 2: a big party that celebrates everyone's fiftieth because that way 113 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:26,799 Speaker 2: we don't have to do like a bunch of traveling 114 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,040 Speaker 2: for everybody's fiftieth birthdays. You know what I mean. 115 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 1: I always feel like that in the summer because we 116 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: have a bunch of friends who have birthdays right around 117 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: mind too, and I'm like, uh, okay, another dinner for 118 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: you all. 119 00:05:36,080 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 2: I know. So And it's just like, because if you 120 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 2: want to do something big to like celebrate a landmark birthday, 121 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:47,240 Speaker 2: like a fiftieth or a milestone birthday, you know, it's 122 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 2: it's like going to someone's wedding, you know what I mean, 123 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 2: It can get really expensive. And so I'm I would 124 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 2: be happy because I'm one of the first in our 125 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:59,359 Speaker 2: friend group to turn fifty to delay celebrating mine. So 126 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,480 Speaker 2: it's like, maybe celebrate it in the summer of because 127 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 2: I'll turn fifty, turn forty nine this year, so I'll 128 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 2: turn fifteen twenty five, so I'd be willing to wait 129 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:10,640 Speaker 2: till the summer of twenty six and then that way, 130 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 2: it's like some of the people at the end of 131 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,440 Speaker 2: twenty six, they can be cele early. We just do 132 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 2: like a big group trip somewhere, you know. I'm thinking, 133 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 2: like we'll go rage in Abiita or something like that. 134 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 2: Of course, before we're too old to do something like that, 135 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 2: you know, not yet. I mean, we probably are, but 136 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 2: I feel like if we're going to do it, I know, yeah, 137 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:38,839 Speaker 2: we won't be celebrating you. We'll do a real trip 138 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:39,040 Speaker 2: for you. 139 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:41,680 Speaker 1: I just won't be too old for Abita. No, No, 140 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:44,160 Speaker 1: we'll actually, like I am, I feel like I graduated 141 00:06:44,160 --> 00:06:45,600 Speaker 1: from that after like twenty five. 142 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, I mean we probably are, but I don't know. 143 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 2: We'll see because it's not just my opinion, especially if 144 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:56,960 Speaker 2: it ends up being a big group thing totally. I digress. 145 00:06:57,000 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 2: We don't have to plan that yet. 146 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 1: Okay, Well, birthdays. We were we're going to talk about 147 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: birthdays today and there's a couple different things we're going 148 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 1: to talk about with them, but we were talking mostly 149 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:09,640 Speaker 1: about how they changed so much from your childhood to adulthood. 150 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: And then I was like, well, who even started birthdays? 151 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 1: Are like, why do we even do birthdays? And you 152 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 1: had a couple like just little fun facts for the 153 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:18,760 Speaker 1: listeners you were going to mention, did you want to 154 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 1: go ahead and do this? 155 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:24,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, obviously birthdays have people have been being born 156 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 2: since the beginning of time, so there have always been birthdays, 157 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 2: but they haven't always been celebrated in the way that 158 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 2: we're used to them being celebrated. In fact, most people 159 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 2: didn't celebrate them. And you know, it was in like 160 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:42,400 Speaker 2: the Egyptian times that people were first celebrating birthdays, and 161 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 2: it was not necessarily about the day that people were born. 162 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 2: It was the day that like they that men it 163 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 2: wasn't even women, men were pharaohs were crowned as kings 164 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 2: or crown as gods. Sorry, and so that was like 165 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 2: that was when they sort of were birthed into their 166 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:02,920 Speaker 2: godhood and so that that day was celebrated, and. 167 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 1: That it feels like a bomb mitzvah or something. 168 00:08:05,440 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 2: Something, it's like becoming a man or something. Yeah, and 169 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 2: then it was sort of noble people and rich and 170 00:08:14,960 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 2: famous people would celebrate birthdays, but common folks wouldn't. It 171 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:23,239 Speaker 2: wasn't until like the nineteen hundreds that birthday parties became 172 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 2: more common. I've got I've got an article pulled up 173 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 2: from Vermont, the Vermont Public I guess librarries Vermont public 174 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:35,520 Speaker 2: dot org, and it says in the nineteen hundreds, birthday 175 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:37,840 Speaker 2: parties became more common. But it wasn't until the nineteen 176 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 2: fifties that birthday parties became centered around kids and their 177 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 2: friends and it's around that time that birthday party started 178 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 2: moving outside of the home, which I thought, I mean, like, 179 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 2: that doesn't seem that long ago, you know, it's seventy 180 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 2: five years ago. Yeah, let's see what were some other 181 00:08:54,559 --> 00:09:00,560 Speaker 2: cool things. Birthday cakes they have not always been a thing. 182 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 2: It was in the eighteenth century Germany was when they 183 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 2: first started using birthday cakes to celebrate birthdays, and they 184 00:09:06,520 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 2: were called it was a party for a child, and 185 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:13,199 Speaker 2: it translated to kinderfest, so they were kinderfest cakes, and 186 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:16,440 Speaker 2: that at that point the cakes did have a candle 187 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 2: for every year of the child's birth or life, but 188 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:22,599 Speaker 2: they were meant to burn all day. They weren't just 189 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,280 Speaker 2: put on the cake to be burned out. They're blown 190 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 2: out as a wish. That wasn't until more recently that 191 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 2: that became popular. 192 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:33,040 Speaker 1: But isn't that an interesting one because during COVID it 193 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 1: really made me think about how gross that tradition actually is. 194 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:38,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, like we're all just. 195 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: Yes with kids, and if it's like when you're a 196 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 1: kid too, I think this is more common, but like 197 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 1: more people will blow on the cake for you. But 198 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:51,400 Speaker 1: even if it's just the one person, they're blowing their 199 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 1: germs and their spit molecules or whatever you call molecules, 200 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 1: molecules one into the cake and then everyone eats it. 201 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:03,680 Speaker 1: It's like wild. I really never thought about it until 202 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 1: COVID and everyone was like, yeah, I don't know candles 203 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:08,439 Speaker 1: or no whatever, and you're like, oh, right, it's actually 204 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:12,079 Speaker 1: kind of disgusting. Yeah, so we should maybe go back 205 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:13,599 Speaker 1: to the tradition where it just burns. 206 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 2: All day, burns all day. 207 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:15,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's interesting. 208 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 2: You know what I didn't find and maybe I could 209 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 2: have dug a little deeper, was like, why we make 210 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:26,320 Speaker 2: a wish? And my guess would be that because you know, 211 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 2: we're turning the page on a year and like a 212 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 2: way to set an intention. 213 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 1: I think that's right too. It feels like kind of 214 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:36,680 Speaker 1: the same as the New Year's resolution, right right, That's 215 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: what birthdays really do feel like a lot to me too. 216 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 1: It's that fresh start. It's the new year. And if 217 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: you're into numerology or you want to get into it, 218 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: I have a couple of podcasts about that, but we 219 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 1: do talk about too in numerology. There's two different ways 220 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: to do it. But the people that I follow that 221 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: are really into it say that it is a new 222 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:58,960 Speaker 1: year that starts on your birthday, like you actually the 223 00:10:58,960 --> 00:11:03,520 Speaker 1: the yearly number you're we all have a number that 224 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 1: we're in each year, and so you're kind of working 225 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 1: through certain lessons that line up with that number in numerology, 226 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: and like, like last year, I was in a seven year, 227 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 1: which is all about a deep dive within yourself kind 228 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:15,959 Speaker 1: of like introspection all that stuff, and I really felt that, 229 00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: And a lot of people say that starts over with 230 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 1: the new year, But then there's these other people that 231 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: I follow that say it starts over with your birthday, 232 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 1: and so I'm moving into an eight year, which is 233 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:29,240 Speaker 1: what we are universally as well. All of that is 234 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:31,480 Speaker 1: to say that I think it's like that same feeling 235 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: of a fresh start. It's like a new chapter opening. 236 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: There's a new energy to this year for me. And 237 00:11:38,440 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 1: that's just one way to explain it. But I feel that, 238 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:43,200 Speaker 1: and I think most people do on their birthdays, don't you. 239 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I feel like I 240 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:51,200 Speaker 2: feel that more on the new year. Yeah, I mean, 241 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:55,960 Speaker 2: I it's funny because having thrown big parties for myself 242 00:11:56,000 --> 00:12:00,319 Speaker 2: in the past, like it's more than just a reason 243 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 2: to party, then than to like go really deep. I 244 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 2: mean what I do, well, you're funny, yeah, true. But 245 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:15,360 Speaker 2: I also like, I think that it's partly because I've 246 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:17,640 Speaker 2: never put a lot of weight into it. I also 247 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:20,559 Speaker 2: like being almost forty nine years old, Like I don't 248 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 2: feel like I'm forty nine years old, right, So, And 249 00:12:24,200 --> 00:12:26,480 Speaker 2: I don't know if that's a result of just my 250 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 2: overall personality in the way I approach life, or if 251 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:30,680 Speaker 2: it has something to do with the fact that, like 252 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 2: I haven't put a lot of weight on that ear. 253 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 2: But you know, it is crazy to think that, Like, 254 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:41,640 Speaker 2: I'm probably more than halfway done with my life now. 255 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 2: So it's like as the years take by, life, you know, 256 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 2: it's getting shorter and shorter. So it's certainly something that 257 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:53,160 Speaker 2: like I should probably start to put a little bit 258 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:59,640 Speaker 2: more like thought into and gratitude towards and you know, 259 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 2: just reflection upon like. 260 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 1: The word reflection, Yeah, because I think that is what 261 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: I was thinking about, mostly thinking about the difference between 262 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: when you're younger and you're older. It's like, when you're younger, 263 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,040 Speaker 1: you just want to get older. You want to get 264 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:13,959 Speaker 1: to twenty one, like our first you want to get 265 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 1: to sixteen to get your driver's license. Then you want 266 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: to get to twenty one so you can drink alcohol. 267 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: Then you want to get to third. It's like all 268 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 1: these different things that you actually want to get older 269 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 1: because you get more privileges, Whereas then it's like somewhere 270 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 1: along the line, you flip the script. Maybe forty is 271 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 1: where it starts, but for a lot of people, I 272 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:35,120 Speaker 1: think it is. I think your thirties can kind of 273 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:39,040 Speaker 1: feel that way too, but it starts to feel a 274 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:43,240 Speaker 1: little different, like everything feels a little heavier. You feel like, wait, shit, 275 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: this isn't how I've mapped my life out to look 276 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:47,960 Speaker 1: by this age, or like there's all these things that 277 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,360 Speaker 1: you thought you would have accomplished and you don't. So 278 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 1: then there can be like a shame spiral about that, 279 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:55,640 Speaker 1: or a panic or like a realization like what you're saying, 280 00:13:55,679 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 1: where it's like, holy shit, there's only half. I mean, 281 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:02,360 Speaker 1: if I'm lucky, I have half of this left, like 282 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:06,040 Speaker 1: I have what I've already done left. And that's a 283 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 1: weird feeling to be faced with your immortality, I mean 284 00:14:10,240 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 1: like mortality. Sorry, because I think when you're younger, you 285 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:15,959 Speaker 1: just think you're not ever gonna die. You don't think 286 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 1: about it, like, right, we're immortal, we're invincible, we're all 287 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 1: these things, and you're just not nobody is Yeah. 288 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:26,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's it's kind of a maybe that's 289 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 2: why I ignore it, because it's sort of a. 290 00:14:29,480 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 1: Very seven of the enneagram. Yeah, it's like it's like, 291 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 1: let's have a party and not think about what's happening. 292 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 2: Right. But then, you know, I said to you when 293 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:38,840 Speaker 2: we were talking about this earlier, like my mother her 294 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:41,240 Speaker 2: birthday was yesterday. She turns seventy nine years. 295 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 1: Old, and happy birthday. 296 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:47,960 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, happy birthday, Claudes. And you know she The 297 00:14:48,040 --> 00:14:50,160 Speaker 2: older that my parents get, the more that they talk 298 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:52,840 Speaker 2: about not being here forever. Sure, and it's a very 299 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 2: real thing for them, obviously. It's like every time I 300 00:14:55,480 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 2: talk to them, they're like, well, I have a doctor's 301 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 2: appointment today, I've got a doctor's appointment tomorrow, and then 302 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 2: your dad's they're like always at the doctor now. Yeah, 303 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:09,320 Speaker 2: And there it's everything is aged, and you know, I 304 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 2: can't imagine being at that point where it's like, your 305 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:17,680 Speaker 2: mortality is a very real thing. I mean, the truth is, 306 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 2: it doesn't matter how old you are, your mortality. 307 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 1: Is it always is, but it just feels more real 308 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: the older you get. Right, Yeah, you're in denial when 309 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:29,440 Speaker 1: you're younger because you just don't think about it. That 310 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:35,600 Speaker 1: invincible feeling is so real. I definitely think in the 311 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:38,440 Speaker 1: past couple of years, even like, there's been friends my 312 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 1: age and my age group that I went to high 313 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 1: school with that or anything that have just dropped dead 314 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 1: or something like that, and so when that starts to happen, 315 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: it just hits you. My parents were talking about that 316 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 1: recently that they're you know, they're at the age where 317 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 1: their friends start dying, and it's just like, you can't 318 00:15:54,960 --> 00:15:57,080 Speaker 1: avoid it when you get to a certain point in life, 319 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:58,680 Speaker 1: and I think when you're younger you kind of can. 320 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 1: Although this podcast is not about death's no. 321 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:03,720 Speaker 2: No, I was like, this is taking a turn. 322 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 1: No, but it does. It does play into it for 323 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:09,960 Speaker 1: me because I think it plays into what I'm realizing 324 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:13,400 Speaker 1: each year that ticks by, like you said, and birthdays 325 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:16,640 Speaker 1: just as you age, like of course it can come 326 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 1: with the anxiety of oh, I didn't do all the 327 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:20,880 Speaker 1: shit I said I was going to do by this age. 328 00:16:21,080 --> 00:16:23,360 Speaker 1: For me, that kind of released a little bit when 329 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:26,320 Speaker 1: I turned forty because I could kind of check it 330 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 1: off the bat, like I figured I wasn't going to 331 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:30,360 Speaker 1: have kids. I went through the fertility stuff. It kind 332 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:33,120 Speaker 1: of like things like that got taken off my list 333 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: where I didn't feel the pressure anymore, and then it 334 00:16:36,760 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 1: was sort of just like, Okay, well that's not happening. 335 00:16:40,040 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 1: The things that you've been programmed or like you've taken 336 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 1: on to believe that you need to have for a 337 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 1: successful life, maybe it's going to look different. So what 338 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 1: do you want in your life? And what do you 339 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 1: want your life to look like? And every year that 340 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 1: goes by, I think I asked myself those questions even 341 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 1: more and more. 342 00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:59,920 Speaker 2: Well, I think what's interesting too, is the older you get, 343 00:17:00,160 --> 00:17:04,200 Speaker 2: the more that you realize that some of those goals 344 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 2: just aren't important, you know, and living in the moment 345 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:10,720 Speaker 2: and appreciating what you have is really what needs to 346 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:16,480 Speaker 2: be your most important goal, because at the end of 347 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 2: the day, when none of us win, you know, we 348 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 2: all will pass away and be forgotten. And you sent 349 00:17:24,359 --> 00:17:27,119 Speaker 2: me that thing today that I had actually seen yesterday 350 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:30,960 Speaker 2: on Instagram that was like a stark reminder of the 351 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:34,520 Speaker 2: fact that in a hundred years, for the most part, 352 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:37,360 Speaker 2: like there won't even be people on earth that remember us, 353 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:41,520 Speaker 2: so we're like gone, We're just ash, We're not even 354 00:17:41,520 --> 00:17:47,720 Speaker 2: a memory. And for that reason, it's like it makes you. 355 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 2: It really reminds you that some of the stuff that 356 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:54,720 Speaker 2: we strive for while we're alive is so fucking pointless, 357 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 2: you know, trying to accumulate a lot of things, and 358 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:00,359 Speaker 2: which I'm guilty of, like. 359 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:04,360 Speaker 1: We all are. Yeah, that's what we're wired to believe 360 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:07,200 Speaker 1: is success and the things that will make us happy. 361 00:18:07,760 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, but you know, I think, you know, this 362 00:18:12,920 --> 00:18:16,679 Speaker 2: is a really interesting conversation for me because it's you know, 363 00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:22,320 Speaker 2: with with me nearing fifty, like, I think I should 364 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:25,800 Speaker 2: reflect a little differently this year when my birthday rolls 365 00:18:25,800 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 2: around in November. You know, are you going to do 366 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:30,320 Speaker 2: anything differently for yours this year? 367 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:33,359 Speaker 1: Well, I will say, I'll yeah. Actually I was going 368 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 1: to mention some of the things that were coming up 369 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:36,199 Speaker 1: for me, but I do want to touch back on 370 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:37,720 Speaker 1: that video and I will put the I'm going to 371 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:39,399 Speaker 1: put a link to it in the description of this 372 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 1: podcast because it's just a good no matter what age 373 00:18:42,280 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 1: you are, it's a really good reminder and I've loved 374 00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:48,000 Speaker 1: the part that you just mentioned like in a hundred years, 375 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:51,600 Speaker 1: you're going to be gone and forgotten. I mean unless 376 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:54,040 Speaker 1: you're living a life like Oprah or something. But even then, 377 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:58,679 Speaker 1: it's like people leave legacies, but you're not here and 378 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:01,880 Speaker 1: so you can't. I don't know, You're gonna be forgotten 379 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:04,160 Speaker 1: in some capacity or not a day to day thought 380 00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:07,360 Speaker 1: as you would have been before. This was the one 381 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,320 Speaker 1: that got me. Someone else will live in your home? 382 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 1: Isn't that weird to think about all the stuff that 383 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 1: you have will either be sold or destroyed or someone 384 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:18,159 Speaker 1: else will own it, and then someone else will be 385 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:20,760 Speaker 1: living here, living in it, like someone's lived here in 386 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:26,200 Speaker 1: my house and in your house before us. Yeah, stories No, 387 00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:30,600 Speaker 1: And then just understanding, like the way they say it 388 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 1: in that video is understanding how ignorant and weak the 389 00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 1: idea of consuming and obtaining all that we can actually is, 390 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:42,320 Speaker 1: like that is what our culture kind of spells out 391 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:44,520 Speaker 1: as the way to live life. It's like get get, 392 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:47,240 Speaker 1: get have all this shit, have all this, like just 393 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:51,320 Speaker 1: the mass consumerism and all the stuff that the older 394 00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 1: you get, you start to be like I want things, Yes, 395 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:57,720 Speaker 1: I want nice things, but on the day to day 396 00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:00,359 Speaker 1: and like at the end of my life, like you 397 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:02,439 Speaker 1: really can't take it with you. It's like what we 398 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:04,960 Speaker 1: talked about when I was working with that billionaire. It's 399 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:07,920 Speaker 1: like I'm sitting in the biggest mansion I've ever been 400 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:10,960 Speaker 1: in with the person who is the richest man in Tennessee, 401 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 1: and he's in bad health because he's aging, and it's 402 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 1: like he can't even he is going to die. And 403 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:23,080 Speaker 1: that was like such a mind blowing experience to witness that, 404 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:26,320 Speaker 1: Like you really can't take it with you. Yes, he's 405 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:29,600 Speaker 1: leaving a legacy, a great one, but what on the 406 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:32,840 Speaker 1: day to day as a human do I want to 407 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:34,920 Speaker 1: bring to the table, Like I think that's kind of 408 00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:37,360 Speaker 1: where I am this year, Like going into forty two, 409 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:41,480 Speaker 1: you know, like in my thirties, it felt like, Okay, 410 00:20:41,520 --> 00:20:43,760 Speaker 1: I want to be an influencer out there. I really 411 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:47,680 Speaker 1: want to build this business. I really want to help 412 00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:49,080 Speaker 1: people and put it out and I still want to 413 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,359 Speaker 1: do all those things, like I do have a drive 414 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,000 Speaker 1: to do that, but for me, it's also been like 415 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 1: if that's supposed to be on a big scale, great, 416 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,159 Speaker 1: and you know, universe, use me as you should. But 417 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:02,400 Speaker 1: like what I've really started to focus on the last 418 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:04,399 Speaker 1: six months is how am I making the people in 419 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,159 Speaker 1: my day to day life feel? How do I feel? 420 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:11,160 Speaker 1: Because even if I got the chance to do this 421 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:15,119 Speaker 1: on a big scale or influence and help people on 422 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:18,320 Speaker 1: a big scale, great, But if at the end of 423 00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 1: the day, the people in my life can't say that 424 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,760 Speaker 1: I treat them kindly or that they know that they 425 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 1: can come to me no matter what, or that they're 426 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 1: full of love, what does it even mean? Right? No, right, 427 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 1: excuse me? So, I don't know. Those are kind of 428 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:35,920 Speaker 1: the things like I'm dialing, I'm choking. I'm not crying, 429 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 1: I promise. I just think I'm dialing things back a 430 00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:44,400 Speaker 1: little bit. And again that's not to say that none 431 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:47,239 Speaker 1: of us want success or like have things we want 432 00:21:47,240 --> 00:21:49,359 Speaker 1: to accomplish. There's no shame in that, Like I'm not 433 00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:53,240 Speaker 1: trying to come across that way, but really kind of 434 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:55,920 Speaker 1: dialing it back and asking myself the questions like when 435 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:57,639 Speaker 1: I look in the mirror, like how do I actually 436 00:21:57,680 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 1: feel today? Like the things that I'm saying that I 437 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:03,040 Speaker 1: have to do, like I'm doing airwoods, Do I really 438 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:03,880 Speaker 1: like doing those? 439 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:04,440 Speaker 2: Right? 440 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 1: Do I really get something out of it? Do I 441 00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:09,440 Speaker 1: enjoy it? Does it fulfill me, like, how does it 442 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:11,879 Speaker 1: make me feel? Am I anxious? Or am I happy? 443 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,919 Speaker 1: Am I peaceful? Am I like stressed? Like? I just 444 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:18,399 Speaker 1: want to sleep well at night. That's I don't know. 445 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:20,520 Speaker 1: That's one of the goals for me for forty two 446 00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:23,920 Speaker 1: because I'm a I have a struggle with sleeping and 447 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:26,400 Speaker 1: it's gotten worse as I've gotten older, and I think 448 00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: it's supposed to get worse for women as we start 449 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 1: to go into menopause, which is yay. 450 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 2: Girl. 451 00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:33,679 Speaker 1: I know I got to get a chili bad, but 452 00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:35,439 Speaker 1: just yeah, like I want to do things like that. 453 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 1: I want to sleep better, I want to feel healthy. 454 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 1: I want my family and friends to be happy and healthy. 455 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,520 Speaker 1: I just want to be able to pay my bills. 456 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 1: Like that's that's literally where my money game has gone is. Yes, 457 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:49,680 Speaker 1: I want nice things. Yes, I want to be able 458 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:51,800 Speaker 1: to provide for myself, but I'm not. I don't want 459 00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,960 Speaker 1: to be so stressed out, working so hard that I 460 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:58,880 Speaker 1: miss the beauty in life that's happening right before me. 461 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 2: Right right. It's kind of why I chose explore because 462 00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:07,879 Speaker 2: those are experiences and I want to be able to 463 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 2: do it while I can, you know, And it's funny 464 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:13,679 Speaker 2: because my sister, when I gave her this gift, she 465 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:16,760 Speaker 2: was like, Chip, you're spending too much money, and I'm like, well, 466 00:23:16,800 --> 00:23:21,200 Speaker 2: half of it's for me, you know, like it's an experience, 467 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,920 Speaker 2: Like it's this is something that like we will never forget. 468 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:29,080 Speaker 2: This will be a bonding thing for us, you know, 469 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:34,199 Speaker 2: until we both are no longer here. And for me, 470 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:38,840 Speaker 2: that is, I want to, for the rest of my 471 00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:42,399 Speaker 2: time on earth, be better about using my money to 472 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,159 Speaker 2: experience things and do things that make me healthier. Like 473 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,480 Speaker 2: I am such an impulse buyer and I need im 474 00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:52,119 Speaker 2: Like I know it's a problem that I have, like 475 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 2: and Instagram knows it's a problem because it serves me 476 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:59,600 Speaker 2: as Yeah, these fucking emails from Amazon. We think we 477 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 2: found something you'll like. I'm like, stop, how do I 478 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:06,440 Speaker 2: unsubscribe to all of it? You know, like, and they're 479 00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:11,480 Speaker 2: usually right, it's something delete before you read it, elite, 480 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,119 Speaker 2: So you know, I don't. I don't know what my 481 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:15,760 Speaker 2: the path is for me to do that. 482 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 1: But I get what you're saying, though, is you want 483 00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:22,159 Speaker 1: to have meaningful experiences, because that is something. I mean, 484 00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 1: I don't know if you can. I do think you 485 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 1: can take that with you, though, I think that our 486 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:28,280 Speaker 1: souls probably do right. With your sister, it's like whoever 487 00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 1: goes first, that's something you'll always have, right, even when 488 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,000 Speaker 1: one of you is not here anymore. It's just like, 489 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 1: those are beautiful, beautiful moments I'm with you. I think 490 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 1: it's like well worth it. In that same video that 491 00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to tag for you guys, it talks about 492 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:48,320 Speaker 1: instead of focusing on like the big picture of consumption, 493 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:53,000 Speaker 1: focusing on the walk you take with a significant significant other, 494 00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:55,679 Speaker 1: like the hug you skip sometimes when you're in a hurry, 495 00:24:57,560 --> 00:24:59,440 Speaker 1: the stars that you don't look up at at night, 496 00:24:59,600 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: like just the day to day things. I mean, I 497 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 1: know we say this kind of stuff all the time, 498 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 1: but it's just with the birthday coming up the reflection 499 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:10,720 Speaker 1: time for me, I'm just thinking again, Yes, I really 500 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,800 Speaker 1: want to focus on the beauty right in front of 501 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:15,680 Speaker 1: me on the day to day and how I show 502 00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,119 Speaker 1: up in the world for the people around me. Again, 503 00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:20,800 Speaker 1: if that transfers out to a bigger level or they 504 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 1: then go out and act kind to someone else, like 505 00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:27,359 Speaker 1: you always talk about smiling at the person checking you 506 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:29,439 Speaker 1: out at the grocery, And it's just like passing it 507 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:31,639 Speaker 1: on on a if you start on a small scale, 508 00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:33,760 Speaker 1: like I just feel that big time right now, like, 509 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:35,840 Speaker 1: do it in your day to day and then it's 510 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: going to play out how it's supposed to. So that's it. 511 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,200 Speaker 1: You guys are listening to this the day after my birthday, 512 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:44,360 Speaker 1: so hopefully we had a really. 513 00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:47,879 Speaker 2: Right now are you going to sing happy birthday? 514 00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 1: I'm kidding, how are you going to go into that? 515 00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,800 Speaker 2: That's it. That's it. You all can finish it without me. 516 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:57,879 Speaker 1: Well, I appreciate it. As I said, I'm going to 517 00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,080 Speaker 1: link this video for you guys in the descript in 518 00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:02,280 Speaker 1: the podcast. Just go watch it. It's just a positive, 519 00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:07,119 Speaker 1: happy Friday feeling tgif. If you want to get in 520 00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:08,760 Speaker 1: touch with us, you can always email us at the 521 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 1: Edge at velvetedge dot com. You can hit us up 522 00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 1: on my Instagram or leave us a voicemail. It is 523 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:16,200 Speaker 1: at Velvet's Edge and Chip. 524 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 2: I'm at Chip Doors. It's h I, P, D O 525 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 2: R S C. 526 00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:25,000 Speaker 1: CH as you guys going to the weekends hopefully for 527 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:26,919 Speaker 1: my birthday. I hope you guys are all living on 528 00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:28,840 Speaker 1: the edge, and I hope you always remember to 529 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 2: A casual bye bye.