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I'm a thirty six year old man 10 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: married to the love of my life with four children. 11 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 1: Around eight years ago, I left home, moved about four 12 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:44,199 Speaker 1: hours away, and that's when I met my wife and 13 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: we started a family. We were from neighboring cities and 14 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: knew a few of the same people, so that's how 15 00:00:51,400 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: we clicked. She grew up in a close knit family 16 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 1: with lots of cousins, and there's no way I could 17 00:00:56,880 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 1: ever meet her entire family in one visit. Well, we 18 00:01:01,360 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: fell on hard times during the pandemic, so my wife 19 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: suggested we moved back to her hometown because Chicago was 20 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: too expensive. We moved and I got a great job 21 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,199 Speaker 1: and I'm able to take care of my family again. 22 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: Wife is happy because she's close to her family again, 23 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 1: but I have a big problem. During the holiday, the 24 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: lot of her family members decided to do a drive 25 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: by party for her great grandmother because it may be 26 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: her last Christmas. My wife and I drove by the 27 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: house and her great grandmother was sitting on a porch 28 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: all dressed up, and a female was on the sidewalk 29 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: taking cards and gifts from people. As we drove five 30 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: When the female walked up to our car, my heart fell. 31 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,760 Speaker 1: I had met this girl ten years ago and we 32 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: messed around for a good while and things ended badly. Well, 33 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: she's my wife's cousin. By the look on her face, 34 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: she was shocked too. Later that day, we went to 35 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: dinner with a few of my wife's relative and another 36 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: woman that I used to mess with was there. She's 37 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 1: my wife's first cousin, and she caught me alone and 38 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,160 Speaker 1: said she knew I was married to her cousin. But 39 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: she's moved on and it's cool. My wife doesn't suspect 40 00:02:12,560 --> 00:02:16,040 Speaker 1: a thing with either woman. But I'm so nervous. Now 41 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:21,480 Speaker 1: what should I do? Okay, first of all, pull yourself together. Okay, 42 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 1: just pull yourself together. You don't have to be this nervous. 43 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: You didn't do anything wrong. You did nothing wrong. I mean, yeah, 44 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: it's a crazy, wild coincidence. And what are the chances 45 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: that you will have dated and is left with two 46 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: of your wife's cousins But you didn't know and you 47 00:02:37,639 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: said she had a big family. I'm sure you're not 48 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:43,519 Speaker 1: the first one who's ever experienced something like this. I mean, 49 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:45,920 Speaker 1: the two variables are the cousins. You don't know what 50 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,200 Speaker 1: they're gonna say or you don't know what they're gonna do. 51 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: But they had their opportunity, they didn't say or do anything. 52 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 1: The problem is yet, you know, you guys have moved 53 00:02:55,960 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: back and your wife will see her family more, so 54 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:03,080 Speaker 1: that might be a problem. I mean, you know, the 55 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 1: cousin you talked with will be cool. She's moved on. 56 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 1: The other one, I don't know, the one where it 57 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: ended badly. She might be the one you have to 58 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 1: have some concerns about. But when she saw you, although 59 00:03:13,919 --> 00:03:17,239 Speaker 1: she wasn't shocked, she still didn't say anything. So I 60 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: just see it as you have two options. You can 61 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: keep your mouth shut, not like you don't know, you know, 62 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: know these women like like you did for the birthday, 63 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: the drive by birthday. Or you can come clean and 64 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 1: tell your wife everything. Those are your two options. I 65 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: know Steve is going to disagree with telling her everything. 66 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:37,120 Speaker 1: I know you are, but I mean you have truth 67 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: on your side. You have the truth on your side 68 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: because you didn't know anything, and yeah, he didn't know anything. 69 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: Time for it. It's always time for the truth. I 70 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: think it's always time for the truth. I think your wife, 71 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: I think your wife would rather it come from you, 72 00:03:55,240 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 1: if that's what you're concerned about. These two cousins spilling 73 00:03:57,880 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: the beans. You know, this is very close to home now, 74 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: she's with her family and stuff. So I mean, you know, 75 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:07,080 Speaker 1: I in this instance, because it's family and because they 76 00:04:07,240 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: might say something, I say, tell your wife, that's what 77 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: I say. Tell her what Hey man, I know the 78 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 1: Manley turn. I'm gonna it is now, Steve. Okay, now 79 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: listen to me, hey man, listen to me. Shirley gave 80 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,080 Speaker 1: a great answer. Don't don't go any here with this 81 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: to your wife, though, Do not walk this bag a 82 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:33,880 Speaker 1: hot ass trouble in there and lay it at your 83 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: wife's feet. Don't start nude, won't be nude. Why in 84 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 1: the hell would you go in here and say this? 85 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 1: There is no reason to say this. That's the only 86 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: thing I disagree about Sherley's answer Other than that, Shirley 87 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 1: had a great answer. But don't you take your ass 88 00:04:57,560 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: in there to your wife and brain this up, because 89 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:05,360 Speaker 1: what the first thing that's gonna do is signal to 90 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: her that you've been thinking about it. And I'll tell 91 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:13,720 Speaker 1: you the women. Why would you going and bring it up? 92 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:16,760 Speaker 1: You cannot go in there because Shirley says something. Shirley said, 93 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: you did nothing wrong and you didn't know and you 94 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: didn't talk. Shirley's right about that. I told you. I 95 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: agree with all the Shirley answer except going in tell 96 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:32,040 Speaker 1: your wife. What if going in tell your wife nothing. 97 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:37,799 Speaker 1: If they're going there and tell your wife first, your 98 00:05:37,839 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 1: first reaction gonna be that's who that is? What are 99 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: you kidding me? Let me see her. I don't even 100 00:05:52,120 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: remember her. Oh yeah, like that? Oh damn man, it 101 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: wasn't even man, it wasn't even not It wasn't even 102 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:11,880 Speaker 1: worth it. Man, You know that, don't bro don't go 103 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 1: in there and tell your wife. Do here? He was 104 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: ten years ago. It's okay. No, it's not okay. Do 105 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: not go in there with this boy. Listen to me, sir, 106 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: do not go intare and tell your wife is here 107 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,520 Speaker 1: being nervous. It's okay. I've been scared of a lot 108 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 1: of things in my life. Just stay scared, all right, 109 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:35,840 Speaker 1: Scared way better than guilty. We'll have heard two of 110 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up in twenty three minutes after the hour. 111 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry letter. Subject I've been with two of her cousins, 112 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: two of her cousins. And uh, we'll be back right 113 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:55,000 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening morning show. All right, Come on, Steve, 114 00:06:55,040 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is I've been 115 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: with two of her cousins. Well, this brother thirty six 116 00:07:03,680 --> 00:07:06,520 Speaker 1: years old, married to the love of his life. They 117 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: got four children. Now. Eight years ago he left home 118 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 1: and moved about four hours away, and that's when he 119 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 1: met his wife and started the family. And they were 120 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 1: from neighboring cities and they knew some of the same people, 121 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: and that's how they clicked. She grew up in a 122 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: close knit family, got lots of cousins, so there's no 123 00:07:27,760 --> 00:07:30,120 Speaker 1: way I could have ever met her entire family in 124 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: one visit. Well, we fell on some hard times and 125 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: the pandemic hits. So the white suggested that we moved 126 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: back to our hometown. He don't say where that is, 127 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 1: cause Chicago was too expensive. So they loaded up the 128 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: truck and they moved to Beverly Heels, that is swimming 129 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 1: Pool Movie Star where the next thing you know, old 130 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: Jens Milliad the kid folks said, Jack said this all 131 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: the place is to place you ought to be. So 132 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: they loaded up the truck and then to see what 133 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: she could see. So they moved out there to his 134 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: wife hometown. This is a great sitcom and the wife 135 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: is happy because she close to the family again. But 136 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:14,680 Speaker 1: he got big problem. During the holidays, they decided to 137 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: do a drive by party for the great grandma because 138 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:19,559 Speaker 1: you know it's COVID. You can't go around old ass 139 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: people because they they got most of them got pre 140 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: existing conditions. So it's a lot of drive by parties, 141 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:29,320 Speaker 1: congratulations and all that, you know, throwing you got to 142 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:34,840 Speaker 1: throw your gift up on the porch. Then let us 143 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:36,719 Speaker 1: sit out there in the cold for for the eight 144 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:40,600 Speaker 1: hour for your bringing in. Then, so they were driving 145 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 1: buying so instead of cowing because obviously she real old, 146 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 1: so she couldn't pick up half the bocket. It's hard 147 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: to throw a microL wave, you know, stuff like that. 148 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 1: You gotta get an old person to microwave because the 149 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 1: one they had was from seventy eight and is broke. 150 00:08:55,559 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: So with you anyway, Uh, they were doing drive by 151 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,839 Speaker 1: gifts and they drove by, and your grandmama was sitting 152 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: on the porch all dressed up, and a female was 153 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: on the sidewalk taking cars and gifts from people as 154 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 1: they drove by. When the woman walked up to her car, 155 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 1: his heart drop because he had met this girl ten 156 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 1: years ago and they messed around for a good while 157 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: and things ended badly. Well, she's my wife's cousin, and 158 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 1: body look on her face she was shocked too. Well. 159 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:32,920 Speaker 1: Later that day they went to dinner and a few 160 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:38,240 Speaker 1: different relatives showed up, and a woman, another woman that 161 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 1: he used to mess me it, was there too. She's 162 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: my wife's first cousin, and she caught him alone and 163 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,679 Speaker 1: said she knew I was married to a cousin, but 164 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:51,680 Speaker 1: she's moved on in his cool, my wife, don't suspect 165 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 1: the thing with either woman. But I'm so nervous. Now 166 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: what should I do? Shelly said. Shelly gave a great answer, 167 00:09:59,280 --> 00:10:01,640 Speaker 1: And then Sherley's that you should go and tell the wife. 168 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: Listen to me, boy, don't walk this. Don't walk your 169 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:08,400 Speaker 1: ass in there and and and lay at your white feet. 170 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: Sherley said. The reason you should tell hers because you 171 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: duck and wrong. That ain't how your wife gonna look 172 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:18,960 Speaker 1: at it. Don't you walk your ass in there and 173 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:23,680 Speaker 1: say nothing. Now, the one girl that said it's cool, 174 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:27,240 Speaker 1: she'd have moved on, bro, So why would you bring 175 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:30,440 Speaker 1: that up? But the other one, though it ended badly, 176 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: she might say something. That's the one. And if she 177 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:40,840 Speaker 1: says something, then you got to go. Hold she was 178 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: the one taking the gifts to your grandmama, scanny. Pay 179 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 1: little tension to her. Now. First of all, congratulations, bro, 180 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: because I gotta tell you so I know you didn't 181 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:54,960 Speaker 1: mad into a fine ass family. Obviously, everybody in your family, 182 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 1: all of you have slept with all the cousins. Grandmama's 183 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 1: sitting on the problem to have que two sistening up 184 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 1: on the point she's still holding. Congratulations, man, you're married 185 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:14,480 Speaker 1: into a beautiful family and you have had half on now, dog, 186 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 1: So congratulations for that. Yeah. Now, Shirley said, you should 187 00:11:20,160 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: go and just announce it. Bro, do not go in 188 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 1: there and tell this to this woman. Now, I know 189 00:11:26,280 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: you scared, he said, I'm nervous as hell. What should 190 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:32,679 Speaker 1: I do? Listen to me, son, you're thirty six years old. 191 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:35,680 Speaker 1: You take that thirty six and flip it. And that's 192 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: how old I am right now, sixty three. Do not 193 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:44,080 Speaker 1: take your stupid ass in there to this woman and 194 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: bring this up shit damn mouth, and let's leave it 195 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:54,960 Speaker 1: that way. The one that ended badly may not open 196 00:11:55,080 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 1: her damn mouth. Man, you ain't got time for this 197 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 1: right here. Don't say a damn fan. The wife is 198 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: seeing the family more now. I don't give a damn 199 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:14,280 Speaker 1: what she said. The other girl said it's cool, she 200 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,679 Speaker 1: had moved on. He just had to pray about the 201 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: one that broke up bad. But all this going on 202 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 1: in cant Let listen to me. All this is going 203 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:28,679 Speaker 1: in here because you're scared. Scared is way better than guilty. 204 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say it again. It is better to be 205 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:37,199 Speaker 1: scared than guilty. Shirley keeps saying, you didn't do nothing wrong. 206 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 1: So you just gonna sleep with everybody in my family. 207 00:12:40,840 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 1: You don't think you're fit hitting this dog every time? Okay, 208 00:12:45,280 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 1: so what did you see in her? So you're just 209 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: going through the family and then and then they gonna 210 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 1: tell each other and you're gonna be this, well, how 211 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:59,320 Speaker 1: many of us? He goes the grandmama, Lord Jesus, she's scared. 212 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:03,640 Speaker 1: He don't slat with all these babies, all right, thank you, 213 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: thank you. Running through Jackson on Today's Strawberry Letter, and 214 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:10,080 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey have them on Instagram and Facebook. Coming up, 215 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:15,400 Speaker 1: Junior with Sports Talk. Right, you're listening to the Stave 216 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:16,520 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.