Speaker 1: Hell I Suck At Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared
Speaker 1: and I Heart Radio podcast. Well, hello there, thank you
Speaker 1: for listening to this week's episode of Help I Suck
Speaker 1: At Dating. I don't know why I always do these
Speaker 1: lead ins. It's Dean Hungler, joined in studio by Jared Habon.
Speaker 1: What's going on. I'm currently taking off my sweater because
Speaker 1: it's pretty hot in here right now. Vanessa is taking
Speaker 1: a sick day today. Eastern is here as well, and
Speaker 1: Mark is nowhere to be found because who the heck
Speaker 1: knows why? Yeah, without Mark and Vanessa here, it kind
Speaker 1: of feels like mom and dad are a way and
Speaker 1: they left the kids to play. The lights in the
Speaker 1: studio are off. It's Dean Easton and Jared and it's
Speaker 1: something it just feels right about all of this. It
Speaker 1: just feels like when the cats away, the dogs will play.
Speaker 1: That's the way the saying goes, right, I think, So,
Speaker 1: I know the lights aren't on in the studio. Everything's
Speaker 1: just array. We're literally putting this podcast together five minutes before.
Speaker 1: It's think of It's like when you go, like when
Speaker 1: we were in high school and you're on summer vacation,
Speaker 1: but then for some and you go into the high
Speaker 1: school like yeah, and it's like it's empty and like
Speaker 1: all the lights are off, but like the natural light
Speaker 1: is flooding in and you're like, I shouldn't be here
Speaker 1: right now, but I'm here. It's the taboo factor, that's
Speaker 1: what it is. It's it's like, it's a crazy how
Speaker 1: went back in high school? You'd always talk about how
Speaker 1: you wanted to get out of high school. But like
Speaker 1: you said, during summer vacation, where would you go? Sometimes
Speaker 1: you go mess around with this you got Do you
Speaker 1: ever go on the roof of your school? Yeah? You
Speaker 1: were that troublemaker, dude. I never I was way too scared.
Speaker 1: I remember it was a big deal because we had
Speaker 1: three separate buildings for our elementary, middle, and high school.
Speaker 1: And when I was in I was in middle school
Speaker 1: and I went on the high school roof and I
Speaker 1: was like, I've got all three school roots. Watch out world.
Speaker 1: It was. I was way too scary. I played football
Speaker 1: during school, so summer was mostly, you know, just practices,
Speaker 1: training camp, all that good stuff. And I remember seeing
Speaker 1: kids all the time on the rooftop and thinking they're
Speaker 1: gonna get in so much trouble, So, Dean, somebody on
Speaker 1: the Facebook group actually tagged you, and I wanted to
Speaker 1: talk to you about this because I'm a little concerned
Speaker 1: about your mental stability after this article is being released,
Speaker 1: so it says hot for hot does Texas doctors worn
Speaker 1: to lay off the spicy snacks after spike in ulcers? Dean,
Speaker 1: do you know what's funny is I I think I
Speaker 1: need to be the brand spokesperson for hot Cheeses. How
Speaker 1: many times a day do you get tagged and something
Speaker 1: about hot Cheetos? A dozen? And you want to know
Speaker 1: what's funny is because last year, Um, after going on
Speaker 1: the Bachelorette and after my affinity for hot Cheetos came
Speaker 1: to surface and everyone started to know about it, I
Speaker 1: started to see more hot cheetoh centric foods and I'm
Speaker 1: claiming responsibility for that. People were basing their turkeys and
Speaker 1: hot cheeto crust. People are making hot cheeto pop up restaurants,
Speaker 1: And part of me thinks that it's because of me,
Speaker 1: because every tall because everyone started talk about hot Cheetos
Speaker 1: as soon as I came off the Bachelorette and it
Speaker 1: professed my love for hot cheets publicly what's the what's
Speaker 1: the name of the guy that the Cheeto guy? He's
Speaker 1: a Hispanic janitor? Right? Oh? No? Um? Why Chester? Chester,
Speaker 1: Chester the Cheetah Hispanic? Oh I didn't know that backstory? Well,
Speaker 1: I meant cheater Cheaters is a Chester, the Chester Jesus Chess,
Speaker 1: the cheese Cheetah. So you're just claiming now that you
Speaker 1: should replace Chester. I would love to replace Chester. I
Speaker 1: can totally see that. Spokesperson. You could be the Hot Cheetah.
Speaker 1: Hot Cheetahs don't have anything. That's a good point. And
Speaker 1: Chester just came out with a pretty cool rap because
Speaker 1: Doritos copied their flame and hot flavor, and so Chester
Speaker 1: came out with a disc track for Doritos. It's pretty good. Well,
Speaker 1: the question is can you wrap? Can you be like
Speaker 1: the Hot Cheeto Chester of rap? You're you're messing all
Speaker 1: your chise up. Um I could. I'm not gonna freestyle,
Speaker 1: but if you if you give me some time to
Speaker 1: prepare a rap, how about next week's episode, I'll prepare
Speaker 1: a Hot Cheetos wrap and that will be your audition
Speaker 1: tape for the sprokesperson for Hot Cheetos. But it's funny
Speaker 1: because I don't even like, Okay, I eat a lot
Speaker 1: of hot cheos, but I don't eat as much as
Speaker 1: people like. People think I'm having them for breakfast, lunch,
Speaker 1: and dinner when reality, I'm having like a bag of
Speaker 1: week that's still a big bag or a little snack
Speaker 1: little bag of lime hot cheetos, like a bag that
Speaker 1: you buy the grocery store for say a party, or
Speaker 1: like a snack size that you bring to your personal size.
Speaker 1: And then that little nothing, that little can't be the
Speaker 1: spokesperson for this cheetoh if you have a snack sized
Speaker 1: bag all week, but you're gonna make me eat it
Speaker 1: for a breakfast on Engineer, then that little zan guy
Speaker 1: he goes to the hospital for ulcers speak he ate
Speaker 1: too many hot Cheetahs and he had to go to
Speaker 1: the hospital for it. And who is like stupid, little
Speaker 1: most obnoxious looking Zane right, and you're thinking of his
Speaker 1: Zane from one direction, Google little Inn. You're gonna look
Speaker 1: at him and you're gonna be how do you spell
Speaker 1: his name? L I l x A N. Is that
Speaker 1: how he spelled? Little? Anyways, when he went to the hospital,
Speaker 1: people kept tagging me like do you if you don't
Speaker 1: change your ways, you're gonna end up in the hospital
Speaker 1: like little zan did. And I'm like, come on, I
Speaker 1: I consume responsibly. Yeah, there's a CNN article says little
Speaker 1: Zane can't stay away from flaming hot cheetos. Z all right,
Speaker 1: like zan X got you got you got? Yeah, he
Speaker 1: was taken to the hospital. That's what it's based off of. Well,
Speaker 1: he also said he says, I guess I too many
Speaker 1: hot cheetos and it ripped something in my stomach. Well,
Speaker 1: I will say, and I puked a little blood. This
Speaker 1: hasn't happened to me in my adult life, but as
Speaker 1: a kid, I may be consumed more frequently than in now,
Speaker 1: and my digestive system wasn't well equipped enough to handle it,
Speaker 1: and so my bm my bms were pretty bad, Like
Speaker 1: they were pretty red and they were pretty hot. Um
Speaker 1: my body. I think I think has since maybe adjusted
Speaker 1: and can handle it now. But back when I was,
Speaker 1: you know, ten years old to sixteen years old, it
Speaker 1: was there was some pretty brutal times. Would you say
Speaker 1: Cheetos is your favorite food? Like, for example, if you
Speaker 1: were stuck in an island and you had one food, No,
Speaker 1: because there's not enough nutritional value coming from a cheeto.
Speaker 1: But I will say whenever anyone asks, you know, it's
Speaker 1: a pretty common question. It's like, what's your favorite food.
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever once thought to answer hot cheetos.
Speaker 1: I always think it's more of like a meal, like
Speaker 1: a pizza or hot wings or something like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would never think of answering it with a snack totally.
Speaker 1: It would always be pizza or tacos or something along
Speaker 1: those lines. That's actually a meal. Spaghetti is very specific,
Speaker 1: not pasta. No no, no no, no, no no no no. And
Speaker 1: you know what, penney, you can throw penne out. I
Speaker 1: want spaghetti and I like penney. I hate elbow noodles. Well,
Speaker 1: I can't stand elbow What if you haven't? Have you
Speaker 1: ever had macaroni salad. I've had macaroni salad. I had
Speaker 1: macaroni and cheese, of course, with the elbow noodles, and
Speaker 1: I like macaroni with shells. Yeah, I like macaroni better
Speaker 1: with shells as well. The elbow noodles, though, it's far
Speaker 1: better for pasta Saladyterally, I'm about to puke because I'm
Speaker 1: thinking of elbow noodles. They're so bad. The noodle to
Speaker 1: to to sauce ratio just doesn't make sense for me.
Speaker 1: With the elbows, the shape, they always fall off your fork.
Speaker 1: You can't even you can't poke them with the fork,
Speaker 1: and you can't scoop them with the fork. See, I disagree.
Speaker 1: I find that it's easier to eat the elbow noodles
Speaker 1: because they have the open ends on slide and open.
Speaker 1: But sometimes when I get the fork in there, and
Speaker 1: sometimes if I don't get a pasta, like if I
Speaker 1: stab it, sometimes the fork will slide into the noodles
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, I have like three noodles
Speaker 1: on my fork, and I'm like, Jack Pott, this didn't
Speaker 1: even take any effort. I don't know, man, you we
Speaker 1: need to talk about this more. Anyways, we just had well, yeah,
Speaker 1: I got our first guests of the day walk in
Speaker 1: and and I wish you guys could see what we're
Speaker 1: seeing right now, because it's fantastic. It's a very busy
Speaker 1: studio right now. I saw them. I saw them as
Speaker 1: I was walking into the studio and I saw them
Speaker 1: from behind, and I immediately knew that they were our
Speaker 1: guests today because it is two sets of identical twins
Speaker 1: and they both married. They're significant identical two pairs of
Speaker 1: identical twins that are married, which is kind of incredible.
Speaker 1: And I haven't have a laundry list of questions that
Speaker 1: I'm racking up in my head right now. Well, let's
Speaker 1: introduce our our guests. We have identical twin sisters, Brittany
Speaker 1: and Brianna Deanne Oh my god, okay, deanogi telling them
Speaker 1: the story that there was a girl in high school
Speaker 1: that I went to to high school with and her
Speaker 1: last name was Dean, and I always told her. I
Speaker 1: was like, if we get married, I'm taking your last
Speaker 1: name so I could be Dean Dean. Yes, well there,
Speaker 1: your last name is spelt with any at the end.
Speaker 1: You're drop the Obviously we don't have to worry about it,
Speaker 1: but you know, and then we have their significant other's,
Speaker 1: their husband, their twin brothers, Joshua and Jeremy Saliers. That's right,
Speaker 1: Sally did it? Oh yeah, well you know I got
Speaker 1: one of two of the last names. Right. Well, thank
Speaker 1: you guys for joining us today. We really appreciate you
Speaker 1: guys are all wearing the same thing too. Well that
Speaker 1: not all four about the two sisters who wearing the
Speaker 1: same thing. That's what I was talking about when I
Speaker 1: saw them from behind, because um, Brianne and Brittany are
Speaker 1: both wearing yellow jackets, and then Joshua and Jeremy are
Speaker 1: both wearing great blazers, and like Matt, it's just it's
Speaker 1: it's perfect, that really is in every single way. You
Speaker 1: guys both have the square pocket. And you guys have
Speaker 1: read it again. I was gonna ask you this earlier.
Speaker 1: How common is it for identical twins to have annunciated
Speaker 1: first names. They're not annunciated um um, alliterative. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: very common. Yes. So when we go to the Twins Festival,
Speaker 1: which is actually where the four of us met, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to interrupt you. The Twins Festival you didn't
Speaker 1: hear about. Right, Well, let's put in let's put everything
Speaker 1: in perspective. So you guys have a show coming out
Speaker 1: on TLC and that airs Monday night. Correct twin Wedding,
Speaker 1: Twin Sane, Wedding in the Membrane, Twin Sane in the Membrane,
Speaker 1: Vint even Saine would have a run for his money. Um.
Speaker 1: So you guys have this show coming out now, you
Speaker 1: are already married, yes, and this is awesome, And you
Speaker 1: guys are documented. You documented your wedding, and when was
Speaker 1: you It was two thousand eighteen. When did you guys
Speaker 1: get married? August four? August four? Congratulations, thanks so much.
Speaker 1: We actually got married in Twinsburg, which is a real
Speaker 1: place and it's in Ohio and every August, twins and
Speaker 1: multiples take over that city. So that's why we chose
Speaker 1: to have our wedding. Then the exactly, so what what
Speaker 1: year did you guys meet? The previous year? Next year,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Babies that year? Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: that's could be great and you could have the twins
Speaker 1: Sane Wedding Part two, Babies Edition, twins Edition, because if
Speaker 1: you guys so, Actually, the question is do you guys
Speaker 1: have more I'm thinking ahead here. Is there a more
Speaker 1: likelihood to have twins? There must be we know that
Speaker 1: fraternal twins. That's right. So all of us were identical twins,
Speaker 1: were mirror image identical twins. But there's got to be
Speaker 1: I think a little bit more of a chance that
Speaker 1: will have identical twins. But identical twins are kind of
Speaker 1: a fluke of nature. I guess read the fraternals who
Speaker 1: running the family. But everybody basically has the same chance
Speaker 1: of having an identical twin. But there's got there's got
Speaker 1: that will happen. When you guys met. Did you guys
Speaker 1: meet each other at the same time, or did one
Speaker 1: of you show interest in the other first, We've all
Speaker 1: met at the exact same moment. Okay, hold on before
Speaker 1: we move any further, can I just okay? So, Joshua
Speaker 1: and Jeremy, Joshua, It's very nice to be you. I'm
Speaker 1: Jared great, Janet is all around, and then Brittany, Brittney,
Speaker 1: Brittany and Brina Brianna. Excuse me, I'm so sorry, Joshua, Jeremy, Jeremy,
Speaker 1: and then Brittany and Joshua and Jared and Jared and
Speaker 1: Dean and Easton. Okay, so you guys met at the
Speaker 1: Twins Festival in Ohio. How did you hear of this
Speaker 1: twin festival? We had heard of this festival when we
Speaker 1: were little. Our our father told us about it, and
Speaker 1: it was this magical place we dreamed about going. Yeah,
Speaker 1: pre internet, it was this huge paper, huge story in
Speaker 1: the paper, and I remember we always wanted to go.
Speaker 1: We said we would and we started going. Gosh, maybe
Speaker 1: two thousand eleven and I have been going. Does an
Speaker 1: annual thing for you guys? You go to our only
Speaker 1: twins allowed at the festival? No, no, no, everybody can come. Anybody.
Speaker 1: I'm going next year. What's on the year? Is it first?
Speaker 1: The first weekend of August? Nothing like a beautiful August
Speaker 1: day in Ohio. And it's in Ohio? What part of Ohio? Okay?
Speaker 1: Very nice? I can't believe it's a place called that
Speaker 1: where you guys at the Twin Festival where two sets
Speaker 1: of twins met and now we're married. That was like
Speaker 1: the holy That was like you know, when like all
Speaker 1: of the planets aligned together. I don't know what it's called,
Speaker 1: but that was that moment, Twinsburg twins getting married in
Speaker 1: Twinsburg where they met. So you guys have been going
Speaker 1: since two thousand and eleven, Jeremy and Joshua, how long
Speaker 1: have you guys been going? We met them on our
Speaker 1: first year, though, so we're so lucky. We told about
Speaker 1: the festival growing up, and we really didn't think too
Speaker 1: much about it. Then that year we just on a
Speaker 1: whim decided to to pack up and check out the
Speaker 1: Twins Festival in Twinsburg. Walk us through the initial encounter
Speaker 1: with each other. We had seen Josh and Jeremy earlier, like, wow,
Speaker 1: those guys are that's exactly right, and they were just
Speaker 1: in the sea of twins, right, so it's this huge
Speaker 1: gathering of twins. But we spotted them. They were this
Speaker 1: handsome visions round six four boys and we're not and
Speaker 1: so we we couldn't get to them fast enough. They
Speaker 1: were they were too fast for so we didn't get
Speaker 1: to introduce ourselves. Yeah, and then later is when we
Speaker 1: actually all the last night of the festival. Last night. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so the act Actually towards the end of the festival
Speaker 1: that year, we Brittany and I walked in to this
Speaker 1: conference center where a party was going on for all
Speaker 1: the twins, and Josh and Jeremy are coming down toward
Speaker 1: us from you know, the other side of the course leaving.
Speaker 1: We were on our way out of the festival entirely,
Speaker 1: We're getting ready to go home, so we almost missed them.
Speaker 1: So you guys, ladies exercise some very great patients there, right,
Speaker 1: because you saw initially you're like those guys, something about them,
Speaker 1: and then you waited into you met them later on,
Speaker 1: and then how did you so you just approached them
Speaker 1: and said, hi, we're so we were so excited because
Speaker 1: they came up and spoke with us. We had our
Speaker 1: eye on then throughout dude, we just we just never
Speaker 1: had the opportunity to talk to him, and really we
Speaker 1: just thought they were too beautiful for us and out
Speaker 1: of our league. We were just hoping. I think there
Speaker 1: are guys because it doesn't bring you back to like
Speaker 1: memories of being like seeing the girl across from the
Speaker 1: bar while you're still doing it. I guess, so it's different. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's a good thing, but just like that that awkwardness,
Speaker 1: but that excites you where you see someone you're like, Wow,
Speaker 1: they're really cute. I'd love to talk to him, and
Speaker 1: then hours go by, right, and then you kind of
Speaker 1: keep seeing them, and then finally like eight hours go
Speaker 1: by and like that's your moment, cause you're like, okay,
Speaker 1: it's now or never. And then you kind of cross
Speaker 1: paths and you're walking next to each other, like, oh, hey,
Speaker 1: how are you remember one time? This is so creepy.
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm a have been like nineteen or twenty,
Speaker 1: but there was a girl the gym that I was
Speaker 1: really attracted to, and I didn't know how to go
Speaker 1: up to her. I don't want to approach your girl
Speaker 1: at the gym, and so literally I was done with
Speaker 1: my workout, but she was still in the treadmill. So
Speaker 1: I just continued working out, like doing the dumbest thing
Speaker 1: for forty five minutes, just kind of like lingering by,
Speaker 1: and then she walked out. My whole plan was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I have an idea. When we're walking out, I'll hold
Speaker 1: the door for her. And that's my in right there,
Speaker 1: right easy. So of course what happens. I wait for
Speaker 1: like forty five minutes. I finally see her walking out,
Speaker 1: so I'm like walking next to her, hold the door opened,
Speaker 1: and she goes, thank you, and I was like, you're welcome,
Speaker 1: and walked to my car, and I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: such an idiot. I waited all of this time. I
Speaker 1: had my plan ready to go. It worked perfectly, and
Speaker 1: I just failed to execute it. So good good job
Speaker 1: for you guys and girls for like not failing at
Speaker 1: that moment. Yeah, they made it happen. And then they drove,
Speaker 1: which was a very big deal to us. They drove
Speaker 1: like seven hours to see us. This was a huge
Speaker 1: deal to me in Brittany that when driving and it
Speaker 1: was so you guys, you guys met, you guys talked,
Speaker 1: hit it off, exchange numbers, and then and then like
Speaker 1: the next weekend, you guys drove to see him seven
Speaker 1: hours there after, and then actually every every week after that,
Speaker 1: and we became inseparable and they just kept coming to
Speaker 1: see us and take us on dates and seven eight
Speaker 1: hours was nothing to them. Okay, So when you guys met,
Speaker 1: was there an instant like division of Okay, I'm interested
Speaker 1: in him, I'm interested in him? Or how did that work? Yes? Yes,
Speaker 1: it was exactly that. Um, you know, I was drawn
Speaker 1: to Brittany just immediately as Jeremy was to Brianna, and um,
Speaker 1: it was just immediate connection there, initial reading, and we
Speaker 1: talked to the group and as we progressed in the conversation,
Speaker 1: we split off and it was me and Brianna and
Speaker 1: Josh and Brittany, and it was just a natural connection.
Speaker 1: And we happened to be the older twins and they're
Speaker 1: the younger twins. Were actually carried off by birth order
Speaker 1: rated by five minutes. Also, I can tell you guys
Speaker 1: are much more mature. Um, so you guys are five
Speaker 1: minutes apart. So Jeremy and Joshuy your older one, yes,
Speaker 1: and sorry, Jeremy, you're the older one, Okay, I'm sure.
Speaker 1: And then Brianna, you are five minutes older than Brittany?
Speaker 1: Is that is it usually about five minutes? Is there
Speaker 1: an interesting time lapse that happens between twins? It varies
Speaker 1: very thirty seconds. We've heard hours and hours. Did you
Speaker 1: imagine being a mom and giving birth and be like,
Speaker 1: by the way, not you're not done yet, four or
Speaker 1: more hours before you do this all over? If I
Speaker 1: was the older twin, I would constantly, if I was
Speaker 1: like five minutes older, would constantly be texting my younger
Speaker 1: twin and be like when I was your age, like
Speaker 1: looking into the future. Yes, okay, great do you guys
Speaker 1: got married last year and we can finally watch it
Speaker 1: on Monday on TLC. That's amazing. So what made you
Speaker 1: decide to do this whole documentary? Really your wedding? I
Speaker 1: mean clearly because we're not, you know, blown away by
Speaker 1: anything over here right now used to publicizing our relationships.
Speaker 1: It's terrible kidding, this is still I'm still like, I'm
Speaker 1: still absolutely blown away. But yeah, what what was the
Speaker 1: whole process, like it started with the proposal, and um,
Speaker 1: we decided to post them at the same time. So
Speaker 1: we had this big elaborate proposal planned and uh and
Speaker 1: we're gonna be able to see that on this show. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well the proposal already already aeroin said edition. Yes, and
Speaker 1: so they might last year, right, And that's kind of
Speaker 1: where things took off. So Josh and Jeremy did this
Speaker 1: beautiful proposal. They had us trick Fate had us thinking
Speaker 1: that we were going to film a commercial to advertise
Speaker 1: this place called Twin Lakes. So we thought were gonna
Speaker 1: be in a commercial. Wait, that's in Colorado. It's in Virginia, Colorado.
Speaker 1: But anyway, the camera crew turned out to be when
Speaker 1: when the director said action for this commercial, it turned
Speaker 1: out to be inside it Asian and Josh and Jeremy
Speaker 1: both dropped to one knee and proposed that the whole
Speaker 1: thing was on camera. Did you did you propose first?
Speaker 1: Because you're older? Actually we did it exccultaneously. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: but'd be like, well, like all you're gonna to wait
Speaker 1: five minutes and so you can actually ask your proposal.
Speaker 1: We often will say thanks at the same time, just
Speaker 1: like they will. But we we really wanted to to
Speaker 1: you know, nail that. You know, we weren't going to
Speaker 1: get a second take on it or anthy. Do you
Speaker 1: guys ever confuse each other? Has that ever happened? Have
Speaker 1: you ever just gone up to Jeremy like, um, Joshua,
Speaker 1: have you seen like I'm your fiance? You know, like,
Speaker 1: here's the thing. We all look alike, right, I mean
Speaker 1: we look alike, so I don't see the resemblance, you know,
Speaker 1: like from behind or from the side. It happens, of
Speaker 1: course sometimes we I think that josh and Jeremy looked
Speaker 1: the most alike in the mornings. Okay, interesting on their
Speaker 1: hair and well I can see that. Oh and you
Speaker 1: guys both swoop it to the right. Yeah, never mind,
Speaker 1: similar hairstyles, looking good. And when we don't have on
Speaker 1: makeup and we're not done up, we look like So
Speaker 1: that is when that's like the danger zone. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: breakfast is the danger zone? Morning coffee watch out? Do
Speaker 1: you guys all live together? Yes, we all lived together
Speaker 1: under one roof? Wow? And how long have you lived
Speaker 1: together for? Sorry? We were for six made it easy
Speaker 1: for filmings. So we're still learned like we're still getting
Speaker 1: used to yeah, because I'm sure the girls have lived
Speaker 1: together for a while, right and the guys, A, yeah,
Speaker 1: we've always worked and lived together. We planned to continue
Speaker 1: doing that because we were not lived with each other
Speaker 1: at dis siblings. This is now we we're apart for
Speaker 1: maybe a year. I went out and got my own
Speaker 1: apartment and we lived separately, and we just didn't didn't
Speaker 1: like it sucks. So two of my really good friends
Speaker 1: are identical twins as well, and they went to separate colleges.
Speaker 1: One went to college in Colorado, w went to college
Speaker 1: in Washington, and they were like, those four years were
Speaker 1: so hard to bear from each other. That a five
Speaker 1: years Brittany and I did and it was really hard,
Speaker 1: and you know, you never get those years back, right,
Speaker 1: interest it's because it's something that obviously someone that doesn't
Speaker 1: have a twin wouldn't really be able to understand because
Speaker 1: you're just like, oh, it's just a sibling. But no,
Speaker 1: there's like a connection that you guys have that's a
Speaker 1: little bit deeper than a regular sibling would happen. It's insane.
Speaker 1: I mean, I had to learn how to do everything
Speaker 1: all over again by myself, right, So most people, like
Speaker 1: in kindergarten, they learned to walk into class by themselves,
Speaker 1: and that's something we never learned. So it wasn't until
Speaker 1: we separated, we were in our twenties that I learned
Speaker 1: to like walk into a grocery store or to school alone.
Speaker 1: That's that's Do you think that it's more of a
Speaker 1: genetic thing why you guys are so close or because,
Speaker 1: like you said, you did everything together growing up. I
Speaker 1: think it's both. But I think there is something to
Speaker 1: the genetic thing. You just are born with this esoteric,
Speaker 1: just very strong bond. Um I do you finish each
Speaker 1: other's sensences or do you have like a certain like
Speaker 1: do you know when like, for example, Brittany, do you
Speaker 1: know when brand Is just is just hurting or sad
Speaker 1: or like even when she's not near, you're like something's wrong. Yes,
Speaker 1: I definitely know when something's wrong. And it's the same
Speaker 1: vice versa. I remember I had a pendicitis so I
Speaker 1: had to go get my appendix out and I was
Speaker 1: not with Brianna at the time, so terrible what he
Speaker 1: called me freaking out, like, oh my gosh, you're I
Speaker 1: can tell that you're so sick what is going on?
Speaker 1: So we definitely have that connection. It's like a quantum entanglement.
Speaker 1: You know, they can they can feel what's going on.
Speaker 1: And so are you guys once once you are you
Speaker 1: guys gonna plan you plan on having kids? Yes, I
Speaker 1: would tell me that process. Are we going to have
Speaker 1: the kids together at the same time? Hopefully? So, yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be ideal, right, would like to experience that
Speaker 1: aspect of the life together also, Um, so yeah, if
Speaker 1: we could make that happen, that would be that would
Speaker 1: be pretty awesome. And obviously it's a challenging to make
Speaker 1: that happen together. But you're as long as you guys
Speaker 1: have open communication, you should be fine. Did you say, well,
Speaker 1: we're trying to de stigmatized menstruation anyways, right, true, So
Speaker 1: so might as well just put it out there, put
Speaker 1: it out there for everybody in know. Um, what about
Speaker 1: like vacations and stuff? So as a couple's now so
Speaker 1: it's it's it's interesting because as the girls going up together,
Speaker 1: you guys were inseparable, right and then as the guys
Speaker 1: you were inseparable as well. But now as couples, are
Speaker 1: you inseparable or as couples, can you kind of go
Speaker 1: off and do your own thing without necessarily worrying about
Speaker 1: the other. Four of us are together a lot of
Speaker 1: the time, but we do split off sometimes into couples.
Speaker 1: You know, we went on, for example, a joint honeymoon.
Speaker 1: We all went to Prince Edward Islands for our honeymoon.
Speaker 1: Different rooms, right, different rooms. I don't know if you guys,
Speaker 1: You guys turn a lot of it as you're walking
Speaker 1: down the stairs. That's right, double takes um. So you're
Speaker 1: all living under one house, do you, guys? Isn't for me?
Speaker 1: I guess from an outsider, it looks like you guys
Speaker 1: are kind of all in on this together. I don't
Speaker 1: just sound weird like that, but it just it just
Speaker 1: seemed like this bond almost like you guys are going
Speaker 1: through this marriage, this this journey together. Would you agree
Speaker 1: or like the dean, like Dean said, is it is
Speaker 1: the individual couples where you guys are just kind of
Speaker 1: it's like person you married two people kind of Yeah.
Speaker 1: Jeremy said this, I think really great phrase that kind
Speaker 1: of summed it up that we weren't looking for the one,
Speaker 1: we were looking for the ones because we do we
Speaker 1: feel it's funny. It's you know, we're twins looking for
Speaker 1: our double dose of prince charming. We found them and
Speaker 1: we are all for in it very much together. Were
Speaker 1: you guys looking for twins today? I think I read
Speaker 1: that somewhere right. That was the dream, that was our
Speaker 1: dream since we were a little girl, and the dream
Speaker 1: true identical twin princes. Absolutely, how about you guys? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that was definitely, uh, something that we had always thought
Speaker 1: was just going to be the only way that, uh,
Speaker 1: that we could get married is if we found our
Speaker 1: twins out there. And so we went to Wednesdays. You know,
Speaker 1: we didn't go there with that soul you know, um
Speaker 1: it was they're open to it. You wanted to self
Speaker 1: debtle the prophecy or something like that, right, and you know,
Speaker 1: we hit hit the jackpot first try, first time we went.
Speaker 1: So at the wedding then, which we'll see on TV,
Speaker 1: what was that like? You guys had the same wedding dress.
Speaker 1: We picked out. Identical gowns and tuxedos are a little
Speaker 1: bit easier to pick out. How about how about cakes?
Speaker 1: Was there one kick, two kicks? Same two kicks? That's
Speaker 1: a good question. Yes, And the theme was of our
Speaker 1: wedding was twice upon a time, so it was a
Speaker 1: double fairy tale. That's really cute. How's marriage life been,
Speaker 1: because you guys been married since August, so you're five
Speaker 1: five months in just about I don't know. I'm not
Speaker 1: good at math. That life is good. Life is life
Speaker 1: is twin saying, but in a good every other ever disagreements,
Speaker 1: either among the siblings or the couples. Sure, sure we
Speaker 1: have our moments, of course, but nothing we get along
Speaker 1: the brittany and to get along better, like Josh and
Speaker 1: Jeremy have made our relationship better. They've done the same
Speaker 1: thing for us. They've made us better twins. That makes sense, Well,
Speaker 1: it's we can understand our bond through them. We can
Speaker 1: see how they interact and and to share it you
Speaker 1: romantically and have my twin and they're twins. We it's
Speaker 1: just this um like the town that we're from. You know,
Speaker 1: we're we're kind of the twins in the area. You know,
Speaker 1: it's not twins around around right where, So we don't
Speaker 1: really get to see other twins interacting with each other
Speaker 1: or really understand our own relationship as compared to another
Speaker 1: set of twins. Alright, so we get to understand more
Speaker 1: about ourselves. It's like there's a strong foundation for understanding
Speaker 1: someone else before yet even never met them, right because
Speaker 1: they had gone through so much of what you've already
Speaker 1: gone through as a twin. Right, yeah, exactly. So what's
Speaker 1: next for you guys? Are you still living? You don't
Speaker 1: live in Ohio, that's just where the festival was, you,
Speaker 1: but in the Midwest. I would assume we all live
Speaker 1: in Virginia. Okay, Virginia, okay, part not too far from Richmond. Okay,
Speaker 1: so my fiance was raising grateful that's right. Yeah, what's
Speaker 1: next to you? Guys? Are going to stay in Virginia.
Speaker 1: I don't know if we're going to be making a
Speaker 1: move or not, but we big things coming were the things.
Speaker 1: We're hoping to be starting a business, the four of
Speaker 1: us together soon. We already to start our family. Yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe we can make that double pregnancy. Branna and I
Speaker 1: are thirty two. Okay, she started two in five minutes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: throw that in there and we're okay, great, Okay, Well
Speaker 1: what's this? What's this big business you guys are thinking about?
Speaker 1: That is that's something you guys are kind of keeping
Speaker 1: under apps for now. Sure, we plan to have an
Speaker 1: amazing wedding venue and boutique hotel that the four of
Speaker 1: us will run together. Branna and I are attorneys, and
Speaker 1: so we say, you know, we get divorced like a
Speaker 1: hundred times a year, and we want to get married
Speaker 1: a hundred times a year instead. That looks incredible even
Speaker 1: it out? Just come up with a net neutral uh
Speaker 1: end of the year, right? That makes sense? I feel
Speaker 1: you guys are like living the dream a little bit,
Speaker 1: because a lot of times in marriages are relationships, you
Speaker 1: become so close with that significant other that your best
Speaker 1: friend kind of gets left behind a little bit, and
Speaker 1: relationship change and friendships change. But not for you guys,
Speaker 1: because I'm assuming your best friend was your sibling. It
Speaker 1: sounds like for each respective um family. And so not
Speaker 1: only are you guys so close with your significant other now,
Speaker 1: but you're still able to keep that close relationship with
Speaker 1: your best friend that you've grown up and have all
Speaker 1: these experiences with exactly awesome. Thank you. I gotta talk
Speaker 1: to Ashley and and we gotta gotta figure something out here. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I live with my see you want to live together? Anyways?
Speaker 1: For the listeners out there that want to watch the
Speaker 1: Twin Saning Wedding. So you're gonna wake up, you're gonna
Speaker 1: listen to this podcast. And what you're gonna do when
Speaker 1: you go to bed or just get ready for bed
Speaker 1: is watch the Twin Sane Wedding on t LC. Um
Speaker 1: and watch this this magic unfold. That's what I'm going
Speaker 1: to be doing at least. Yeah, I'm super excited for
Speaker 1: you guys. And what else? So for the listeners out there, um,
Speaker 1: if they want to follow you on social is there
Speaker 1: anything else that they can do to follow your guy's journey?
Speaker 1: We use hashtag are twin Saying wedding? Okay and hashtag
Speaker 1: twins sell your twins? Yeah, yeah, that's pretty cool. That's amazing.
Speaker 1: You guys appreciate it. Thank you for coming in. Guys.
Speaker 1: This has been an incredible experience for all of us,
Speaker 1: I hope, so thank you for Yeah. We we'll be
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Speaker 1: you ask? Well? Because I asked because I care about
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Speaker 1: we're we're lucky that we're pretty easy. But man, sometimes
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Speaker 1: it out. Well, what do we think about the twins? Well,
Speaker 1: that was double the fun. If you asked me nice,
Speaker 1: they were awesome. They were so sweet, They're very sweet.
Speaker 1: They're there, they did everything right. But I'm still a
Speaker 1: little creeped out. Well, I wanted to ask, but I
Speaker 1: felt I didn't want to offend them if in previous relationships,
Speaker 1: if they were ever interested in the same person, because
Speaker 1: that's interesting to me. Two twins is gonna back in
Speaker 1: here and asking that's a good question. It is a
Speaker 1: good question. But they were talking so much about their
Speaker 1: wedding and engagement, and I was like, am I going
Speaker 1: to be really the jackass now? And it's like, all right, well,
Speaker 1: forget about the happiness you guys have right now, let's
Speaker 1: get into the nitty gritty of the fights that you
Speaker 1: guys had about Because imagine this, Dean, imagine um imagine
Speaker 1: Emily and Haley. Right, they're both identical, twins, both beautiful,
Speaker 1: they both like you. How do you? How do you
Speaker 1: deal with that situation? Because I mean if I if
Speaker 1: I was the point, because I would deal with it differently.
Speaker 1: If I was me, I'd be like, heck, yeah, let's go,
Speaker 1: let's let's do it all the way. Would you want
Speaker 1: a throuble not with just them? Would you do if
Speaker 1: you ever do a throuble with twins, not just Emily
Speaker 1: and Hanley, but twins in general? I sure, I mean
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think I do a throuble to
Speaker 1: begin with. But what's the different I mean, no, Actually,
Speaker 1: you know what, I wouldn't do a throuble with twins
Speaker 1: because there's what's the point of having a throuble if
Speaker 1: you're dating two of the same people. Granted, obviously twins
Speaker 1: aren't the same people. But if you want a little variety, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's all about you. You kind of go with the
Speaker 1: inverse of the first person to fulfill whatever the need
Speaker 1: is that you want to have a throuble or I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know what I'm saying. So what
Speaker 1: you're saying is, if you're in a throuble, you'd want
Speaker 1: one blonde and one brunette type thing. No, if I
Speaker 1: was in a throuble, I would want one blonde and
Speaker 1: I would want one Um, I don't know, Uh, what's
Speaker 1: what's the opposite of a blond? I was thinking, like
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I was gonna say like I
Speaker 1: was trying to go like creatively opposite and it just failed.
Speaker 1: That's okay, Well, you know, what are you gonna do?
Speaker 1: I think I'm excited to see their wedding. I'm gonna watch.
Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna watch. They were very they were very nice, Like,
Speaker 1: they were very nice. It is the only part that
Speaker 1: makes me not weirded out, but the idea of getting
Speaker 1: pregnant at the same time. So I was actually thinking
Speaker 1: that just as we were taking pictures, is what if
Speaker 1: one of the couples gets pregnant and the others unable to.
Speaker 1: I think that could lead to some sort of like
Speaker 1: depressive Well, of course, because that could cause issues. But
Speaker 1: even one of the guys when we were talking off air,
Speaker 1: said like, well, we hoped, you know, it works out,
Speaker 1: but you know, he said something along the lines of
Speaker 1: it's not in our control. Well, of course, what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: if one of the couples gets pregnant and the other
Speaker 1: one is unable to, I think the couple wasn't able
Speaker 1: to get pregnant is going to be even though a
Speaker 1: couple of guess pregnant, they're gonna be sad because they're
Speaker 1: gonna want their children to be brought up together. They're
Speaker 1: gonna want to go do the same experience together at
Speaker 1: the same time as they have their entire life. So
Speaker 1: it's like it's almost like they're setting themselves up for failure.
Speaker 1: But obviously, like you know, it's it's if they are
Speaker 1: able to pregn at the same time, then all it better,
Speaker 1: then it'll all work out. It's interesting there dynamic because
Speaker 1: the individualism of each relationship, it just doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: it's there. It does feel even when I was talking
Speaker 1: to them, it does feel my granted I met them
Speaker 1: for twenty minutes, it does feel like a big relationship.
Speaker 1: Not a bad thing because there is ups and down
Speaker 1: to that, right because you really have your best friend
Speaker 1: going through something very the same exact thing you're going through.
Speaker 1: Right now, you all live on to one house. What
Speaker 1: if you think one of them wants to get a divorce.
Speaker 1: Do you think that means that both of them have
Speaker 1: to get divorces? Like, you know, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know if one of them started to see if
Speaker 1: if josh is like, well, Brittany, yeah, she's just you know,
Speaker 1: it's not really going well, so I think I want
Speaker 1: to get separated. Does that mean Jeremy's like, oh, crap,
Speaker 1: I guess I have to do the same thing too. Well.
Speaker 1: It would create some serious awkwardness because they have done
Speaker 1: so much of this relationship together thus far that like, say,
Speaker 1: hold on, it was Jeremy and Arianna, it was Jeremy Brenna.
Speaker 1: To be honest, I sid no idea, it was Jeremy
Speaker 1: Browna and it was josh and Brittany. So if Joshua
Speaker 1: was like, hey, it's not working out with Brittany, We're
Speaker 1: going to get divorced, that does create a super awkwardness
Speaker 1: because his best friend Joshua is still married to Brianna
Speaker 1: and they're living under the same house. Would that mean
Speaker 1: that Brittany would have to move out too? Because did
Speaker 1: you ever have you I'm sure you wanted Entourage? Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: there's a there's an episode where Ari or this he
Speaker 1: has an employee who's a twin and his employee comes
Speaker 1: in complaining about how his twin brother slept with his wife.
Speaker 1: Do you remember that episode? I don't. I couldn't stop
Speaker 1: thinking about it when we were doing that. So Ari
Speaker 1: has a friend that's a twin So Ari, one of
Speaker 1: Ori has two employees and their twin brothers. And one
Speaker 1: of those twin brothers has a wife, and that wife
Speaker 1: slept with her husband's brother. Yeah, twinn, Yeah, that's cheating,
Speaker 1: cheating on on his identical twin brother. Yeah, but did
Speaker 1: she know in the show? Did she know that it
Speaker 1: was the other brother? That's what Ari asked, because he's
Speaker 1: like that this episode. Now, yes, yes, Stitchy cheat on
Speaker 1: you with you? Or did she cheat on you with him?
Speaker 1: It was the question she knowing the cheat that's the problem. Like,
Speaker 1: for example, what if, like the twin brother was just
Speaker 1: an one was like, I'm gonna see if I could
Speaker 1: pull one off, kind of like me myself and Irene.
Speaker 1: I don't know it. Granted, this a little different because
Speaker 1: it was a I know it was schizophrenic, but technically
Speaker 1: he was like two different people, and Hank, who was
Speaker 1: the bad one over, pulled one over and just pretending
Speaker 1: he was the other guy. Irene, why am I beeeing
Speaker 1: like I had sex last night? Every week time? That
Speaker 1: that movie is so under rated. That was nobody talks
Speaker 1: about that about being Jim Carrey is one of his
Speaker 1: funniest movies, and it might be his funniest movie. That
Speaker 1: was the second movie I ever saw in theaters with
Speaker 1: my mom. You saw that with your mom? I was
Speaker 1: like ten years old. Oh god, So that's a horrible
Speaker 1: special place in my art. That is one of the
Speaker 1: dirtiest movies I can remember. There's an F word every
Speaker 1: other My mom was a badass. She's like, let's go
Speaker 1: see this good for you? That's amazing. Anyway, Well, that
Speaker 1: was a very interesting segment and I'm very fascinated to
Speaker 1: watch Monday Night. But we also have Tore in studio here. Hi, guys,
Speaker 1: Hey to you guys have heard from Tory in the past.
Speaker 1: She's a producer on the podcast. She likes to hide
Speaker 1: in the shadows, but sometimes we were able to coox
Speaker 1: her into coming onto the air. Sometimes she chimes in
Speaker 1: from time to time, but it's mostly when Venice is
Speaker 1: out here because we just need we need that female
Speaker 1: not only female perspective, But we just need somebody to really,
Speaker 1: you know, rain us in. Sometimes sometimes Dean and I
Speaker 1: can get a little crazy and sleeping paid double time
Speaker 1: to be honest, monitoring you guys, having to keep this.
Speaker 1: Mark's not here, Amy's not here, Vanessa is not here.
Speaker 1: You have to deal with me, Dean and Easton. If
Speaker 1: you picture like hurting kittens as that's like what I
Speaker 1: feel like. Are you calling us kittens? Really cute? We're dogs,
Speaker 1: That's what we are. We are We're animals, We're not kids.
Speaker 1: I like to think of myself as polar bear. I
Speaker 1: think Dean is a puppy actually spirit animal. A good
Speaker 1: one is California. Boy, it makes sense. Wait why I
Speaker 1: was saying that you're threatened by climate change just like
Speaker 1: polar bears are. Oh yeah, I hate climate change chemicals,
Speaker 1: that's why? Is that why you just don't use So
Speaker 1: you don't use chemicals because really you're like it hurts
Speaker 1: the polar bears. That's I think from your own so
Speaker 1: much as you can do in your life to reduce
Speaker 1: your carbon footprint, you should be doing it. So what
Speaker 1: do you do? Kind of cards question? What do you do? Pretty? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what I want to know polar bear. Um, I
Speaker 1: don't overuse. I use everything in moderation. Yeah, no, you're
Speaker 1: pretty good about the environment. My question is, though, why
Speaker 1: why is the polar bear your spirit animal? Um? I
Speaker 1: just love them. They're my number one favorite animal. I
Speaker 1: picture myself as one. They're they're powerful, but they're still loving,
Speaker 1: are they? Do you believe in reincarnation? I do not
Speaker 1: believe in reincarnation. So you don't think, like in a
Speaker 1: past life, you're a pull bear? Aren't polar bear is
Speaker 1: super aggressive? Well? Yeah, they're they're killing machines. How are they?
Speaker 1: Didn't you just say they're soft. I'm sure they're soft,
Speaker 1: Like physically, if you touch polar barrier, things really soft
Speaker 1: until it claws off your arm. Here's the thing with
Speaker 1: bears and any animal in general, like a So my
Speaker 1: five favorite animals go polar bear, lion, tiger, grizzly bear, wolf,
Speaker 1: and they're all alpha predators right essentially. I genuinely think
Speaker 1: that if I were to ever encounter any one of
Speaker 1: those five animals in the wild, I would be able
Speaker 1: to befriend it. And I don't like the grizzly man died.
Speaker 1: He died because he thought he could do this, and
Speaker 1: he died doing what he loved. But he died because
Speaker 1: he had this stupid idea. But he lived, he did.
Speaker 1: But then there was granted, apparently there was a bear
Speaker 1: who was just a bad bear and he knew this,
Speaker 1: like he had really bad vibes about him, or he
Speaker 1: did some aggressive behavior and that was the bear that
Speaker 1: ended up killing him. Yeah, and he but he was
Speaker 1: I wanted to prind that bear even more than the
Speaker 1: other bears. But I'm serious. I literally think that if
Speaker 1: I came across a bear in the wild, how would
Speaker 1: you do this? Do we have a pot of honey? No,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't coax it. I wouldn't do that. Like honestly,
Speaker 1: he doesn't have a plan. Think that we would have
Speaker 1: a mental connection that would go beyond words, and because
Speaker 1: of that connection, like the twin side, we would approach
Speaker 1: each other. We would walk up to each other calmly,
Speaker 1: knowing that neither of us is a threat to the other,
Speaker 1: and we would fully embrace each other with arms around.
Speaker 1: This actually makes me very nervous because Dean, you travel
Speaker 1: alone so much that I can just see you one
Speaker 1: time traveling and God knows where and You're in some
Speaker 1: sort of jungle with no service on your phone, thinking
Speaker 1: to yourself, I got this, I can do this. This
Speaker 1: is my moment, this is my spirit animal. A bear
Speaker 1: is in front of me. I am going to try
Speaker 1: the bear, but the bear would also be trying to
Speaker 1: hook me. Is the thing I wouldn't misread the situation.
Speaker 1: I know when to give. This is like a lot
Speaker 1: like your dating life. I feel like I don't misread that.
Speaker 1: You know the conversation and it's like, what's this title?
Speaker 1: I don't read anything. I'll be fine on paradise. Okay, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: I actually do want to know, Jared, what's your spirit animal?
Speaker 1: I actually haven't thought about what my spirit is. What's
Speaker 1: your favorite animal? My it's it's such a cliche, but
Speaker 1: of course it's a dog. No no, no no, no no, no,
Speaker 1: non domesticated, non domesticated favorite animal. American of you, so
Speaker 1: American of me. But I also it's the idea of flying.
Speaker 1: That's what really fascinates me. I guess I guess my
Speaker 1: favorite animal and an animal that I would want to
Speaker 1: be for a day would be different, because you're right,
Speaker 1: it would be cool to be a bird and fly
Speaker 1: through the air of course, can't change it. You already
Speaker 1: said you. I said, my favorite animals a polar beer.
Speaker 1: But if I could be any animal for a day
Speaker 1: that's different than your spirit animals, I agree. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. There is different, spared him. Yes, because I
Speaker 1: don't know what my spirit animal. That would be non domesticated,
Speaker 1: because I'm so domesticated as a human being. I'm such
Speaker 1: a homebody and I'm so white. Okay, okay, let's bring
Speaker 1: us back to dating. What would be a red flag
Speaker 1: spirit animal you would have if a girl at a
Speaker 1: dinner was like, You're like, hey, what's your spirit animals?
Speaker 1: Would be a red flag butterfly? Butterfly? They're so innocent, sweet,
Speaker 1: I know, but it just seems like a cliche answer
Speaker 1: to give. It is. But the I I've always believe
Speaker 1: cliches are there because they're just so popular. Like there's
Speaker 1: a reason why cliches a cliche, because they're just a
Speaker 1: particular But you know how anti informity I am, Like
Speaker 1: if someone I don't, I don't want to fit into
Speaker 1: the more you pull a bear? Did you guys see
Speaker 1: that news article about the jogger in Colorado? The guy
Speaker 1: was jogging through Colorado like a couple of days ago,
Speaker 1: and a mountain lion pounced on him from behind, and
Speaker 1: the guy killed the mountain lion ship and then walked
Speaker 1: to the hospital and got his his his bare hands.
Speaker 1: He choked a mountain lion out, And part of me
Speaker 1: is like, I think I could do that too. God,
Speaker 1: if the mountain lines was refusing to be my friend,
Speaker 1: which I don't think would happened, I think he would be.
Speaker 1: I think he'd want to be to be receptive, to
Speaker 1: be in my homie. He will be able to grab
Speaker 1: him by the throat and no, I have to save
Speaker 1: my own I mean, unless you were able to leave
Speaker 1: the situation so well, Because the idea of you going
Speaker 1: into a situation with a mountain lion thinking we're going
Speaker 1: to be best friends, fast forward four seconds later to
Speaker 1: you choking this thing out. I don't think you could
Speaker 1: change your mindset that quickly. The thing with the mountain
Speaker 1: lion is you don't see the mountain until it's already
Speaker 1: on top of you, you you know, because they're like experts
Speaker 1: at self. So what if you think this mountain lion
Speaker 1: is just trying to cuddle with you? It hurts no easy, No, no,
Speaker 1: just a little cudd of they don't bite, don't bite.
Speaker 1: And then he digs his teeth in and then I'm like,
Speaker 1: all right, you've gone to that's it. That's the moment
Speaker 1: right there. Did this jogger? Was he a badass in
Speaker 1: real life? Or did he just I don't think they've
Speaker 1: shared like so, no one knows who it is exactly,
Speaker 1: but they've shared the story. You know. Yeah, I'm curious
Speaker 1: if this guy had any type of military training or
Speaker 1: if he was a copp or some sort of because
Speaker 1: the idea of like a third grade teacher who's just
Speaker 1: going on a jog in the morning, no against nothing
Speaker 1: against third grade teachers. Let me put this, the idea
Speaker 1: of a reality TV choking on a mountain lion seems
Speaker 1: a little I mean I could do it, I'm telling
Speaker 1: you right now. But I mean that's pretty powerful. All right?
Speaker 1: Are we gone way off topic? Hold on? So did
Speaker 1: you are? You said butterflies? It was just the first
Speaker 1: because I love butterflies. Butterflies are my favorite insects by far. Why. Um,
Speaker 1: they're symbolic of angels. Uh, they're very they're super majestic. Actually,
Speaker 1: there's I'll tell a real story so are moths symbolic
Speaker 1: of demons? I don't know if it actually butterflies have
Speaker 1: like a really beautiful story. Yeah, I'm gonna share a
Speaker 1: story that's it's a real story that's happened to you personally.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take away from the joking aside for a second.
Speaker 1: So I have a tattoo on my back from my
Speaker 1: friend Hunter, who got hit by a truck when I
Speaker 1: was ten. I don't know if I've shared that with
Speaker 1: you ever. Yes, um, And five minutes before he got
Speaker 1: hit by a truck, I remember this like beautiful yellow
Speaker 1: monarch butterflyland. We were riding riding our bikes and we're
Speaker 1: like sitting there and this beautiful yellow monarch butterfly landed
Speaker 1: on the ground, and I remember he rolled his bike
Speaker 1: over onto intentionally and killed the butterfly. And he's like,
Speaker 1: look at me, and I killed this. But we're ten
Speaker 1: year olds, you know, like we're just like you don't
Speaker 1: think anything. We love chaos, so we're just like doing that.
Speaker 1: And I was like, and I remember it so distinctly.
Speaker 1: And then literally five minutes later is when he got
Speaker 1: hit by the trucks. So now I'm every time I
Speaker 1: see a butterfly fly by me, I'm like, that's my
Speaker 1: boy Hunter thinking of me. So I have his initials
Speaker 1: on my back. And then I've got a butterfly fly.
Speaker 1: That's sweet. So I love butterfly. So I feel girl
Speaker 1: said her spirited animals a butterfly. I like, she's probably
Speaker 1: the one butterfly has always been. Mo, is there a
Speaker 1: butterfly emoji? Oh? Yeah, you're going to be flooded with
Speaker 1: And anytime anyone says they have like a butterfly tattoo,
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, that's badass. I love it. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: a good step right there. Game had a butterfly tattoo
Speaker 1: on his face and he got it covered up by
Speaker 1: the Dodgers logo. So that was a mistake. You should
Speaker 1: have kept it. Did he say why he had a
Speaker 1: butterfly tattoo? He was in a gang called the Butterfly Yeah. Um,
Speaker 1: all right. So I think I don't know if there's
Speaker 1: a red flag for a spirit animal. If somebody said
Speaker 1: something like cockroach, yeah, I feel like I'd be more
Speaker 1: interested cockroach. Yeah. Like if somebody was like a cockroach,
Speaker 1: I feel like that is like one of the most
Speaker 1: hated and undeserving little characters on this earth. Well, sorry,
Speaker 1: that's true, but like why, like why would you want
Speaker 1: to be? Like people flush that down the toilet? Why.
Speaker 1: I'm kind of in trade with squirrels their planners because
Speaker 1: they store everything for winter. They got like they're on
Speaker 1: their games. Really hard to think of an animal that's
Speaker 1: not an insect. That's hard to justify. It's like, you
Speaker 1: can't really think of honey badger. Oh, I'm resilient, I'm
Speaker 1: strong and whatever. So you've thought about that, well, honey
Speaker 1: bad I was thinking, there's a the NFL player that's
Speaker 1: called the honey Badger because he's a badass. Yeah, um,
Speaker 1: what about catfish? Yeah? Fish would be interesting. You know.
Speaker 1: I used to be the manager of a van shoe store,
Speaker 1: and when I would interview people, I'd ask them, if
Speaker 1: you were a tree, what kind of tree would you be?
Speaker 1: That was very and sometimes the decision was entirely made
Speaker 1: on that answer, but a popular one. If a girl
Speaker 1: said a palm tree the door, yeah, I was you
Speaker 1: stole the words right out of my mind. Would you be? Oh, redwood? Good?
Speaker 1: I don't even think of that, but all long, thick,
Speaker 1: thickly like your body, strong, resilient, pleasing a woman, you
Speaker 1: know everything. I was thinking fern, but is a firm
Speaker 1: of plant, friends of plant, so wouldn't I was thinking
Speaker 1: oak tree. That was the first one, king of mind.
Speaker 1: All right, let's get back to dating for a few
Speaker 1: minutes before before we go away off topic with these trees. Here, Tori,
Speaker 1: the reason you're a girl, you're a woman. Thank you.
Speaker 1: You have three gentlemen in the studio right now. You
Speaker 1: have an engaged guy, a single guy, a married guy. Wow,
Speaker 1: so much has happening, so much knowledge with this within
Speaker 1: this one studio room. So my question to you, Tori,
Speaker 1: do you have any anything you want a guy's perspective on,
Speaker 1: because you can have three different threes for right here,
Speaker 1: just some relationship to who we just had on the show.
Speaker 1: What is a guy's obsession with twins? Why is that
Speaker 1: immediately so hot? Yeah? But don't you think that a
Speaker 1: twin sister is less likely to have a threesome with
Speaker 1: her sister? It's it's it's I never said guys are smart.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying is that a guy's dream. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying it's my dream, so please, but for most gentlemen
Speaker 1: out there, it's probably to sleep with two twins at
Speaker 1: the same So we've talked about this on the podcast before.
Speaker 1: I'm anti threesome, right, So I don't see the appeal
Speaker 1: of twins, but I guess to Jared's point, I could
Speaker 1: maybe see why a guy would be so like, I
Speaker 1: don't really get it, but anything, it kind of feels overwhelming. Well,
Speaker 1: it's also like, you know, the idea of a guy
Speaker 1: walking in with a woman on each side of him.
Speaker 1: You know, he walks into a club with a girl
Speaker 1: on his left arm and a girl on his right arm.
Speaker 1: You know, you it's a power move. It shows that
Speaker 1: you have swag, that you can get girls. And so
Speaker 1: the idea of dating twins sisters, it's kind of it's
Speaker 1: it's a power move, and there's also a taboo factor
Speaker 1: to it. I feel like that guys are very intrigued
Speaker 1: by dating sisters. Bro, you know, I hate I'm not
Speaker 1: saying I'm a fan. Yeah, I know you're not. I
Speaker 1: hate it, but yeah, I guess that's that's definitely a
Speaker 1: thing it makes So you don't like twins like you's no,
Speaker 1: I mean I'm not individually, but the idea of the
Speaker 1: dream of dating twins It's funny because I know so,
Speaker 1: like I said earlier, I have to two friends who
Speaker 1: are twins. They're guys, like I went to high school
Speaker 1: with them and they live in l A. But then
Speaker 1: there's also these two girls in l A that I've
Speaker 1: known for since I moved here, so like four years ago, um,
Speaker 1: who are identical twins, and they're both beautiful, and I
Speaker 1: had a big crush on one of them for like
Speaker 1: a like, you know, a few months, but I never
Speaker 1: even thought for a second about the other one. And
Speaker 1: I was like, what, why do I like that one
Speaker 1: more than that one? I don't know, it's a weird thing.
Speaker 1: Now I hear you. I understand where you're coming from.
Speaker 1: So there's like it's a I don't know, there's like
Speaker 1: a distinct difference for me having met both of them,
Speaker 1: to be like, Okay, I like this one more than
Speaker 1: that one. Um. Granted, they're both beautiful twins, but there's
Speaker 1: also a person. I mean, obviously there are twins are
Speaker 1: very similar, but I'm sure, uh they have individual personalities
Speaker 1: as well that come shining through that made them either
Speaker 1: more attractive or less attractive. I don't think these things
Speaker 1: really had much of a personality to shine through with
Speaker 1: but that I found out after a while. I actually
Speaker 1: have a question about this. But Eastern, I want to
Speaker 1: hear your thoughts. What is there a fascination dating twins?
Speaker 1: How long you been married? I've been married for a
Speaker 1: year and a half. And how long have you been
Speaker 1: dating your wife? Uh? Five years? So even I have
Speaker 1: a game for quite some time. Yeah yeah, but I
Speaker 1: I like hearing perspective of guys who have just you know,
Speaker 1: I mean I had a game for quite some time.
Speaker 1: I mean I I've told the story actually on this
Speaker 1: podcast before, but I I dated a fraternal twin and
Speaker 1: then I had sex with the other one. Uh. But
Speaker 1: not not my proudest moment, but I love that I
Speaker 1: did it. Who would have thought Easter? I know. And
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Wait, why is it not one of
Speaker 1: your proudest moments? I felt because I feel like a
Speaker 1: scumbag DNT because a little bit Yeah sure yeah yeah.
Speaker 1: So like what happened was I dated this girl who
Speaker 1: was my friend's older sister, I might add, uh, and
Speaker 1: we did it for like a year. We broke up. Uh,
Speaker 1: I stayed friends with the twin because we just will
Speaker 1: the three of us hung out all the time. And
Speaker 1: then the sister didn't want to speak to me anymore,
Speaker 1: but the twin and I still hung out, probably inappropriate,
Speaker 1: and then she started telling me she she she had
Speaker 1: the hearts for the Eman. Yeah, that was not turned
Speaker 1: anything down to that. That your nickname or did somebody
Speaker 1: give you that? So we gave it to me and okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll go with that story. That story. My mom called
Speaker 1: me Eman one time, so I called myself Eman every day,
Speaker 1: every every now and then we did. And then she
Speaker 1: said I want to date you. I want I'm interested
Speaker 1: in you, and I was thinking, like, I can't that
Speaker 1: would be I just felt like that would be too much,
Speaker 1: you know, like it would would like that would destroy
Speaker 1: things with you and your sister. Uh I, I couldn't be.
Speaker 1: The ability that us as humans give sex to destroy
Speaker 1: relationships is so prevalent, so real, it's and so interesting
Speaker 1: if we think about it, because if you're like, okay,
Speaker 1: sex can't happen with you because of the potential repercussions
Speaker 1: that will come from it, whether it's between the two
Speaker 1: of us, whether it's between our friends, whatever it's from
Speaker 1: It's like there are so many well there are a
Speaker 1: lot of good things that can come from sex, of course,
Speaker 1: but there's also so many bad things I could come
Speaker 1: from its wise, is what I'm talking about. Well, I'm
Speaker 1: not talking about finarial diseases specific part of the conversation
Speaker 1: that that aside. I'm talking about how it can destroy relationships,
Speaker 1: whether it's between the two people engaging, or whether it's
Speaker 1: between friends or or yes, sex changes things. Can I
Speaker 1: take this in a little bit of a different direction,
Speaker 1: ask because a question. Have you ever broken up with
Speaker 1: someone or called something off depending on where you were
Speaker 1: in the relationship status because the sex was bad? Yeah,
Speaker 1: Jared m M. Have you had a discussion to be like, hey,
Speaker 1: how can we make this better? We just like it's
Speaker 1: I'm thrown in the towel. It's a hard nor never
Speaker 1: has enjoyed every bit of sexy has. I think at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, some people are sexually compatible
Speaker 1: and some people aren't. And if compatible, it's sure you
Speaker 1: can make it better through through avenues like communication. But
Speaker 1: sometimes it's just unachievable to make it better. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I also think there there's a quote one time that
Speaker 1: somebody said women are attracted to the men they fall
Speaker 1: in love with and men fall in love with the
Speaker 1: women they're attracted to. Do you think that's true? I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't think I think there's I think
Speaker 1: there's Uh. I think it's a lot of it's true
Speaker 1: that so women fall in love with the man that
Speaker 1: they're I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that. Uh. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that makes sense to me because I think I can
Speaker 1: only come from a guy's perspective, because I am men
Speaker 1: learned to love the women they are try acted two
Speaker 1: women learn to become attracted to the man they fall
Speaker 1: in love with. Got I think that spakes because for guys,
Speaker 1: they like it or not. A lot of the first
Speaker 1: impression does come from physical appearance, right, physical attractive to
Speaker 1: visceral things, and beauty doesn't. Beauty is an eye beholder,
Speaker 1: right Like what I find beautiful is somebody else might not,
Speaker 1: but like for me, what I do find beautiful is
Speaker 1: usually the first thing I look at, right, like, whether
Speaker 1: it's on a dating app, whether it's at a bar.
Speaker 1: Like you know, I if I find somebody attractive, I
Speaker 1: will try to go talk to them in my single
Speaker 1: days not anymore. Um. And So I think it's interesting
Speaker 1: because I think a lot of relationships start with that,
Speaker 1: and then you'll try to figure out the other things
Speaker 1: as you go on to make it all work because
Speaker 1: you are so physically attracted this person and maybe the
Speaker 1: sex is so good. The challenging thing. The challenging thing
Speaker 1: about that, I feel like is do you ever take
Speaker 1: like economics in college where you have the supply and
Speaker 1: demand chart where the supply goes bottom left, top right,
Speaker 1: man goes top left to bottom right. Um, I feel
Speaker 1: like that could be similar for how men and women
Speaker 1: see relationships. A woman starts out not being attracted to
Speaker 1: a guy, but the ends ends up being really really
Speaker 1: in love with the guy at the end of it.
Speaker 1: The guy starts out being really really attracted to her
Speaker 1: and infatuated by here, and then over time that fades
Speaker 1: away and fades down, and so there's a there's uh
Speaker 1: an intersection at some point, But then they continue to
Speaker 1: trend in opposite directions because because like you said, guys
Speaker 1: fall in love with who they're attracted to. That attraction
Speaker 1: can change over time, of course, and then that love
Speaker 1: that they felt might change with it as well. But
Speaker 1: if a woman is basing her love off of uh
Speaker 1: like being around them and the feeling that she has
Speaker 1: and it consoling to get stronger. Well, hopefully the trend
Speaker 1: would continue, so they would meet at the middle and
Speaker 1: then just go together and then go together. That's the
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Speaker 1: So we want to talk about this new emoji. Actually
Speaker 1: that's the iPhone update. Also, I just got notified that
Speaker 1: they're updating the iPhone in general because the FaceTime issue. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know what's funny is that that came out and
Speaker 1: I received a couple of Facetimes for my friends, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know what you're doing, and I don't
Speaker 1: like it. You could, ha can You could call someone
Speaker 1: via FaceTime, answer for them, and then basically listen to
Speaker 1: their conversations without them knowing that you're listening. Hold on,
Speaker 1: say it again, you call into someone's phone FaceTime. Okay,
Speaker 1: So if I call you FaceTime, yep, and then you
Speaker 1: and I never answer it, but you can answer. You
Speaker 1: can make me answer from your phone and that way
Speaker 1: you can call the conversation that I'm having it's a glitch. Yeah. Um,
Speaker 1: that's good that they're fixing that. There's Uh, it's funny
Speaker 1: actually because with the twins here we talked about it
Speaker 1: for a very quick second. But there obviously they released
Speaker 1: new emojis all the time. Um, and with this new
Speaker 1: emoji release, they are releasing a red blood drop blit
Speaker 1: um emoji to join like the emoji lexicon, which is bringing,
Speaker 1: which is aiming, I guess, to destigmatize menstruation, And how
Speaker 1: do we feel about that as men? I'm very much
Speaker 1: I love menstruation. I think it's a beautiful process. I
Speaker 1: just feel like red red drop, that's gonna be just blood.
Speaker 1: I agree. I agree it's a bit ambiguous with the emoji.
Speaker 1: And like I've said before, I wish I could menstright
Speaker 1: because then I wouldn't have to need I wouldn't have
Speaker 1: to have calendars. I could just get rid of all
Speaker 1: my calendars. You just know what day it is, just
Speaker 1: through my cycle. Um. I think it's good to de
Speaker 1: stigmatize menstruation as a guy, like, we're not really prone
Speaker 1: to I guess having in our lives, right like unless
Speaker 1: you're married or you're a real relationship with someone you
Speaker 1: don't really like, I don't think about it on a
Speaker 1: regular basis. You're also not a female, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You don't go But I as a single man, and
Speaker 1: I have no connection with menstruation in my life whatsoever.
Speaker 1: So what Tori raised your him? Well, I was just
Speaker 1: going to ask because that is something I would honestly
Speaker 1: ask when you guys are, like, what do you want
Speaker 1: to know about guys? Like is it weird to be like, hey, sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm just on my period, like or whatever, Like is
Speaker 1: it gross you out? Like what is for me? I
Speaker 1: grew up in a locker room, and select for me,
Speaker 1: I'm always like you just you know, everything's like normal
Speaker 1: and you know it's not really Yeah, I want to
Speaker 1: ask that in a way where you guys can Like
Speaker 1: when I first heard about this, I was a little
Speaker 1: taken back, maybe because I'm unaware. I never thought there
Speaker 1: was really that much of a stigma. I don't know
Speaker 1: if there a menstruation either, But as so for me,
Speaker 1: you don't get grossed out like I'm a period. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, Okay, I got grossed out when I
Speaker 1: was fifteen, you know, a teenager, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's you bleed gross. I think as an adult, I
Speaker 1: think the human condition. I think the initiative here is
Speaker 1: because there seems to be a connection with menstruation that
Speaker 1: it's like Tori said, it's almost like people don't like
Speaker 1: talking about it because they feel like they're not allowed
Speaker 1: to talk about it, even though it's a part of
Speaker 1: a humanly process, bodily process that we that women go through.
Speaker 1: Of course, um, do women feel like they are they
Speaker 1: can't talk about it to other women or they can't
Speaker 1: talk about it to men. No, I think it's too
Speaker 1: men women and women were like, sorry, just on my
Speaker 1: period or like give a tamp on, Like everything is
Speaker 1: just like asking for lipstick or something from a person.
Speaker 1: Like it's very normal for us because we experience it.
Speaker 1: Were like course we get like there are horror but
Speaker 1: like hold on, So I'm confused, is this supposed to
Speaker 1: take away stigma of like you talking about your period
Speaker 1: to me? So there was this Instagram photo that happened
Speaker 1: probably about like a year ago now, and it was
Speaker 1: this girl laying in bed and there was like a
Speaker 1: blood spot and then it was reported and she had
Speaker 1: to end up taking it down, and um, so I
Speaker 1: think for that they're just kind of being like, we
Speaker 1: can post photos and there can be blood, there can
Speaker 1: be other situations informing that girls have periods, and it
Speaker 1: does have to be this like report or disgusting or
Speaker 1: seemed as like it's it should just be like normal
Speaker 1: in our culture because every girl has I I sort
Speaker 1: of disagree with that though, I'm not posting pictures on
Speaker 1: my Instagram with a should I start doing that? Like, sure,
Speaker 1: it's a natural bodily function, but you but that's sexual.
Speaker 1: It's aren't really sexy. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes you just
Speaker 1: wake up and like what the hell? No, there are
Speaker 1: many times or I'm not thinking about anything, like I'm
Speaker 1: not thinking about sex. I just you know, sometimes, especially
Speaker 1: in high school. Do you know how many times I've
Speaker 1: had to flip my up into my waistband and I
Speaker 1: know we have to bleep the word sorry. That's also
Speaker 1: high school, but you would flip it up in your
Speaker 1: waistband just so you would have to hide it from people.
Speaker 1: So you're saying kids in high school should just be
Speaker 1: walking with their with their tent fully pitched I'm not
Speaker 1: saying that because I don't think period is sexy, Like
Speaker 1: that's not like something that's like, oh, guess what I have,
Speaker 1: Like you know what, something where it's like we literally
Speaker 1: can't control, like sometimes you just like bleat so much,
Speaker 1: like it gets place. It's like it's not pretty. It's
Speaker 1: just kind of being like that's just what happens. It's
Speaker 1: part of being a girl, and it sucks. I'm I
Speaker 1: guess I'm I think that there's a line, there's a lot,
Speaker 1: there has to be somewhere. So you're saying you wouldn't
Speaker 1: appreciate like on your friend's feed having something like showing
Speaker 1: that she was like bleeding. I just don't think it's
Speaker 1: to announce. Yeah, there's no point in hiding it, of course,
Speaker 1: but there is an issue like what's up, I'm on
Speaker 1: my period? Check out my bloody crotch. I don't think
Speaker 1: that's entirely necessary because it's it's but then like like
Speaker 1: moms posting breastfeeding. See, but that's like that's just nature,
Speaker 1: Like it's just nature versus like the put puberty is
Speaker 1: very much part of nature. Right back to your original conversations,
Speaker 1: like sexual round like a girl like this hard who
Speaker 1: post a picture with her boobs out, You'd be like,
Speaker 1: we'll report that that's very sexual. But with a baby
Speaker 1: on your breast, it's natural. So it's like there's just
Speaker 1: kind of that level line of being like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: have a period. It's not sexy, but like it's just natural,
Speaker 1: like just kind of like there's a reason for there's
Speaker 1: just yeah, like yeah, but the idea too. Now we're
Speaker 1: stigmatizing sex. Wow, good strong rebuttal And so that's my
Speaker 1: only question, like what are we going to stigmatizing and
Speaker 1: what are we not going I just think we should
Speaker 1: swear and clothes. I'll just walk around even think the
Speaker 1: whole Adam and just let the Adam Levine thing. Right.
Speaker 1: There was like backlash about him taking off a shirt
Speaker 1: because people were saying, if he can show his nipple
Speaker 1: at the halftime show, why why was there a big fuss?
Speaker 1: Is an actual like yeah, because um, a lot of
Speaker 1: people were just wondering. But here's the thing that actually
Speaker 1: brings up a good question for me, because when when
Speaker 1: did it become socially acceptable for women not to show
Speaker 1: their booths? I know that sounds really um. I think
Speaker 1: it depends on what you believe in, because if they're
Speaker 1: like the Bible, it's from day one when Adam bit
Speaker 1: to that or when Eve bit to the apple, then
Speaker 1: shameful and then she covered herself up. But then if
Speaker 1: you go to like other places, it's like, well the
Speaker 1: cavemen put for over themselves, keep them warm, like it
Speaker 1: just kind of think it depends on what you believe
Speaker 1: in and where it all started. I agree. So my
Speaker 1: question is, if we bring it back to this whole
Speaker 1: period emoji, is where do we draw the line? Um.
Speaker 1: I don't want any female to feel uncomfortable talking about
Speaker 1: her period. It is a natural course of life. It's
Speaker 1: something that females will go through. I also don't want
Speaker 1: guys to feel uncomfortable talking about what they go through
Speaker 1: during puberty and like it's just hormones and females go
Speaker 1: through too, But we also know that it's just it's
Speaker 1: it's a hard thing to really know balance, right, because
Speaker 1: if if if we destigmatize periods, then what else are
Speaker 1: we going to destigmatize? And I'm saying we shouldn't or
Speaker 1: should but it's just a conversation to be had. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if ash's on our period, do you guys still pool around. Ah,
Speaker 1: that's a personal question. Well, I mean it's a hard personally.
Speaker 1: It doesn't stop me. It doesn't stop me and I
Speaker 1: We've had we've had many we we we've we've had
Speaker 1: we've talked about it, and and those conversations will stay
Speaker 1: private to what we do or what we don't do.
Speaker 1: But certainly I'm very comfortable talking about subjects like that,
Speaker 1: whether it be you know, intimate relationship while you're going
Speaker 1: through your period, or whether it is you know, just
Speaker 1: going through your period in general, and if I need
Speaker 1: to buy you things or things of that nature. The
Speaker 1: point is, I've been um as I'm sure most guys
Speaker 1: have been in the situation where you're getting intimate with
Speaker 1: someone and then the girl goes, oh, no, I feel bad,
Speaker 1: I'm on my period. Well maybe they're trying to stop
Speaker 1: it from happening. Maybe that's what it is. That's where
Speaker 1: my head went, certainly, like say it's your girlfriend or
Speaker 1: something like. It's not just like some random hookup, Like
Speaker 1: say it's your girlfriend, because that's typically when you would
Speaker 1: accounter that. I feel like a girl is almost ashamed
Speaker 1: to be like, oh, I'm on my period. I don't
Speaker 1: think we should do this for you're sick. But in
Speaker 1: my eyes, I'm like, I don't care, no exactly, but
Speaker 1: it's more of you know, it's it's it's a nice gesture.
Speaker 1: You know, they're just being mindful toys, right, Maybe they're
Speaker 1: just trying to be like, well, I'm gonna lie, that's
Speaker 1: where my head went. But I also hear the other side,
Speaker 1: like I like, I don't know, you're just kind of
Speaker 1: not like proud of it. You're not like this is happening.
Speaker 1: You're kind of like, hey, sorry, Like honestly, it's kind
Speaker 1: of messy. Well it's messy and also as I'm sure,
Speaker 1: god we're getting really graphic. But as a guy, you know,
Speaker 1: if you do involve yourself in relations while a girl
Speaker 1: is going through that time of her month, like it
Speaker 1: does you know it gets on you. Well that's fine.
Speaker 1: I think it's fine too. I'm fine with that, but
Speaker 1: I can understand why a female with actually I'm not
Speaker 1: sure if I feel comfidab. This is also another fun
Speaker 1: fact as a girlfriend, not even just a hook up.
Speaker 1: I mean in a relationship, we actually release I forget
Speaker 1: the scent on our period that makes us more attracted
Speaker 1: to men um I forget what it's called pero, maybe
Speaker 1: like a pheromone. I should probably have my facts before
Speaker 1: I present this to the table. But do you know
Speaker 1: we become more attractive to men through like there are pheromones.
Speaker 1: So it's actually funny. Is in this article about the emoji,
Speaker 1: the period emoji, they're saying with that release, they're also
Speaker 1: releasing a perfume. That's what it is. It's like and
Speaker 1: it makes guys. Well. It was actually kind of excited
Speaker 1: cause I was like, okay, so I am being accurate
Speaker 1: because I'm this is actually a thing. But you like
Speaker 1: release this pheromone and it becomes and it's like on
Speaker 1: your period, we become more attractive. There are two men.
Speaker 1: There are articles that have kill it when you know
Speaker 1: articles that have been written that say, as a guy,
Speaker 1: if you're going out to a bar, you should uh
Speaker 1: service yourself before you go out because you release the
Speaker 1: pheromone that women find attractive. I have never heard that before.
Speaker 1: I heard it before. Wikipedia doesn't Countia Street Journalist scripture.
Speaker 1: Oh and I'm confused. So you're saying that women release
Speaker 1: the scent that men can smell. Yes, it's like it's
Speaker 1: like subconscious, You're not like, oh, the smell just happened.
Speaker 1: It's like it's just yeah, exactly, like alright, a little weird,
Speaker 1: but yes, like you know, like it's something that happens consciously,
Speaker 1: almost in a round, because like you don't really smell
Speaker 1: the set, but it makes us more enticing to met
Speaker 1: on our period. And on the flip, the flip side
Speaker 1: of that is men servicing themselves before they go out,
Speaker 1: because women subconsciously pick up on something. There's a there's
Speaker 1: an article on the Independent. It's it's headlined when women
Speaker 1: are at their most fertile a time of the month,
Speaker 1: they smell better. And that really blows back down to
Speaker 1: the visceral things that we find attractive in women, like
Speaker 1: birthing hips, big butts, big boobs, for feeding their children,
Speaker 1: that we just don't even associate with each other anymore.
Speaker 1: Like I look at it because we've grown up. I
Speaker 1: look at a butt that's really nice, and I don't
Speaker 1: associate with it. Those are great birthing hips. I just like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what it isn't mean, I'm just like,
Speaker 1: that's a really nice but you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It's because we're comes so disconnected from these humanistic feelings
Speaker 1: that we just don't even know what to relate them
Speaker 1: back to. Actually the practical reasons. Why No, that's really
Speaker 1: interesting because it makes sense why are we attracted certain
Speaker 1: parts of the body and why are we not attracted?
Speaker 1: And then, if I'm sorry for the language, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say it again, it works with us mentally because then
Speaker 1: we stigmatize things like menstruation even though it's a thing
Speaker 1: that we are programmed and wired in our heads to
Speaker 1: be attracted to, and now we're stuck hiding it from
Speaker 1: each other. See this brings me into all types of
Speaker 1: conversations right now, because is there's, like you say, butts
Speaker 1: and and and all hips and birthing, and that's why
Speaker 1: we're like boobs boos, and that's why we're trying, you know,
Speaker 1: attract to those certain parts of the body, because it
Speaker 1: all goes back to human nature and birthing, but we
Speaker 1: don't even think of that. It makes me curious on
Speaker 1: the other side of why are we not attracted things
Speaker 1: like feet? Like why are foot fetishes? Why is there
Speaker 1: a stigma there? I'm curious if that relates to this
Speaker 1: not I'm just literally my mind is all over place now.
Speaker 1: But It's interesting, isn't it? Like? Why is there stigmature?
Speaker 1: Is that? Why are people? I wonder if there's something
Speaker 1: to do with human nature of maybe just the natural
Speaker 1: smell things, Why would someone be attracted to a foot
Speaker 1: more so than another person? I think it's what you're asking. Maybe,
Speaker 1: well you're saying, you're saying people are attracted to butts
Speaker 1: because subconsciously we don't even think about it. But it
Speaker 1: goes back to birthing, right for men to women. That's
Speaker 1: that across the board, right, men are attracted And obviously
Speaker 1: it's a blanket statement that applies the stereotype of the population.
Speaker 1: But we're just speaking. And then there's one foot fetishes
Speaker 1: exactly Why do you think that is? Maybe just like
Speaker 1: a mental misfired in your neurons? Yeah, but what if
Speaker 1: women gave birth from their feet? Do you think people
Speaker 1: more attracted? Well, yes, of course it interest So Freud
Speaker 1: claimed that foot fetishes start because feet resemble penises. Oh
Speaker 1: so you're saying, and it's similar to yeah, seen amos
Speaker 1: cared and the tiny man blah. For the listeners out there,
Speaker 1: they're very normal sized. Feed what's size about your normal twelve? Oh? Yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be good. I'm just kidding into that means
Speaker 1: nothing big. What were you going to say before that time?
Speaker 1: Are you proud of? Alright, let's stop talking about Dean's penis,
Speaker 1: we're talking about my feet. Do we have time for
Speaker 1: one email or should Yeah? I think we should do too.
Speaker 1: Let's do too all right? Um, Let's do anonymous because
Speaker 1: Anonymous sorrow is my favorites and they're all from anonymous. Actually,
Speaker 1: man annot loves our show email. Let's do the one
Speaker 1: that asked about my infertility issue. Yeah, let's do that one.
Speaker 1: You want to read it for us? Yes? Absolutely? It
Speaker 1: says I love that Dean brought up how he went
Speaker 1: to a fertility clinic because he was serned he was infertile.
Speaker 1: Would love for you guys to go more in depth
Speaker 1: on the male side of infertility issues. It's funny that
Speaker 1: this is It's funny that this is an email on
Speaker 1: today's podcast because we're talking so much about the subject. Right. Um.
Speaker 1: I think that there is a trade ingrained in all
Speaker 1: of us, whether we can identify it or not, that
Speaker 1: uh encourages us to procreate. And if there's any ever,
Speaker 1: if there's ever any doubt in our minds, that we
Speaker 1: have an inability to procreate. We start to focus on
Speaker 1: it and it becomes like a mental issue. Um. So
Speaker 1: for me personally, like I said, I was twenty four,
Speaker 1: had never had a pregnancy scare, and I've had friends
Speaker 1: that are like, oh yeah, like she was a couple
Speaker 1: of days later on her period. I never experienced that
Speaker 1: um with my long term girlfriend. Uh, never never had
Speaker 1: that issue. So I was like, maybe there's something wrong
Speaker 1: with me. And I ran through the process of like, okay,
Speaker 1: if Dean, if you're infertile and you come back and
Speaker 1: it says you can't have kids, because I want kids,
Speaker 1: like I want to have my own kids. I want
Speaker 1: to pass my genealogy on the next want to pass
Speaker 1: that size ten and to pass these little baby feed
Speaker 1: onto the next generation. And I was I started mentally
Speaker 1: preparing myself. I'm like, look, if you get these results
Speaker 1: back and they say that you can't have children, what's
Speaker 1: your next step of action going to be? What's your
Speaker 1: course of action. I've always wanted to adopt. I would
Speaker 1: have no issue adopting, but I want to have my
Speaker 1: blood in uh some offspring. So I was like, look,
Speaker 1: you'll just take your brother's sperm and have it artificially
Speaker 1: inseminated in your wife. Hopefully she'd be okay with that idea.
Speaker 1: But I just want your brother would be okay, Well
Speaker 1: that's the thing, and I would have to bring it
Speaker 1: up with him. I would have to make sure that,
Speaker 1: like I would be okay raising my brother's kid. Technically,
Speaker 1: there was like a lot of issues that I had
Speaker 1: to deal with. UM meant to mentally prepare myself for
Speaker 1: that situation, and it's not easy for for you know,
Speaker 1: obviously women you always wonder about, uh, you know, if
Speaker 1: you're going to be able to have children in your
Speaker 1: thirties or if you're if you can you know, even
Speaker 1: have a child. A lot of people aren't able to
Speaker 1: which is always very sad um, but you don't really
Speaker 1: think of it from the men's perspective. So for me
Speaker 1: to go to that fertility clinic and objectively be like, okay,
Speaker 1: my my swimmers are fine. What is the process entail,
Speaker 1: it's I mean, it's pretty much what you expect. You
Speaker 1: go into a cup and then you get a little magazine.
Speaker 1: You go in the room for you know, twenty seconds. Yeah,
Speaker 1: do you have to like wait for a phone call?
Speaker 1: Do they have a report for you are on a
Speaker 1: percentage like one out of ten. So they make you
Speaker 1: go twice. Um, you do it twice and how long
Speaker 1: I'll get really personal and intimate, So please do and
Speaker 1: probably over sure. I don't think I've ever shared the story,
Speaker 1: even with someone my closest friends. They So I was
Speaker 1: moving to Los Angeles and during the move, I knew
Speaker 1: that there was a clinic in Los Angeles that I
Speaker 1: wanted to get tested at, and so because of that,
Speaker 1: I was there a specific clinical It was just it
Speaker 1: was just like that was the one that I found, right,
Speaker 1: and so and as I was moving to l A,
Speaker 1: I was like, that's the place that I'm gonna go.
Speaker 1: The move took, you know, two or three weeks, And
Speaker 1: during those three weeks, I was like, look, you're not
Speaker 1: going to self service, You're not going to hook up
Speaker 1: with anyone. You're going to have the strongest, most potent
Speaker 1: uh sample you possibly can have. So I get there
Speaker 1: after three weeks of of of nothing, uh do it
Speaker 1: in the cup, right, and then they're like, Okay, we
Speaker 1: need you to come back in four days and supply
Speaker 1: a second sample, because that's just we we have two samples.
Speaker 1: You know, to kind of gauge consistency. And they're like
Speaker 1: they came back eventually and they're like, everything's fine, but
Speaker 1: I just want to let you know, for some reason,
Speaker 1: your first sample was a lot different than your second sample.
Speaker 1: And I was like, well, yeah, you told him it
Speaker 1: had been three weeks at that point. In a few
Speaker 1: days after, but it was like this weird thing they were.
Speaker 1: They were like they called me like super concerned. They're like, hey,
Speaker 1: I just want to tell you there was a big
Speaker 1: inconsistency with their samples. But what kind of inconsistency are
Speaker 1: we talking about? Like did you give them like our
Speaker 1: court The first time it was a lot, Like I said,
Speaker 1: this is a very interesting maybe like a two personal
Speaker 1: of a story, but it was a lot. And then
Speaker 1: the second one, I was just like I didn't care
Speaker 1: because I was like, Okay, they already got like my
Speaker 1: my best swimmers, like my strongest ones yea, so like um,
Speaker 1: and they're like they're they told me, they're like, everything's fine,
Speaker 1: but I just think that you should know that you're
Speaker 1: a little inconsistent. I was like, Okay, well that's fine
Speaker 1: because I know exactly why. That's why that is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what oh, because you didn't wait four days because once
Speaker 1: a lot. Okay, let's ask Eastern that I didn't was
Speaker 1: the last time you went three weeks list and I
Speaker 1: was just putting this story together three weeks. There was
Speaker 1: actually a time where I was this is um. I
Speaker 1: was kind of like in a long distance relationship. I
Speaker 1: didn't two months with yourself. You didn't had no urge
Speaker 1: to It was crazy. It was the first time where
Speaker 1: I really felt, you know, there's there's no urge to
Speaker 1: do it. There's actually the best. There are some studies
Speaker 1: again that are not on Wikipedia but actually published uh
Speaker 1: professionally whatever, academically. That's say if men are able to
Speaker 1: refrain from doing that, they're able to think more clearly,
Speaker 1: They're able to focus on more constructive things. I promise
Speaker 1: you I was still dumb as I was not George Costanza.
Speaker 1: I've read those. There's some people online to say, if
Speaker 1: you just don't do it, you'll be able to move
Speaker 1: things with your mind. Like, okay, it written by a
Speaker 1: woman just to be like Einstein wasn't specially just never masturbated.
Speaker 1: I think, um, So we'll do one more email and
Speaker 1: then wrap up another one from anonymous our favorite fan.
Speaker 1: I'll read this one, which one perfect my friend is
Speaker 1: crossing the line. It seems like I like the sexual
Speaker 1: the sexting one, but all right, do that? No, no,
Speaker 1: do that one. Then I was just going through whatever
Speaker 1: was in order to do what everyone like. So Anonymous says,
Speaker 1: because we haven't really talked about this. We've talked about
Speaker 1: it before, but not recently. The topic is is sexting cheating?
Speaker 1: And obviously the first response that is yes, Let's let's
Speaker 1: read the situation. My boyfriend and I have been together
Speaker 1: for almost three years and I just found out through
Speaker 1: and I just found out that he had sent dick
Speaker 1: picks to one of my friends and continue to do
Speaker 1: so for the first year of us living together. He's
Speaker 1: admitted to it messaging on porn sites as well, but
Speaker 1: never anything physical with anyone. He He says that he'll
Speaker 1: see a therapist to find out why he has a
Speaker 1: sexting urge when he feels physically and emotionally fulfilled in
Speaker 1: our relationship. What would you do in this situation, Well, one,
Speaker 1: I would dump him. Well, he says he's going to
Speaker 1: see a therapist. That's a start. You definitely want someone
Speaker 1: that's gonna work on their issues. But it sounds like
Speaker 1: he is giving a lot of people that aren't you
Speaker 1: his attention, and it's attention that will figuratively ultimately lead
Speaker 1: to sex, and that's a cheating. What if he's a
Speaker 1: sex addict? Do you believe in that? I know, do
Speaker 1: you believe in that? It doesn't seem like you do. Yeah, Tor,
Speaker 1: I literally just had this conversation with my friend last
Speaker 1: night and what was the Yes. Absolutely. I think there's
Speaker 1: a lot of forms of addiction. The celebrities that have
Speaker 1: come out recently claiming sex addiction. But then I also
Speaker 1: just feel like men wanted four seven, seven days a
Speaker 1: week whatever, Like is it? I think that you're just
Speaker 1: he was very impulsive, Like I don't know if that's
Speaker 1: a word I want to put addiction to. I think
Speaker 1: it's just impulsive. I don't know. I'm not a secondodict.
Speaker 1: Think it's just like anything in life, you know, where
Speaker 1: there are people that actually have an addiction and have
Speaker 1: an issue and they should go see therapist about it,
Speaker 1: and there's also people that used it as a cop out,
Speaker 1: you know, just like a lot of different areas of life.
Speaker 1: I think it's an easy way to be like like
Speaker 1: I remember I was cheating on high school and this
Speaker 1: guy he was like, we were both really drunk, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, yep, Like why is that a cop out?
Speaker 1: You know where it's like you chose to drink, you
Speaker 1: chose me in that way, obviously you're still well to
Speaker 1: do the act, so like you weren't that drunk. I
Speaker 1: think what's worse about claiming addiction is it's almost like
Speaker 1: you're turning around to make them feel sorry for you exactly.
Speaker 1: That's no, That's what I'm saying. It's like it's a
Speaker 1: head tilt response to be like, oh, I'm so sorry
Speaker 1: you can be addicted. But there's like a whole lying
Speaker 1: element to this and dishonesty, because like if he always
Speaker 1: winter and said, hey, I'm having these urges that I
Speaker 1: can't control, Like will you you know, I understand if
Speaker 1: you don't want to be with me anymore, but I'm
Speaker 1: going to try to get help for this. That's what
Speaker 1: he should have been. Instead he's like, I'm gonna send
Speaker 1: pictures of my joint to a lot of that totally.
Speaker 1: But in the email, she does say that he has
Speaker 1: admitted to messaging on porn. Sometimes it's not her friends, No, exactly,
Speaker 1: So those lies and there's so I'm sure that she
Speaker 1: came to him. I was like, what the excuse me?
Speaker 1: And then he was like, yep, I did do it,
Speaker 1: and I've done this. He does say he's trying to
Speaker 1: go see a therapist. Here's the thing about addictions that
Speaker 1: I always say is that addictions are real, and but
Speaker 1: you have to put effort in to try to solve them.
Speaker 1: Like you can't just be like, I'm an addict. There's
Speaker 1: nothing I can do, Like I tried, it didn't work.
Speaker 1: That's not good enough for me. I agree with you.
Speaker 1: But if somebody's like, hey, I'm a sex addict, but
Speaker 1: they go to therapy or they try to fix the
Speaker 1: issue and they get better, you know, that's a hard
Speaker 1: thing for me to really look down upon. I just
Speaker 1: my question is also for you guys, like, what's your
Speaker 1: opinion on this. A lot of people say, well, if
Speaker 1: you're an addict, that means so let's say you're an
Speaker 1: call like you're addicted to alcohol. You you literally don't
Speaker 1: have a drop of alcohol and you're sober. So is
Speaker 1: addict kind of the wrong term to use for being
Speaker 1: a sex addict because technically you can't go you could
Speaker 1: go your life without sex, but like brutal, but like
Speaker 1: especially for men. So I don't know. I'm like, is
Speaker 1: it just a wrong terminology. Is it just being like, hey,
Speaker 1: I am just kind of horning and like wanted it,
Speaker 1: or because an addict technically as you can't control indulge
Speaker 1: in it, like you can't indulge in it, you have
Speaker 1: you can, but like you're going to be sober, then
Speaker 1: you're like two years sober with no alcohol. You're right.
Speaker 1: Sex addiction would have to be like consuming your every thought.
Speaker 1: You're doing it at every given moment. You have the
Speaker 1: ability to I don't know, unable to stop in the
Speaker 1: face of like what dire consequence. That's that's what addiction
Speaker 1: is like, when you really feel compelled to compelled to
Speaker 1: do something in the in the face of negative repercussion,
Speaker 1: you still do it. You know what I want to
Speaker 1: talk about not right now but next podcast, because I
Speaker 1: think it would be an interesting segment because Tori, you
Speaker 1: said something, you said the idea of not having sex, right,
Speaker 1: and you said that's a big issue, like especially for men. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wonder who has more of a sex drive, women
Speaker 1: or men? Because I think the idea that men want
Speaker 1: to have sex more is a wives tale. It sounds
Speaker 1: like we're a great closer for tomorrow, I mean for
Speaker 1: next week's I think we should talk about that on
Speaker 1: next week's podcast. It sounds like actually wants to have
Speaker 1: a lot more sex than Jared does. Well, that's an
Speaker 1: inssumption that nobody was thinking. When can we just close
Speaker 1: out on what? What do you guys think about this guy? Oh?
Speaker 1: I think you should dump him. I think she should
Speaker 1: see if he if he goes to therapy and he
Speaker 1: actually gets better. I mean, I don't know. He did
Speaker 1: cheat on you, so you, honestly, you're on the right
Speaker 1: of the way. If you want to be patient and
Speaker 1: work on it with him and see if he gets better,
Speaker 1: if you love him that much, do it. Because if
Speaker 1: you it really blois down to if you love him
Speaker 1: that much and you're willing to see this through with him,
Speaker 1: because to be fair, I mean not to be fair,
Speaker 1: the guy was in the wrong, but it wasn't physical cheating.
Speaker 1: That doesn't make it better. Um. But if he works
Speaker 1: on it and she wants to, you know, work this
Speaker 1: out with him, no pun intended. UM, go with it.
Speaker 1: And if you want to break up with him because
Speaker 1: you're you're in the right. It sounds like to me
Speaker 1: is like this guy likes to seek the attention validation
Speaker 1: of other people, so it sounds like one person is
Speaker 1: just not gonna be enough for him right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: totally right. That's a good that's a good analogy, not analogy.
Speaker 1: Good hint, Thank you. I think it was as well.
Speaker 1: There's a great point. All right, Well that's our show today.
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Speaker 1: rambled a lot. I feel like I'm still getting some
Speaker 1: feedback that I'm talking too fast, So maybe just play
Speaker 1: it at like a point seven five. Yeah, maybe I
Speaker 1: think I I talked too fast too. That's a problem.
Speaker 1: We just get so excited and worked up about all
Speaker 1: these issues. Well, anytime I see you, I just I
Speaker 1: get so worked up and excited how I was talking
Speaker 1: to Easton? Okay, Um, anyways, thank you so much to
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