WEBVTT - Closure in the Comments 0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:06.440 Forever. Okay, So, for those of you who are just 0:00:06.480 --> 0:00:09.959 tuning in at the very beginning of the episode, everyone's 0:00:09.960 --> 0:00:12.680 wearing orange today except for Andrew. So if you're wearing 0:00:12.720 --> 0:00:16.599 orange patch yourself on the back, you made it. You 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:20.280 did it, kiddo, So proud of us. Andrew. Do you 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:21.480 own anything orange? 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:23.599 No? I don't own anything orange. 0:00:24.600 --> 0:00:27.200 Hmm, Well, I don't you know which your coloring. I 0:00:27.200 --> 0:00:28.639 don't know what it's gonna look like. I don't know 0:00:28.640 --> 0:00:29.280 what it's going to do. 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:32.440 Yeah, I don't know if it meshes well with the 0:00:32.560 --> 0:00:34.000 colors of your eyes, but. 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:37.080 Right I don't know if it pairs well with your undertones. 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:39.600 We have the same color eyes? 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:41.040 Who is the same color eyes? 0:00:41.479 --> 0:00:43.720 Don't we all have? We all have brown eyes. 0:00:44.360 --> 0:00:45.279 My eyes are hazel bin. 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:57.720 Marie does have a different shade of brown than everybody else. 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:00.000 I mean, the sun has to be directly in my eyes, 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:04.360 you see it. But it's a tiny bit less doodle 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:06.720 than doodle, you know. Yeah, It's so true. 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:11.600 And I love like I don't Sometimes I'm I'm scared 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:13.840 because I will look into your eyes when the sun 0:01:13.920 --> 0:01:16.000 is hitting you, and I'm like, am I in love 0:01:16.040 --> 0:01:16.320 with her? 0:01:19.600 --> 0:01:24.200 I mean you're dating somebody who does have like very 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:28.720 obviously light lighter eyes. So yeah, you're saying that when 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:30.200 you look into my eyes and the sun is shining, 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:32.640 it feels like home for you. Yeah. 0:01:32.840 --> 0:01:35.400 I'm not gonna lie, Mary. It's good eyes. You have 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:36.000 great eyes. 0:01:38.920 --> 0:01:43.880 Good eyes. Speaking of good eyes, we were on the 0:01:43.880 --> 0:01:49.880 phone earlier today talking about fillers. When I think of fillers, 0:01:50.000 --> 0:01:52.920 I think of Courtney Cock's oar cat. I don't even 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:56.160 know if she still go about our cat. But you know, 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.320 when people get too much fillers, their eyes kind of 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:00.960 like recede into their head and the rest of her 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:04.800 face gets really puffy. But I don't know. We saw 0:02:04.840 --> 0:02:07.560 somebody today who got filers done to black woman and 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:10.760 she looked good. So should I get fillers? 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:13.720 I don't even think she needed it, per se, not 0:02:14.720 --> 0:02:17.720 six hundred dollars worth of filler. But I did it 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.000 before dollars six hundred dollars. 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:21.679 She's oh wait, No, I was talking about the girl 0:02:21.680 --> 0:02:25.280 that Carolina sent us, the girl from Instagram. Oh I 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:25.640 don't know. 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:27.320 I don't at the end, I don't know how much 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:30.919 she paid. But it did look really good. It looked amazing, 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:36.520 and I really wanted. I was like fuck, because I 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:38.960 when I don't wear a makeup, I look fine, but 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:43.400 I can visibly see how tired I am. And if 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:46.040 you get fillers, you looked, you look more refreshed. 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:49.960 So fillers go under the eye, like if you have 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:53.880 like lines under your eye, or if you have like hyperpitmentation, 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:55.840 it like yes, set out, so it makes it look 0:02:55.960 --> 0:02:57.400 less dark. 0:02:57.480 --> 0:03:01.519 Yes, less dark. And also you lose elasticity in your 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:05.079 skin the older you get, so your your your face 0:03:05.160 --> 0:03:08.240 kind of droops a little bit, or or you lose 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:12.640 a little bit of fullness in your face. So so 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:16.840 filler you know, ads, But what is this. 0:03:16.800 --> 0:03:19.720 Obsession with having a full face when you're grown. I 0:03:19.760 --> 0:03:22.480 want to be gaunt. I want to be like skinny, 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:24.959 sunk in. I want my cheekbones to look like a 0:03:25.080 --> 0:03:27.920 lady got god prosthetic. I just want my face to 0:03:27.960 --> 0:03:30.520 be sharp. I want to look like Cruela de Ville 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:32.120 in the cartoon. That's what I want my face to 0:03:32.120 --> 0:03:32.880 look like when I'm old. 0:03:34.320 --> 0:03:37.560 I mean, if you look at us when we're younger, 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:40.839 like our baby faces, there they are, it's fuller. It's 0:03:40.880 --> 0:03:46.120 a it's a sign of youthfulness or for some people 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:48.440 it's puffiness, yes, but I don't want to. 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:50.880 When I look at pictures of me from even when 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:53.120 we first met a couple of years ago, my face 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:56.720 was round. It not it was round, Yes, it was. 0:03:56.840 --> 0:03:58.040 It was round my face. 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:00.200 Marie, you said a couple of years ago, but it 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:01.080 was eight years ago. 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:03.160 Friend, that was a couple of years ago face. 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:08.840 Okay, all right, okay, wow, wow, I thought you arguing 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:09.240 around you. 0:04:13.520 --> 0:04:18.359 Yes, ma'am, truly girl. Whatever a couple of years for 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:19.839 you means what twenty nineteen? 0:04:20.960 --> 0:04:26.040 Pretty much? Yeah, a couple. A couple is two or three. 0:04:26.160 --> 0:04:26.800 Oh, y'all talk. 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:28.880 But you know English is not my first language, and 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:31.039 that's not what that's not a couple. Oh Lord, have 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:34.839 mercy Jesus Christ. Okay, So yeah, you want to have 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:36.960 a gun face. I like a gone I like a 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:40.479 sharp face too, but I do hate that like underneath 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:43.400 my eyes is like a little sunken in because I 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:46.680 did get fillers. I got fillers like maybe five years. 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:49.000 Ago, and it was a couple of years ago. 0:04:49.040 --> 0:04:49.200 Yo. 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:52.680 Yeah, So it wasn't It wasn't a good job. And 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:56.000 I try to go back and get it fixed and win. 0:04:56.320 --> 0:04:58.559 What's a bad job? He hit your eye. 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:01.320 Like what is a bad job when it comes to fillers, 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:04.200 A bad job is you can see the actual like 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:07.279 where they like punctured my skin with the needle. You 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:10.920 can see where the needle was inserted. It was a 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:13.640 bad job. I can send you pictures, we. 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:15.880 Can pose like it sounds like he needs to uh 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.160 he should have used a tinier needle, Like what does 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:18.640 that now? 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:21.960 He just wasn't good like this is and it was 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:24.840 like a hookup from a friend who worked at this 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:27.880 the METS spot shit. You don't go to a met spot. 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:32.920 Just go to a certified plastic surgeon like its met SPA. 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:36.520 You can get like, you know, facials and you can 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:41.159 get things to like brighten your skin. But when you 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:44.000 get that needle thing, when you when they start doing 0:05:44.040 --> 0:05:47.360 stuff with your face. I just go to a professional 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:50.279 like a metspa's like a city MD for surgery. 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:51.080 Is that what you're saying? 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:51.839 Pretty much? 0:05:52.800 --> 0:05:54.680 I don't know. I think when it comes to surgery, 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:58.440 you either got to save up the money to do 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:00.719 it the right way with the right eye, or you 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:02.960 gotta get somebody else. You said, you might have to 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:05.800 secure a little sugar daddy so they can pay for it, 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:08.159 But like, I don't understand why people be trying to 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:10.000 cut corners when it comes to plastic surgery. 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:14.040 No, your your body, your face is not like a shirt. 0:06:14.160 --> 0:06:16.520 It should not be on sale. Like right, y'all, don't 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:20.240 be watching botched. No, yeah, I mean the fact that 0:06:20.279 --> 0:06:24.040 people go to other country, Well, I get while they 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:26.479 go to other countries because they sometimes they do do 0:06:26.520 --> 0:06:29.880 a better job. But I don't know the risks, the risk, 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:31.960 the fact that I don't know their language. I don't 0:06:31.960 --> 0:06:33.160 know what this is. 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:35.200 Is that why people get surgery done in other countries 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:37.480 because ye better job. I thought they went because it 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:41.680 was cheaper in like Columbia or dr or Mexico or 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:42.880 Costa Rica or whatever. 0:06:43.160 --> 0:06:46.080 No, they it's it's a better job in terms of 0:06:46.120 --> 0:06:48.520 like these are the girls who have the bbls And 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:50.240 you're like, oh my, who the. 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:55.680 Fuck it is calling me? I'm sorry, it's not like 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:58.799 we don't have this standing appointment every single week. 0:07:00.000 --> 0:07:05.800 As wild Yeah sorry friend, Yeah, it's just uh like 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:08.159 when you go to Columbia, you see the bodies, you 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:10.040 see the girls. You go to Brazil, you see they 0:07:10.040 --> 0:07:13.640 bodies Like these are the bodies that people aspire to have, 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:17.960 and it's because they're getting those things left and right. 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:20.600 Yes, but all of the bodies in Brazil, all of 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:24.440 the bodies in Central America, are not fake and built bodies. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.680 Some of those are their natural. 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:29.000 That's what I'm saying. People want to look like their 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:30.240 natural bodies. 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:32.440 Right. You gotta take that up with the God that 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:34.960 you serve, Babe, talk to your mother and your father 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:37.880 about why your body is shaped how it's shaped. But like, 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:41.880 somebody's natural body is always gonna look better than your 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:48.000 built body. Somebody who has the body shape that you're 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:50.920 going in to get surgery for, if they have it naturally, 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:54.880 it's gonna look better than yours because it's real. Right, 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:59.080 that's what I think. You think you think if somebody 0:07:59.080 --> 0:08:01.520 brings in a photo of a body and they're like, 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:04.120 this is what I want to look at. Like, let's 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:07.280 talk about Kim Kardashia, for for example, people be bringing 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:09.920 her photos into the plastic surgery place, like I want 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:10.760 to look like Kim. 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:13.480 And then she'd be bringing it she Yeah, she brings 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:16.040 in old pictures of her body and she's like, so 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:20.560 I want this, but like a little bit bitty, it's 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:24.120 a mess. It's just like either you accept your rough draft, 0:08:24.400 --> 0:08:26.800 you know, body, or you know, you try to get 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:29.640 the final draft that you thought you were meant to have. 0:08:30.520 --> 0:08:32.640 No. See, I'm not shaming anybody who's going in to 0:08:32.679 --> 0:08:35.200 get plastic surgery or whatever. If you're not happy with 0:08:35.240 --> 0:08:38.320 your rough draft, body, then go ahead, sis upgrade to 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:42.480 like a thicker sheet, you know, that glossy photo paper 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:46.440 if you need to. But like, just don't be trying 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:50.160 to cut corners with it. Like, don't don't go somewhere 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:54.840 where the doctor is doing ten implants in one day. 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:57.480 He might he might do yours. Cricket. 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:00.959 Don't get your titties on groupon period. And that is 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:02.400 the title. That's the title of this. 0:09:02.640 --> 0:09:13.320 Yeah, we'll see what happens, okay. So uh, speaking of 0:09:13.320 --> 0:09:17.080 appearances and stuff, we were talking about aunties. For me, 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:20.520 calling me an auntie feels like a slur because I 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:24.520 am not an auntie. When I went to UH. I 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:28.640 was at this event a few weeks ago, and people 0:09:28.679 --> 0:09:30.480 that I went to school with were there, and they 0:09:30.679 --> 0:09:32.600 all of them have children and stuff now, and they 0:09:32.720 --> 0:09:35.400 look to me like aunties, Like they look like what 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:37.720 my aunts and uncles look like to me when I 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:40.640 was a kid, like they're shaped like our parents, Like 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:44.320 they just look older and I'm walking around with my 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:47.600 you know, my my my high school body still, So 0:09:47.800 --> 0:09:51.280 I don't I don't subscribe to this auntie title. It 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:54.640 feels it feels mean when people call me an auntie. 0:09:56.320 --> 0:09:59.120 I mean, Murray, do you think do you think I 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:03.040 feel like my my body doesn't give auntie vibes? Yeah, 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:07.559 but your energy is auntie. Sometimes I don't think that 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:10.080 your body is auntie at all. Absolutely, I don't feel 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:13.360 like I dressed like an aunt I see Andrew's face. 0:10:13.400 --> 0:10:14.360 What's your fucking face? 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:15.240 Talk to me. 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:21.640 Wait, I'm okay, get in, Marie. You're going to this 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:24.200 event and you're saying, like the meanest thing that like 0:10:24.280 --> 0:10:29.480 anybody could call you is auntie. However, you're saying that 0:10:29.520 --> 0:10:33.560 everybody else at the party is that so like that's mean. 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:34.199 You're saying. 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:37.880 No, I'm not calling them aunties. I'm saying they look 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:40.760 exactly how Like when I was a kid and my 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:43.839 aunts and uncles will come to the house, think about 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:45.920 what they look like, think about what they were wearing, 0:10:45.960 --> 0:10:48.920 think about what their body shaped was. That's what these 0:10:48.960 --> 0:10:51.480 people I went to school with look like, now I'm 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:55.720 not saying that they're aunties. I'm saying no, I'm saying 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:59.240 they are. That's what they are. That's what Andrew. 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:02.240 Andrew was like, I'm just trying to clarify this, just. 0:11:02.120 --> 0:11:07.360 Trying to clarify you're saying the thing. Okay, but it's 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:12.800 because it is anybody saying that to you, people. 0:11:12.559 --> 0:11:15.040 Within the roop chat that I'm in, being like, we're aunties. Now, 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.559 this is auntie and I'm like, but I'm not an auntie. 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:20.640 Yeah, I'm an I'm an auntie in a real life 0:11:20.679 --> 0:11:23.360 and I'm like, I'm not an aunt Oh. 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:25.200 Wow, Sydney's an AUNTI in real life. Sidney, you are 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:26.600 an auntie, baby, I've been. 0:11:26.840 --> 0:11:31.480 I've been an aunt since like I don't know, I 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:32.040 was a kid. 0:11:32.360 --> 0:11:34.320 My niece. 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:41.080 My niece is thirty now, I think she's thirty or 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:41.800 twenty nine. 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:46.160 Sydney, you are an aunt when you were six pretty much. 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:49.000 Yeah, it's I see her laughing. It's not funny. 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:53.360 I mean it is funny, but your siblings are like 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:57.720 twenty years older than you. Yeah, it makes sense, it 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:02.120 makes I don't know, wild it is just anti because 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:04.360 I don't dress like an auntie, and I don't. I'm 0:12:04.360 --> 0:12:06.520 not shaped like an auntie. That's why I'm not. Also, 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:08.640 I don't have any nieces or nephews. 0:12:08.920 --> 0:12:11.000 I'm an honor in real life. But I'm just saying 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:13.439 I think when I'm in my home, you know, I'm 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:15.640 gonna wear my bonnet, I'm gonna. 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:18.079 Like, ooh, I'm hot, I'm cold. 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:22.040 Ooh, I need a blanky like yes, peak auntie. 0:12:22.040 --> 0:12:25.199 That's that's grandmother behavior right there. I need a play 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:25.760 kid for. 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:30.559 My legs, Like I need to have the ac on 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:33.400 and the heater and then wrapped up in a blanket. 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:36.360 I like, I mean the way I look at. 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:40.280 Things on a computer, I'm just like squinting, squint the squint, 0:12:40.320 --> 0:12:41.880 I do the scra Are you doing the squint and 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:43.679 then you pull the thing away so you could read 0:12:43.720 --> 0:12:46.120 it better? Oh no, no, no, I don't do that, not yet. 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:51.000 That is that's full blown on m that's my dad. 0:12:52.040 --> 0:12:52.840 I mean, I don't know. 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:56.000 We just don't want to fucking grow up. We don't 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:58.000 want to grow up. When we were kids, were like, 0:12:58.040 --> 0:12:59.600 I can't wait to grow up, and then it's like 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:01.400 you don't want to grow up, you don't want to 0:13:01.480 --> 0:13:07.480 age you don't want people to associate you with, you know, olderness. 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:09.760 But it's not that I don't want to grow up. 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:13.800 I mean, being an adult is definitely ghetto. Two stars 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:18.439 would not recommend, but I just don't feel grown up, 0:13:19.440 --> 0:13:21.640 you know. And then every once in a while, I'll 0:13:21.679 --> 0:13:23.280 be doing something in my house and it will hate 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.560 me that I am an adult, and I'll be like, yeah, 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:31.920 dial like I this, no, but I don't know. When 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:33.400 I talk about gen Z now, I'll be like, well, 0:13:33.440 --> 0:13:35.240 what the kid's talking about? So I do call them 0:13:35.280 --> 0:13:38.680 the kids. So the youth like the youth, the youth's 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:40.000 what's the youth's doing? 0:13:41.040 --> 0:13:44.839 Yeah, It's like it's like I at the end of 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:48.760 the day, we're all gonna hit forty one day, Like 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:51.880 if we're lucky, if we're lucky, if we're you know, 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:54.600 if God willing, you know, we're gonna hit it. And 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:57.559 it's like, do I want to be forty talking about 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:01.080 you know, I'm actually twenty nine? 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:05.400 Like no, But I also when I hit forty, that's 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:08.319 a milestone that like, I think when you hit forty, 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:11.880 that's when you're don't give a damn hits like turbo 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:16.079 because at forty years old. You just want to sit 0:14:16.160 --> 0:14:18.440 down and you want to I don't know, stand up 0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:21.240 in your back, don't cray. I don't know what forty wants. 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:25.640 But I feel like when you're the older you get, 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:27.960 the less you care. So people in they fifties are 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:29.320 still lying about how old they are. 0:14:29.920 --> 0:14:33.680 No, I mean, I mean truly, I want to get 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:37.600 to that point of not caring because I care too much. 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:42.760 Like my brain is plagued with other people's thoughts or 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.400 my thoughts of what other people think of me, and 0:14:45.440 --> 0:14:48.960 it's sickening. And I am closer to forty than everybody 0:14:49.000 --> 0:14:51.400 on this call. So it's just I'm like, when do 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:54.000 I get to the I don't give a fuck stage? 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:54.880 What? 0:14:55.040 --> 0:14:58.680 Sidney? You so wait, hold on, take a step back. 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:00.680 You're saying that you care what people think about you? 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:03.040 You you so what that affects how you live your life? 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:08.840 Sometimes sometimes it does affect I. 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:10.880 Mean, I don't know. There's you're pretty open and you 0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:13.280 be sharing your business with people. It don't seem like 0:15:13.320 --> 0:15:15.960 you care what people think about what you who you 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:23.360 are and what you're you've dealt with Andrew, I disagree. 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:28.920 I think that Sidney, you're very protective of your your 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:33.240 of yourself, and when someone does have something negative to say, 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:37.080 such as like a negative review, there is a reaction. 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:41.680 Yeah. So no, I'm not saying I agree with what 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:44.400 you just said. When someone has something to say, there's 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:49.840 a reaction. But I'm saying Sidney lives her life essentially 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:53.480 like an open book. She's she's open about her sobriety journey, 0:15:53.520 --> 0:15:57.120 she's open about her mental health journey. She's very open, 0:15:57.240 --> 0:15:59.920 and I think that is something that people that is 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.480 that draws people to Sydney, that she is open and 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:08.920 she you know, it seems like you don't care about 0:16:09.000 --> 0:16:11.880 how people perceive you in those situations because you're like, 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:15.640 this is what it is. Yeah, but. 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:22.200 Let let's get into it right. So, like I obviously 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.240 Marie had to sit down with me and intervention. I 0:16:25.240 --> 0:16:29.640 am obviously too friendly and I make friends with people. 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:35.280 But what Marie, go ahead, go ahead, Sidney. 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:38.280 And she was like, Sidney, you have to stop, like 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:41.440 you just I don't know if I can deal with 0:16:41.440 --> 0:16:46.360 this anymore because it's the ASPCA. You got strays everywhere, 0:16:47.080 --> 0:16:52.080 and I like, I do care about what you think 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:55.280 and like other close friends. 0:16:55.160 --> 0:16:55.640 Think of me. 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:58.760 But also I know what it is to feel like 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:02.600 shunned or like not cool or people don't want to 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:08.120 be friendly with me, and so I just like I 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:11.880 like having interactions with people and people feeling like, oh, 0:17:11.440 --> 0:17:14.159 we're we're cool, they feel safe. 0:17:14.320 --> 0:17:18.000 They Oh you want you want people to feel like 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:18.919 they're friends with. 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:22.640 You, Yes, without necessarily having to. 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:25.280 Be friends with me. But you will give your phone 0:17:25.359 --> 0:17:26.720 number to a stray dog. 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:30.480 Okay, Sydney, we actually do need to talk about this. 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.480 Your phone number is on your Instagram account. 0:17:33.760 --> 0:17:35.840 Your phone number is on your Instagram account. I don't 0:17:35.840 --> 0:17:36.199 see it. 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:39.440 I don't it is in your Instagram account. Someone messaged 0:17:39.560 --> 0:17:42.639 me like two weeks ago and was like, in the 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:45.359 same vein of what we're talking about, Yeah, there is 0:17:45.400 --> 0:17:49.359 a button call Sidney Washington and it is your phone number. 0:17:49.480 --> 0:17:53.240 Oh well let me okay, so let me how do 0:17:53.280 --> 0:17:53.960 I get that out? 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:58.040 Honestly, it don't matter because Sydney is giving her phone 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:01.879 number to people who come to comedy shows. Sidney's giving 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:04.159 her phone number to people who are like, oh, I 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:08.359 love uh you know you on Instagram or I love 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:12.280 your podcast. Sidney is giving her number to people she 0:18:12.440 --> 0:18:15.199 does not know, who know more about her than she 0:18:15.280 --> 0:18:18.800 knows about them, and so they already have the number. 0:18:18.960 --> 0:18:21.639 So I think it does speak very highly of you 0:18:21.760 --> 0:18:24.360 that you're very approachable and you're very nice and friendly. 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:26.360 But I think that we need to. 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:27.240 I took it off. 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:29.520 Okay, great, that's. 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:32.240 Like somebody going up to Beyonce, and I am definitely 0:18:32.240 --> 0:18:35.360 comparing myself to Beyonce in this situation. Somebody coming up. 0:18:35.320 --> 0:18:39.120 To Beyonce and saying, Oh, I love you so much, 0:18:39.160 --> 0:18:41.040 I would love to cook for you in my house, 0:18:41.680 --> 0:18:45.000 or and then Beyonce shows up, or oh girl, like. 0:18:47.800 --> 0:18:49.480 I'm a big fan, and Beyonce is like, okay, well 0:18:49.520 --> 0:18:51.639 call me sometime. We had a nice little conversation tonight, 0:18:51.800 --> 0:18:56.800 Like that's not how it works, especially somebody in our professions. 0:18:57.320 --> 0:19:00.360 The more we do, the more visible we are, and 0:19:00.400 --> 0:19:03.560 now everybody has access to you. You won't let these 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:05.399 stranger dangers into your house. 0:19:05.720 --> 0:19:10.280 No, no, I I have to work on it, and 0:19:10.640 --> 0:19:14.560 I have. I've heard you sist you you have been heard, 0:19:14.760 --> 0:19:16.879 and I mean no, really. 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:19.960 Wish that you would be specific about this example, which 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:22.280 is why I told you that you needed to stop 0:19:22.320 --> 0:19:26.480 with this. But I don't know if you you want 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:27.040 to get into that. 0:19:27.280 --> 0:19:29.840 No, it's just it's just me at shows. It's it's 0:19:29.880 --> 0:19:33.919 me at shows, it's me. It's me everywhere. I have 0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:36.639 to I have to. I just don't think anything of 0:19:36.680 --> 0:19:39.560 my phone number and I'm like, oh yeah, sure, like 0:19:40.800 --> 0:19:42.400 but it. 0:19:42.400 --> 0:19:44.760 Makes no sise. We were out and somebody, one of 0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:49.440 these people may or may not have offered ketamine to 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:53.639 people that we know, and it was like, who is 0:19:53.680 --> 0:19:56.840 this person? And everybody was like, oh, that that's Sydney's friend. 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:05.720 No, and on paper that's Sydney's friend, but you don't 0:20:05.760 --> 0:20:06.840 know anything about that person. 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:10.399 But they're they're in your space. They're they're they're taking 0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:16.080 up space with people that you do know, and that's 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:18.720 what you want to be affiliated way. 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:24.320 Uh, you're right, your I I have to work on it. 0:20:24.320 --> 0:20:27.560 It's it's hard. I like, I think, in the back 0:20:27.560 --> 0:20:31.919 of my head, I see myself in these other people, 0:20:32.080 --> 0:20:35.800 Like I just I just was not cool for not 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:38.879 saying that these people aren't cool. But I wanted to be. 0:20:39.800 --> 0:20:41.840 I wanted to be accepted. I wanted people to be 0:20:41.960 --> 0:20:45.000 nice to me. I wanted like and now I just 0:20:45.840 --> 0:20:49.199 didn't get that for so long until I don't know, 0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:51.400 one day it clicked in, people were like, oh my god, 0:20:51.480 --> 0:20:55.800 Sidney's Sidney's cool, Sidney's hot, Sidney's funny. And then you know, 0:20:55.880 --> 0:20:58.520 I was just able to make friends anywhere and everywhere 0:20:58.520 --> 0:21:00.040 I went, but in the back of my head and 0:21:00.480 --> 0:21:07.800 I felt like I was always trying to like have 0:21:07.920 --> 0:21:09.880 these people accept me, like prove myself. 0:21:09.920 --> 0:21:14.159 You know. Okay, So two things here. One, I also 0:21:14.480 --> 0:21:17.320