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Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I

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Speaker 1: can't relax in bed with him, all right, I just

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Speaker 1: can't do it. I can't relax in bed with him.

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Speaker 1: Just Stephen Shirley, My husband drives me nuts in the bed,

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Speaker 1: but not in a good way. He's seventy two and

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Speaker 1: I'm sixty eight years old. We have been married for

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Speaker 1: twenty two years and it's both of our second marriage.

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Speaker 1: He has asthma, so I give him a breathing treatment

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Speaker 1: most nights, but that doesn't help his wheezing all night.

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Speaker 1: We have to keep the air down in our bedroom

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Speaker 1: because if he gets hot, it gets worse. I set

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Speaker 1: all of that to say that we can't have sex

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Speaker 1: without him getting hot and then the wheezing starts. He's

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Speaker 1: six feet seven and I'm five feet seven, and our

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Speaker 1: bed doesn't fit him, and he's too cheap to get

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Speaker 1: a king sized bed, so he usually he's usually bawled

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Speaker 1: up next to me, or his feet hang off the

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Speaker 1: sides or the bottom, which pulls the cover off me.

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Speaker 1: His old bones twitch at night, and his reflexes caused

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Speaker 1: him to hit me sometimes. I hate to add this

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Speaker 1: because it's gross, but let's just say he shouldn't eat

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Speaker 1: dairy because he does and I pay for it when

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Speaker 1: he's asleep. It's almost every night now that I'm getting

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Speaker 1: hit with a stink bomb. I cannot relax in the

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Speaker 1: bed with him. Even having sex is challenging since he

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Speaker 1: started taking his pills. I want to sleep in another room,

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Speaker 1: but I don't want to leave him overnight because his

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Speaker 1: breathing is very tricky some nights. Yesterday he heard me

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Speaker 1: talking to my sister about not resting well at night,

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Speaker 1: and he got offended because he knows he's the problem.

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Speaker 1: If he just take his asthma medicine, stop eating cheese, pizza,

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Speaker 1: and exercise regularly, the doctor said a lot of the

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Speaker 1: issues will go away. I'm starting to think he doesn't

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Speaker 1: care if I sleep. Should I threaten to leave him

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Speaker 1: if he won't change, Well, you never know, you might

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Speaker 1: have to, but I would say, first, you know, get

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Speaker 1: a king size mattress. I mean, it's ridiculous that one

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Speaker 1: of the reasons your nights are so uncomfortable for you

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Speaker 1: is that his big six foot seven but is sleeping

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Speaker 1: in a queen size bed hanging over the bed. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: You said he's too cheap to get one. That is very,

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Speaker 1: very selfish because you live and sleep there too, So

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Speaker 1: why can't you just go get a mattress? I mean,

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Speaker 1: don't let his stubbornness make you this uncomfortable anymore. This

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Speaker 1: is crazy. The good news is that this situation is fixable.

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Speaker 1: I mean, he's really stubborn. He sounds ornery and everything.

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Speaker 1: But you're both adults, you know. Don't talk to him though,

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Speaker 1: don't don't talk to your sister about him. I should say,

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Speaker 1: you gotta talk to him about this, because this is

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Speaker 1: a serious situation. A good night's sleep is everything. You

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Speaker 1: gotta talk to him about his asthma. You gotta talk

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Speaker 1: to him about the wheezing. You gotta talk to him

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Speaker 1: about the pizza, the stink bombs you all of it,

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Speaker 1: and then let him know that his health is important

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Speaker 1: and it's it not only affects him, it affects you

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Speaker 1: and everyone around him. Right now, he's in his feelings

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Speaker 1: because he heard you talking to a sister about him.

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Speaker 1: So you know you got to try to get through

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Speaker 1: to him. Like I said, start with the sleeping arrangements,

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Speaker 1: the king's size mattress. You don't really need his permission

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Speaker 1: to get a mattress, and if he gets mad, don't worry.

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Speaker 1: He'll get over it after you both get a much

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Speaker 1: needed good night's leap. Steve the subject, I can't relax

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Speaker 1: in bed with him. The next statement after this, the

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Speaker 1: response to your entire letter is I can't take this

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Speaker 1: no more. I can't take this no more. When women

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Speaker 1: say that to men, I cannot tell you how impactful

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Speaker 1: it is, especially if you love the woman and she

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Speaker 1: looks you and go listen to me. I can't take

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Speaker 1: this no more. I can't do this. I ain't gonna

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Speaker 1: do this no more. And that's where you have to be,

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Speaker 1: because you at that point right now, because you to

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Speaker 1: wrote a letter to do seventy two. You sixty eight

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Speaker 1: y'all been married twenty two years. This ain't new. He

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Speaker 1: got asthma. You gotta give him a breathing treatment every night.

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Speaker 1: That don't help his squeezing all night. Y'all gotta sleep

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Speaker 1: with the ad damn, then the meat locker because if

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Speaker 1: he get hot, he'd get worse. Did I say all

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Speaker 1: that to say that y'all can't have sex without him

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Speaker 1: getting hot? And then the wheezing stars hot equals wheezing.

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Speaker 1: We got to stop his big ass from getting hot.

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Speaker 1: We gotta keep that asd out of it. We gotta

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Speaker 1: stop having sex. I can't take this snow more. You

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Speaker 1: got to get his sister. He's six seven, you five seven.

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Speaker 1: The bed don't fit him. He too cheap to get

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Speaker 1: the king size bed, so he usually balled up next

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Speaker 1: to me, who too cheap to sleep? Right, rush do

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Speaker 1: the bad cast now. Look, I gotta quit it. I

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Speaker 1: gotta get out of my pocket. Bands are expensive, okay,

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Speaker 1: I got it, cost money. Mattress, frame, headboard, all this hit.

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Speaker 1: Can't just get another mattress. You gotta get a bed side.

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Speaker 1: You know you gotta get a bed now, Shirley saying

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Speaker 1: you got on that by it yourself but you know,

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Speaker 1: y'all sev me two and sixty eight. You know somebody

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Speaker 1: on some type of program or some feet hanging all

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Speaker 1: off the side, pull the cover off me. The old

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Speaker 1: bones twitch at night, causing him to reflex and hit you.

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Speaker 1: I hate to add that Denny had eating day you

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Speaker 1: cheese pizza every damn night, just blowing the bed up

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Speaker 1: at night. I can't relaxing bed with him. Hell, now,

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Speaker 1: you can't relax, Haley, HATTI twitching? He hitting on you,

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Speaker 1: blowing stink bombs in the bed, wheezing over there. The

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Speaker 1: hell going on? Who is you sleeping with? You're sleeping

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Speaker 1: with a damn natural disaster. So every night you get

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Speaker 1: hit with a steep bomb, you get her ass fripping.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, Steve, hold on. We'll have part

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Speaker 1: two of your response coming up in twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject is I can't

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Speaker 1: relax in bed with him. We'll get back into it

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. This subjec I can't relax

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Speaker 1: in bed with him. This let her feel with hell,

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Speaker 1: I can't relax in bed with him at all. What

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Speaker 1: the next statement should be, I can't do this no more.

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Speaker 1: And if God don't know why I said I can't

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Speaker 1: do this no more, let me tell you what they're

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Speaker 1: putting up with. He sent me two. She's sixty eight,

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Speaker 1: he's sixty seven five seven. The bed too damn small,

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Speaker 1: and he got ask me, so she got every night,

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Speaker 1: she got to give him a damn breathing treatment to

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Speaker 1: help his queezing all night. Then we got to keep

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Speaker 1: the ad down in the bedroom. That means got to

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Speaker 1: turn it into a meat locker, because if he get

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Speaker 1: hot to getting worse. Then she said all that say,

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Speaker 1: we can't have sex without him getting hot. Then the

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Speaker 1: wheezing start, the hard as sex with somebody who you

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Speaker 1: finn to kill. Ok, really hard hair set and you

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Speaker 1: think you finn killing. Then the bed don't fit him

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Speaker 1: because he's sixty seven. He too cheap to get a

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Speaker 1: king side bed. So he bought all up next to

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Speaker 1: your feet, hanging all off the side, pulling the cover

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Speaker 1: off you. Now you're freezing. He got old ass bones,

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Speaker 1: He twitching night reflecting, make him hit you sometime? Did

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Speaker 1: he even dary? He blowing and blowing stink bombs all night,

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Speaker 1: and it's almost every night you're getting hit with a

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Speaker 1: stink bomb. You can't relax in bed with him. I

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Speaker 1: can't take this snow more. You too damn much. Right,

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Speaker 1: you're six seven, you're tall, you got old ass bones.

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Speaker 1: You're slapping me all in the back of my head

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Speaker 1: at night because you're having them nervous twitches and everything.

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Speaker 1: You're the Nate this cheese pizza. You're blowing up the

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Speaker 1: bombs every night in the bed. It's cold is hell

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Speaker 1: in hell. You're too long, so now your feet covering up.

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Speaker 1: You pull the covers off me. I'm freezing. You didn't

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Speaker 1: hear you, and you're wheezing at night because you don't

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Speaker 1: got hot man, I'm leaving. Ain't nobody for to do all. Listen,

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Speaker 1: you got to put it in his face. I can't

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Speaker 1: tell this snowball. I can't relaxing bad and then having

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Speaker 1: sex and challenges. Since he started taking his peels like

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Speaker 1: he needs something else going on. R he taking the

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Speaker 1: peels now he hot, he rings he had a muscle

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Speaker 1: reflex since he hitting me upside. Yeah, he's sitting over

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Speaker 1: here for no reason at all. He just getting just

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Speaker 1: getting tough. Now he all up against you. He already

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Speaker 1: against you because he can't keep his feet off the flow.

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Speaker 1: I want to sleep in another room, but I don't

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Speaker 1: want to leave him overnight because he's breathing. It's very

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Speaker 1: tricky night. You're old, so now hold up, Hold up.

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Speaker 1: You can't leave his old ass in there because it's

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Speaker 1: breathing is tricking. He might just stop breathing. You got

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Speaker 1: to shake his ass. We so he don't just stay dead, right,

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Speaker 1: I'm not living. That's sleeping with a corpse every night.

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Speaker 1: The dead man that's live, wanting to have sex all

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Speaker 1: the time in this cold ass room. And he wheezed.

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Speaker 1: Then yesterday heard me talking to my sister about not

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Speaker 1: resting all night. He got offended because he know he's

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Speaker 1: a problem. Yeah, you the damn problem. But you think

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Speaker 1: I was talking to my sister for who? You thought

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Speaker 1: I was talking about nobody else sleeping? Who? What? What? What? Herman? What? What? Herman?

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Speaker 1: But not another herman? Another herman? He said me too.

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Speaker 1: He got an old last name. He had one of

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Speaker 1: them old last name, herman Hubert. One of them old

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Speaker 1: lass names Oscar cars Raved Joshua ze name. There's a car.

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Speaker 1: He's the worst one at all, because you're over there

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Speaker 1: sleeping with lastman, last dead, waking up, he quit breathing.

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Speaker 1: He hot you in the bed with lad with every night.

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Speaker 1: Now he mad at you because you talking to your sins.

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Speaker 1: You got to tell it to somebody. If he take

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Speaker 1: his asthma medicine, to stop eating cheese, pizza and exercise regularly,

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Speaker 1: the doctor says, some of these issues will go away.

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Speaker 1: He will take your damn asthma medicine. Man, what is

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Speaker 1: wrong with you? Yeah? Sitting all that weed? Okay, we

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Speaker 1: get it. Can't nobody sleep like this. Take your ass up. Man. Hey,

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Speaker 1: you know how you be snoring and your wife wake

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Speaker 1: You tell you to get on your side or something, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: turn over, something like that. He got to go. I'm

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Speaker 1: starting to think he don't care if I can't sleep,

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Speaker 1: He don't he sleep? Should I threaten to leave him?

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Speaker 1: If he won't change, you got to leave him. You

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Speaker 1: might have rolled another bed in that so you can leave.

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Speaker 1: Be in the room when they breathing, cut off hard,

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Speaker 1: take viol people fitting twenty two years ago. We can't

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Speaker 1: have sex. It's hot in him. Cut this stink in

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Speaker 1: here night. You just sitting the pin and hit me again,

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Speaker 1: hit me again. See what happened as I slapped sugar

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Speaker 1: honey iced tea child. You can stop some of this.

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Speaker 1: His feet are hanging over the bed. What do you

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Speaker 1: mean the bad ain't the problem? She don't can't wearing

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Speaker 1: his foot, ain't don't squeezing to stop squeezing in the

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Speaker 1: the float and just sleep on your back if you

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