1 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,159 Speaker 1: It's time for the b a q a a. 2 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:11,959 Speaker 2: The b a q a what you say the b 3 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 2: a q a with Tippanda, the b a q a 4 00:00:15,120 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 2: ain't no manday today. Okay, my book up here just 5 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:21,120 Speaker 2: so the people can see. Welcome to Brown Amission. Question Answers, 6 00:00:21,160 --> 00:00:23,800 Speaker 2: where you have questions? I have some answers. Although I 7 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 2: am not your attorney, your doctor, your lawyer, your mama, 8 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:29,200 Speaker 2: but I can't be your internet bestie or whatever. 9 00:00:30,040 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 1: Just a smart brown black girl that knows some things. 10 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 2: But we want you to lean into the people that 11 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 2: you pay for that official professional advice. Okay, So first question, 12 00:00:40,159 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 2: I'm gonna answer that. Actually I'm gonna answer a quick 13 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 2: financial question and then a deeper, longer question that so 14 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:51,840 Speaker 2: many young people in entrepreneurship meaning young, not age young, 15 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:56,120 Speaker 2: but like in entrepreneurship young ask me. But first question anonymous, 16 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 2: Anonymous said, I would like to remain anonymous. 17 00:00:58,800 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 1: Got you. 18 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 2: We're gonna call you Custodio. Okay, okay, Custodio. I've been 19 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 2: catching up on the podcast from the beginning. Love that 20 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,039 Speaker 2: for you and for us. I'm up to episode one 21 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 2: ninety nine. You said, Tiffany, you opened up a custodio 22 00:01:13,560 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 2: wrath iray, which I don't think I said wroth but anyway, 23 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:18,200 Speaker 2: which is something I thought about opening for my kids. 24 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 2: When I looked into it. It says that the child 25 00:01:19,880 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 2: has to have earned income. Can you please tell me 26 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 2: how you were able to open yours? Also, are there 27 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:26,920 Speaker 2: any other accounts I can open for them? Besides that 28 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 2: are regular savings? Thank you for your time. So I'm 29 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 2: not sure if I said custodio wroth which the thing is, 30 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:36,959 Speaker 2: any child can have a rawth ira if they have 31 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,400 Speaker 2: earned income, meaning like they have to work. Because a 32 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 2: wroth ira ira is an individual retirement account meaning in 33 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 2: order to say for retirement, you have to be working. 34 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: You have to have money coming in. 35 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:51,720 Speaker 2: So my sixteen year old bonus daughter, Alyssa, she's got 36 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:53,920 Speaker 2: an ira because she works for me. She does my 37 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 2: tiktoks once she gets a chance, so she can have 38 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 2: a retirement account. I mean, your two year old can 39 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,000 Speaker 2: have a retirement account they're working, you know, like maybe 40 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 2: they're like a model for like gap or something like that. 41 00:02:03,840 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 2: You know, Now, if I said I opened a custodio 42 00:02:07,440 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 2: wroth iray, that I missspook that I opened a custodial 43 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 2: account period an investment account. So you can have a 44 00:02:16,040 --> 00:02:20,320 Speaker 2: custodal a custodial investment account, an account where the money's invested, 45 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:23,880 Speaker 2: but it's not for retirement, it's just for investment purposes. 46 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:26,000 Speaker 1: So for myself personally, I have. 47 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 2: Retirement accounts, I have a WROTH, but I also have 48 00:02:28,960 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 2: just regular investment accounts. Now, there are no tax benefits 49 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 2: like with a roth, iray or any kind of like 50 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:38,079 Speaker 2: retirement account that you get with the retirement account, but 51 00:02:38,200 --> 00:02:40,079 Speaker 2: I still I mean, these are investment accounts because you 52 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:42,519 Speaker 2: can only set aside, but so much money. Does a 53 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:44,480 Speaker 2: cap on how much money you can set aside for 54 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 2: retirement accounts because there are tax benefits and the government 55 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 2: is like, we're not trying to have you have all 56 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 2: the tax benefits, so there's a cap. So for my 57 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:57,360 Speaker 2: niece Amelia aka mem, my nephew Roman aka row Row, 58 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 2: my niece Lillian aka A Lily, and Alyssa, they all 59 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 2: have custodial accounts that I'm the custodian of. But these 60 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 2: are just regular investment accounts. But because they're all under 61 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 2: the age of like eighteen twenty twenty one, that I 62 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 2: am the custodian of and if something were to happen 63 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:16,799 Speaker 2: to me, then actually, like I now put it into 64 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:18,680 Speaker 2: my trust. Well, it will just be held for them 65 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 2: until they reach a certain age if something were to 66 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 2: happen to me. So yes, So if you're interested in 67 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,519 Speaker 2: opening up an investment account for your kids, you could 68 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 2: just open up just a regular custodical investment account. You know, 69 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,079 Speaker 2: you can make the metaficiaries depending on how much is 70 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:35,240 Speaker 2: in there, or you can make the trust the beneficiary 71 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 2: if you have a trust or you're looking into one, 72 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 2: and then inside the trust it tells the trust what 73 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 2: to do with that money, right, I mean you could 74 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 2: also consider like a five to twenty nine plan, which 75 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 2: are not really my favorite. So five twenty nines are 76 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 2: these accounts that you could set aside for education for 77 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 2: your kids. So they do have a tax component where 78 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 2: like you know, moneys are allowed to grow like kind 79 00:03:55,840 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 2: of like tax free, and you're allowed to use that 80 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 2: money for an educational event, so typically college. But more 81 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 2: they have more leeway now where they allowed you allow 82 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,680 Speaker 2: you to even pay for it like sometime for like 83 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:13,160 Speaker 2: childcare or maybe your child goes to like a private school. 84 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 2: The only thing I don't like about five twenty nine 85 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 2: is that you really have to use it for an 86 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 2: educational event, and if you don't, you know, then the 87 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 2: tax the tax benefit that you got can be rescinded. 88 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:26,600 Speaker 2: And so I don't really that's why I didn't open 89 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:28,960 Speaker 2: up five twenty nine because I don't know the kids, 90 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 2: like Amelia is five, I want to say, Lily is 91 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 2: three or four, and Women is seven. They're still so young. 92 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: I don't know what college is gonna look like when 93 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:36,679 Speaker 1: they get older. 94 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 2: So I didn't want to pigeonhole their money specifically for education, 95 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 2: just in case. I wanted them to be able to 96 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 2: use their money to purchase a home, you know, to 97 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 2: start a business, or to go to school or whatever. 98 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, Custodio. I hope that answers your question. 99 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:53,720 Speaker 2: So yeah, wait, before we do our next question, which 100 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 2: is going to be a really good. 101 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 1: One, let's take a breaking break. We'll be right back 102 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 1: and I'm back in black. Question number two for you. 103 00:05:03,839 --> 00:05:08,039 Speaker 2: So second question actually came from so it's not just 104 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 2: my producer your money, but I get this question a lot, 105 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 2: a lot, a lot a lot. If you guys know 106 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 2: that I am a mental so I have this Patreon, 107 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:22,280 Speaker 2: which is this like online place where people can like 108 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 2: they pay like a little bit of money every month, 109 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 2: they have access to like whatever you're sharing. And so 110 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 2: for me, I mentor specifically black women in business because 111 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 2: I get so many questions, are there some men and 112 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 2: things there? Yes, there's everybody black there, not necessarily, but 113 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:38,240 Speaker 2: that's my sweet spot because guess what, I am a 114 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 2: black woman in business and I've been in business for 115 00:05:41,400 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 2: over fifteen years, and man, any successful businesses. 116 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:46,280 Speaker 1: I cracked the code if you will. 117 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 2: I've got the Budgetista multimillion dollar business. I got Literature 118 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:53,120 Speaker 2: Academy multimillion dollar business. I had a marketing business at 119 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:55,280 Speaker 2: one point that was like multi six figures a year 120 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:56,159 Speaker 2: Brown ambition. 121 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 1: You know. Successful. 122 00:05:57,800 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 2: When I say successful, the means we're in the black. 123 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,160 Speaker 2: You know, we make more than we spend. And I 124 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 2: feel like I had another one either way that my 125 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:07,279 Speaker 2: businesses be doing good. But the Budgetissa was my original, 126 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 2: and I learned so much that ends the upstebs and downs, 127 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 2: and I worked really, really, really hard, sometimes too hard. 128 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 2: But as a result of that, I've learned so many 129 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 2: lessons that I continue to learn because I still have 130 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:21,320 Speaker 2: three of the for my businesses, and they all do well. 131 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 2: And over the last I want to say, really, since 132 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 2: I've made well over thirty million dollars in business, not 133 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 2: as take home, but like in business gross especially in 134 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: the last I'm want to say that thirty most of 135 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 2: that thirty million probably make within the last five or 136 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 2: six years. 137 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: So the girl is doing good over here, and it's 138 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:37,320 Speaker 1: only getting gooder. As my niece would say. 139 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 2: So I see all that to say that I get 140 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 2: questions a lot about entrepreneurship, and lately you guys have 141 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:46,360 Speaker 2: made Oh sidebar, if you want to be a pay 142 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:48,479 Speaker 2: if you want to be a mentee, you can go 143 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:50,840 Speaker 2: to my mentor Tiffany dot com. 144 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: It's ten bucks a month. I mean, girl, like, what 145 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:54,480 Speaker 1: are you doing? Ten bucks? You get all the. 146 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:57,279 Speaker 2: Resources and matter of fact, tonight, I mean, by the 147 00:06:57,279 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 2: time you listen to it, you'll catch the replay. I 148 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 2: am doing this ten step plan of how I made 149 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 2: my book Get Your Money, a New York Times bestseller, 150 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:08,320 Speaker 2: a Wall Street Journal bestseller, and how I got to 151 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 2: sell over two hundred and twenty thousand copies if within 152 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 2: two years, which is unheard of. Most books sell about 153 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 2: two thousand in a lifetime. I told two hundred thousand 154 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 2: plus in two years. So I'm doing this ten step 155 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 2: plan which I wrote. Took me three hours worth of notes. 156 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 2: But that's the kind of stuff we do. A Patreon 157 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 2: at my mentor Tiffany dot com. It's not too late. 158 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 2: You can always catch our replays. It'll be pinned to 159 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:28,120 Speaker 2: the top. 160 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 1: Anyway. A question I get. 161 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 2: All the time from my mentees and the producer imani 162 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 2: Are a producer. Young sister asked me this question. I 163 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 2: get it a lot, is Tiffany. I've heard you say 164 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 2: you're in your soft Girls shah Day era of business 165 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 2: where you have pulled back. 166 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: You are no longer in your Beyonce. 167 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:49,360 Speaker 2: Era of like Go Go Go, I'm an icon, I'm 168 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 2: a legend, whatever it takes. 169 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: That's cute for you, millionaire Tiffany. You know sidebar. 170 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 2: I closed on my house and I don't know if 171 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 2: I tell y'all, I bought it and I bought a 172 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 2: cash I know so though that I've been talking to 173 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 2: you all about bought it. So cute for you that 174 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:06,880 Speaker 2: you could take a step back. But what about us 175 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 2: on the come up? What about us who are working 176 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 2: tour trying to get to where you are. I cannot rest, 177 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 2: I cannot sit back, I cannot shy day. I got 178 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 2: the Beyonce gota gotta got it? And I say, do 179 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:24,800 Speaker 2: you because I know you look at me and you're like, 180 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 2: but you got here as a result of on your 181 00:08:26,840 --> 00:08:29,560 Speaker 2: Beyonce era, and I say, that's actually not true. 182 00:08:29,760 --> 00:08:30,400 Speaker 1: Come closer. 183 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 2: I got here despite being in my Beyonce era, because 184 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 2: the Beyonce era almost took my life. Like if you 185 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 2: listen to our podcast prior to this one. I'm not 186 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:43,240 Speaker 2: sure when this is going to come out, but we 187 00:08:43,280 --> 00:08:46,200 Speaker 2: have a podcast with Kadeen and daval Ellis. They have 188 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 2: a new book called We Over Me, New York Time bestseller, 189 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 2: and Deval talks about how last year he passed out 190 00:08:52,600 --> 00:08:56,559 Speaker 2: on set and he lost fifteen pounds in three days. 191 00:08:56,600 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 2: His blood pressure was so low he thought he was 192 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:02,559 Speaker 2: having a heart attack. And they do very very very 193 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:06,280 Speaker 2: very very well in business, and yet all of the 194 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:09,000 Speaker 2: work that he was putting in for his family and 195 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 2: for all this money almost took him out. 196 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: And I have been there. 197 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 2: I did well despite my Beyonce eerr because I created 198 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 2: this goal for myself and just goals in general, and 199 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 2: I would hit the goals and then fly past them. 200 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 2: I want to make a hundred thousand dollars a year 201 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:28,959 Speaker 2: in business, freu past it. Barely even looked at it 202 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 2: when I hit it. I wanna get make a million 203 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 2: dollars a year, fru past. I want to be making 204 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:36,560 Speaker 2: million dollars in a month, free past it, And like, 205 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 2: how much more did I need? That? Like? I was 206 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:46,679 Speaker 2: overworking and overwhelming myself into the most unhealthy I'd ever been. 207 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:49,040 Speaker 2: I had gained like thirty pounds. My blood pressure was 208 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 2: through the roof. I never had high blood pressure. I 209 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 2: was not sleeping just a few hours a night. I 210 00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 2: thought five hours was a lot of sleep. Overwork and 211 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 2: overwhelmed to what end? 212 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 1: To what end? 213 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:05,240 Speaker 2: And it took for I knew something was wrong, like 214 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,440 Speaker 2: a couple of years ago, and I goten a business coach, 215 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 2: and I got in a therapist to try to undo 216 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 2: some of the things I've done, you know, because I 217 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 2: had painted myself into an entrepreneur corner where I had 218 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:18,400 Speaker 2: such a huge staff of thirty people that I had 219 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 2: to work as hard as I was working in order 220 00:10:20,160 --> 00:10:23,200 Speaker 2: to maintain everyone's salaries. I had to That's what I 221 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:27,200 Speaker 2: told myself in that space you start to create. I 222 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:29,440 Speaker 2: have to keep going at this pace in order to 223 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 2: maintain I and you're right, in order to maintain the 224 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 2: toxic thing you created, you do have to go that hard. 225 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:40,320 Speaker 2: But the alternative is I can undo the toxic environment 226 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 2: I've created for myself. I can say I'm gonna have 227 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 2: to let some of these people go. I can say 228 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 2: I actually don't need as much money. 229 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 1: I don't. I can say, you know. 230 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:54,199 Speaker 2: What, like like I don't need to be on every show, 231 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 2: on every you know, morning. 232 00:10:56,280 --> 00:10:58,080 Speaker 1: Show, on every whatever. I can say that. 233 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 2: I can say the goalpart post is here, girl, not 234 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 2: past here, and I could stop right here. I can 235 00:11:05,480 --> 00:11:08,160 Speaker 2: understand and absorb what it looks like to have enough, 236 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:12,959 Speaker 2: because if not, your body will sit you down. 237 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: If you don't sit down. 238 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:17,000 Speaker 2: And then for what for what if you have a stroke. 239 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:20,760 Speaker 2: I had a friend Marie Antoinette. We went to Kenya together. Well, 240 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:23,080 Speaker 2: I met her in Kenya. Now I consider her like 241 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 2: you know my Booski, right, she is beautiful, healthy, like 242 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:29,319 Speaker 2: just if you were to look at her like she's 243 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:33,679 Speaker 2: forty five, look at twenty five, just beautiful, fine, amazing woman. 244 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:37,120 Speaker 2: She had multiple strokes a few months ago and I 245 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 2: could share that because she posted it on social multiple strokes. 246 00:11:40,880 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 2: What the hell is going on with us? That we 247 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 2: are working ourselves to literal death? What will it take? 248 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 2: Will it take for you to have a heart attack? 249 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 2: That's what you're looking for? What will it take it 250 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 2: took for my husband to die to say your Nextif 251 00:11:56,000 --> 00:11:58,840 Speaker 2: the hell? All the things I told myself were too 252 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:01,719 Speaker 2: impossible to shift because I have to. 253 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: I have to. 254 00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:05,680 Speaker 2: I gotta pay this, I gotta get this my mom 255 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 2: and my dad. It took for my husband to die 256 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 2: for me to say, who told me that? Like, I 257 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:15,760 Speaker 2: don't have to? And so I shifted everything. And now 258 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 2: you see me like I created space that was there already. 259 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 2: That's not even true. I didn't create it. I acknowledge 260 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 2: the space that was there. I no longer working March 261 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 2: August or December. Now, first, I was nervous to say that, 262 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 2: even for the podcast. I was like, Oh, what we 263 00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 2: gonna do? So the key is determine the space that 264 00:12:36,320 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 2: you're wanting in your life. I don't want to work Fridays, 265 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 2: I don't want to work pass five, I don't and 266 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:45,200 Speaker 2: adjust your life accordingly. I told everybody March August December. 267 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 1: I'm out. 268 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:49,679 Speaker 2: I'm out, and guess what we tape extra podcast episodes. 269 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 2: Mandy will do some taping on her own. 270 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 1: Right. 271 00:12:52,960 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 2: The team already knows what they have to work on. 272 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 2: I'm going to Egypt next week, okay, and guess what. 273 00:12:57,400 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 2: You won't see me post about it on social you know, 274 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 2: maybe six month now. I am determined to live well 275 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:05,959 Speaker 2: now and you can if you are on the come up. 276 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:09,400 Speaker 1: Does it look like hard work for success? Absolutely? I 277 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 1: still work hard. I just don't overwork. I integrate the 278 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: rest into the work. 279 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:17,960 Speaker 2: It's a weave, you know, Like think about like a 280 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 2: like a blanket that someone's weaving together, your grandmother's crocheting 281 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:21,960 Speaker 2: a new color in. 282 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:25,880 Speaker 1: You have to add that color of rest into the work. 283 00:13:26,640 --> 00:13:27,400 Speaker 1: I'll give you example. 284 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:30,680 Speaker 2: One of my mentees, aka my sister Tracy, she started 285 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 2: her business. She's a publicist. She's my publicism. So the 286 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 2: beginning I was her first client. First year, she was 287 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:39,000 Speaker 2: a walking zombie because she lived with me and seven 288 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 2: days a week, all day, all night. 289 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: She was going to. 290 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 2: Pass out and I was like, girl, what are you doing? 291 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:47,360 Speaker 2: I just you know, it's just so much work, I said, 292 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:48,679 Speaker 2: it's too much. 293 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:49,560 Speaker 1: You have to. 294 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 2: You have to draw a line in the sand and 295 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:52,760 Speaker 2: say I'm going to stop working at this time. But 296 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:54,480 Speaker 2: it's so there's always going to be a lot of 297 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:57,960 Speaker 2: work to do. You have to adjust your schedule accordingly. 298 00:13:58,000 --> 00:13:59,719 Speaker 2: You have to say, if the work is not done 299 00:13:59,720 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 2: by this time, I will just push it to the 300 00:14:01,480 --> 00:14:03,760 Speaker 2: next day. Or do I even really need to do 301 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:06,800 Speaker 2: these things? Because not everything yields results. I was doing 302 00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 2: stuff that took me ten hours to buy one hour. 303 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:10,960 Speaker 1: It's like, what are you doing? 304 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 2: Not everything yield results, So you need to discern what 305 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:17,480 Speaker 2: actually is going to yield the results and put your 306 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 2: energy toward that. I promise she's probably about eighty percent 307 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 2: of the stuff that you're doing is not really really 308 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 2: doing much. It's the twenty percent that's making the biggest results. 309 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:28,800 Speaker 2: And that eighty is yielding twenty percent. It's not that serious, right. 310 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 2: And so then because living with me, she saw I 311 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:34,080 Speaker 2: had Wednesday's light. I don't take no calls on Wednesdays. 312 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 2: I have Fridays off. She started to take Fridays off, 313 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 2: which is crazy to think about for a brand near 314 00:14:39,440 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 2: new year two business taking Fridays off. 315 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:43,360 Speaker 1: She takes Fridays off. 316 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:45,200 Speaker 2: She gets her hair done, she gets her nails done, 317 00:14:45,240 --> 00:14:47,000 Speaker 2: she gets in massage, a facial. I see her come 318 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 2: back in the house like, hey girl, and I was like, 319 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:52,560 Speaker 2: and yet business ain't slow down. She's got more clients 320 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:54,080 Speaker 2: than ever. And I asked her, how did you do it? 321 00:14:54,120 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 2: She said, you were right. If I take Fridays off, 322 00:14:57,280 --> 00:14:58,840 Speaker 2: in my mind, I'm like, I gotta get this thing 323 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:02,240 Speaker 2: done between Monday and Thursday, and I do. You will adjust. 324 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:04,720 Speaker 2: Those of you who are parents, You have one kid? 325 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 2: How will I manage just one kid? Then you have 326 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 2: to you adjust, you know, force rest into the space 327 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,800 Speaker 2: that you're in. Even Beyonce and all her Beyonce, if 328 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:18,680 Speaker 2: you watch her Homecoming special that was on Netflix, did 329 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 2: you hear what she said? 330 00:15:19,640 --> 00:15:20,240 Speaker 1: I caught it. 331 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:25,040 Speaker 2: She said, doing that Homecoming special and doing like that 332 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 2: that concert and all of the you know videos, and 333 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 2: it nearly broke her. She said, it almost killed me. 334 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:33,800 Speaker 2: That never worked so hard. It was, that was the 335 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 2: hardest thing she ever did. And she said, I'm never 336 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 2: doing that again. Beyonce said that I'm never doing that 337 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:45,920 Speaker 2: again because she understood. 338 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 1: It's too much. I don't deserve to. 339 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 2: I don't I don't have to give people my life 340 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:52,800 Speaker 2: in order for what so I could be an icon 341 00:15:53,480 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 2: the hill. She said, I'm never doing that again. And 342 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:59,840 Speaker 2: guess what we're our visuals for renaissance. They hear because 343 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:03,760 Speaker 2: Beyonce and all her Beyonce okay. And so I want 344 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 2: you to understand that rest is not something that you deserve, like, 345 00:16:08,640 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 2: oh I got to earn it. No, it is your birthright, 346 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 2: meaning like you don't got to do something to deserve rest. 347 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,160 Speaker 2: By nature of you being a human being, you get 348 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:18,240 Speaker 2: to rest. It's part of life. 349 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 1: Damn. 350 00:16:19,280 --> 00:16:20,680 Speaker 2: We live in the East Coast, right, I live in 351 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 2: the East Coast. The trees have been resting the last 352 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:27,440 Speaker 2: few months because even nature says, lay down, Lee's fall. 353 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: Because you're stressing out the trees. 354 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:33,720 Speaker 2: They need a moment to relax and recover. Trees recoop, 355 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:36,040 Speaker 2: relax and recover. The birds don't do all that all 356 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 2: year long. Bears be chilling, squirrels be chilling. 357 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:39,400 Speaker 1: Why not? 358 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:42,280 Speaker 2: Why are you not taking a moment to recoop, relax 359 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:45,120 Speaker 2: and recover. Like you might say that, I know people 360 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 2: who are like you know, like I just want my 361 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:48,560 Speaker 2: biggest goals. I want to buy this one house. They 362 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 2: buy the house and then oh, I want to be 363 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 2: a second one. 364 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 1: Girl. 365 00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 2: Have you even luxuriated in the fact that you got 366 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:58,560 Speaker 2: this first thing because you keep pushing the goalpost and 367 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 2: stressing yourself the hell? Oh? I want you to integrate 368 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:07,280 Speaker 2: some rules into your life until you become to embody 369 00:17:07,320 --> 00:17:09,320 Speaker 2: the thing. One of the things I learned in therapy 370 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:12,399 Speaker 2: is that in the beginning, when you're learning to shift 371 00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 2: your behavior, you incorporate these rules, rules and regulations. If 372 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 2: I do this, did I do this? If I do this, 373 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:18,680 Speaker 2: then I do this. 374 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:19,840 Speaker 1: And after a while. 375 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:22,879 Speaker 2: The point is that after a while, the rules become 376 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:25,000 Speaker 2: a part of you and you don't need them anymore 377 00:17:25,040 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 2: because you begin to embody the person that does that. Like, 378 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,920 Speaker 2: you know, like if I was a smoker, I choose 379 00:17:30,960 --> 00:17:33,639 Speaker 2: my Nicorett gum, you know, because it helps me not smoke, 380 00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 2: and then one day you're just a non smoker. I 381 00:17:35,640 --> 00:17:37,800 Speaker 2: don't smoke, so I got to worry about that Nicorette gum. 382 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:40,359 Speaker 2: That's so that's where we're all moving toward embodiment. So 383 00:17:40,400 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 2: when you're listening, Okay, now, in the beginning, I want 384 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:44,840 Speaker 2: you to put these things in. 385 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:46,840 Speaker 1: I'm going to take my Wednesday's light. I'm just making 386 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:47,480 Speaker 1: up stuff for you. 387 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:51,080 Speaker 2: I'm going to take my Fridays off after every major accomplishment, 388 00:17:51,119 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 2: I will not start a new project for one month, 389 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 2: two months, three months after. I want you to put 390 00:17:56,040 --> 00:17:59,040 Speaker 2: these rules in place for yourself, because it's a new 391 00:17:59,080 --> 00:18:02,160 Speaker 2: way of being. You put these rules in place for yourself, 392 00:18:02,359 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 2: and over time, if you adhere to these rules for yourself, 393 00:18:06,600 --> 00:18:09,439 Speaker 2: you learn to start to embody and become a person 394 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:13,160 Speaker 2: who's just like that. I no longer have these rules about, 395 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 2: oh I don't work on Wednesday. I have a call 396 00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:18,720 Speaker 2: on Wednesday, like tomorrow, you know, And oh I don't 397 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:20,640 Speaker 2: work on Fridays. Sometimes I do stuff on Friday because 398 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:24,159 Speaker 2: I embody a person that does not overwork and overwhelm. 399 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 2: So although I might still I might do something on 400 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 2: Wednesdays and Fridays. Now, when I had this rule in 401 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:32,120 Speaker 2: place before, I don't do stuff past three typically I'm 402 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 2: going on for a whole month in a week, you 403 00:18:35,119 --> 00:18:38,320 Speaker 2: know what I mean. I embody someone who lives within 404 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 2: the harmony of not too much not too little, and 405 00:18:42,119 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 2: I still make hell of money, you know, And so 406 00:18:45,160 --> 00:18:47,639 Speaker 2: I'm wanting that for you that, like you know, for 407 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 2: those of you who are coming up and you're building 408 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 2: your business and you're working toward greatness or whatever it is. 409 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:58,879 Speaker 2: Integrate the rest, Integrate the time to yourself, Integrate the 410 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:03,439 Speaker 2: moments of absorbing you know, the goal that you've reached. 411 00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:06,280 Speaker 2: Integrate that to your thing. Now, get your tracing on. 412 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 2: You don't got to wait, you know, fifteen years like 413 00:19:08,359 --> 00:19:09,440 Speaker 2: me to finally get a break. 414 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:10,919 Speaker 1: The hell no, we off that. 415 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 2: Integrate that into the process now, and so it doesn't 416 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 2: become a thing that you have to kind of like 417 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 2: dig your way out of. It's like, no, no, I've 418 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:22,040 Speaker 2: always been on the zen, you know, like m you know, 419 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:25,200 Speaker 2: I got to the goal and the dream while also 420 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 2: feeling well rested and cared for and centered and happy 421 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 2: and whole. 422 00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:32,360 Speaker 1: You can do both at the same time. It's out 423 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:34,960 Speaker 1: there for you. Now. Might the journey be a little slower. 424 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 2: It might Might the journey not be slower, because sometimes 425 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,280 Speaker 2: we tell ourselves if we do that, we won't get 426 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:39,840 Speaker 2: there as fast. 427 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:40,720 Speaker 1: You'd be surprised. 428 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 2: I overworked so much that I actually wasn't as I 429 00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:48,600 Speaker 2: wasn't as focused because I was so tired. I wasn't 430 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 2: as thorough because I was so overworking, overwhelmed, I succeeded 431 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:55,399 Speaker 2: despite the fact that I was running myself ragging, not 432 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,200 Speaker 2: because I was running myself raggon that it's in rest 433 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:01,320 Speaker 2: now that I'm smarter, that I'm sharper, that I do 434 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:03,440 Speaker 2: less work because I don't have to work as much 435 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:05,680 Speaker 2: because I'm just like, oh, actually, I can see more 436 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:09,480 Speaker 2: clearly the problem and the solution versus doing all the things, 437 00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:11,840 Speaker 2: And so you might find that you actually do better. 438 00:20:12,280 --> 00:20:14,720 Speaker 2: You know, you likely will find you'll do better well rested, 439 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:18,760 Speaker 2: you'll do better doing less. My motto is deep versus wide. 440 00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:21,040 Speaker 2: What am I currently doing and how do I do better? 441 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,760 Speaker 2: Versus like adding all these new random things to the plate. 442 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 2: And so yeah, that's for Emani, That's for all my 443 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 2: mentees are always asking me. That's for my sister, that's 444 00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:30,920 Speaker 2: for young Tiffany. I wish I could have told her that, 445 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:32,440 Speaker 2: you know, but I grew up in an era where 446 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:36,240 Speaker 2: hustle was heralded that more was more. And I'm here 447 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:38,680 Speaker 2: to say it's a lie, because I promise you when 448 00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:41,719 Speaker 2: I tell you I know some of your favorite brown 449 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 2: blue check people, brown mean and black people and brown 450 00:20:45,320 --> 00:20:47,479 Speaker 2: people who have their blue checks, the ones that you admire, 451 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:49,280 Speaker 2: the ones you look at you what I tell you, 452 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,680 Speaker 2: I know some of your fa favee face, and they 453 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:54,240 Speaker 2: stay in my inbox and on my phone and hitting 454 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:57,199 Speaker 2: me up to tell me how how overworked, overwhelmed and 455 00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 2: miserable they are despite their accomplishments. 456 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: I said, miserable. 457 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:05,280 Speaker 2: Now, you, with your happy spouse or partner and your 458 00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 2: two cute kids and the dog, you wish that you 459 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 2: could make what they make and do what they do. Meanwhile, 460 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:13,199 Speaker 2: they wish they could be home like you, like you, like, 461 00:21:13,280 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 2: don't give all that up for a fake fake life 462 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,640 Speaker 2: on social media. Social media will have you feeling bad 463 00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 2: about a good life, a good regular life that allots 464 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:26,600 Speaker 2: you time and energy and freedom really more than them, 465 00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,880 Speaker 2: and so like, yeah, like there's not too many brown 466 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:33,120 Speaker 2: blue check people that are like quite honestly like settled 467 00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:37,080 Speaker 2: in a good space, and so I aspire not to 468 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:38,840 Speaker 2: be that, you know, like they. 469 00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many. 470 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 2: Have made the pilgrimage to Newerk so we could have 471 00:21:42,920 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 2: lunch and I could pour into them the way I'm 472 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,840 Speaker 2: pouring into you now that like you actually don't have 473 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:48,920 Speaker 2: to do all of that. You get to turn away 474 00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,359 Speaker 2: and say no, rest is resistance I am going to 475 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:54,199 Speaker 2: take my rest because it is my birthright to do 476 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:56,919 Speaker 2: so I can integrate it into my goals and dreams. 477 00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 1: I don't have to overdo it. Who said that? Who 478 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:01,119 Speaker 1: said that? It's a lie? 479 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:04,760 Speaker 2: Hopefully Baqa was helpful for you today and for real, 480 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 2: I really mean that. I want us all to, like, 481 00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 2: you know, navigate from a space of like joy and 482 00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:13,400 Speaker 2: wholeness and happiness and connectedness as well as the success, 483 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:17,000 Speaker 2: because I am currently living both. I got hell of money, 484 00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 2: but I also got hell of friends and love and 485 00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:23,600 Speaker 2: time and energy and travel and excitement. I have all 486 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 2: the things, you know. The only thing I'm missing is 487 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 2: my is my direll, you know. And even then he's 488 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:30,879 Speaker 2: still here in some ways. And so I want that 489 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 2: for you. I cannot want for myself and not want 490 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 2: for you. If you want to send lessons questions into Baqwa, 491 00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,359 Speaker 2: you could do so Barnavision podcast dot com. You can 492 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:44,640 Speaker 2: send your questions there Career, life, business, entrepreneurship send them there. 493 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 2: You can also hit us up on Barnavision Podcasts on 494 00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:51,720 Speaker 2: ig or theba Podcast on Twitter. You can send us messages. 495 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:54,479 Speaker 2: If this was helpful for you today. Hopefully I support. 496 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,399 Speaker 2: A word to you today. If you want to be 497 00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 2: a mentee, we'll put this link in the show notes 498 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 2: to my mentor Tiffany dot com. It's currently only ten 499 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:04,399 Speaker 2: bucks a month, although it might go up this year. 500 00:23:04,440 --> 00:23:06,400 Speaker 2: I don't know, not for the current mentees. I always 501 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,560 Speaker 2: keep prices the same for like people who are current, 502 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:09,639 Speaker 2: but it might go up. 503 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:10,199 Speaker 1: We'll see. 504 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 2: But yeah, my mentor Tiffany dot com. And yeah, we'll 505 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:15,680 Speaker 2: see you next week. Oh actually not me though, because 506 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:20,159 Speaker 2: I'm be in Egypt, but you'll see somebody next week. Okay, bye, y'all. 507 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:24,040 Speaker 1: Hey, ba fan, we could not do this show without 508 00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:27,120 Speaker 1: your support or the support of our team behind the scenes. 509 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 1: The Brown Emission podcast is produced by Cumulus Podcast Network. 510 00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:34,560 Speaker 1: It's edited by the wonderful Emani Crosby and produced by 511 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:38,359 Speaker 1: Tanya Bustos. Dennis Stimplinsky is our in house tech guru, 512 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: and I am Bandy Woodard Santos, your co host, and 513 00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:45,520 Speaker 1: I will see y'all next week.