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Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome back to the Psychology of Your Twenties,

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Speaker 1: the podcast where we talk through some of the big

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Speaker 1: life changes and transitions of our twenties and what they

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Speaker 1: mean for our psychology. Okay, hello, Hello, Hello Gemma. This

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Speaker 1: is a third Gemma. This is Gemma. That's the real Gemma,

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Speaker 1: which one I don't know about that? Okay, if you guess,

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Speaker 1: then you are a very good listener of the podcast.

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Speaker 1: I am the real Gemma, but I do have three

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Speaker 1: amazing friends on this episode. Um, would we like to

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Speaker 1: do some introductions for this episode of Girl Talk. I

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Speaker 1: think Aaron should go first. She's the most seasoned podcast

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Speaker 1: eight listener. Bum Yes, Hello, good day, it's Aaron again.

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Speaker 1: Like yesterday, I recorded my last potty also a girl

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Speaker 1: Talk also a girl Talk back again. I was just

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Speaker 1: so good the first time, totally didn't derail the whole

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Speaker 1: episode at all in any way, shape or form. And

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Speaker 1: if you didn't listen to that episode, you should go

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Speaker 1: and listen to it. It's great. It's a great episode.

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Speaker 1: I really loved that episode. I listened to it on

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Speaker 1: my back rind to work. That's very good. So Aaron

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Speaker 1: has been on the podcast twice before most recently on

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Speaker 1: Girl Talk. This is another Girl Talk, another girl's trip,

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Speaker 1: because I, in my mum's word, cant my mum's words,

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Speaker 1: cannot stay away from my camera life and my camera friends.

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Speaker 1: So she had nothing wrong with love your mom. But

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Speaker 1: she's probably right, But I also love you guys, seems

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Speaker 1: so we've got Aaron. We have another guest who has

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Speaker 1: also been on the podcast before. Hello, it's me Umhoebe.

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Speaker 1: How do I introduce myself? Just say one fun fact

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Speaker 1: about you? You know what color? My aura color is?

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Speaker 1: Pink baby baby pinks off pink um. But yes, where

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Speaker 1: I'm here with my friends and a very any neoser,

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Speaker 1: can we say that, Yeah, yeah, we're a newser Maybe

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Speaker 1: we probably should have said that to begin with before

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Speaker 1: we introdew. Maybe we'll introduce our final person, which would

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Speaker 1: be Kate, and then we can talk about what we're

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Speaker 1: all doing here. Kate. Um, my oura color is where

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Speaker 1: I say, your ora color marines, so like light blue

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Speaker 1: for the ocean, because we're on a beach holiday at

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Speaker 1: the ocean we are. And um, Kate was on my

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Speaker 1: second episode ever of the podcast, like about a year ago.

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Speaker 1: So I'm old news. Okay, the news peeps um. So basically,

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Speaker 1: we are all here on a beach holiday. That was

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Speaker 1: Phoebe's idea, and we thought, let's get away from all

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Speaker 1: the cold and dreary, wetness of where we are to live.

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Speaker 1: We need some sunshine. We need some sunshine state not

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Speaker 1: an AD. I don't want to leave now. No, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to leave either. I think I've ruined head.

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Speaker 1: I've only been here for like where it's a forty

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Speaker 1: eight hour trip. Boat riders ride all the boats. We

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Speaker 1: have ridden in at least two boats while we've been here,

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Speaker 1: but like twice on one of them, and on both

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Speaker 1: occasions one of us was drinking. I would like to

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Speaker 1: say I was not drinking and driving on either boat.

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Speaker 1: A little shout out to Heap's Normal Beer. Not an AD,

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Speaker 1: three free beer, fantastic delicious. I have been on the

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Speaker 1: alcoholic beer by the name of a Sahi and I

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Speaker 1: know it, and on the wine of the brand Prosecco.

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Speaker 1: Borth about both experiences. So what are we doing on

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Speaker 1: this potty excellent transition? Feeding? Wow? Keep us with three pons.

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Speaker 1: There's four women in this room, all of us have

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Speaker 1: for Phoebe who's on the heaps, normal have had a

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Speaker 1: little glass of wine. And I thought for this incredible

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Speaker 1: episode of Girl Talk, we would answer some of the

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Speaker 1: flex mummy questions, the reflex questions, and we did some

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Speaker 1: of these last night at dinner. How was dinner last night?

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Speaker 1: To enjoy it? It was one thing of this trip.

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Speaker 1: We have spent a lot of money. There's nothing that place.

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Speaker 1: dinner last night. Um our darling Aaron brought these cards

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Speaker 1: that she really likes, and there a series of questions

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Speaker 1: Lexm Okay, we cannot do more than another shout out.

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Speaker 1: I think we're using her past. We've done to her fields,

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Speaker 1: So if you do like these questions, that's where we

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Speaker 1: well be prepared. I'm sure we have some juicy answers.

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Speaker 1: So to kick off the first question, I pulled this

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Speaker 1: played a lot of Banana Grams. I love that that right,

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Speaker 1: it with you. Aron. What were your first impressions of Gemma?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you know, my first I'm fucking incredible,

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Speaker 1: because they would, let's be terrible, mind. I can't. I

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Speaker 1: but also, this is my podcast, this is your podcast.

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Speaker 1: So my first impression, Gemma were parties. No, you can't. No.

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Speaker 1: just got a Mecca package and she proceeds to unbox

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I live. It's it's not that it's a

423
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 1: morning routine, like I wake up relatively early. Yeah, however,

424
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: however I don't have you don't know, I don't have it.

425
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 1: I don't like having a routine. I like doing something

426
00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 1: different every day. I set my alarm for a different

427
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 1: minute every day. I could not do that. I don't know.

428
00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:45,160
Speaker 1: I think I'm like if I especially for like work

429
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: or something limited time me to get up and do

430
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:49,439
Speaker 1: it all in that time frame that I have, like

431
00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: a I just I go to bed at random times,

432
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 1: I wake up at random times. I eat random food

433
00:24:55,680 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 1: every day. Like it's never that girl or just the

434
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:02,199
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. It was just such a

435
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,639
Speaker 1: lockdown thing people like lacking motivation and things, and I

436
00:25:04,680 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 1: was like, I need to do that. So I kind

437
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:10,000
Speaker 1: of stayed insane. Yeah, you should create a TikTok and

438
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:18,399
Speaker 1: become TikTok famous. We don't know. No, Yes, I love it. Hey,

439
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:19,679
Speaker 1: but guys, if one of us was going to be

440
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:23,520
Speaker 1: TikTok famous probably either Phoebe or k I am TikTok famous,

441
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 1: not tikto famous. I'ment viral once and you're your dog

442
00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:33,120
Speaker 1: My dog. My dog went viral and it was hilarious. Aron,

443
00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:36,840
Speaker 1: what's a stereotype about you? Can? I give one view?

444
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:44,439
Speaker 1: The redhead was a bit of a temper and her

445
00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:49,960
Speaker 1: ora color is red. So with the fighting, that's true, true,

446
00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: it's so true. I'm such an angry person Aaron. Today

447
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 1: there was a child walking in front of her when

448
00:25:56,520 --> 00:25:59,359
Speaker 1: we were on the Hasting Street in Noosa and the

449
00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 1: child was just ambling along as a child does with

450
00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:06,479
Speaker 1: very little perceptual awareness, and Aaron just like, it's like,

451
00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,159
Speaker 1: oh my god, get out of my way. It almost

452
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 1: runs into this child. I was doing the under the

453
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:17,360
Speaker 1: breath comment. I was walk it. I was like, how

454
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 1: dare you like get out of my life? A three

455
00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 1: year old of no critical thinking skill. The parents need

456
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 1: to take it out of the way, like I'm sorry,

457
00:26:29,320 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 1: that's kind of child run into traffic. Another example was

458
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:37,439
Speaker 1: watching you use your phone, pay phone, use your phone

459
00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 1: to pay like the Hayway tonight, Yeah, getting dinner, getting

460
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 1: pizza and instead of just like you know, putting in

461
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,199
Speaker 1: your pastcord or scanning your face and like holding your

462
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 1: phone above the thing. Um, it was like slam. Yeah,

463
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 1: I always do that when I just like I always,

464
00:26:54,320 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 1: I always do the like I really tap it like

465
00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 1: viciously and then when my eyes fully cancel it and

466
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:02,679
Speaker 1: then like go freaking. I got so angry the other

467
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:05,120
Speaker 1: day I threw my phone across the room and then

468
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 1: it broke and I speaker sounds weird because I threw it. Damn,

469
00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: you're not going to be our speaker and the bowl girl. No,

470
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 1: I'm not going to feed speaking the girl because it's

471
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:15,600
Speaker 1: all crappily now. So to run through our stereotypes, we've

472
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 1: got a hot headed, redhead, a cellowed player I'm moving routina,

473
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 1: and a swifty and a swifty a cello player. I

474
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: don't think that's my sterogy. No, I know what my

475
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 1: stereotype is. Horse girl. Oh you can just look at

476
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 1: me and know I was a horse girl. Yeah, okay, exactly, Yeah, okay,

477
00:27:41,840 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 1: that was amazing. Next question, and this one is so

478
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 1: interesting because I've never asked any of you this, and

479
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: I'm really interested in here recount the first time you

480
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 1: were intoxicated the first time you're drunk. I actually I

481
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: remember the first time. I was like freaked off my face.

482
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:01,639
Speaker 1: We were I don't know, high school party, group of

483
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: us young uns and you know, just having a good time.

484
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 1: We look in the mirror and it was the most

485
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 1: out of body experience seeing my drunk self in the mirror.

486
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 1: I just pissed myself laughing, and I thought it was

487
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:16,239
Speaker 1: the most just the funniest thing because I, I don't know,

488
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:17,919
Speaker 1: it was like I was looking at myself. I was like,

489
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,199
Speaker 1: that's Kate, but that's not Kate, And it was just

490
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:23,840
Speaker 1: this weird, like out of body do you personalized I

491
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: don't know, sort of feeling. I just kissed myself every

492
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:29,159
Speaker 1: time I saw myself in the reflection. What were you

493
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:32,120
Speaker 1: drunk on? Oh? I think it was like a double

494
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:37,919
Speaker 1: blacks good times? She was drunk on good times? What

495
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 1: about you, phibs Um. It was probably when I went

496
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 1: on exchange to France and I was friends and so

497
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:49,120
Speaker 1: I was friends with all the French kids at my school,

498
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 1: but I also had my exchange friends, and so these

499
00:28:52,680 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 1: were kids from the US, one girl from Iceland, m Austria, Germany, Netherlands,

500
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 1: a bunch of Guatemalans and this girl from Brazil and

501
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 1: oh and a guy from Argentina, and just different drinking

502
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,520
Speaker 1: ages all around the world, different drinking cultures, different drinking cultures,

503
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 1: and yeah, I just remember getting we were actually like

504
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 1: we'd gotten some we bought some alcohol, and then we'd

505
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:22,479
Speaker 1: gone down to this like beautiful fountain like in the

506
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 1: middle of the town that I was in, and yeah,

507
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: we're just sitting there and I think it was like

508
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:32,880
Speaker 1: champagne or something levels and I just remember being like, whoa,

509
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: I how many drinks do you think you would have

510
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 1: had to get to that level? And yeah, probably, Yeah,

511
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 1: Like I never um, like in high school. It was

512
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 1: only towards the very end of high school even that

513
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:51,720
Speaker 1: I like, after formals, like after parties, they were sort

514
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 1: of the only like I experiences that I would drink

515
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:57,720
Speaker 1: a little bit. But I don't know, like I would

516
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 1: remember when I was stereotyp I do remember, and I

517
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: was like eighteen or something and I finished like high

518
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: school and stuff, and my dad picked me up from

519
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 1: a party and it was like, did you drink? And

520
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: I was like, no, you were eighteen though. Yeah, but

521
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,680
Speaker 1: like my family, we don't drink, like we're not big drinkers,

522
00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 1: and I it's just not something that like it was

523
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: really more when I came to UNI. But I like

524
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: I drunk in high school. It wasn't It was never

525
00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 1: too an extreme, I don't think so. I don't think

526
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:32,000
Speaker 1: it was like it's like one UDL two D naughty.

527
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: I love that the first thing you got drunk off

528
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: was a champagne in France. Yeah, I love that. I

529
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 1: just think it's amazing near a fountain. Yeah, it was

530
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:48,120
Speaker 1: actually castle in the middle of the town that I

531
00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 1: was in, and there was a big cat at the

532
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,959
Speaker 1: bottom and yeah, and then I think we went into

533
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:58,080
Speaker 1: a club and had a great night. That sounds so

534
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: the rest is history. Did you know? I lived in Europe?

535
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: Phoebe today at the markets talking French, but everyone I

536
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 1: was just standing there. But she was really good. And

537
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 1: then I would just be standing there like drinking my

538
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: overpriced smoothie, being like, what hell my name is Jemma Pale,

539
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: Gemma Aaron, what was the first time you were ever intoxicated? Um?

540
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 1: So little known in fact about me. I didn't start

541
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 1: drinking until I was eighteen. Good job I didn't know that. Yeah, um,

542
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:34,719
Speaker 1: like staunchly it was wearing anti alcohol until I was eighteen. Um,

543
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:37,600
Speaker 1: and then I remember my first drink. I don't remember

544
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:40,000
Speaker 1: getting drunk for the first time because, as we have

545
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 1: mentioned in the past twenty minutes, I don't have a

546
00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 1: very good memory U. So yeah, I don't remember because

547
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 1: I was I would have been at my gap here,

548
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 1: so it would have been at some point when I

549
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 1: was traveling on my gap here. Clearly wasn't that memorable,

550
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: like you were drunk so and like I had lots

551
00:31:57,480 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 1: of times on my gap here where I went out

552
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 1: and had little party and you know, um, but the

553
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 1: first time I ever drank, I was like given like

554
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 1: gin and juice and it was terrible. It was so

555
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: like gin and orange juice. And I was like in

556
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:16,320
Speaker 1: this plastic cup and I was just sitting there and drinking,

557
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 1: and like I never really drunk before. So I think

558
00:32:18,280 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 1: I remember standing up and being like, oh, that's a

559
00:32:20,280 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 1: bit weird. But yeah, I didn't drink that much at

560
00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: all because I was very uncomfortable with the people I

561
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:27,959
Speaker 1: was with my work with, who were kind of horrible

562
00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 1: and I didn't really like them, and I was like, oh,

563
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 1: I don't want this to be like I couldn't go

564
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:33,920
Speaker 1: out because I was like seventeen, I didn't have a

565
00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 1: fake idea and I was in the UK, and I

566
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm didn't so I didn't really drink.

567
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 1: Oh interesting, I never knew that about you yet. But

568
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: I also like, you know, having a parent who's an alcoholic,

569
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: it doesn't really encourage you to drink that much alcohol.

570
00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, interesting. But I don't know, don't remember.

571
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:56,479
Speaker 1: I think I probably remember the first time I got high.

572
00:32:56,520 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 1: Maybe um, yeah that is or another time for another time. Yeah.

573
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 1: The first time I ever got drunk was so funny.

574
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 1: So my friend Zoe, who was on the podcast she

575
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:13,240
Speaker 1: did the Secrets of Lasting Friendship episode. She turned eighteen

576
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 1: before I did, so of course being friends, you know,

577
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 1: you got to really take advantage of that. And the

578
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 1: first time I ever got drunk, we went and saw

579
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:26,160
Speaker 1: a movie and then afterwards we went to seven eleven

580
00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: in the city because I lived in Melbourne at the time,

581
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:31,479
Speaker 1: in the city, and we bought these massive slurpies and

582
00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:32,720
Speaker 1: then she was like, do you want to have a

583
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 1: little thing to drink? And I was like okay, and

584
00:33:36,160 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 1: I've had like a drunk before, but I was like okay,

585
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 1: And she bought those tiny little bottles of gin, which

586
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 1: is such a dead giveaway that someone is buying alcohol

587
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 1: for someone else and that they're young, because who the

588
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 1: fuck buys those tiny bottles of gin unless you're about

589
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 1: to spike at drink, like, unless you're about to either

590
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 1: take it into like a rave and you're not at alcohol,

591
00:33:57,200 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 1: or you are about to spack of drink. So she

592
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:02,320
Speaker 1: bought five tiny little bowls of gin and poured three

593
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:04,920
Speaker 1: of them into my into my sloppy, which I then

594
00:34:04,960 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 1: proceeded to finish in about five minutes. And I was like,

595
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:12,640
Speaker 1: this feels amazing. So she went and bought two more,

596
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 1: and we got another sloppy and she poured to it,

597
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 1: and I remember I was so drunk and I had

598
00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 1: to get the tram home. It was like five shots

599
00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 1: of gin, which these days would like I would be tipsy,

600
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,840
Speaker 1: but I wouldn't be drunk. I would be drunk. Yeah, actually,

601
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 1: And also you had three, I had five when I

602
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 1: got two more, and also I would be drunk because

603
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:35,879
Speaker 1: I drained them in about fifteen minutes. Oh my god.

604
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 1: And I had to get the tram home and I

605
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:44,839
Speaker 1: was like whoa and everything. Yeah, and I meant it

606
00:34:44,840 --> 00:34:47,120
Speaker 1: and I got home and I was like, oh my god,

607
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 1: my mum can't know I'm drunk. And I walked in

608
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 1: and my mum was still up and I was like,

609
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 1: hey mom, and she was like she was like hey.

610
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm going to go to bed, and

611
00:34:57,840 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 1: it was like a part of me and I was like, um, yeah,

612
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 1: and that's a part of me that was like, I

613
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 1: want to act a bit more trump. I want to

614
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: have this weird conversation with my mom about the fun

615
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:14,439
Speaker 1: that I've been drinking. I just never noticed. So yeah, yeah,

616
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:17,399
Speaker 1: very very cute, very very cute. And I've since told

617
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: her she thought it was really funny. Um. The next question,

618
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 1: Phoebe picked this one. Thank Phoebe. Would you like to

619
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,400
Speaker 1: read it since you picked, I don't know, or would

620
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:35,440
Speaker 1: you rather be naive or jaded? Naive? No question about it.

621
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,960
Speaker 1: Naive because then you can be ignorant. Yeah. I am

622
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 1: jaded and I am naive. I wish I was a

623
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,319
Speaker 1: little bit more jaded, but I wouldn't probably still rather

624
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:49,879
Speaker 1: be naive because I like my life. Yeah. I think

625
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 1: in both of those cases you can be very happily.

626
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: I think when you're jaded, you can be happily surprised,

627
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 1: whereas when you're naive, it's always going to be a

628
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 1: I like that. But Kate, what do you think? I

629
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:05,720
Speaker 1: don't know. If you like, I wouldn't say I'm naive,

630
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:07,839
Speaker 1: but I'm definitely not jaded. I think I would would

631
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:12,400
Speaker 1: be somewhere. If you're naive, you can get Yeah, that's true,

632
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 1: you can like just be oblivious to things around you.

633
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 1: But when you're jaded, you're grumpy. When you were talking

634
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 1: about this today, I feel like when we were having

635
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:25,840
Speaker 1: this chat earlier, when you're jaded, it's really hard to

636
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 1: see the best in situations. And I think it's kind

637
00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:30,960
Speaker 1: of like what you were talking about, Aaron. With your

638
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,399
Speaker 1: impressions of people, you always expect a negative outcome because

639
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 1: I think jaded naturally comes from an experience with a

640
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: negative outcome, comes from a point of negativity, so you're

641
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: always expecting something negative. Can I just at a point

642
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 1: that you just what you just said just reminded me

643
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 1: of something that I have been trying really hard to

644
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 1: do all the time, um, particularly in the last year.

645
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 1: But I try and notice and this is something I

646
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 1: learned from my dad, and I've also spoken my housemade

647
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:05,240
Speaker 1: about but trying to find little things like the simple

648
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 1: pleasures of life, like little positive things like for example,

649
00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 1: if I am on a walk, or I'm even just

650
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: walking to the like train stop or something, I'll see

651
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 1: like a cool leaf or something and I have to

652
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:21,360
Speaker 1: point it out, like my boyfriend is having to listen

653
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 1: to me, stop and go. It's a caterpillar. And looking

654
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: at the little simple pres like like oh my gosh,

655
00:37:30,520 --> 00:37:33,080
Speaker 1: like a really good coffee or something. The simple pleasures

656
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 1: and like seeking enjoyment in them is a really fantastic

657
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:41,000
Speaker 1: thing to do, and I am really enjoyed doing it.

658
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,600
Speaker 1: With both these arguments in mind, what do you think

659
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:48,560
Speaker 1: I would still say, I'm I'm in the middle, I think,

660
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:52,279
Speaker 1: would I know? But would you rather? And I don't.

661
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:55,320
Speaker 1: I literally don't know, because I mean, I'm in the middle,

662
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: and I don't know. I quite like it, I think

663
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,280
Speaker 1: because obviously, if you're too naive, if people can abuse

664
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:02,960
Speaker 1: that and things go over your head and you're not

665
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:06,600
Speaker 1: actually quite you're not aware of what is really happening

666
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 1: around you. But if you're too jaded, yeah, you have

667
00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 1: this very cynical sort of outlook on people in life.

668
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:16,800
Speaker 1: It's quite I'm detrimental. What would you I can't curiosity.

669
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:23,000
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe like a critical cynic or something. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

670
00:38:23,040 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 1: you're sort of like I'm aware that you know, not

671
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:28,440
Speaker 1: everything is as it seems, but like I'm credically in

672
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:31,280
Speaker 1: the sense that like that can change. Yeah, I'm almost

673
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 1: into to say jaded, and that's that's controversial. I don't know.

674
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 1: I don't know naive, Like I don't know, jem what

675
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:44,160
Speaker 1: do you think I would say? Because yeah, actually, can

676
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: I change my answer? I would I would actually probably

677
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 1: say jaded because I think what I said before, like

678
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,000
Speaker 1: thinking about that, like when you're jaded, you have the

679
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 1: opportunity to be positively surprised. Whereas true, I was happiest

680
00:38:56,640 --> 00:39:00,799
Speaker 1: when I was ten years old, so be as naive

681
00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: as I was, I'd rather I'd rather be jaded because

682
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 1: I do actually think that people and situations doesn't surprise you.

683
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: If I think changes occurring. If I'm a Clanot Denier,

684
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:17,320
Speaker 1: you're like two kids in NUSA as a yummy mummy

685
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:21,880
Speaker 1: in your active way, and I go to yoga and

686
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:23,600
Speaker 1: you maybe you are with your little life and you're

687
00:39:23,600 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 1: like multimillion dollar Manchin maybe I'm more jaded than I think. Yeah,

688
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:30,799
Speaker 1: I think I just revealed like quite jaded from that

689
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 1: sentence itself. But I think that would be fun. Like

690
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 1: I think there's a there's a certain I also think

691
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,920
Speaker 1: it's related to like income and education status, but I

692
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 1: think that there is a certain like level of middle

693
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 1: ground that you also see a lot with like social

694
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 1: media influences, whether they where they have a lot of money,

695
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 1: a lot of disposable income and they're like, let's go

696
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: and they just like this really actually are aware of it,

697
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 1: and they just decide not up to me. I'm an individual.

698
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna do what I want for my own

699
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 1: personal game. No, because I think they're completely naives. They

700
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:07,560
Speaker 1: just live their little life because they know they can

701
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 1: live their little life because at the end of the day,

702
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:15,279
Speaker 1: they have never like in some ways, like because of

703
00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 1: the like I don't want to say, because I'm typecasting

704
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,279
Speaker 1: like anybody who's a social media influencer. So I think

705
00:40:22,280 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: we all know, like what type of social media influencer

706
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. We saw some of them today. We

707
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:29,840
Speaker 1: saw some of the today taking photos of them sifting

708
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 1: and their little stiffoward and then we're quite funny. Actually,

709
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,399
Speaker 1: we were all four of us were walking back from

710
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:38,360
Speaker 1: this like pretty isolated beach area and it's in the

711
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:40,919
Speaker 1: National Park, and we were talking about something a little

712
00:40:40,920 --> 00:40:43,799
Speaker 1: bit gross. No, it's not gross, it's it's something that

713
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:47,320
Speaker 1: happens very normal. We're talking about peeing in the ocean.

714
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:49,840
Speaker 1: No peeing in the ocean and peeing in the shower.

715
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:56,759
Speaker 1: Everyone doesn't very satisfying, very satisfying. What it is at

716
00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 1: the end of the day. Who bees in the ocean?

717
00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 1: The fucking whales. Okay, if you're if you're at the beach,

718
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 1: If you're at the beach and you have the choice

719
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,360
Speaker 1: of going to one of those grimy public toilets that

720
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:12,320
Speaker 1: are near a beach or peeing in the ocean. You also,

721
00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 1: by the time you know, the sun disinfects it, right,

722
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 1: whales and you're saving. But anyhow, these are influenced types

723
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 1: just gave us why they gave us dirty looks. I

724
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,320
Speaker 1: was trying to figure, Okay, that makes so much sense.

725
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: They were just like, because we were cackling away as

726
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 1: we should, we were having a great time, as we should.

727
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, I think people like that live very naive.

728
00:41:44,680 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 1: I want to use the word sheltered. Again, I'm making

729
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: a huge stereotype and like broadly painting everybody with the

730
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:54,120
Speaker 1: same brush. But I think very sheltered life in which

731
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 1: their ability to live the way they do is due

732
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 1: to their disposable income, lack of responsibility, and nepotism. Baby

733
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 1: vibes vibes, which is not says anything wrong with that,

734
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 1: because I would also love that, because I would love

735
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: to be naivete with like giving all my fast fashion

736
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 1: Google Google Google, Um, Shane shine, what is it called

737
00:42:21,120 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: shine every week? And you shine package the clothing brass? Oh, No,

738
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:30,480
Speaker 1: they'd be going, they'd be going something like they'd probably

739
00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 1: be going Princess Polly. I think, yeah, high Brad Lulu Lemon. Yeah,

740
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:38,279
Speaker 1: where you go to your little yoga class and you

741
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 1: focus on yourself because I don't know anything again, there's

742
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 1: something more. We're going to a yoga cass. Actually sorry, Okay,

743
00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:51,799
Speaker 1: that was a terrible example. I already hate ya. No,

744
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: who was talking to I think EJ and I was

745
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:57,320
Speaker 1: talking about this other day. Maybe it was Aja again,

746
00:42:57,520 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 1: terrible memory. Wow, this podcast is really showing this. But yeah, basically,

747
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 1: um she was talking about this. I think it was

748
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 1: DJ was where she um goes to your own class

749
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 1: and sees like the same people every single morning sometimes

750
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 1: and they'll go like three times a day, have lunch,

751
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 1: do a little like afternoon session, and then like go home.

752
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 1: And I was like, to live like that would be

753
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:28,279
Speaker 1: pure bliss. Aaron wants to be naive. You want to

754
00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 1: be native. Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, it's going to read.

755
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 1: The next question will be less anxious. Youn't tend to

756
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 1: say less anxiety for less aniety. Next question, when the

757
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:45,720
Speaker 1: first time you truly felt like an adult? Well, I don't.

758
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, because I always when I talk about

759
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:55,719
Speaker 1: real adults aka people with mortgages and um real more.

760
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: I have a real job, but like the real real jobs. Anyways,

761
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 1: I like to make the distinct distinction that I am

762
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:03,799
Speaker 1: not one of those real adults yet. Yeah, I feel

763
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:06,160
Speaker 1: like I'm fifteen most act. Surely you feel I have

764
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 1: felt like an adult before. I feel the same as

765
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: when I was fifteen. When I'm on the catching public

766
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 1: transport and I'm in my work clothes looking around, everyone

767
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: is in their business attire. I'm like, I look like

768
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:27,920
Speaker 1: the two kids down in their school uniforms. I'm like,

769
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 1: I'm I'm that. Yeah, it's actually a really hard question.

770
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,359
Speaker 1: Are you trying to think about it? Kate? Yeah, I

771
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:38,280
Speaker 1: can remember a period when I first felt like an adult,

772
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:43,239
Speaker 1: Like there was this time I think it was in

773
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 1: the middle of my first year at UNI, and I

774
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 1: just like kind of got my heartbroken and I felt

775
00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:52,280
Speaker 1: for the first time like I was making adult decisions

776
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 1: and feeling adult feelings and I was like responsible for

777
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 1: those feelings and mine. This is so interesting you say

778
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 1: that mine is so similar. Really, yeah, my first year

779
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:05,360
Speaker 1: as well. Yeah, I wouldn't I wouldn't say heartbroken, but

780
00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 1: I would say a bit of a shake up in

781
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 1: my life. But it was like the first time that

782
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,320
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm kind of like the only person

783
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 1: here for myself right now. Whereas usually if this would

784
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:17,799
Speaker 1: happen when I was back home, you know, Melbourne, like

785
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 1: with my family and stuff, I'd just be like a

786
00:45:19,520 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 1: crying wreck or just an anxious mess, and there'd be

787
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:23,839
Speaker 1: a lot of people around to be like, oh, you're fine,

788
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 1: Like let's take care of you. Cookie, did a lot,

789
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: you dar whatever it was. But I was just fully

790
00:45:28,200 --> 00:45:31,040
Speaker 1: on my own, and I just remember, yeah, one day,

791
00:45:31,760 --> 00:45:34,400
Speaker 1: just just a lot had happened, and I was just

792
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 1: sort of walking through like the city in Canberra. I

793
00:45:37,560 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 1: hadn't eaten all day. It was like two pm. All

794
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: the lunch shops were closed. I was just a mess.

795
00:45:41,680 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: I was having I was just trying to get to

796
00:45:44,080 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 1: some chemist to get something. I was just all over

797
00:45:46,080 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 1: the show and I was like freak, Like you really

798
00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:51,640
Speaker 1: only have yourself in this moment, and it was sort

799
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,280
Speaker 1: of like a moment of realization where I was like, damn,

800
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:57,800
Speaker 1: like I'm a real I don't know. Yeah, yes, and

801
00:45:58,280 --> 00:46:01,719
Speaker 1: interesting to say, mine was very very similar responsible for

802
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 1: your own emotions and just like these emotions really pushy there.

803
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 1: It's so interesting. I never knew that. Yeah, but I

804
00:46:09,160 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 1: had a similar thing where I was really sad and

805
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:13,480
Speaker 1: I was walking. I don't know. I think you were

806
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:15,240
Speaker 1: the only person who was in my life in this period.

807
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:18,719
Speaker 1: But I would walk around campus at like two three

808
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:22,799
Speaker 1: am in the morning, yeah, all by myself, and I

809
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 1: would walk around and I put on really loud music

810
00:46:25,480 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 1: and I would walk into like the darkest sports of

811
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 1: campcredibly dangerous. I would I would walk down to Suliman

812
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,080
Speaker 1: Cricket and I just and I remember just being like

813
00:46:35,480 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: one time I walked back into the building and I

814
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:40,400
Speaker 1: was like checking from my card to get in, and

815
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 1: I found it and I just like stood there and

816
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,640
Speaker 1: I was just like I felt really really mature, and

817
00:46:45,680 --> 00:46:49,760
Speaker 1: I felt jaded. I felt jaded. I felt jaded. Yeah, Aaron,

818
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 1: what about you? I would say interestingly, I have like

819
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 1: two one that happened kind of recently, because for me,

820
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 1: it kind of comes and goes. Um. I know the

821
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,720
Speaker 1: question is first time, but I want to hear both. Yeah, well,

822
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 1: I think boat Like. The first thing is sometimes I

823
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:08,520
Speaker 1: get these random flashes where I'm like I could wake

824
00:47:08,560 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 1: up at three them and go for a walk and

825
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 1: nobody could stop me. Because when I was a kid,

826
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 1: I used to want to go for like runs all

827
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:15,799
Speaker 1: the time when I couldn't get to sleep at like

828
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: ten him at night or whatever. And I used to

829
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 1: be like, oh, I really want to just like go

830
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 1: for a run and get all this energy out of

831
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 1: me whatever. My mom would never let me because she'd

832
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, it's way to unsafe outside. I was fifteen,

833
00:47:25,280 --> 00:47:27,920
Speaker 1: totally get that, and still child, you're a real one.

834
00:47:28,000 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 1: I was an actual child, but I always have these

835
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:32,759
Speaker 1: realizations that as an adult, I'm like oh my god,

836
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,840
Speaker 1: I could just like go and like go for a

837
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 1: walk or I don't know, those sudden realizations because I

838
00:47:39,120 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 1: feel like I mentally feel fifteen most of the time.

839
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:45,279
Speaker 1: But the sudden realizations happen on public transport. Yeah. Yeah.

840
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 1: Catching a plane by yourself, yeah, catching a plane by yourself, yeah,

841
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: which I can't do. So I think I did that

842
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,000
Speaker 1: as a child though, because like if I was going

843
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 1: back to wahc family or something. You girls, Yeah, but

844
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 1: like when you go and book your own flight, yeah,

845
00:48:00,520 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 1: well you're organizing your own accommodation. Yeah, like for myself. Yeah,

846
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:12,800
Speaker 1: you feel like an adult right now with you guys know. Yeah,

847
00:48:12,960 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 1: today when we were on the ferry, I was like,

848
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm sixty. Yeah. Yeah, I felt like

849
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:25,760
Speaker 1: one today though, with my bag, with my bag. Yeah.

850
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 1: What was your second one? Um? So yeah, first one random,

851
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:32,239
Speaker 1: which interestingly I've never done. I've never gotten up with

852
00:48:32,360 --> 00:48:34,719
Speaker 1: ram and like wandering around by myself, probably because I'm

853
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: concerned for my safety. But I could do that, but

854
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 1: the fact that you know, you did not chalk that

855
00:48:40,120 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 1: up to an adult. Um. And the second one is

856
00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:55,239
Speaker 1: that when I moved with Jack, my boyfriend, Um, I

857
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:58,839
Speaker 1: don't know these single pole cast episode. I've told him too,

858
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:02,360
Speaker 1: he's not acast person. We discussed this on the previous

859
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 1: Girls Talk episode Why Podcast Person Next road Trip Yeah yeah,

860
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:10,960
Speaker 1: um but oh he has listened to it with me,

861
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 1: whether he's listened to any of the episodes anyway, I'm

862
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:17,840
Speaker 1: going on to te um. We when we moved to

863
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:20,080
Speaker 1: Tassi together, we lived together in like a big three

864
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:23,560
Speaker 1: bedroom house in Hobar, which was really lovely. Um, and

865
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,640
Speaker 1: we would often have moments where we'd be like cooking

866
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: dinner together or whatever, and we were like, wow, like

867
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:32,560
Speaker 1: this feels like a real, like adult thing. Yeah, because

868
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 1: like it's it's interesting because like when you live with

869
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 1: your partner like separately, it feels very very grown up

870
00:49:39,120 --> 00:49:42,480
Speaker 1: because it's something like I guess people romanticize a lot,

871
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 1: probably like when you're a kid and you're like, one

872
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:48,640
Speaker 1: day I'm gonna live in my hash from my um.

873
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 1: But also it's like, oh, we can just like literally

874
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:54,759
Speaker 1: eat whatever we want for dinner. Like sometimes we get

875
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 1: frozen pizza and two beaks for dinner. It's really yummy.

876
00:49:57,440 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 1: And then other times we'll cook like a big meal

877
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:02,839
Speaker 1: or have soup or something really healthy or you know.

878
00:50:03,320 --> 00:50:06,320
Speaker 1: But yeah, when we were living together, and it was

879
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:08,400
Speaker 1: always like when we were cooking, which is really interesting,

880
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 1: but as because we had the transporting, beautiful big kitchen

881
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,879
Speaker 1: and Tazi and we'd always be cooking dinner or we'd

882
00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: be like dancing around in the kitchen together or like

883
00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 1: you know, playing reflex or just like talking about our days.

884
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:22,239
Speaker 1: And it's like, wow, it feels like a real adult thing,

885
00:50:22,239 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: because living in the sharehouse doesn't make you feel like

886
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:26,960
Speaker 1: an adult. It makes me feel like I am twelve. Yeah,

887
00:50:28,040 --> 00:50:32,399
Speaker 1: living with you're living with your buddies. Yeah, it's yeah, hey,

888
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:36,200
Speaker 1: crazy about what you just said. You were like when

889
00:50:36,200 --> 00:50:37,840
Speaker 1: you move in with your partner. It's this thing that

890
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 1: you've looked forward to as a child. It's just I

891
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:42,880
Speaker 1: had not realized this, but you're like one of my

892
00:50:42,920 --> 00:50:45,719
Speaker 1: first friends. We've done that, and it's crazy to be like,

893
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:51,440
Speaker 1: oh my god, we're in that stage. And isn't it

894
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 1: crazy to be like, oh my god, we're in the

895
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 1: stage when an adult realization moments where people are moving

896
00:50:57,560 --> 00:51:01,200
Speaker 1: in with their partners and I'm just like my friends, No,

897
00:51:01,239 --> 00:51:07,879
Speaker 1: I don't think any oh geet get yeah, Reta, why

898
00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:11,960
Speaker 1: do think I was thinking about friend Gia. Yeah, I think. Also,

899
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 1: I'm just like totally not Well, you guys all have

900
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,640
Speaker 1: very beautiful relationships with people who've all been together with

901
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:20,200
Speaker 1: almost all of you at a year. We all started

902
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:23,759
Speaker 1: dating our partners at the same time last year, and

903
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 1: you know who, I started dating someone who who I

904
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:31,120
Speaker 1: no longer speak to, but you guys all started dating people,

905
00:51:31,200 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 1: which but it's fine because I really like all your partners. Um,

906
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 1: So I'm not even in that mindset, Aaron at all

907
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 1: of this is what an adult like. But it's really

908
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: it's really weird because it feels very official, and I

909
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:48,799
Speaker 1: think sometimes that's quite scary, but it's also really fucking fun,

910
00:51:49,520 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 1: Like living together with Jack is so living together living

911
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 1: with Jack living together is really really fucking fun. We

912
00:51:58,360 --> 00:52:05,520
Speaker 1: have lots of fun. That's so nice. Okay, So to

913
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:07,359
Speaker 1: wrap this up, we're going to do a quick speed round,

914
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 1: one question for one person glowing around the circle so

915
00:52:10,760 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 1: we can say goodbye to our three lovely guests for

916
00:52:13,600 --> 00:52:15,879
Speaker 1: coming on. Phoebe, would you like to start a question

917
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 1: for Kate for me? Go pick it for each person. No,

918
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:22,440
Speaker 1: you pick for your own, Okay, do I peep from

919
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 1: the top of the day. Yeah, wherever I'm just I'm

920
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:27,640
Speaker 1: going diving into the middle here. Okay, great, frick how

921
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:29,840
Speaker 1: do I do it? If there was one reason for living,

922
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:35,480
Speaker 1: what do you think it is? Okay? One, okay, one

923
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:39,399
Speaker 1: reason for living? God, I think it's just to make

924
00:52:39,480 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 1: all the fucking mistakes in the world, but learn from

925
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: them so that your life, like actually has purpose and meaning.

926
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:48,120
Speaker 1: If you're just like constantly living a happy life. Honestly,

927
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:50,759
Speaker 1: what's the point in living? Make mistakes, learn from them,

928
00:52:51,280 --> 00:53:01,360
Speaker 1: have a life worth living? I thought you're answer seriously that.

929
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:03,760
Speaker 1: I thought her answer was going to be Gelada Messina

930
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 1: And also okay, Gemma ready, oh, actually answer that question

931
00:53:11,719 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 1: last night. We also answered that question last night. Have

932
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 1: you got a last night question? Yeah? What's an irrational

933
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 1: phobia of yours? Planes? Yes, very easy. My irrational phobia

934
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:30,640
Speaker 1: is planes. Another irrational phobia is that personal one. But

935
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:32,880
Speaker 1: everyone I date is going to find someone after me?

936
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 1: Isn't even like it's incredibly irrational because it's a high

937
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 1: likelihood that every single person you will date will move

938
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:45,680
Speaker 1: on to find a person, because that's how dating works.

939
00:53:46,080 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 1: Over to you, Aaron and or relations, guys, You've you've

940
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:52,399
Speaker 1: had so much time, and we've done very very speed speed,

941
00:53:53,200 --> 00:53:57,000
Speaker 1: and let's keep it up. Let's keep it up, like

942
00:53:57,320 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 1: to random, here we go. This is an alien question.

943
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:09,960
Speaker 1: What do you think aliens look like? Oh? Yeah, I agree,

944
00:54:10,040 --> 00:54:14,719
Speaker 1: Kater agreed, center in the Norman territory. Oh, it's why

945
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:23,120
Speaker 1: I can talk about that quickly. It um. I think

946
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 1: that we simply could not comprehend what aliens look like.

947
00:54:28,960 --> 00:54:30,880
Speaker 1: And I think that they're probably all watching us, like

948
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 1: the Truman Show, the film, we are just their little pawns,

949
00:54:36,080 --> 00:54:39,359
Speaker 1: and I reckon they place bets on our lives. Yeah,

950
00:54:39,560 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 1: I reckon we fully just like. There's no side doing

951
00:54:42,719 --> 00:54:46,000
Speaker 1: basis for this. By the way, this is my personal theory. Yeah.

952
00:54:46,640 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 1: I think that's interesting because as a child, I used

953
00:54:49,000 --> 00:54:51,280
Speaker 1: to think that we were living in a little tiny

954
00:54:51,360 --> 00:54:54,120
Speaker 1: box and giants were playing with us. Yeah, and yeah

955
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 1: dolls the giants would control. Yeah, that's that's similar. Vibes

956
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:04,720
Speaker 1: your question from the top, Oh, Baker Rock, how would

957
00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:09,120
Speaker 1: this experience be different if there was no drugs or alcohol? Well,

958
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:11,680
Speaker 1: I'm not drinking right now, so it would be the

959
00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:14,879
Speaker 1: exact same. That's a really question. I'm doing a new one.

960
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 1: Anyone would you rather live without love or money. I

961
00:55:19,760 --> 00:55:25,919
Speaker 1: would definitely rather live without money. I will go live

962
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:30,440
Speaker 1: as a recluse in the mountains with some goats and

963
00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:36,399
Speaker 1: love who I love. Cake out that one completely wrong,

964
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:41,719
Speaker 1: and I would be so that's I. Money makes me

965
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:44,680
Speaker 1: really stressed. So but love makes me really happy. What

966
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 1: a beautiful beautiful in the words of the money makes

967
00:55:53,640 --> 00:55:57,160
Speaker 1: me stressed, but love makes me happy. And you know

968
00:55:57,280 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 1: what the words of Cake bolter all of today. My

969
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 1: money don't jiggle jigger the amount of times I heard it.

970
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:10,759
Speaker 1: We'll be walking on the path money. Thanks, um think,

971
00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:12,640
Speaker 1: thank you to these guys for coming on there are

972
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:17,359
Speaker 1: any time, my dearest dearest friends. So it was an

973
00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:22,239
Speaker 1: amazing weekend and hopefully you guys heard that in this podcast. Um,

974
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: So thanks Aaron, thanks Phoebe, thanks Kate, and thanks Jim,

975
00:56:26,400 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 1: and thank you Jim. Yes, and play some of these

976
00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 1: questions with your friends right down and and then let

977
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:38,239
Speaker 1: us know. Yeah, the Amsta Graham which is at that

978
00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:43,920
Speaker 1: psychology podcast, at that psychology psychology I changed it recently.

979
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 1: Oh I hated and I also changed with the branding.

980
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:51,320
Speaker 1: Did anyone notice? I did? I did? I saw you?

981
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:53,920
Speaker 1: I still know about it? YEP, I heard it on

982
00:56:53,960 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 1: the pole, So did I actually thought that you were voted. Yeah,

983
00:56:57,200 --> 00:57:02,239
Speaker 1: of course, we kind of voted listeners to vote it devoted.

984
00:57:03,120 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 1: And yeah, make sure you subscribe and leave a rating

985
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 1: on the podcast on either Spotify or Apple Podcasts if

986
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 1: you feel cool to do so, and thank you again

987
00:57:10,680 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 1: for tuning in. Send it to your friends. Send it

988
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 1: to your friends like I have. Send it to my

989
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:18,240
Speaker 1: loved ones. Yeah, my loved ones. Goodbye,